| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 7 | I dumped my NVM ex... what now? | SEEKING ADVICE | thisismygcaccount | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 02:28 AM |
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| 12 | His Kinks Are A Reflection of His Values. Kink Shame Away.It really pisses me off that they have an euphemism for everything. Simulated pedophilia? "Ageplay" Choking? "breathplay." They're really trying hard to whitewash their depravity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:26 PM |
| 17 | His Kinks Are A Reflection of His Values. Kink Shame Away.Call aftercare what it is, trauma bonding | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:18 PM |
| 234 | What is wrong with these women.We're at the point where women are asking if it's okay to be upset about being raped. Fuck this planet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 11:33 PM |
| 13 | How do you guys feel about all body hair?If you like being natural and the only thing stopping you is having to deal with people's misogyny, then fuck it and tell people who give you a hard time that they don't get to make decisions about your body. It says more about them that idea if a woman existing as nature created her disgusts them. Women having hair needs to be normalized. For me, I shave when I feel like it but I'm not afraid to let it grow out, saves me from dealing with in-grown hairs and nicking myself. Some things like stoc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 05:13 AM |
| 4 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?I'm saving this comment. This is exactly what I needed to hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 01:06 AM |
| 160 | When ever a guy age 30+ says “Ive never been in love” it is a huge red flag (for me). Usually he has commitment issues or has created a fantasy relationship in his mind that reality will never match up to. NEXTNotice how it's the woman's fault and not his own emotional unavailability. Big yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:07 AM |
| 16 | Why waste your breath?Thank God, somebody said it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 07:58 PM |
| 1 | He’s mad we didn’t “hang out” this weekend... because my Grandfather died from COVID-19Sing it with me! Block and delete! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:18 PM |
| 8 | How to leave boyfriend when you feel you have no one else?First off, no such thing as square one. You're leaving this relationship wiser than how you entered. Secondly, he isn't all you have. You still have the rest of your life. Now that we've covered the basics, you are right in that he didn't treat you with respect and you aren't wrong for doubting him now. You don't have a healthy foundation for a relationship. "Nice" periods with LVMs are also usually part of a pattern of honeymoon phases and general fuckery (the good behaviors and the bad aren't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 05:42 AM |
| 49 | “Will cry if you yell but also will get wet”, “insecure but will wear minimal clothing around you” + the red elbows and knees... what the hell is this pornsick shit"Jealous" ummm... Let's not romanticize insecurity or making your partner feel insecure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 02:28 AM |
| 12 | 6years with incredibly cheap but well-off bf who will never commit and resents paying for both of usHe doesn't care about you. He doesn't care about deepening his relationship with you. He wants you to be his live-in nanny. But you deserve better. Start making a plan to leave him. Where can you go if you move out? What do you want to bring with you and what resources do you need to secure for yourself? Come up with a timeline of what you need to do before you leave and when. Then do it. He doesn't value you as a partner and he takes you for granted. He thinks you won't leave and that he can pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 09:33 PM |
| 45 | I hope she gets picked ☺️🤞That's why men want to normalize "sex work." Get women to commodify themselves, create an abundance of sexually available pickmes who they can jack off to on onlyfans or "talk to" without any commitment and expectations, then shame any women who expect effort. You don't see men trying to convince each other that selling their nudes or become prostitutes is a good idea. It's a con and this woman is falling for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 09:26 PM |
| 13 | Just further indoctrinating the idea that men doing the most basic human actions is something praiseworthy. Why exactly am I blessed? Because he knows how to vacuum a fucking carpet?This is the bare minimum. I'm not your fucking mom, dudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 09:21 PM |
| 34 | This subreddit has completely changed how I value myself as a woman.I'm so proud of you for leveling up so hard and at only 20! I wish I had found this sub years ago. I'm 24 and have just started rebuilding my life after a long, miserable relationship with a NVM. This sub has been so helpful in rebuilding my self-concept, but I wish I never had to go through all that. It only gets better from here though! And we're behind you all the way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 05:33 PM |
| 5 | For the first time today I looked in the mirror and loved myself. Inside and out.I have a really dumb question, hopefully one of you guys can answer. But how we do that? I have spent my entire life learning to how to take care of and sympathize with other people and that my emotions aren't as important. I'm in therapy right now and I was going to a support group for abused women but if anyone has words of wisdom, hit me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 05:27 AM |
| 17 | I think the title says it all. I can't be the only one shocked and profoundly sad and upset.I got this advice. Whackjob continued to lie to me, cheat on me, and eventually pull a knife on me. All while I was trying to "work through our issues" he was seeing that I was willing to stay and he just had to pay enough lip service to make me think things might get better. Believe people when they show you their true colors. This man is trouble. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 05:21 AM |
| 3 | anddd... blocked!!!"Show me I haven't wasted my time" Someone's gonna be disappointed 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:26 AM |
| 355 | Husband is upset that his wife had a double mastectomy due to breast cancer, is masturbating to big-breast porn, and is pushing her to have breast implant surgery DESPITE THE FACT THAT SHE IS NOT IN REMISSIONPredictable that all he seems to care about in this scenario is his porn rotted dick. She should get him removed next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 07:26 AM |
| 51 | Scrote into BDSM doesn’t feel valued enough by the woman he pays for sex, and in a rare moment of clarity, starts to feel like a pervert with depression. Comments: It’s fine Bro! Have you tried even MORE BDSM??"One to take the decision out of your hands." You can say you have Mommy issues, we all know what you mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 07:11 AM |
| 28 | If he reaches out after months, do not think of this as meaningfulI'm friends with my ex's ex too! We talk about yoga and bitch about our day jobs together and barely even talk about him. It's great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 01:52 AM |
| 12 | If he reaches out after months, do not think of this as meaningfulWhere was this post when I needed this. I fell into that trap hard and I'm still undoing the damage he did. Ladies, if you're reading this and you think your guy is different, he's not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 01:51 AM |
