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Maybe look at what other people in your area are charging for similar work, then set your rates at 10-20% below that to help you build a customer base. You might also consider offering a large discount off your standard rate for first-time customers; this will encourage them to take a chance on someone new.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:59 PM
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What's the market rate in your area?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:51 PM
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Nerdy chicks with a goofy sense of humor. Don't really have a type physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:15 PM
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Don't make a move on her- there's lots of cute girls in the world, and it's not worth damaging a long term friendship over a girl who might not even be around in six months. I would also let my friend know what happened so that he can start moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:04 AM
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Q4W: How often do you get approached by men in public? About old are you, and how attractive would you rate yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:26 PM
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Would you want men to approach you more often?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:22 PM
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Watch The Last King of Scotland. Great movie, and there’s a really (darkly) funny scene that goes over this. “You did not persuade me!”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:08 AM
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There's an idea out there that the real men do the hard physical labor, and stuff you do in offices is just fake bs and you are sitting around on your butt in air conditioning and collecting a paycheck. The fetishization of manual labor always struck me as weird. The entire reason those dudes are wrecking their bodies out in the field/factory is so that their sons have the chance to work in air conditioned office buildings instead of the field/factory. That being said, I do think the main benefi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:03 AM
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I mean, the number of single men in her age range making 300k a year or more is already miniscule- you're basically just looking at celebrities and a handful of finance/tech folks. And then you add in all the other requirements she has? The men she's looking for barely exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:13 PM
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I feel like that list was designed as ragebait.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:05 PM
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Requirements: Kindness Good communication/conflict resolution skills Center-left to left-wing political views Spiritual/religious, but not to a fanatical degree. Shared hobbies and interests (she doesn’t have to like ALL of the things I like, but I want us to be excited about at least some of the same things). Wants 2-3 children. Health and fitness are important to her. Not Required, but Strongly Preferred: Black or mixed with Black Great ass Likes to read I’m not currently looking for a serious…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:55 PM
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I’ve said this before, but “be yourself” should be interpreted as “be the best possible version of yourself”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:56 PM
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Our caveman brains like sex better without condoms than with them, because our instinctual desire is to be fruitful and multiply. All there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:17 AM
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Yeah, but all I’d think of is how much better the sex “could” be if I were bigger lol And my sex life would probably be better if I were taller, or richer, or higher status. We’re all born with a set of advantages and disadvantages. Your hand may be better or worse, but all you can do is play the cards you’re dealt. > What size(s) do you think would go under the “large” category, or the size that you’d think women would most “prefer”? Do you think 7 would be on the small side (especially compare…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 04:30 AM
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Echoing the folks that say your friend is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:30 PM
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She looks AI-generated. Something uncanny valley about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:15 PM
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The downside of dating someone attractive enough to have options is that you may not be the option they go with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:15 PM
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Ah, that’s a tough one. Unfortunately with lost romance, sometimes you just gotta let the grief run its course. It’s ok to feel what you’re feeling, as long as you’re keeping room for other things as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:57 AM
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Is it a person or a thing that’s out of reach for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:09 AM
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What’s your strategy look like? I’ve done pretty well with women overall, but nearly all of the women I’ve been with are from my social circle or from the apps. I’ve brought home a few girls from bars/clubs, but with them it was pure dumb luck- they were horny, and I was in the right place at the right time. I’m not quite sure how some dudes do it week after week.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:52 AM
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In general, I’d say it primarily manifests as women refusing to take an active role in solving problems, as initiative and agency are “unladylike”. Another example might be a woman using the traditional view of her gender as soft and fragile to manipulate others into doing what she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:46 AM
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How do you usually approach night game? Are you by yourself, or with friends? What kind of bars do you go to?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:17 AM
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I imagine that as AI tech improves, it’ll put a significant dent in OF creators’ pockets. The ones who already have devoted fanbases will be fine, but the lower-end creators will start having to compete with artificially generated women who can be customized to user preferences and can do literally anything (and for free to boot).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:22 PM
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Primarily when I have a girl coming over. Shout out to hookup culture for forcing me to do my chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:19 PM
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Yup. Pretty much everything radfems say about men in general, white conservatives say about nonwhite men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:27 PM
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I’m at social events 4-5 days per week, and I have a large number of mostly female friends. Depends on how you’d define “flirtatious interaction”. If it’s stuff like “You look nice,” or “You smell good,” then relatively often. If we’re talking more blatant things (i.e. acquaintances or strangers openly making passes at me), maybe 3-4 times a year?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:42 PM
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The issue is that “what they are” can vary wildly from woman to woman. There’s no script that all of them follow. I’ve known women who were fine with straight up grinding on dudes they had zero interest in. I’ve also encountered women who threw me zero IOIs, then told me years later that they had had a huge crush on me and were hoping I would make a move. Now that’s not to say that there aren’t indicators you can look for and act on, but it’s an art, not a science.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:34 PM
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“Tell me what you want me to do to you”, is a go-to of mine once we’re mid-make out session
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:29 PM
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What part of what I said is wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:05 AM
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There will always be people who are better than you at something; that’s just life. Always someone stronger, always someone hotter, always someone richer. Nothing you can do about that. If you’re in a relationship worth having, your partner will accept you fully- all the good and all the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:56 AM
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Yes, they often do brag about it. Just like women will brag about how hot, or how rich, or how successful their boyfriend is. However, there are still plenty of average looking, average income, working class men who manage to have fulfilling relationships. It’s a bonus, not a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:44 AM
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As someone who is fortunately blessed in that area, some observations from my experience: There is such a thing as “too big”. Where that point is depends on the woman in question, but they’ve all got a limit. Girth >>> length. I’m doing pretty well in both areas, but I get a lot more compliments related to thickness. If you’re above a certain length, you have to be careful; a hit to the cervix is painful for most gals. Assuming you don’t have a micropenis, you’re probably going to be just fine. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:48 AM
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Sleeping around (when done safely and responsibly) is fun, relaxing, and sometimes you meet people you can learn something from. What’s not to like?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:48 PM
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there is this active social message that a woman is sexual for the sake of men and not for her own pleasure I don’t fully agree with everything you wrote here, but I think this is an interesting point. I’ve spoken about this a few times in other contexts, but there’s a longstanding convention in media of all types: chaste, innocent women who sit around and look pretty while they wait for their prince to come are “good girls”, while women who actively chase sex are viewed as crass, unladylike, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:33 PM
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I don’t really have a type physically. My dating history includes women who were under 5’0, women who were over 6’0, and everything in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:37 PM
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Have you talked to a 14 year old before? Those kids are annoying af.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:06 PM
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I like the idea!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:05 PM
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I live in an area where it gets really hot in the summer; all the women are out and about in either sundresses or tank tops with tiny shorts. Wonderful time of year!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 06:44 PM
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Same reason racism didn’t just disappear as soon as the Civil Rights Act passed. Cultural inertia is a motherfucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:02 PM
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That trend has changed in recent years; you see a lot more sex-positive female characters in media today than you would 20-30 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:59 PM
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Social conditioning is the primary causal factor imo. Consider female characters in well-known stories. You’ll often see a chaste, innocent “good girl” who waits for her prince to come portrayed as the feminine ideal. By contrast, the wily seductress who actively pursues sex is portrayed as bad. This is also why a significant number of romance stories aimed at women see the male lead engaged in forceful and sometimes even rapey behavior. Even if a woman desires a man, to openly tell him that wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:54 PM
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Anybody (man or woman) who adheres to these social expectations or uses phrases like the above are reinforcing misogyny. It doesn't mean that they are misogynistic, but they are doing something that stems from misogyny. Yup, but unless you’re insanely rich or insanely good looking, you gotta play your assigned role in the mating dance if you want to mate. It’s all in the game. Edit: I will once again recommend the Contrapoints video “Twilight”. Perfectly explains why gender roles in sex and roma…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:39 PM
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Pop stars and actresses using their sex appeal to make money? In MY America? I’m shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:53 PM
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Asian dudes tend to be overrepresented in tech/engineering spaces relative to their share of the total population, and Asian dudes are a bit shorter on average. Perhaps that’s it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:49 PM
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Shit- that's awful. Sending strength to you and your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:10 PM
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What happened? Hope you’re feeling better!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:25 PM
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One I heard recently that really helped me: “Stop worrying about the love you didn’t get. Start thinking about the love you have right now.” As someone who can have a hard time letting go of things, this is definitely something I needed to hear (it’s from The White Lotus, which I highly recommend).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:46 PM
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Same- get occasional IOIs, but not a ton. However, if I’m able to get a foot in the door, my “conversion rate” is probably the best out of the guys in my social sphere. Knowing how to talk to people can lead to infinite opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:35 AM
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The LBJ quote is relevant here: “ If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you..”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 08:02 PM
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The real problem here is the that the republicans were able to get control of the media landscape. Kamala almost never mentioned trans people once during her campaign; hardly any democrats did. The GOP are the ones howling about DEI and bathrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:52 PM
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If you’re into fitness, seconding the recommendation to join rec sports leagues, climbing gyms, or running clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:37 PM
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I didn’t have the Trump/Elon breakup coming until at least the end of 2025, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:23 PM
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I mean, stuff like WWE has always been around. I just see it like another form of that type of content (fake, but the performers and audience all pretend it isn’t).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:22 PM
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Hoping to rejoin the rest of y’all in civilized society soon. We’re working on it (or at least roughly half of us are).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:09 PM
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I recommend the Contrapoints video “Twilight”. The “Fantasy” segment is the most relevant here, but the whole thing is a good watch if you want to understand why a lot of books featuring romanticized toxicity/abuse are popular among women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:24 PM
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Counterpoint; making it all about you is fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 02:19 AM
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I think it’s a shame, honestly. People say that the magic around special occasions (holidays, birthdays, etc) disappears when you’re an adult, but that’s only if you let it. Throw a barbecue! Plan a trip! Get your folks together and go to the big game! It’s your day; you should be spending it doing fun things with the people you care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 02:05 AM
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Usually if a girl says she’s busy but doesn’t offer a specific date/time as an alternative, that’s a “No”. That being said, there are exceptions to every rule. Just say “cool, let me know!” and don’t text her again unless she texts you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:29 AM
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True, true. If women were less afraid of being slut-shamed and men were less afraid to approach, everyone would be having significantly more sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:45 PM
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Since when do “nice” and “passive” mean the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:33 PM
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Just as there are children raised in healthy households who received love in healthy ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:49 PM
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I think you misinterpret my original comment. I often say on this sub that attractive personality traits include charisma, assertiveness, good humor. These are morally neutral traits; both good people and bad can have them. So yeah, a hypothetical ugly dude with those traits will be more attractive than a hypothetical ugly guy without them; nice or mean doesn’t make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 01:54 PM
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Q4A: Favorite fictional couple?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 01:15 AM
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What was the prompt?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:35 PM
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Not super often. Liberal men usually live in cities, where they’re surrounded by women who are more aligned with their political views. The ones that don’t are usually ethnic minorities, and most of them wouldn’t want to date a far-right chick for reasons that should be obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:40 PM
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An ugly asshole is more attractive than a ugly nice guy. What? According to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:21 PM
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Yes: Different race, goes to church, really talkative, taller than me, SAHM, lives with parents, in sorority, 6’3”. Maybe, depending on various factors: Different religion, 1000 miles away, 50+ sexual partners, gets drunk once per week, dislikes video games, military, 200 lbs, slept with friend. No: Smokes, two kids, alcoholic, OF, really quiet, waiting until marriage, refuses to have kids, same first name as mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:11 PM
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God forbid men have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:07 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:02 PM
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Nah, hoes are always a great time to hang with. If you’re genuinely friends with one, she can get you access to all sorts of cool stuff (exclusive party invites, skipping the line at the club, free alcohol or drugs if that’s your vibe, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:29 PM
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Q4W: Imagine that you meet a guy who’s absolutely perfect- he checks every single one of your boxes, the sex is amazing, he’s incredibly loyal, and your family and friends love him. The catch? He’s really, really into Transformers. He watches Transformers movies multiple times per week, describes things that happened to him during his day using Transformers references, his speech is peppered with Transformers quotes, and he owns every piece of merchandise he’s been able to get his hands on. Is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:25 PM
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Seems like they’re the attractive assholes. How many dates are the ugly convicts getting?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:59 AM
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And yet he's still incredibly successful with women! So it logically follows that being an asshole is not required to attract girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:23 AM
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The issue here is that "Chad" could be a violent, unfaithful drug dealer, but he could also be a hunky firefighter who's nice to everyone and spends his free time volunteering at a retirement home. Attraction and morality exist independently of each other. Women DO go for assholes, but the guys being assholes is not an attractive quality. Assertiveness, charisma, physical fitness, and good humor are attractive qualities, and there are both good and bad men in possession of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:19 AM
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I occasionally see things to the tune of "women only go for assholes"; These people completely miss the point. Attractive assholes are successful with women, as are attractive good guys. If a guy isn't already attractive, him being an asshole is only going to make him even less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:28 AM
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Like I said originally, there’s no particular reason why. “Why?” in this case begins and ends with “Because that’s how it’s always been”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:10 AM
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Historically speaking, it’s because men were expected to be the sole breadwinners, while women were pressured to marry a provider as soon as possible. While attitudes about gender and labor have liberalized, there are still plenty of holdovers from that era.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:04 AM
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There’s no inherent reason why; it’s just societal convention. Complying with that tradition usually gives you as a man much higher odds of getting what you want out of the date (whether that’s a hookup or an LTR).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:56 AM
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They were active all over the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:10 AM
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Hey, don’t beat yourself up too much. We’ve all done stupid/awkward things on a date at some point. It’s all in the game!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:10 AM
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Trailer just dropped today!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:08 AM
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I think that once you’re in at least decent shape, there are diminishing returns on fitness. A guy going from decent shape to excellent shape may not notice that much of a change in circumstances. However, a guy who’s fat or skinnyfat who can get himself into decent shape will have a whole world of opportunities open up for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:41 AM
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Basically what u/MechaPinguino and u/Demasii said, plus lots of real world trial and error. Neurodivergent or not, practice is key!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:47 AM
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You shouldn't be asking people out on dates whose company you don’t enjoy regardless. If I do this and the girl turns out not to be into me, I’ve still enjoyed a fun outing with a friend (who can potentially be my introduction to lots of other women).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:56 PM
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Also reposting this from yesterday; I think a lot of guys might find it helpful. There’s a simple process I recommend to all guys (and honestly girls too) who think someone in their social orbit is into them, but don’t want to mess with the dynamic if they’re wrong/the other person gets cold feet. I call it “Schrodinger’s Date”. Invite her to do a “date” activity (getting drinks at a nice cocktail bar, having a picnic somewhere pretty, etc), but don’t call it a “date”. Your framing should be som…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:00 PM
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if the woman is listing off things she expects then it is fair game. In my experience, women don’t generally do this. “What does this woman bring to the table?” is a good question. But it’s one that you should be thinking about, not one you should ask, unless you’re okay with running off potential mates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:06 AM
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For example: I’m not looking for a serious relationship at the moment, but when the time comes I definitely want kids. If a woman doesn’t want kids, that’d be a dealbreaker for me, even if she was perfect otherwise. This is one of the positives of dating apps; people can avoid anyone who has one of their dealbreakers quickly and easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:37 PM
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You don’t have to ask so formally of course, but if I’m looking for something long-term, I want to filter out the people whose visions are incompatible with mine asap.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:24 PM
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I agree with your conclusion; men shouldn’t be asking that question. It’s needlessly confrontational and borderline accusatory. Furthermore the information the man is hoping to get can be acquired in the course of normal conversation: “What do you like to do?”, “What are your goals for the future?”, and the like. If you don’t like her answers or just aren’t feeling her overall, you can simply not go out with her again. No need to be rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:57 PM
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I think your main mistake here was not using plausible deniability to YOUR advantage. There’s a simple process I recommend to all guys (and honestly girls too) who think a girl in their social orbit is into them, but don’t want to mess with the dynamic if they’re wrong/the other person gets cold feet; I call it “Schrodinger’s Date”. 1) Invite them to do a “date” activity (getting drinks at a nice cocktail bar, having a picnic somewhere pretty, etc), but don’t call it a “date”. 2) Observe her rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:15 PM
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Indeed. If you’re a guy with a lot of disposable income, a few fancy dinners/pricey gifts are simply a business expense, not necessarily a demonstration of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:59 PM
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Barring how weird it would be to spend money on this, how would one even verify that you’re actually getting legit Sydney Sweeney bathwater?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:56 PM
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I mean, I would still have the messages on my phone, right? Seems like a pretty easy way to prove he’s lying. If I don’t have the messages for whatever reason, just let my PR team handle it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:55 PM
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Artists, musicians, and other creative types are affected by mental illness and substance abuse issues at a far higher rate than the general population. You’re right; all the sex in the world won’t save you if you’re not taking care of your body and mind. That being said, I don’t think having a fulfilling social/family life and being able to pull women easily are mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:57 PM
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There are plenty of women who will fuck a guy because he can spoil her with vacations, gifts, etc. That being said, you should avoid an explicit quid pro quo; it’s a bad look.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:47 PM
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Tyrone-in-Training!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:08 AM
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Every question along the lines of “Is X cheating?” comes down to the same thing: What are you okay with in your relationship? Some people would consider simply having lunch with an unrelated member of the opposite sex to be cheating. Other people are fine with their partner straight up screwing other people on the side. Where you want to draw the line is your call.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:40 PM
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I’m not super familiar with organ meats, but I’ve enjoyed sweetbread the few times I had it. Any specific dishes/preparations you recommend?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:26 PM
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I’m not sure why some people act like “I like being friends with this person” and “This person is physically attractive” are mutually exclusive statements. Some people are just objectively good-looking, and it would be delusional to act like they aren’t. I hope to join the ranks of such people myself in the next year or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:50 PM
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Why boil people down to just one part of their identity? I, for example, am a Black, autistic, Christian, college graduate who grew up in a large city. I have far more common experience with a woman who shares those traits than I do with a man who does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:47 PM
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What’s “boyfriend lite” stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:44 PM
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Gotta love my girl Tiana. Honorable mentions to Belle, Moana, and Leia.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:38 PM
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Why would you pay your female friend’s bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:33 PM
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The majority of my friends are women, and it’s been an incredible boon to both my social and love lives. Wild that more men haven’t figured this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:28 PM
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In serious, probably 8-9. I’m pretty good with dirty talk, I’m a fair amount bigger than most dudes, and a girl who described herself as “90% lesbian” said I was “suspiciously good” at going down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 12:02 AM
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10. Source: Your mom
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 11:20 PM
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I’m not sure if there’s a proper name for this, but I’ve been seeing a lot of people (men and women) engaging in what I’ve come to think of as the “Vulture” mating strategy. Essentially, they seek out people whose relationships are on the rocks, then sort of just hover around them and offer emotional support. A few days to a few weeks after the relationship actually does end, the vulture swoops in before anyone else has a chance to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 11:07 PM
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You should go for it! At worst you’ll have some good drinks and pleasant conversation; at best you might end up meeting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 10:31 PM
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There are a lot of great NA beers and wines nowadays. Most bars carry at least a few of them, so if you wanna go out and avoid the peer pressure, that's an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 06:36 PM
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You’re working out because you want to have a healthier life. I’m working out because I want other people to feel bad about themselves when I walk in the room. We are not the same 😤.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 07:55 PM
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I'm.. not sure what "moving like a single man" even means I’ve met a few people who say stuff like that; what it means can vary from person to person. It ranges from reasonable boundaries (i.e. not wanting their bf to entertain advances from women who approach him) to unhealthy controlling behavior (i.e. not wanting their boyfriend to ever be alone with any woman who isn’t related to them, regardless of the context).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:21 PM
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I have a friend who described her type as “bisexual guys who look like they’re on the brink of death”. Most of the guys know who fit that description do quite well with the ladies, so it definitely seems like there’s a market for it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:55 PM
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What are you impressed by?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:52 PM
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I think it’s pretty obvious, and most people (men and women) will tell you the same. Feeling attractive feels nice. To illustrate what I mean, let me recycle an old comment of mine. Imagine two friends, Arthur and Bill, are going out for drinks. Arthur and Bill are both very happily married, and neither has any intention of cheating on their wife. While they’re out, women are constantly coming up to Bill, telling him how hot he is, and trying to get his number (though Bill, being a happily marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:41 PM
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There’s a difference between going on Tinder and just being an attractive person in public. If the person you’re dating (regardless of gender) is good-looking, they’re going to get hit on a LOT. They’re going to get hit on in clubs, at school, at work, in shops, at the gym, at church, on vacation, and just randomly on the street. It’s inevitable. Now, if you discover that your person is entertaining any of these advances, it might be time to have a talk (and potentially walk away). But if they’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:34 PM
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If you want a lady who dresses modestly, you should ask out women who dress modestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:27 PM
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Is this an ex you miss, or an ex you’d rather avoid?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:21 PM
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Ignore. Nothing to be gained by engaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:02 AM
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Congratulations; hope it goes well!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 05:44 PM
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I’ve noticed that the women who are the loudest about disliking men are often bisexual girls with boyfriends. From what I’ve observed, many of them feel judged within the LGBT+ community for being able to “pass” as straight if they want to. As such, shit-talking men constantly makes them feel like they’re bolstering their queer credentials.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:51 PM
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I would hazard a guess that the majority of people posting on English language forums are either from the US or the UK. I imagine that if you were to go to a Spanish/French/Portuguese/Arabic/Mandarin Chinese forum, you could get a better idea of what the dating situation is like globally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:46 PM
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Sounds fun; hope it keeps going well!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:38 PM
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There are definitely a lot of fake stories on there, but sometimes truth can be stranger than fiction. People be nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:19 PM
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2, 3 max. I’d like a boy and a girl; no preference on the third if I have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:34 AM
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At least in the US, the field has become oversaturated at the entry/junior levels. Tech job market isn’t great if you don’t have some specialized skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:42 PM
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I think we can examine the role of social conditioning here. Women are encouraged to get into fashion and whatnot from a very young age (see the toys/media marketed to young girls) in a way that boys aren’t. As such, the idea of “looksmaxxing” just seems like normality to most women, while most men view it as a novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:47 PM
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Patriarchy tells men that it’s their manly duty to throw themselves into meat grinders (be they battlefields or shitty manual labor jobs) for the sake of people who don’t give a shit about them. It makes it so that we’re made to feel like less of “real men” if we talk about how this makes us feel. It pushes us towards dangerous coping mechanisms like substance abuse to cope with the pressure. How is any of that helpful for men? What and who makes that sociopolitical system? The 1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:47 AM
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I’m curious- what’s destroying your well-being right now? What makes you upset? What do you wish you could do that you can’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:58 AM
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I would have named it something different, but alas. The current system reduces us to provider machines and strongly discourages us from showing any vulnerability. Wouldn't you agree that those things are bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:05 AM
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Q4 people in/past their late 20s: I've got about 6 months left on my folks' health insurance; what medical examinations/treatments should I get in that time?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:03 AM
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Load up on meat, dairy, and healthy fats (nuts/nut butters, avocado, olive oil, etc). There are also some medications that stimulate appetite; you should ask your doctor about those if you're having trouble hitting 3500.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:56 AM
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Depends on the cologne/perfume, but usually that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:48 AM
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> complex social dynamics that have both advantages and disadvantages This is exactly what patriarchy is: Men are considered cold, stoic provider machines without real emotions, while women are considered fragile little porcelain dolls without real agency. It's why we're expected to pay for dates. It's why men frequently get little to no parental leave after their kids are born. It's why fathers have a harder time getting custody of children than mothers do. It's why we're discouraged from shari…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:45 AM
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I have several female friends I’ve hooked up with or had FWB situations with. I have female friends who I’ve asked out and they’ve declined for various reasons. I have female friends who have propositioned me and I wasn’t interested. No drama. No stress. Just adults being emotionally mature about a situation. At absolute worst, you give each other a couple of weeks of space, and then everything’s back to how it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:12 PM
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They walk a lot more than we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 04:58 PM
