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| 2 | I feel like I’m constantly being gaslit and it is really getting to methank u for the advice mate :,) | /r/MensRights | 07/11/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | I feel like I’m constantly being gaslit and it is really getting to mesorry late reply but i just dont wanna do that. its not enjoyable at all to me. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/23 09:31 AM |
| 5 | I feel like I’m constantly being gaslit and it is really getting to meNo it’s not nonsense, I really appreciate the comment. The cycle I’m in seems to go from being patient and waiting for things happen, to nothing happening and I decide I need to do a bit more, to really just kinda going crazy and become arrogant and overly emotional (right now), then I get scared of myself and isolate for awhile until I’m waiting again. What has really gotten to me after all this time is the consistency of my rejections. How insanely close I’ve gotten so many times. The amount o… | /r/MensRights | 12/09/23 03:45 PM |
| 3 | There is no 100% PC Way of Approaching Women Without Risking to Appear CREEPYi think this is a pretty solid answer. its easy to make assumptions when you put everyone in a bubble, but everyone is incredibly different and unless you are really pushing the boundaries most women won’t care enough to care if you’re “creepy.” it does still suck that theres that standard against men but it is a little deserved going off of the endless content of many subs dedicated to creepy men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/21 10:56 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveokay so im just going to assume the angry responses to this comment misinterpreted what i meant by “expect anything,” i meant men arent going to do their part so i cant really expect women to give us any extra slack. every single damn comment is acting like my take is aggressive and out of anger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 07:23 AM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveur right fuck it, every man for himself everyone sucks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 07:21 AM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveyou are saying that because all you are seeing is one opinion of mine and youre assuming the type of person i am. i usually am more critical of men’s mistakes and i think more change should be done on their side. i have made posts calling for men to change in certain ways too. but i also know women are more reasonable when it comes to things like this anyway. fuck off with the victim mentality, i never once said anything indicating that i think women are easier and weaker targets, that sounds an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 07:20 AM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei never said i have control over women dumbass, i meant i can do well for myself as a man but other than telling men to be better i have no control over them. i thought it was a given that i obviously don’t think i have control over women. why are so many idiots in these replies latching onto one single thing i said as if that was the only thing i was saying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 06:45 AM |
| 5 | The pulse of the vagina is the highest authority and it don't lie sis... yet here I am 43 and unwillingly singlemen sacrifice themselves everyday getting near vaginas, theyre like black holes we dont know whats in there. i dont wanna get sucked in | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 28/07/21 01:16 AM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei totally get that, i remember when i used to have the shitty “boys have it hard cause girls never hit on us >:(“ mentality, but then i met girls i became close friends with and i saw how uncomfortable and awkward it is, so i understand that fear would probably be constant. the times i have had it happen to me also helped show me its not all that great. and i also am realizing more that its probably me who should find out why it does bother me and work on that. im sure it’s somewhat obvious i cr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 12:38 AM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveactually youre right about that last part, i should clarify shitty men are shitty men unless they’ve really improved, but even then its a gamble. i think you are obligated to put up with whoever you want, hopefully someone who treats you with basic human decency at the very least. i think it applies very heavily just to guys who havent proven themselves to have misogynistic life standards or be just a bad person in general. there are still gonna be a lot of good guys with maybe a couple traits t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 12:14 AM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvesmh ive had it with the suck wage gap | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 11:28 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveno lie there, maybe me taking offense to it sometimes is just some i have to work on. and it’s probably more so something id just have to apply to my personal life, and not all women in general lol. i sometimes will fixate on something to the point where it feels like its much more important than it is, and then make posts like these lol. then i usually realize its not that big of a deal and stop worrying about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:58 PM |
| 3 | The good men are so “elusive and rare” because good men are treated the same, if not worse, than the bad onesgood point. honestly i think the amount of time literally everyone has been spending on the internet and doing nothing from covid has fucked with everyone so hard that everything seems like a much bigger deal to me than it is. i really dont have to get involved and ill probably deal with those toxic mentalities a lot less if i go to more supportive online spaces. hopefully it doesnt get as bad as you say | /r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre | 27/07/21 10:21 PM |
