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| 1 | I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically onlineI just can't see myself as a victim because I don't see having sex with someone as them using me I guess? If I consented to it. If I don't, then that is sexual assault and not the same thing that most people describe when they say that a woman was used for sex. Granted, I am a sex uninterested asexual so it is not like I would consent to sex with anyone. But if I was sexually attracted to someone and consented I would not see having sex with them as them using me. That just makes little sense to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 08:16 AM |
| 3 | I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically onlineWell okay I guess. That is definitely traumatizing, still not sure if I will ever feel comfortable with using that word for this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 09:41 AM |
| 4 | I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically onlineI get what you mean, at the same time I see the notion of "women are used for" as very victimizing and makes it looks like my life is supposed to be a life of victimhood from my birth to death because everyone "just wants to use my body". I am not sure how empowering or helpful that would be. I certainly agree though that there are a lot of male people who would sleep with anything and it is not safe or beneficial to be perceived as a walking womb. Thankfully they are not as widespread as the In… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 08:19 AM |
| 1 | I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically onlineWell there are many men who feel invulnerable about these topics and would sleep with/date anything that moves because there is almost no physical risk for them that is not reversible and because they don't perceive any risk themselves and believe themselves to be invulnerable and don't care about the legal or social or emotional risks. Of course you can easily find someone as a female-looking person when there are so many people who see 0 danger in being around you and some of them actively hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 08:16 AM |
| -1 | I hate to say it but a lot of the ideas you have about finding partners and relationships is the result of being chronically onlineSome would be attracted to that as long as you are not prone to cheating, abusive or neglectful behavior. The last though is present in many schizoid-spectrum people unfortunately. All of those are connection-destroying behaviors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 06:09 AM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?My mother was abusive and my mother was a criminal. So for me the word "woman" pops up, sorry. I have never been abused by a man. I think your view is extremely narrow-minded tbh. Are you sure you are not projecting your own ingrained beliefs onto others? I am sorry but it just makes 0 sense to me. Maybe your culture is more gynocentric idk. I find it weird how you say that the first thing that should pop into the mind of people is men being violent. Maybe these are your ingrained deep beliefs? … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?I have never perceived women as wonderful, maybe that effect is much more widespread for more tradcon and social people though. Many women on this sub, just like many men on this sub, are only here to make themselves feel superior to others, not to have a more realistic conversation. Where I come from it is normal for women to be competitive and that comes with not being perceived overly positively. I am surrounded with constant gossip about women as well. Maybe the "women are wonderful" effect … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 05:04 PM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?There are plenty of horrible women, abusive mothers and stuff. It makes no sense to generalize that all women would deny it. You can go anywhere on reddit to see women expose other women, idk what kind of women you surrounded yourself with that they keep denying this, that is just sexist of them to pretend like all women are perfect. Literally in the office gossip women defame women all the time, I am really not sure where you got that stereotype. Many people in this subreddit are not very reali… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 11:31 AM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?No, many of them are extremely scary. And those women are also extremely scary. Idk why you assume I am unaware of the terrible bitter women. That is a weird generalization of women right there with "none of you can even acknowledge" btw. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 11:16 AM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?They want something that is unavailable to them in their current state in their current body and in their current environment, which is why they are so bitter and scary. Jaw surgeries are expensive and most of them are not going to move to countries where their phenotype is considered more attractive. Idk no if a woman wants to be chased it is most of the time about her feeling like she is superior and "a catch" which is already morally gross and entitled tbh. Even though I was given that weirda… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 09:55 AM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?Yes and the answer is no, they are not found to be attractive by the majority of women. They know that. They are here because they hate that fact and envy the attractive men and the explosive vitriol or victimhood some of them express is extremely scary. Those women want to be chased by the men they are attracted to. Those women are also narcissistic af. The chase is a pure narcissistic act to feel like they are above everyone else but they are already attracted to those men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 09:33 AM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?Both are asexual. I have sensual and aesthetic attraction towards large framed men with a specific face type. I have urges to stare at them and touch them. I have no urges to have sex with anyone though, at best I could tolerate it if my partner wanted it but I have never sexually desired anyone specific. I am glad tbh that the macho thing is dead. Even the thought makes me cringe. Yes, of course. I sometimes literally get paralyzed when I look at my bf because he is just so attractive. I can't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 08:06 AM |
| 1 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?Gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 05:05 AM |
