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"Oh, I see you've got a price - what do I get for a cocktail and two shots?"
/r/seduction10/07/23 09:24 PM
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14 seconds the guy down is a ragdoll and the dreaded guy gets a punch in despite the woman being in the way best he could. There was no need to 'protect' himself at this point, no more threat (not that there was much anyway), just an arsehole being an arsehole.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/02/23 03:38 PM
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Deserves brain damage?
/r/PussyPassDenied23/02/23 01:57 PM
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It's not really clear from the video who got physical first. Either she tried and he grabbed her to stop it, or he pushed her first. Either way; the guy is the sort of guy who will keep punching when the other guy is down and out - arsehole.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/02/23 10:38 AM
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I wasn't too far off that. If this is something you want to achieve, it's going to require work. For some people it comes naturally, they're probably not on this sub, they're off getting laid. Work out which areas you're weak on - like actually talking to new women for instance and address them.
/r/seduction25/09/22 07:01 PM
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Not everyone finds interviews fun or seductive.
/r/seduction20/09/22 08:11 AM
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This. For ages my accomodation situation wasn't great; it never bothered me because it wasn't the limiting factor. If I had loads of women I could have said "let's pop back to mine ...." to, sure; but I wasn't near that.
/r/seduction25/08/22 03:59 PM
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Your idea of 'skinny' seems to be massively warped. 260 to 280lb is still obese unless you're really tall with lots of muscle; and could well be morbidly obese too. It's not that skinny people do better, it's that healthy people are normally viewed as more attractive. Skinny people normally do worse.
/r/seduction25/08/22 07:32 AM
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Just say hit the gym and that's it. But no more bull like "improve your social skills." I work in customer service, I speak with hundreds of clients over a week, my English is above average, I speak better English than most Americans at this point. But my success with women is low af, due to the fact that my facial structure is not on point. Your believe that working in customer service makes you seductive is the issue. It doesn't. Everybody has personality, even the boring ones. Personality doe…
/r/seduction22/08/22 07:23 AM
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Chat to the least attractive women you can find. Ask if they want to have sex.
/r/seduction18/08/22 01:48 PM
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More than one of my exes mentioned going to night clubs and bars with bouncers stopping <18s... when they were 14. If professional's who could suffer a massive fine fail to do it, it's not surprising others do. I've had the opposite too - thought "she must have got in with fake ID", then heard them talking to a friend saying they were 24!
/r/seduction08/08/22 01:08 PM
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*14 with make up to look 18 looks like.
/r/seduction08/08/22 01:06 PM
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You can complain you don't like the way the world works and it should change to suit you. Or you can change yourself so you benefit from the way the world works. Which seems more likely to happen?
/r/seduction03/08/22 03:12 PM
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Talk to women about their experiences with sex with random guys... It varies massively and generally isn't correlated to how much sexual history the guys have. If you use your hands/mouth and respond to what she enjoys, you'll be better than 80% of the guys out there.
/r/seduction03/08/22 03:10 PM
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Yes! I'm in a relationship now, but would have loved an actual "you need to do this" and "don't do that", "i feel more attracted to men who do such and such...". With some dating help I had, I did have a short mock-date. Unfortunately I think the woman doing it was a bit hung-over and just told me I was doing fine - my real life results suggested otherwise. I am fine at talking to women, I'm generally terrible at talking to women in a way that's different to talking to a guy - that gets them des…
/r/seduction18/07/22 03:16 PM
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He's specifically talking to a 'femboy' - someone who is trying to appear femine, but in this case is significantly taller than OP. Typically "feminine" is associated with being smaller - so likely the guy he was talking to does have some hangups about his size, just as OP does. If OP is after 'femboys', then I guess his hight is probably going to make it harder for him at least.
/r/seduction29/06/22 05:26 PM
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And bacterial STDs are generally fairly easily cured too.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/06/22 09:51 PM
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Snowboarding Wake boarding Scuba Diving Wind surfing Sped boats Hang gliding Paramotoring Sky diving Rock Climbing Mountaineering Running Mountain biking Ebiking Motorcycle track riding/racing Off road motorcycling Drifting Drag racing Boxing Skate boarding Roller blading Ice Skating Skiing Esk8/EUC/One Wheel Cooking Circus Skills Festivals Night clubs for electronic dance music Latin Dancing Football Tennis Badminton Trail Running Horse riding And plenty more - most of the ones listed have plen…
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:14 PM
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Granted I am a joker Sounds like this could be the root cause, if you've built a persona around that and people either thing you enjoy joking about yourself, or perhaps want revenge after they've seen you joking about otherss.
/r/seduction19/04/22 03:40 PM
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I think the vulnerability needs to be very well calibrated to the situation - ie an 'advanced skill' when it's come to discussing yourself. When it's talking about your feelings about the other person, the issue is more that for many that vulnerability consistently results in pain.
/r/seduction13/04/22 07:25 PM
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I can eat like 15 cheeseburgers and drink 2 liters of chocolate milk everyday and I’m still going to be skinny. Try it and see. Or 'GOMAD'. CICO is all important.
/r/seduction13/04/22 09:36 AM