| 3 | American culture is simultaneously hyper-sexualized and sanctimoniously puritanim biased because sex is a bit of a trigger for me but god damn... i hate hearing about it. everywhere i go. i don’t necessarily think this is extremely new, but the way the internet is going is making it such a prevalent topic. and hey, no shame do what u want. but as someone who turned off Almost Famous because of how oversexual i thought it was, i wish it was more taboo. not shamed and stigmatized, but i wish it didnt blur into so many other facets of life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:17 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei know what not all men is. i literally surround myself with activists. most of my friends are girls who are big into gender and social politics. you sound like someone who recently got into this ideology and want to use it as a free pass to dismiss reasoning | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 09:47 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveoh my god you are once again not paying attention to anything im saying. theres a HUGE difference between someone saying “well all lives matter so why do they get black lives matter?!?!?!” and me expressing feelings without trying to attack either side and still support all womens issues. i support most womens issues more than men, again. you dont have to believe me but people like you are the problem, blindly attacking anyone who even grazes the subject. know the enemy, im not trying to suppres… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 09:45 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveplease explain how im entitled and ignorant. i told you already this post is in no way a demand. am i just not allowed to express my personal feelings even while making sure to respect others? you are the only who’s being aggressive and hurdling insults. this was never a heated argument | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:56 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveand you are petty and very close minded. you are not at all helping either sides | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:51 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveokay, i know it’s probably frustrating to see posts like this but i wish you took the time to see all the times i mentioned its not women’s responsibility, it’s not womens fault, and the whole point of a debate is to open up to new viewpoints. if i was spewing harmful rhetoric then id deserve to get called out. but i went out of my way to try and be respectful for everyone (if anything, i bash men a LOT more than women throughout this post/comments.) excuse the analogy but think of it like this.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:23 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvethe women dont? yes youre right, i am in no position to demand this sort of change. if anything good is to come out of this post and discussion, i just want to open more peoples eyes that a lot of the men who are really trying to do their part could be vulnerable and doubting if they’re seen separately from the type men who are complained about. and sometimes a reminder theyre appreciated could be very helpful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:17 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvevery great response, i think this is a great example of the conflicting argument and i totally agree. we as men can only really ask to have our voices respected if our proposed solutions simultaneously take both sides into account and dont conflict with other gender issues. i really wish more men with this mentality could work together on a larger scale to try and even things out and make life more enjoyable for everyone. in the end i just think the human experience should be as filled with as m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:09 PM |
| 4 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvecould be the people/communities i surround myself with (and mostly online). but id say i see it at least once a day, sometimes regarding heinous acts (which i am certainly not going to blame anyone for saying it in response to that), but a ton of times ill just see it with girls who get rejected by a guy or just any inconvenience they have with a man. it is only fair of me to still honour all their feelings as well because no one deserves to have their emotions invalidated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:57 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvehaha aw thank you i appreciate it. i kinda just reject my masculine sexuality because societally it seems like just gets people hurt in general. so id much rather be unsure forever than try to initiate something and get put right back on the level as all the other dudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:52 PM |
| 6 | The good men are so “elusive and rare” because good men are treated the same, if not worse, than the bad onesnot to play victim or anything, but putting myself out there as someone who doesnt put my desires and feelings above others just lead to so much manipulation. i dont know why so many people prey on any indication of weakness and use it to their advantage, but its fucking annoying to make sacrifices on my end if the other end isnt going to do the same, let alone take advantage of my willingness to do so. | /r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre | 27/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveim disappointed thats the case. im starting to realize why most male related issue arguments fall through. i put aside my sexual desires when talking to most women because i feel like the type of person i am would conflict if sex was that high a priority. ill sleep in the bed that men made for themselves, but it sucks i have to give up parts of myself to feel like i wont disappoint people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:46 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveoh well i totally agree with that. i might have misread what you meant by your original comment. i agree most issues men face are not at caused by women like the ones you mentioned. but i dont think anyones debating the validity of those epidemics. at least i hope not. and about being better and feeling shame, i think just really sitting in deserved shame can help people understand why their actions are problematic and give them an opportunity to work on improving that within themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:43 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei think everyone deserves validation. just for good decisions they make. no one owes anyone validation, but one tiny comment can go a very long way. humans are trained to respond to praise by repeating actions they’ve got appraisal for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:38 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvewell thats upsetting that that’s your takeaway. i purposely tried to make my argument without coming off like i think it’s a woman’s responsibility or their faults. it really bothers me that i cant be taken seriously by some people about things like this, the intent of this post was specifically not to send hostility towards women. you couldnt tell me one gender issue women face that id deny, i know women have it harder and i know my struggles arent comparable. but can i at least get respect whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:30 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveyou bring up a good point and i am not going to argue against it because youre probably right for most men. im just soft and respond really positively to encouragement and validation (especially social aspects im insecure or worried about). its a bit silly for me to ask women for help when we most of us men wont even help ourselves. or theyll twist the argument into a misogynistic one. too many replies (mainly ones supporting my take) to this post missed the whole point of not attacking the othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:26 PM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveits