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Didn't get laid there but I don't think this would have been impossible. I did get some looks from beautiful women. A friend went there once and he did. Try HUB, it's a chain of British style pubs where the more socially minded locals with some knowledge of English go when they feel like interacting with internationals. But you know, the Japanese are generally more low key and shy than westerners, you'll need to make the first move usually, whether you're just looking to chat and make friends or…
/r/seduction09/08/25 04:11 PM
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There was a re-release of the Carnegie book in 2011 I think but filled with a lot of science and research by the institute. I haven't read the original but this newer one has great, essential, up-to-date advice. Otherwise I'm currently reading How To Not Die Alone by Logan Ury which is recent, post covid release. While there's a few applications and guidance here and there it's more of an analysis of the current dating context and the associated social and behavioral psychology - which helps in …
/r/seduction09/07/25 12:44 PM
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Well, maybe you're being too humble and actually are irresistible and/or talented. Whatever, you're doing it right.
/r/seduction29/05/25 11:24 PM
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How successful are you with approaching in virtually any type of place? Women are receptive? What's the success rate (as in anything happening beyond this, numbers exchange Instagram or date setting up on the spot etc)
/r/seduction30/03/25 11:10 PM
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He doesn't have to bring that up first thing you know. A mere inexpensive coffee or drink date or a walk somewhere could do the trick if he's got other assets and talent, she'll want more. Unless he's looking for a princess.
/r/seduction09/02/25 04:23 PM
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There's a few different books with this title. Author?
/r/seduction27/12/24 03:30 PM
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This is me too lol. Now 38 and probably in the best shape I have ever been for the last few years, hitting the gym and running. Taking good note of compliments on looks by women. I look younger to many. I seem to have reached my personal peak attractiveness as I get more looks than ever, especially from those younger. But I'm still terrified of approaching and have no one to go out with, terrible timing to feel decent for once. As a teenager I was ugly and so made peace with that and it took me …
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:19 AM
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Same. I am so willing to go out and stuff (not necessarily clubs tho) but meh now everyone my age is boring. I know some go out by themselves anyway and do get laid but hmmmm I'm too socially awkward for that.
/r/seduction05/11/24 12:02 AM
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Likely the only one I'll be able to memorize here
/r/seduction02/11/24 03:23 AM
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Looking at the comments it seems women do not come easy to everyone of us so good for you if that is all natural, frequent and effortless to you. We're not all that cool and predisposed to have it so easy.
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:29 PM
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This answer deserves way more upvotes than the usual "Anyone can seduce anyone! That's because you didn't work hard enough" we still get in this thread.
/r/seduction17/10/24 03:52 PM
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I don't get why you didn't get it when she first said "AS A FRIEND". This is where you should have stopped and moved on. She was not playing stupid games or testing you with that kind of crystal clear answer. But yeah, maybe you got your advice from some bad but still widely followed dating influencer who would say that this is because you didn't seduce her enough and so must try harder because anyone can seduce anyone, with hard work you can will your way to anyone's bed and so there's somethin…
/r/seduction20/07/24 01:22 AM
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I think that's accurate, but not exactly and invariably for all women. Of course so many are on dating apps mostly to see their likes and grow their Instagram but IRL I'm not sure they all enjoy every man's attention though, at least I've never felt like they all wanted/enjoyed mine lol. I think neediness is definitely a turn off for them but non-neediness, not necessarily a turn on (especially if you're not a 8+ or higher perceived social status). This may be accurate for the types of women's y…
/r/seduction23/04/24 03:39 PM
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Care to elaborate on this obvious thing I'm so unaware of? Or is it just a sophisticated-sounding way of saying they merely enjoy attention generally?
/r/seduction23/04/24 01:35 PM
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Why would a woman want to keep your attention if she's not into you? For her ego? She's bored? She's a sociopath?
