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You should feel alive in yourself rather than need that feeling derived from someone else. If someone else gives you the feeling of being alive, they can take it away and make you feel dead. Which is why I'm stressing the danger of you pursuing this person. I'm not going to go into the abusive nature of that relationship, but I don't wish anyone to feel the way I did during it. Hence why I'd suggest caution in your situation.
/r/seduction30/09/21 05:37 PM
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No cocaine addiction that I knew of. I had a lot of empathy for her, probably too much. A fragile ego isn't exactly how I'd describe it, a lot of unresolved trauma is closer to the mark. However, it was not my job to fix those things, especially when the empathy was repaid with abuse. Unfortunately I don't miss her. Knowing that my life is better without her makes that a pretty easy conclusion (although, if you read my posts, was not an easy ride for me to get to this point). As I said in your c…
/r/seduction30/09/21 03:40 PM
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I've been exactly where you are (with girls) before. Counterintuitively, our brains want what we can't have. That's why our desire for something with someone who can't be the person we want them to be is so strong. Of course we want to be the one to make that person change and settle down. The sad reality is it will never happen. What actually ends up happening is we conform to what THEY want, rather than what our fantasy wants. In my similar situation, I settled with a girl just like the guy in…
/r/seduction30/09/21 02:59 PM
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The beginning of any relationship sets the precedent for the remainder. He'll continue to play you against other people to make you feel on edge and have you under his control. Typical manipulation technique. As a passing comment, this kinda thing might not be deliberate, but multiple times, it is. Unfortunately it sounds like you have fallen for his manipulative techniques. Most of us have at least once. Let this be a lesson. Do you like him for who/what he is (manipulative, casual sex loving a…
/r/seduction30/09/21 01:09 PM
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Number
/r/seduction31/08/21 10:15 PM
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It means you shouldn't get into a relationship with her
/r/seduction30/08/21 08:20 PM
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Solid advice. The only difficulty is keeping up that level of calmness, even when you just feel like punching the guy in between the eyes haha
/r/seduction29/08/21 11:36 AM
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Firstly, consider that they aren't in that environment to have conversations. If there is a spark via eye contact or smiling, I sometimes say 'do you wanna go and get some air' and go out back/smoking area. It's pretty lame, but if the girl is into you, she probably will. Then ask for the number there and then. Clubs aren't the place to get to know someone, just focus on getting the number and making a good first impression (i.e one that makes her wait for you to message).
/r/seduction29/08/21 12:14 AM
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Youtube is your friend. Depending on what you are going for (e.g what you think will impress this specific girl), there are always good walkthroughs on youtube. A while back I'm pretty sure I searched for "impressive recipes for dates" or some shit and it came out with some great ideas. An easy win is to just ask what her favourite starter/main/desert is, and try and attempt some form of that. The fact you show that you listened and took it into account will mean more to her than how the food ta…
/r/seduction29/08/21 12:09 AM
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Passive sarcasm is my best weapon. I sometimes agree with them in the most nonchalant way, so it plays into them feeling like they've 'won' but they instantly realise I'm not taking them seriously. A recent example for me was a guy asking me how much I lift. I was wearing a top that fitted my arms pretty well. Instantly, when I told him what I was pushing, he told me he does 1.5x that... I responded with "yeah I can tell". Knowing that he had brought this all up because he was staring at my arms…
/r/seduction29/08/21 12:04 AM
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Yup, the better I've felt about myself and the more attention I get from girls, the more I've realised other guys try and bring me down. It's an intimidation thing. Take it as a compliment. If you can laugh off their attempts to belittle you, you'll leave them feeling even more pissed/jealous. The worst possible thing to do is demonstrate a fragile ego and have an overly aggressive response to an 'insult'. That's how the feel like they've 'won'.
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:56 PM
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People think being a 'nice guy' is a bad thing, so they act like dickheads in expectation that it's what women want. You don't know shit about how this guy got the girl. He could be packing a wand bigger than you've ever seen. Calm yourself and stop the comparisons. Focus on improving yourself rather than taking the easy route of degrading others to feel superior.
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:53 PM
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If she posts stories on IG... that's your in
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:50 PM
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Bruda, go check on your wife. In the nicest possible way, I didn't read any of the above, I'm in the gym.