a lot of really tiny things that im sure a lot of people dont care about or notice. in my personal opinion i like more things about girls than i do about guys. what ive thought for a long time was sexual frustration was actually just a feeling of jealousy towards female sexuality and probably all that comes with wanting something that ill probably never have. i think my frustrations may be misguided, a lot of the replies on here made me realize how little of a pressing issue this is, and i t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:20 PM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvemaybe thats what we’ve been missing the whole time… in all honesty though, i really just kind of am jealous of the female gender and female sexuality. not that i think its easier, but i feel like theres a lot of differences (mainly social) that i am just envious of and would fit my personality better. i hate having to play a masculine role and i hate having to be the assertive one. and hearing “all men suck” is just a kind of painful reminder that i would have chosen not to be one if i could hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 06:21 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei totally understand the upset a lot of my woman friends (and just women in general) have and that’s why i don’t really fault anyone who says it or call them out. i know my place in gender debates and that’s why i can’t really disagree with most of the opposing arguments. im generally more of a woman rights activist, this is just one of the few arguments id like to make for the other side. thank you for your response! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 05:52 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveactually yeah, i dont think its the inherent saying of the phrase, it’s more just when i hear it all the time and i know a lot of people (that im good friends with) who both honour men like that but also say they hate men quite a bit. i think i’m just a little tired of blindly hearing the phrase when there’s nothing i can really do to to help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 05:36 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveof course not owed, but at the very least there should be much less of tearing each other down | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 02:02 PM |
| 3 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvethank you, i wish it didn’t have to get so overblown, i really wasnt bothered when people first started saying it, but the way its kinda everywhere online hurts my psyche and just makes me feel really guilty about something i can’t really do anything about. i think i’m just frustrated that toxic men made being a good one so much worse than it should have been. and constantly being let down when i see any more toxicity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 01:28 PM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvewell i just think we should all encourage self improvement and support each other in all aspects | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 01:01 PM |
| 6 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvewell maybe its just me but someone could sign a contract saying they wanna fuck me and id still be unsure if it was true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 01:00 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveyou missed my point then. i am not trying to put the blame or responsibility on women, yes i know every woman is not a man hating nazi and i know most arent. just like i do know that all men suck isnt referring to all men. i am only referring to women who say it, and not in a calling out way even. in the end im not looking just for this one male issue to be fixed. i want all gender issues to be fixed. i dont think its wrong to mention one issue without invalidating others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 12:57 PM |
| 3 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveyes, i really wish more men realized most of the problems we face are caused by us, 100% gender equality and all equality for that matter would just make everything so much better and improve literally everyones life experiences. all humans should strive for that and the fact that it isn’t an inherent belief in everyone is so upsetting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 12:51 PM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei think there should be less pressure on men to be manly. maybe im in the minority of men who agree but im a sensitive bitch and im ok with that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 12:49 PM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveyes, it shouldn’t be women’s job but itd just be nice to be taken a little more into account. men definitely have more of their weight to push. but thats also why it’s frustrating, i just have no control over men so it feels a bit hopeless to ever expect anything edit: since you guys wanna make assumptions, by “expect anything” i meant if men arent going to do their part, then i should not expect any women to give us extra help. its funny how one single bit of information is enough to know my wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 12:47 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvebut also i rarely see people past their 20’s saying this stuff. i think the older zoomers/younger millenials are the main people this applies to. so its not about not wanting it from those women, it’s that most of those women aren’t saying they hate all men. and again, the generalizing. i am still talking about the good men because the men who aren’t being respectful aren’t supposed to be the ones that are validated. men who respect women respect all women. that comes with respecting women. men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 12:40 PM |
| 3 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvewell i think the work you do is great. i hope i didnt come off as not liking or respecting women, i consider myself a feminist and i dont have any ill will towards most of these people i mentioned. but i see the argument a lot that men who dont respect women also demand respect, and i just think thats dismissing the question with a generalization. the fact is there are men here who do care about women and respect them, but also do want a space to discuss our gender and some aspects that maybe ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 12:25 PM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveah i totally get that. i am also just a people pleaser in general and if someone doesnt like me i feel like im doing something wrong. so i guess i can say im almost forced to be nice to every new person i meet lol. and of course i cant say i havent done bad things either, but i definitely want to be a good person, i just know how good it feels to be cared or thought about and i think a lot of people deserve that. i think as long as you strive to be a good person thats good enough for me to consi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 12:17 PM |
