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5'6-7 here, overweight as well. Currently trying to coach a friend of a friend on how to navigate dating, and he's a personal trainer. Confidence - real, honest confidence - is powerful. That, a sense of humor, and a healthy dash of self-awareness will take you farther than any physical stat ever could by itself.
/r/seduction02/03/20 04:19 PM
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"I swiped wrong" is her being a shit. She's immediately testing his self-value by essentially shutting down his opening statement with a reply designed to test his confidence. She's implying that she does have great taste in men, but that she swiped wrong on you. A self conscious guy (low self-value) will typically reply with "have a good day" or something like that. That shows her your opening statement was false confidence - a line fed to him from a more successful source - and that you aren't…
/r/seduction23/05/19 05:08 PM
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When there is paperwork involved in the girl you're chasing, it ain't worth it. All you want is a good lay, so how about trying to bang 2 or 3 of the other chicks who are not in legally binding contracts with another human being. Or, if you're good with potentially ruining her life (and the lives of the two kids when they have to ask daddy why mommy isn't around anymore), and probably bringing yourself nuclear level heat from the husband, go for it.
/r/seduction28/08/16 04:25 PM
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Lomg haired metal head here, at work and at home i usually have my hair back in a pony tail. When i let my hair out, i run both hands behind my neck and flip it out, all fabulous and shit. After that, I'm usually in killer form. U/authenticsociallifespeaks the truth. Small tactile reminders are mental cheat codes.
/r/seduction17/12/15 03:12 AM
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Yeah, not really a shit test, like /u/ARealSocialIdiot said. It's definitely a legitimate question, though perhaps not one many girls are comfortable (or aware) enough to ask. I will tell a woman that it has the potential to be a powerful event. That said, it's not some be-all end-all, on either side of the spectrum for me. It's not the ultimate goal - some achievement or measure of success - , but it's also not a purely romantic endeavor either. It is, like much of life, somewhere in between. T…
/r/seduction19/03/15 03:15 AM
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My two cents - you have a full keyboard, use it. Your grammar and spelling should not suffer; speak English fluently, and learn how to make your point in 160 grammatically correct letters. It's apparently not the norm, and goes a long way in impressing the girl.
/r/seduction10/06/14 06:58 PM
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Every hat should serve a purpose, even if that purpose is to compliment your outfit. I''m look at you, fedoras.
/r/seduction06/04/14 01:03 AM
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I've had the same mindset before. My girl and I have split twice in the last year, and the second time she was immediately set up with a taller, older, more handsome guy, with a house, a better job, and according to the friend who set her up, a dong the size of a fence post. So, uh, blow to the ego. Turns out, the one thing he was missing was exactly what ryanae said: confidence. With all of that going for him, he had absolutely no shot with her, because he was scared to pull the trigger. He had…
/r/seduction04/02/13 08:10 AM
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Become the person you want to be before you decide who and what your "Dream Girl" entails. That vision of perfection can - and likely will - change drastically over the course of your growth. Besides, your dream girl is often just that - a dream. The girl that isn't your "type" that manages to blow you away, shake you to your core? Don't shrug her off because she likes N'Sync and Jason Aldean instead of Bathory and Overkill. If the chemistry is right, and you handle it right (which is the point …
/r/seduction31/12/12 06:33 PM
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You forgot Sinatra.
/r/seduction21/10/12 07:52 PM
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I do a version of that that's a little longer. Anti-jokes are tricky, but if you have enough of them you can usually start getting laughs.
/r/seduction23/09/12 01:56 PM
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Props on the Bloodbath shirt, first off. That's some brilliant fucking death metal. Top comment is right though, sometimes the chemistry is there, sometimes it isn't. Be glad it isn't the converse of your situation - had the chemistry, but fumbled the pickup. At least she acknowledged that you did it right, and was forward with you about not feeling the same way. Also, devil's advocate, it probably isn't down to how you look. My girlfriend hated guys with long hair, and now she loves my gorgeous…
/r/seduction11/09/12 06:34 PM
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"When I read that I wanted to muff-punch you with my typewriter!" ...yeah, gonna start watching this now. As if I didn't already have enough shows I need to watch.