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I’m funny, confident, assertive, I have balls to make the approach and escalate. Good externals like a good future ahead, and good looks. Is that not enough. That's plenty enough. But if you want even better results, you'll need more learning if you didn't naturally learn that growing up, as many people do.
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:08 PM
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For me I actually never had trouble keeping eye contact - I just never knew it was a way you signaled attraction and confidence. So I just never did it particularly as it wasn't my nature. When I read about it, I didn't find I had any trouble doing it, though I think sometimes it's probably too much, as I'm not that calibrated in the right amount for being attractive.
/r/seduction15/03/22 11:39 PM
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Do you know how many pictures they take of themselves before they decide to post one that makes them look as pretty and flawless as possible? Or the amount of time they take editing those photos to get attention from guys? Some women. I generally prefer the ones that don't.
/r/seduction15/03/22 08:08 PM
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Wrong. A line often trotted out by guys that have got game already and realise they aren't getting anything deeper; see Mark Manson. I'm a guy that's confident in life generally who does a load of interesting things which means people (including women) want to talk to me. I could open my mouth and have many hours of interesting conversation. But the conversation was no different to a conversation I'd have with a guy. I've still had to learn a whole load of those skills. Like it was only a few ye…
/r/seduction15/03/22 08:07 PM
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Yes, I've always preferred quiet girls. Which was a big issue for me, as a quiet/shy guy myself- not so likely to end up talking to the quiet girls. As far as desirable - a big factor for women (and men) is to be physically attractive. This doesn't have to be loads of make up and revealing clothes. But be in good shape and wear well fitting clothes so people can see that. Groups for hobbies and interests are probably a great way to get talking to guys in a way you might feel more comfortable. Bo…
/r/seduction13/03/22 11:11 PM
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Now just in my 40s, still happens a fair bit - though I'm in better shape now than I was in my 20s
/r/seduction12/03/22 10:48 AM
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Really drunk/intoxicated girls tend to be just bumping into people/falling around. There may be a bit of grinding, but staggering in another direction quickly enough like a pinball bouncing around. Do you find your arse grinding against someone else when you're drunk and you just ignore it? I don't, even if it's ridiculously packed, if there's a guy behind me or a girl I'm not interested in, I'm not going to keep dancing like that. Obviously don't keep pushing into their space, but if there's a …
/r/seduction12/03/22 10:46 AM
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I'm not particularly good looking (am in good shape, but far from jacked), not a good dancer and a good bit older than a lot of girls in clubs and it happens regularly if I go to clubs/music festivals where it's pretty crowded I'm normally going to places playing specific dance music (techno, drum and bass, etc). Like OP, I'm also terrible at doing anything about it.
/r/seduction12/03/22 10:32 AM
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Do not gauge your life off of how many matches you have on tinder or how many girls you have slept with. Gauge life off of who you are as a person and who you are right this second. This doesn't match your title. This is quite reasonable. Your title is a lie, basically. You can be doing incredibly well in life, but not have a high level of attractiveness. You can have a high level of attractiveness, but be doing badly in life (in fact, in some cases, the two are directly linked - for women and m…
/r/seduction10/03/22 09:03 AM
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That's far from a universal reality. Most men and women have plenty of options, it's just a case of lowering your standards to match your reality if you want to have those options.
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:59 PM
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Possibly the majority who interact with you For me it's rare; when it does happen I'm reminded of highschool. And why I don't choose to be around those sorts of people generally; thankfully both in work and social situations I do have a good degree of freedom in choosing who I associate with
/r/seduction27/02/22 06:56 PM
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Women shitty people treat men with no cofidence people like shit in general.
/r/seduction27/02/22 06:07 PM
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Get some dating profiles setup which make the most of whatever you have. Now message and swipe right on every single woman that isn't very attractive. Talk to similar any time you can in social settings. I bet you'll attract some women. Then it's just a case of seeing what you can do to move it towards the women you want to attract.
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:54 PM
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Saying you just need to "Work on yourself as a person" is cringy and fuck people that think it's that easy for everyone You obviously don't read this sub, or just skipped the last ten years because your advice is still the most common advice given here the total opposite of an unpopular opinion And for plenty of people is terrible advice - there's loads with great jobs, great hobbies and great friends who still can't seduce women
/r/seduction24/02/22 09:34 PM
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George is also a smooth dude who’s jacked & takes care of himself through skincare & beard grooming routines. George would do well regardless of his hobbies. I'm sure they will help. I hear plenty of reports from female friends of them going after good looking (sometimes charming) guys and being disappointed they have no depth/aren't considerate lovers.
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:13 PM
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While my Job is more like Ali's, my time is spent very much like George's. I can assure you that's definitely far from all that's needed (haven't done any boxing for a while, but do plenty of other things too). Sure, it's enough to get women interested in you, it's absolutely not enough to seduce women. And this is a failing in Mark Manson's models; he comes from being an experienced 'PUA' who already has those skills to this point. It doesn't really work if you don't. And of course, the irony i…
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:48 PM