| 0 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?If you are short and unattractive, forget about it. Your behavior will affect only a small percentage who are very attuned to it and will affect them very weakly because you are physically unattractive. I certainly would cringe hard if someone I find unattractive (that is 99.99% of people) would try to be macho around me. Yikes. I forgave many a thing to guys I found attractive but the guys I don't find attractive I would not touch with a 6 foot pole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 04:19 PM |
| 1 | If some men really want to obligate women that are not attracted to them to sleep with them, then those men should also be obligated to sleep with gay men that are attracted to those men (that they are not attracted to). Sexual equality, right?So you are being intentionally obtuse. Blocked for trolling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 04:04 PM |
| 0 | If some men really want to obligate women that are not attracted to them to sleep with them, then those men should also be obligated to sleep with gay men that are attracted to those men (that they are not attracted to). Sexual equality, right?Please read the title. It said "some" men. Why are you generalizing men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 03:51 PM |
| 1 | If some men really want to obligate women that are not attracted to them to sleep with them, then those men should also be obligated to sleep with gay men that are attracted to those men (that they are not attracted to). Sexual equality, right?Having it with someone you are attracted to is a great reward in and out of itself for those women, your logic makes 0 sense. They got much more to lose having sex with someone they are not attracted to than a man does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 03:50 PM |
| 5 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?100% genuine. There is no recipe to attracting everyone, but there is a recipe to being repulsive: be short, unattractive and have a neurotic personality. Idk why people expect everything to have an easy recipe, this is a reality of violence and chaos. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Do men in general envy women?Asexual and all other non-heterosexual and low-libido but still high testosterone men and non-polygamous men are quietly laughing at your degeneracy and attempt to project your own nature onto every other man by using pseudoscience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 01:29 PM |
| -2 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?We are both heteroromantic cave-dwellers without any sexual attraction towards anyone, yes. We have been living together for almost 3 years. If you wonder how that is okay, we cuddle almost constantly when there is free time. He seems to be very happy, not that it would be hard for him, his natural attractiveness makes me obsess over his happiness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 10:06 AM |
| 2 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?They should stop lying about their problems, because their real problem is shattered ego where no one would accept accidental disfiguring pregnancy from them because they are just too unattractive. If they really had a problem with sexual desire they would find easy hormonal solutions but they are lying about what they really have a problem with and pretend like it is about something more "moral" than just "I want to be a degenerate breeder and spin more btches on my dck than Chad because that w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 10:04 AM |
| 2 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?Not sure why you think I don't know. Being a woman, especially a tall woman, is easy mode and I love it. Should I say that "your lack of awareness about what others know about themselves is baffling"? Do you want to be treated like you treat others? I am really not sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 09:53 AM |
| -5 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?Except we don't care about your behavior, we want your height and your physical manliness, large frame and strength. Your behavior can never change that unless you go CRISPR yourself. Gender roles don't create as much if any attraction as secondary sex characteristics do. I have a 6'5" asexual gentle giant bf and I am super happy and his huge jaw gives me adrenaline every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 08:30 AM |
| 2 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?That's the point, there is no standard. Idk why you expect it to be easy when in reality it is not going to be easy unless you are extremely attractive and even then the people will resent you if they settle for you. Because they physically are not attracted to you and never will be no matter how much you abuse and shame them for their standards. Not that I care, I am playing the game on easy mode and am only attracted to 0.01% of men physically. My bf is an asexual Chad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 08:26 AM |
| 0 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?"""But "Chad" does nothing and gets women to worship him so envy envy envy""" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 08:21 AM |
| 0 | What would “society being honest with men” look like?They won't listen because their actual goal is to have women prostrate themselves before them, not simply get laid. They want to be the "Chad". Otherwise they would do what works for any kind of addiction and worked for me: SSRIs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/22 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Is anyone else literally always horny?You are born that way. It is not normal but you can say that about many things. I would say you are a combo of lithsexual and hypersexual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 10:00 AM |
| 4 | casual sex isn't as fun as I thoughtYou are 6'6", that is why they were hitting on you. You also might be on the asexual spectrum. Tbh, being both tall and asexual(-ish) rules. You are neither insecure, nor thirsty. Would naturally attract more people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 08:58 AM |
| 7 | Straight male opinion: Men are better looking than womenThat's some gay top energy right there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Most men here complain about (non)access to casual sex, while most women try to answer using long-term relationships.I am confused what you are talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 06:59 AM |