/r/seduction24/08/12 10:24 AM
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Hitch. Hollywood wants the movie to end with "haha, there are no fundamental rules, just be yourself! Yay!" But it doesn't. Hitch gets the girl by being himself, but he still had the confidence and connections to take her on probably the most memorable first date of her life. Alfred gets a girl that is absurdly out of his league, but she wouldn't have even noticed him if Hitch hadn't intervened. The things he tells the guys in the beginning are simple things: when she speaks, look her in the eye…
/r/seduction23/08/12 08:13 PM
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Before the mods remove it, you may wish to head over to [/r/askseddit] and pose your queries there.
/r/seduction11/06/12 03:58 PM
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The thing is though, I had no worries about the other guy, because I wound up showing him up in basically every single way. By the end of the first month, she was completely infatuated with me. I remember it, but I make it a point to not be jealous. As I said above, jealousy will kill a relationship.
/r/seduction05/06/12 04:52 AM
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Agreed. One of my favorite videos was Tyler/Owen from RSD talking about congruent personalities. He basically spent 18 minutes talking about how being congruent and comfortable with your own natural personality will almost always bring more success than faking something you think could maybe work potentially. In a relationship, this becomes perhaps the most important thing to have; if you're fake around her, she'll eventually catch on. I framed the whole thing as "I'm awesome, and I'm bring you …
/r/seduction04/06/12 10:50 PM
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Actually, that's sort of the point of this potential series. Assuming there is enough interest, I'm going to start highlighting the other things I did with "Carrie" that kept things fun and interesting, as partners. One quick tip though, since you seem to need it. If you want it to be a healthy relationship, there needs to be a certain level of trust. My best friend is a girl I was FWB with at one point, and I was upfront about it with Carrie. She never got jealous about it. I in turn didn't get…
/r/seduction04/06/12 10:18 PM
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Cincinnati. How's Party U?
/r/seduction02/06/12 11:30 PM
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I maintain, we get pretty much every kind of shitty weather imaginable, on a smaller scale than anywhere else. We don't have 110 degree days, but we have 95s with 177% humidity. We get tornadoes, we get snow, we get ice, floods, wind, lightning, and everything else. If I may, what part of Ohio?
/r/seduction02/06/12 11:06 PM
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First date with my now ex-girlfriend. We had been texting back and forth for a few days, and at some point she said something about having trouble "making the first move". It put the impetus on me, and I gladly accepted: "I'll make sure to do something dramatic next time I see you then" It was about 9pm, she had just gotten off work. The movie we were to see started at 9:05, and she showed up around 9:10. I'm waiting outside and, being February in Ohio, it was quite cold. As she walked up, I tea…
/r/seduction02/06/12 10:51 PM
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Actually, there are quite a few professional female players.
/r/seduction25/05/12 07:21 PM
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It's a different form of manly. Athletic stuff shows off "BWRAWWW LOOK AT ME, I'M A MANLY MAN". Pool shows off, for lack of a better term, your "Sinatra-ism". How smooth you can be. It's not about being powerful and brash. It shows how calm and collected you can be. In short, I can't picture sipping a martini in a smokey bar, coyly eyeing an absurdly seductive brunette in a cocktail dress, wearing volleyball shorts.
/r/seduction25/05/12 08:15 AM
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My recent ex was drawn in because I taught her basic pool techniques at a party one night. She always commented on how manly I looked when I was aiming. Teaching her gave a perfectly not-sleazy way to touch her (holding her shoulder steady, helping her aim, moving her hips/changing her stance) and the teacher role gave me a frame where I could quickly switch between teasing, flirting, and teaching.
/r/seduction25/05/12 03:09 AM
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Playing pool - manly, and can net you a pretty penny if you get quite good at it.
/r/seduction25/05/12 02:52 AM
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That's part of it. More a treatise on why seduction plays an important role in developing those of us who were given "the talk" by our mothers. A rationalization of seduction in modern dating, effectively. My rough draft is kinda lengthy, but it's good.
/r/seduction23/05/12 08:38 PM
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I'm replying because I'm on my phone, and your end quote is perfect for something I'm planning for seddit in the very near future. The absolute truth.
/r/seduction23/05/12 03:15 AM
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As far as I can tell, this woman seems to think PUAs are borderline date-rapists. We mess with your mind, use tricks and drinks to get women to do something they don't want to do, and then disappear like a ninja after messing up your life. I wonder if she ever loses track of how many cats she has.
