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Success Storiesthriller1122/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 04:38 PM
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Having some random influencer who is getting paid to build a following tell you what you want to hear and join their following is bad on both sides. Its funny that people will listen to some idiot on Youtube thats getting paid to have people engage in him, but clown on lawyers for preying on divorced people. If that helps you, Im not gonna tell anyone what to do, but its pathetic.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 04:30 PM
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This. Not gonna be popular on this sub, but a bunch of people just want a middle-aged divorced Kim Kardashian to tell them they are right. Its pathetic.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 02:10 PM
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If you don't want to ever deal with that, you should. However, Im assuming you are a little older and have kids, so the dating pool is going to be smaller. Shrinking it further will make things tough.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 05:52 PM
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Didnt lose any that mattered. Just people I only would have been friends with through her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 05:39 PM
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Brother, and I say this with as much love possible, move the fuck on. Y'all are divorced. It is over. It will always be over. And you are wasting precious years on something that does not matter and, in fact, will just hurt you over and over.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 08:30 PM
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Yeah, I mean its possible. Idk that I would believe it. EASILY the most common lie people tell when they are having affairs is they got cheated on/abused/neglected. It helps them reclaim being the hero in their own story. At the very least, I wouldn't let it affect my kid's friendships. Avoiding someone who hurt you is one thing, but this seems like unnecessary steps.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 06:46 PM
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Wait... the AP's ex, who got cheated on like you, is a low-character parent? And you heard that this person cheated.... from your cheating ex and/or AP? I mean, I get wanting to be selfish, but this seems like a pretty big step to hurt your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 06:17 PM
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Do you have kids? Now imagine someone sending you proof your kid cheated. I get the impulse, but her family isn't there for her because she's perfect, they are there for her because she is family. And you can't change that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 04:46 AM
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I mean, getting on Reddit and accusing him of having some secret plan isn't leaving it alone.... like, at all.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 03:51 AM
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You haven't had a real conversation about what you are? His kids have been in his life for a long time, you haven't. You haven't even talked about what y'all are. And what is your response? That he has a secret plan or play. You sound insufferable and exactly why dudes like us fucking hate dating.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 03:49 AM
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The whole point of the rule is to ensure your wife gets the papers. The reason why you "can't" do it and why there needs to be an affidavit, is in plenty of divorces the plaintiff would not serve the partner, claim they did, and then try and win by default when their partner doesnt know there is litigation. Thats not your situation, so its extremely unlikely to come up. Just give her the documents and you are good
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 10:11 PM
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If you guys are agreeable, just give her the documents. The rule you are referencing really doesn't matter much. If you think she is going to turn around and file a motion to dismiss your claim, then just have a friend do it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 08:01 PM
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She was banging a dude, got caught, and then claimed it never happened in counseling (after saying she would go to counseling to work on it). She kept talking to him, which again I could prove, but she claimed she wasnt talking to him and our phone records were wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/25 03:52 PM
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Obviously don’t be financially irresponsible. BUT also be you and enjoy your life. There has to be some balance you can strike here. Have fun!