/r/seduction27/08/21 03:24 PM
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I'm in my 20s, in peak condition and feel self worth beyond any I did when I made comparisons to others to derive my own. I'm not in my 40s, 11 years into marriage and trying to obtain self worth from belittling people younger than me. As I say, I hope you are doing better than it comes across.
/r/seduction27/08/21 02:49 PM
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I don't feel the need to. That's the difference between you and I
/r/seduction27/08/21 02:16 PM
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I think the oversharing of your life-story shines a light on a few things bruda. I hope the marriage is great and that your life was as great as projected.
/r/seduction27/08/21 02:01 PM
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I can see why you think peacocking is the way forwards judging by how fragile it seems your ego is. There was no personal attack here buddy, just opinion. I stated what is working for me, I'm glad you have a different approach that worked for you. I think we could have agreed to disagree. Egos aside, you need to understand how the 'game' has changed. I only really post here to make sure guys don't think that there is an external formula that is going to assist with their internal flaws. The worl…
/r/seduction27/08/21 01:41 PM
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View your personality, looks and values as if they were your tinder profile. Instead of manufacturing a better online billboard, work on a better real life you. You won't need tinder if you stand out on the street, have confidence in your persona and values that make you desirable.
/r/seduction27/08/21 12:36 PM
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I'm not changing what I wear to impress girls. I wear what I wear because it's my choice. Girls gravitate towards me because I have confidence in who I am and because I take care of myself, not because I've been so overly conscious that I need to be a clothes chameleon. The point I'm trying to make is that regardless of the effort you put in with clothes, it's all for nothing if you have nothing about you. It's like those people who post pictures on social media about how much injustice there is…
/r/seduction27/08/21 09:10 AM
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Nah. Your style and clothing choice is about you, not the dating game or girls. Wear what you feel most comfortable and confident in. If you don't feel comfortable, you'll feel like shit, which will transcend into how you act. If you don't feel confident, your mood will be low. While I appreciate that you're trying to help a certain demographic here, they really need to understand that girls don't like a turd just because it's polished. Appearance is the weakest line of defence until your person…
/r/seduction26/08/21 08:54 PM
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When you have options, flaking doesn't even seem like a big deal. Imagine if you had 10 potential dates that could happen and you choose one... do you think you'll bother providing an explanation to the other 9 why you can't meet up? Be patient and don't over analyse a girl's actions too much. If you are using dating apps, you need to accept that the male:female experience is not the same.
/r/seduction26/08/21 08:48 PM
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Chuckle, look her in the eyes, shake your head Don't fall for the shit tests
/r/seduction26/08/21 09:04 AM
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I hope you didn't tell her how many people you've slept with. You also sound like your 'strings' are already attached. Either you should be leading the conversations and meet ups, or otherwise it sounds like this girl is going to walk all over you.
/r/seduction26/08/21 06:21 AM
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Get her name tattooed on your penis
/r/seduction26/08/21 06:18 AM
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I wouldn't say they have ruined it. In some senses it makes it easier to stand out. The issue is the immediate association with the losers, so the key is to not follow a prescribed technique (like what most guys in this subreddit are after lol). Being yourself is the new 'unique'.
/r/seduction24/08/21 02:51 PM
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Pathetic men are what created inequality in the world of dating. They have irrationally large demands, with understandably low supply. The reasons that the dating scene is perceived as a place of power for women, isn't because they have power over those they desire, it's because they have power over pathetic and needy men. If you are a man who takes care of himself, has passion for life, lives with purpose and fulfilment and doesn't simp over every girl out there... you have dominance that isn't…
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:33 AM
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Context needed
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:10 AM
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Getting into the friendzone is always the guy's issue. The girl doesn't decide it, the guy allows it. The reason the friendzone stories are always so sad is because it's guys who feel sorry for themselves and place themselves at low value. These same guys expect that their unwritten contacts of being a 'good person' will be paid off in sex. Guys only get in the friendzone because they are 'nice guys'. Guys who like a girl and value their own existence either: - Get the girl - Don't get the girl …
/r/seduction24/08/21 12:03 AM
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I didn't know this was still a thing. Covid is here to stay. Take precautions, but don't let one of those precautions be to live in fear. Despite that, if you lost interest after rubbing one out... the value of 'reward' in the risk:reward ratio doesn't seem high enough (even if the risk is that you could accidentally get her pregnant).
