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| 1 | Sooo, there’s this girl I used to hook up with a few years ago andI’m so scared! Lol. Still feels like cheating, ya know? But she is a good girl and I’ve always really liked her. Idk I’m going to try not to do anything. Because I don’t want her to be confused either in case she thinks this will lead to a relationship. She never got emotionally involved with girls (I’ve known her a while) so this is different for her than me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Sooo, there’s this girl I used to hook up with a few years ago andI’ve just never been able to “play the field”. But I know she won’t make the first move because she’s not like that. So maybe you’re right, just chill for now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:10 AM |
| 6 | I miss my exWrite down all the negatives that lead to the break up. Reread it when you miss him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:09 AM |
| 3 | Sooo, there’s this girl I used to hook up with a few years ago andLike hasn’t even been a month since leaving my LVM. Edit: but I have been in a relationship since 16. 7 years one guy and then 1.5 years with the current LVM. So I’ve never really “played the field” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Sooo, there’s this girl I used to hook up with a few years ago andThere’s no serious lockdowns where I am. The state capitol JUST put a curfew for that city but other than that people are free to go out. But we plan on going to the reservoir where there are zero people. Just a nice view of the water and the city. I’m just worried it’s too early. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:00 AM |
| 10 | The ending was satisfying. I hope OP leaves him.It’s been deleted. What was the situation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Like who says this to somebody they JUST met? I also had a guy tell me his “secret” and all it was is that he jerked off to my picture. I haven’t been single in so long so I’m trying to “play the field” .. not doing too good lol. All advice welcomedSeriously.. I can’t believe he really said “still not interested????” Blow my mind. Blocked him after that. I usually just ignore them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Like who says this to somebody they JUST met? I also had a guy tell me his “secret” and all it was is that he jerked off to my picture. I haven’t been single in so long so I’m trying to “play the field” .. not doing too good lol. All advice welcomedTo see if I was right about what he was going to ask next, I’ve heard this my whole life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Like who says this to somebody they JUST met? I also had a guy tell me his “secret” and all it was is that he jerked off to my picture. I haven’t been single in so long so I’m trying to “play the field” .. not doing too good lol. All advice welcomedI’m thank you!! Everything is just still so new. I’m learning so much all of you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 02:44 AM |
| 3 | Let a guy know I'm interested without being a pickme?I think it’s actually sweet he checked to make sure she would be comfortable instead of putting in an awkward situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 10:39 PM |
| 18 | How can you tell the difference between normal healthy interest and love-bombing?Here’s what my narc did early in the relationship. When he talks about ex relationships he never actually admitted to doing any wrong. They tend to say things like “I’ve never found a girl who didn’t treat me like shit” or if he calls them “crazy” Smooth talker. When he talks your infatuated and hooked on every word Likes to be in control. Very subtle at first. Like wanting you to look/dress a certain way, or doesn’t want you wearing makeup. Very early on they use the words “soulmate” “I love yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 10:09 PM |
| 2 | Like who says this to somebody they JUST met? I also had a guy tell me his “secret” and all it was is that he jerked off to my picture. I haven’t been single in so long so I’m trying to “play the field” .. not doing too good lol. All advice welcomedI deleted my tinder. It was my first time using it, I didn’t care for the men on it at all. Im going to stick to people I meet naturally. But honestly, I’m newly single after leaving a LVM so I shouldn’t even be thinking about trying to “play the field”. I should be focusing on fixing my mind set that leads me to men like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Like who says this to somebody they JUST met? I also had a guy tell me his “secret” and all it was is that he jerked off to my picture. I haven’t been single in so long so I’m trying to “play the field” .. not doing too good lol. All advice welcomedAs I said in another comment “I’ve since taken everybody’s advice and deleted it. I’m still new to all of this so my mind isn’t as there as most of you helpful women. Sometimes I don’t think. You guy were right. Tinder is trash. And honestly I shouldn’t even be thinking about men. I think subconsciously I did it because I’m assuming my recent nex is probably doing it. Now I’m bringing my level down to his and it’s not ok. I don’t have to chase. I’m just going to live my life, continue with life,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Like who says this to somebody they JUST met? I also had a guy tell me his “secret” and all it was is that he jerked off to my picture. I haven’t been single in so long so I’m trying to “play the field” .. not doing too good lol. All advice welcomedI’ve since taken everybody’s advice and deleted it. I’m still new to all of this so my mind isn’t as there as most of you helpful women. Sometimes I don’t think. You guy were right. Tinder is trash. And honestly I shouldn’t even be thinking about men. I think subconsciously I did it because I’m assuming my recent nex is probably doing it. Now I’m bringing my level down to his and it’s not ok. I don’t have to chase. I’m just going to live my life, continue with life, and see what happened with pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 09:44 PM |