/r/seduction23/05/12 01:13 AM
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Just watching how she interacts with other women (and the occasional man she takes a fancy to, myself included) is a master class in effortless pickup. In fact, having her as a former fwb has afforded me a lot of opportunities to discuss the things that I did right, and the things I did wrong. I had been casually reading seddit at that point, but talking to her really developed my abilities and made me want to work in refining them further. Basically, she gave me a 5 month crash course. Now I'm …
/r/seduction20/05/12 06:00 AM
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get someone more experienced than you to give you tips Truth. My best friend is a lesbian who I will unabashedly admit had gotten more girls since I've known her (about a year or so) than I will get this decade. She's 5' flat, a single mother, and makes no effort to stay in shape, but when she walks in anywhere, I can feel people checking her out constantly. It's truly a phenomenon, and I maintain I've learned more from watching her work than I ever could from seddit. Having an experienced mento…
/r/seduction19/05/12 02:49 PM
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I went through this long before ever finding Reddit, much less Seddit. The two biggest steps I took, looking back, were: Understanding that it is often not "changing" yourself, but allowing the person you want to be to take over; and Finding something to facilitate this takeover.
/r/seduction25/02/12 04:37 AM
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I'm pretty clearly a metalhead (long hair, black shirts, etc.), so most think nothing of the earbuds I have wired up through my shirt hanging down my chest. When the "ex-bf/gf" (I have a tendency to date bi chicks) conversation starts up, I just pull out my phone like I'm checking a text and turn on some music. Pop the earbuds in, wait for her to pull them out. When she gets offended, tell her "I'm not here to get to know your ex, I'm here to get to know you." She'll probably try and pull the ea…
/r/seduction10/01/12 10:34 PM
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The way I've begun putting it to my closer AFC friends, whenever the "girls are stupid, they only date jerks" conversation comes up, is this: "The short version is, you have to be a dick. It's attractive to girls, and you just spouted off another in a long string of examples proving that. You're seeing that they have success in the short term, and with the especially desperate girl in the long term too. "That said, I'm not telling you to start abusing women; quite the opposite. The thing that wi…
/r/seduction14/11/11 06:08 AM
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Got a kiss this way before. She'd been giving me IOIs for an hour or so, and started to tell a boring story. Did the above, and when she leaned over to pop them out, I pulled her back in for the kiss. Worked like a charm.
/r/seduction28/10/11 06:07 AM
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On par with the "Fall asleep" bit, I've usually got earbuds threaded up through my shirt (and thus dangling out the front, for convenience), so I put them in and leave them in until she makes the effort to pull them out. I'll even egg her on with a sarcastic "Oh, please continue" hand wave, then move into an air guitar.
/r/seduction28/10/11 04:58 AM
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First thing's first, I'd suggest going through your last few attempts and trying to see just what scared them off, i.e. when they started showing signs of disinterest. Look for little things too, like the last few texts before she drops off the face of the earth mid-conversation. Seddit can help, but asking "i scare them off, help" is like saying "my computer doesn't work, what's wrong with it?"
/r/seduction19/09/11 08:07 AM
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So does she.
/r/seduction11/08/11 12:18 AM
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Yes, actually. A very good friend, but also a FWB. It's a nice arrangement.
/r/seduction10/08/11 10:52 PM
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Nonono, you're actually good if she's been "Thinking about you all day". Means you've got a pretty much guaranteed hookup whenever you want it. My girl does the same thing and we've been playing around for a few months now. Just stick to what you were doing, because it's driving her nuts. In a good way.
/r/seduction10/08/11 08:40 PM
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If you wanted a second date, after telling her no a time or two you should have said "well, fine. I guess I can give you one more shot." That way, she's only got two options- go out with you again (your goal) or she goes back to "meh, i don't like you like I used to" (crazy, eject).
/r/seduction09/08/11 01:38 AM
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Sounds to me like you accidentally did the perfect thing- EJECT. You actually told her you were going to walk away, without a typical AFC reaction ("but, why don't you like me as much? was it something i did? i can do better, i'm sorry") and she pretty much instantaneously realized it was a mistake on her part. So, get back to what you were doing. THAT, or you stuck your dick in crazy and have just acquired a new stalker. Have fun with that.
