threewholefists Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Guys who struggle with dating show a common problem: Motivated reasoning. You say that like you can just go to the gf store and get a gf by being decent. If being decent doesn't work and being an asshole does, what do you think more people will do? Like I get that you can't turn a white into a housewife, but at some point the choice becomes "keep waiting for a decent girl" or "take what you can get."	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 10:48 AM
1	Guys who struggle with dating show a common problem: Motivated reasoning. This isn't exactly a new phenomenon. Historically newspapers were written at the third-grade level in order to maximize the number of people who could read and understand them. I feel like sometimes people forget the uneducated are still human.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 10:28 AM
1	Men who want to go 50/50 to avoid being used by women should instead plan dates centred around their own interests Where the fuck are you getting a sit-down dinner for 20 bucks? Chick-Fil-A?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/26 03:47 PM
–	Men have a harder time dating then women. Because the alternative is insanely depressing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 10:33 AM
–	A lot of people on here, especially men, speak about dating and "the chase" like it's a slog, a burden we have to face to get to the "fruit" Weeding out people is the entire point of the date. That's when you find out they are like this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 10:10 AM
1	Men trying to speedrun getting dates in non-inherently-date-focused spaces ruined it for everyone The point was that based on his experience OP is just making shit up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 03:22 PM
3	A lot of guys think they should be adored simply because they are not abusers, then wonder why women (and men) dont like them. I don't record every conversation I'm in. Please do not erase my lived experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 11:57 AM
5	A lot of guys think they should be adored simply because they are not abusers, then wonder why women (and men) dont like them. Generally speaking, authority figures or people in long-term relationships. Parents, teachers, married people, women peers, various media figures, relatives. Receiving this advice is such a common, regular experience that it's genuinely surprising that you're even asking this question and it makes me wonder if you actually know any men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 04:22 AM
7	A lot of guys think they should be adored simply because they are not abusers, then wonder why women (and men) dont like them. Isn't this advise just "become a pick-up artist?"	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 04:16 AM
4	A lot of guys think they should be adored simply because they are not abusers, then wonder why women (and men) dont like them. Consider this: the men they are not dating are not even good enough for the garbage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 04:12 AM
1	There's an overlap between men who struggle with dating and irreligious conservatives. Those same women will date men who are enlisted in the United States military or work for Raytheon. It's all talk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/26 10:20 AM
1	Men choose the wrong women for ltr or marriage A charitable reading of it would be (and maybe this is looking too far into things) an honest attempt to treat women "like people" taken too far for the relationship to grow. The logic would go "I should treat this person like a person" > "I should respect their agency by not expecting sex or pressure them into sex" > repeat. Unfortunately once you pick up this mindset it can be hard to break out of, because they got to this point specifically because they were trying to not objectify their part…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 12:10 AM
2	Alot of guys dont have friends and that really hurts their dating life. This is how you get "nice guys" btw.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/26 02:46 PM
2	Dating experiments prove men are picky and not as desperate like they claim to be. Are you trolling or do you actually not understand metaphor?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 02:01 AM
2	Dating experiments prove men are picky and not as desperate like they claim to be. I'm mean I'm pretty sure in the context of his statement the phrase "preying on" implied "having sex with" but the other guy didn't want to risk a permaban arguing reductio ad absurdum on if not sleeping with literally anything means you're not a real incel.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 01:22 AM
5	Dating experiments prove men are picky and not as desperate like they claim to be. He's not promoting anything. He's making an intentionality absurd argument to highlight the absurdity of the argument he's criticizing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 01:11 AM
5	Verifying and boosting your dating profile would actually help. Telling people they need to pay money to be successful and then in larger letters telling them they will never be successful is an interesting way to try and make your point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 12:01 PM
1	Red pill "logic" applied to men shows the absurdity needed. "But this raises the question: why did patriarchy get started by men to begin with? Patriarchy wouldn't be the answer since, you know, it wasn't around yet." I think the fact that humans have a long gestation period has a lot to do with it. It takes 9 months to have (on average) one child, and the act of giving birth was a lot more dangerous prior to modern medicine. Due to the high rate of child mortality in old times society as a whole would want a high birth rate. Put that all together and yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/26 10:56 AM