| 2 | Most men here complain about (non)access to casual sex, while most women try to answer using long-term relationships.You have value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Why men and women are hypergamous at a certain threshold.You have 0 value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Why men and women are hypergamous at a certain threshold.Or maybe he naturally has different standards from you. Who gave you the right to define what should be the standards for each person and then shame them for that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 05:43 AM |
| 0 | Why men and women are hypergamous at a certain threshold.Because it literally does add to her value for him. Just because it does not add to her value for you does not mean every other man functions exactly like you. Men are diverse and different and you are not a solipsistic standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 12:09 AM |
| 6 | Girl posts me vs the girl he cheated with and it backfired on her, people (largely men) defend the bf cheatingMy bf is asexual and not polyamorous. So I found the opposite of the degenerate mindless breeders you assume all men are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Q4Bi/Pan/Trans people: as the ones caught in the middle of the gender war, I'm curious what your unique experiences are with the sexes.Oh, so You felt predated over? I understood it in reverse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Q4Bi/Pan/Trans people: as the ones caught in the middle of the gender war, I'm curious what your unique experiences are with the sexes.Ah okay, I guess. I guess you felt like they did not really want it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Has male cognitive dissonance towards women, completely taken over this sub?The majority of people are abusive in some way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 12:47 PM |
| 5 | Q4Bi/Pan/Trans people: as the ones caught in the middle of the gender war, I'm curious what your unique experiences are with the sexes.Those men are predatory though. That's why they act so badly. Thankfully they are only a small minority and the majority of men are not some kind of deranged rapist breeders. They do traumatize everyone they are attracted to though. And they are overrepresented in TRP. And in backwater incestuous towns and villages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 07:06 AM |
| 4 | Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girlsMiles better to have a stereotype of many chubby chasers in your community instead of the stereotype of having many pedophiles in your community. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 06:17 AM |
| 3 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenNah I like them because they send pleasant shivers down my spine and make me obsessed with them because they are just so attractive. They don't make me feel more feminine though and I don't like feeling feminine anyways. That would be weirdly narcissistic. I am also the breadwinner right now and love it and am mentally more domineering. Idk if that fits into your worldview about what women want. Also, your reason about why "all men" prefer low N count does not really sound logical to me. I alway… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenI am asexual and can't date non-asexual men anyways. I just feel so incompatible in general with them. But well I am also extremely shallow. While my bf is also asexual, he is 6'5" (I am also overgrown at 6' and half inch). I can't date men shorter than me unless they are very broad-boned and have large shoulders. So yeah I am hypergamous I guess. Hypergamous, asexual and discriminate over height and taller than most guys as a woman, any normal guy's nightmare tbh. Really happy I found my bf bec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 08:45 AM |
| 12 | A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to womenI do. It grosses me out. Any many whose N-count is too high I can't stop feeling gross and distrustful towards. Can't stop thinking about STDs either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/22 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Is the overall resistance towards the n count, promiscuity, casual sex, etc. argument due to the hypocrisy for saying it’s ok for men to do, just not women? Or is it that you believe these things really are good things to pursue and/or have no negative consequences?I do not believe that these men are normal or a majority. I do believe that they are easily visible though because their urges override everything else and while you are unlikely to be approached by a normal guy the PoS kind will approach you in great numbers because they see you as a womb and they are obsessed with that and not a person. And I do believe that many normal but socially way too influenced guys emulate them because they want to be a stereotype and not an authentic person. I believe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 06:20 AM |
| 1 | Is the overall resistance towards the n count, promiscuity, casual sex, etc. argument due to the hypocrisy for saying it’s ok for men to do, just not women? Or is it that you believe these things really are good things to pursue and/or have no negative consequences?Yes and I believe that you are wrong about everyone having the same lizard instincts. I believe that most men don't have the nature you ascribe them to have and those who do are dangerous by nature and only those people have to resist their instincts. And just because you have that nature does not mean that everyone else has the same nature. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Is the overall resistance towards the n count, promiscuity, casual sex, etc. argument due to the hypocrisy for saying it’s ok for men to do, just not women? Or is it that you believe these things really are good things to pursue and/or have no negative consequences?Narrowing of the gene pool leading to inbreeding and mass extinctions, low offspring quality, competitive infighting and long term retardation and possible mutual destruction. There are plenty of reasons why sexually monogamous or almost fully monogamous men are miles better for the survival of the species and genetic diversity unless in an extremely critical situation where there is like 100:1 women to men (which is not the case btw so ugh). I am getting tired of people putting every man into a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Abortions - never a fight of men against women, never a fight to control women's bodiesI can't believe that your comment got downvoted on this subreddit. I did not expect there to be so many pro-r*pe people here. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/07/22 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Why are unsolicited dick picks seen as such a big deal? Perspective of a not 100% straight guyBecause there are some physical consequences for people who can get pregnant that one gets reminded of every day and stuff like that is scary when you don't know if the person is right for you (that includes if they are not attractive for you) or if they would help you through these consequences or just want to use your body for their own pleasure and that's it? It just reminds you of what you are afraid of subconsciously. You don't have that fear because you are not constantly reminded of how h… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/07/22 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Do women realize how little maintenance men need to be statistically faithful?This is why I am really happy my bf is asexual. No need to consider any of this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 07:34 AM |
