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thorssen12/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 09:43 PM
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This reads like a chapter out of my life 4 years ago. When I was in those shoes I was so plugged in and desperate to do anything to save our marriage. I guess all I can do is tell you what I wish I could tell my younger self. Dude, you need to see thus for what it is. It is a declaration of war! She is already checked out and 10 steps ahead of you in her head and in her plan. She is banking on you reverting back to beta ways so she can execute the rest of the plan with as little resistance from …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 11:00 PM
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FR of sorts. First of all I have stayed on top of my eating plan 100% since posting this. That is where I go off the rails. I have tackled a few things around my place that have been put off. I have been doing things as soon as they need to be done and not procrastinating. It feels good. I have been reminding myself to do these things to have an awesome life and not for any other reason. Yesterday the neighbor kids caused a very traumatic scene. My wife had my kids call me to comfort them and th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 10:18 PM
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More internalizing to do for sure. I have gotten to the point where I can say she pissed it away, but I only believe it about 65%. That is where the oneitis manifests itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 10:11 PM
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Great advice here. I appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 10:03 PM
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You are absolutely correct. The divorce was awful. I don't really want to go back per se. I am just afraid of her circling back when I got my shit together. What am I going to do. I see my kids in pain them wanting us to be back and it tugs on me. I never thought about how that could make things worse until the badasses on this board pointed it out. I haven't met my physical goals because I haven't done it for myself yet. She did lose out!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 10:02 PM
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Thank you for writing again. I stuck to my diet plan 100% since posting this on MRP and it feels great. The lifting isn't a big thing to keep up because I go to the gym a lot and have since high school. I just ruin it in the kitchen. It is my self-sabotage. I have cracked my way into two different packs of guys and then it fades away. Mostly because I think I haven't made it a priority. I have joined some groups on Meetup.com to help with that. I am not going to be an AFC! Thank you for the chal…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 10:00 PM
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Such a good question, and I have never posed to myself. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 09:56 PM
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My ex's official Dx is an anxiety disorder but her mom is Dx BPD. I found out about the manosphere and then TRP through Shrink4men. My ex isn't officially Dx with a personality disorder but the divorce made a lot more sense when I learned about it because she has a lot of the traits if not the full blown thing. I have the money to do therapy this summer and will do so. I was talking to my ex today about the therapy she is talking the daughter with the rage issues to. My ex either refuses to see …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 09:56 PM
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I agree. I have been suggesting she move back since she left. She brought it up on her own in February this year, but doesn't seem to be back on the table anymore. I am going to hold that frame and bring that up everytime she contacts me re: the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 09:47 PM
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Thank you for the straight talk. It is one thing to read it about other people's situation. Another when it is about my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 03:18 AM
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I don't like the fact that I haven't lost weight in 4 years. It is pathetic and I can't run from it. I made the choice to put my financial and emotional health before my physical. I wasn't at a place to do them all at the same time. I have met those goals and I have lost 30lbs. since I solidly swallowed the Red Pill and decided to make my physical health my main focus. Whether I chose the right priorities and whether I can make the life changes I want is TBD. Good to know about the guy you were …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 02:25 AM
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I defintely see "winning her back" as a beta move. As I read some of my own writing I can see that still happening in my thinking. However, I have given her a massive dose of radio silence, IDGAF, and telling her to cram it when she shit tests me. Her response to that has been more non-kid related texts, come down and see us, lets go to dinner, and I am going to move back into town so you can be closer to the kids. What I am trying to settle in my head is: Am I getting lured into a BB or orbiter…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 01:50 AM
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So if matching traits is bullshit delusion, what is the better way?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 01:32 AM
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It is toxic thinking. A loop I need to eliminate. I have to release my financials to her per divorce decree. Plus it is pretty obvious, too. The interesting thing about her is that she could go to court and file for a CS increase, but doesn't. I don't know if she has a guilt complex or is trying to be a martyr to use as a card down the road. It is weird. The amount I am paying is a lot, but if it was the full amount she could have awarded I would be drowning for the next 8 years. The scenario yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 01:26 AM
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One thing I just thought of that is pretty interesting is something my ex told me a year before she left. She was most likely planning her exit strategy at this point. There was a certain point where she asked me what she needed to change. I named all of the things that really got to me. Times she was nagging and bitching. Nothing ever changed and she told me that even though she wanted to she couldn't change. I was so bothered by this as a BP guy. But in reality they can't stop shit/comfort tes…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 12:32 AM
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As I look back on marriage I truly feel like the things that really drove me nuts and built up resentments could have all been eliminated with frame and some A&A. She actually responds to it well with the shit tests she gives me around our co-parenting. I struggle with the WHY, too. I have had other women. I am not impressed. I have been out with women all over the HB scale. Anywhere from age 21 to 43. I am sure I will attract different women soon as I am still overweight. My wife is one of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 12:17 AM
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Knowing what I know about RP, etc. I want to do everything I can to get my kids off their current trajectory. One of my daughters is having problems going to school. She is like a dove with me, but has a lot of resentment towards her mom. My other daughter kind of accepts that her mom left but resents being taken out of state. She truly wants to see her mom happy, but knows she was happiest with me. She is very depressed. I asked her recently how she thought her life was going and her response w…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 11:55 PM
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I will look for that thread. That would be good. I tend do dwell on things. Missed stock/business opportunities. I get what you mean there 100% and the LOL. Good thing to focus on in my stoic practices. She talked about moving back to the state/city I am in back in Jan/Feb. She works retail and could transfer easily. The logistics wouldn't be too hard because she gets enough child support to absorb the costs of a relocation. Part of my post-divorce anger was her moving out of state with our kids…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 11:43 PM
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Thank you for replying. A big part of me knows already knew that is the straight dope. I spent so many years reading and internalizing tripe you would find on /r/relationships. There is a lot about her that is NAWALT except the most important part! The friggin' frivorce! My kids are hurting from it so much still, too. I appreciate the perspective. I don't mind getting my proverbial ass kicked. Keep it coming. I would love to get as much feedback from anyone willing yo share. Especially how to ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 10:20 PM
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