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 05:16 PM
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My ex insisted that my kid goes to therapy (ironically because of how she treats my kid). And don't get me wrong, I am a BIG supporter of her going to therapy. So, it got added to our settlement agreement. The first week my kids were with my wife? She refused to take the kid to therapy. I had to leave work (without pay) in the middle of the day. Don't get me wrong, I support the therapy and its time with my daughter during a week when I expected not to see her. So plenty of silver linings. But l…
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 06:40 PM
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I mean, the house was 50% mine, so I could have forced the sale. But we basically agreed she can stay in the house for the next 18 months (she is responsible for all payments and bills) and avoid the costs of moving right not. She has to sell it at the end and we split the profit. In exchange, I knocked probably $60k off the alimony payments.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 03:50 PM
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Therapy yes. Working out.... not really. I have a lot of injuries from the military, so I don't do that as much. BUT, I do play a lot of golf and do walks and hikes. So, not in great shape, but I think Im doing alright.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 09:56 PM
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Depends on the state obviously, but once you hit 20 years lifetime alimony comes into play in a lot of states. 7 years is a long time, but I have to think that its better than a lot of the alternatives you could have faced. Add to that the considerations that ARENT financial. Like, you will be good to go after 7 years. Hard to put a price on that. What is done is done, you made your decision. Don't spend too much time second guessing it. You can drive yourself crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:04 PM
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Obviously depends on the law and the facts. But as a lawyer (this is not legal advice), I would not be happy if my client posted on Reddit that the money was used "for the wife and I" if I had to argue it was only the client's money.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 06:06 PM
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If you bought that house together, she owns 50% of it and you’ll have to pay her the share of equity that belongs to her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 12:24 AM
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You’ll still feel the way you feel AND you’ll be a piece of shit. Totally understand the impulse, but that ain’t it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 10:20 PM
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I mean, if a split down the middle is the result of your situation, then whatever advice Reddit gives you is going to be problematic. Divorce sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 09:29 PM
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Trial date 16 months after she was served. With no delays.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 08:17 PM
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I hear ya, but remember. You had a best friend before her, and you will have a best friend after her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 07:40 PM
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In the very beginning, he was interested in getting married again. My gut was telling me that the trauma was still fresh -- he had expected his life to go a certain way and was disappointed when it didn't go that way, so he was trying to fill certain gaps by jumping into marriage and trying to recreate the structure he lost. People getting divorced need to hear this. Rebounds/making poor dating choices after a divorce are super common because you are trying to undo the bad that happened and you …
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 06:52 PM
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You said it yourself, step one has to be getting rid of the methods you used to learn that this is happening. No good can come from it. No drinking = positive step. Maybe call up a friend? Go see a movie? Get out and walk? Your mind is going to be racing, and since it is something you obviously struggle with right now, a good plan is to try and take your mind off it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 02:14 AM
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You can just get the transcript. You would be breaking the law and there is literally no need to.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 04:14 AM
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Even setting aside how it legally would be divvied up, if at all, this is generally a poor way of looking at things. Are you thinking about getting divorced? If not, you are just hurting your family. But even if you did get divorced eventually AND it ended up being a 50/50 split, you would be better off getting 50% of wealth you accumulated than not accumulating it at all. The only thing you are protecting against is the possibility of your wife ever getting to share in property you accumulate. …
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 05:44 PM
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So, if its a residency issue, Im assuming its a jurisdiction issue. Courts cant rule on stuff that is outside their jurisdiction, they have to dismiss it. Its likely an issue of you filing with the wrong court. Get a lawyer to look this stuff over.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 06:41 PM
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Record them? TF is wrong with you?
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:26 AM
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Bro, I’m a lawyer. And if you walked into a divorce hearing with a form that said you gifted a savings account of marital assets to your dad behind your spouses back I would bury you. This is all time bad advice.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 12:49 AM
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What you are describing is called an intentional dissipation of assets. And in most states, if not all, it will be calculated into the division of assets. And if your spouse can prove that you more likely than not did it to reduce marital assets in your favor? Then you really get screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 08:41 PM
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The actual decree still needs to be signed, but all the hard stuff is done. Also, fwiw the ex deleted her social media (and text messages) and got slammed in court for it. So, as to the post.... you just gotta be careful. If you are hiding something, don't. If you aren't hiding something, don't make it look like you are.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 03:55 PM
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Alternatively, don't do shit you shouldn't be doing. A bunch of my social media stuff was what I used to impeach her in her deposition. She said I didn't spend time or money on the kids, but boy do I have social media posts that prove that is incorrect.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 11:48 PM
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As you already know from experience, it can look like a lot of different things. You could have another kid that ends up like your adult daughter, or ends up very different. Won't know til you try I suppose. Interested to ask, why is childless a requirement?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 12:31 AM
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I love my kids more than anything. They are 17 and 15 now and I would kill myself if I had to have more. I had my first kid at 20 and my 40s were always gonna be me time. And as for the young, single, attractive ladies that may want kids, the one thing I know FOR SURE after my divorce is I will never sacrifice what I want (within reason) for a woman ever again. Thats just my personal belief though, plenty of people would get remarried and start the whole process again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 12:04 AM
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Always gotta blame someone else. Straight up left his kids and now he is the victim.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 06:40 PM
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The (VERY) general rule in California is that in a marriage of your length, the higher earning spouse will support the lesser earning spouse indefinitely (often for the remainder of their life). So, there are a lot of facts here that we don't know and would affect the decision. Was she earning the same as you or more for the entirety of your marriage and then suddenly quit when you guys decided to get divorced? That could certainly be seen as unfair and you might not have to pay. If, however, yo…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 11:02 PM
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Lots of case law? Hit me with a North Carolina case where a wife not in any type of divorce litigation was convicted of a felony for going through her husbands phone/iPad/device and catching him banging a subordinate. Bonus points if it cites the Fourth Amendment.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 10:54 PM
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Right? Imagine going to the cops and saying "I was fucking around on my wife but she went through my stuff and caught me. Can you arrest her?"