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As long as you’re emotionally prepared to accept “No” for an answer, there’s no reason to suffer in silence. Simply expressing interest if the other person seems like they might be receptive isn’t selfish at all; it’s human.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 04:55 PM
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Not necessarily over, but a distinct disadvantage. Soft, sensitive pretty boys are catnip for loads of girls I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:13 AM
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You ever try Halo Top?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:53 AM
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I’d argue that “dominance” is a combination of other factors: charisma, assertiveness, status, and physical stature. All four are attractive traits on their own; combine them, and it’s hard not to succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:51 AM
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This honestly depends a lot more on culture and socioeconomic background than it does gender. I’ll use an example from my own experience- I’ve noticed that women of different backgrounds tend to respond differently when you express interest in them but they don’t reciprocate: White woman: [HR speak] Asian woman: [Silent treatment] Black woman: “Boy, if you don’t get your goofy ass out my face 😂😂😂.” Women who come from cultures where not rocking the boat is highly emphasized are more prone to “wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:37 AM
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> ok did that actually happen? Nah- it's just a meme, like Ted Cruz being the Zodiac Killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:07 PM
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It boggles my mind that this issue is close to the top of literally anybody's priority list. Our social safety nets are being gutted, we're destroying our credibility on the international stage, prices are going up across the board, and the government is talking about suspending habeas corpus. But hey, at least some trans girl can't play badminton, and I think we can all agree that that's what really matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:01 PM
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The vast majority of my friends are women of a variety of races. I’ve actually complained a bit on this sub about needing more guy friends. It wasn’t always that way of course; until I got to high school I was terrified of people in general and women in particular. During the summer before college, I decided I was going to make a concerted effort to be more social- I read books on the matter written for both neurotypical and neurodivergent audiences. I made a point of trying to have conversation…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:32 AM
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The difference between “creepy weirdo” and “lovably eccentric doofus” is simply a matter of practice and presentation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:29 AM
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What brand?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:25 AM
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How would you define “masculine”?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:02 AM
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There are far more conservative men than conservative women, especially among the younger age brackets. As such, some conservative guys end up dating liberal gals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:15 AM
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Make friends with the gossipy alcoholic first; she already knows the others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:11 AM
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As a man, you should aim to have at least four female friends: One who goes to church/the local equivalent regularly. One who is gossipy, is constantly organizing brunches, and is lowkey an alcoholic. One who is constantly jumping from toxic situationship to toxic situationship. One who is mildly evil. Whatever sex/relationship issues you may be having, one of these girls will know exactly what to do (speaking from experience).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:50 PM
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For real. If I met a girl, and she was willing to leave her long-term boyfriend to get with me right away, I wouldn't trust her. Who's to say she won't do the same thing to me the second our relationship is anything less than smooth sailing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:19 PM
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I think dating apps (and the internet as a whole) may be the culprits here. A lot of the comedians you’re listening to probably have intimate experience with how rough dating apps can be for men- most guys struggle to get a even a handful of matches, while a privileged minority enjoy the lion’s share. These guys look online for advice and answers, and the RP rhetoric is right there waiting for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:37 AM
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I don’t think that the ideas are particularly new. The tropes of “ripped All-American jock who gets all the girls” and “tattooed, motorcycle riding bad boy who gets all the girls” have long been a part of the mainstream. The words they use to talk about those things are just a bit different now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:28 AM
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I’d have to take this one on a case by case basis. What exactly did Sally claim happened? Is she a person who seems to be prone to histrionics in general? What do I know about Jack? Have other people raised issues about him in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:14 PM
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Maybe she was interested. Maybe she just likes talking to people. Either way, if you think a girl you’re chatting with is cute, no harm in asking for her number.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:24 PM
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Have you been to a department store before? The XXL+ men’s stuff is usually on the same rack as the S-XL stuff. The women’s stuff is usually the same way; I’ve never seen a dedicated plus size women’s section at major department store. The women’s section is larger than the men’s section because they buy more clothes; that’s all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:30 PM
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There are. Why would you open a Kohl’s or Target somewhere like Mississippi and not sell plus size men’s clothes? The sections are just smaller because of smaller demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:15 PM
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Could a single father get the same benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:08 PM
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Men don't get "plus sized" clothes lol You’ve never seen a men’s big and tall store? But I digress. Women buy more clothes than men do, and the American populace is disproportionately obese, so it makes financial sense to sell a wide variety of plus size women’s clothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:07 PM
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“Those who can’t play, coach.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 05:55 PM
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A mixture. A few were so attractive that I thought it must be a prank. The majority were average to decent looking. The rest fell into the "thanks, but no thanks" category.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:29 PM
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Mildly extroverted (like me).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:02 PM
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Casual sex is very common; I imagine that pretty much anyone who has been to college or worked in a restaurant/bar knows this. Cheating? It certainly happens plenty across a wide range of demographics, but it’s tough to tell how common it actually is. Cheaters have a vested interest in covering their tracks, and they ESPECIALLY have a vested interest in making sure their social circle never sees said tracks. I do think that it’s a minority of people who do most of the cheating though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:09 PM
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I think you make some solid points. Imagine a middle-to-upper tier guy meets two different women; he finds both of them to be physically attractive and personally compatible. The only difference is that one is eager for sex after a couple dates, while the other wants to wait until they’re in a fully committed relationship. It’s unsurprising which one the guy will pick 90% of the time. Our losing gal in this example has a couple options: 1) Find a guy on the same page as her about sex (not too mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 08:00 PM
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If I’m still awake, sure. I love to cook. But also, I think that a big part of being in a relationship is being considerate of your partner’s time and needs. If I were the one getting back late, why would I disrupt my lady’s beauty rest to ask her to do something I could easily do myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 05:36 AM
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That seems like an odd ask. Why didn’t you stop and grab something on the way home? Why don’t you UberEats something? Why can’t you cook instead of waking me up in the middle of the night?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 05:27 AM
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No, it’s not incest. Does create an awkward situation for everyone though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 06:44 PM
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Something I say a lot here: Women aren’t a monolith. There are women who are completely fine with straight up grinding on dudes they have zero interest in, and women whose idea of being direct is standing vaguely near a guy and hoping he says something. To get an accurate idea of whether a woman is into you, you need to have an idea of her baseline behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 10:06 PM
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Obviously the more attractive guys would do better than the less attractive guys. But what are their exact success rates? How much are those success rates affected by demographic factors? Does the location of the approach matter, and if so, how much? Are there certain types of women who are more open to being cold approached than others?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:36 PM
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I would love to see a scientific study on cold approaching. Take a randomly selected group of 21-35 year old men and give each of them an attractiveness score determined by a randomly selected panel of 21-35 year old women. Each man in the study would be paid to cold approach 100 women over the course of the next 1-2 months and document each attempt. I realize that this would be difficult- you would need a pretty large sample size to account for income, ethnicity, and other demographic factors- …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:22 PM
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Yeah- in my experience, there are only a couple ways for a woman who isn’t initially attracted to you to become attracted to you: 1) Your circumstances change radically (i.e. you get into incredibly good shape, come into a lot of money/status, etc). Or 2) She notices that you’re getting a lot of attention from other women in her social orbit (oftentimes as a result of the above). Even if both of these things are true, it’s hard to turn a “Hell no!” into a “Hell yeah!”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:41 PM
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I think that this is partially true, but it’s not necessarily about politics. A lot of conservative women are looking for traditionally-minded men with stereotypically masculine traits. Conservative men likely feel much more pressure to conform to this mold than liberal men do. That’s not to say that there’s any shortage of traditionally masculine men on the left, but a lot of these guys either don’t want to date conservatives, or are ethnic minorities (whom conservative women are often reluctan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 07:41 PM
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I am happy to engage in chivalry. Stranger, acquaintance, friend, or potential romantic interest, I always open car doors, follow the sidewalk rule, the whole nine yards. It seems to make women feel good about themselves, especially when they’re older or not conventionally attractive. If I can put a smile on someone’s face, I consider that a successful day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 07:34 AM
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I mean, women do get kidnapped and sex trafficked. Not often, and not in such fantastical ways usually, but it happens. Carry mace if it’s legal, keep an eye on your drink, and walk home/to your cab with friends if it’s dark and you’re in a sketchy area. The Salt Lake story probably isn’t real, but something like that has happened somewhere at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:52 PM
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I need to make more guy friends. I've been curious about giving nightlife as a method of meeting women another shot, but all my potential wingmen are either living in other cities, not into going out, or don't have the right temperament for wingman duties (they scare the hoes or they are scared of the hoes). On the flipside, when I go out with my female friends, a lot of people assume I'm either gay or dating one of them. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:46 PM
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There are different ways to be attractive. A lot of girls actually go crazy over the Mr. Darcy type.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:37 PM
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When I said "stories like it" I meant with the same central theme (Though sometimes truth can be stranger than fiction. I've got a few sexual/romantic situations I've ended up in that I would probably think were tall tales if I hadn't lived through them). If we were to evaluate this story as a piece of fiction, the emotional core of it is that OP's wife was sleeping with another guy *during* the talking phase, while OP remained celibate. The story plays on the protagonist's fears of inadequacy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:32 PM
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This may or may not be a made up story, but there’s certainly stories like it out there. There are plenty of women right here on this sub who have talked about making guys that they’re serious about wait while engaging in casual relationships with random dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:53 PM
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Provided I'm getting a solid cut of that, it's whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:17 AM
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If you go to the dating advice or relationship advice subs, there’s plenty of women trying to figure out issues. That being said, I think that this is something women generally prefer to talk about with their friends and family irl. Most of my friends are women, and they often consult me for a man’s perspective on situations they encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:24 PM
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Well, yes. Attractive-Unattractive and Nice-Asshole are measured on two completely different scales. When people say “Women only go for assholes”, they ignore the fact that plenty of decent men are also very attractive, and that plenty of assholes are very unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:16 PM
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People are allowed to prefer whatever they want for whatever reasons they want. You shouldn’t date anyone you don’t want to date, regardless of your reasoning. I imagine that most bisexual dudes wouldn’t want to date someone who found their sexuality troubling. That being said, there are numerous preferences that come from somewhat icky places- speaking as a Black guy, I’ve dealt with this on both ends (girls who didn’t like me because of outdated racial attitudes, and girls who liked me a bit t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:43 PM
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When can we talk about women choosing the assholes and the badboys? I’ve been thinking about this a bit; let’s try something. Imagine the following men: Adam: Cocky, confident, rides a motorcycle Occasionally engages in petty crime (shoplifting, minor vandalism, etc) and sells weed on the side. Loads of tattoos. Brian: Shy, meek, afraid of confrontation. Tried not to leave his house when he can avoid it. Spends his free time arguing in favor of eugenics and race science on Twitter. Chris: Arroga…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:51 AM
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Maryland’s governor is rolling out a set of policies designed to better support the state’s men and boys. I think this is a really cool initiative; would love to see more states follow suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:38 AM
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I mean, the women aren’t knockouts, but I’d wager that if you picked a random sample of 100 women in the 20-30 age range, they’d be in the upper third of the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:27 AM
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I have too, but that’s a minority of cases. Most women will let their options come to them rather than actively seeking them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:40 PM
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Well, therein lies the issue. The qualities that lead the tattooed criminal to approach women (confidence and assertiveness) are also the qualities that in themselves are attractive to women. If the shy nerd can acquire the confidence needed to approach women consistently, he’ll do just as well as our hypothetical criminal, if not better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:57 PM
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Women don’t approach men in general, so it’s a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:51 PM
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How many women do you think the tattooed offender guy approaches per week? What about the shy nerd?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:25 PM
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See here. This is just law enforcement, and doesn’t even include the killings by wannabe vigilantes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:21 PM
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I had a strain in one calf and just found out I have a muscle tear in the other. The universe doesn’t want me doing leg day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:18 PM
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Any predictions on who dies this season?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:17 PM
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The line should be that we all treat each other well. Anything beyond that is personal. I agree, but we don’t live in Shouldistan, we live in the United States of America. It’s not fair, but them’s the brakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:12 PM
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Very much so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:22 PM
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Yeah- speaking as a Black man specifically, I always have to be conscious of how I am perceived in both public spaces and interpersonal interactions. Making other people in general and women in particular feel comfortable isn’t just a matter of courtesy; in some situations it can be the difference between life and and death.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:49 PM
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Huh- what part of the world do you live in? I once skimmed an escort page for my city out of morbid curiosity, and I didn’t see any girl you would actually want to have sex with charging less than $300.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:40 PM
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Breaking: People more likely to engage in risky behaviors when it comes to attractive people. More at 9. You see this with men too. Men will put up with all sorts of red flags and psycho behavior from women if said woman is hot enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:35 PM
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Arguments aside, $30? Is that really the going rate?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:32 PM
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What’s wrong with that? I’ve had FWB situations where we were actually friends, and they were almost universally better experiences than the FWB situations where it was purely sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:41 PM
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In general, Americans are a lot more prudish about nudity than folks in a lot of other places. There are loads of cultures around the world where women walking around topless wasn't (and in some cases still isn't) considered controversial at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:40 AM
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A college acquaintance of mine is in town for a work trip; we ran into each other at a coffee shop near my apartment. We caught up for a bit, and she mentioned that she always had a huge crush on me back in the day. She unfortunately has a boyfriend now, so there's not much I can do with that intel, but this got me thinking- just how many girls have I missed signals from? How many were into me, but too nervous to do anything about it? How many friends, acquaintances, classmates, colleagues, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:35 AM
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the Executive Emotional Council (EEC), which is just me and a pint. This cracked me up. GOATed comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:42 PM
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Okay, let’s go with that line of argument. Let’s imagine someone is bi; would having a close friendship with any average-to-attractive person be impossible for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:57 PM
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So it sounds like your opinion is “People cannot be platonic friends with people they could potentially become attracted to”. Is that accurate?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:52 PM
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Old Horror managed to sire just as many offspring as the seven upright children put together. What an Alpha!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:44 PM
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Question I always ask when this comes up: Can gay men be friends with other gay men? Can lesbians be friends with other lesbians? And can bisexual people have friends at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:42 PM
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Where anti-interventionist voices were completely ignored and downplayed as literal Russian spies? As they should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:57 PM
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Christina Hendricks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:56 PM
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We’ve gutted our international aid programs, giving others (most likely China) the opportunity to step in and fill the gap, thus increasing their influence at the expense of our own. They were already doing this in many places (i.e. Africa), but it’s about to get kicked up to eleven. As for Ukraine specifically, ending the war isn’t particularly helpful for US interests. Giving Putin everything he wants while extorting our supposed friends shows our other regional allies that we cannot be depend…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:45 PM
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I was actually an international relations major. It’s great to see other people learning about the field! (Though a bit disheartening to see so many people willfully misunderstanding it).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:33 PM
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But at least the libs are triggered, and at I think we can all agree that that’s what’s really important.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:16 PM
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Me when I alienate my allies and blow up my global hegemony because I’m bored 😎. Sigma moves only.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:13 PM
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I think you hit on something really important here. If a woman is known to sleep around a lot, her company going to be highly sought after, especially if she’s genuinely attractive. As such, a promiscuous woman will often have her pick of the litter for flings and FWB arrangements. Why wouldn’t she choose the most attractive guys available to her? On the flipside, a woman who won’t put out until she’s committed has to wait to find a guy who’s willing to abide by her timeline. This is why you see…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:26 PM
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But at least some trans girl isn’t allowed to play badminton anymore, and I think we can all agree that that’s what really matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:48 AM
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An attractive woman is always going to be attractive, but certain types/styles of clothing can make her even more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 08:03 PM
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Try a new tv show? I recommend Yellowjackets (if you like scary stuff) or Severance (if you don’t).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:38 PM
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I respect it. I'm very pro-transparency. Some people think they're being polite by not being up front about what they want, but that sort of attitude tends to cause a lot more problems than it solves. Yeah. Nobody wants to date anyone who doesn't value them/their time, and lots of women want a man who's willing to provide. Sure. I'm fine with paying for dates. Generally though, I try not to invest too heavily in women who haven't shown investment back. Until I see that investment, happy hours, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:37 PM
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Will the other deer attack you if you do it from that close up?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:09 PM
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Not necessarily the case. Sometimes you'll see women who are willing to make out with (or do even more with) guys they met all of five minutes ago, but most of the time building attraction is a distance race, not a sprint.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:04 PM
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DOGE (Department of Grimes Evasion)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:51 PM
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I actually do think there’s some truth to this. If you’re only willing to get with the best, you’ve gotta become your best self. When you do that, your dating fortunes are sure to increase.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 08:03 PM
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And what about prioritizing one’s own needs necessitates treating others badly?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:40 AM
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I think there’s a false dichotomy between being nice and being successful with women. No, being nice on its own is not going to have the ladies chasing after you. Being fit, successful, funny, charismatic, and assertive will bring the ladies in; we can easily observe this. However, if a man is fit, successful, funny, charismatic, and assertive, why would him treating others well detract from the aforementioned qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:50 AM
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Let’s flip this around for a moment (bear with me; I’ll explain why this is relevant in a second)- what are some examples of positive feminine traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:37 PM
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That certainly does happen. I was mostly thinking of situations I’ve personally observed- when a woman cheated, the guy almost never took her back even if she wanted another chance. When a man cheated, the woman often stayed for quite some time afterwards (or even married him).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:35 PM
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That’s a big reason too; didn’t mean to imply otherwise. I was mostly thinking of the women who are actively choosing to stay; not the women who want to leave but fear that doing so would put them/their children in danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:37 AM
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I’ve seen examples of all four of the above in the bad relationships my female friends have ended up in. When women get stuck in such relationships, it’s usually one or more of these factors keeping them there: Wishful thinking (“I can change him!/He promised he’d never do it again!”) Sunk cost fallacy (“I’ve invested so much materially/emotionally into this relationship that I feel like I have to make things work.”) Coming from an environment where bad behavior is normalized (“That’s just how m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:13 AM
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Not Red Pill, but I think there are three primary barometers you can use: What kind of people does he spend his time with? How does he treat people who he isn't trying to impress? How does he react to things not going his way? Some abusive dudes are snakes in the grass who can successfully pass all three of these tests unnoticed, but you'll be able to filter out most of the bad guys by getting a good grasp on these questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:52 AM
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A lot of folks here saying that nurses are a green flag; clearly y'all have never dated nurses. I would recommend being careful with doctors too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:49 AM
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You attempting to strawman what he said into what you want it to say - "aww shucks lady I jus weally weally thought you might enjoy what I have to offer 🥺👉👈" - is a framing I've consistently rejected. Well, we’ll have to agree to disagree on that front. “Delusional” in the colloquial sense and “delusional” in the literal sense are two very different things. You know what kind of fruit someone is by appearance, and the default is not being interested in other people. I didn’t say they’re obligate…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:58 PM
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Now make the woman straight. Why is the judgement different? Why can't he just not be her cup of tea? Why does she need to be this delusional bitch who just doesn't know what she's missing out on? You’re putting a lot of words in my mouth. You can simultaneously think “Anyone can reject me for any reason, and that does not reflect on their moral character at all” and also “I’ve got lots to offer, and the people who can see that are the lucky ones.” Someone merely being interested in you in no wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:33 PM
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I got hit as a child, and it didn’t really make me behave better; it just made me sneakier and better at lying. Ruling through fear may get you some short-term progress, but ruling through respect is much better for the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:22 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:20 PM
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Any of y’all been seeing the Montoya/Anita saga on social media? This shit is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:17 PM
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Women's people pleasing is often a defense mechanism; there are lots of shitty dudes out there, and it can often be hard to tell which ones they are. Now, in an established friendship or relationship with a person they know and like, this sort of behavior can often cause unnecessary issues (i.e. Alex doesn't let Sam know that something is bothering her because she thinks it's polite not to stir the pot, so Sam never takes any steps to address it. This leads to Alex growing more resentful, and wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:44 PM
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Something I often remind people: If you can get a hit against a major league pitcher 3 times out of 10, you're an exceptionally talented hitter. In the same way, even the hottest, smoothest dudes you know are probably striking out more than they succeed. No need to approach 200 girls a day; just approach any woman you would like to who also is giving you indicators of interest (eye contact, smiling, open body language, etc). If it's clear she's not feeling it, just apologize for interrupting her…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:16 PM
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I feel like the statement "I know I'm a catch, and if someone can't see that, sucks to be them," is a pretty healthy way of thinking for both men and women. I also feel like "His/her loss" and "he's/she's delusional" are both ways of communicating that sentiment, even if one is unnecessarily harsh. Plenty of people will reject you out of hand or take you for granted without even bothering to find out what kind of fruit you are. While them doing that is out of your control, walking away with your…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:11 PM
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I think what he means is that for a guy, it's best to respond to rejection by thinking "Eh, her loss- onto the next!" to yourself. There's no requirement for the woman to do anything; it's just better for the man long-term to walk away hyping himself up instead of getting in his feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:57 PM
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Kamala wasn’t going to bring back the 2017 tax cuts (which Trump is doing). Kamala wasn’t going to get rude of CFPB (which Trump is also doing). Kamala wasn’t going to get rid of Medicaid (which Trump is doing). What else did you want the Democrats to do, given that they barely had working majorities most of the time? foreign countries Foreign aid barely registers as a drop in the bucket in the overall budget, and even if we ceased all of it, do you really think those savings are going to trickl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 12:55 PM
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> they add low value males to their list of protected classes. They actually are on the list. There's lots of programs that the Democrats have created/tried to create to provide support for men who are poor, men with physical or mental disabilities, and men in other unenviable circumstances. Every time the Republicans take power, they do everything they can to gut these programs. I'm personally a beneficiary of the gutting of such programs, since it means my (quite well-off) family and I get tax…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:55 AM
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This is pretty common in psychology. A person may proclaim their hatred for Group X, but when you point out that a friend/associate/lover of theirs is a member of Group X, the person will just say that their friend/lover/associate is "one of the good ones".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:25 AM
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> why do men fetishize weird stuff? Because their brain developed in a way such that some extra stuff (feet, piss, etc) got tangled up with the part of the brain that drives arousal for "normal" things (boobs, butts, etc). Other fetishes are more nurture than nature; you have to look at those on a case-by-case basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:06 AM
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I guarantee you, the girl working at the store does not get paid enough to care that you’re returning something. If you really feel the need to save face, just say it didn’t fit right, or you realized it wasn’t working with the rest of your wardrobe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:12 AM
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A guy not having friends at all isn’t necessarily a red flag, but it often is. You’d have to evaluate that fact in the context of the guy’s personality and life circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:42 PM
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My usual advice (and this goes for guys evaluating women too) is to ask yourself: Who does he spend his time with? How does he treat the people around him (particularly those who can’t do anything for him)? How does he react to conflicts/things not going his way? Yeah, some bad guys are extremely good at concealing their true selves, but you can filter most of them out when you have a good grasp on the above three questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:21 PM
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most of my "chad" friends had mid/unattractive FWB and attractive girlfriends, it was kinda crazy. Yeah. When you’re looking for a FWB, it’s much easier to pull a mid woman who is hungry for validation than it is to pull an attractive woman who has no need for such validation (and can get a much better deal than most college guys can offer them).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:12 PM
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I think the reason some people bear this sentiment (which I disagree with btw) is that “Chads” who are also LTR-minded, kind, respectful, and loyal are swiftly snatched off the market by enterprising Stacies. As such, they aren’t usually a part of the dating pool, and when they are, they aren’t there for long. Meanwhile, the less ethical Chads out there are making much more of an impression on the dating scene, since they tend to date around a lot more and expose more people to their bad behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:57 PM
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Speaking as a well-traveled American, you’re going to be fine most places. You may get a snide comment or two from the errant European, but if you brush up on some history, you can throw anything they say about imperialism and the like right back in their faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:18 AM
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You’d be surprised. There’s a LOT of dudes on this board that will call objectively attractive women “mid”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:20 PM
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It’s an government agency that distributes funding for various projects in (mostly) developing countries. Also the Republican Party’s newest boogeyman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:09 PM
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Dismantling all our soft power and alienating all our allies because we’re bored 😎. Sigma moves only.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:05 PM
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I would amend my previous statement to replace “sex” with “intimacy” (which can come in many forms; sex is just one of them). Humans need to feel close to others; there’s a reason solitary confinement is so destructive to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:02 PM
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What the bathroom hardliners don’t realize is that the effect of the laws would primarily be having cis women who are very tall, are unusually muscular, choose not to shave their body hair, and/or have more angular facial features get harassed for no reason. In fact, it’s already happening
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:52 PM
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I think that while sex itself isn’t a need, intimacy- feeling close to others- is. There’s a reason solitary confinement is so destructive to the human psyche.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:43 PM
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I think Maslow’s hierarchy is relevant here. Water and sex are both needs, but some needs are more necessary than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:00 AM