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Think you've got a whole load of potential there! photofeeler.com/ has a blog, you can also consider getting your pictures rated there (it helped me quite a lot)
/r/seduction13/02/22 05:11 PM
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And that's why this doesn't belong here, you're looking for r/pussypassaccepted
/r/PussyPassDenied28/12/21 11:23 PM
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Express your true self and let the other person get to know the real you Which is fine if you're naturally an attractive person to the typical people you're trying to attract. But the issue many of us have is that our true selves often can be appreciated, but it takes longer. And in reality there is no one 'true self'. The women I work with act very different at work than they do with their partners. People naturally act differently with different partners, different social settings and with man…
/r/seduction07/12/21 08:34 PM
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Any suggestions for working number #1 - I definitely feel my 'speaking' generally could do with a good lot of work.
/r/seduction05/12/21 08:22 PM
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This, but in italic
/r/seduction05/12/21 08:15 PM
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Sorry if I didn't make it clear, also that my reply was poorly worded to appear sharp.... I didn't take it as an attack. But from the male side, one of the big reasons men don't approach* so much now is that it's painted as a bad thing to do and something that can get you ostracised thanks to the narrative we get from society as a whole, which is pushed by another part of that society. *Me, I've always been naturally shier than most way before 'metoo'. Along these lines, you'll find me trying to…
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:16 PM
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You're preaching to the wrong crowd unfortunately; really you need to be spreading this message in feminism and similar subs. Of course sadly I don't think your view will be quite so well supported.
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:45 AM
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No help, but in a very similar situation to you, so thanks for the post - both the not handling the situation and the DnB! In some case it may be unintentional - but, as a guy I know where my arse is and I don't let it keep rubbing against guys crotches, or against women I'm not interested in for that matter. The situations where it may be a bit more questionable are maybe where a girl is facing away from you - generally I'd say it still holds to true and often they've placed themselves there fo…
/r/seduction29/11/21 10:45 PM
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Cheers; most recent time, it was a fairly open room, I was dancing in a circle with my friends with me facing the stage, she was facing to the back of the room. So if I'd just turned around and had my back to my friends and the stage it's a bit odd - if it was the other way around and I turned to face the stage, makes more sense. Though this way it was pretty clear she intentionally placed herself there at least. I also really struggle with what to say first in that sort of situation if it does …
/r/seduction29/11/21 06:52 PM
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Good work! Anyone have suggestions for when you're facing the front (or your circle of friends generally) and a girl's 'grinding' her ass on yours while facing her circle of friends? (And it's clear it's intentional.)
/r/seduction28/11/21 11:36 PM
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Sure, you'll be giving a confident vibe. But that doesn't mean it's 'sexy and seductive'. One reason many guys aren't good at seducing women is that they're confidently doing things that aren't attractive to women.
/r/seduction21/11/21 03:51 PM
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I do best on Hinge by a long way, in the UK. A smattering from Bumble, hardly anything from Tinder. Possibly because Hinge has really limited likes per day? Or maybe the ratios are less bad as far as men to women go on Hinge. Or maybe the type of people on them.
/r/seduction20/11/21 01:55 PM
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I've been using SLRs for over 30 years now. My main profile pic is taken with a dSLR on a tripod and a remote control module to use it from a phone. Which I eventually set to just take a picture every second continuously. Getting narrow depth of field is nice. But to get good pictures not really needed and modern phones can often get some real depth of field too (don't go for fake effects, they mostly look terrible generally). I'd suggest a cheap tripod that can take a phone. Then go for the pic…
/r/seduction15/11/21 10:43 AM
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35 for me. But doesn't mean you shouldn't get on it now. For online: Get your profile checked out. Your pictures checked on photofeeler. Improve them. Try ALL the apps. I got nothing from the first ones I tried - then found Hinge worked well for me. Get your body in shape if it's not. Meet people organically. Stand out as a person somehow.
/r/seduction08/11/21 11:56 AM
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Because a lot of the things he discussed are ways I already lived my life, but aren't giving me the results that I'd like. PUA = Pick Up Artist. Ie he had studied how to seduce women on a technical level and got good at it. But seemed he wasn't getting the 'quality' he desired. If you add a sorted full life onto those skills, you're doing very well.
/r/seduction12/10/21 11:18 PM
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Similar; but for me Mark Manson especially wasn't particularly revelatory, I realised after being initially enthusiastic. Because I've got a pretty sorted life in most ways I reasonably can; but what I'm not good at is the actual 'seduction' side. It should be noted that before Mark Manson took a step back, he learned a whole load of 'PUA' stuff, a lot of which seems to come a lot more naturally to many people and is a really hard learn for me.
/r/seduction12/10/21 08:26 PM
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Cheers; if they're hot/I'm generally attracted to them, I probably am already without trying!
/r/seduction11/10/21 08:50 PM
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Yea, basically got all that; none of that makes me good at being 'seductive'.
/r/seduction11/10/21 10:39 AM
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Yes, quite possibly OP had not realised what she was 'feeling' for the guy was a desire for sex rather than a desire for something more with this guy.
/r/seduction10/10/21 01:15 PM
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Is fine if your unfiltered thoughts fit in with what's considered normal - my unfiltered thoughts often don't align with others (not Asperger's, but some 'logical' elements of that sort of thing)