/r/seduction23/08/21 11:57 PM
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I mean this in the nicest possible way, but change your attitude. You sound like a creep just by what you've written. Assess who you are. Question why you act like a creep. Change who you are out of an actual desire to not be a creep. The fact you have assumed attraction despite being known as the 'creepy guy' makes me question whether you might have some deeper issues.
/r/seduction23/08/21 05:09 PM
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Are you boring to yourself? If yes, scrap plans of dating until you are interesting If no, find girls who you share more interests with You should approach a date thinking the girl is lucky to be there with you, not concerned that you are going to send her to sleep with your boring chat.
/r/seduction23/08/21 05:03 PM
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I think a main problem us men have is we are overly self critical, but don't act on our self criticism. You're in the prime of your life and have so many opportunities ahead of you.
/r/seduction23/08/21 12:21 PM
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The only part of my comment you need to take forwards... The beauty of life is you have the powers to change these things. People have been in a lot worse positions than you and have gone onto greatness. Use any of these depressed thoughts as a benchmark for thoughts and feelings you never want again. You've got this!
/r/seduction23/08/21 12:20 PM
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People want to skip the most important part of being smooth. The reason people fail is because they don't even like themselves. Neediness and desperation is the easiest thing to pick up on in interactions with the opposite sex. Your 'pick up lines' demonstrate exactly that. They are cringey as fuck. You are saying you've got fat and glowed down in your job. You don't lack game, you lack confidence because you aren't happy with who you are at the moment. However, the beauty of life is that you ha…
/r/seduction23/08/21 11:16 AM
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If you are good looking and in good shape, you don't need to try. I was in a similar position as you when I was that age. Everyone said I was good looking, I was in the best shape out of my friends, yet they all had girlfriends and were getting laid... I was not. The biggest shift in attraction from girls was when I started genuinely enjoying my own life. If you think girls are the key to happiness, you couldn't be more wrong. Happiness should come first, then more attention from girls is a bypr…
/r/seduction23/08/21 11:10 AM
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Period sex on the 4th date. That's a messy way for this to end. She wanted sex. You gave her sex. She probably stopped feeling sexy because of the massacre scene that made you stop. She has probably now found a fresh slate... one that she isn't going to paint red after the 4th date (sorry). You know you are simping and that you're only going to give off simping vibes if you reach out again. Don't do it to yourself. You probably wanted someone here to validate you messaging her, but hopefully eve…
/r/seduction22/08/21 09:54 PM
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Bruda. You are being lazy as fuck, that's all. You're getting validation from a girl who is (imo) as good as cheating on her bf. You could cook a healthy dinner but you're eating from the bin. Your short term dopamine hit from her is like having a protein shake but not going to the gym... your perceived 'effort' and 'reward' make no sense. Something I forgot to mention above... if her boyfriend finds out and beats the fuck outta you, you won't think the pictures of a ho's thong was worthwhile.