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Well, 6/10 dudes date, hook up, and get married all the time. Go outside and look around if you don’t believe me. They’re doing so with 4s and 5s and 6s and maybe the occasional 7 if they’re lucky. The difference between a 6/10 guy who pulls and a 6/10 guy who does not comes down to the personality traits I talked about: confidence, assertiveness, charisma, humor. If he lacks those qualities, not even the 4-7 chicks are going to want to hang out with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:39 PM
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Well, why don’t we see more 6/10 dudes with hot fitness influencers then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:34 PM
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When asked to choose the best mate for daughters, both daughters (68.7%) and their parents (63.3%) chose the more attractive man as the best long-term dating partner for daughters, regardless of his ascribed traits It’s interesting that the traits they chose for this experiment were “ambitious and intelligent” vs “disorganized and physically fit”. In terms of dating, I wouldn’t describe ambition and intelligence as inherently good- I would never want my daughter to date the majority of politicia…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:31 PM
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Let us imagine Kyle, an average office worker making a decent but not spectacular income. He’s got a decently attractive face and is in decent shape. A 6/10 all around. Imagine Kyle asks the following two women out: A) An okay-looking, working-class chick from his apartment building. B) A megahot fitness influencer he sees while running on a local trail one day. Do you think both of them will give him the same answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 05:53 PM
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I've tried initiating before (I wouldn't say "approach" because I already knew the dudes), and it's always ended in rejection, even when I was just after sex 😂 Imagine how us guys feel then. Rejection’s not so bad once you get used to it; you just learn to not take it personally and move onto the next.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:47 PM
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We all have things that would probably be good for us that we don’t do because of anxiety and/or social norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:31 PM
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An exercise that I’ve found helpful on this front is attempting to meet 100 strangers. The rules of the challenge are: You have to start a conversation with a person with no direct connection to you (so friends of friends/new work colleagues don’t count). The conversation has to last for at least 10 minutes. The conversation must go beyond the surface level. Doesn’t matter if they’re men or women, young or old, hot or ugly- just make sure that after each one, you take a moment to reflect on what…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:25 PM
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Because whoever approaches puts themselves in the more emotionally vulnerable position. Why give up your power if societal convention generally dictates that you don’t have to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:19 PM
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Yes and no. Being introverted isn’t inherently unnattractive to women- a lot of gals swoon over the Mr. Darcy archetype. However, an extroverted guy is going to have a much easier time meeting women, and therefore get a lot more dates than the introverted guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:07 PM
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Women get the ick incredibly easily. If Chad pulls up to the date and acts in an off-putting way, he’s not likely to have much success.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:04 PM
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I said “no shortage of women willing to date him”. I didn’t say “no shortage of 10/10 bombshells willing to date him”. You still gotta work within your price range.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:01 PM
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“Meek, passive, awkward, humorless” and “scared” are functionally the same, at least as far as dating goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:27 AM
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Measured by who? Would love to see data on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:39 AM
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How are they gonna choose passive Chad? Passive Chad is scared of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:39 AM
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I've said this before, but when people say "personality is just as important as looks", they're absolutely right. It's just that the personality traits required to get laid and the personality traits required to be a good person are not necessarily the same. A man who is confident, assertive, funny, and charismatic will find no shortage of woman willing to date him, regardless of how he treats others. A man who is awkward, meek, passive, and humorless will have very little success with women, re…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:25 AM
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Loads of people who didn’t go to prestigious schools have gone on to do incredible things. And if you’re really that sore about it, you can work as hard as you can to get good grades and then transfer somewhere with a bigger name.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:36 PM
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A lot of folks (men and women) get addicted to the emotional rollercoaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:34 PM
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I don’t mind paying for dates. I view it as similar to buying a raffle ticket. Maybe I’ll win something, but also I might not. If the ticket costs too much or I don’t think the prize is worth it, I simply won’t buy a ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:42 AM
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I always advise my fellow men to pay for dates (chivalry is still a crowd-pleaser), but I also advise them not to invest too much in girls who haven’t shown some investment back (this investment can be sex, but it can also be things like cooking you a meal, paying for a date herself, etc). Until you see that investment from her, happy hours, picnics, and free/low-cost museums/galleries are your best friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:35 AM
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People who reach a certain level of wealth often get fixated on the things their money can’t buy; this is why you see so many celebrities who seem to have it made crashing out over random bullshit. Drake wanted to be fully embraced by the culture. But no matter how much money he throws at his lawyers, he cannot change the fact that people are in the clubs every weekend singing along to Kendrick calling him a colonizer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:59 AM
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That’s why I used 7 and not a lower number. There’s a point at which personality can’t make up for a deficiency in the looks department.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:47 AM
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I saw a tweet that said Drake lost this beef harder than any rapper has ever lost a beef, and that includes the ones who got murdered 😂. Next time you’re having a bad day, just remember it could be worse (your opps could be getting multiple awards for their song about how you’re a pedophile).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:46 AM
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I mean, sometimes it does. A 7 who’s fun to talk to is much more attractive in my book than a 9 with the personality of drywall.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:41 AM
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I mean, you don’t (usually) get to be President without being a charming motherfucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:34 AM
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Q4A: Who do you consider to be a 10/10 attractiveness wise?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:54 AM
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I think a lot of folks (men and women) get validation from the idea that they're so special that they can swipe someone else's guy/girl with ease. It's a power trip.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:38 AM
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I honestly don't think I've ever discussed my n-count with any woman I've dated. Never felt inclined to ask for theirs either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:34 AM
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Men who fuck around a lot are significantly more likely to have qualities that make women want to be with them (tall, fit, funny, charismatic, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:23 AM
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To quote the Weeknd: "If you ain't my n****, then your girl single to me." Though I will say, that phenomenon isn't exclusive to guys. Most men will tell you that they get a lot more attention from women when they're taken than when they're single.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:21 AM
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Q4W: When thinking of the men you’ve dated, were you usually attracted to them first, or were they usually not on your radar until they expressed interest in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:40 AM
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In the 1k to 2K range maybe? I’ve spent the past 7 years of my life in the central area of a big city, and spend a lot of time out and about, so that’s a lot of potential exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:23 AM
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“…..” On a serious note, this is actually true to a degree. If you look at the types of dudes a lot of women thirst over, they’re just as likely to be a slightly effeminate pretty boy as they are a hulking bodybuilder (see Timothee Chalamet, assorted K-Pop dudes, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:43 PM
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It’s honest. No matter who you are, there will always be some model/athlete/celebrity who is more conventionally attractive than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:42 AM
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My favorite FWB broke up with me (as much as the term “broke up” is applicable in these sorts of situations), and I’m not feeling great. I know rationally I shouldn’t feel sad about it (a long-term situation between us wouldn’t have worked out for a number of reasons), and yet I still feel sad. I think a part of it is that I let her get closer than one should reasonably let an FWB get. We had our little in-jokes, and spoke about our lives using metaphors from the shows we watched together. She h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:39 AM
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Prime Minister of France met his wife a similar way (except grosser, because he was one of her secondary school students when they started their relationship).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:24 AM
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I followed a bunch of girls from random college classes/clubs/events. If any girl I date wants to hyperfixate on them, she’s more than welcome to, but I don’t talk to 90% of these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:14 AM
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As many others have said, men are far more likely to resort to violence in the face of real or perceived slights. There are both biological and cultural reasons for this. A corollary to this is that men are oftentimes bad at expressing their emotions in a healthy way. This is mostly a cultural problem- many societies promote the idea that “real men” don’t need support from anyone, when this is very much not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:45 AM
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5’10
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:46 PM
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Decent looking, but not notably so. 60th percentile-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:51 PM
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They're voting for Republicans because the Republicans were able to take control of the information environment. They then used this control to summon a bunch of boogeymen (trans people, critical race theory, mass murdering migrants, etc) to distract people from the things that are actually causing their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:34 AM
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This is true; I’ve seen my female friends shoot down guys for reasons like “his laugh bothers me” or “he ordered a girly drink”. However, something I’ve noticed is that once you’ve got a woman emotionally invested, this dynamic almost completely flips on its head. The level of fuckery I’ve seen dudes (most of whom were not “Chad”) get away with once they had a girl on the hook is astounding. A good friend of mine’s ex was verbally abusive, cheated on her constantly and openly, and even gave her …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:11 AM
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I've had several female friends "wingwoman" for me in various ways. However, some reasons a woman might not be winging for you: - She doesn't know what to do. Women are usually the passive ones in the human mating dance, so thinking of ways to actively help their male friends in their pursuits doesn't come naturally to them. This can be remedied by giving them specific instructions about how they can help; every time I've done this, they've been happy to do their part. - She doesn't think you'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:11 AM
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Shit- get well soon!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:57 PM
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I'd have to disagree from my own experience. Most of my close friends are women (many of whom have partners), and I'll often ask them for advice about other girls and act like someone who is only interested in platonic friendship (because I am). I've actually lost friendships in the past because I misread signs and thought a girl was interested in being more than friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:51 PM
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Also, most women I've met love being friends with gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:42 PM
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What would you like to learn about? And have you seen a doctor about your sleep issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:59 PM
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Eh- let him give it to her. Coddling the kid from any situation that might hurt his feelings isn’t going to help him. I would sit down with him and make sure he knows how to conduct himself if this doesn’t go over well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:57 PM
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What don’t you like about your life? What’s in the way of changing those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:53 PM
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My parents did occasionally; don’t think it was all that helpful. I think the primary effect was making me better at hiding things and improvising lies on the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 01:20 PM
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Fan fics would honestly be a plus (I love writing myself), provided she’s writing actual stories and not fetish content. Creating fetish content (assuming I’m not into whatever her thing is) probably would be a hard pass. Same goes for wannabe social media influencers- I don’t want every second of my life recorded. On the whole though, I think it’s more a matter of compatibility than the hobbies themselves. I enjoy a Disney movie, and could live with a Disney adult. If a woman were super preoccu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:54 AM
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No. I feel like everybody has at least one semi-cringy hobby/interest, and as semi-cringy hobbies/interests go, being a Disney adult is pretty low on the totem pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:34 AM
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No issue with it. As long as it's not affecting our sex life, I'm happy with a "don't ask, don't tell" policy on porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:38 AM
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Highly agree with this post. While it’s hard to figure out someone’s dating issues from the other side of a screen, a piece of advice that almost universally helps is “go outside”. Join rec sports leagues. Go to religious services if you’re religious. Instead of watching the big game at home, go to your local sports bar and look for folks wearing the same colors. Got a hobby? There’s probably a meetup group for it. The more people you know, the more likely it is that one of them will be the pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:07 PM
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Good thing I’m single then 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:26 PM
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I don’t necessarily get the appeal of strip clubs, but I kinda want to check one out just to satisfy my curiosity. Not just any strip club though- I wanna go to one of the fancy ones where athletes and politicians and foreign businessmen hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:19 PM
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but I've noticed modern hollywood now only mentions the red pill when they want a comic relief or stereotype character. I find that somewhat interesting. I get what you’re saying, but I also think media in general is more of a mixed bag than you think. Even in movies where the shy nerd ends up with the popular girl, the popular girl ends up going for the shy nerd because she saw evidence of his strength (i.e. successfully standing up to a bully in more grounded works, or saving the city with his…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:58 AM
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I’d actually argue that there are certain benefits to being a good person: FWBs who leave with a positive impression of you will oftentimes recommend you to their friends (assuming you’re decent at sex). People liking you will make them want to hang out with you more and invite you to more things, increasing the pool of people you have access to. Actually being friends with the people you sleep with is nice, and the quality of sex is generally better. Sure, you can certainly get more hookups by …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 09:36 PM
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I actually do think that everyone needs a religion of some sort; it’s just that not every religion needs to have supernatural aspects to it. How do we define what is good? What’s bad? What should we aspire to? What’s your place in your society, in your world? You don’t need to believe in anything supernatural to have a framework you believe in and can use to answer these questions. To give a real life example, I’d argue that a lot of hardcore Marxists are more religious than most of the believer…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 09:21 PM
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Are their personalities good for attracting women? Yeah. Are their personalities good for running a country/staying out of prison/contributing positively to society? No. Different personality traits are good in different situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:01 PM
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Only one commented on it; I told her before because she was 6’1. She thought it was funny. I’ve done alright for myself on the apps- the girls I’ve gotten with off of them either didn’t notice or liked me enough that they were willing to overlook it. Perhaps some of my unsuccessful dates noticed, but I’ve got no way of knowing if that was their issue or if something else was.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:59 PM
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Are confidence, assertiveness, good humor, and charisma not personality traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:54 PM
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When I showed my dating profile to my female friends, they all agreed I should list myself as 6’0 instead of 5’10 (and change). Their logic was that if I put my actual height in my profile, a lot of women would assume I was 5’8 and swipe left on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:50 PM
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Personality is the MOST relevant thing, mon ami. It’s just that the personality traits that make you a good person and the personality traits that make you an attractive person aren’t always the same. A man who is passive, meek, and awkward will always do poorly with women, regardless of whether he treats people well or not. Meanwhile, a man who is assertive, confident, funny, and charismatic will do great with women, regardless of whether he treats people well or not. A person saying “assholes …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:45 PM
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Something I’ve noticed recently: Some women will say they will only accept certain qualities in a man (i.e. 6 feet or taller, six-figure salary, etc). However, when you look at the men they actually end up dating, they are…not quite what she sayd she was looking for. I have one friend who will go on and on about her high standards, and then pull up to the function with the brokest, bummiest, most 5’8 dudes you’ve seen in your entire life. She will defend them to death when you point out that she…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:39 PM
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You misunderstand. Women aren’t attracted to shitty personalities; they’re attracted to certain traits that some shitty guys have (confidence, assertiveness, rebelliousness, etc). Note that none of those qualities are things a good person can’t also have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:34 PM
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In my experience, most women don't actually know what 6 feet looks like. Estimating the height of things that are taller than you is difficult. I'm 5'10 and change, but just say I'm 6 foot on dating apps, and I've never had a girl comment on it (I was told by my female friends to do this so that girls don't assume I'm 5'8). Either they don't notice or I'm charming enough that they choose not to notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:12 AM
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It can be done well or poorly, but I think it’s fun when it’s done well. A lot of the most vocal anti-dyed hair folks are right wingers who associate it with liberal and/or feminist views; I think that’s the main reason some people bash it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:41 PM
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Whatcha reading?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:59 PM
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Some of my more memorable ones (all different people): I accidentally ate an edible brownie right before because I thought the date was the next day (it was not). She insisted I take her to this restaurant that wasn’t particularly close to where either of us lived, and was being super forward/affectionate while we were there. Turns out her ex was the bartender at that restaurant, and she wanted to make him angry. I asked a friend of a friend if she wanted to grab lunch because our mutual friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:40 PM
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We love an economical king! Why pay $15 for a cocktail at a restaurant when you can BYOB (bring your own bourbon) instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:29 PM
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Interesting; I'll have to look at that article in more detail later. My initial response would be that I'd wager that the majority of the single women who don't have casual sex don't have it because they don't want to (which makes sense; casual sex is riskier for the ladies, a lot of guys aren't very good at it anyway, and promiscuity is looked upon more harshly for women than it is for men). Of the single men who aren't having casual sex, I imagine that most aren't having it because they have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:34 PM
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I think it’s pretty clear that a minority of guys are having the majority of casual sex (and I’m speaking as a guy in that minority). While this does add up to a good number of guys getting laid, this group is vastly outnumbered by the guys who are able but not willing to have casual sex (dudes who prefer LTRs or are saving themselves for marriage), guys who are willing but not able (guys whose personalities aren’t enough to make up for their lack of physical attractiveness), and guys who are ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:23 AM
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There are some combinations of eye/hair/skin color I find really attractive, but I don’t really have a preference for eye color alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:22 PM
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About how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:19 PM
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The thing I’ve noticed about radfem misandrist types is that they’re more upset with men as a concept than they are with men themselves. An FWB of mine complains about men all the time and self-identifies as a radical feminist, but will drop a “well you’re different” whenever she does it around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:19 PM
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While there are certain majors that I would only recommend if you’re thinking of going into academia and/or are rich enough to not need a real job, communications isn’t one of them. There’s lots of things you can do with a comms degree, especially if you went to a reputable school.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:56 PM
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I’d argue that there is no such thing as “useless” degrees; there are only useless people: If your goal is to go to law school, you’re better off picking a reading-heavy major like history or philosophy than you would be with something like engineering. Furthermore, if you’re interested in a career that requires extensive networking or volunteer work (such as politics/government), you’ll want a major that doesn’t require to spend too much time working on problem sets in the library (such as poli…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:52 PM
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Agreed. Unless the strip club you’re at is doing something very illegal (which to be fair, I imagine that a solid percentage of them are), you’re just paying to blue ball yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:15 AM
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Predators often look to take advantage of those who are least capable of fighting back. Shit is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:29 PM
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I think that’s normal. Just as many women would get turned on from their partner showering them with fancy gifts/experiences, many men would get turned on from coming home to find their girl in a sexy outfit ready to serve them their favorite foods for dinner. Everyone likes to be treated like royalty now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 02:44 AM
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He was also a right winger, in addition to not being attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:36 AM
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There’s no one answer to this, I’m afraid. Every woman is different- some women will flirt with anything that moves, even if they’re not interested in 99% of the people they flirt with. Other women will give you almost no indicators of interest at all, and then tell you years later that they had the biggest crush on you. To tell for sure if a woman is in into you or not, you need a baseline of what her usual behavior is like. If a chick who’s normally very reserved becomes very chatty around you…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 04:27 AM
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True. That being said, plenty of people think they’ve found the perfect person and end up getting divorced a decade or two down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:22 AM
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If you’re rich enough, there are things you can do about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:18 AM
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I’m getting to the age where I’m starting to have to seriously think about my future. I want to get married 3-7 years from now (which means I need to find my person within ~5 years), but I still feel like I’m not where I want to be in a bunch of different areas of life. And even when I think I’ve found my person, how will I know that she’s the right one? My brain is very good at casting doubt on any decision I try to make. Where am I gonna live? Am I on the right career track? What am I not doin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:12 AM
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I’m curious; what do you like about your GF? I see you complaining about her a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:05 AM
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I’ve known plenty of “bad boys” who struggled with women. The main thing is that they were “bad” in a way that women found creepy and off-putting, rather than bad in a way that women found exciting and rebellious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:44 PM
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Not necessarily. An old FWB of mine described me to a friend as “a super sweet guy and an absolute dork”. That was 9 months of some of the best sex I’ve ever had. I think you err in thinking that “being a gentleman” and “being hot” are connected. You can be a gentleman and be incredibly sexy, or not sexy at all. You can be a “bad boy” who gets tons of chicks, or one who all the girls avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:54 PM
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Social contract and all that. You don’t have to show compassion and empathy for others if you don’t want to, but in not doing so you are actively making society worse for everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 01:02 AM
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Shameless was top tier television. Haven’t seen her in much outside of that though…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 11:18 PM
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If you’re okay with the status quo, you’re not who OP’s post was directed at.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:07 PM
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Some of us aren’t interested in “improving” ourselves as if we’re a product to be focus tested and sold. Well, what are you interested in doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 05:27 AM
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Here’s the thing though. All of the things OP mentioned: Getting in shape Going out with friends regularly Having cool experiences to post on social media Talking to folks and building out your social network would make your life better even if you didn’t see any change in the amount of female attention you receive (which is unlikely, but still).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:38 PM
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Dang- what's your signature dish? I think the biggest sticking point here is that I absolutely want kids and she adamantly doesn't. On top of that, her family is kinda racist, and I'm not sure I would want those folks as my in-laws/grandparents to any potential children I may have, so I'm reasonably sure she's not the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:15 PM
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We did clearly define things up front as a friends with benefits situation when this started, so hopefully we can avoid the situationship trap. Still though, I enjoy celebrating holidays, and I think I'd enjoy celebrating with her if the status quo holds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:11 PM
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We had a discussion about boundaries and expectations when this started a couple months ago, and we both agreed that we wouldn't work out long term for a number of reasons. Still though, I'm a romantic at heart, and I think Valentine's Day is fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:08 PM
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Anxiety is a beautiful thing (occasionally).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:05 PM
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Q4A: Is it weird to make Valentine’s Day plans with a FWB you know you’re not going to end up with at the end of the day? (i.e. going a romantic date, flowers/candy, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:33 PM
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It’s almost like one gender’s orgasm is necessary for reproduction and thus more easily obtained than the other gender’s 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:37 PM
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6 inches isn’t average, but I do think that what most girls THINK is 6 inches is average. Speaking from experience, women tend to overestimate length by a inch or so, sometimes by 2 if you’re on the bigger side. Most pornstars are in the 7-8 inch range
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:36 PM
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A lot of guys suck at sex, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:28 PM
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It’s about male attention, but it also isn’t. To illustrate what I mean, imagine the following scenario. Arthur and Bill are both happily married men, and have no desire to ever cheat on or leave their wives. One night, the two go drinking together, and for the entire evening, women are approaching Bill, telling him how handsome he is, and trying to give him their numbers. Bill, being happily married, has no interest in any of these women and brushes all of them off. Arthur, however, is ignored-…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 10:55 AM
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I go to the club primarily to dance and listen to music with friends, though it's always a bonus if I meet a cute girl . As long as I pregame sufficiently and have the right crew with me, I'd say it's usually a worthwhile use of my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:10 AM
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Virgo. I’d say yes. People tend to think I’m more serious and organized than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:14 PM
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Iconic! Don’t take your foot off the gas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:13 PM
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I’m nearly 6 feet tall and pretty muscular. If there’s a woman who was built like that at my office, I’d be asking her out instead of the coworker who walked in on me. D1 baby time!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:42 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:46 PM
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They don’t need to share all my political views, but there’s some core values I won’t compromise on. I’d be fine with any woman to left of the center and to the right of the tankies.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 03:43 PM
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They’re as much bigots as the dudes quoting Future lyrics when they get broken up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 03:09 PM
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I'd argue that they're similar statements, given that they tend to pop up in similar contexts (dating woes). They’re not literally angry at the whole gender, just one or more particular members of that gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 12:47 PM
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Good for your friend; I’ve mentioned the scene to a few women I know irl, and almost all of them reflexively defended Daphne and dismissed what happened to Simon.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:05 AM
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I’m not really pressed about that. However, I did neglect to mention a more subtle and more insidious type of misandry I’ve noticed over recent years, and that’s the idea that men aren’t capable of feeling emotional pain in the same way that women are. I bring up this example a lot on here (I realize it can be tiresome, but it’s very useful for examining a number of social dynamics), but let’s take a look at the tv show Bridgerton. In one episode of the series, the female lead rapes her male lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:01 AM
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I have plenty of female friends who will often say things to the tune of “Men are trash” usually in response to some romantic misfortune. This is generally accompanied by blasting one of Olivia Rodrigo, Taylor Swift, Megan Thee Stallion or Ashnikko (depending on their demographic and level of anger/sadness). How many of them actually mean it? Not many, I don’t think. Most of these girls have brothers, fathers, friends, and boyfriends they absolutely adore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:50 AM
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Let me give a more illustrative example. Imagine twin brothers, both 5/10 in their appearance. We’ll call them Allen and Bill. Allen becomes skilled at making people laugh, has excellent fashion sense, and gets a high paying job right out of college. He uses his salary to travel and have other cool experiences, which he documents on social media. Bill, meanwhile, doesn’t like people much and prefers to stay home. He makes an average income and doesn’t pay much attention to clothes or grooming. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:33 PM
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Looks are absolutely important; you can get away with a LOT of bullshit if you’re hot enough. That being said, it’s more than possible to make up for deficiencies in the looks department (to a point) by excelling in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:26 PM
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Define “DEI” in this context.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:24 PM
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I'm sure that's happening with a handful of people, but I don't buy that it's happening to a significant degree. If you're a woman and you wanted children prior, I doubt that a bad administration taking power would suddenly change your mind (unless you secretly wanted an excuse to not have children anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:03 AM
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I'm agreeing lol. South Korea and Japan wonder why their birthrates are falling off a cliff and then make zero changes to their work cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:29 AM
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Wait, are you saying that forcing men to work inhumane hours at the office and then pressuring them to drink excessively makes them less likely to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:25 AM
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This is the correct take, imo. Guys who were already doing well with women will continue doing well with women. Guys who were not doing well with women will continue to not do well with women. And women in relationships are not going to leave their partners over a TikTok trend (unless they were already planning on leaving anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:21 AM
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Do you think it’s moral to pretend that you’re satisfied with your partner instead of letting them find someone who fully appreciates them?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:13 AM
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You might like Buddhism. I’ve known several people who didn’t really buy into the supernatural elements of it, but still found that the philosophy of it brought them peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:11 AM