/r/seduction02/10/21 11:07 PM
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Thanks, I've been wondering about just this as it's definitely something I could do with thinking about!
/r/seduction01/10/21 06:34 PM
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For pictures in more isolated settings - get a camera/phone you can set to take a picture every second (lots of apps do this) on a tripod or a selfie stick with base. Set it to go and try a load of different poses. Put the best ones through photofeeler.
/r/seduction27/09/21 11:01 AM
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You don't like the concept of leagues but work on your social skills, take care of your body and appearance, and more women will fall into the category that is favorable for you. Is basically saying you can up your league.
/r/seduction12/09/21 05:37 PM
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No you can't get any girl you want, but this feels like a r/lostredditors - the whole point of this sub is to understand how your actions and presentation will affect the likelihood of being rejected. It depends on the situation and how much you chase. I'm great at not chasing and not pulling because they don't see any interest. I wouldn't be interested in someone that fell for me with the use of one pickup line and I've never tried them - does anyone seriously actually use them? But, the whole …
/r/seduction09/09/21 10:50 AM
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I just dont know if I should stop fapping as well or just skip the porn part. Yes. Over the years you've learnt the perfect way to pleasure yourself and likely increased the pressure you use too. This is likely more of an issue than the porn. Consider only ever using a fleshlight while wearing a condom, say and keeping that fairly sporadic. It can make cumming harder, but also consider ED medication to get/stay hard, especially in times you might be nervous and distracted.
/r/seduction28/08/21 06:13 PM
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So I should send nude pictures of myself to women I've just met, because that's what I want them to for me? (I don't actually, that'd be a turn-off for me, but is the case for a whole lot of guys.) 99% of reddit is people finding something that works for them and describing it as a great insight to everyone else, most of which are very different people. A lot on this sub talks about 'inner game', which is great if you're good at being seductive but don't have your life together, other people are…
/r/seduction28/08/21 01:03 PM
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Great it worked for you, but for most people your advice falls in that 99% you suggest -
/r/seduction28/08/21 08:40 AM
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I'd do what I'm still not finding enough time to do now, but is still my general aim - really work on becoming charismatic, fun and 'extroverted' with people I don't know. So being the one not only starting the conversations with the random women, but with them wanting to carry them on and spend more time with me. Try and talk to as many people as possible, men as well as women. And finally - appreciate that the years will fly by and if you want to find someone to settle down with, (or don't) st…
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:05 AM
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Do you have game? As someone that didn't at 27 and 13 years later has numerous dates over the last few years since my last relationship where the results are typically "great guy, feeling a friends vibe".... It may not be she's a bitch, but actually offering you some very useful advice if you want to attract women who aren't specifically going to make an effort to seduce you. (I'm pretty good at messing these up too, to be fair.)
/r/seduction23/08/21 11:37 PM
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Also advice for women: Don't bother neatening your hair, using any make up or bothering with thinking about a nice outfit. They're going to see you first thing in the morning looking disheveled so don't PRETEND! ​ In reality, on early dates we're all competing against others making more of an effort. If you're naturally charming and seductive in your daily life, that's great for you - but you probably don't need to come looking for advice. For people that aren't, you might be more likely to find…
/r/seduction18/08/21 01:42 PM
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Cheers, when it's something obvious, I'm better at least. But often the situations are pretty 'boring' and noting stand out about their clothes etc... Good point about more 'people watching' of others to comment on.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:03 PM
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Cheers. In the UK it's less normal than many places I think. If there's something obvious to talk about, I'm a bit better (like someone's prodding some fruit in the supermarket say, talk about that) - but here it you'd just get a strange look 99% of the time if you start a conversation about something completely random I'd say.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:02 PM
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Go on then, I'll bite... The first one I'm not great at all, what do you suggest? I'd like to make a real effort when I'm out to talk to more people in a natural way, regardless of my interest in them or not. (The second one, often I am good at, just in a sexual way.)
/r/seduction16/08/21 01:04 PM
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They were saying the woman wanted to wear heels AND have the guy be taller , so while it wasn't presented well, we can presume that 6 inch includes both the heels and a height difference.
/r/seduction03/08/21 11:02 PM
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I love playing with classic star figurines recreating classic scenes, then telling people about it and how much each one is worth for hours. Actually I don't, but I've had a few situations where I've presented things I enjoy doing in a way that is not at all attractive. For instance, I tend to be pretty tight with my money, this means that I can do and buy a whole load of things (I'd need my toes as well to count the number of different motorcycles I own for instance), but it's been pointed out …
/r/seduction28/07/21 07:24 PM
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This sub reddit is full of gaslighting, smoke-screening, fluff and false hope. People don't listen here, that want to humble brag of post their copy pasta anecdotes. Post that are just outright honest and logical aren't common here. That's why so mnay topics are repeated and repeated. People oftenly getting faux, canned, generic, and regurgitated rhetoric inaccurately deemed "advice". Fixed that for you.
/r/seduction20/07/21 09:07 AM