| 17 | Yup!!Well I was thinking more “beautiful as a person” in my head | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Shiiiiit, doesn’t matter the sign. Checks ever box for a LVM. Fucccck thatI luckily have never dated one. I just ended it with a male cancer. Worst choice ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 09:00 AM |
| 15 | Shiiiiit, doesn’t matter the sign. Checks ever box for a LVM. Fucccck thatSo we’ll agree with Scorpio. I have never met a good, faithful, HVM that is a Scorpio lol they are legit all trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 07:22 AM |
| 16 | Shiiiiit, doesn’t matter the sign. Checks ever box for a LVM. Fucccck thatSee I would have said Gemini/Scorpio | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 07:18 AM |
| 3 | Shiiiiit, doesn’t matter the sign. Checks ever box for a LVM. Fucccck thatI meant every box** | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 05:07 AM |
| 5 | “before you I was afraid of being alone but after you.. now I’m afraid of settling”First of, I very much appreciate all the thought and effort you put into your response and I can honestly say you’re right. I should not wish that on any women. But I honestly did not look at it like that. I guess I’m still resentful from what he’s done and I’m still in the “is he seeing anybody?” Stage. I apologize for what I said, I didn’t mean for it to come out that way. I just meant he’ll eventually find another victim and forget about me. I 100% do NOT wish this upon ANY women just to clar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 02:59 AM |
| 0 | “before you I was afraid of being alone but after you.. now I’m afraid of settling”I have gained enough closure to the point (at least right now. It could change) that I am sooo much better of without him. That lovebombing hit me hard. I really that it was true love and he was perfect 😔 but I’ve found hobbies, reconnected with people, therapy.. so I’ll be okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 02:55 AM |
| 3 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Thank you! That’s great advice. I’m following what someone else said, to go somewhere else where does know till it blows over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 11:57 PM |
| 2 | “before you I was afraid of being alone but after you.. now I’m afraid of settling”I know, I know. I fucked up. I feel it even more with all the downvotes. It was so stupid but honestly, I got closure and I feel better now and I feel like I finally let him go. I know it’s against what this sub believes but it truly allowed me to completely delete him out of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 11:55 PM |
| 3 | “before you I was afraid of being alone but after you.. now I’m afraid of settling”Because I know he knew I had a low self esteem so I was easy to manipulate just by showing affection to take it away and make me chase it. But my self esteem isn’t low enough to let him sit there and berate me all the time. I had enough confidence to tell him to shut the fuck up that I’m done with dealing with his shit because I don’t deserve to be treated like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 11:45 PM |
| 8 | “before you I was afraid of being alone but after you.. now I’m afraid of settling”I know he didn’t. I said that in the email that there’s a 0.0000001% chance of him reading it. I’m glad I’m done with him too. I have so much work ahead of me now. I have so much to work on. But I’ve started counseling with recommended meds to stabilize my mood and anxiety. I haven’t told my therapist about the seriousness of his abuse but I will my next appointment Tuesday. I got my job back that I lost due to him. So I’m doing alright so far. Don’t miss him today either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 11:40 PM |
| 1 | So I’ve always viewed this sub as “toxic” like most people of Reddit, but now that I’m reading through all your posts/comments and now this actually seems pretty good and makes more sense to me.No It’s once he comes back home, (20 min drive or 40 min train ride to my house) he’ll make a surprise visit to my house and I’m afraid if I see him, I’ll go back to cycle of mental/verbal abuse. So I’m listening to one of these lovely ladies who suggested I go to somebody else house | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 09:38 PM |
| 2 | So I’ve always viewed this sub as “toxic” like most people of Reddit, but now that I’m reading through all your posts/comments and now this actually seems pretty good and makes more sense to me.So what I’ve done so far to try and better myself is •Getting my job back that I lost because of issues with my ex. • got a counselor to find meds to stabilize my mood/anxiety/ trauma • Made a new Facebook account/ logged into Snapchat to try and get my social circle back. • blocked his number • zero contact • started a new hobby of gardening. So I really am trying to stop the cycle of abuse.. I’m just afraid everything will go to shit if I see him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 08:41 PM |
| 6 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?You’re 100% right. Talking to you guys have given me more perspective. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:54 PM |
| 2 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Yeah that’s true. Thank you for helping me. All of you! I hate that I judged this sub so harsh at first like the rest of Reddit. (Seriously I posted in r/unpopularopinion praising this sub. Only 1 person agreed out of at least 10 people) I wish I found you guys a long time ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:47 PM |
