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Lol literally my ex. I said men use and manipulate and treat women like shit for sex, and view women as objects, and I dislike men for this reason. He admitted he was contradictory hot and cold and psychologically abused me 'because I'm either horny or not horny' But I'M A MISANDRIST I SAID I HATE MEN FOR HOW THEY TREAT WOMEN AND I COULD GET SENT TO PRISON FOR HATE! (Literally what he said).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:07 PM
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Talking about gay men, 'hetereo' men get so funny about them, and assume that if a man is gay he automatically likes him and wants to have sex with him or rape him or has a crush on him etc (horribly homophobic). Like some don't even want to be friends with a guy who is gay. But then it's okay for men to do this to women? When most gay men aren't even doing that to any man! I remember in school this boy who was gay had to get changed for pe with the girls because the boys didn't want to get chan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:12 PM
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Lol I was going to say this 🤣 he can't even spell fantasies and another just throws out 'victimshaming ' when he doesn't even know the definition!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:06 PM
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Yeah there's these studies but I don't know any woman in my life who has ever said I prefer obese men with big stomachs and, BOOBS Men love biology and women are biologically inclined to have larger fat stores since as you said, they make the sacrifice and do the wonderful thing of creating life. The two can't be compared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:06 PM
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I was gonna mention this, he probably doesn't mind oogling and jacking off to many breasts but suddenly detests them when it comes to the real reason women have breasts, to breastfeed, not to please men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:47 PM
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Right! It's such a dimwit argument that they watch porn because they can't have sex, dumbass men say that then they have a partner who is ×100 better than them in everyway and they still choose porn over them! There are so many people gaslighting about how porn is 'normal and acceptable' in relationships and the woman is controlling for not wanting him to watch it, yet these SAME DUMB MEN are saying men who have sex or have relationships don't watch porn! And also, women don't tend to develop a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:41 PM
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The thing is, I think most of us want an equal relationship, and want to avoid being in a relationship where we just give give give and receive nothing but heartache and trauma and abuse. I expect from a man exactly what I am myself, to be a good kind person and have morals and empathy, to be honest, loving, hard working, have interests and goals in life, to be on the same path in life as me, realistic, trustworthy etc Looks wise, to be clean and respectable looking and to be sexually attractive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:35 PM
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This is why we don't make the first move!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:15 PM
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Ugh same! It's a joke, the way women are treated and viewed in society and in relationships, then men go shaming other men for being nice or not even nice, being a normal decent person / partner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:47 PM
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That sounds like narcissistic abuse tactics too, my ex would say things pretty similar, I say something completely reasonable (when with his behaviour I could have said something rude or extreme) and then he twists it to the extreme which I did not say, and then makes out like I'm the crazy evil toxic one when I did nothing wrong. Then you're silenced afterwards. (Maybe darvo or gaslighting)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:28 AM
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Yeah probably! I think it's become normalised which is just awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:53 PM
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Ikr! In the past even a lot of men would say pedophile / predators are bad, but now it's like they can say and do anything in the name of 'sexual attraction' and their pornsick penises! And to go against it is 'MisAnDrY'. Like duh, it's having basic morals.It's quite scary because you can think the guys around you are okay, but who knows really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:54 PM
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Oh please tell me people told her not to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:10 PM
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Yes! I'm also 20, and I have a 'cute' face that's still chubby and I'm slim and average height and I've got braces, so I look young! When I was 18/19 I was waiting for my Dad to pick me up in town, and some random guy comes up to me and starts talking to me, I was polite bc I didn't want to be attacked or anything. He asked my age and I said (18 or 19 at the time) and said he thought I was like 13 or something ridiculous. He asked me what I wanted to do at uni (psychology) and he said I should d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:57 PM
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Ew that's disturbing, I'm sorry he did that! I don't understand how they can do that and then act normally with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:31 AM
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Oh but porn is so great because it LoWeRs RaPe because men WatCh PorN inStEaD oF RapiNG Blows that dumb ass argument up, literally ZERO benefits to porn and 100 negatives. And it would have a positive effect if porn was completely eradicated. One can only dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:28 AM