| 25 | An ex contacted me out of the blue today... I’m almost insulted that he thinks I’m this stupid.Do they all do this shit? I had a rando that I went on ONE date with text me months later saying "Oh, sorry I called you accidentally. How's it going?" I didn't have any missed calls though and had long since deleted his number so I had no who idea who it was. When I asked he said "Oh, we went on a date once, a couple of years ago." It had only been a couple of months, but he was desperately trying to save face. I stopped responding and deleted him all over again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 09:18 AM |
| 1 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....Read Stop Caretaking the Borderline and Narcissist and Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl. It sounds like you've got more going on that you gotta heal from than just this one dude. Learn what it is that you want and what your standards are, learn to identify red flags and how to protect yourself, and heal. Then you can pursue a relationship. A lot of us have been here, half my post history is about being burned by an abusive ex because I talked myself into ignoring red flags. But learning to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 04:23 AM |
| 5 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....But you expressed interest in talking to him on the phone and he hasn't. You can't make excuses for him like saying "he probably doesn't want to force it." He hasn't said that outright. He hasn't had to have "done anything wrong," he isn't adding to your life by making you worry. If someone isn't adding to your life, it's best to let them go. But nobody can make that decision for you. And he could be a catfish, and that is something wrong. It's okay that you don't know what to do. I hope some of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 03:49 AM |
| 3 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....Figure out what you want. You can't do that with him in the picture. And the best way to distance yourself is to cut him off altogether. I know it's hard, but you don't deserve to feel like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 03:41 AM |
| 11 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now...."Live video" did he video chat with you, was it a livestream or was it recorded? Livestreams and recorded videos can be faked or stolen from elsewhere. Either way, not talking on the phone with you is shady and demonstrates a lack of commitment or even consideration for what you might want out of the friendship. And you don't sound dumb. You sound confused and that's okay, you are in a very confusing situation. There is no power or good in disparaging yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 03:38 AM |
| 24 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....There's this thread in the handbook about LDRs. Read it, I think it could give you some insight. I’ve been trying to distance myself but I can’t for some reason.... Sometimes the friendship does seem one sided but it always balances it self out somehow.... I don't want to sound harsh, but that reason is probably because you're more invested than he is and you're eating his breadcrumbs of attention and interpreting that as "balancing itself out." Also, the fact that you have never talked on the p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 03:27 AM |
| 17 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....In that case, can you settle for being just his friend, or are you going to get your hopes up and feel strung along because you two were so open and vulnerable with each other? Because if you can't and you're only going to pine for him, you gotta let it go. Pining is never good. I don't really have any male friends anymore by choice, so I can't really speak to that. In general, I found my "friendships" with men to be really one-sided: either they wanted all my attention and emotional support and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 03:11 AM |
| 42 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....Is this guy an actual friend, or is he one of those guys who uses "friend" to mean "woman I want to have sexual access to?" If you're not sure, ask yourself these questions: Does he have any women friends? Does he have any women friends that he hasn't tried to sleep with? How does he talk about women who reject him? Does he frame them for being in the wrong for "leading him on" or say they were "crazy?" or "didn't understand him?" Does he own up for his own flaws and mistakes in these relationsh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 02:59 AM |
| 21 | Quarantine boredom doesn’t mean you need to lower your standards for conversationsYou aren't nuts. Wanting sympathy and compassion isn't nuts. Looking for a connection isn't nuts. Don't disparage yourself. You just gotta get better at vetting dudes. In general, it's never a good idea to talk about your past relationships, especially with someone new and in the beginning stages of talking to someone. This way, he can't hold it against you and you don't get punished for your honesty and willingness to be open and vulnerable. But don't call yourself nuts. That's unfair to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 12:53 AM |
| 9 | In need of a little encouragementI need this comment on a background of a forest or beach or something as a motivational poster. So many dudes are like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 12:46 AM |
| 8 | In need of a little encouragementHe wants you to be in a relationship with him, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Or anyone. He's just trying to dress that up as not knowing what he wants or not being sure if someone will stick around. And if he doesn't know what he wants, that's his problem. You know what you want and that's respect and love which he can't give you. Keep reminding yourself of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 12:44 AM |
| 44 | Never forget that this is what we’re dealing with...Damn, you can tell he came looking for sympathy and for someone to tell him how to manipulate his wife into staying. I hope she buys something nice for herself from the divorce settlement money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 12:37 AM |
| 80 | An old LVM friend reached out a few months ago...He was musing about a person I'd grown out of. He never grew up or matured. Turns out, having a dick doesn't entitle you to unearned fulfillment! You have to grow up and move on for that. Also, I'm stealing "victim of adulthood" so thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:54 AM |
| 25 | Is this supposed to be funny or insulting? Ugh, online dating.He's trying to bait someone who has low self-esteem because he's got low self-esteem. Does he realize that the "lonely so looking online" retort could be used on him too? Especially since he's a clingy bastard? Block button is that way, dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:43 AM |
| 49 | LVM are always lyingMy ex did this. I finally started saying "if you keep talking like that, I'm going to call 911 so you can get the care you obviously need." He would then melt down and accuse me of trying to ruin his life. It's all manipulation to get you to stay, that's why this sub teaches us to prioritize our own well-being over theirs because men will pull dirty shit like this to trick you into "saving" them while you get water tortured by their bullshit. Threatening suicide is domestic abuse and we sure as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:38 AM |
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