thinksimasparetire Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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4	Help me out of this spiral Remember that despite there being good times, he did a lot to destroy your trust. In the long term all this will lead to is contempt and resentment. A lot of people would disagree with me but you don’t need a reason to leave. Since you have quite a few you’ve got more than enough reason to leave. You don’t owe him anything. Considering this was sent to you months after you left, I would think you weren’t his first priority, regardless of how he was trying to play it off. Honestly, he had his cha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/21 10:35 PM
18	Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes! Okay. Stay single then.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/21 10:20 PM
40	Negging her when she was SICK + embarrassing her in front of friends. At least* commenters got it right This man lacks sincerity and concern for his partner. Not only that but SHE had to drive him an hour away later that same day to a party only to receive that treatment. She did herself justice by leaving him there. Let’s hope she doesn’t go crawling back to him or their friends. They’re just as bad	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/21 10:04 PM
15	DO NOT fall for a man claiming to be "traditional". As someone who grew up in the church, one of the best lessons I learned that they never bring up to young women is that one of the biggest issues men in the church deal with are addictions to porn. I. Shit. You. Not. Yeah, there’s exceptions, but they’re uncommon for a reason. I never really liked that cookie cutter Christian boy, because it’s just less hypocrisy and dehumanization for me to potentially deal with. Frankly I’m quite relieved I was never swayed by the idea of trying to date someon…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/05/21 07:29 AM
3	In my experience, most men who call themselves “good guys,” are just comparing themselves to the predatory men they keep in their friend group. and they’ll call themselves the “good guy” in comparison, but they very obviously aren’t because they’re still hanging out with their predatory friends “I’m not like other guys/I’m not like them”- you’re absolutely right, you’re worse.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 09:56 AM
30	Guys who say "FDS helped me understand and respect my wife" okay but why didn't you listen to your wife before you found FDS? I heavily empathize with you. I had to heavily question whether people actually care about me or just want information. And if people cared they would have known by now.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 09:25 AM
9	Guys who say "FDS helped me understand and respect my wife" okay but why didn't you listen to your wife before you found FDS? They found out a bunch of us are sick of their mediocrity and understand how respect works (and their actions show they don’t think we’re deserving). Happy reading, assholes. I hope you actually learn how to treat women without the pickme enabling permitting your behavior.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 09:23 AM
1	Don't Date Men Who Devalue Your Interests Being neurodivergent myself I agree with what you’re saying. However I wonder how self aware or self assessing he is if he thinks actions like that are okay. Do what is best for you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 08:47 AM
9	Don't Date Men Who Devalue Your Interests It sickens me that this really could have been my life if I stayed with my ex. You’ll be better off without him. Stay strong.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/21 04:37 PM
8	Don't Date Men Who Devalue Your Interests This is also how I played a part in gaslighting myself when I was with my ex. Adopting his thought patterns without assessing how I felt. Ex: I convinced him after asking many times to go to a day party with my friend and I. I enjoy dancing and going out and I find it to be an opportunity to connect. He’s not someone who enjoys parties so I was excited. Excited enough to pay admission for him and my friend. I originally went not planning to drink. I didn’t stick to that however bc some of my fri…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/04/21 04:35 PM
3	if you have to call yourself “nice”, you probably aren’t! I wish. I’d probably never run into him by chance if that were the case lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/04/21 10:37 PM
20	if you have to call yourself “nice”, you probably aren’t! I should have done that with my ex bf. It’s disappointing that I spent so much of my money on dates and he spent most of his on League of Legends. He’s such an NVM that I didn’t even find it worth asking for the money back.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/21 09:10 PM
22	Louder for the lurkers in the back It’s about desire to control. We offer a rotes the opportunity to make something of themselves by having an heir. When you’re such scum you’ll do it by any means necessary without considering the other person, partner or not.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/21 05:35 AM
64	Louder for the lurkers in the back And if we were able to do it ourselves they’d have nothing to hold over our heads.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/21 05:31 AM