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"Bad boy" in the romantic context usually means "A guy who is confident and assertive, but also rebellious and a tad irreverent." It's entirely possible to be a "bad boy" without actually breaking any laws, and equally possible to be a career criminal but fail to attain that elusive "bad boy" energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:33 AM
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You rang?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:26 PM
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Ive had sex multiple times…Women do not like sex that much Skill issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:58 PM
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Where I think you’re wrong is that these same women want that same alpha male to turn into a long term committed relationship at some point (mid to late twenties when they’re ready). I don’t disagree with you, but I also think that these “alpha males” who they want commitment from are often very difficult to get commitment from. After all, if you’re a highly attractive 25 year old dude with women flocking all around you, what’s your incentive to commit to just one right out of the gate? As such,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:53 PM
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They do not like sex that much. Women LOVE sex; the way their sexuality gets activated is just different. If you can’t figure out how to activate it, it may be that you have a skill issue or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:13 PM
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True true; like I said, men will often play the field for a good while if they’re able to, including sleeping with women who they know they aren’t good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:08 PM
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I don't 100% agree with this particular premise, but it's certainly true in some cases, and the reason why seems pretty intuitive. Many women aren't super interested in LTRs/commitment when they're younger, so it makes sense for them to date the most attractive/exciting guys they can find. When they do start looking for commitment, they start screening for qualities that they didn't screen for before, because those qualities aren't super relevant in a casual relationship. Men will often do a ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 07:43 AM
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There are two meanings of the word “safe” being used here. A) “Safe” as in “Stable, well-adjusted, doesn’t have serial killer vibes, not subscribed to some variety of political extremism” B) “Safe” as in “dull, predictable, NPC energy” As a guy, you definitely want girls to see you as the first kind of “safe”; you absolutely do not want them to see you as the second kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:53 AM
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I think that some people just get addicted to the honeymoon period, and seek to recreate that same rush of hormones over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:36 AM
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Assuming it's not affecting my desire to be intimate with her, I wouldn't. However, I do think that being attracted to your partner is an important part of the relationship, and if I started losing my enthusiasm for sex or stopped initiating as often, then I think that she has a right to know why.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:11 AM
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I'll roll with it. Plenty of women I've found attractive on the whole have had individual traits that I didn't think were so attractive. We can deal with the loose skin later if that's something she wants to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:50 AM
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This is like saying “Hollywood action movies prove men want to be violent and blow things up and shoot people” I think you're missing the point of this post. Hollywood action movies don't prove that men want to be violent and blow things up and shoot people, but they *do* prove that many men fantasize about being viewed as powerful, competent, and in control of their own lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:18 AM
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I could have phrased that better. It’s less “they’re incapable of this action” and more like “it’s improper for them to perform this action”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:27 PM
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“Men need to like women more” is something that insecure women say because they’re afraid of being vulnerable in a relationship. Fully opening your heart to someone involves a lot of emotional risk, but them liking you more than you like them reduces that risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:59 AM
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You can be seen as creepy or embarrassing when youre confident with no semblance of social grace. This is true, but I think the general point (confidence is a key element of social skills) is valid. If someone delivers a bold/flirtatious line confidently, the other person might be impressed or intrigued. If that same person were to stutter and stammer while delivering that same line, it’s unlikely that the other person will have the same reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:53 AM
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I’ve dated a few women who were very big on traditional gender roles. One told me (in the early stages of dating) that she thought it was fine if men cheated on their partners occasionally, as long as they always came home to the same woman. Another insisted on doing all the dishes after a meal at my apartment because that was “women’s work”. Yet another wouldn’t let me make my own plate during an event at a cafeteria-style restaurant, because in her words “my mom would kill me if I let my man m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:27 AM
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I’m moderately salty about a negative romantic experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 04:23 AM
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Reminder for the audience: Frequently when dealing with certain types of men/women in a dating context, the only winning move is not to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:53 AM
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The Hamilton line is a reference to a common saying about George W Bush.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:52 AM
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Seek help
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:06 AM
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Bruh Seek help.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:05 AM
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1) Be rich and/or famous 2) If you can’t manage that, get in the best shape you possibly can and start seeing a personal stylist. 3) If all else fails, hire a professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:03 AM
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Many people from Latin American/Asia fetishize whiteness- it’s a holdover from colonialism that never quite went away. Interestingly enough, this doesn’t seem to have hit the Black community nearly as hard (though that’s not saying it didn’t hit at all; colorism is a very real thing).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:08 AM
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One can be very conservative in their social life (dressing modestly, adhering to traditional gender roles, only having sex while in relationships, etc), while simultaneously disagreeing with most or all of the Republican Party platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:27 PM
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“Aw, sorry to hear that. Hope you get well asap!”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:25 PM
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There are many kinds of intelligence. This is why you see many people who can understand complex mathematical topics, but can’t understand why women don’t want to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 10:31 PM
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Yes, but I always make sure to check in periodically just in case.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:00 PM
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It depends on a few factors: Why did she ghost me? Is she offering a genuine apology supported by actions? Have the circumstances that caused her to ghost me initially changed in a meaningful way?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:32 PM
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Huh? Anyway, Alexa, play “Not Like Us”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:27 AM
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Each team has four chances (“downs”) to move the ball a total of ten yards. If they are successful in this, they get a new set of four downs. If not, the other team gets the ball. The goal of the game is to score 6 points by getting the ball to the end of the field (a “touchdown”), or if they can’t do this, to score 3 points kicking it through a set of posts at the end of the field (a “field goal”). After touchdowns, teams also have the chance to kick for an extra point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:37 PM
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Have you approached most women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:32 PM
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Indeed. Most of the male love interests in the best known films are princes, and the ones that aren’t are still incredibly handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 08:23 PM
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That’s true. I make an effort to participate in local clubs/events as much as I’m able.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:50 PM
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Avoiding loneliness definitely takes more and more effort the older you get- people get busy with careers and kids and whatnot, so making time for friends can be harder. The decline of third spaces and the rise of smartphones have aggravated the problem significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:23 PM
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I was actually in Scenario B for a bit (She wasn’t making quite that much, but she was still very well-off). It was fun! She ended up breaking things off because she wanted kids, and being in her mid-30s, she needed a guy who would be ready right away. Hopefully she finds what she’s looking for, because she’s really cool. I’d give A a shot too though if she had some ambition on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:46 PM
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If it’s no permanent damage as long as I get to the hospital in time, absolutely. Playing on easy mode for the rest of your life is more than worth a year of physical therapy (or maybe less, depending on where you got shot).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:39 PM
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This is generally true. I’m mostly friends with women, and they’re shockingly open about their love lives/thoughts on sex and romance. I don’t think I’d have been nearly as successful in my own romantic exploits if I hadn’t learned from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:34 PM
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The domestication part is an important element of the “Beauty and the Beast” fantasy. “This man is already tame” is a much less fun idea than “No woman could tame him…until he met me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:39 PM
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The turn on is imagining “This guy could have any woman in the world, but he’s fully committing to me because I’m just that special.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:11 PM
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I’ve been going back and forth. Shit is annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:48 PM
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No they’re not. I’ve been turned down by more women than I can count, and while you’ll get a few head cases in there, the majority have been perfectly fine. Some of the women who shot me down are good friends of mine today.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:59 AM
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Hanging out with my friend at the coffee place sounds fun. Having a nice date at the coffee shop sounds fun. This emotional purgatory I'm stuck in is not fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:41 PM
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Normally I would too. However, the dinners were her idea, and we'd had nearly a dozen in a row without missing one before last week.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:25 PM
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A vote for the cynic then? Should I decline the weekend invitation?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:21 PM
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I've posted a bit about my friend and the possible romantic tension I have with her. To recap, we were part of the same friend group, she expressed feelings for me (which I reciprocated) but then abruptly changed her mind, which led to us becoming distant for a long while. A couple months ago, she called me and asked if I wanted to have dinner, which I took her up on; afterwards she asked if I wanted to make this a weekly thing. Over the course of said dinners, she would often ask about my love …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:11 PM
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I live in a very walkable area, but the majority of Americans don’t, unfortunately. If you go to NYC, DC, or a handful of other places, you’re good, but most cities aren’t like NYC or DC.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:56 PM
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I’m curious; what gave you that impression?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:27 PM
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Not really a believer in astrology, but I do think it’s fun. Guess mine!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:02 PM
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All of my girlfriends have been vegetarians, strangely enough. Never really been an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:58 PM
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If a girl’s response to you politely and sincerely shooting your shot is to attempt to destroy your reputation and ruin your life, then you ran into someone who was deeply unwell. There are indeed deeply unwell people out there (some of whom I’ve dealt with before, unfortunately); sorry that happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 01:42 PM
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If you’re polite and sincere while shooting your shot, and the girl responds with meanness, that’s not the kind of girl you want in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:00 PM
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Of course. He’s not as common as his female counterpart, but he’s certainly around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:50 PM
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I’d argue that sleeping for someone for any form of material compensation (money, social status, favors, gifts, etc) falls under the umbrella of “gold digger”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:48 PM
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Iconic. Keep it up, and good luck on the second date!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:42 PM
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Most of my friends are women; I know far more about their sex lives than I do about any of my guy friends. The guys I know might say something along the lines of “I slept with this super hot chick last night”, but that’s about as much detail as they go into. Meanwhile, the women I know will often give the whole play by play, complete with colorful metaphors and comparisons to past lovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:34 PM
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All women are different, and as such, the “signs” you are supposed to pick up on will often be different. I’ve known women who were fine with straight up grinding on dudes they had zero interest in. I’ve also known girls whose version of being forward was just standing vaguely near a guy and hoping that he talked to her. All you can do is use your best judgement and accept rejection with grace if you’re wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:29 PM
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If she really felt like the humiliation would make her happy, I’d give it a go at least once, but it doesn’t really sound like something I would enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:45 PM
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Why not all of the above?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:35 PM
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If it was just her wanting to watch, I think I’d give it a try. But I don’t like being mean to people, so the humiliation bit would probably be too much for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:34 PM
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This is true. One of my old FWBs actually referred me to her roommate. Good PR is never a bad thing. On the flipside, I had a friend who nicknamed a dude she was seeing “Vienna Sausage”, for reasons that should be obvious (he unfortunately had the initials “VS”). Poor guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:31 PM
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Q4W: From your experience, do men or women slut-shame more?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:16 PM
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Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 04:44 PM
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Stories are stories; life is life. Most girls don’t want to date a psychotic vampire who keeps them locked up all day. However, most girls do want a guy who can take charge and “sweep them off their feet” so to speak. The psychotic vampire example is just an extreme reflection of that desire to feel passive and feminine, in the same way that James Bond is an extreme reflection of the male desire to feel powerful and desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 12:11 AM
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There’s a lot to it, but the core idea is that while men are usually praised for taking an active role in the romantic process, women were usually shamed for taking an active role. This goes for both men and women- women tend to slut shame far more than men do, and all over the internet you can find women of all ages discouraging other women from approaching men for fear of being seen as desperate. However, even though women are expected by society to be the passive ones, they’re still humans wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:58 PM
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You should check out Contrapoints’ video “Twilight”; it does a very good job of breaking down why certain tropes are so common in romance media aimed at women. And no, it’s not because women want to be abused.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:34 PM
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Not to mention Sleepy Hollow, various James Bond movie, Scandal, Dear White People, and many, many more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:48 PM
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Others just say looks don't matter, any guy who gets laid by one nightstands a lot is a Chad. This is pretty much the barometer I use. “Chad” is any man (regardless of appearance) who can easily and consistently get one night stands from attractive women, without the women expecting anything (money, favors, gifts, commitment, etc.) in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 05:10 PM
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People can’t be reduced to statistics of course but there are trends we can observe (i.e. the majority of people enjoy pizza).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:27 AM
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Keyword: “Majority”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:16 AM
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Eh- sometimes. It’s pretty easy to find men dropping a ton of money at the club to try to impress some random chick they met 10 minutes ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:09 AM
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This is pretty intuitive, I think. The majority of people crave excitement when they’re younger, and stability when they’re older.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:06 AM
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A few that stand out: I met my first girlfriend my freshman year of college through one of my friend groups. She was the sort of person that NEEDED to be in a relationship at all times; being very inexperienced at the time, I didn't clock this as the red flag it was. It turned out she actually had feelings for another guy in our friend group (who had a gf at the time), and she threw me out like yesterday's garbage the day he became single. While I did get a bit of vindication (the guy she dumped…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 09:15 PM
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In my experience, "alt"/"hippie" chicks tend to be more open with their sexuality. As such, they tend to have a better understanding both of what pleases them and what pleases their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:50 PM
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From what I've seen of my female friends, most of them are pretty open about preferring tall, handsome, rich dudes. That being said, a point in the Blue Pill's favor is that a lot of these same women will pull up with the most 5'7, least employed loser you've seen in your entire life, and will defend him to the death when other people point out that they're dating a bum.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:45 PM
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Season 4, Episode 4 "Hang the DJ". Great episode imo; you can watch on Netflix!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:36 PM
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Ah, like that one Black Mirror episode? Could be an interesting experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:12 PM
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"Having money's not everything, not having it is."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:37 PM
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Yup. Most of my friends are women, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:26 PM
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And? What’s that have to do with friendships among those communities?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:40 PM
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Anyone who argues that men and women can’t be friends is implicitly also arguing that gay men can’t be friends with other gay men, lesbians can’t be friends with other lesbians, and bisexual people can’t really have friends at all (which would be a very silly thing to argue). Don’t care if my partner has platonic male friends; former exes and FWBs would have to be evaluated on a case by case basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:29 PM
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By that logic, gay men shouldn’t be able to be friends with other gay men. Given that most gay men irl have numerous friends who are also gay men, it stands to reason that being down to fuck and being friends are not mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:26 PM
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Well, if your goal is something casual, and you’re approaching women on the street, there’s a good chance that many of the women you talk to will be taken, not the types that enjoys casual sex, or otherwise unsuitable. With OLD, everyone’s intentions are out in the open, and you don’t even have to put in the effort of going anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:56 PM
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We can agree to disagree on this, but the I think the overall takeaway is that getting laid is trivially easy for top tier dudes, whether they look online or in the real world. Not much point in comparing apples and slightly different types of apples.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:17 PM
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Mostly because a model tier guy can get those meetups without even getting out of his pajamas. Plus, you already know which girls on apps are DTF, because they’ll usually tell you (especially if you really are model tier). I once matched with a cute girl on a dating app, and she invited me over to her place after 15 minutes of talking- quite lucky, since usually it’s not that easy. If I was able to pull that off once, I imagine that the top tier men of the world can do that every night if they s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:49 PM
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There’s much bigger overlap between “People with substance abuse habits” and “People with lucrative, high-powered careers” than most people realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:34 PM
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True- if the average woman could press a button to make her man taller, she probably would. In the same way, if there was a button the average man could press to make his woman’s boobs/butt firmer and better shaped, he’d probably press it as well. But just because some traits are desirable, that doesn’t mean that anyone without those traits is automatically doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:27 PM
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“Women only want to date guys who are 6’0 or taller.” If you just go outside for a few minutes, you can quickly see that this is untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:21 PM
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I mean, I don’t think he’d have a hard time either way, but it makes sense that the apps would be more efficient, no? Just grab 5-8 of your best photos, write up a generic bio, and you’ll have dozens of attractive women eager to meet you within a couple days. (This is assuming our hypothetical model just wants to get laid. If he wants something serious, irl is definitely better).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:19 PM
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People are much more complex than problems in a textbook, unfortunately. As such, there usually isn’t one good answer for “Why did I get rejected?” When you approach a girl you don’t know super well, there are dozens of variables at play. What kind of mood is she in? Is she involved with any other guys? Is she hung up on a past ex/situationship? What kind of guys does she like? Does guys approaching her make her feel flattered? Anxious? Annoyed? Is she dealing with any mental health issues that …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:46 PM
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Unironically yes. People do weird things sometimes, for reasons that may or may not have anything to do with you. All that’s within your power is working on your swing and getting back up to the plate when it’s your turn again.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:48 PM
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Yup. It’s all in the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:39 PM
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You do have to remember that even if you’re the most handsome, charismatic guy out there, strikeouts are still going to be more common than successes. Just the nature of the game. I like to think of it like baseball. If you can bat .300 in the pros, you’re doing incredibly well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:30 PM
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Not necessarily. Plenty of women fantasize about being with a Mr. Darcy type.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:22 PM
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Therapy in my experience is much like dating- you may have to go through a few therapists before you find someone who you feel "gets" you. I had to see 4 different people before I found a therapist I liked. A lot of people will have 1-2 bad experiences and write off therapy as "useless" because of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:13 PM
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Out of curiosity, how old are you? And what does your bio say?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 03:48 AM
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Here it is! The number was actually 90; idk why I had 50 in my head just now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:23 PM
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I saw a blog post discussing the writer’s attempt to have conversations with 50 strangers- it seemed like a really cool experiment, so I decided to give it a go. For this purpose, “conversation” is defined as an interaction of 10 minutes or more that goes beyond surface level. Since I started a week ago, I’ve had eight conversations with strangers, four men and four women: 3 at bars 2 at a work event 1 at a concert 1 at a bookstore 1 hanging out at my apartment pool I’ve met some really interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:17 PM
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men in these novels are talking about how women are garbage and beneath them. Oh, they absolutely are talking about how women are garbage and beneath them. Google “dark romance fantasy”, and see what kind of results come up. There’s a massive market for these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:02 AM
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It’s because the fantasy of “Beauty and the Beast” is incredibly appealing to a large subset of women. Take a look at romance media marketed to women. Much of it revolves around some superstar guy who could have anybody he wants falling for the comparatively normal female lead, because she’s special. So special, in fact, that he will give up his promiscuous ways and commit his entire being to her. An exciting thought for the average woman, no? Men also indulge in this sort of fantasy to a degree…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:51 AM
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He's avoiding the question because the only way you could feasibly enforce monogamy is to have Morality Police like Iran does.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:39 PM
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https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2016/01/why-did-only-2-of-new-fathers-in-japan-take-paternity-leave-last-year This article is a very good summation of what I’m talking about. A guy in Japan (OP’s country) is trying to take a little bit of time off to be with his newborn, and he’s being castigated for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:13 AM
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Ah, you’re so close to getting it. Our society is structured in such a way that it only could have resulted in the current paradigm. You can see it everywhere: Girls are given baby dolls to play with, while boys are strongly dissuaded from doing the same; this ingrains the idea early that childcare is the domain of women only. Boys are subconsciously taught that they are only worth anything if they are providing for others, which incentivizes boys to pursue high earning careers at higher rates; …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:09 AM
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I don’t know why you’re acting like that’s a “gotcha”; I didn’t say that they didn’t. Women do usually take the lead on childcare, which is the result of a combination of social, economic, and cultural factors. Were some of those factors different, we might see the disparity lessened.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:55 AM
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Well, yes. OP specifically mentioned taking months off of work for parental leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:41 PM
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[Oh, you're in Japan!](https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2016/01/why-did-only-2-of-new-fathers-in-japan-take-paternity-leave-last-year). As developed countries go, Japan is an exceedingly odd duck when it comes to work culture (and gender roles to a lesser extent).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:06 PM
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I don't know where you live, so I can't comment on specific cultural/social/economic factors at play. However, two things are always true- infants need a LOT of attention, and raising one can get expensive very quickly. So, it follows that one partner should stay home while the other works. If the father has a higher paying job than the mother (which statistically speaking, he usually will), or if the mother wants to be a SAHM, then logically he should continue working and let his wife use the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:59 PM
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Just a month? That's awful; where are you from? Not even 2% of men use it. If only one half of the couple can use it at a time, I can see why the one who didn't go through labor a month ago is using the parental leave much less often.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:44 PM
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Of course. The only reason many guys don't (at least in the United States) is that employers don't have to give men paternity leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:34 PM
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I definitely want to be a dad one day; thinking 2-3 children. Kids are so much fun! They don't take parental leave, they don't take primary parent role This is an example of how patriarchy often harms men. In most places, paternity leave straight up isn't a thing, because it's assumed that men don't need/want time to enjoy one of the greatest gifts that life has to offer. But if you ask any father: "Would you rather work overtime at the office, or go home and play with your kids?" nearly all of …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:28 PM
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What you seem to be arguing is that both parents being present in the child’s life is ideal, a sentiment that I (and I think most people) would agree with. However, trying to force a loveless marriage, from what I’ve observed, can quickly make even the most amicable situations…less amicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:46 AM
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Not nearly to the same degree. Imagine two unhappy couples with kids. One of them splits up semi-amicably, while the other sticks it out for the kids. The children of Couple #1 witness some initial awkwardness, but eventually get to see both of their parents move on to healthy relationships with partners they are better suited for, while maintaining a cordial relationship with each other. The children of Couple #2 witness an endless parade of verbal (and possibly even physical) abuse, spousal ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:32 AM
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What units of measurement did they use in this research to quantify how much the parents hate each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:23 AM
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Sure, he can spin plates if he wants. It’s just that he may have to lower his standards when considering which plates he’s going to try and spin.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:15 AM
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Happily married parents >>> Separated parents >>>>>> Unhappily married parents Children are going to be harmed far more in the long term by constantly witnessing toxic relationship dynamics than they will be by witnessing their parents separate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:33 AM
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This actually works in most kind of relationships (platonic or romantic). People really like feeling valued, and as long as requests for favors are accompanied by appropriate gratitude, giving people a chance to feel useful and capable will make them like you more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:24 AM
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Bit of Column A, bit of Column B most likely. Some people really do fall quickly; other people will say whatever they think they need to say to get a pretty girl to like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:37 AM
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I like him! Hit Man was a great movie, and he’s had a lot of other really solid roles as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:29 AM
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Try to fruitlessly “self-improve” your way into the modern dating scene. This is essentially the same as option 1, because by the time you catch up with the young men who have ”it” you’ll be in your mid 30s if not later in life. This is true, but you’re missing something important. No, not everyone can be an MVP athlete, or an Oscar-winning actor, or a Nobel Prize winning scientist- that takes some natural talent. But there are plenty of athletes, actors, and scientists who have perfectly servic…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:27 AM
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Quality is more important than quantity, yes. Most folks will respect the man who pulls three 10s more than they respect the man who pulls ten 3s.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:44 AM
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The Red Rising series is excellent. While first book is just decent, Book 2 and onward are some of the best sci-fi I’ve ever read. Think Star Wars meets Game of Thrones. If you prefer “harder” sci-fi, Margaret Atwood’s Oryx and Crake is incredible, as are its sequels.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:14 AM
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The women I’m referring to are specifically saying they’re on the lookout for black men, and are often making an effort to go to spaces where they know single Black men will be. When they can pick exactly who they want, like they do on apps, they will most likely pick a white man. Again, source?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:30 PM
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I can’t see myself moving that quickly, but I hope it works out for them. I do feel a tad envious- I’ve gone out with plenty of wonderful women, and had no shortage of girls who expressed interest in a serious relationship with me, but I feel like I haven’t found that spark yet. I’d love to meet someone I’m absolutely obsessed with- someone I’d write love poems for, someone I constantly want to be around, someone I talk about so much that my friends get annoyed and tell me to shut up about her. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:56 AM
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Are you saying moving quickly is the pragmatic move, or that waiting is?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:31 AM
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They knew of each other, but hadn’t spoken before.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:27 AM
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Since you say your last relationship, I’m assuming it’s in the past. Do you wish you had waited longer?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:20 AM
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Friend of a coworker
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:18 AM
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Another one of my friends has gotten into a relationship; this one is with a guy she’s been seeing about a week. I’m starting to wonder if I’m the weird one. I need at least a couple months before I feel comfortable calling someone my girlfriend, but I seem to be surrounded by whirlwind romances that pop up nearly overnight. Or maybe I wouldn’t feel like I needed a couple months if I met the right person? Food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:05 AM
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I find that a better test to filter out the gold diggers is to suggest free or low-cost activities for the first couple dates. Happy hours, picnics, free museums/galleries, hiking, etc. Girls who are actually interested in me are fine with this; girls who are just looking for a payday will bail or try to steer me towards something expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:01 AM