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Just proves how illogical men are! (And manipulative, and selfish, and ape-like) But fr, majority of men wouldn't go up to a woman in the street and masturbate to her would they? To a stranger or someone they know, it would be creepy and it would be cheating, same as if a guy crept up to a bedroom window and watched people have sex and masturbated, it would be creepy and it would be cheating. I think it's partly because they don't really view women in porn as 'real' women, which is saying someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:23 AM
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Exactly! And when you're justifiably mad at being manipulated and having the truth warped like that, they have 'evidence' (gaslight you) that you're crazy and over emotional and their behaviour is in response to your behaviour when it's the other way round.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:18 AM
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My ex always asked me for selfies, when he didn't watch porn. I know he used them to masturbate because he told me so (I didn't know for ages tho). I asked him for selfies bc we had a long distance relationship (bc of uni) and I missed seeing him. (Notice the difference between us) So at some point as the relationship deteriorated and he stopped asking me and wasn't watching porn, I bet he used either fb pictures or softcore porn. I asked him and he got super angry and said he wasn't a fb perver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:14 AM
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See there's no way that the wall exists for women and doesn't exist for men, it's complete bullshit. Women spend so much money probably most of their life trying to look good and look after their skin and hair and body yet some men can't be bothered to wash themselves! It's so logical that women then are the ones that are fat and ugly and undateable at 30 years old Thanks for pointing out more double standards with men and society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:14 AM
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You two are so funny, I love it! (And I think you're both right about nerds ugh they get worse as they get older)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:33 PM
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Similar to the other commenters, when I was young, I literally wore whatever I wanted, and did not have the faintest idea or thought whatsoever about what men might think or that they might sexualise me. I cared a bit about other girls judging, but never boys. This sounds dumb, but it wasn't until I was 17 I realised I had a bum. I did not consider my bum. I did not check how my bum looked. I had never considered or looked at my butt. Then a guy who manipulated me said I had a nice bum once, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:21 PM
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The thing is, I feel like one of the core principles of fds is to be a decent hard working person? And everyone has the capability to be a hv person, if they work hard enough and work on themselves. And telling people to avoid people who can and will hurt them and pull them down isn't toxic either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:14 AM
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I agree that men often cheat for their peepee and women often cheat for more complex other reasons, however this is what makes men cheating worse. They're literally cheating because they're behaving like a caveman however many years ago, or a primitive animal, what sort of justification is that? Oh I cheated because my penis rules over my brain and I am a primitive ape. Whereas a woman is cheating because her partner is neglectful, or has a dysfunctional pornsick penis, or doesn't love her, trea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:53 PM
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I was wondering if anyone has ever made a post about small things that are sexist or small things that indicate a sexist attitude? Like personally I know some things and any objectification comments or inappropriate sexist 'jokes' or porn watching is a red flag, but it wasn't until I found this sub that I knew about men saying female and men or girl and men is sexist. Does a post exist about other little things like that? More covert stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:30 AM
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Sheesh he's such a GoLd DiGgEr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:27 AM
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Ew ew I'm just thinking about how she's rubbing his hair with her hands and his hair is on her face (the potential spots that could create) and that he's probably stinky and dirty and greasy and she's still happily cuddling him 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:09 PM
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If the woman was SO bad then why wouldn't he just dump her? It's not like men have strong attachments or trauma bonds or emotional ties to a woman he's happy to cheat on. And if the woman was so bad, then why would he even be with her in the first place? Women get blamed for everything, it's ridiculous. Grown men can't take responsibility for their own actions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 09:15 AM
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When I was younger and watching soaps or movies and stuff, I was always confused why the woman would be mad at the other woman and blame her and call her names and only be a little mad at her male partner and inevitably forgive him. Never made sense to me. Half of the time they might not even know that he's in a relationship. But hey even if a pickme wants a cheating asshole then at least she has done you a favour by showing you who he really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:38 AM