1	Can you imagine a world where we refused to sleep with men who didn't prioritize our pleasure and comfort? I want to elaborate on this for the pickmes and lurkers. Cishet men don’t have to conform to another person’s standard to avoid harassment. They ARE the standard and live blindly to the issues of others (this is for the majority, sadly). Essentially they’re incentivized not to care about how they treat others or make others feel in multiple context because they could lose their “respect”. In reality it’s a guise of respect amongst other cishet men brought on by ego/pride. Is proving yourself wor…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/03/21 02:12 AM
5	Turn the tables on male gaslighting, except it’s not cute when they’re angry because it’s actually life-threatening. Oh, the memories this has unlocked.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/21 05:14 PM
17	Just because a relationship failed, doesn't mean you did! Better to dodge a bullet than further your suffering	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/21 05:13 PM
1	A Buddhist take on how to deal with abusive NVM: it’s better to be alone. “Idiots hold you back today from being a better version of yourself tomorrow.” Protect your crown, ladies.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/21 08:23 AM
56	Found this lol. "What myth is still widely circulated as truth?" Sorry, didn't know what flair to use. We love getting slut shamed by men who can’t even be honest about their own size because porn dicks made them insecure	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 12:22 AM
15	ladies and gentlemen welcome to the stage...pickmeisha! Pickmeisha said “I didn’t finish school” 😙	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/11/20 10:17 PM
7	Anyone else notice this? It’s hard to tell, especially if you’re doing it raw and you trust that person. I had the same experience happen to me and I only caught my ex in the act when I saw his facial expression change. Only then had he owned up to it. I’m sorry for all the sorry suckers that come into his life.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 11:09 PM
4	Anyone else notice this? It’s even worse when you learn it through experience... and it’s amazing how much abuse men can get away with within the context of a relationship.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 11:02 PM
1	It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards. The way you phrased it in the last sentence is right on the dot. Your ex by description seems extremely childish. That’s more effort than it’s worth to not do a basic task. How much does someone have to hate himself to give you such strife? I wouldn’t be surprised if he treated his mom like that and she just took it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 12:13 AM
2	It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards. Projection is an extremely powerful defense mechanism.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 12:07 AM
2	It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards. “She’s a bitch, but she gives good head, cleans the house and takes care of the children.” A la scrote mentality.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 12:00 AM
2	It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards. What a conditional definition of pleasing your partner. Edit: Change of words to make it more concise	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/20 11:57 PM
2	It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards. So he was guilting you into having more sex because it was his fault. What a loser. He’s got a hand he can use for round three 🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/20 11:56 PM
5	It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards. My least favorite thing is when people validate a boyfriend playing games for like an hour when you’re over... what was the point of me coming over to see you tonight when I’ve got work in the AM? I might as well be on FaceTime with another person who respects me (family, friend, etc) when you get off your game if I’m not interesting enough to be worth your time. Or better, I can leave without saying goodbye. What is the point of wasting my time and gas? Never again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/20 11:52 PM
9	I want my time, money, and emotional labor back now please. As long as you’re not dating them or they respect you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/20 02:52 PM
6	not sure if this has been posted here before but this right here!!!! is a word!!!! Says that men are tainted waste... but that’s not my business 💅	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/11/20 07:26 PM
28	Drinks = drunk enough for sex with a random girl, movie and cuddle = sex with a random girl, but dinner is too much of a risk in this “current climate” 😒🙄 Bad joke in 3... 2.... Nobody: ... This guy: dId SoMeBoDy OrDeR sAuSaGe?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/11/20 08:13 PM
4	This is why we say no to coffee dates. Before finding FDS, I agreed to a coffee date. He was supposed to text me a time to meet but never did. The NEXT DAY he asked me why I didn't wake him up Tell me why I had this happen with a dinner date last week.... guy not only forgot to text me but didn’t pick a place so I dropped his ass	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/10/20 01:50 AM