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 07:44 PM
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I mean, this has to be the question here. If you are screwing around on your wife and it's against your company's policy, the "I tried to hide it from her but she went snooping" defense is a VERY uphill climb.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 07:42 PM
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Not unless she was working for the government
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 07:40 PM
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Absolutely not this. Lawsuits are expensive as hell (as we all know), and truth is an absolute defense to defamation. Sharing stuff you actually said and did is not defamation.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 07:38 PM
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Rights and responsibilities are two different things. You can sign away your rights (sometimes) but you cannot relieve yourself of your responsibilities (supporting your own children). Even if this did work, any dude that did it should burn in hell.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 07:52 PM
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I mean, you can lie. It's not going to help you, but you can do it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 05:48 PM
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You are miserable now, she will make it miserable if. You admit both situations are miserable. One ends, one doesn't.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 03:54 PM
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The chick I'm dating now admits she is wrong all the time. I never thought dealing with a sane person would feel crazy, but here we are. Just need to work on getting used to it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 12:21 AM
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The same thing can definitely happen in new relationships. But it does not happen in all new relationships. That is something that is top of my red flag list. If you cant have a normal disagreement or admit when you are wrong? See ya.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 10:36 PM
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This is not how the law works at all
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 07:48 PM
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As a vet, I'm assuming you slept with someone else?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 05:53 PM
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Man, before we split up she used to do this all the time. It was kinda a joke. She would say "my house" or "my room." It became a lot less funny when we split up and I realized it wasn't her just saying something, but she actually believes everything we built was hers and hers alone.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 05:23 PM
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This is what you tell them. You guys built a life that required both of you. If both of you is not a thing anymore, that life is going to have to change.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 08:09 PM
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Yeah, I more meant there is a difference between taking time to yourselves and fulfilling the requirement to get divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 07:21 PM
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Depends an awful lot on who is being restrained, from what, and for what.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 06:49 PM
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Wife says "Lets get divorced" Wife asks "Are we going to get divorced?" That is 100% about control. I havent dealt with this specifically, but divorce sucks. For everyone. Both sides are going to lose parts of their life that they would rather not lose. So it is common for people to try and walk part of it back. You need to ask yourself what YOU want. Some people can do the separation thing to "find themselves." Some people would want out immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 06:45 PM
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It could go either way and ultimately you will have to make that call and live with the decision. I will say, the first relationship after a marriage is notoriously hard. Its really hard not to compare them to your marriage and, since your marriage failed, its also a really low bar for them to clear. It might not be the relationship that will last long term in your life but it feels like it in the moment because its better than what you had. Based on your other comment here, it does sound like y…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 11:09 PM
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So that means we KNOW she is lying? I mean, she might be. She might not. But this post just assumes she is and, based on the downvotes, this sub does too. Imagine thinking you know whats going on in a 20+ year marriage because someone copies and pastes a post from Reddit.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 02:31 AM
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Look, I get it. My ex pulled the same shit. Im not saying it doesnt happen. But the "it happened to me so its happening to everyone or 99% of the time" thing just isn't reality. The dude is the shit big a lot of times in divorces too. I get that this is a divorce_men page, but Im gonna take the side of the person being screwed in the divorce every time. Even if its not the dude.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 10:55 PM
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In her defense, the lifestyle you build absolutely does that. It happens to guys too, but not in the marriage context. Golden handcuffs. You build a life and end up hating it but cant walk away because of its financial construction. Its commonly a marriage issue for women in the United States because our culture was built largely on women being stay at home moms. Again, not saying that women don't abuse that during the divorce process because some absolutely do. But the reason why they can abuse…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 10:25 PM
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So you infer that he has been working his ass off, but ignore that he has been abusive to her? Like, Im not trying to say women don't do crazy things, but how is this it?