/r/seduction09/08/11 01:14 AM
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The way I did it was pretty simple on paper- I began turning my mental self-image into that of my ideal badass. As a fan of metal, I have always wanted to be the frontman of a metal band, smoking weed, drinking, and rocking people's faces on a nightly basis. Johan Hegg is my go-to description of a dude who is metal-as-fuck, our version of having colossal swag. I started listening to music that made me feel badass, and my natural demeanor changed over time to reflect that. I walk with purpose, I …
/r/seduction16/07/11 12:06 AM
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So what you're saying is that it's beta to take this advice seriously, but it's not beta to use the advice effectively... I'm not sure you're exposing a paradox in Sed, more just pointing out that taking any advice on any subject too seriously can cause as many problems as ignoring it altogether.
/r/seduction08/07/11 03:46 PM
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...dammit, that's what I was trying to say, but yours isn't two paragraphs long with run-ons and shit. Very well stated.
/r/seduction08/07/11 03:43 PM
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Betaing that beta BETA betaly is beta... is beta...
/r/seduction08/07/11 03:42 PM
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...uh, duh. An established alpha doesn't need sed to pick up chicks, they know what they're doing. Perhaps they could refine their techniques, but it's not necessary. I feel like much of the seddit community (and sed in general) boils down to otherwise nice guys wondering where the fuck they're going wrong. So, yeah, calling yourself a PUA is colossally beta. Calling yourself alpha is pretty beta. But taking the advice from here isn't beta- a steadfast beta would think "I don't need this, someda…
/r/seduction08/07/11 03:40 PM
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I don't think this is oneitis at all. On a deeper level than just "insert tab A into slot B", seduction is about making a connection with someone. A very specific kind of connection, sure, but a connection. Getting good at this kind of connection can give people, like fabioisonfire, the confidence to make other connections- emotional, romantic connections, close personal connections, etc- face to face, live and uncut. Seduction is just one way of getting over the fear of connection (or the fear …
/r/seduction25/06/11 04:46 AM
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Because that's a valid response to, well, anything I said. Nice talking to a beta with a misguided superiority complex, but I think I'll kindly remove myself from this conversation. Have an upvote, because I'm from r/trees. I'd suggest that, next time you decide to voice an opinion, you either have the ability to back it up or the ability to admit you are wrong. The mark of wisdom is not knowing that you are right, but knowing when you are wrong. tl;dr Ooooh, sick buuuurn.
/r/MensRights16/05/11 11:55 PM
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And I in turn will give you an example. Same scenario. "We should get coffee together this Friday, noon at Derpbucks." Oh, I have too much work these days, maybe some other time." "What, you're gonna get fired over a half an hour at a coffee shop?" "Well, I suppose not. Alright, Friday at noon. Here's my number, call me." The key difference: your "opener" ends in a question mark. My comment talks about assertiveness. Your scenario gives the woman an option to decline, mine tell her we're going f…
/r/MensRights16/05/11 11:35 PM
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Not sure who's downvoting you, because that's a fucking truth right there.
/r/MensRights16/05/11 11:20 PM
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Yeah, now imagine the colossal genetic agreement between sexes. It's no longer a conscious agreement, but the fact remains- no emotionally stable woman wants a pansy who doesn't know and take what he wants. It's not attractive, on a very subconscious level, and in most cases on a conscious level as well. Even realistic feminists agree- they just believe that women should have the opportunity to do so as well. Women that prefer unassertive men are typically mentally unstable or into some really w…
/r/MensRights16/05/11 11:17 PM
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For once, youtube has up'd a proper comment- the girl goes for her hair AGAIN at the end of the video, realizes what she's doing, and then awkwardly rests her hand under her chin. After Mystery has already told her that she's no different than a hole in a wall. And after he implied that she's either got a lame personality, a negative outlook, or that she's not physically attractive. Negging like a pro.
/r/seduction15/05/11 06:54 PM
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They'll let you ramble on a bit, so do so- then ask why she's not talking that much. Last time I asked, the girl told me "I'm sorry, I just couldn't stop thinking about you". Deal sealed.
/r/seduction13/05/11 06:55 PM
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Well, if you're still an acne-ridden basement-dweller with 7 Lv. 85's in WoW and a separate hard drive exclusively for porn when you're 30, methinks Forever Alone is less a theory and more a personal choice.
/r/seduction12/04/11 01:26 PM
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Let me think... walked over to a girl you've never spoken to within 60 seconds, you're making out with her got number, closed with "Yeah, there's more where that came from." Gonna go with, ahem, ALPHA AS FUCK, YO.