/r/seduction23/04/24 01:22 PM
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And quickly move to death metal singing
/r/seduction23/04/24 02:40 AM
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That's nice, I'm going myself in a month and not sure what to expect on this matter. Keep going
/r/seduction20/04/24 11:49 PM
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Can some women really confirm they're that annoyed by #2? I don't know I thought it would show you have female friends so socially functional or something
/r/seduction13/04/24 08:35 PM
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Nice. What kind of concert tho? I used to go by myself quite often but not seated concerts as it's usually rock. I do miss classical music concerts though.
/r/seduction24/03/24 09:02 PM
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Ah! Good points. Agreed. Still it did happen to me once or twice, some girl talk to me, although maybe tipsy or too enthusiastic, and then her friend come to drag her away abruptly without saying a thing, it rather looked something like "omg she's after a guy that isn't attractive [friend's opinion], she must have lost judgment, need to take care of that."
/r/seduction03/07/23 02:34 PM
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Why they do that though? Unless the girl has some behavior or mental issues or something, I don't get it
/r/seduction03/07/23 01:30 PM
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Finally, some nuance in this thread that accepts that one isn't at fault at 100% and that it's normal to feel bitter sometimes. Although this sub is great there is often those shamers that sound like the most cheesy Hollywood family movies with low-effort, uninformed, if not toxic advice.
/r/seduction05/06/23 02:28 AM
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I'd love to know too
/r/seduction14/04/23 03:37 PM
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I go regularly and I feel like I'm being looked at fairly often by the women there. Compared to most other males there I look rather normal, just a bit fit, not mr muscle at all. As if women were not that much often into the super-tough-muscle dudes?
/r/seduction01/04/23 01:43 AM
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Same here, also in the city in Canada but older. Indeed, I just have nowhere to go to meet people. What's left of my friends has not much energy for anything anymore (kids, suburbs, or mere dullness that comes with a certain age). Thing is, I don't think it'd be easier in the USA? Many American big cities are actually quite boring. I do miss school/college years indeed. Have you tried meetups, hobby groups? It started to work a bit for me pre-covid (not for dating, just socializing first) as I b…
/r/seduction01/04/23 01:34 AM
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Lol I guess that means this tip is burnt now.
/r/seduction01/04/23 01:18 AM
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So you were bar hopping this I get that, but were you on your own all that time or with friends? Have you always been that good at handling rejections?
/r/seduction24/08/22 10:26 PM
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Small sample in my case but yeah
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:41 AM
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I use every occasion I get to share this song from Run DMC - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EheLN-MDzrA
/r/seduction21/05/21 07:09 PM
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His point was that it's not happening naturally/obvious to him just like it probably didn't either for billions of people too. Some people feel a block, are intimidated or don't know how to communicate it properly or without looking weird. That is the very purpose of this sub. Pretty sure people have asked others for advice before the internet.
/r/seduction10/05/21 04:07 AM
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Same.
/r/seduction10/05/21 03:56 AM
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That review tho https://www.amazon.ca/gp/customer-reviews/R1X7A7FQFKGLCQ/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_rvw_ttl?ie=UTF8&ASIN=1861977697
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:30 AM
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I used to go to the gym too, they reopened 2 weeks ago only to close again a few days ago. What I did was simply bodyweight exercises for like 25-50 min at the park and the usual run to it and back home. For a very long time I never felt like going as the idea sucked given it was late fall and winter but I always went anyway and jeez it's so worth it you're feeling so good afterwards. Every time I don't feel like going I just remind myself I never regretted going. Gyms will reopen permanently so…
/r/seduction12/04/21 02:10 AM
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That's exactly the point in As A Man Thinketh by James Allen. So yes, you gotta be in a good state of mind, you can't fake stuff, it's best to do it effortlessy. The Charisma Myth is a great read for that.
/r/seduction07/11/20 03:00 AM
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Sounds amazing. Wish I still had single friends left lol, it sucks being back into singlehood in your early thirties. And with a pandemic and lockdowns. Lol.
/r/seduction07/11/20 02:56 AM
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My next one! After I'm done with 3% man. Can't meet much people due to lockdown so may as well read a bit.