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I think that would be popular! I would be much more comfortable going to a gym with just those people (and many many other things in life).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:02 PM
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There was a psy today article about how after covid more people are now more supportive of 'traditional gender roles' Bet your bottom dollar it's cos men don't want to do any of the childcare and cleaning and maintenance etc and realise how much women do and how little they don't want to do, since staying at home a lot more. But yeah it's very worrying when people take it to the extreme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:11 PM
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My nex admitted that the reason he gave so many contradictions (he would contradict on everything) was because he was horny or not horny. He then back pedalled and said ah well how toxic and horrible you are I can only like you when I'm horny. Bs. But anyway just shows that the old adage, men only want one thing and will do anything to get it, is true! They would lie and deceive and abuse and lead on to get it, that's all part of the fun and adds to the ego boost. It also proves that men are ver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:06 PM
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Same, my friends told me that maybe he liked you in the past and at the start, but now he's just using you for sexual experience and what he did to you was not okay. I wish I had told them more and listened to them sooner. And my own gut. Hope you're okay now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:52 AM
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Same. Neither my mother nor my sister bothered telling me anything about men. No advice at all. No warnings. When my Dad is basically a narc as well. Even when I got my first boyfriend they didn't give any advice or warning. Because of my experiences, and I'm only 20, I try to educate / help / warn as many women as I can and will continue to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:50 AM
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Ughh my ex always said I was so cute when I was angry 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:39 AM
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Except, many men have beautiful and wonderful girlfriends and wives (who may be willing to have sex whatever and whenever), and STILL HAVE A PORN ADDICTION! Because having sex with one woman is not enough for them! They get bored!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:41 PM
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Um narcissists, smelly, jobless whatever men can be UNATTRACTIVE... and are a lot of the time... this doesn't even make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:46 PM
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That's interesting thanks! I guess we can look at physical behaviour, and then listen to their attitudes to sex and women in general and then porn, and use our gut etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:22 PM
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Definitely this. It's easier when you know a baseline (I could easily tell the difference with my lvm ex) but in general, how easily they get aroused even before you kiss, maybe just by hugging and sitting next to each other, I'm pretty sure a guy who likes you will get aroused if he doesn't watch porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:37 AM
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I love getting genuine compliments from women or my friends (women)! I'm all 🥰🥰🥰🥰 When I get a compliment from a guy I'm 😒😬🤨🤮 Women will give genuine compliments and compliments that aren't double edged and they make you feel good. Men only compliment to get into your pants, fake asf or to get some compliments in return. As y'all say, nobody's nicer than the guy who hasn't had sex with you yet. The best thing is when women compliment you on a nice personality trait you have or something cute and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:42 PM
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I am stealing the patriarchy in pink phrase, it's brilliant! Agree with what you said as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:43 PM
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This resonates so much. I want to be invisible to men and try and make myself invisible and unattractive to men, it makes me so uncomfortable to be looked at. When I was in an all girls sixth form, I loved it! I could spend 10 mins getting ready and know no one would make rude comments about how bad I looked. I could wear nice outfits and shorter skirts and crop tops and dresses if I wished, and know no one was going to perve at me, and I would get nice compliments from my friends or acquitances…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:33 AM
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I thought that! He basically said that a woman shouldn't be treated well or have a good boyfriend if she isn't a '10', looks wise, and that men use and view women as flashlights. But even the most beautiful, rich, successful women can and do still get treated badly by men. But omg it's so horrible that the other meme spoke about girth size! How dare women have a preference for penis size when men think only the most attractive women deserve to be liked (not even treated as equals or humans becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:43 PM
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Yeah this didn't even make sense to me... and it's not me who is the dumb one, he can't even write properly with normal syntax
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:39 PM
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It's always why did you stay with him? Why did you let him do that? How did that happen? Why did you let that happen? Always asking the victim why they allowed themselves to be abused. Putting all the onus on the victim But never WHY DID HE DO THAT? WHY DID YOU STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP ONLY TO ABUSE AND HURT SOMEONE?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:17 PM