| 14 | The good men are so “elusive and rare” because good men are treated the same, if not worse, than the bad onesyou nailed that. it honestly is a kick in the head to see the most basic shit rewarded, its so telling of someone who doesn’t care about themself and dates against their judgement and its depressing as fuck to see so commonly. especially when its people im close with. and again, it’s ridiculous to me that theres so much pressure on not being a toxic man, while so many of those same people go for toxic men and are encouraging it and bad decisions in general to this extent | /r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre | 27/07/21 12:00 PM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvebut dont you want men to be better? i feel like a lot of men should feel more shame. i think most male feminists agree it’s important to take those complaints into account, but if you aren’t saying it to send a message, then arent you just trying to hurt or upset people? im also talking more about saying it publicly or directly to a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 11:50 AM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvepeople kinda suck in general, being an asshole is not gender specific. why cant we all suck together 😔😔😔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 11:23 AM |
| 13 | The good men are so “elusive and rare” because good men are treated the same, if not worse, than the bad onesit’s ridiculous to me that its a becoming a TREND to promote toxicity, i know thats not completely new but i feel like the level its at now is insanely destructive towards progress being made to try and prevent toxic behavior and any glamorization of it. fucking idiots are doing nothing but more pain in the world cause they think its cool and edgy. i dont know why i even bother caring at this point lol | /r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre | 27/07/21 11:18 AM |
| 7 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveyeah for sure. im disappointed how many comments agreeing with me missed my whole point of not fighting fire with fire | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 11:12 AM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei mean i dont know it was just an offhand comment, really not that much thought put into it. i dont think trying to convince you im a good person is a very good person thing to do, but i also dont think i said anything to indicate im not a good person. and again i don’t really think being a good person is deserving of praise, i think everyone could be a good person. a good person to me is someone who gives everyone respect, has fair morals that they stick by, and are consistent with it all. puts… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 11:10 AM |
| 7 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei really appreciate that take, i think this is a great and accurate argument for both sides. cause i agree, i dont think anyone really has to follow my suggestion at all, i think it’s just good to try and express some feelings in a way that people might consider somewhat. thanks a lot for the comment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:47 AM |
| 4 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveour boy power is problematic though and not very cool | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:21 AM |
| 2 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei dunno man, im just jealous of girl power tbh theres no boy power it sucks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:18 AM |
| 1 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvewhat? its really not hard, i like people so i want to make them happy, and i try to be really open minded about everything. its the type of person i like being so of course its not hard. and what i mainly meant by that was i dont think i deserve credit for it or anything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:04 AM |
| 6 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei just wish i could make these arguments without people taking it as a personal attack. i didn’t have intentions to offend anyone and i wish debates like this could remain calm. my main point is just i think it’s important to know that it can be a pretty hurtful statement | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:00 AM |
| 7 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei’m sorry, i should have made it more clear that i agree it applies more to the dating/younger activism scene and a married woman is understandably shouldnt be expected to do that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 09:55 AM |
| 4 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei think this applies more to the dating scene so i dont think a married woman should really have any expectation to do that lol. but saying men only care about sexual and romantic validation is exactly the type of generalization that’s untrue and hurtful. specifically the men who feel invalidated in any other way are the only men that would take offense to that, cause a man who only cares about sex would agree with it. hearing that i can make someone feel safe or comfortable with me, or every so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 09:51 AM |
| 3 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveit could definitely be that. or even more likely is i may just be surrounding myself with these types of people more than i realize. the thing is, i normally do get along pretty well with a lot of people who say it, maybe because i have a more alternative lifestyle and those people tend to be accepting of that. i appreciate your comment a lot for giving a different perspective | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 09:39 AM |
| 4 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvegreat point. i’m not gonna speak for the women on this, but i used to blame random things for all the problems i faced and i get that it sometimes is a response to feelings of hopelessness. it just seems like this is one of the few times where the majority has and encourages this mindset | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 09:22 AM |
| 8 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei dont know how to say this in a non douchebaggery way, but i think im a good man and i dont think it’s hard at all to be one. i care a lot about making sure people are comfortable, but i still feel somewhat called out by a lot of the men hate, and it’s just made me self conscious about talking to girls and my masculinity in general. and yeah thats not on the level of what girls face, but again, i think the men who already care about being respectful are going to be the most affected by hearing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 09:00 AM |