| 1 | the problems in modern dating between the genders are actually Darwinism in actionIt's far more complex and varied than what evopsych is feeding us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL Are men who are red pill and get casual sex less likely to settle down?Self-justifying sexism at the expense of others who are not like you. Blocked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 07:35 AM |
| 1 | Male privilege vs masculinity privilegeMakes sense. I guess for me anyone with a beard (and body mass, be it fat or muscle) looks masculine or something lol. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/04/22 11:42 AM |
| 0 | Male privilege vs masculinity privilegeAh, okay, got it. Btw, for me neckbeards still look masculine (just unpleasant). The greasy nerds are certainly unpleasant without being masculine (and without being feminine). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/04/22 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Male privilege vs masculinity privilegeI think s/he(they?) meant androgynous men (both in look and behavior)?.. Neckbeards and "greasy nerds" don't strike me as androgynous or feminine at all. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/04/22 10:07 AM |
| 1 | Male privilege vs masculinity privilegeI think you got it. It makes sense now why many people overperform masculinity. Scary to others = safer and makes people in your circle feel safer. The male part is definitely a liability socially. Fortunately, you can not get pregnant and incapacitated as a result. But unfortunately, you can be yoked into 18 years of financial slavery or in general used as sacrificial meat because people think that is okay. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/04/22 10:00 AM |
| 0 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?I see what happened. I don't perceive this article the same way you do. For me it just sounded like another sexist generalization of men saying that they can't directly openly and honestly speak their hearts out in normally safe conditions, but require layers and layers of conditions instead, so I felt like it was misrepresenting (and somewhat insulting) the men I know. I was not arguing with you. I was genuinely bewildered by what I perceived as someone generalizing men to be emotionally stumpe… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?The article says men need "right conditions" to talk about mental health. I don't experience that from the men I know. For me the article claims that all men have to be tricked into talking about their mental health by not talking about it directly without anything else distracting them. I don't understand what you are trying to say in your message by attacking my personality?.. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?I am going back to the point of the article that says that men (implying all men) are uncomfortable talking about their experiences directly without any kind of tricks like distracting them with activities. Because many men in my life easily express themselves without any obstacles like that. It simply does not seem realistic to me. And many of men I know are in "face to face" therapies and don't have these kinds of struggles. My question to you, did you mean "all men" or "the majority of men". … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?You do know that "gender equal" usually means "feminism" in such studies. That does not give much merit to isolating nature from nurture when men are subjugated to daily ridicule. Consistency across cultures on average still does not give you the degree of what is nature and what is nurture because most cultures are almost the same with minor deviations. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?men feel comfortable talking "shoulder to shoulder" with their friends using casual / masculine coded language, but not so much "face to face" in a clinical setting using traditional psychology terms My point is that most men I know have no problem talking to me face-to-face about their struggles. When you say "men" it sounds like "all men" to me. Do you mean the majority of men? That would make sense because I avoid unexpressive men by default already so I have a bias towards selecting men who … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?We still don't know the degree, the impact of variance and how much it is likely that cultures just tend to form in such a way that they eventually on average nurture people to be this way. Putting all traits 100% on invariate nature sounds extremely unrepresentative of reality to me personally. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?Okay, then considering both the average (both natural and nurtured) and the variance (both natural and nurtured) would be the best course. But the problem is that the "average" the basic society believes men to be (evil, aggressive, sex-offending, domineering, incapable of direct emotional communication) is very misandric. So what should be done? I don't find myself having to resort to emotional tricks when talking about what guys experience directly with them. Why should I consider the article … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 01:34 PM |
| 0 | Men Lack Reproductive RightsI say make abortion rights much more permissive and let people abort even almost newborns. Even better: have children in an external egg-vat so that people have exactly the same burdens with the child and stop female menstruation so it stops being used as a way to guilt trip others. Otherwise there is not much to do other than just have the man both pay 0 child support and lose all rights to the child if he does not want the child. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?Literally same. I would become extremely toxic if I had to do that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 09:56 AM |