/r/seduction22/08/21 07:07 PM
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She's a ho. You're her orbiter of attention and validation. You have a few options: - Remind her she has a boyfriend and make her feel the shame she deserves - Continue to be an orbiter. Give her everything she wants from you. Let all her attention seeking ways get you infatuated with her. Let her break your heart when she doesn't leave her boyfriend for you. Or worse, let her leave her boyfriend for you, then let her do this again behind your back - Escalate and subsequently feel the shame of f…
/r/seduction22/08/21 06:18 PM
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She is agreeing to meet you for coffee. She likes you. One way to ensure she loses interest is to get paranoid about whether she does like you. Go in with the expectation that she does like you like that. Even if she doesn't yet, she will begin to if that's your attitude. Keep up the flirting, but never try and get her to sign a contract of 'I like OP'. Girls love the mystery and probably don't know many of the answers in their own head. Lead the coffee date, compliment her a bit and you'll prob…
/r/seduction21/08/21 11:07 PM
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If you are going to refer to girls as 'my target' and interactions as 'interrogations', you are only going to be a creep. Assuming you have male friends, interacting with girls is no different. Instead of having her in your crosshairs and then waterboarding her, try being natural. It seems that people on here think that there is a magic technique to go from eye contact to sex. Be a decent human being, who cares about his appearance, values himself and is in some way unique/interesting. Your inte…
/r/seduction21/08/21 10:40 PM
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She is living her life in the real world, you are living yours in your phone. She isn't waiting on anything, you are waiting on her. She dictates her own happiness, you are letting her dictate yours. I've been exactly where you are right now. It took me realising that the roles were the wrong way around for me to: Turn notifications off on my phone Live life doing things I enjoy, without trying to influence things out of my control Never force conversation with someone who isn't (at a minimum) m…
/r/seduction21/08/21 10:33 PM
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Yes, especially if she is on shrooms
/r/seduction21/08/21 08:10 PM
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Ask her if she has seen anyone about her schizophrenia Tell her to get in contact when the half that doesn't like you has been dealt with
/r/seduction20/08/21 04:01 PM
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I think a lot of us have been here. The worst thing is the non-existent contracts we don't realise we made in our minds. "Maybe if I do X she'll like me", "Maybe in X amount of time things will change" etc. X is just an irrational coping mechanism for something we can never obtain. As you say, the only solution is distancing yourself from it. It's the worst form of oneitus. You're serving her as a friend via manipulative intentions (e.g you are a good friend because you want more than friendship…
/r/seduction20/08/21 01:23 PM
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Psst... it was a joke
/r/seduction20/08/21 12:06 PM
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He/she is probably doing it to others as well. Such a scummy thing to do. At the end of the day, be proud you give advice that is worth plagiarising... if there is any positive to this, it's that
/r/seduction20/08/21 06:22 AM
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Live your life, post on instagram as if she isn't there. She'll reach out eventually if she has any intention of meeting up. Too many times I've been in this exact scenario with a girl. It's normally not even a move to become an orbiter of yours. It's a move to get a short term boost of external gratification/validation from someone who has already shown interest. The fact you asked for her number in the past (which she ignored), was a sign to her that you have interest. If you haven't spoken in…
/r/seduction20/08/21 06:20 AM
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Girls just assume I'm lying when I say I don't have dating apps and have never used them. In a world where it's seemingly the easiest access for attention, it's confusing to people. Why would someone choose to not get free attention? When they realise that we are talking by means outside of a dating app, and the conversation isn't dry as fuck, I think they start to process that maybe the real world has its own advantages. But to answer your question, it definitely feels like dating apps are the …
/r/seduction20/08/21 06:12 AM
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Is that an AI voice that has been used too? So frustrating, I hope you resolve it
/r/seduction20/08/21 06:05 AM
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Fair enough. I've never personally had a dating app. I've just heard stories from girls I know versus guys I know. The girls boast of the abundance. The guys are down about the lack of interest. 6/10 girls have a thousand messages. 6/10 guys have 3 matches with only one 3/10 messaging back. I think the point I'm trying to make is more around the character building involved with the cold approach. I'm not talking about going up to girls with some cheesy pick up line, I'm talking of just being mor…
/r/seduction19/08/21 10:02 PM
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I'm in my 20s and completely agree with you. I think some guys don't realise the contrast between dating apps for the benefit of guys versus girls. As you say, it's not a case of knocking dating apps, but more-so acknowledging the importance of actually meeting/pulling girls in the real world. Dating apps don't replicate anything close to a real world scenario. It's an arena for girls to take their pick, and guys to wait to be picked. On the contrary, if you put yourself out there, speak to girl…