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 10:19 PM
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First of all, THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE. haha. The answer is... it depends. I would say the vast majority of witnesses I have dealt with have lied on the stand. Some big lies, some not big lies. I handle trials that deal with businesses, so I have to imagine that it happens more in something as heated as divorce court, but I dont really have anything that substantiates that. Lying in court is a big deal, dont do it. But, it probably isn't handled as forcefully as people who are on the wrong side …
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 11:49 PM
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Absolutely no one said it was.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 11:30 PM
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Id rather kill myself than represent anyone involved in a divorce haha. But if you only got your info from this sub, you might think Laci Peterson was to blame for her husband's actions.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 10:50 PM
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I'm a lawyer and my opinion is that this would not be helpful. Outcomes in legal proceedings are so fact dependent that you could not collect enough data to make informed decisions off of it. There is also nothing to suggest the sample size on this subreddit would in anyway reflect reasonable outcomes. Not to mention with divorce it is naturally a very contentious event. You can see it on this sub. I cant remember the last time I saw a dude post on here "I'm a real piece of shit and my wife need…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 09:38 PM
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Absolutely do not blame her for this. I dont need to tell you, but court shit is insanely stressful. Even moreso for kids. Even moreso for kids that didnt ask for this shit. I also don't want them thinking I wanted this in anyway. Stop thinking about yourself, think about your kids and your kids only. The shit is happening one way or another. So do your kids need a parent that can help them get through it or a parent that is concerned about their own reputation? It sounds like your wife has the …
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 11:54 PM
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There are a lot of elements you have to prove. And its not easy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 12:00 AM
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Litigation should be a last effort. It is almost never productive. It is extremely expensive, emotionally taxing, and, unless the homewrecker is loaded, probably a fruitless pursuit.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 11:37 PM
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Id throw out the camera
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 02:40 AM
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No, he's saying that instead of meeting somewhere to exchange kids, you use their school to do it. Say Friday is the exchange day. She drops them off at school on Friday morning, you pick them up that afternoon. You never see her. Alternatively, let the bus do it because school pickups are a NIGHTMARE.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 01:43 AM
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There are 7 billion people on earth. There are tons of women like her. And considering she was terrible to you and she cheated on you, there are also tons of women better than her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 12:32 AM
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It is her world and she is always right. The amount of times she belittled me for something she personally didn't like. It didn't even have to be true. And it was non stop.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 07:58 PM
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Why would you waste time, money, and effort? I understand in the short term being petty to someone you don't like might feel good, but in the long run its not going to be good. I would suggest getting her nothing as opposed to anything passive aggressive. As an example, if your son picks up on you being passive aggressive, he is likely just going to interpret it as you being a dick.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 09:37 PM
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That’s tough. I wasn’t trying to accuse you of anything. But yeah. If, say, they believe that for religious reasons, you gotta figure out how much you wanna invest in people who care more about their own beliefs than supporting you. That’s tough and I’m sorry man.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 04:13 AM
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Kids do it with her family. I am doing a golf trip with friends. Also, I hate Thanksgiving.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 12:13 AM
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The tough thing on this situation is no one knows you, your family, or the ins and outs of your relationship/divorce. And in something as heated as a divorce, everyone is going to see themselves as the good guy. So you gotta ask yourself WHY your family isn't on your side. Is it because they are wrong, or is it because you are? And when it comes to making a life altering decision like cutting yourself off from family DURING a heated divorce, you better be damn sure you are right. Again, I don't …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 12:11 AM
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Im doing my first weeklong solo vacation in 2 weeks. First time to England. Playing three bucket list courses. So this speaks to me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 08:24 PM
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I believe, possibly making a mistake, that staying put doesn't cost me much Talk to your therapist about what this costs your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 08:12 PM
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