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Yes, one teacher got fired for apparently touching his boner in class and some other inappropriate things. Another teacher who was really weird and taught us nothing and just spoke about weird stories, got fired for being a weirdo. Another teacher my Mum warned me about because she noticed he was a perv and apparently cheated on his wife with a sixth former. Another teacher some girls said about being weird (only to girls) like sitting close, touched someone's leg etc. At the time I was very obl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:57 PM
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I totally agree with the part where you said about it being a first sign of manipulation / abuse when they let you know they have read your message and don't reply. On WhatsApp, my ex and I used to both have last seen and read on. The reason I switched both of these off was because he kept reading my messages and not replying for a while. Even if they were short and causal messages. Manipulation and lies when I asked him about it. He's narcissistic and abusive. It was all part of the covert mani…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:03 AM
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So my Dad paid for driving lessons for my birthday, and he wanted me to have a woman instructor, he said because I wanted it or would prefer it, when I had never stated such preference (funny when men confirm things about other men and are mistrustful of them). Thinking about it, I would prefer a woman anyway. Booked with a lady, but she wasn't available for 5 months, so if I wanted someone sooner, she asked about my availability etc and I replied, then she automatically gave my details to a mal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:33 AM
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Ugh that was me with my narcissistic ex. Literally got to a point where whatever he did or said, I could interpret it badly, because I had 0 reason to trust him. You end up analysing and doubting and checking everything they say and do because of it, wasting so much energy and time, and becoming someone you don't want to be. Trust is so important and that should never be understated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:54 AM
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On tv the other day there was this man who has 2 'elf ladies' (they're dolls) talking to the TV show presenters. Saying about how he does everything with them and wants to buy a new one etc. My Mum bless her was like?!?! Don't you think that's quite weird? I find it very odd, it's not normal is it. He obviously can't form real emotional attachments with humans and so has to turn to dolls. I don't think he's very emotionally balanced or healthy. There's a bad balance of power isn't there because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:32 PM
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Thanks for this! When I read it (in my teens) I liked it somewhat because it was sort of relatable discussing depression and identify and superficiality etc but I didn't consider the ways in which the character viewed or treated women, or the fact that he was being quite reckless and selfish, so thank you for enlightening me! (And always trust those gut instincts!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:15 PM
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My nvm ex would say things about the nature of men or hint at those things that we agree with. I would often say things about how men would have sex with nearly any woman and stuff like that, that was agreeing with or in line with what he said. Yet when I said it, I was sexist and so ignorant and I cannot make assumptions and I'm such a bitch and he doesn't like me because I say men are trash even though HE said the same comments and gave me much evidence supporting it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:01 PM
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Yeah I've seen a few people say this, I read this many years ago, why's it a potential red flag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:09 PM
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Agreed. Gosh when you're young you should be enjoying sex with the person you like! It's not normal to have ED when you're in your teens, 20s 30s. And if he has ED then he most likely has a porn problem or watches porn which means he's misogynistic and lacks empathy and is selfish = bad person and is probably bad in bed and so on and you see you've got yourself a bad guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:08 PM
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Same! Because now I've been made aware of it due to my ex and fds confirming most men are the same, I see it everywhere and all the time, and it's quite depressing. I can't really do much to help or change it, as you said if you call men out on their behaviour it's to no avail, or harm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:54 PM
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I wanted to ask this question but it didn't get posted, how do you all deal with knowing what men are like and how women are constantly objectified, sexualised and everything else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:11 PM
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Literally the same, at least I know what to watch out for now and I'm not disillusioned but did I really have to incur so much damage and pain at 19? Life was meant to be fun. Healing seems like such a slow process as well. It sucks living in a world where kindness and empathy are seen as weaknesses to be taken advantage of. Wish you all the best with the healing though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:42 AM
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Bet she doesn't ask her son how 'pure' he is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:36 AM