/r/seduction19/08/21 09:53 PM
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If you want sex with equally as desperate females, sure, stick to tinder. If you want to let yourself be diluted amongst a pool of guys who have also meticulously worked on their tinder billboards, sure stick to tinder. If you want you want to stand out... try talking to them in person. The fact you say 'cold approaching cringe' suggests that you don't find the natural thing... natural. If guys want to grow in confidence, develop communication skills and understand their own self worth; my sugge…
/r/seduction19/08/21 08:03 PM
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Better advice: Meet girls in real life instead of overworking a dating profile that is likely going to destroy your self esteem
/r/seduction19/08/21 07:49 PM
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Call her 'bro' too
/r/seduction19/08/21 05:02 PM
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Fuck dating apps Especially if you are anxious, you don't need to enter in a female dominated domain like a dating app. It'll just compound your anxiety Instead, realise all the positives your mentioned about yourself in the above. As a rule I've learned, if you can make great friends, you can meet great girls. If you have good friends, it confirms you have a personality people vibe with (i.e you aren't a loser) Don't put pressure on yourself. Instead, put yourself in situations that you want to…
/r/seduction18/08/21 11:17 PM
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Mine was... "Don't post in anticipation of replicating upvotes numbers from the past"
/r/seduction18/08/21 04:42 PM
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Tip 2: limit your emoji use when you message her
/r/seduction18/08/21 12:18 PM
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Everyone here thinks it's so binary Define 'silly'. Girls don't want a clown. If you act like a performing monkey to get her attention, you aren't setting as good of a first impression as you think. You probably appear desperate The loudest and most obnoxious people are usually compensating for a lack of something else Sure, make a joke to initiate the contact, but don't continue to act the jester You also need to realise that there is no formula for success that applies to everyone. Attractive …
/r/seduction18/08/21 09:52 AM
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Should you initiate contact with a girl you really like? Absolutely not, what a dreadful idea Instead you should wait until your paths realign in the stars and the god of fate determines your future Add her ffs
/r/seduction18/08/21 09:36 AM
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They were never "yours" That attitude is probably why they all ghosted you
/r/seduction18/08/21 09:32 AM
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See if they demonstrate taking self responsibility, or whether they blame everyone else for their issues. Is she looking for someone else to blame? Find out about her relationship with her parents (specifically her father). Is she capable of respect? After a few dates, see if she brings up her ex in a toxic manner. Is she mature enough to move on, or incapable of processing her emotions? Check if her social media feed. Is she living life, or advertising for attention? You don't need to shit test…
/r/seduction17/08/21 10:25 PM
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If you've been on three dates, she wanted you to kiss her haha. Trust me when I say I've done/said some stupid shit that has resulted in kissing and making things more sexual. The girl is waiting for you to make that move. If anything, my stupid shit has worked because my initial hesitancy has made them crave approval from my borderline-autistic levels of mystery. The best way is to try doing things that don't involve a obstacles (e.g a table) between you. Get close and comfortable. If all else …
/r/seduction17/08/21 08:06 PM
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Everyone can work on looking better. Get to the gym, eat well (and enough), go for a walk/run as much as possible, buy clothes that fit, moisturise your skin, tidy you hair/beard, stand with a good posture, walk with confidence... 99% of men have the power to change the above. Your competition doesn't need to be against the chiselled jaw greek olympian... it just needs to be against the you of yesterday. Keep up personal improvement and women will start choosing you who wouldn't have chosen you …
/r/seduction17/08/21 07:30 PM
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This is why I have never used dating apps. If the spark isn't there, forcing chemistry isn't going to suddenly make it appear. Yeah, you can probably force appearances to the point that it's sexual... but if you find yourself having to orchestrate it, it's not what you genuinely desire. If you are going to do the online dating game, don't approach the dates with too much expectation that you are going to spark. If you don't want to end up back home with them, don't get down about it (unless all …
/r/seduction17/08/21 07:25 PM
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If the picture of the ex was a deal-breaker you wouldn't have got a text... Don't overthink it, see how the messages go
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:13 PM
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You'll probably get a response about be being 'totally' embarrassed and having a hangover, then she'll initiate a proper conversation 'so, how have you been?' When I came out of my LTR, I got an abundance of these kinda of messages. Girls know when a guy is back on the market. Even if it doesn't go anywhere with these messages, she'll be in drunken contact again, no doubt.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:05 PM
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Uber Eats