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guys who feel offended if a women pays for date or plans a date? I honestly can’t imagine why. I love whenever this happens in my love life, even if it’s not super common.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:57 AM
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If she’s pretty, has great body, and is easy to get along with? Of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:33 PM
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I’ll take A-D and F for 12 points, bringing me to -7. I’ll take H (I’ve dated radfems before; their views didn’t really factor into my experience), J (crystal girls are fun!) and K (double income household? Why not?) to balance it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:25 PM
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Improving your fitness, exploring new hobbies, and working on your social skills all have positive impacts on your life that reach far beyond dating. Why wouldn’t you do these things?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:51 PM
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The majority of my friends are in relationships now or getting close to it, but I’m definitely not ready for that at the moment. Getting into a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship doesn’t seem like a good idea, so I think I need to start making more single friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:24 PM
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Bro is about to get his calipers out 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:24 AM
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From first to last choice: 1) Susan- My body count is higher than hers, so it’d be unfair to criticize her for that. I also love video games and anime, so we’d likely be a good fit. 2) May- I like thick girls, and shopping once a month won’t hit my pockets too hard. 3) Mary- She sounds like a great friend, but I don’t think we’re compatible. 10/10 would go to church with though! 4) Jessica- Once a month? Really? Count me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:23 AM
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personality disorder or was it circumstantial difficulties? Not sure. I didn’t pry, since I’d wager that whatever it was would be unpleasant for her to talk about. She’ll tell me on her own time, I imagine. Personality disorder would be my best guess, though I’m not sure which one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:11 AM
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Eh- she’s pleasant conversation, and it doesn’t cost me any more than it would if I got dinner with someone else/on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:11 AM
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Split bill. We both paid for our own stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:06 AM
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If I’m not getting what I need from a friendship, I demote that person to “acquaintance” and go along with my day. Simple as.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:02 AM
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True true. I’m fine having her around as a friend tbh. We both handled the original situation in really immature ways (myself moreso than her), so I don’t blame her for distancing herself a bit. I also don’t know the full details of whatever her mental breakdown was.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:57 AM
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We are not a serious country.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:52 AM
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Icon behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:51 AM
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Just had dinner with a girl who rejected me in college. We were cool after that, but not anywhere near as close as we were before; we would be at the same parties sometimes, but that was as far as it went. We hadn’t spoken one-on-one for about two years. A week ago, she gave me a phone call and asked if I wanted to have dinner, since her rec soccer league has practice near my place. Dinner was great- we talked and laughed like we used to. She also mentioned that she’d had a mental health crisis …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:50 AM
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There are a million ways to fail at dating. Some men are out of shape. Some dress badly. Some are poor. Some talk too much. Some are too quiet. Some are too aggressive. Some are too meek. Some have nothing interesting to talk about. Some aren’t interested in anything other people are talking about. And so on. The problem with online forums is that it’s difficult to give specific advice for someone you’ve never met, so there’s a high probability that any advice one gives (outside of the basics) w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:34 PM
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I go to church, am a member of several clubs/organizations, and often volunteer in my community. What do you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:25 PM
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I don’t need to always be the one making waves; that shit gets tiring. Riding other people’s waves can often be just as rewarding.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:44 AM
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Have you considered seeing a psychiatrist? Antidepressants get a bad rap in a lot of circles, but I’ve been in a similar place as you, and they really helped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:42 AM
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There’s lots of useful intel you can get from the rumor mill if you’re willing to listen a bit. I started hooking up with one of my more recent FWBs because a female friend mentioned to me that this chick had just broken up with her boyfriend and was looking for a rebound.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:24 AM
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I’m a guy; about two-thirds of my close friends are women, some of them quite attractive. How do I manage this? Well, it’s quite easy. I just make sure that my non-platonic intimacy needs are being met outside of those friendships. And besides, female friends are incredibly useful in improving your dating life. In addition to being able to do the majority of things that male friends can do, they can get you invitations to things you may not have gotten invited to otherwise, introduce you to othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:17 AM
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"you don't get to decide if you're an asshole or not, other people do," which makes sense and most people seem to agree The term “asshole” is relative. If you’re in a toxic environment, surrounded by toxic people, doing the non-toxic thing could be perceived as asshole behavior. As an example, imagine a frat that engages in intense hazing against university regulations. A brother who blows the whistle on said hazing is likely to be labeled an asshole who’s trying to ruin everyone’s fun by the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:25 AM
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In the past, people knew each other. Familiarity and moving in the same circles determined who you were likely to have the opportunity to meet. In a world like that, if you were a typical man in your 30s or 40s, dating a woman your age was just what was likely to happen, naturally. The slow decline of third spaces has fucked us in so many ways, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:21 AM
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Even when the men are drugged or incapacitated, it’s rare to see these incidents treated seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:31 AM
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You see lots of partnered women going out to clubs to make out with random guys? Speaking from personal experience, yes. But as to your broader point, women certainly do have a higher activation point for their sexuality than men do, but that point isn’t necessarily all that hard to reach (the club, weddings, birthday/holiday parties, vacations, etc). A slightly above average guy who can put himself in the right place at the right time has the chance to pull way above his weight class.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:22 AM
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Indeed. The next episode is primarily focused on criticizing him for not being honest about his circumstances, while nobody ever acknowledges the fact that he was, y’know, raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:17 AM
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Then why are some women willing to make out with random guys at the club? Clearly some of them are lusting after dudes who just stumble by.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:11 AM
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Something I noticed recently about how gender roles often harm men: The most recent episode of the tv show The Boys depicted one of main male protagonists being sexually assaulted. In an interview after the episode’s release, the showrunner (a man) described the scene as “hilarious”, and explained how he wrote the scene as a joke, even though all the examples of assault against women in the show are rightfully taken very seriously. Another example of this is in the series Bridgerton- the male le…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:09 AM
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Humans of both genders are going to sometimes find other people attractive; that’s just how it is. As long as you don’t act upon it/rub it in your partner’s face, there’s nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:02 AM
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I would hope that I never make the mistake of getting someone who expects me to gain “sympathy weight” pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:01 AM
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Sounds like something to talk to your advisor about. Maybe you could walk in the next grad ceremony, then take the last class you need during the summer?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:24 AM
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Breaking: People enjoy wearing clothing that makes them feel attractive. In other news: The Pope is Catholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:22 AM
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What happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:16 AM
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I think of it in terms of raffle tickets. Yes, even if you buy a ton of tickets (work hard towards your goal), there’s still a chance you lose. However, the more tickets you buy, the better your chances of winning get.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 11:23 PM
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I’m in a position where I know my life would benefit if I took a few months off from dating to focus on my personal goals. However, one of those personal goals is to fix my chronic impulsiveness and lack of discipline (traits that make taking a few months off from dating difficult).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 11:15 PM
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I’m in my mid-20s, and I actually quite enjoy dating women in their late 20s/early to mid 30s. Don’t think it’s competition though; I’m happy to go out with any pretty woman between 20 and 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 11:12 PM
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If chad sends them a 2am booty call message they will say yes. Well, yes. That's what makes him Chad- he can get casual sex with attractive women with very little effort on his part. However, this description of Chad also applies to women. Most women can get sex from attractive men very easily; even the unattractive friends I mentioned before have some very good looking guys among the notches in their bedposts. Are all of these girls Stacy then, since they can all get sex from attractive men eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:15 PM
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There's plenty of women of all leagues who are doing casual sex that will answer "yes" to a booty call. I usually agree with you on most things, but getting a very attractive woman for a booty call is much more difficult than getting an average or below average woman for one. Why? It's because girls who are very attractive generally have guys in their DMs who are offering them way more than just sex (i.e. dates at nice restaurants). As such, if you want your 3 AM booty call offer to be competiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:47 PM
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People throw that around a lot, but generally by the time a couple officially gets divorced, the relationship has been over for quite some time. Who actually files the paperwork isn’t necessarily a reflection of who went for the door first.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:57 PM
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It’s not the only one; just the most illustrative. Take a look around you- once you’ve got a girl emotionally invested, the amount of clown shit you can get away with is staggering.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:42 AM
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I’ll reference something I’ve noticed that I’ve often discussed here. Men and women from across the pill spectrum have confirmed that I’m not alone in my observation: Women will put up with a LOT more bullshit from their partners than men will. The example I generally use is the case of a female friend whose boyfriend cheated on her constantly and even gave her chlamydia at one point. This dude was alright looking, but he certainly wasn’t “Chad”, and instead of the friend group being impressed b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 05:04 AM
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I never really did understand economically disadvantaged groups who support right wing economic policies. My family is quite wealthy- when conservative administrations have tried to do trickle down economics, the only trickling that happens is the trickling of champagne down the throats of people like us (at the expense of everyone else). If those folks want to give us even more money, then sure, I appreciate the gesture. But also, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:25 AM
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There’s never been a point in United States history where communism in the vein of the USSR, Cuba, or China has ever been close to taking root, even under the most left-wing administrations. (Unless you’re one of those “Any time the government does anything for its citizens, it’s communism” folks, in which case we’ve been communist for quite some time)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:22 AM
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This is tangentially related to your point, but I really enjoyed this post! I tend to be an anxious sort; I have to remember to remind myself not to panic too much about things I can’t control.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:27 PM
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Of course not. I respect girls who are bold enough to shoot their shot, even if I have to let them down easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:01 PM
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Would certainly be a shame if HR were to find out about that…perhaps if your boss gave you a raise, you might be persuaded to forget about the sexual harassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 05:58 PM
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The antagonists are the best part of the show imo. The comic book had the superheroes being one-dimensional cartoon villains, but the show adds so many layers of depth and vulnerability to them- yeah, they have godlike powers and often do monstrous things, but the show constantly reminds you that these people can’t escape their humanity, no matter how hard they try. And on the flipside, we’ve got our “good guys”- they’re generally fighting for the right things, but they’re willing to stoop to so…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 05:39 AM
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I mean, gore and nastiness is kinda the Boys’ thing (along with biting political commentary/satire). I really enjoy it, but it’s definitely not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 05:31 AM
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Fair enough; Steve Jobs then.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 09:49 PM
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One of the first people that came to mind when I thought of “overachiever who has sacrificed basically everything in in pursuit of power and glory”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 09:32 PM
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Q4A: Which of these lives would you prefer? You’re remembered as one of the all-time greats in whatever your field is, and people speak your name with reverence and awe after you die. However, you never know a moment’s peace- your existence is a constant battle to stay on top, fend off enemies, and surpass your own limits, and your personal life often suffers for it. Think Napoleon, Oppenheimer, Ernest Hemingway, Logan Roy. A pleasant, but unremarkable life spent with friends, family, and childr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 09:16 PM
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When I see these sorts of situations, the girls either have very low self-esteem or they like the idea of “saving” a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 01:54 PM
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If they themselves engage in celebrity worship, they have no basis for complaint if their man does, and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:00 PM
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I mean, of course you should want to have a backbone and not let people walk all over you. Seems pretty intuitive that that’s what women are looking for, in the same way that women don’t have to specify that they’re looking for a guy with good hygiene. That being said, OP has yet to specify any examples of the niceness he’s referring to, I suppose we’ll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:54 PM
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Then it’s not a double standard 😂. If your girl is openly checking out other men in front of you, you’ve got a right to be upset with her. If you’re checking out other girls in front of her, she’s got a right to be upset with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:03 PM
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Are they complaining about men worshipping celebrities?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:46 PM
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Sure, but like other folks have been saying, the equivalent of a guy checking out a girl on the street is a girl checking out guys on street. For that matter, where are you finding these girls who are saying it’s okay for them to drool over celebrities but it isn’t okay for guys to? Most of my friends are women, and I’ve talked to nearly all of them about celebrity crushes at one point or another- never gotten any pushback.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:42 PM
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You ever make out with a stranger on the dance floor at a party/nightclub? Guys very clearly can appeal to female sexuality with their appearance alone; no status required.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:35 PM
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It’s pretty common for women with low self-esteem or women who come from environments where toxic relationships are the norm to be confused or even off-put by healthy relationship behaviors. In the former case, they subconsciously think they deserve mistreatment, and in the latter case they’re seeking the comfort of familiarity. Either way, in my experience, girls in these categories don’t make up a majority of the female population
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:26 PM
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I’m a man. Contacts: ~500 People I message with at least once a week: ~40
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 11:15 AM
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My top three are definitely kindness, a compatible sense of humor, and openness to new ideas and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:50 PM
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This happens plenty. I did it a few months ago. Great girl, quite pretty, but I don’t think we were the right fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:18 AM
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tired and depressed (or be perceived as such) butch lesbians (who just happen to be skinny and have long hair) I’ve had (and enjoyed) sex with women who fit this description. Some with short hair, and some a bit bigger. I’m not a very difficult guy to please. I’m not denying that female beauty standards can be awful and difficult to uphold, but I’d argue that they’re often reinforced by women (and companies attempting to pressure women into buying things) more than they are by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:10 AM
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I think people get carried away with the evo psych stuff here, but I think there’s a kernel of truth to it. I’m also a guy with many friends of both genders (mostly women). The boys (myself included) are almost invariably more flexible in their sexual partner choices than the girls are. We can also see this reflected in swipe rates on dating apps, and in the many women on this subreddit who have noted that casual sex is far riskier for them than it is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:41 AM
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It’s just biology, no? A man can father children with many women at once, so he is incentivized to have sex with a wide range of women. A woman, meanwhile, can only carry one man’s child at a time, so she’s incentivized to be extra choosy about her sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:25 AM
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My big question: Who are these dudes? How are they getting suckered into marriage by women who think taking and taking and taking without offering anything in return is a badge of honor? I would love to know what kind of manipulation games these women are running; they seem useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:25 AM
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I like it! I think you should keep it as is. You’ll attract guys who prefer women with curly hair. Assuming your future husband is one of these guys, you won’t have to spend so much time straightening your hair in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:54 AM
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Depends on the circumstances and why we broke up in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:51 AM
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What kind of curly are we talking? Is there a celebrity/public figure with a similar hairstyle to your current one?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:43 AM
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A lot of cultures place a bunch of bullshit restrictions on girls that they don’t put on boys, unfortunately. Just the way of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:29 AM
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Q4 Single Women: Imagine that a wizard gives you a magical worksheet- you can fill out all of the attributes you would want in your dream man on it, and you are guaranteed to have a meet-cute with that man the very next day. How old are you, and what number are you writing in the “Age” section?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:28 AM
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A bowl of candy vs a bowl of vegetables, huh? The candy is certainly appealing, but I know that Option 2 will be better for me in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:22 AM
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sometimes they only talk to me just for homework help. You gotta stand up for yourself. Friendship is a two-way street, and if your contributions aren’t being reciprocated, these chicks should receive a swift demotion from “friend” to “acquaintance”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:02 AM
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I don’t really have an opinion of women in general. There are women in my life whom I consider role models, women I consider to be some of my closest friends, and women who have helped carry me through the hardest periods of my life. On the flipside, I’ve encountered women who embody all the worst stereotypes that TRP applies to them, women who have treated me and others with cruelty, and women who have directly caused some of the hardest periods of my life. Most of my broad observations about w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:58 AM
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I’m a sucker for activity dates, so I’d go for beer/billiards. I’m assuming you have good reason to think he returns your feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 06:52 PM
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Hence the water testing. My usual move is to ask her to do an activity typically associated with couples (going to see a romantic movie, having a picnic somewhere scenic, etc). You can then observe how she reacts to your invitation and how she acts during the activity. If she’s not into you, no foul- she’s always inviting you out to places, so why is it so odd that you’re inviting her to do something? And if she does like you, then you’ll have a nice romantic story to tell later.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:50 AM
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A girl who’s interested in moving from friends to lovers with you will usually make it fairly obvious (finding reasons to touch you, taking an inordinate interest in your love life, commenting on your appearance, asking to hang out one-on-one frequently, etc). If a guy sees these signs, there are plenty of ways for him to ‘test the waters’ without straight up asking the girl out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:41 AM
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He’ll be fine. Everybody knows at least one short Latino guy who absolutely slays.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 09:41 PM
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Some I like: 5 Centimeters per Second Past Lives The White Lotus (both seasons) Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind The Before trilogy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:28 PM
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I’m curious- as a woman, which of the guys in Challengers did you find more appealing? Other women welcome to chime in as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:25 PM
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True, there are plenty of videos of people being weird on the train. There are even more videos of fatal or near-fatal car accidents.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:23 PM
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Americans: Lol Europeans so dumb for wanting to take the train instead of drive. Meanwhile on the road
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:03 PM
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If you’re a Black guy trying to pull in Europe, Spain and Portugal are going to be your best bets for sleeping with other tourists. If you prefer to try and date locals, I’d recommend England and Ireland. I’ve also heard German girls like Black men, but I haven’t been there
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:12 PM
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Hostels are the best way to meet fellow travelers (including girls looking for a fun summer fling that they can tell their friends about later). Depending on the hostel, you may be able to get a single room. If you can’t, there are still options, provided that you’ve got a bit of creativity and that you and the mademoiselle are okay with getting a bit down and dirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:02 PM
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From my experience in college, there’s a shockingly high number of women who haven’t even so much as kissed a guy. The extroverted party girls get the lion’s share of attention, but there are just as many if not more women who are terrified of dating in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 08:58 PM
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The way “talking stage” is used by most of the folks I know irl is closer to Glamour’s definition. Matter of perspective, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:43 PM
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I’m a better cook than most of the women I know, so no, I don’t expect it. It is a nice gesture though! what appears to be a typical male point of view It’s a typical point of view for the subset of men who respond to Facebook ragebait, yes, but I doubt the general population feels the same way. Aside from paying for the first date, paying bills and combining finances SHOULD only be reserved for marriage or a marriage-like dynamic. Agreed, but also, where are these chumps paying the bills for wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:16 PM
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It’s the most recent one we have, unless you can find a newer one. Nonetheless, I doubt society has changed to the point where 60% would be off by more than a couple percentage points.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:18 PM
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I don’t care for Biden, but I’m still voting for him. Some of the reasons folks on the left don’t like him: Gaza Not doing enough to push progressive policies (this is a fair critique on some issues, and a very unfair one on others) Some of the reasons folks on the right don’t like him: He’s a Democrat A substantial number of people believe he somehow stole the election from Trump Wealthy conservatives stand to profit more under a Republican presidency He supports a group they dislike (LGBT+ fol…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:05 PM
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Actually, I got it wrong. The study did track what percentage of men had bio kids. 61.6% of men were fathers, while 59.5% had biological children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:51 PM
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Never mind actually; the percentage of men with bio kids is 60 percent, according to the study.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:50 PM
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Even if that’s true (which is a big if), the data shows that having children is not some Herculean feat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:38 PM
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Sure. What’s up?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:25 PM
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60 percent of men 15 and older were fathers in 2014. I’d wager that a fair amount of the other 40 percent are guys who didn’t want kids, physically couldn’t have kids, or were in their teens/20s at the time of the study and wanted to wait. Fathering children on its own isn’t that hard to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:52 PM
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The two are not necessarily in conflict but they can be. Say you're a casual person, and you dress to impress in clothes you feel uncomfortable in because you think it's what is most attractive, you're going to be uncomfortable, and you might find someone who loves to dress fancy and dislikes casual clothing. “Well-dressed” doesn’t mean having fancy clothes. It means having clothes that fit you well, flatter your body type, and are in harmony with the rest of your outfit. It’s entirely possible …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:39 PM
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These are folks who watch Succession and unironically think Logan Roy is a figure to be admired. They don’t realize that the whole point of the show is that him trying to inculcate ruthlessness and selfishness in his children only made him and his entire extended family miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:20 PM
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You'll definitely have less obstacles if you look good, dress well, are in shape, smell nice, are charming and sociable, etc etc etc, and those things are worth pursuing for sure, but at the end of the day you still have to let your authentic self shine through I don’t think “be as attractive as you can be” and “be true to yourself” are in conflict. Look at romance media aimed at women, and you’ll see all sorts of archetypes as love interests: All-American jocks, tattooed bad boys, hard-partying…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:15 PM
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Compatibility is the most important thing; definitely agree with you there. That being said, if you want to get a chance to find out if you’re compatible with a particular person, you first need to get your foot in the door. How much it takes to get your foot in any given door varies from person to person. But as a general rule, the more attractive, personable, and successful you become, the more doors you’ll have a chance of opening.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:28 PM
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I find that a better way to think about dating is in terms of raffle tickets. You would like to win a prize (a girlfriend), and to win the prize, you need to purchase tickets (self-improve). The more tickets you buy, the higher your chance of winning the raffle is, but even if you bought a ton of tickets, it doesn’t guarantee your victory (particularly if there are a lot of well-funded guys around you who have their eyes on the same prize as you). If you win the raffle, great! If you don’t…well,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:01 PM
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Most people are not equipped to deal with even very high-functioning autistics on a daily basis. Speak for yourself 😂. Maybe folks aren’t equipped to deal with you on a daily basis, but plenty of us have people in our lives who love our company.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:52 PM
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Speaking as an autistic guy, that’s not true. OP is painting with a brush the width of a steamroller.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:50 PM
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It’s not about what you say, it’s about how you say it. If you say “Health and fitness are important parts of my life, and I want to date someone who shares my passion”, you’re unlikely to get any pushback on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:47 PM
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How severe is your autism? I’ve done well enough for myself in dating, but I know that I’d probably be having a much rougher time if I wasn’t on the milder end of the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:08 PM
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With those of us on the milder end of the spectrum (which most of the autistic folks you’d have had the chance to interact with are), it can oftentimes be difficult to recognize the autism unless you know specifically what to look for. Furthermore, a lot of formally diagnosed people prefer not to talk about it with people they don’t know well, because the word “autism” comes with a lot of negative connotations, and some people will (oftentimes subconsciously) treat you differently. This can be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:07 PM
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I don’t get why my man has a preference for white women when Latinas are some of the sexiest women on the planet. There are certain aspects of Latin culture that are astonishingly racist; Google the term “mejorar la raza” if you’re curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 06:15 PM
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Not flipping. One in the hand vs two in the bush and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:24 AM
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I really am grateful for the white women in my social sphere. Neverending stream of invitations for bottomless brunches and party barges.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:43 AM
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Q4A: Imagine that your family is extremely wealthy. They aren’t public figures, so nobody knows that you come from money unless you tell them, but they’re wealthy enough to where you will never have to work again once you receive your inheritance. At what point do you let potential partners know about your background?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:20 AM
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Why would she think you’re boring? Martial arts and hiking are both pretty interesting; lots of athletic and outdoorsy girls who would love to do those things with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:57 PM
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Sounds like you do have things going on, and you mention that you’re dating. What’s the big issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:48 PM
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The guys who say that generally aren’t the best fishermen themselves, but I digress. They don’t literally tell you, but I can tell. Well yeah. What you’re seeing is the thing that some guys do where they say what they need to to get a girl into bed, and then fade out to avoid commitment. The level of respect hasn’t changed at all; they’ve just gotten what they wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:11 PM
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If a guy genuinely likes you, then it doesn’t matter if you do anal on the first date; he’ll still like you. If a guy claims to have lost respect after having sex on the first date, not only is he a hypocrite, but that means he didn’t respect you all that much to begin with. Men and women are quite similar in that regard. When someone really likes you as a person, the games and timers are unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:00 PM
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The guys who would lose respect for you because you had sex with them too early aren’t the guys you want to have in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:55 PM
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That’s why I said “make out” not “have sex”. Some girls really are just opposed to fucking on the first date on principle, but they’ll almost always be willing to engage physically to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:49 PM
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Does she have casual sex with guys she doesn’t see long-term potential in? Though I do agree, having kids does change the equation some. She’s got to vet the guy as both a partner for herself and as a father for her children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:10 PM
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Definitely agree. Like I mentioned, my original comment doesn’t apply for conservative-minded women who don’t engage in casual sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:09 PM
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And let's be real, guys take these kind of women less serious. Why would you take a woman who shows you how much she desires you less seriously? Wouldn’t you prefer a partner who found you irresistible to a partner who was “meh” on you? have a friend that's like this, she goes out on dates with guys she really likes but doesn't do anything sexual with them for several months. Either your friend is an extreme edge case, or she doesn’t like these guys as much as you think she does. Sex and romance…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:35 PM
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I don’t think this is all that common. If a girl genuinely likes you, she’ll almost always be willing to make out with you by the end of the first date (at a minimum). If a girl is “making you wait”, then chances are she doesn’t actually like you that much. (Edit: This doesn’t apply to girls who are especially inexperienced or especially conservative in their sexuality, but you can usually spot these sorts early on and manage your expectations accordingly.) That being said, there are a minority …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:11 PM
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Only rich people age well and idk why. In addition to having less financial stress, rich people have access to a variety of things that help you age better: Tasty, healthy food Personal trainers and nutritionists High quality mattresses, which lead to better sleep Better skincare products and treatments (Sometimes) extra leisure time to focus on their health and wellness And if all that fails, there’s plastic surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:59 PM