/r/seduction07/11/20 02:47 AM
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Yeah well we had a limited time but I'm sure I would have enjoyed a lot! We also wanted to visit the desert, Ica, that other desert-oasis place, the amazon jungle, that city in the amazon north of the country (Iquitos I think), the north coast, so yeah.
/r/seduction18/10/20 07:01 PM
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Yep colca that's it! Duly noted for Lima, especially since I always love visiting big cities and enjoying their vibes but yeah we were just short on time.
/r/seduction16/10/20 12:22 AM
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This. Thinking about printing and framing it in my living room.
/r/seduction13/10/20 03:14 AM
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I used to be in a similar situation. If you're looking for something else one day, what helped me a lot is... Jogging, running. I've found that very effective. It started to give me a much better mood and confidence even though my life situation objectively didn't change the slightest. Much better sleep too, which in turn gives you a better mood, less irritation, less anxiety, etc. This is when I started doing up to 10 km runs 5 days a week but I started slowly way below that of course. I was un…
/r/seduction12/10/20 01:23 PM
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Whether eye contact is maintained and reproduced or is merely accidental and very short-lived I would guess.
/r/seduction12/10/20 01:13 PM
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I don't know. Who's ever friendly at the grocery? Most ppl just go there to be done as soon as possible lol, so a few hints at that place I'd consider this as hints maybe.
/r/seduction12/10/20 01:08 PM
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Same. Kinda hard with masks as well. Shit time to be single/wanting to date. Plus, there's this extra difficulty of not knowing whether she'd be comfortable talking with a stranger with the virus around.
/r/seduction12/10/20 01:02 PM
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Because a lot of women are still living in the 50's on that matter, unfortunately. I guess it works anyway.
/r/seduction12/10/20 01:00 PM
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We all wish you were right you know and that women would listen to your comment here, but it really doesn't seem to be the case.
/r/seduction12/10/20 12:56 PM
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Only passed through Lima, went to Cuzco, then Aquas Calientes and Machu Picchu or course, then we enjoyed the road and landscape between Cuzco and the Titicaca Lake area (nice view of El Misti), went to Puno and maybe some other place by the lake I don't remember, then the floating Uros island and the Amantani and Taquile islands, Arequipa, and some colorful valley I don't remember the name exactly (Cozca, cozaca, cuz-something? something like that), then straight-up to Huaraz and the trek.
/r/seduction11/10/20 04:06 PM
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Ica yes that's the place I regret not doing. Been in the Andes though, did the popular 4 days trek Santa something, maybe cruz, awesome experience although filled with altitude sickness jeez it can really be a thing. There are places we visited Spanish wasn't even useful neither, was Quechua. Didn't talk much lol.
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:12 PM
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Cool! Yeah definitely I don't feel like I made the most of it. I think I stayed for 2 weeks and a half and we rode a lot of night bus to max our amount of destinations, mostly in the southern part. I wish I could have gone to the Amazon forest and the desert coast, and the northern coast.
/r/seduction08/10/20 03:30 AM
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It will show in your eyes too! It's not just around your mouth.
/r/seduction08/10/20 03:27 AM
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Aaaah yeah, I've been to Peru! Not for long enough tho, we realized it's a big country lol, attractions aren't just an hour or two drive away. Had my plane tickets for Japan but covid happened. Glad I procrastinated on the planning and booking of hotels and stuff and that the airline refunded me. Meh, not sure I'll ever have again the opportunity to go.
/r/seduction05/10/20 03:04 AM
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The subtle art is on my list already but it didn't strike me as a book useful for our matters here. Was cool? Useful?
/r/seduction05/10/20 02:51 AM
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Aaaaah freaking virus I miss so much traveling to random places and go out and get to meet and chat with strangers over 1 or 6 pints even though I'm an introvert that's so lovely.
/r/seduction02/10/20 12:45 AM
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This. I'm in my early thirties now and what I've learned is that most people become dull as they get closer to 30, even those who used to rock. Socially dull, intellectually dull, creatively dull. So many people are just into Netflix and their lawnmower and not much else, that's so boring and lame. Yeah, it sucks to still have some energy at my age lol.