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Also "Just be Yourself"... well if that was working well, I wouldn't have needed any advice!
/r/seduction14/07/21 10:39 PM
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The single most effective way to improve your overall confidence is to take on a leadership role, no matter how small. The title, to me, suggested it was very a pretty much universal concept in their mind.
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:59 AM
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This. Like with a lot of reddit posts, OP has found something that's worked for them and presented it as the truth for everyone. Yes, it will work for someone people, but not everyone. I've always been a natural leader - it hasn't made me particularly more confident in other areas; the opposite often, I'll lead because I'm confident in my abilities in the first place.
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:39 PM
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A good proportion of the UK is being asked to isolate either because they have Covid19 or they have been close enough to someone that had it that they may soon be infectious. This means that many companies would have to be unprofitably overstaffed to not be short staffed at points.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/07/21 08:18 AM
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Well, if I was good at that, I wouldn't be coming to this advice looking for ways to improve myself! But for me and what I need to improve; being more light and flirty, especially with women I don't know to get a 'vibe' feeling going. Being more directly sexual; I'm very (small c) conservative/reserved generally when talking to women, meaning they enjoy spending time with a friend. ​ Some exaggerated/steerotpyes ways to express confidence in ways that aren't attractive, not from my own experienc…
/r/seduction07/07/21 11:57 AM
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People can change and enjoy living a different personality without it being 'pretending'; we all change with time and experiences. It would be a pretty horrible world if someone who was bitter had to stay like that for the rest of their life. I made a conscious choice when we moved country before I was 10 to change some aspects of myself to fit in more and glad I did that, filling that new personality just fine. Filtering out 99.99% of women you talk to isn't great if you're not meeting tens of …
/r/seduction07/07/21 11:46 AM
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It's a lot more than just confident; you need to be confident and good at this whole game. There's a whole lot of miscalibrated confident guys that do terribly because they're not expressing their confidence in an attractive way. Your story seems along the lines of Mark Manson; but appreciate having a full life also doesn't make up for learning to be good at being attractive to women, the former only takes you so far.
/r/seduction06/07/21 11:18 AM
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Our current leader may be a professional buffon, but at least he didn't seriously think that injecting bleach could cure Covid19.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/07/21 11:50 PM
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In my experience, there's a high correlation between people who don't wear masks and do regular testing (lateral flow tests are free here, picked up from pharmacies or delivered). And of course lateral flow tests can still miss a case, or you can become infectious after the test.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/07/21 11:11 PM
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Your breath spreads out from where you breathe. A face covering won't totally stop that, but it will limit how far it goes, meaning that it's less likely to infect others. Currently the UK is the worst country in Europe for Covid with the Delta variant. Thankfully we are best for Vaccinations of any large country too, to help mitigate that.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/07/21 09:55 PM
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Except in this case there's the very real potential you ARE doing harm to others without realising, which is why we have to have the mask laws.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/07/21 09:53 PM
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In the UK we have a massive selection of DnB at 'scene venues' with a lot of the biggest names in the world of course; but don't really get many dancing 'DnB step', just more 'general' dancing, but it'd be cool to up my game a bit, especially when it comes to dancing with women.
/r/seduction05/07/21 09:51 PM
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This. It's not about being "terrified" it's about taking responsibility for not f'ing over a country.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/07/21 08:43 PM
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Have you got any any suggestions for videos etc to get better at DnB/Jungle dancing? Youtube mostly just has 'DnB Step' etc, which isn't really what you see in a club
/r/seduction04/07/21 01:50 PM
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How do you separate 'intimidating' eye contact from not?
/r/seduction21/06/21 09:48 PM
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Dude, the thing that really attracts girls is just being yourself and saying fuck what anybody else thinks or says. If being yourself is presented in a way that's attractive to women. That's not the case for plenty of guys.
/r/seduction11/06/21 09:20 AM
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I found that being an asshole doesn't work for me because it is against my genuine nature. I really didnt change how I treated the women, I just injected a sexual edge into my dialog, i reverse the frame and claim they cant get this even if they wanted it This sounds like me. Any chance you could give some specific example(s) that worked for you/things to try?
/r/seduction11/06/21 09:18 AM
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Oh yes, that's the problem; I have fairly limited options for that 'slow burn' unfortunately. I had a few dates since I posted and did manage to get some touching in one at least. Though the one I did particularly and I thought we had a bit of a vibe going didn't get back to me after suggesting another date. While another I read as being not interested (apart from a couple of 'IOI's, but could have just been habit) seemed enthusiastic at the end of the date at least, still waiting to see if that…
/r/seduction07/06/21 04:31 PM
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Cheers; I'm pretty bad at getting that 'vibe' going with someone I don't know. When it's someone I know well, much better; I've been described as "slow burn" before.
/r/seduction05/06/21 06:15 AM
1