/r/seduction01/04/11 08:06 PM
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...that's fucking brilliant. Absolutely spot on. I mean, there's other factors too, but this seems like a major part of the whole deal- it establishes the rules of the game, establishes the setting for the game, and only sparingly rewards the ones who abide by these rules in the proper setting with the whole "love at first sight" deal. Otherwise, guys who deserve at least someone get nowhere because they can't talk to the cute girl at work, and the cute girl at work only date douchebags because …
/r/seduction17/03/11 07:34 AM
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Shit, that's really the underlying point of the Sed community- giving these otherwise nice guys who haven't realized this yet another chance. It's not about turning nice guys into sex fiends with mind control over women. A lot of guys on Seddit, I'd wager, are guys looking for a legitimate relationship, but continue to strike out on every conceivable front- cold approaches, converting friends to gfs, etc. Girls mostly want nice guys, but not a groupie, and that's really the most apt way of descr…
/r/seduction15/03/11 10:05 PM
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They want a nice guy with the confidence of an alpha d-bag. They don't want someone who is always trying to impress them; it's basic seduction, when you think about it. They don't want a "nice" guy who thinks they need to spend the rest of their lives trying to impress her or borderline worshiping her, they want a guy who puts them as equals- if not putting himself a little ahead of her. They complain because many of the guys that naturally attract them turn out to be asshats, and the guys who w…
/r/seduction15/03/11 08:17 PM
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I think his point with the stories is that, at some point, you need to be the storyteller, not be content with just listening to someone else's stories.
/r/seduction05/03/11 06:45 AM
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That doesn't change the fact that, to many (most) women, a fat guy is physically unappealing. Humor is far and away the most effective tool an overweight man has to get laid, get a girlfriend, etc. A woman actively looking for a hook-up is probably going to pick the dude whose body looks like it was cut from stone, not molded with Jello. Face it- in a society so obsessed with looking a certain way (whether we admit it or not), fat guys who are always serious, always down on themselves about thei…
/r/seduction28/02/11 02:45 AM
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Undoubtedly. It's astonishing how far a good wit has gotten me with women. Between that and my (hilariously) over-the-top narcissism, I have a remarkably easy time for someone with my build and near-constant scowl.
/r/seduction27/02/11 06:42 PM
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That very well may be the movie he stole it from, he always had terrible taste in movies. And music. And pretty much everything else.
/r/seduction27/02/11 05:41 PM
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Reminds me of my brother's advice (that I'm pretty sure he stole from a movie): "Fat guys can still get laid. Jocks, rich kids, "hot" guys, they all have much less trouble getting laid, sure. Fat guys gotta be funny. The only people who get laid less than funny fat guys are unfunny fat guys. If you're funny, if you can make a girl laugh consistently, you can get laid. Plain and simple." It's worked for me so far. I mean, I've had confidence in myself and my humor for some time, and it's shocking…
/r/seduction27/02/11 04:46 AM
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Well, mine was spurred on by a combination of constant abuse at the hands of my classmates, the loss of most of most of my friends due to a high school change, the ensuing depression, a chaotic home life, and my discovery of metal. I kind of snapped overnight and stopped taking people's shit. Don't feel too bad about it; at least you're not 40 and realizing this.
/r/seduction13/02/11 04:31 AM
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That's almost word for word the epiphany I had late in 9th grade.
/r/seduction12/02/11 07:49 PM
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Well yeah, obviously. I mean, he'd either be dating twins or leave with just a cab ride if he had.
/r/seduction04/02/11 12:51 AM
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won my gf Was her twin sister the video bonus?
/r/seduction03/02/11 09:40 PM
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Stealing this, kthxbai.
/r/seduction26/01/11 07:39 PM
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Most epic neg ever.
/r/seduction25/01/11 09:26 PM
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He's right, though. The more you have this attitude of "I cannot be funny" instead of "I don't give a shit if I'm funny or not", the less funny you will be. I gave up caring what strangers think about me a long time ago. The moment you can honestly say "I don't give a fuck" is the moment you'll get funnier, because you won't be constrained by the question "is this funny?". I'm dead serious when I say that, because it worked exceedingly well for me. After you don't care, you do need to get out an…
/r/seduction14/01/11 01:16 AM
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