/r/seduction02/10/20 12:41 AM
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Yeah, no. I wish too. Otherwise, I'd be way more successful lol. It's about the social status I guess.
/r/seduction02/10/20 12:33 AM
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Just finished Models and today in my city bars and restaurants and all other socializing spots are closed again for a month. Lol. That second wave. I guess I can start 3% man now which was my next one.
/r/seduction02/10/20 12:30 AM
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Hi friends. Until now I was pretty much the only solo concert-goer I knew, lol. Same, as a big music nerd if I were to wait for a friend every time (don't have many of them either) I'd almost never go.
/r/seduction02/10/20 12:23 AM
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I think the point is that you're not helping stating the obvious, what others are legitimately wondering is how to be attractive you know. Not something everyone can do simply by snapping their fingers - some will have to take in more tips and advice to make up for their lack of attractiveness on those apps.
/r/seduction14/09/20 05:33 PM
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You kinda forget they can choose from a selection, it's not like any guy will do.
/r/seduction11/09/20 03:33 AM
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Reddit's signature low-effort advice
/r/seduction11/09/20 03:31 AM
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No worries, may as well make someone benefit from my experience in any way lol
/r/seduction07/09/20 07:17 PM
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Wrong. They don't swipe right on me I can confirm.
/r/seduction07/09/20 03:16 AM
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Tried that but it wasn't cached...? It was a short-lived post I believe after being moderated.
/r/seduction01/09/20 11:27 PM
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Yes I came back to refer to it... oh well.
/r/seduction31/08/20 04:22 PM
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And yet it was rather removed lol, a shame, I saved it for reference and now I can only rely on the comments.
/r/seduction31/08/20 04:20 PM
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Nice, it's great to have an actual effort post and advice, not like the super-lazy "lol just bother any beautiful girl in whatever context with no insights or tips or strategy beforehand and move on you pussy", which is like 70 % of all posts I came across here recently. You can learn a trade without training but training exists and it makes decent workers I guess, saving them from some embarrassing mistakes?
/r/seduction20/08/20 02:03 PM
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Definitely. I like the social status meter timeline thing. It's all about having your internal/mental state up and resilient. Good psy hacks.
/r/seduction13/08/20 01:49 PM
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Interesting field observation work and analysis, thanks for this! Maybe I'd be more successful if I wasn't that kind of dude that dislikes dishonesty, arrogance and bs. I wish.
/r/seduction13/08/20 01:43 PM
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I agree but still, it didn't seem to bother them as he got their numbers. Might be a cultural or age thing. Not sure I'd do it.
/r/seduction24/07/20 09:34 PM
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For sure women probably don't dislike guys that keep themselves busy, have some sort of life, projects, are working their way to something great or better. You may sound more independent and definitely less desperate to please.
/r/seduction22/07/20 01:05 AM
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I see, that's a way to see it. Of course I expect rejections in my quest to find a great one. Still hurts lol.
/r/seduction11/07/20 12:05 AM
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To be fair, I feel that many good tips are also good ways to look like a creep if done badly or correctly but with a woman that isn't into you at all.
/r/seduction10/07/20 01:51 AM
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Sweet, at least one thing I don't have to give up #thatfeel
/r/seduction04/07/20 03:14 AM
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I work out 5 days a week so I have to use shampoo that often, not sure that's good for the hair too? Also, are you saying we shouldn't wet our hair at all between hair washes? I kinda do it at every shower.
/r/seduction04/07/20 03:08 AM
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OMG this sub is perfect thanks
/r/seduction26/06/20 01:54 AM
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Thanks, does confirm why I've been wary of many of those cold-approach tips and empty complimenting in totally random places.
/r/seduction26/06/20 12:55 AM
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This was a great post to read lol, amazing attitude.
/r/seduction14/06/20 03:45 AM
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Yes, and you know, sometimes I've figured years later that someone was into me (lifelong attention-deficit mixed with the disbelief that this woman could me into me lol).
/r/seduction14/06/20 03:31 AM
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"And in some cases, growing up around women can be equally detrimental because they program you to buy into their bullshit." Yep lol, maybe.