| 1 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Do you think I should tell his father and have tell him that I won’t be home when he gets back in town? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:26 PM |
| 4 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?I’m following somebody’s advice of going to a family members until the situations calms down. Do you think I should tell his father and have him tell my ex that I won’t be home when he gets back in town? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:26 PM |
| 5 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Somebody mentioned going to a family members house until it blows over. Because I just have a feeling once he’s home he’ll come by. So that’s exactly what I’ll be doing. Hiding until I feel the situation has calmed down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:09 PM |
| 1 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Somebody said that!! I’m going to make some calls and see what I can do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:58 PM |
| -1 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Somebody mentioned going to family members house around the time he comes home so I think I’m going to do that to avoid the whole situation. I will not get somebody I love arrested. May be “immature”. If he raped/ severely beat me then yeah that’s different but not this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:57 PM |
| -10 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?I know, I know. It’s a stupid mentality but it’s important to the people around me as well and I really don’t have the heart to get somebody I love arrested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:56 PM |
| 2 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?I actually live with my mother.. I guess I could actually find somewhere else to go. I know it’s a toxic way to live, the snitching part, I know that. But it’s just how I was raised. South boston. All Irish who would don’t talk to cops. Never mind call them on somebody you love. But going to another family member is smart. I really like that idea I think I’m going to make some calls. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:55 PM |
| 3 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?No, he didn’t actually say anything about coming by but he’s done it before. Legit showed up yelling like a crazy man because we were freshly broken up and he thought I had a man in the house. I know him better than myself. Well.. what he allows me to see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:48 PM |
| 7 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Yes, when we first broke up I admit I was very stupid and tried reaching out to him multiple times because I wasn’t ready to separate over a stupid fight when I love him so much. I had just discovered r/narcissisticabuse during all of this and that’s when I started to realize how serious the situation of manipulation and abuse was. I finally snapped after taking him berating me everyday for, I shit you not, 3 weeks over the phone. (We were long distance) and he said he couldn’t take it and we br… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:43 PM |
| 1 | So I’ve always viewed this sub as “toxic” like most people of Reddit, but now that I’m reading through all your posts/comments and now this actually seems pretty good and makes more sense to me.Wow!! That is amazing advice. I’ve recently made a new Facebook to get in connect with people my nex has alienated me from and get my social circle. But that volunteering thing is amazing. I would have never thought about that. That sounds like the perfect way to release my need to nourish and take care of things. It truly blew my mind because that just sounds absolutely perfect. Thank you so much for your advice. It means a lot to me and know that it’s staying with me. I’m actually going to wri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:32 PM |
| 3 | My ex who is a narc and definitely a LVM is coming at the end of the month and I’m afraid he’s going to show up at my house and cause a scene. How do I handle this?Im more afraid of him having a violent out burst. Randomly showing up at my house is somethings 1 I have already told his father whatever items he needs i will meet him(the father) or mail everything back. Its not that i feel "helpless" .. More like conflicted because like i said i would hate getting somebody arrested. Especially him because he is insanely institutionalized. Im working on getting rid of that soft spot for him. Bc hes never had one for me. Im afraid of falling for his tricks. Rig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, take 👏🏽 note 👏🏽Wow.. if this didn’t hit home 😞 im glad I found this sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 01:20 PM |
| 2 | So I’ve always viewed this sub as “toxic” like most people of Reddit, but now that I’m reading through all your posts/comments and now this actually seems pretty good and makes more sense to me.I definitely agree with you, I got stuck in that situation with the same man I mentioned in the post that discarded me. I relied on him financially and when things got... heated I had no where to go. I just got my job back, so there’s that! Lol. See, I just can’t help myself. I just enjoy it too much. Like I love to be the caterer. But you’re right, those should be reserved for my husband. Never really thought about it like that tbh. I’m glad you healed! It’s not easy. Narcs are great manipulato… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 11:29 AM |
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