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I’m a guy in my early 20s, and I actually quite enjoy going out with women in their 30s/40s. Great conversation, and they’re usually not expecting anything too serious. I wish I knew where to find more of them though; I stumbled across the handful I’ve been with by pure luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:29 PM
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Or worse, she might marry a man from an ethnicity her parents are bigoted against. The horror!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:50 PM
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What womens rights are suppressed? The right to marry someone your parents don’t approve of for whatever reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:30 PM
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The places where arranged marriage is still the standard have a different sort of problem. See here
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:23 PM
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Half the time the “woke” thing in question is just having a minority and/or LGBT character in a completely apolitical piece of media.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:18 PM
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It’s always weird to see people who have authority over you (teachers, professors, bosses, etc) out and about, doing normal person things. I feel like we subconsciously think of authority figures in our lives as different from other humans, even though they really aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:11 PM
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I’d probably need to take a shot or two for courage, but I’d give it a try. I can generally tell whether or not a girl is interested within a minute or so, so worst case scenario my ego gets bruised a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:08 PM
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There’s a lot of things that don’t really make sense about dating, but the game is the game, unfortunately. You can either play by the rules or leave the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:42 PM
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Plenty of guys lust over the “heroin chic” look, as evidenced by this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:31 PM
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The social pressure is insane from virtually everyone Really? Irl, I’ve usually seen it go this way: Person: Are you married, Mr. X? Mr. X: Nah, I like the bachelor lifestyle too much. Check out these pics I took in Greece last month! Person: Wow, that’s cool. Conversation continues as normal. You may get some needling from your parents if they really want grandchildren, but that’s about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:04 PM
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Gary is probably just jealous that his wife is built like a popsicle stick.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:53 PM
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I don’t think anyone disagrees with the idea that statistically speaking, men who are taller, wealthier, and higher status do better on average than shorter, poorer, lower status men. However, the key word here is on average. If someone says “I make a below average income, so I can never get a cute girlfriend according to statistics”, that’s a misrepresentation of what statistics actually are. It would be easier for him to get a cute girlfriend if he were richer, sure, but there are plenty of ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:50 PM
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2 for me. I would have my strictly transactional relationship with her, and then a real relationship on the side with a mistress who actually does care about me (since it doesn’t sound like my wife would mind).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:22 PM
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Same thing you do with men who are disrespecting you. Ignore them if you can, walk away if you can’t. Better to preserve your emotional energy than to expend it fighting pointless battles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:18 AM
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There aren’t all that many people out there who don’t have a single attractive feature, even if they’re unattractive overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:57 PM
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Speaking from my own personal experience, I’ve slept with girls I wasn’t attracted to a few times. In all of those cases, it was because I was extremely depressed, mildly (or very) drunk, and just wanted to feel something. The being drunk part helps with the lack of attraction; in the cases where I wasn’t drunk, I just focused on one particular feature of the woman that I did find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:14 PM
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Thankfully, it probably wasn’t a real thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 10:03 PM
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I’d argue that the first step in gaining money and status is your personality. You’ve gotta be disciplined. Patient. Bold. Courageous. Discerning. Cool under pressure. A good leader (which requires charisma, empathy, and assertiveness, among other things). All the things I listed are personality traits. And if you’re having a hard time developing the personality traits you need to succeed, therapy can help you figure out why and give you an idea of the next steps you should take.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 09:42 PM
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“Unite dream and day” is a nice turn of phrase. I’m going to start using that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 09:37 PM
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There’s a good number of comedies where married couples are portrayed as dysfunctional or straight-up toxic (i.e. Arrested Development, Everybody Loves Raymond, You’re the Worst, White Lotus, etc), but I see your point. I think that it’s more common to see happy marriages in comedies because unless your whole show is leaning into a very dark sort of humor, watching marital issues isn’t particularly fun. You want to see some really toxic couples, a drama series is probably a better bet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 09:09 PM
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Not a kinesiologist, but a cursory google search would suggest that that’s correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:48 PM
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The only thing that sucks is being one of the very few obese people at my gym, especially when I’m doing cardio huffing and puffing like the big bad wolf trying to blow the little piggies houses down. Don’t worry too much; everyone has to start somewhere. In a few years you’ll be able to inspire other obese people with the story of how you got fit!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:45 PM
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For sure. Imagine that there was a pill that improved your mood AND made you more attractive the more you took it. Everyone would be taking it, right? Unfortunately not everyone is taking the real life version of that pill, which is exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:43 PM
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Why would you not want the person you’re planning to spend the rest of your years with to be your best friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 08:41 PM
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If we actually make it to the stage where robots can replicate humanity well enough to replace human mothers, we’ll have much bigger conflicts to worry about than conflicts about gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 07:30 PM
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Doesn’t sound like she’s into you, but you might be able to get a hookup out of this if she’s bored and/or horny enough. Invite her for snacks and movies at your place, or a cheap happy hour near your house/apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 07:02 PM
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I wonder if wealthier or poorer men tend to have more children 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 08:54 PM
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No. Things that bring happiness: Friendship, family, sense of purpose, fulfillment. These cannot be purchased. Things that cause unhappiness: Hunger, financial stress, chronic illnesses, living in a bad neighborhood, etc. These can be avoided if you have the cash to get rid of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:52 PM
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The way I view it, money can remove things that cause unhappiness, but it can’t inherently give you happiness in itself. It does, however, put happiness within much closer reach- you can travel, afford the best doctors and therapists, engage in a wider range of hobbies, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 04:56 PM
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You could order ED meds from one of those online doctors? I’ve read some posts from people who had similar issues to yours, and it helped them cut through the psychological aspect of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 04:54 PM
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Why the change?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:17 AM
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Q4 single people: How many social outings would you say you have per week? This can include scheduled time to meet up with friends, clubs/classes where a significant amount of time is spent socializing, or things like work happy hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 11:57 PM
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Q4 Women who have seen Challengers: Which of the guys did you find more appealing?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:11 PM
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Not a dealbreaker. Somebody’s gotta do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 08:42 PM
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I kinda think a productive career, or just a productive output in general will make most men happy though. Really? A lifetime of excel spreadsheets and meetings that could have been emails will make most men happy? Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 07:36 AM
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Gotta be Trader Joe’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 12:05 AM
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The demark line is wherever you want it to be. You should have the exclusivity talk as soon as you know you want to be exclusive; if the other person isn’t on the same page, they’re probably not the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 12:04 AM
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There’s an employee at my local grocery store who I’ve built up a rapport with; we spend some time talking almost every time we see each other there. I’d like to test the waters to see if there’s any potential there, but I also don’t want to make her uncomfortable in the event that she’s not interested 🤔. I can’t think of a good way to do this, so I’ll probably let the matter lie. But if any of y’all have ideas, I would appreciate them!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 11:36 PM
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There are plenty of people in this thread talking about the implications of Butker’s speech for women, so I’m going to approach things from a different angle- when he specifies that women in particular have been sold a lie about a career making them happy, what is he implying about men? There’s a quote I quite like: “If gender roles confine women to the home, they exile men from it.” The idea that men are supposed to be strong, stoic killing machines devoid of vulnerability or tenderness is a de…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:34 PM
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True joy and fulfillment comes from relationships, not work. Family, not clocking in and clocking out. Well, yeah, but why is this a gender specific thing? Ask any man: “Would you rather work overtime at the office, or go home and play with your kids?” Any man with a healthy relationship with his family is going to pick the latter option. And yet, us men have the hustle culture forced down our throats. Society lied to us all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:24 PM
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Really? You’ll see a few terminally online folks who make snarky comments about homemakers, but nearly all feminists agree that the point of feminism is that the women who want to stay home can have that option, and those who would prefer not to don’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:30 PM
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Depends on the person and the circumstances. There’s a huge difference between “going on 2-3 dates with someone you like, but exploring other options just to be sure” and “continuing to sleep around on someone you’ve known for several months and have introduced to friends”.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:32 AM
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You’re not exclusive until you have the talk about exclusivity. However, you should consider that if you’re thinking of getting serious with someone, sleeping around in the pre-exclusivity phase will likely hurt their feelings. That being said, if exclusivity is what you want, you should speak up about it ASAP. If the other person responds to your request for exclusivity with anything other than a “Absolutely!”, then you should probably keep looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:10 AM
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My boilerplate definition of “Chad” is “any man who can easily and consistently pull attractive women, without the women expecting anything (money, favors, gifts, etc) in return”. Chad can be rich or poor, tall or average height (or more rarely below average height), and of any race/ethnicity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:34 AM
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There are plenty of broke dudes who have done the exact same thing, and their wives stayed with them too. Women tend to stay in bad situations longer than men do; it’s an unfortunate fact of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:56 AM
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Cinematography was great, and there’s one incredible scene with Jesse Plemons, but massive waste of the setting. I know the director has been out arguing that the causes or background of the war aren’t the point of the movie, but I don’t see the point of making a movie about a second American civil war when the plot could have been set during literally any real-life war from history. 5/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 02:49 AM
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If you’re just looking for casual, it’s actually good when a girl talks you up to their friends. Play your cards right, and her whole crew will come knocking for a taste sooner or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:08 PM
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It’s not easy. And there’s no one solution for neuroticism. Maybe medication will help some people. Maybe therapy will help others. It all depends on what the root cause of the neuroticism is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:53 AM
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Sometimes people are unreasonable, unfortunately. Sad truth of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:34 PM
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Indeed. People would be surprised how much they can accomplish if they can get their overthinking under control.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:05 PM
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It doesn’t, in the same way that buying a raffle ticket doesn’t entitle you to the prize. If you don’t like your odds or the cost of entering the raffle is too high, just don’t buy a ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:28 PM
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Disagree based on experience. I’ve had sex with a number of women after using the opening line “Can I buy you a drink?” Could I have pulled these women without it? Maybe. But it certainly helped- one of these women said she thought it was sexy that I “treated her like a lady”, citing me buying her a drink as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:25 PM
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Whether we “should” or not is unimportant; The real question is whether or not it will help a guy get what he wants in the situation (be that a hookup, a number, etc), to which the answer is “Sometimes”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 10:20 PM
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I love living in a college town. At the end of the school year, you can snatch up a ton of nice stuff for cheap from the students moving out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:29 PM
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You can debate the benefits/drawbacks of each approach, but I don’t think it’s unethical to date around as long as you’re honest about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:24 PM
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Probably speech impediment. I’ll be the strong silent type.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:44 AM
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Google “BBL Drizzy” if you want a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:44 AM
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I feel like if a BBL is done well, you can’t even tell that it happened. So probably that one, if I can afford Drake-quality plastic surgeons.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:25 AM
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Usually they do shave. Nose rings of varying sizes are common, as are mental problems (though I think there are probably just as many people with mental problems among the general population; these folks just don’t care to hide them).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:38 AM
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People who work with middle schoolers are the bravest souls I know. 12-14 year olds are demons 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:31 AM
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From what I’ve observed, a lot of bisexual dudes clean up with the alt/hipster set. It actually gives them an advantage with a lot of girls in those environments. What part of the country do you live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:30 AM
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A good friend of mine is the sort who will fall in love with literally any guy who gives her enough praise/attention. It’s a real problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:21 AM
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Q4W: Which of these bears would you choose to go on a date with, if you had to pick one? Yogi (Yogi Bear) Po (Kung Fu Panda) Fozzie Bear (The Muppets) Paddington (Paddington Bear)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:18 AM
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Well, that’s because you’re a good person (or at least from what I can tell, you seem like a good person). Trump, from what I can tell, is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:57 AM
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Why make amends? His diehard fans love him precisely because he doesn’t apologize. He’s what they all wish they could be- a person who says and does whatever they feel like, and tells anyone who complains to cry harder- but he actually has the money and power to get away with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:52 AM
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If they know they can do better, they usually do insta break up. If they’re not sure, they’ll stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:46 PM
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That’s what I’m saying. For his behavior to have changed, he has to have changed. Based on your earlier comment about him neglecting to mention two of the three times he’s cheated, it doesn’t sound like he has.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:09 PM
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Personally, I don’t subscribe to the belief “Once a cheater, always a cheater”, but I also think that if you’re going to give a former cheater a chance, there needs to be a measurable difference in their lifestyle and psychology (i.e. guy I knew was a raging alcoholic and total shitbag who cheated left and right, but got a lot better once he went sober and sought help for his issues). Doctors live stressful lives. What’s he going to do when things get hectic at work again?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:03 PM
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Just a friend. The majority of my friends are women, actually- idk why.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:00 PM
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These are all going to be general statements; there are exceptions to any rule, and plenty of possible extenuating circumstances. Partners of +5 years not wanting to propose/get married despite initially agreeing on it They’re wondering “Can I do better?” and will either propose or leave once they figure out the answer to this question. Guys on dating apps lying about their intentions, claiming they want relationships but then seeing multiple women and not liking 'labels' Dishonest guys will say…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:58 PM
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It’s just the one thankfully, but it’s a few things. The two big ones: Repeatedly bailing on plans we’ve made at the last minute (I realize that life happens, and we all have to do this sometimes, but nobody else I know does it to this degree). She even does it sometimes when she’s the one who originally suggested the plans! Frequently asking for my advice/perspective on situations, and then ignoring me when I ask for advice/perspective on mine. I’ve decided to take a step back for the time bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:39 PM
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Any of y’all ever come to the realization that a good friend of yours hasn’t been a particularly good friend to you? I’m experiencing that now- annoying feeling, but I’m trying to put myself first more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:26 PM
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For real. Whatever someone’s kink is, there’s probably hundreds of hours of it for free on the internet somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:21 PM
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Definitely 1. Nothing wrong with a simple life, as long as you have friends and hobbies to give it color.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:17 PM
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In addition to the aggressive/violent dudes, the time/expense it takes to live up to female beauty standards. You may counter by saying that the guys have to pay for dates, but the true “Chads” I’ve seen only needed to buy a bottle of grocery store wine and a Netflix subscription to pull great looking women. Sometimes not even that!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:41 PM
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The training/restrictions idols are subject to is downright deranged. I don’t know how they manage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:21 AM
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Sounds like a great night (for some of y’all)!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:19 AM
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Service industry makes sense. I wonder if I’m just hanging out in the wrong places 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 11:39 PM
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Where are you meeting these women at? I get a decent amount of female attention, but not much from older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 11:15 PM
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Do you wish that guys tried to hit on you more often? Or do you prefer being left to your own devices?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:36 PM
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All women are looking for some level and combination of attractive and successful. You can be a 3/10 guy with a yacht or 9/10 guy making 50k/yr most girls will find both acceptable for boyfriend. Girls can tend more to successful or hot as preference. This is a good point; I like to think of it as a “points system”. Everyone has a certain amount of “points” the other person needs to bring to the table to be considered for a hookup/FWB/relationship. I view the categories you can get points in as …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:25 PM
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Agree with most of your points, but: Dating is exponentially harder for men than women at all levels of attractiveness. I think at the highest levels of attractiveness, men definitely have it easier than women. I’ve known a few of these guys, and they got all the dating benefits that attractive women receive (quality people throwing themselves at you, your pick of the litter if you want casual, etc), without any of the downsides of being a woman in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:19 PM
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its not like i can just choose what to believe in bc its literally in the bible Yes you can 😂. Why do you think there are 300 different denominations? And besides, none of the Christians I know actually take Genesis as anything more than allegory.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:33 PM
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It’s bad for you in the same way that alcohol is bad for you. It can be fine and even fun in moderation, but it’s also easy for it to become a major problem if you aren’t careful. I stopped watching porn a few years back.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:23 PM
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Maybe talk to some of your friends who are around the level of involvement you’re thinking of? See what they do, and go to church with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:19 PM
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Q4A (I’ve asked this before, but there are lots of new folks around): What’s the stupidest thing you’ve done because you were horny and/or trying to impress a potential partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:16 PM
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Promiscuity can be affected by a ton of different factors. Parental relationships are one of them, but others include: Certain personality disorders Substance abuse issues (as you mentioned) Growing up in a very sexually open culture or environment And more. There’s no singular indicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:04 PM
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I don’t think music genres really “die”; they just get absorbed into other genres.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:47 PM
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I mean, I’d date a girl who was taller than me no question. Let’s have some D1 babies!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:42 PM
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I’ll go for the Fujoshi. Hygienic, not a pedophile, no serial killer tendencies, and I can bring her around family and friends (even if she does write nasty fanfiction about them later).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:39 PM
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According to Google, the median adult female black bear is 130 pounds. Seems normal enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:35 PM
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For me, having an exclusive relationship is the first step to settling down. I’m not going to commit myself to dating one person unless I know there’s a possibility of marriage (though I don’t need to know for sure right away). I imagine many men and women feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:06 PM
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They think the stability and comfort of a relationship would be nice, but either don’t like their current options, don’t feel emotionally ready for the hard work or relationships, or don’t want to settle down yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:02 PM
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Q4 Bears: Would you rather be stuck in the woods with a man or a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 06:41 PM
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Manifesting that it doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:56 PM
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Maybe the bear discourse should get a special megathread like n-count discussion has 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:44 PM
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One of the early lessons I learned from being autistic is that people (regardless of gender) don’t say what they really mean all that often.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:14 PM
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That’s where the quote is from 😂. Glad someone recognized!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:11 PM
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I actually agree for the most part. On airplanes, they always tell you in the event of an evacuation to put your own oxygen mask on before assisting other people. In the same way, you should help others where you can, but constantly setting yourself on fire to keep other people warm is counterproductive. In addition, the healthier, wealthier, and more skilled you get, the more effective you’ll be at inspiring, uplifting, and supporting the people you care about. A paraphrased quote I really like…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:08 PM
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it has become incredibly taboo to group and judge people based on pretty much anything 😂😂😂 No it hasn’t. Look at the state of the Republican Party nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:00 PM
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I’m a Black dude in America; plenty of folks see me that way regardless. I just live my life and ignore the idiots who hold that viewpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:42 PM
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People are taking the Man vs Bear discourse way too seriously. The whole thing started as a woman saying “Hey, it can be scary to be a woman in society, because there are a lot of bad dudes out there” in a tongue-in-cheek way. There’s no real answer to the question because one can manipulate any number of the variables in that situation to make one choice preferable to the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:37 PM
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If I say lose weight, get a good haircut, and learn to dress properly, I’ll get downvoted to oblivion and called inconsiderate. This is probably the most common advice I see on dating subreddits 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 08:01 PM
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Type the word “Challengers” into the twitter search bar. You’ll see that women appreciate the male body quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:12 PM
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Did you go to a dentist, or use an at home whitening product?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:10 PM
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Maybe incorporate some relationship development time into your daily routine? Set aside an hour or two each day for talking on the phone, having dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in a while, or attending a social activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:56 PM
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Some of the big ones: Not talking about problems in my relationship that I haven’t first spoken to my partner about. Immediately shutting down comments or lines of questioning that I have reason to think would make my partner uncomfortable. Not discussing our sex life (obviously there are certain exceptions to this). But as a general rule, I try to think “If my partner was doing X behavior with someone else, would I be bothered?” And if the answer is yes, then I won’t do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:03 PM
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I have relationships with women who are supportive and listen to my problems, so it’d be hypocritical of me to take issue with her doing the same. That being said, there are clear boundaries I set with those women if I’m in a relationship at the moment, and I would expect my partner to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:56 PM
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You should check out the Contrapoints video “Twilight”. Gives a very good explanation of why some women find Fifty Shades-style romance stories appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:24 PM
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Q4 unmarried people without kids: How “structured” would you say your days are? Do you operate on a fixed schedule outside of work, or do you generally go with the flow?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:22 PM
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The quote “Any man who must say ‘I am the king’ is no true king” comes to mind here. If you’re truly a high value guy, you don’t need to constantly hype yourself up to everyone. They’ll see your fitness, wealth, wisdom, and overall awesome lifestyle for themselves and come to that conclusion on their own. No narcissism required.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:42 PM
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Inspired by me rewatching a bit this afternoon, Q4W who have seen Succession: You have to choose one of Kendall, Roman, Tom, or Greg to be in a relationship with. Who’s your pick?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:31 PM
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It certainly did happen in history, but I also question whether the peasant girl was actually in any position to refuse the king.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:59 PM
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I think what this whole thing is actually talking about is in-group bias, which is certainly real and something that we could all do to work on. People naturally have an easier time sympathizing with people who are similar to them- men will have an easier time sympathizing with men, and women with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:54 PM
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I wanna be a solid family man in a decade or so, and I’d rather not bring any villainous behavior into that scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:15 AM
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Should I go into a villain era now that I’m single again? I’m 24 and not getting any younger, so I’m not sure how many more chances for a proper villain era I’ll have. Once you hit 29 or so, it’s just kinda sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:13 AM
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I believe in you, comrade. Those 4s will have their Stacy friends seething with jealousy when they tell them about the 6’4 dude they hooked up last night.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:11 AM
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I don’t necessarily enjoy the act itself, but knowing that I’m making my partner feel good is a big turn-on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:06 AM
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I have to say, my biggest pet peeve is people cancelling things at the last minute. Like, I get that sometimes things come up, and we all have situations like that now and then. But I’m talking about when people knew very well that they might have to bail at the last minute the whole time, and still declined to say anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:58 AM
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I actually sold my car. My office, gym, grocery store, library, and movie theater are all within a 5 minute walk from me, and I live right next to my city’s main nightlife district, so paying for parking, insurance, etc seemed wasteful. Most girls I’ve dated don’t care, but the ones that do are more than welcome to roll with Ray-Ray in his 2007 Camry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:31 AM
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unless you have a car [Laughs in walkable city]
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:16 AM
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She’s attractive, yeah. I get why some people might not be feeling her though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:13 AM
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Wasn’t a total outcast, but didn’t have a lot of friends either during middle/high school. When I got to college though, I would actually say I got pretty popular through a combination of concerted effort to develop my social skills and frequently hosting pregames for parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:15 AM
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In that case, you probably don’t have too much to worry about. Even if you come on a bit strong at first, the girls will forget all about that if you can make them feel comfortable during the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:43 AM
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Practice smiling and asking questions. Most women are going to be at least a little apprehensive with men they don’t know, but having a smile on your face does help ease some of that. And everyone loves talking about themselves, so asking questions (either relevant to the situation or about them in general) is helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:39 AM
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I really wanna be an early morning gym person, but I’m a night owl by nature, so it’s hard 😭.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:34 AM
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I mean, how are we defining ethnicity here? A person from a particular Balkan country would likely take umbrage to the idea that they are the same as as someone from a different Balkan country. Likewise, most Irish people probably don’t consider themselves to be the same as the English.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:32 AM
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Edit: Misunderstood the question; I’d probably still go with white American man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:28 AM
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Probably less on average. I like to think I’m pretty funny, and I have a really deep voice that a lot of girls seem to like. Neither of these characteristics can be fully demonstrated on online dating, so I tend to do a bit better irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 11:20 PM
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How are actual Frenchmen competing against all the young African and Mahgrabs wandering around in all major French cities? Do all the women there have their "black" phase. Aw, are we scaring you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 08:32 PM
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The point she’s making is that TERFs do hate men, and most feminists dislike TERFs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:18 PM
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There’s a long and storied history of gorgeous women dating dudes who are decidedly “meh”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:07 PM
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Go on Twitter and search the term “Baby Momma” or “Baby Daddy”. You’ll quickly find out whether or not it’s possible for poor men to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:04 PM
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Well, your options are “stand and fight” or “roll over and die”. The choice is yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:28 PM
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Why does every dude here think every attractive man is a cartoon villain They probably ran into me and my boys. Check out our Wikipedia page!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:26 PM