2	Modern dating is becoming more difficult because men and women are becoming increasingly ideologically divided Personally I don't think 2024 Trump is an anti-establishment candidate, but truly you see how silly it is to argue that "I hate the govenment and big businesses" is a real belief among people who smooze with lobbyists? Sorry if this is derailing a bit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 03:14 AM
2	Modern dating is becoming more difficult because men and women are becoming increasingly ideologically divided Not so much now, but back in 2016 Trump was absolutely the anti-establishment candidate. The Republican frontrunner was Jeb Bush (career polition and brother of a former president) and the Democrat frontrunner was Hillary Clinton (career politician and wife of a former president). Trump on the other hand was a businessman who ran a mostly self-funded campaign. Honestly the only reason he got the nomination was because he was so brutal to the like 15 other R nominees that they kept giving him scr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 02:59 AM
9	Women are right: It's not all men, but it's always a man. No it doesn't, because the criminal justice system exists. The problem isit isn't always enforced effectively and (more relevant to this conversation) the police are minutes away while crime takes seconds.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/26 10:56 AM
5	Women are right: It's not all men, but it's always a man. I think a major breakdown in gender communications is caused by this. Men by and large do not see "you need to protect yourself" as victim blaming, they see it as taking responsibility. They're taught from a young age that "you are the only person you can really rely on," so they kinda expect it to be a strangers line on thought. So if someone gets hurt because they failed to prepare it is by-definition the victim's responsibility. This isn't meant to insult or demean, but pointing out that bad …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/26 10:37 AM
3	Women control every grey area in dating and it makes it hard for men not to make them uncomfortable. tbh it makes sense. Boys are hearing that they have to compete with grown men for their peers attention as early as high school.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 04:53 PM
1	Politics matter in dating, why the red pill is political,and why women generally reject the red pill. I'm not going to argue that you are a Chad, but that the women who approached you DID do something that would be considered abnormal or a push for change by approaching you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 03:18 PM
1	Politics matter in dating, why the red pill is political,and why women generally reject the red pill. I think we need to remember that this discussion is about dating, and that due to current-day dating dynamics and norms being what they are (primarily men are the active party and do the majority of approaching) any real change needs to come from women, regardless of anyone's stance on other issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 01:40 PM
2	Men’s rigid conformity to idealised masculinity is harmful to themselves So I actually did this and it was nice for a while once it happened. But then it ended and I found myself with a reputation and tastes that appealed exactly to a person who had already moved on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 11:54 AM
3	Men’s rigid conformity to idealised masculinity is harmful to themselves "Me and my partner" Looking for someone willing to be your third is big ask, not a lot of guys will actually want to do that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 11:08 AM
6	Men’s rigid conformity to idealised masculinity is harmful to themselves Niche has the same success rate once you get your foot in the door. Being a metalhead won't make metalhead girls more likely to be compatible with me than being average would for average girls.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 11:07 AM
2	Men’s rigid conformity to idealised masculinity is harmful to themselves I don't think you appreciate how few dating options many men already have. To those men, somehow reducing that number further sounds like insanity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 10:55 AM
2	Men’s rigid conformity to idealised masculinity is harmful to themselves We uh, engage with extremely different subcultures then. Like if a guy has a gf it's completly agnostic of his hobby choice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 10:50 AM
4	Men’s rigid conformity to idealised masculinity is harmful to themselves Average has an average success rate. Niche succeeds in niche situations.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 10:46 AM
0	Sex is not a thing, like gold or land or peanuts. "What does he get" he gets to play ping-pong. If he was trying to get people to play ping-pong it means he wanted to play ping-pong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 10:46 AM
0	Older men don't understand how undesirable they are to younger women The privilege is having anyone of the sex you're attracted to expressing their desire to fuck you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 08:02 AM
5	"Hypergamy" is just a way to blame women for men's lack of effort to attract them This is just using relationship success as a moral judgement. "If you are good enough you could get a date" shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 10:27 AM
0	"Hypergamy" is just a way to blame women for men's lack of effort to attract them Date virgins.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 10:23 AM