Due to pandemic, often a walk - which may not be a great fit for me. Though, I'm quite happy to go for a walk generally which I don't normally make time for, so at least I get that if the date doesn't go anywhere! I've been fairly cautious with going for much physical contact thanks to pandemic and it being quite harsh in the UK. More recently a drink. Though, that's a good reminder, I was going to try some more 'activity' style dates to see if they worked a bit better recently.
/r/seduction04/06/21 06:46 AM
2

Just go up, say "hi", introduce who you are, shake their hand and then go from there. Be creative and bold without fear and you will do fine. Also terrible advice. Because people that can use it don't need advice and those who need advice aren't going to be good with it. Along with "just be yourself" and similar.
/r/seduction18/05/21 08:17 PM
1

Have they shown a reasonable degree of interest to suggest they might want it (and not just being nice to you because it's their job) - yes, sure. If not, no, don't, work on finding people that do show some interest.
/r/seduction07/05/21 09:23 PM
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A lot of people (men and women) want sex as a means of validation - it seems you've already got that validation nicely from the attention you're getting. (I've seen some pattern of women that don't get so much attention being a lot more open or indeed pushy to get sex in a way that men are criticised for and it seems quite possibly for that same validation.) Overall, I think the casual sex lifestyle without a purpose often exposes you to some toxic traits of many of those women and has left them…
/r/seduction07/05/21 06:55 PM
0