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If it’s something important to you, you should keep failing until one day you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:15 PM
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Indeed, the millionaires and billionaires are pulling lots, I’m sure. Plenty of upper middle class, middle class, working class, and lower class folks are pulling too. Just because you draw a shitty hand doesn’t mean you should just resign yourself to defeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:07 PM
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Indeed. If I’m considering dating a girl seriously, I want to be her #1 choice by a wide margin. If she has to carefully weigh the pros and cons of me vs. some other guy, I’ll make the choice easy- the other guy can have her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:59 PM
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Like they’ll talk about the importance of having a traditionally masculine man or an “alpha” male but their bf/husband looks and acts like an oofy-doofy twink. Once again, there’s often a big difference between what women say their standards are and what they actually are. Plenty of women will say they only want 6’0+ dudes with a prestigious career, but then post gushy instagram stories with the most 5’7 cashier you’ve ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:55 PM
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Indeed. Would you be pulling more if you were a bit taller, a bit wealthier, a bit stronger, a bit more handsome? Of course. But every day there are men who are short, men who are poor, men who are skinny, and men who look like Ninja Turtles who go on dates, have sex, and fall in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:52 PM
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Hotpot is fantastic. I need to get some friends together for it soon 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:13 AM
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Fair enough; is this info self-reported, or did you measure?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:24 PM
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I actually had a similar situation happen a week or so ago; would be curious to get folks’ perspective on this, especially the ladies’. A female friend of mine (who we’ll call Alice), told me while a few of us were out drinking that a lot of her friends thought I was attractive, including a girl named Bee. When she told me this, I asked if it would be alright if I talked to Bee; Alice said she “wasn’t the jealous type” and would be alright with it. Alice had spent a significant amount of time ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:30 PM
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I’ll be the first one to clown on the willfully miserable around here, but I do have sympathy for them. It’s harder to go against social programming than you think, especially if you come from an environment where such programming is emphasized and (sometimes) enforced.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:57 PM
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There is also entire swathes of women who are entirely invisible to men just like the men here are to women. Irl? Sure. But most of my friends are women (of varying levels of attractiveness), and most of them have used or are currently on dating apps. They’ve got lots of complaints about them, but one that I’ve never heard is “I’m not getting matches”. Nonetheless, I agree with your overall point. I think that many of the problems with men today are the result of society not preparing them well …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:39 PM
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How many penises have you seen?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:14 PM
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You can’t help people who don’t want to be helped, unfortunately. If there’s a guy in your life who needs it, just let him know that you’re there for him if he ever wants to talk, or if he’s interested in making a change.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:02 PM
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They do in fact matter, just not as much as some guys think they do. For example, most men, if asked, would say they prefer a woman with a nice ass. However, many women with pancake booties are still successful in attracting partners. In the same way, most women would prefer a tall guy, but every day there are short men in the world who are going on dates and having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:57 PM
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It’s really shows the core of the issue when men view sex as something just so easily available to all women I don’t think it’s necessarily that quality sex is available to all women, it’s that other kinds physical and emotional intimacy are more easily available for the vast majority of women. On the physical side, while women can definitely get sex more easily, women are also far more comfortable having non-romantic physical contact with their friends. This can vary by culture (men in South Ko…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:47 PM
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Regardless of who you are or what you do, there will be some people who aren’t into how you live your life. I’d gladly date a woman like the one you described, but apparently there are some that wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:12 PM
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Ah, that one is great. Hope yall enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:58 PM
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As with most things, it depends on the people involved. In some cases, the woman was basically saying verbatim how she was feeling, and the man was being willfully obtuse. In other cases, the woman’s version of “communication” boiled down to her expecting her man to be a mind reader. It’s possible that both of these things could be true to an extent. But yes, on average, men don’t do as well with indirect communication. In a charitable reading, they may think something like “Well, she didn’t mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:54 PM
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I have a female friend who described her type as “boys who look like they’re on the brink of death”. And the kpop/e-boy aesthetic has become incredibly popular, at least with the girls in my extended social sphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:45 PM
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I think it’s a similar principle to how men talk about women getting plastic surgeries. When men say they don’t like that look, they mean that they don’t like when the surgery has been done in a way that turns the woman into a resident of the uncanny valley. Likewise, women don’t mind a guy who’s juiced, so long as he still looks more or less like a normal human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 09:48 PM
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See here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 09:05 PM
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No girl is going to find 6 inches ideal even though it's average. A six incher actually gets you pretty close to the top 20%
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:57 PM
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Eh- really depends on the person in my experience. You gotta vet your FWBs well, but if both parties are mature adults, it works just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:24 PM
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Nah, that’s clearly bait.I’m not giving her the satisfaction of getting a rise out of me. Besides, anyone who actually reads the post will probably forget about it within a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 08:22 PM
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Which women were the least forward when they wanted to hook up? Second-gen immigrants, for the most part; these are mostly South Asian and Latina (good number of East Asians too, but like I said, not much experience there). And how do class and political ideology play in? What values and ideas your culture has imparted in you affect your behavior than your skin color or facial features ever could. Women who are very progressive, for example, are often more inclined towards kinks and experimentat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:17 AM
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Depends on social mores in your area. I was raised to hold the door for every woman, regardless of what she looked like.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:35 AM
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Not OP, but also have experience with women of almost every race. These are broad generalizations, but some of the things I’ve noticed: White women tend to be much more forward than women of other races when they want to hook up with you. I’ve only been with one East Asian woman; they don’t seem to feel Black dudes all that much. C’est la vie. More women of all races seem to prefer to take the submissive role than not, but this trait seems especially pronounced with women raised in conservative …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:32 AM
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There are actually a good number of Arab Christians, as well as Muslim-raised women who have lapsed/don’t take their religion all that seriously. Depending on where you are though, there may not be many.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:23 AM
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Contra is great. Her video on Twilight actually did an incredible job of explaining the psychology behind romantic fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:57 AM
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Stacy doesn’t have a roster. She isn’t trading a G wagon for 5 Kia’s. Yes, but a Stacy who isn’t looking to settle down will take as many G Wagons as she’s offered. I’ve known beautiful women who perpetually had offers from multiple rich dudes to take them on vacations, buy them fancy dinners, and come visit them at their ski lodges. Why wouldn’t she take the lot of them if she’s able to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:14 AM
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I get the point you’re making; there are a lot of bad guys out there, and you never know which ones they are. The monsters can walk and talk just like the saints. That being said, if you choose a completely random dude, odds are that he’s just fine. Even if we assume the proportion of men that would physically harm a woman in this circumstance is something absurdly high (say, 25%), there’s a far, far higher chance of being ripped to pieces if you choose the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:17 PM
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I think Haley would actually have had a good shot if she hadn’t tried to go against Trump. Alas, she did 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:37 AM
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It’s fine; pays the bills. I don’t hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:32 AM
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I’m convinced that the first female president of the US will be a Republican. “Only Nixon could go to China” and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:30 AM
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The main avenues are usually: Mutual friends Religious or community organizations Clubs or interest groups
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:31 PM
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For the cynic in me: “Lie a Little”- Confetti. A lot of relationships are held together a series of fictions ,some large, some small) that we tell ourselves and our partners. For the optimist in me: “This Hell” - Rina Sawayama. Despite the above, we laugh and we love and we dance anyway. Let’s have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:30 PM
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Yeah; unfortunately being in a smaller town does make the dating scene a lot tougher. Still, 15 minutes isn’t too far!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:49 PM
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Do you live in a big city? I’d recommend joining a social media group for newcomers to that city. People in there are actively looking for new friends, and you’ll get to find out about social events and opportunities that will increase your chances of meeting someone naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:38 PM
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The stare and the smile are the usual standards, though unless you’re just naturally super attractive, you’re going to have to do a bit of work to get on these random chicks’ radar. Thankfully, the “work” you need to do here is just to have fun. Let’s say a guy goes into a club by himself, buys a drink, and then stands at a table by himself, bobbing his head to the music. He’s not going to have much luck. Now, if that same guy rolls in with his friends, and they’re all laughing, drinking and dan…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:15 PM
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Wait for signals pretty much always. That being said, what the signals look like can vary from woman to woman, and you should still prepare to be rejected far more often than you succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:50 PM
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Aunt Becky from Full House.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:49 PM
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I actually agree that women need higher standards. When a girl is emotionally invested in a guy, the dude can get away with almost anything. I’ve seen female friends date guys who regularly engaged in cartoonishly evil relationship behavior, and they still stayed with those guys for months, or even years. Most of these dudes were absolutely not attractive or wealthy enough to be getting away with the bullshit they would pull.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:48 PM
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Nah, can confirm that OP is correct Source: Am swag guy, currently in the middle of sipping some of dat henny and clapping dem cheeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:02 PM
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You misunderstand. I was talking to a female friend of mine the other day, and she mentioned that she didn’t end relationships until she actively disliked the guy she was seeing, not just when things aren’t going well. Guys who have options generally don’t let things get to this point; they just bounce before or very shortly after things get to Stage 3. With guys who don’t have options, however, the math is different. These guys will stay in relationships they’re not really feeling anymore, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 05:25 PM
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You’ve got it backwards. Being a politician doesn’t give you charisma; only people with charisma can be successful politicians.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:52 AM
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Spend five minutes on any social media platform; you can find plenty of women talking shit about their friends’ choice in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:59 AM
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I have no idea honestly. My first thought was that she must have had actual feelings for me but been too shy to say so, but she also told me that she was going on a date with another guy in a couple days, so idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:46 PM
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I thought that the words people say actually meant things; sue me 😭.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:42 PM
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Unfortunately not, but I wish it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:41 PM
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I hooked up with a girl I know a couple days ago; she told me almost verbatim that she didn’t want anything serious with me. She also mentioned that a lot of her friends found me attractive, noting one in particular. I asked her if it would be alright if I talked to the friend she mentioned; she said that she wasn’t the jealous type, and that she would be okay with it. So yesterday, I hit up the friend. Arrested Development Narrator Voice: She was the jealous type, and she was not okay with it. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:59 AM
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Q4 People who enjoy casual sex: If you were planning to hook up with someone, would it bother you if you found out that they had previously hooked up with other people in your main friend group? Would you go through with the hookup?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:31 PM
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They probably have. I can only speak to my experiences with my own generation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:14 PM
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The majority of my friends are women. There are girls out there who do take advantage of their male friends of course, but whenever that’s happened to me, I simply demoted the offender to “acquaintance”. Just don’t do anything for your female friends that you wouldn’t do if the request were coming from a male friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:11 PM
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Truth is that you can’t always distinguish. One girl’s being nice is another girl’s being extremely forward, and vice verse. That being said, the main indicators I look for are: 1) Unnecessary touching. 2) Often finding reasons for the two of you to hang out one-on-one. 3) Taking an inordinate amount of interest in your love life. 4) She only really does items 1-3 with you, and not with other guys in your social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:09 PM
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Go talk to some folks on a college campus. Definitely not the only order of operations, but it is a situation that happens fairly often.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 02:20 PM
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Not sure if it’s a majority, but it’s definitely common. A joke I’ve heard a few times: The Bases of Gen Z Dating 1st Base: Hooking Up 2nd Base: Discussing Childhood Trauma 3rd Base: Going to a public place together Home Plate: Being in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 02:28 AM
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I’m 5’10/5’11 (depending on if you want to round up or down), which according to some folks on here makes me short. I knew a girl who was 6’3 in college; definitely would have asked her on a date if she’d been single
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:28 PM
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Q4A 30 and older: What was the most important lesson you learned in your 20s?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:25 PM
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I’m interpreting this to mean “kinky, but not super obvious about it”. About 25%, based on the girls I’ve been with. About half had one notable kink or another, and about half of those you probably never would have expected it. I think that nearly all men can learn to adapt to meet their partner’s sexual preferences, but I’d say that about a third of men are naturally inclined that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:23 PM
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You’re in high school; most folks your age aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:03 PM
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Those things do happen, but generalizing a population of 1.5 billion people isn’t a great look.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:14 PM
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Do you think that the only degrees that have value are STEM degrees?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:49 PM
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I’m autistic; been pretty successful with women so far. A few notes: The more fit/well-dressed we become, the more likely it is we’ll be viewed as “quirky goofballs” rather than “creepy weirdos” Practice is key. Talk to as many people as you can: Men, women, young, old, whoever. Keep track of how your interactions go. If you find that an interaction didn’t go the way you wanted to, see if you can figure out why not, and apply the lessons you learn in the further. However, the most important note…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 02:55 AM
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The person I was talking with sounded sincere, but you never know. Anyway, I generally agree with you- social media has increased the pressure on both men and women to aspire to unrealistic standards (see also the girls giving themselves eating disorders and high school boys using steroids). The only caveat I’d add is that average women looking for casual sex have an advantage in that top tier guys will often sleep with them (Whether they can get commitment from the guys is another story, but I …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:24 PM
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Men are exposed to precisely the same stimulus in addition to porn, which is a never-ending supply of increasingly depraved acts men now expect as standard in bed. You actually see this quite frequently on this sub. Dudes are really out here unironically calling Zendaya and Emma Stone “mid”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:49 PM
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They will dress up for events with women only because they have to compete with these bitches. Compete for the men who aren’t there?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:09 AM
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They can do it for either reason, or both at once. Women still frequently get dressed up for events that will only have women in attendance. But in the context of this post, we’re discussing the former case (wearing eye-catching outfits for the primary purpose of drawing men in).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:05 AM
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See the word “almost”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 07:48 AM
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My prior reply misinterpreted what you were saying. I mostly agree- you can look as good as you want, but nobody respects or is attracted to a pushover, even a handsome one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:13 AM
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Assuming that to be true, how should a guy who is genuinely nice and doesn't want to exploit people's insecurities or make people feel bad go about being less nice without coming across as contrived or feeling like an asshole? There’s a happy medium here. Let’s walk through these one by one. By disagreeing just for the sake of it? You shouldn’t disagree just for the sake of it, but you should be willing to voice your disagreement when you disagree. Stand up for yourself and your beliefs. By teas…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:00 AM
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Like I said, being a peasant of either gender was a pretty miserable time. Nonetheless, a male peasant on average had much more opportunity to change his circumstances (though to what degree depends on where/when we’re talking about).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:09 AM
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From the Wikipedia page “Women in Nazi Germany”, which contains links to a variety of scholarship: Historian Wendy Lower makes it clear that while "Women were not a majority of those who voted for Hitler...In the presidential election of March 1932...26.5% [of German women voted] for Hitler. In the 1931 September elections, 3 million women voted for NSDAP candidates, almost half of the total of 6.5 million votes cast for the NSDAP."[17] In terms of voting patterns however, a higher proportion of…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 07:38 AM
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You do realize that a higher percentage of men voted for Nazis in that election than women, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:51 AM
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Might makes right was indeed the law of the land in most cases. However, history is full of examples about why “Might Makes Right” isn’t a credo we ought to follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:46 AM
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I mean, how would you define advantage? I like to think I’m fairly well-read in history, and there aren’t many places/periods of time where I would have preferred to be a woman instead of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:41 AM
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Plenty of people use the word “oppression” to describe men’s circumstances. See the rhetoric used by any left-populist political party in history or in the modern era. You can be oppressed because of your social class, you can be oppressed because of your gender, you can be oppressed because of your race/language/religion. You can be oppressed because of more than one of the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:21 AM
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Same was true for commoners regardless of gender tbh until monarchies became obsolete in mid-late 19th century and multiple revolutions happened. This is true, but if you look at the timeline of when various groups got the franchise/ability to run for office, common men almost invariably got those rights long before women did.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:17 AM
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When feminists say they were oppressed throughout human history, the obvious implication is that men were not oppressed. It really isn’t. There are multiple types of oppression. Let’s look at America right after the Revolution, for example. You might not be able to vote because you didn’t have enough money to meet the property requirement. You might not be able to own property anyway because you were a woman. However, in the first case, a man could potentially scrounge up enough money to buy pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:10 AM
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In most societies, women were either mostly or completely locked out of the political sphere. It wasn’t until the mid-1800s that some places started giving women the right to vote, and most women had to wait much longer than that. Some women did end up puppeteering their sons or husbands from behind the scenes (Edith Wilson is a particularly interesting example of this), and a handful were even able to wield power in their own right (Zenobia, Maria Theresa, and Dowager Cixi come to mind), but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:48 AM
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Q4A: What’s the earliest you would consider moving in with a romantic partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 07:12 PM
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This is honestly lowkey inspiring. I’ll take it!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:47 PM
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How the fuck do I manage this. Narcissists can't really change right? I’m not well-read on the subject, but this article from Psychology Today points out that while true narcissists do exist and generally have a much harder road to changing than most people, there are many other mental disorders that can cause one to engage in narcissistic behavior- substance abuse, bipolar, borderline, among others. Do you know if your friend was clinically diagnosed with narcissism? In general though, I’m a fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:28 PM
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These charts are honestly insane (both for men and for women). Several of the dudes in the 6.5/7 rows look better than the guys in the 9/9.5 row.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 09:55 PM
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It’s almost as if a group of 40 million+ people could have a wide variety of opinions about things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:49 PM
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There are a handful of Candace Owens types out there, but they’re a thankfully rare breed. Conservative Latinas and conservative Asian women can be just as racist as white folks, oftentimes even more so.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:05 PM
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Well, I live in America, so I can speak from experience. Some liberal white women have their own baggage, but most are fine. And there’s plenty of liberal non-white women for me to date as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:55 PM
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If you can live your life free of the worry that something the government does will have a severe negative impact on your ability to be content (as with all of the groups I mentioned above and more), then yes, you are privileged.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:31 AM
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Well, good for you and your friends for being privileged enough to not have your livelihood affected by anything. I unfortunately have friends who are LGBT, who are poor, who may need an abortion/birth control at some point, who enjoy marijuana, who are disabled, who are in unions, who are raising children, who face high pharmaceutical prices, who are in the military, who would like to be able to buy homes one day, and who exist under a variety of other circumstances not mentioned above. All of …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:52 AM
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And none of the rights or livelihoods of any of the handful of people you care about could be affected by any government policy? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:05 AM
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Like I said, depends on who you are. If you belong to certain groups, the powers that be may decide that they don’t like your circle or that your circle is a convenient scapegoat for the country’s problems. Consider Muslims in India under BJP rule, LGBT people in states where the legislature isn’t too keen on them, or union workers in states with legislatures that hate unions. Edit: Or for an even broader example, take marijuana. There are politicians that want to fully legalize it and not lock …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:57 AM
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Depending on who you are and where you are, politics can have a very high likelihood of affecting your ability to enjoy your time leisurely with someone on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:07 AM
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I’m curious- from your perspective, how does the average Russian feel about the war in Ukraine, and about Putin in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:45 AM
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I prefer liberal women. The conservative ones are often kinda racist, kinda homophobic, or both. As a Black guy whose social circle is ~40% LGBT, these are important considerations. That’s not to say my potential partners need to 100% agree with me politically- there are just certain core values I don’t think I could compromise on in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:36 AM
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BMI guy? Is that you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 11:53 PM
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I surprised past girlfriends with flowers, cookies, stuffed animals, etc about once a month. Never spent too much on them unless it was for something like a birthday though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 10:44 PM
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There's one guy I would possibly give another chance to Out of curiosity, did your relationships besides this one end badly?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 10:33 PM
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Your original post did specify virgin men in particular talking about virgin women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:12 AM
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Virgin man wants to date another virgin - creepy shallow vile misogynistic degenerate basement dwelling murderous psychopathic controlling manipulative in*el pedo rapist Do people actually say this? I feel like if a guy said “I’m personally waiting for marriage to have sex, and I’d prefer to date girls who share the same values as me”, very few people would complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:58 AM
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Well, yeah. Nothing funny or dramatic about watching a wedding where everything goes the way that it’s supposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:21 AM
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Nothing guarantees success, mon ami. It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:23 AM
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If they’re seriously disabled/disfigured in a way that prevents them from interacting with normal society. Even then, look at the Republican candidate for the Nevada senate race (Sam Brown). His wife met him after his accident.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:28 AM
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Do you look like a fun person to hang out with? Are you funny? Do you have a good job? Are you religious? (For women looking for a guy who shares their faith) Are you physically fit? There are plenty of others, but those are some big ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:01 AM
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Could you drop the link to the study? Would love to take a look!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 11:43 PM
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I try to only get into serious relationships with people I think have marriage potential. I don’t have to know right away, but as soon as I know the person isn’t someone I want to marry, I walk. I think 3 years is a good timetable to start seriously discussing marriage though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:24 PM
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Why not? 5’7 is a hurdle for sure, but it’s not a death sentence if you’ve got good photos, a solid profile, and some other desirable qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:22 PM
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For unplanned hookups/planned hookups where she hasn’t gotten tested recently: Condoms For planned hookups/relationships: Whatever birth control she normally uses is fine, or condoms if she’s not on any.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 09:39 PM
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He did have a match rate of 10% (pretty high for a guy), so he probably is fairly handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:58 AM
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It isn’t even necessarily a safety issue (though it sometimes is a safety issue), it’s a “I’m not really feeling this guy and I need a polite excuse to leave” issue. If a girl at the club is legitimately into you, she’s not going to allow her friend to cockblock her. For example, I was talking to this girl at the bar a while back. Conversation was going great, when all of a sudden her friend came up, tapped her on the shoulder, and whispered something. The girl whispered something back to her fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:47 AM
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I don’t think this take is particularly jaded. Most women don’t like the majority of men; that’s simply a fact. As a guy, it’s in your best interest to learn not to take rejection too personally. Yeah, it’ll always sting a bit, but you shouldn’t let that stop you from picking up and moving on quickly when you get shot down.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:41 AM
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On a side note, that dude’s date-to-sex conversion rate is insane. The fact that 70% of his dates ended in sex must mean he’s got some god-tier rizz irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 11:44 PM
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As usual, I suggest that men think of approaching women like playing baseball. A guy who can get a hit 3 times out of 10 is doing quite well. Even the very best guys, the true cream of the crop, are going to strike out more often than they succeed. And that’s fine. You’ll always get another chance to step up to the plate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 11:32 PM
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The fact is, if he just hears "be yourself" he's going to do the same, and "be your best self" is going to lead to longer gooning. A more explanatory (albeit less concise) version of my earlier suggestion would be “Be the version of yourself that will allow you to live the sort of life you want”. If the guy is 100% satisfied with his fanfiction and porn and doesn’t feel the need for a partner, then he’s doing just fine; no need for change. But if he wants a partner, then yeah, he’ll need to do s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:44 PM
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Like, who's to say if the Naruto fan would be happier if he spent time writing fanfiction and rubbing it out to rule34 of his show I mean, if he genuinely feels fulfilled doing that, more power to him. But I think that for (most) people, engaging with the world in a meaningful way instead of simply consuming is a necessary component of happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:04 PM
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I prefer to replace “Just be yourself” with “Just be the best possible version of yourself”. You don’t have to sacrifice your hobbies, beliefs, goals, or feelings; you just have to present them well. For example, let’s say a guy is a really big fan of a particular anime, say Naruto. If this guy just sits in his apartment all day and watches cartoons, he’s not going to get very many dates. However, if he starts getting fit while using the Naruto soundtrack as workout music, learning to draw his f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 07:29 PM
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I’d semi-agree, but I think that being good at conversation and one-on-one interactions can be just as useful in the short-term as the long term. People, as a general rule, want to feel listened to, and often feel like others don’t appreciate them for the things they want to be appreciated for. If you can show a girl that you’re listening to her and can see her the way that she wants to be seen, you’re already halfway to the goal line.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 07:21 PM
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😂 Speak for yourself then. I’m progressive on most issues, and while I can personally testify to how certain leftists will goad each other into assuming stupid positions, the vast majority aren’t like that (and are generally a lot more intellectually honest than their counterparts on the far right). If you don’t believe me, go ask some of your progressive contacts the question I put in my earlier comment; see what kind of responses you get.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:39 PM
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You don’t personally know very many progressives, do you 🤔?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:33 PM
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Sure, there are people like that out there. You can cherry pick examples of pretty much any view among a population once it becomes large enough. If you asked 100 progressives “All else being equal, is a child better off with two loving parents than a child with just one parent?”, I can’t imagine that very many would answer “No”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:29 PM
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I went to a university known for being incredibly liberal; I rarely ever heard anyone say anything bad about two parent households.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:15 PM
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The number’s already 100%; our ancestors were a bunch of bloodthirsty bastards. But I digress. Plenty of stand up guys have lots of kids, and plenty of dickheads don’t want kids at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:37 PM
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If you have to spend half your life working your ass off to be successful, you’re probably not as intelligent as you think you are. “Work smarter, not harder”, is an adage for a reason. But I digress. Decisiveness and confidence are things that can be learned, and while the dumb jocks you mentioned may have been lacking in brains, being exceptional in every area except one is still more than enough to do very well with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:35 PM