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:01 PM
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Nah, he was probably chilling and comfortable at 11pm She was ready to be a delivery
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:56 PM
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Confirm initial attraction is reciprocal Take time to let her know you aren't a fucking weirdo Take time for you to make sure she isn't a psycho After that, ask her out... Then probably find out she is a psycho and you need to fine-tune your selection process
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:52 PM
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When she asked "where" you should have just given your address. I think she knew you meant your apartment lol. She was definitely looking to come over, or at the very least was hoping you'd be out somewhere that she could join (e.g her friends abandoned her). No harm in messaging. She'll remember why she messaged you. If she reciprocates the messages, she still wants it even though she is sober. If the messages are dead, leave it... you'll get another drunken "hello" in a few weeks/months haha
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:43 PM
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I'd suggest posting satirically onto reddit to sponge of the misfortunes of others. No confidence is better than the confidence gained at the expense of the less fortunate
/r/seduction16/08/21 09:51 PM
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Just ask if she is vaccinated, at least you'll know she is happy to be injected with a little needle (before you waste her time)
/r/seduction16/08/21 09:46 PM
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I mean this in the nicest possible way, but that is your issue and not hers. Let go of your pride, let go of your ego. In my opinion, by trying to not look like a 'pushover' you've made yourself look like a bit of a loser. The world owes you nothing. Create your own value. Create your own confidence. Create your own experiences. Create your own allure. If someone doesn't want to ride on your wave, that's their choice, and they have every right to make that choice. Being 'macho' is a facade. How …
/r/seduction16/08/21 09:39 PM
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Firstly, realise she owes you absolutely nothing. Guilt tripping will never make a girl suddenly apologise Your mindset should be one that instantly goes 'oh well, her loss' and you move on The fact she has flaked is enough evidence that she is not good enough Just because you placed a lot of value on this going somewhere, doesn't mean she did. Read her actions for what they are and learn to be ok in accepting rejection I'm not surprised she didn't respond to your last message. As I said at the …
/r/seduction16/08/21 08:16 PM
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My new perspective on the 'fizzle out' stage is this... We often act in ways which accelerates the fizzle, while trying to resurrect the conversation. By virtue of trying to 'save' the conversation, we often come across as needy/desperate. The outcome... the last impression the girl has of you is one of someone who is needy/desperate (i.e not the guy they're looking for). Instead, leave it. If she is not reciprocating the energy, accept it. If you leave the conversation at a stage before you sab…
/r/seduction16/08/21 12:53 PM
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Realise that sending her messages doesn't obligate her to send you more messages. If you are the one sending more messages, you're expending more energy into trying to make things work. There are no positives to this. The energy should at least be similar. If you put all the energy in: - You have the most to lose if it doesn't work out - You will find yourself getting more and more invested - She might view you as desperate/needy Never double text. If she takes 4 hours to respond, don't respond …
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:33 AM
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How much can you do during the lockdown? Depending on the answer, girls love someone who can create entertainment with minimal resources. If you can demonstrate you're having a good time (despite the lockdown), you'll spark more interest. That's not to say you should pretend like you're having a good time, genuinely do as much as possible to actually enjoy yourself. Girls will want to become a part of that lifestyle, especially if they are also in lockdown and fantasising about being with someon…
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:11 AM
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A guide to overthinking lol
/r/seduction15/08/21 07:40 PM
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Forget about girls Track your food intake (download myfitnesspal) Find out how many calories you eat each day Increase your calorie intake by 10-20% Go to the gym and work on progressive overloading weights, sticking to a programme you enjoy Take some photos of what you look like now, so that you have a reference point to look back on Keep working at it, see/feel the improvements (not only physically, but mentally as well) Your issue is that you think girls are the route to proving you have noth…
/r/seduction15/08/21 02:52 PM
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Lol She is allowed to do whatever the fuck she wants. If you want an apology for her doing what she chooses, it's you that needs to change. It's never nice to not feel in control, but that's what you have to get used to. There are things you have control over, then there are external factors that you don't. If your mood is impacted by these external factors, you are wasting your time. She owes you nothing. Accept that. If you are letting her actions impact your mood, you are overly invested. Be …
/r/seduction15/08/21 02:38 PM