| 6 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveexactly what you describe, showing support for men who break traditional standards, focusing on the positive instead of the negative, i can tell that you truly want what’s right for everyone and i think that mindset is probably most important part. but other examples could be people sharing more posts pointing out good examples of men, less fetishization of age gap relationships and toxic men, maybe occasionally pointing out they appreciate something random and small that a guy might not even re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:48 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?not gonna say anything the other comments havent said, but there’s no reason you need to go out of your way to get it through their heads how disrespectful it is. no one who truly cares about you would want to put you in that situation also i think you are better off saying nothing than telling them off. you definitely arent failing your bf by doing so, but i think id rather my partner just not engage at all, attention is partly what they want | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:21 AM |
| 1 | This is probably a joke but i unironically see so many posts like this where girls are submitting to guys who dont give a shit about them. then they complain all men are trash because they only date garbage cans lolfair, wasnt a really good post cause i was trying more to point out similar mindsets, even though the main image doesnt fit the sub | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/07/21 08:15 AM |
| 7 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvewell then this post isn’t directed at you. it seems you already are going about it in a supportive way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:13 AM |
| 4 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvei mean by generally focusing on positive change and good examples of men rather than focusing on behavior that is obviously disrespectful and bad examples. and again, unless you are one of the people berating men all the time, i dont think it’s really necessary to go out of your way or anything. encouraging and supporting your bf in that way is great and exactly what i mean | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:11 AM |
| 3 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improvethats a good point, but i think things could be much better and less hostile between genders and that is really important to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:06 AM |
| 11 | It would be a lot more productive if instead of just saying all men suck, women were more actively validating men who do try to improveyou are right. and i think if we want our problems to be taken more seriously, its only fair to admit there are a lot things we dont have to worry about as men, but i of course dont think that should make gender arguments one sided. men and women both go through different issues and all their issues are valid edit: i understand what you are saying though, itd probably be more supportive to instead focus on the problems and how to fix them, rather than shame men for a “privilege” that they have n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 07:56 AM |
| 1 | This is probably a joke but i unironically see so many posts like this where girls are submitting to guys who dont give a shit about them. then they complain all men are trash because they only date garbage cans lolyou explained it much better than i could have. why is it such a crazy idea that maybe the men who do suck just stick out more than respectful men??? if a guy makes a gross comment then obviously he’s not respectful. but if a guy doesnt make that comment, no one can see that even though the amount of men not doing that would probably outweigh the ones who are | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/07/21 06:51 AM |
| 4 | This is probably a joke but i unironically see so many posts like this where girls are submitting to guys who dont give a shit about them. then they complain all men are trash because they only date garbage cans lolwe’re called shallow all the time yet its perfectly acceptable for a girl to stop liking a guy because she’s close minded to different personality types. there was a trend online where girls would state “icks” that made them stop liking guys, and 99% of them had nothing to do with whether they’d be a good boyfriend or not. sometimes it would be things that would actually indicate positive things about the guys. you cant both be unattracted to men with positive personality traits and complain abo… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/07/21 06:45 AM |
| 0 | 54 year old gets matched with but then ghostedas a big leftist, my pet peeve about leftists is how so many of them put people who may have accidentally made one or two ignorant comments on the same level as genuine hateful people. we all fuck up, ive totally said things where my intentions were misconstrued. not to generalize, but its so hard to be friends with those people because they internalize everything and you’re always walking on eggshells edit: i think a good example is if i say something not sexual, but my wording makes it sound l… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/07/21 05:25 AM |
| 3 | This is probably a joke but i unironically see so many posts like this where girls are submitting to guys who dont give a shit about them. then they complain all men are trash because they only date garbage cans lol“im not gonna shave, fuck what men want, you cant stop me!!!” “the men i pursue who only care about using me for sex dont wanna talk to me anymore :( i thought they were better than that” | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/07/21 05:19 AM |
| 7 | This is probably a joke but i unironically see so many posts like this where girls are submitting to guys who dont give a shit about them. then they complain all men are trash because they only date garbage cans lolhaving bad taste in men =/= all men being trash. i know for a fact there are tons of men who would really try their best for their partner but they get chosen over dumbasses who clearly dont care about them. if ur gonna complain about men at least give different types of men a chance???? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/07/21 04:30 AM |
| 2 | "Oh, you're everything I know I'm supposed to want in a man? Into the Friendzone you go!" (forums.red x-post)i agree with a lot on this sub but its a bit refreshing to see someone who doesn’t encourage this behavior within themself. most girls who do that dont care that they do and probably arent aware half the time | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/07/21 03:59 AM |
| 1 | How much would having regular sex solve your problems?I wouldn’t be so hard on myself, I’d be much less insecure, I’d have improved personal relationship dynamics, I’d be much less desperate, I wouldn’t have to feel like a perv for trying to find someone online to sext, I’d feel more connected to those who are more experienced, I’d be more confident, I’d understand how to talk about sexual topics better, I wouldn’t feel left out or insecure when I’m talking to someone very experienced, I could get out and do more things I’ve wanted to do but not al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/21 08:19 AM |
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