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SELF IMPROVEMENTthinking_makes_it_so/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 11:38 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEthinking_makes_it_so/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 03:18 AM
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It sounds like you’re looking for a digital copy. I’m not sure if I can help with that, but if you would consider a print version, WorldCat will let you know if any libraries near you carry it: WorldCat Or AbeBooks sells rare books: AbeBooks
/r/RedPillBooks09/12/18 01:19 AM
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You are so spot on in your analysis. And I’m so grateful for trp theory for giving me this insight into what was happening. It’s very helpful to have this language for what I was “feeling” but wasn’t able to put into words. It’s really quite textbook, isn’t it? I have been doing a lot of flip flopping on what I think is the best course of action - taking my own personal well-being into account in addition to my son’s and my husband’s. But it still feels like I’m fighting an uphill battle all on …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 12:58 AM
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Sweetie, you’re preaching to the choir here. I know this already. I can’t change my past (married once, a child, n count, etc...) and I can only work with what I’ve got. I’ve always been keen on self improvement and I still am, which is why this post is in the self improvement forum. And I do believe I have much to work with. I come from a good family and grew up in a small town with conservative values, I was a serial monogamist before I was married (high school boyfriend, college boyfriend, a …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 10:42 PM
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Yes, I really wish I found rpw years ago. And I’m very grateful I found it when I did. I’ve been applying the theories to the best of my ability over this last year and it has made our co-parenting and communication much smoother than it would have been otherwise. We do spend holidays together to keep things stable for our son. And we tried “dating” each other this summer, but it was a bit of a disaster. We both fell into old patterns very quickly. Same with the marriage counselling. We both agr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 08:54 PM
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That totally makes sense. And I really do apologize for being contradictory and confusing. It has been a very confusing time for me and I’m trying to work through it to the best of my ability. I still think the men and women on here have valuable advice and thoughts for me that I can’t find elsewhere. It’s very refreshing to get an alternative point of view. I do wonder, though. What about women who do want to find a quality relationship but can’t? I’m very much prepared to admit that the failur…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 06:57 PM
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I did get him that book. And read it myself. It’s a wonderful book. You are correct about the lack of trust. I’m not sure we can come back from that. I can see how it would be confusing because I’m talking about dating again and also the female version of MGTOW. I would love a healthier, more reciprocal relationship. And I’m being honest with myself that it might not happen for me at this point in my life. A loving relationship will always be plan A for me. But I’m exploring the idea of how to h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 05:12 PM
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I have tried. I really, really have. For years. With no reciprocation from his part. How long do I keep trying?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 03:48 PM
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I actually never did confront him about his porn use. I'm very sex-positive and good to go in the sack. However, that doesn't mean that when he got home from work, and spent most of his time watching TV, drinking beer, playing video games and jerking off to porn, that it didn't bother me. I used to work in education before I switched to library work. I like working in helping professions, and I'm aware of the idea of positive reinforcement. I would always encourage him choose healthier, more res…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 03:42 PM
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I totally appreciate your thoughts. And I don't think they are harsh at all. I've come to many of the same conclusions myself. I've read The Surrendered Wife, and I've started applying the principles as much as I can while we are living apart. I am fully aware that my nagging and taking control of things that I am "better" at than him (ie. managing finances, booking vacations, child discipline, etc...) definitely contributed to the deterioration of our marriage and I take full responsibility for…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 06:45 AM
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He is not physically abusive, but he has some very deep psychological problems that have resulted in what I suppose could be called "emotional abuse." He does drink too much, and he used porn excessively. He has a solid middle-management job that he finds unfullfilling, but no idea what he would prefer to do and no motivation to try for anything better. I tried to talk to him about all of these concerns when we were living together, but I was brushed off. I did find myself nagging him and I know…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 04:55 AM
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Sure, I will concede that. And generalizations are still a logical fallacy that should be avoided if one wants to understand the world well.
/r/askTRP08/12/18 04:40 AM
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Haha! This is so funny. I can't count the number of "sexy librarian" comments I've received because of my occupation. I've started adding that to my list of yellow flags.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 11:22 PM
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I think this is a fine agreement. I'm not particularly interested in being "friends" with men anyway. For the most part, it usually means that they are dumping their emotional stuff on me and not reciprocating any emotional support. My women friends are much better at emotional give and take and conversations with them are much more fulfilling for me. Similarly, men who have a lot of female friends but few male friends are a red flag for me. It generally means that they are the type of man who s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 11:18 PM
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Hasty generalizations. Hasty generalization may be the most common logical fallacy because there’s no single agreed-upon measure for “sufficient” evidence. AWALT is one example. False dilemma/false dichotomy. This fallacy has a few other names: “black-and-white fallacy,” “either-or fallacy,” “false dichotomy,” and “bifurcation fallacy.” This line of reasoning fails by limiting the options to two when there are in fact more options to choose from. A man is either Alpha or Beta is one example. Poi…
/r/askTRP07/12/18 11:07 PM
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Yes, I'm feeling a little confused myself. I can't decide if I should divorce him or try to work on our relationship. He has very low self-esteem and self-worth and this led to him feeling quite depressed. I tried very hard to be supportive of him and to encourage him to go out with his friends and do things that he enjoys. But over the years, he let his friendships slide (he never really had many close friendships anyway) and he would spend his time either working or sitting at home reading, wa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 04:18 AM
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I've been reading some of the posts on TRP, and much of it seems to apply to younger males without a family already. I'm wondering if it would be helpful to somehow let him know about that community of men? Or to let him know that I've been doing some new learning here? Or should I just try to implement some of the advice I've received first - ie, no complaining, building up, showing respect, etc... and then just see how things go from there? We are living apart now, so it's difficult to do thes…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/18 12:51 AM
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I've put it on hold at the library ;)
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/18 12:46 AM
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These posts were very helpful, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/18 12:46 AM
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Oh gosh, I love this. However, I dislike wearing makeup. I'm hoping that a great skin care routine works just as well ;)
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 05:22 AM
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