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Boys / men are probably just jealous that they're much more talented, rich, attractive and successful than they are or will ever be and that women's attention are on them, and they have a wider dating pool. But pretty sad misogyny is literally everywhere, poisoning everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:27 PM
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My ex worked hard academically (we're only 20 so who knows what will happen in the future) but spent his free time playing games or talking with his lv friends, looking at memes and YouTube and porn, oh and being a narcissistic abuser to his former gf. Most people will usually be consistent with most / all aspects of their life, but some don't. But definitely if they haven't achieved much in their life at the stage they should have done, it's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:59 PM
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Gamers are the worst. They're basically dopamine addicts. It's pathetic how they're so dependent on tapping plastic and staring at a screen for their identity and self worth and happiness. Anyone who has to spend so long in fantasy is probably not very mentally healthy. Probably can't cope with real life problems because they want to be happy all the time and high on dopamine. Being rewarded for killing things also isn't good imo Then there's the fact games have a lot of misogyny in them with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:53 AM
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Ugh it's the excuses and lies that really get me, instead of being upfront and truthful they just manipulate and lead on. Did he just refuse to see you for months then? Ah mine was half the age and just as bad! I knew regardless of the external circumstances, regardless of how good I treated him he was still the same, so the constant was him being an asshole. And they will use any excuse to try and justify being shit boyfriends evidently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:08 AM
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Thank you! Aw definitely! I've rationalised now that how these guys treat us is a reflection of them as a person, not me, and it's a pretty common occurrence, men treating women like trash. But still it does hurt knowing how badly he treated me and how lowly he viewed me that apparently anything or anyone was better and prioritised over me. But yeah we need to rally together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:01 AM
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Oh sorry, abbreviation for one night stand, I was being lazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:44 PM
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Exactly, you can just get along with someone without too much bother, and you're both happy and no one makes someone feel bad for their existence. Don't need any rules or trade offs. Just normal, healthy relationships. I'm really glad you stuck your ground on what was right, and dumped him, expecting bare minimum is not asking for too much and if you're in a relationship a boyfriend shouldn't be complaining and being such a jerk about being a boyfriend! Then making you feel grateful for breadcru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:43 PM
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Yeah I kinda regret the weekends I wasted travelling 2 hrs to see my bf (he went to uni while I did a gap year) when I could've stayed at home with my darling cat :( I was basically just there to be a teddy bear and a hole 🤡 and didn't listen to my friends about him. It's okay though, we learn and will hopefully prevent others from doing / continuing the same things we did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:34 PM
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Relationships require consistent time, effort, love etc. That shouldn't be called or be viewed as 'work' or a chore. It shouldn't be hard or difficult to be a good person to your girlfriend, and if it's such hard work then they really shouldn't be your girlfriend. I enjoy loving someone and doing relationship things, I'm happy to be in a relationship and fully capable It also shouldn't be turned into 'work' for the woman because it's so damn difficult to be with the man she's with because he's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:30 PM
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And when they go back it'll be the nonsense of oh it's because I realised how much I like you and how much you mean to me and how wonderful you are and how romantic it is! When actually they just couldn't get any women that they envisioned they would, and they just missed the girlfriend benefits and what she did for them. That's a shame his girlfriend took him back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:16 PM
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I got with my ex at 18 and he always said it was his intention to be with me forever (narcissistic bs) but I asked him casually at one point if he would have preferred to have gone wild before settling down with me. He said he had thought about that because 'some of his friends had a lot more adventures' and he thought about 'whether it would be fun to get into short and mainly just sexual relationships'. But lol I do find it funny with these guys that they think if they ditch their wife / LT gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:43 PM
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'Don't expect what you don't give' is a great message a message that needs to be given to men Who expect some perfect personality, perfect appearance, perfect girlfriend woman (with loads of contradictory traits) while they're just terrible and have nothing, nothing to give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:48 PM
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What about when a guy says he doesn't have a type or never talks about what his type is? Or says the bs that they don't care about appearance they care about personality? (Obviously personality is more important than looks but sexual / physical attraction does have to be there)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:25 PM
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