1	Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is? If a man questions my masculinity I can just do better than him in a direct competition/life in general or beat him up and everyone will see that he's full of shit. The rules for dealing with a woman are different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:07 PM
–	When men advice of stop doing something they don't realize that means stay away from most men. I assumed that the argument stemmed from a woman expressing issue with the way men give advice after she expresses a problem or issue that arises from a social situation. I didn't say anything about dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 05:03 PM
2	Most men watch porn, most women are creeped out by porn. Isn't this the gender war already? It's called erotica/romance novels. A girl i know is in a book club. They just read a romance novel that was essentially Shreck fanfiction. Before that it was a critically acclaimed book about a girl who is love with an airplane and seeks to unite/die with her perceived soulmate in a romantic crash.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 03:32 PM
–	When men advice of stop doing something they don't realize that means stay away from most men. It's assumed that if you're complaining about a problem you want to be given a solution. "Stop doing things that cause you to get hurt" comes from a perspective of "you are the only person who can guarantee your own safety." Yes, you could stop doing it. Yes, that would result in less social opportunities. If you are aware of this then why are you asking for help?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 03:28 PM
3	Society is Addicted to Male Ambition and Productivity — While Systematically Destroying Every Incentive That Creates It Will those men be able to be selective though? This whole exercise kinda relies on a critical mass (maybe not a majority, but enough that their existence changes the behavior of an out group) of men having options that they choose not to follow through on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 10:44 PM
3	Men aren't more critical of women ,we are just treating you equally and you don't like it I think the mutual threat of violence helps make it more palatable. In every social encounter between men there is an unspoken understanding that "if I act out this guy can hit me and bystanders will say I deserved it." That doesn't apply with women. EDIT: to clarify, if a man hits a woman who is running her mouth bystanders are more likely to intervene than if he hit a man. The social interactions are weighted differently.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 11:50 AM
13	Feminism would lessen in popularity if men could prove that they like women for anything other than sex I'm gonna be real with you. Most men don't like men in the macro either, they like people they can relate to. Generally speaking that is other people who participate in the same leisure activity as them, which typically tends to be men. Your horny is not morally superior to mine just because there's a longer plot involved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 02:41 AM
1	This is the reason why men the gatekeepers of relationship This premise assumes both parties think that sex happens before a relationship, rather than sex being something that happens with someone you are currently in a relationship with. In which case neither of them are actually looking for a relationship in the first place, they're looking for sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 12:55 PM
2	Women Do Not Have “Dating Issues.” Only Men do. For some reason Pretending its anywhere Equal Because doing stuff like that alone sucks. The people I know are busy, there's like one night a week we can reliably meet up and it's evening into night on a weekday so woods and overnight activities are out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 10:50 AM
4	SwipeStats data from 2026 demonstrates that Hinge is mathematically non-viable for the average male user I'm not that guy, but I don't really know any single women. My hobbies and workplace all skew overwhelming male and while "being introduced to single friends" is something I hear about online all the time I haven't seen it happen to any of my friends ever. Maybe we all just suck idk. Frankly I'm surprised that your confused.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 03:44 PM
3	If men focus on compatibility, they wouldn’t have to ‘play jester’ and be ‘Dance Monkeys’ on dates. Yeah i know. Why do you think I was choosing to not bother people?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/26 02:08 PM
3	If men focus on compatibility, they wouldn’t have to ‘play jester’ and be ‘Dance Monkeys’ on dates. I haven't met single women who don't fit into that category, whether or not I pursue them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/26 01:53 PM
2	If men focus on compatibility, they wouldn’t have to ‘play jester’ and be ‘Dance Monkeys’ on dates. Well yeah. The other option is "continue to be boring and single." I chose that for longer than I should have. It SUCKED.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/26 01:41 PM
1	If men focus on compatibility, they wouldn’t have to ‘play jester’ and be ‘Dance Monkeys’ on dates. The point of playing the clown is to keep her attention long enough to see if you are compatible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/26 12:58 PM
1	Men need their own way out of romantic dependency It all comes down to "does he have sex?" The cool bachelor frequently has non-commital but still inherently romantic encounters with women and it's seen as having a deep, mysterious soul for it. He is a contradiction, if only he met the one who was truly special, that made him feel right, he would commit fully to her and they would both be fulfilled. The incel is a virgin.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 11:51 AM