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I don't exactly buy the idea of 'manifest and it will become true', however I do believe this... If you approach life with overriding worry that things won't turn out well, they won't. You are essentially saying to yourself 'well, at least if it doesn't work out, at least I predicted it, and that means I was right'. It's simply not true, if it doesn't work out, you lose twice: (1) because it didn't work out (2) because you lived with the fear that it wouldn't work out, which will directly influe…
/r/seduction14/08/21 10:50 PM
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You know the answers to your own issues: You know that gaining self worth is what you need You know that new experiences will help grow your self worth and confidence You know that your boosted confidence will eventually result in becoming more attractive to girls You know that being more attractive to girls will result in getting laid You know that all of the above will make you feel great So, why are you anxious? It's because you've never done it before! The exact reason for your anxiety is th…
/r/seduction14/08/21 08:56 PM
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Firstly, life is about learning from experiences. Don't be down about what happened here, be grateful that you had the balls to learn this lesson. Without failure, none of us would progress, adapt and succeed. Despite the arrogance some people give off in this subreddit, they will have failed countless times too. The difference is, they learned and moved on. It sounds like you may have acted unnaturally. Touching someone as a signal, without a minimum of some form of body-language which demonstr…
/r/seduction14/08/21 07:08 PM
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They want someone more mentally unstable than they are, so that they have a perceived advantage over their partner. It's harder for girls like this to project their shitty self worth onto a decent person, so they go for 'bad guys' in order for their own issues to be diluted by his. Most girls think a 'bad boy' is exciting because he's a project to fix. The reality is they are just happy to continue to neglect the person that needs fixing... which is themselves.
/r/seduction14/08/21 02:34 PM
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I'm not misinterpreting anything that you have written. I came across this subreddit during issues with a BDP exLTR. My experience through that period of my life has taught me more than any subreddit ever could. I have absolutely no issues with girls as I have learned that the key is to build a strong frame; not for the benefit of attracting females, but for the benefit of your self worth. My issue with your comments above is that you detract from the natural implications of being high value and…
/r/seduction13/08/21 11:31 PM
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This feels more suitable for someone who just wants to stroke their own ego, rather than find a relationship with a suitable partner. If I wanted a girl to feel jealous about me receiving texts/calls from other girls, that is not a girl I value/respect. Therefore, not a girl I'm going to stay with. Try finding someone who you don't want to manipulate. Try experiencing what it's like to have someone who values you for who you are, not who they perceive you to be. Make yourself into a person of va…
/r/seduction13/08/21 10:57 PM
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The formula for interesting conversations and confidence in talking to girls isn't what you are looking for. You are looking to be an interesting and confident person... forget about the girls for now. Focus on your interesting hobbies, create interesting experiences, exploring interesting places and being passionate about your interests. Once you do this, you'll develop unique attributes and a new enjoyment for life. Girls will gravitate to someone who IS interesting, not someone who is trying …
/r/seduction13/08/21 08:13 PM
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This shows my ignorance! I can't sleep until around 2am if I have a coffee at 5pm haha. My tolerance to it must be terrible
/r/seduction13/08/21 01:29 PM
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5pm is a ridiculous time to get coffee, how do you sleep lol. Anyway, you are placing way too much value on this. This could be the energy you're giving off to her which is putting her off The fact she suggested an alternative time is a positive Guys on here need to stop saying "I'm not that interested, but..." Lets all stop pretending that we don't care about the thing we've taken time to consult reddit about. It's fine to feel rejected, just know that this is just one girl, more will come (who…
/r/seduction13/08/21 11:00 AM
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That's a bit too forwards, are you sure she didn't call the cops?
/r/seduction12/08/21 12:26 PM
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Maybe being an asshole is attracting the wrong kind of girls for you. Nobody wants someone who is an asshole 24/7. If you showed no signs that you could be thoughtful, loving or caring, what makes you think anyone would want to spend time dating you? The asshole game probably works on more broken individuals. Sure, be confident and self assured, but don't expect nice girls to stay if it's actually arrogance and assholery
/r/seduction12/08/21 09:13 AM
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"Apart from being good looking, she offers very little..." It doesn't sound like a particularly big loss. There is no point wasting any more time on her if that's how you feel. If you let it dent your ego, while knowing you are too good for her, you need to assess whether you truly believe that's the case. We all spend way too long trying to work out why someone has lost interest, as if we'll suddenly find a fixable solution. It's wasted time. You don't owe her any more of your thoughts, she doe…
/r/seduction12/08/21 09:05 AM
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