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I’m a Christian; I say just go to a few churches and see which message/congregation you seem to vibe the best with. Or ask your churchgoing friends if you can tag along with them; maybe one of their churches will be a good fit for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:31 PM
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We’re strongly encouraged by our biology, but our superego gets just as much of a say as our Id does. Imagine 100 married men who are approached in a bar by a gorgeous woman who wants to sleep with them; let’s say for the purpose of this exercise that they know for a fact there’s no chance of their wives finding out. The animal part of the brain says “Hell yeah! Let’s fucking go!” Sure, some of the men will listen to their Id and sleep with the woman, but plenty of others will decline, choosing …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:25 PM
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The evolution of our brain hasn’t really kept pace with the developments of modern society however. There are many things our brain drives us to do that were helpful for hunter-gatherer tribes, but are detrimental in the modern world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:16 PM
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Intelligence in itself isn’t a desirable trait, but a smart guy can acquire success, power, and money significantly easier than a guy who isn’t as intelligent (assuming the dumb guy doesn’t have generational wealth and status to fall back on).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:12 PM
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Not really, no. Usually if you can tell that a woman got work done, the work was not done very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:50 PM
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Try ordering a meal service like Factor or CookUnity to help offset the cooking planning/prep time. It’s a bit pricey, but you can get the cost down by abusing the welcome discount system.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:40 PM
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Lol- charge him a dollar per word.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 12:24 AM
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You’re ambitious and you’ve got an interesting, unique hobby. If you’re at least passable-looking and can hold a conversation, that’s a recipe for a lot of female interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:09 PM
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How much work would it be on your part?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:07 PM
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Well yeah- if you’re willing to change core aspects of who you are to appease others, then yes, anyone can become high value for anyone. However, most people prefer someone who shares their natural inclinations rather than someone who shapeshifts into whatever they think the other person will like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:05 PM
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Think of the ideal man: perfect height, perfect body, kind, funny, intelligent, charismatic, good at everything he tries. There’s a subset of women who would not want to date him because there’s a specific trait they’re looking for that he doesn’t have, or because they don’t have any hobbies or interests in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:53 PM
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If you’re using the word “Value” to mean “Value as a Romantic Partner”, then yes, I suppose they’re low value. But I think people can have all sorts of value besides dating potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:48 PM
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You do realize that you don’t have to go chase the lizard if you don’t want to right? Even so, doing favors for one another is a part of friendship. You get the lizard out of her house, and maybe she snags you an invite to a party with lots of cute girls in attendance. If you find that your efforts aren’t being reciprocated, you can simply demote the person from friend to acquaintance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:43 PM
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I’d disagree. I have mostly female friends, several of them very attractive, but the reason I’m not dating them are because of compatibility things, not because I think they’re low value. For instance: One is polyamorous; I wouldn’t be down for that One is serious about her religion, and only wants to date guys from that religion One has an incredibly racist family (she’s not racist, but I would be forced to spend time around the in-laws if we did date) Some that are too young/too old
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:39 PM
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you have no way of truly knowing how they feel about their dynamics with women I mean, neither do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:32 PM
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I mean, you can easily do both. Sometimes I don’t want to play Helldivers; I want to talk about shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:39 PM
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Yeah- one trend I’m glad to see changing is that men are becoming more willing to open up to each other. I think that one of the main reasons the male suicide rate is so much higher is that men are encouraged by society to keep things bottled up (as opposed to women, who are encouraged to share).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:26 PM
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Your homies aren’t there for you when you’re feeling down? I feel sorry for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:20 PM
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Over half my friends are LGBT; some like to sleep around, and some are strictly monogamous. It’s almost as if you can’t make blanket statements about people’s future behavior based solely on their gender and sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:05 AM
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And my question is why are y’all so keen or having friend that you know deep down doesn’t actually want to be friends and sees you in a way you don’t see him. Once again, anybody who makes the argument “Men and women can’t be friends because they might be attracted to each other” is simultaneously making the argument “Gay men/women can’t be friends with other gay men/women, and bi people can’t have friends at all”. Given that we can clearly see that the second scenario isn’t the case irl, we can…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:45 AM
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the competition of being around other women all the time I’m curious- would you describe the feeling of competition as something active (i.e. “I need to look cuter than all the other girls tonight; can’t let them get a leg up on me.”) or something more passive (i.e. “Oh shit, Stacy looks amazing. Now I feel self-conscious.”)?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:38 AM
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I ended up dating Asian girls. Huh- fellow Black nerd here. This is interesting; Asian girls (specifically East Asian chicks; I always did fine with Desi women), never seemed to be feeling me. Of all the girls I’ve dated, they make up by far the smallest percentage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:18 AM
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I’d argue that “Chad” is less about a guy’s actual attributes and more about how women react to him. Any guy who can pull attractive women consistently and easily (without the women expecting money/favors/gifts in return for their time), is “Chad”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:10 AM
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I know it is all based on bad stereotypes but when black men have a preference and allow their preference to talk shit about the women that look like their mother, I don’t feel any sympathy. I 100% agree with you. There are a number of prominent men in the Black community who say shitty things about Black women, and those things get parroted by less prominent but equally shitty men. There needs to be more pushback when garbage like that comes up. I also think people who have a ethnic preference …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:07 AM
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This is a good point; I think what you see in a lot of Black men is a very similar phenomenon to what you see with a lot of Latina and Asian women- when you grow up in a society that tells you that the peak of beauty is a northern European Barbie/Ken type, when you yourself look nothing like that, it can lead to an inferiority complex. Some people try to deal with that complex by putting massive effort into dating white/white passing guys and girls- if they can pull it off, they’ll prove to soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:54 AM
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Men on incel forums agree, or men irl agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:15 AM
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There’s the problem with trying to bribe a woman who doesn’t actually love you to be your wife. If some other dude back in the states offers her a bigger bribe, there’s a very good chance she jumps ship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:14 AM
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This dude sounds psychotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:12 AM
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If there were no problems, it wouldn’t be ending. I 100% agree. I haven’t seen the TikTok you mentioned, but I find it hard to believe that there were no problems whatsoever in that relationship- otherwise they would still be together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:15 PM
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Sometimes I wonder if the reason why many LTRS end on bad terms is b/c they didn't break up when they should have, probably from social pressures to stay together This. I recently received some advice that if you find yourself ready to leave a relationship, breaking up as quickly as possible is actually an act of love. Breakups are always painful, but the longer you drag things out, the worse the inevitable pain will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:13 PM
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I think when people say they broke up for no real reason, what they’re actually saying is that the relationship just didn’t make them feel happy anymore, and it felt more like a chore than something enjoyable. This can happen for a variety of reasons, but if both halves of the couple have made a good faith effort to solve the issue and things haven’t changed, parting ways is usually for the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:08 PM
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I like to think of it like baseball. If a batter strikes out seven times out of ten, he’s actually doing extremely well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:01 PM
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I’ve mentioned this before, but I think the key to sustainable, long-term male-female platonic friendship is ensuring that both sides are having their needs for physical and emotional intimacy met outside of the friendship. Both of these needs are easier for women to fulfill than they are for men: The physical part because a girl who just wants to get laid will have no shortage of willing guys, and the emotional part because women are societally encouraged to share their emotions with their frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:00 PM
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The funniest part is that a lot of these dudes weren’t even attractive. They just happened to be in the right place to say the right things at the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:20 AM
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I think there’s a big difference between where some women say their standards are and where they actually are. I have a number of female friends who talk about wanting a tall, handsome man with a stable income, but in reality end up dating the bummiest, least employed dudes you’ve ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:43 AM
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I will say, just because a guy asks you out, that doesn’t mean they’re not interested in being friends with you. One of my closest friends is a lesbian; I initially approached her at a bar because I thought she was pretty she was wearing a piece of merchandise from one of my favorite shows. We talked for a bit, but when I asked for her number, she laughed and told me that I was cute, but she wasn’t into guys. She still gave me her number though, since she said she needed more people to talk abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:52 PM
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Not necessarily. I have friends with lives that are more unhinged than some sitcoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 03:25 PM
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It’s not so much the words themselves, but the way they’re delivered and the body language used while saying them. Some girls I’ve been with had a knack for making the most benign sentences sound hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 05:19 AM
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There’s a joke about how many times Jon says “I don’t want it” in the last season of game of thrones.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 05:12 AM
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Biden. Don’t particularly like the guy for a variety of reasons, but he’s far from the worst case scenario, and he’s the best viable option we’ve got.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:48 AM
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It’s excellent. First season is definitely geared more towards kids, but the next two seasons/the sequel series/the various novels and comics are much darker and more mature. There’s a reason it’s so popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:26 AM
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I’m going to give her space for the time being. If she wanted to be friends in the future, I wouldn’t be opposed to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:21 AM
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We didn’t have a ton in common, and spending time together felt more like a chore than something I looked forward to doing. She treated me well, and I can confidently say that I love her, but I don’t think I was in love with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:13 AM
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Eh. I don’t feel great, but I suppose something would be wrong with me if I did feel great.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:10 AM
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It’s official: Today, I have made my return to the streets. This was probably the first relationship I’ve had that I would describe as truly healthy, and I’m wondering whether or not I made the right call, but I don’t think it was fair of me to stay in a relationship where I was having such intense doubts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:05 AM
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?? My promiscuous female friends always have way more interesting answers to “What did you get up to this weekend?” than my female friends who are homebodies/in happy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:01 AM
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I’m mocking BMI guy, if it wasn’t obvious. Crimes are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 01:38 PM
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“Shouldistan” is an excellent turn of phrase; I’ll be borrowing it for future use.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 06:52 AM
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Tomorrow at work, I think I’m going to sprinkle crushed up adderall into my smaller colleagues’ food and crushed up weight gain pills into my larger colleagues’ food in the break room. This will ensure that more people are at an unhealthy (<19, >21) BMI. Bwahahaha!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 05:26 AM
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You’re right if the scenario is “both parents work full time, but mom takes care of all the household stuff”, but that’s far from the only scenario that exists. Plenty of men out there contribute their fair share to the household, and dudes that are actually high value (doctors, lawyers, athletes, executives, etc), can afford nannies and housekeepers. In that scenario, wouldn’t the man be contributing far more than his fair share?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:54 AM
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I don’t have a type in women per se; I’ve dated girls of all races, backgrounds, and body types. That being said, I find that I attract a disproportionate number of women from the following demographics: Artsy bisexual vegetarians Theater chicks Jewish women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:50 AM
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I think what u/missionglowup is getting at here is that dudes are thirsty and have a tendency to lose 30 IQ points when they see a big butt and a pretty smile. This is evidenced by the epidemic of NBA players (high value lads) getting baby trapped by Instagram influencers and the like (low value lasses)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:44 AM
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My family has generational wealth (not from real estate, thankfully); I’m going to be fine regardless. I’m worried about people who aren’t as lucky as me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:36 AM
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Me passing this advice along to the boys
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:34 AM
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Landlords bad
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:32 AM
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So that means men should only date women at or below their league, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:31 AM
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Dudes crossdressing has been a thing forever. All the female roles in the original Shakespeare plays were played by men, because women weren’t allowed to act.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:30 AM
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So the corollary to this is that men always should date down?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:29 AM
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One of my main social spheres is mostly LGBT folks, and it’s honestly been super beneficial. It’s become a semi-regular occurrence that people assume I’m gay because my fashion sense is “way too nice for a straight guy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:06 PM
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If they find their female friend attractive at one point in time, they will shoot their shot. By this logic, gay men shouldn’t be able to be friends with other gay men, lesbians shouldn’t be able to be friends with other lesbians, and bisexual folks shouldn’t be able to have friends at all. Anyway, speaking from personal experience, it’s quite easy for men and women to maintain platonic bonds- most of my close friends are actually girls, many of whom are objectively very attractive. The key to p…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:01 PM
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When someone says “I speak language X”, they usually mean “If you were to put me in a room with someone who only spoke language X, I could make myself understood and carry a conversation, even if I made a few mistakes”. They usually don’t mean “I could be a professional translator if I wanted to”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:25 AM
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I’m not even talking about going out and talking to girls. I’m talking about going down to your local game shop and playing Warhammer with the guys there. I’m talking about joining your local recreational sports league. I’m talking about finding local candidates for office you support and volunteering for their campaigns. When you’re trying to date, your most valuable asset is your social circle and the people you know- and several studies have shown that the number of irl connections that peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 03:23 PM
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Update: It appears that a large percentage of those south Asian women are married to their cousins. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage_in_the_Middle_East
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 04:13 AM
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But if she calls you an idiot in front of your friends and family then your response needs to be harsher. No, it really doesn’t. As long as you’re clear that you’re more than willing to walk away if the bad behavior continues, you can never go wrong with being polite but resolute.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 03:01 AM
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I don’t think that being kind and being just have to be mutually exclusive. Imagine that someone has done something worthy of critique, and you want to rebuke them. You could go with an angry rant full of curses, sure. But you could also just say “Hey, I really didn’t like the way you handled that situation. If you’re going to be acting like that, this isn’t going to work.” The same message has been communicated in both cases. But I think it’s clear that one version is much better for everyone i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 02:49 AM
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In some places they did, but that’s beside the larger point- women in most of the world largely lacked the same privileges that men had. Back then families were typically involved deeply in helping women choose a husband. In many parts of the world (i.e. South Asia) this is still how it works. Do you think those women are happier?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 06:01 PM
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As a man you get a career and work it hard. If you succeed you are guaranteed to have a wife and guaranteed she will not divorce rape you. Well, yeah. When women aren’t legally allowed to own property and are barred from getting a divorce in all but the most dire of circumstances, they’re much more incentivized to get married and not get divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:49 PM
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You really think things were better in the 1800s? Back then, the king/emperor/sultan/local equivalent and his nobles got to have harems and mistresses, while the peasants got to go die in wars (or of dysentery).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:30 PM
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Men like challenges up to a certain point, but where exactly that point is depends on the guy. Some guys are eager to chase, while others will refuse to chase at all. Playing hard to get is an art form- if you do it wrong, it'll read as “I’m not interested” instead of “I like you, but I’m gonna make you work for it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:25 PM
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Culture really has changed, and I blend the internet for making it easier for men to be loners. Yup. Pre-internet, if you wanted human interaction, you had to physically go to a place and talk to people. This, naturally, would lead to people having better social skills and more exposure to potential partners. Nowadays though, you don’t have to touch grass nearly as much, and I think the dating scene has really suffered for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:19 PM
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Clay and AD are back together, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:41 PM
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There used to be a financial penalty if you didn’t go to the altar, but they took it away this season.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:41 PM
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Congrats man! Keep it going.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:04 PM
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https://manifold.markets/LightLawliet/will-donald-trump-or-joe-biden-die Go place your bets! Edit: Wait, it’s not real money. Nvm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 09:28 PM
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There’s nice guys with good character that are also hot and desirable, they usually aren’t in the dating market for years This is a point that I think a lot of people miss. Women are absolute fiends for dudes that are both kind and hot, and they’ll circle around like vultures if they have reason to believe that one of these dudes might become single soon. However, because dudes like this are so prized, they don’t tend to stay available for very long. When women ask “Where have all the good, comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 07:58 PM
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Oh, yes they will. A toxic, manipulative, gold digging chick who looks like a model will inevitably have more guys trying to wife her up than a kind, supportive average looking woman who’s a bit chubby.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 06:37 PM
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This dude was unironically defending Francisco Franco; he can be safely disregarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 04:40 AM
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I think “Chad” is less about what qualities a guy has, and more about how women respond to him. Regardless of looks or wealth, “Chad” is a guy who can consistently hook up with and/or date attractive women with little to no effort, and without the women expecting anything in return (money, status, expensive gifts, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:34 AM
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I mean, it’s pretty simple. The traits that are most desirable for a casual partner are different than the traits that are most desirable for a long term partner. There are some traits that appear on both lists, but there are just as many that only appear on one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:21 AM
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That’s fair. Someone else posted earlier that Sexual Market Value should be considered a separate thing from Relationship Market Value; I’m inclined to agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 12:53 AM
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I’d actually argue that for guys seeking casual relationships, a moderate amount of emotional instability can actually be helpful. People with certain kinds of mental problems tend to be more inclined to take risks, make spontaneous decisions, and approach life with an “IDGAF” attitude. In other words, some emotional instability makes you more exciting. Obviously these traits aren’t ideal to bring into a serious relationship, but they can assist in attracting one night stands/friends with benefi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 12:49 AM
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If you go to a prestigious enough college or if you join the right organizations, it’s still largely doable as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 12:32 AM
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Excellent work, comrade. Heil Hillary!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:35 PM
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I usually try to give advice; as a neurodivergent guy who was a loner for most of my formative years, I see a lot of the old me in some of the folks around here. I also just enjoy hearing people’s unfiltered thoughts on subjects that might be considered taboo if spoken about irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:30 PM
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I’ve come to realize that if you approach in a polite and respectful way and people respond with meanness, that says a lot more about them than it does about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:27 PM
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As a leftist, can confirm. Currently hanging out in my secret lair, cackling maniacally with my cabal of gay socialist woke immigrant comrades. Today, we’re scheming to confiscate all the guns and melt them down so we can build a giant statue of an NFL player kneeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:26 PM
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“Nearly anything” is a bit of hyperbole, but I’d say I agree with the general sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 06:13 PM
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Speaking from experience, yes. Certain social skills don’t come naturally to us, true. However, like any skill, social savvy can be learned and and practiced. The only way to get practice is by putting yourself in situations where you have to socialize. Plus, the more people you know, the more opportunities you’ll get to meet women you click with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 04:46 PM
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Just think of a plain looking girl you see on a day to do day basis. I can think of several, but I’m wondering if your definition of plain is the same as mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:30 AM
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So you’re saying Zendaya and Emma Stone are mediocre? Those are your average women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:15 AM
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No, I’m just curious what you think an average woman looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:40 AM
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Out of curiosity, who’s a public figure who you would describe as an “average, plain-looking woman”?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:37 AM
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Go for it. If you do, I recommend Sola bread products. They taste almost exactly like regular bread, but they’re only 1 net carb per slice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:58 PM
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Shoot her a message; see how she responds. If she responds quickly and asks follow up questions, full steam ahead. If she seems taken aback or disinterested, sound the retreat. Something like: “Hey, how’ve you been? I haven’t seen you since [event]!”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:43 PM
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I’d probably give it a 6/7 as well. I thought the Fire Nation stuff was done incredibly, but the rest of the writing definitely needed some more time in the oven. I’m also not sure why they’re doing a live action version of the original series at all. If they really wanted to do a live action show, the Avatar Kyoshi novels would have been perfect for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:38 PM
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The main thing I’ve learned from listening to my single female friends talk about their exes is that there’s very little a man can’t get away with once he’s got a girl at a certain level of emotional investment. I swear it’s Stockholm Syndrome with some of these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:30 PM
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Huh. I’ve thrown verbal Hail Marys before (which occasionally worked), but sending a photo of your dick seems like a LOT of risk for a very slim chance of a reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:40 PM
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Something I never really understood: Unsolicited dick pics. Like, has sending one of those ever helped any dude get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:28 PM
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I’m kinda confused how any wizard family ends up being poor. With magic, there would be SO many ways to make money off of muggles without alerting them to the existence of magic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:51 PM
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Probably the rich parents, though there is a certain level of abuse at which I would switch my choice to the trailer park parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:34 PM
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Are we talking “spanking with a belt” level of beating, or “CPS would take you away immediately” level of beating?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:28 PM
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I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. The worst part is that she did absolutely nothing wrong. At least when someone cheats or puts their hands on you, there’s a very clearly demarcated exit door. But there’s no casus belli here. She’s kind, pretty, supportive, a good communicator, and I can tell she’s genuinely in love with me. But I also feel like we just don’t have that much in common, and we’re never excited about the same things. I love her, but I’m not in love with her. I’m sure t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 10:11 PM
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Yup. A few times, in fact. One thing that I’ve unfortunately become acutely aware of is that as a Black man, I’m held to a higher standard than the other people around me- people, consciously or not, are taught to see us as dangerous and aggressive. As such, with the situations that I went through, people asked me things like “Why didn’t you shove her off?” and the like. Well, if I had shoved her off, I’d have been a muscular Black man who just roughed up a photogenic little white girl. Let’s se…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 09:37 PM
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Agreed. I always say that therapy is a lot like dating- the first person you see isn’t necessarily going to be the one for you. I had to go through four therapists before I met someone who I really felt “got me”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 09:28 PM
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There’s no guarantees with this stuff, I’m afraid. That’s why I use words like “usually” and “generally”. It’s like that one Star Trek quote: “It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:54 PM
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But she's not being honest about her part in the dance. Well you see, she’s not actually being dishonest. She’s doing the things that society has told her to do in order to attract a man. Since men are told by society to pursue, this strategy usually works out. Human relations are built on a mountain of dishonesties, some large and some small. For example, a past girlfriend of mine introduced me to her parents, and her mother asked me what drew me to her daughter in the first place. I told her t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:18 PM
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There’s a social expectation that men are the pursuers while women are “pursued”. When a woman does these things, she’s saying through her behavior “Would you like to pursue me? I think it would be nice if you did.” You can call it manipulative if you like, but from a woman’s viewpoint, she’s just doing her half of the mating dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:53 PM
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Key word is “consistently”. You’re looking for a pattern of more than one of the behaviors listed above.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:16 PM
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Yup. Women in your “friends circle” who aren’t attracted to you really dislike it when you hit on them. When a woman wants to go from friends to lovers with you, she will (usually) make it easy for you. A good way to tell is seeing if she does these things consistently with you, but not with other guys in your friend group: She’ll find excuses for you to spend one-on-one time together. She won’t ask things like “Who else is coming?” when you suggest activities to her. She’ll find reasons to touc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:37 PM
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Misogny has no impact in a man's sexual or romantic options I didn’t say that it did. I’m just noting differences I’ve seen among the population of misogynists (successful or otherwise).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:28 PM
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I can only speak to my own observations, but I’ve never met a guy who was successful with women who didn’t at least think that women were fun to spend time with (regardless of what else they thought of them). The ones moaning about how vapid/annoying/whiny they think women are are generally the ones who can’t pull any.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:26 PM
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Also I know plenty of misogynistic men really successful with women, that doesn't seem to be a fundamental problem to them. The difference I notice between the misogynists who are successful with women and the misogynists who aren’t is that men in the former group generally do like women, just in a very condescending way (the same way a person might think about dogs). The misogynists who aren’t successful with women actively hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:20 PM
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I don’t think this has anything to do with female nature; it’s human nature. Anybody can get cheated on- doesn’t matter who you are or how good you are at what you do, and it usually has far more to do with the cheater than it does with you. Beyoncé, one of the most beautiful and successful women in the world, got cheated on by a guy who most would agree is below her league (not saying that Jay-Z isn’t high status; it’s just that Beyoncé is about as high status as a woman can get).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 04:07 PM
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Most of my friends are women; I spend one-on-one time with them pretty often.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:58 PM
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Well, let’s use another example: Lyndon B Johnson. Did a lot of good things for the country, mainly accomplished by bullying anyone who wouldn’t get in line. Google “The Johnson Treatment”; I think you’d be hard pressed to say that LBJ wasn’t a dominant guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:55 PM
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The WNBA has had a handful of players that height. Tallest to ever play was actually 7’2!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:33 PM
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Again, dominance is a neutral concept. Martin Luther King Jr was a dominant presence. He spoke, and people listened. He commanded respect. Adolf Hitler was also a dominant presence, for all of the same reasons. Regardless, in the context of this discussion, “dominant” as TRP uses it means “assertive and socially skilled”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:30 PM
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In my view, “dominance” is a combination of assertiveness, social savvy, and charisma. On an individual level these are indisputably good things to have, but they can be used for either good or bad purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:06 PM
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You do realize that “dominant” is a personality trait as well, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 06:12 PM
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Right, which is why “straight” guys who occasionally like to mess around with men don’t talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:01 PM
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I think it’s because there’s a sizable population of women who don’t want to date men who have been with other men, where as most guys have no qualms about sleeping with a bisexual woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 09:57 PM
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I think people underestimate the corrosive effects of car-centric cities on modern dating. In places where walking or cycling are more common ways of getting around than cars, there are more organic interactions, people are generally healthier, and dating is significantly easier logistically.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 06:05 PM
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