I'm a not particularly confident guy myself when it comes to approaching women and those sort of areas (fine in plenty of others) - I find a more confident woman less attractive generally. Of course, we've got a bit of a catch 22, which might explain why I'm in this sub - because the two unconfident people aren't so likely to meet, or make the move if they do meet! I tend to be generally 'understated' myself and definitely enjoy people I can encourage to see their worth, rather than cringe becau…
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:39 PM
1

Yes and likely make things more complicated in reality - because you can't so easily compare jobs and things like national insurance contributions (which is a part of 'tax' despite a different name would then get more complicated too). And there would no doubt be some fraud somewhere, where people tried to claim they were working for one of the many thousands possible situations for the government to save tax.
/r/PussyPassDenied15/04/21 04:50 PM
5

Yes, well I was in 'late 30s' shortly bit before the pandemic, I no longer am. Before the pandemic at least, I was getting better - it does seem as you get older things get harder over aspects and me improving isn't catching up enough. For me, the big thing is 'being attractive' when talking to women - being more sexual and fun/funny rather than just chatting with a friend.
/r/seduction10/04/21 03:11 PM
12

Try the unicycle, loads of attention riding on one of those and you'll find men AND women will approach you to talk to you!
/r/seduction13/03/21 07:27 PM
7

NOT ALL DATING ADVICE FROM ONLINE IS HELPFUL (including from me) ​ Just be yourself and don’t be creepy Yea, that's pretty terrible advice there. Because people are most likely here because being themselves didn't work. Great if that's all the advice you needed; you're really lucky compared to some of us. And a lot of guys don't realise that the behaviour they thought was attractive was actually viewed as creepy to a lot of women
/r/seduction12/03/21 07:52 PM
1

You're looking for r/CockPassAccepted
/r/PussyPassDenied06/03/21 01:31 PM
2

I'm often far too wimpy in bringing up hard topics. While it's nice for everything just to be 'perfect' without trying, things are definitely a lot more likely to go well with good communication. So definitely try and do better than me and get some good communication in; it'll set you up for a better long term relationship.
/r/seduction02/03/21 04:16 PM
12

Quite likely he's taken your about not rushing it o mean you don't want vaginal sex. That's often what it would mean. So probably best to talk about it, or just be in a situation that may more "naturally" happen.
/r/seduction28/02/21 12:46 PM
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First two steps are how YOU can kill it. Different people work differently and like so much advice on here reddit, just because it works for you doesn't mean it's universally approrpiate.
/r/seduction21/02/21 12:12 PM
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If someone is not attracted to another person, it's not a problem. Move on.
/r/seduction14/01/21 02:54 PM
2