3	Have you noticed this? Honestly, I’m not black but have dated black men. While it is to a lesser degree, I still experienced abuse and was emotionally broken down akin to how the thread is describing. If it’s bad for me, it’s definitely worse for black women, who are fetishized and valued based on their looks and how they can serve a man. From talking about it with male friends and assessing from my observations, the value of a man in many cultures is often assessed by how many women they sleep with. It’s a value at t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/20 01:20 AM
39	you deserve someone who takes care of you ❤️ I’m gonna second this. Take off the rose colored glasses and keep your eyes peeled for red flags.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 09:08 AM
5	Gag. If over a quarter of your money is being spent on drugs or alcohol every month you need to check your damn priorities. Smh.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 08:43 AM
42	Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat. Classic projection. Ugh.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 08:41 AM
13	As a woman you're always either too young or too old for things, because the perfect age is when you're a man Honestly they’re not being taught to value empathy. So they don’t give a crap about anyone’s feelings but their own.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 08:36 AM
3	FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propaganda You and me both	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 08:04 AM
9	FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propaganda Once dated this kinda guy. Oof. Don’t miss any of that, especially the not caring about appearances.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 08:04 AM
3	FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propaganda I’ve read enough and I’m only at #2	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 07:56 AM
9	“Don’t You Miss Sex??” Now that you put it that way, it’s a messed up way for a person to assess their competition. There’s a reason why women rarely ask this- because expectations are forced upon them frequently. They’re just expected to take things (in multiple contexts) and only when they deviate from that expectation do we gain our own autonomy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 07:46 AM
7	“Don’t You Miss Sex??” Honestly, only one can be best. And that should be your partner, not some FWB from before. At least in the aspects of emotional intimacy and the respect they give you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 07:18 AM
2	Insecure NVM bs Absolutely. Couple that with someone who looks at other women with no issues and watches a lot of porn and you’ve got reason to be concerned.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 06:44 AM
7	Insecure NVM bs Oh sis, me too. He got mad at me for taking off my wet shirt bc it was drenched and I was cold because it was windy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 06:37 AM
7	Insecure NVM bs Being in this experience, I’m happy not to be dating that trash can anymore	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 06:34 AM
2	A man wanting to have sex with you does not mean he likes about you. Male sexual attention is abundant and low value. Also, the same men who are going bareback with women are also the same ones who will complain the woman “trapped them” if she gets pregnant and decided to keep it. 🤡 Add on to that: even if they use condoms, that alone doesn’t make them an HVM.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 06:27 AM
28	“Don’t You Miss Sex??” These guys want to get their ego stroked thinking you’re the best they’ve had... ugh. It’s very depressing to deal with. Why bother.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 06:26 AM
8	Never settle for less. Know your worth. I felt this. Once bc I felt like we weren’t seeing each other enough, I made a dinner for my ex. Then he said he was not gonna come. I cried bc I put a lot of time into it and then found out it was “just a joke” and I should stop crying bc he forgot to grab something I asked him to bring and went back.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/10/20 06:22 AM
4	Men unloading unprocessed trauma on women: is therapy? 🥺👉👈 This is why marriage is detrimental to women and beneficial to men. Edit: I say this as it is so important to find a quality partner. Leave the scrubs be.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/10/20 07:01 PM
14	I Tried Femdom And It Was Nowhere Near As "Empowering" As The BDSM Community Would Have You Believe This gave me flashbacks to my ex- but he was the one with the kinks of degradation and sadism. Sadly it’s not only there the power struggle applied as he was extremely manipulative and abusive. Wasn’t hard to hide it when he demonized and shamed me and turned out friends against me slowly. I got scapegoated on both ends- my friends looked down on me and thought I was an awful girlfriend because of the way he spoke about me (but they never addressed it with me because there was a very dysfunction…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/10/20 06:56 PM