/r/seduction14/06/20 03:00 AM
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Same here. Except that I have 3 older sisters, there's no reason to believe it helped me in any way.
/r/seduction13/06/20 02:49 AM
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I guess he meant the very opposite of being boring or too regular/normal/formal. Laughs, excitement, experiences, spontaneous, etc?
/r/seduction12/06/20 07:14 PM
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I kinda prefer this analysis yes. My hobbies and activities and stuff never impressed any woman.
/r/seduction12/06/20 07:13 PM
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This is clearly how tinder works : show that you are a bit nervous and all, and no woman will ever unmatch you again.
/r/seduction10/06/20 01:42 AM
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Thanks again for all those tips and help! Just ordered 3 books from your list, a few other later probably. Saving your post in a document on my desktop too.
/r/seduction09/06/20 01:24 AM
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Yep, same. It's not that simple. I wish I could just get interested in any small talk I hear just like that and I know this would make me a much more enjoyable person, and then have more friends and dates and good jobs and all, but for introverts the sound of most small talk is as annoying as the sound of scraping a chalkboard. Seriously.
/r/seduction07/06/20 03:14 AM
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Not that much related to dating but more about confidence in introversion, I think every introvert struggling with the acceptance of it or how to deal with it should read Quiet by Susan Cain.
/r/seduction07/06/20 03:08 AM
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I do have a lot of stuff I enjoy and that I am able to talk about but people often find it boring/weird. Not only do I often have nothing to say but not everything you'll say will be interesting. I did start talking more at some point only to notice I'm very often annoying people when trying to talk more than I feel like, doesn't help than I'm not a good public speaker, people often lose patience and move their attention away before I can get to something (when the slightest interruption occurs,…
/r/seduction07/06/20 03:06 AM
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Thanks for all of this, that's a couple of books to add on my ever-increasing to-read list, that's fine this is how I usually learn stuff. One thing tho about that kind of book is that I'm often scared of falling into pop/bs/esoteric psychology books that aren't science-based and just an entertaining and somehow convincing narrative like what Simon Sinek and Malcolm Gladwell and others do, but you do look like you've actually read those books you recommended so I take note. Maybe it's all the un…
/r/seduction07/06/20 02:45 AM
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I just didn't know self confidence from within only was a thing. Really sounds like bs self help tips to me, don't really see the point, it's a bit hard to grow confidence out of nothing concrete really. Right, success can be a very bad teacher but we're talking about enjoying compliments and stuff here, not bragging or being arrogant.
/r/seduction05/06/20 03:08 AM
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I'm not sure why this would be downvoted. Has it been? It's very legitimate. Opportunities for confidence boosting aren't exactly raining from the sky for many of us.
/r/seduction05/06/20 01:29 AM
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What's your workout? When I was feeling that way I've started jogging a lot and noticed quite an improvement in my mood even though I had no reason to be happier really, my life and situation were staying the same. "No social skills", like being an introvert? If so, I highly recommend Susan Cain's Quiet book, it's not exactly about seduction and dating but in my case, it really made me more confident, much more aware of my strengths and weaknesses, and learned that I was totally normal (sort of)…
/r/seduction31/05/20 02:31 AM
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Totally possible. Maybe there's something specific going on or it's just meh, whatever. I kinda feel like that myself too, I'm used to being alone so no big expectation but I'm pretty sure a decent women I find beautiful and I love would do a lot of good to me and bring back a better self of mine really.
/r/seduction31/05/20 12:56 AM
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Fair point, but I think it's more some risk than anything else, and is probably wiser to do so than status quo. This tip may make guys more enjoyable while being with the girl but at some point they may miss the (real) goal yes. I think the tip goes for the earlier stages and is mostly valid for shy or unconfident or nervous or inexperienced men. His last sentence makes that point.
/r/seduction28/05/20 07:40 PM
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Just yesterday before dusk in my fairly big city the sun and heat were full-on and parks were full of people (yes with distance). There were a lot more than only 5 datable women there.
/r/seduction28/05/20 05:29 PM
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