Often it's the people that do know who they are that it's bad advice for. For me, it meant dropping my self conscious filter that contained my happy and goofy/silly side. Yes, so don't be yourself, change yourself to the you that you want to be; or the you other people want, which is often who you want to be for many people.
/r/seduction04/01/21 11:18 AM
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What link is this to having a pussy? Alas the FBI isn't nearly as cooperative when an American woman kills someone abroad and flees - Anne Sacoolas should be sent back to the UK after she killed Harry Dunn and fled claiming Diplomatic Immunity, which doesn't count for loads of reasons.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/10/20 06:57 PM
12

I'm in IT because I'm really good at dealing with 'things'. Less so with 'people'.
/r/seduction21/10/20 03:10 PM
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This. It seems to be more 'follow rule 1 and 2' more than anything else - and unlikely representative for others.
/r/seduction13/10/20 07:40 AM
1

Except in the original post he didn't say anything about them saying no. You said a rejected kiss means 'no', when in some cases it might mean 'not right now'. Also: No always means no. Do you understand why many couples have 'safe words'? ​ Oh for the OP: Tip 1 is the most often repeated suggestion in this group. It's the orthodox, not unorthodox.
/r/seduction04/10/20 08:17 AM
2

Thanks! Any suggestions on good 'openers'/starts to conversation men have used with you or ones you'd like used with you? I'm pretty good at keeping a conversation going once there's something to talk about, but it's finding what to start it off with that normally gets me.
/r/seduction12/09/20 10:36 PM
2

Cheers for the well thought out post. If it was a skill you improved on - any tips on flirting generally? And being more fun, developing a good 'vibe'?
/r/seduction07/09/20 11:16 PM
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Way to sound like a reasonable human: I've checked the rules and this seems okay, so I messaged the mods, who've said this post is fine*. (*Or at least haven't replied.) Way to sound like an arrogant lazy ass: I'm sorry if this post isn't allowed here as it has nothing to do with seduction. By all means remove this if you feel necessary.
/r/seduction10/04/20 10:27 AM
20

A small percentage of men are typically the top in each field. Also typically the bottom too - we have a bigger SD. But often overall women do better in many areas - in the UK more women do better in education and possibly still initial jobs until the averages are pulled down by those taking a lot of time out for kids.
/r/PussyPassDenied19/03/20 01:28 PM
2

You well overthink, I'd say. Probably she was hot. However, it could be a could chance to open to ask her to direct some fanning your way or stick your head behind hers and says and make a comment about "stealing her breeze", or whatever. If you like her, talk to her regardless of the fan or not.
/r/seduction02/03/20 04:07 PM
1

Mid 30s now, late 20s and early 30s when I first knew them in all cases, I'd say. At least one has mentioned it recently.
/r/seduction18/02/20 06:11 PM
2

Cheers - it's only fairly recently I've been making an effort with it; yes, as I'm getting older. But also there's some women I've known that have had a big thing for it and have always suggested I do wear it (in a platonic kinda way, suggesting I'd do better with other women.)
/r/seduction13/02/20 11:41 PM
1

Cheers - alas, I'm not that great with smell myself generally for judging what works well with me etc.
/r/seduction13/02/20 11:39 PM
1

Cheers, I'm fairly new to it all and mostly try and stay subtle rather than 'drowned' in it.
/r/seduction13/02/20 11:38 PM
3

You'd prefer no fragrance? How prevalent amongst your female friends is this?
/r/seduction10/02/20 09:12 PM
2

Pretty much did this over the last year. (And I've always had an active and varied life anyway.) Still not great at getting dates from social situations or progressing first dates (from OLD generally) to more. Having things to say and being attractive in saying them aren't always the same.
/r/seduction10/02/20 09:10 PM
2

No kids, no particular ties and not had a massive amount in the way of LTRs (why I'm here). Still often out partying and can easily keep going longer than those half my age a lot of the time too! Often I'll have more in common with people in their 20s than me at 40. (Not that I'm particularly aiming for that... but having things in common with people and enjoying their company isn't directly related to age - there's plenty my age I get on well with and plenty I don't have much in common with too…
/r/seduction10/02/20 09:08 PM
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