| 3 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?But we can not know if different expression is a result of nature or nurture. In the first article you link it pretty much says that it is a result of nurture (fear of ridicule, fear of burdening another). What could come from nature is that most men tend to be more sensitive to social punishment? I don't know. The last link (research study) you showed does not give conclusive evidence on whether this is nature or nurture or what traits are more likely to come from nature. My personal experience… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 09:53 AM |
| 2 | Most detractors of Feminism seem to push more traditional gender roles. Is this good a good thing or no?Absolutely not. Trad gender roles force men into becoming sacrificial meat bags and I don't want my bf or any sons (trans-sons as well) I would potentially have to be treated that way. I also don't want to be treated like a fragile flower by everyone I meet (especially since I am really tall). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 08:30 AM |
| 7 | It would not be equitable to only send men to prison.Yeah no what that person writes is extreme bs. Mother used to steal a lot and she stole from random people. I know a lot of women who steal a lot from random people. They should be punished as anyone would be punished. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/03/22 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Why men never understand it when they get harrassed or abused by womenPeople usually form stronger bonds with their mothers due to having more physical contact with them (oxytocin effect). People can subconsciously associate women with their own mothers. That leads to many unfortunate aftereffects. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/03/22 04:45 AM |
| 7 | Who's doing the emotional labor in your relationships?I am an emotional vampire (not in a negative sense) so for me it was a challenge at first to find a very emotional man, but I ended up finding one. I get dead inside around people who don't express themselves, so for me doing "emotional labor" comes as a natural need, I guess. But I am not representative of women at large I guess. I attach very strongly and sought out strongly attaching (whom other people will call "clingy") partners as well. I am a bit too much into interdependence and not inde… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/03/22 05:02 AM |
| 32 | Why men never understand it when they get harrassed or abused by womenCultural pressure of "men are supposed to spread their seed at every opportunity so they would do anything to do that". Peer envy (thirsty peers who think being sexually abused by a woman is lucky). Socio-biological brainwashing of seeing every woman as incapable of evil due to the "probably always pregnant" and "mother association" effect. Women are less noticeable so their evil is less noticeable in general. Binary thinking. "If I see men as being violent, then women are not violent." Cultural… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/03/22 11:52 AM |
| 2 | The vast majority of biphobia is just completely unveiled misandryBecause people don't understand them. So they invent bullshit in their heads. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/03/22 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Are our modern dysfunctional gender roles rooted in an instinctual tendency to treat women as if they always were or could be pregnant?Clumsy also means variance, thankfully. So while we got horrible evil people we also have people with a lot of empathy and people who are not obsessed with reproduction or forcing their children to reproduce. Honestly, I would CRISPR-engineer gliding wings for myself to burn off some excess calories lol. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/03/22 07:46 AM |
| 2 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaI actually accumulated more downvotes in the edited message than before. So now I am quite scared lol. I think I will stay away, I felt a lot of resistance towards me in this community before, anyways, and I don't know how to ask questions in this community without making people (and myself as a result) feel bad. It feels like every time I write I have to prove I am not androphobic/misandrist and that is a bit too much pressure lol. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/03/22 09:26 AM |
| 2 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaThey slightly bothered me and I made an edit, at the same time I understand the need to downvote that so I feel stable about it. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaYay! I hypothesize that I spent too much time reading redpill/purplepill subreddits that I mixed some stuff from there up with this subreddit. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaAh, okay, so celebrated only in safe or appropriate environments. I understand now. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaThank you. That makes it much more clear for me. What about philandering? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaOh, okay. I personally don't enjoy these traits but I was not sure if they were celebrated or not. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 04:47 PM |
| -6 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaLegitimately. sexual harrassment is ok and necessary for survival - I don't think I mentioned sexual harassment. Oh, I mentioned sexual abuse. I will delete that. That is definitely unhealthy. For me it was specifically about philandering, aggression and emotionlessness that I think (I am not sure where I got that from) are seen as good on this subreddit in certain cases? I am actually confused where I even got that from. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaOkay, then maybe I am really failing to understand exactly what those posts mean and confuse myself. I don't think I can phrase what is confusing me... | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 01:48 PM |
| -8 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaI am honestly not sure. I saw some comments before that said that toxic masculinity is not toxic but necessary for the reproduction and survival of men? Like here: https://www.reddit.com/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates/comments/s6wosz/toxic_masculinity_as_a_class_signifier/ https://www.reddit.com/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates/comments/rk3sqd/how_to_accurately_describe_how_toxic_masculinity/ | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 01:15 PM |
| 3 | Are our modern dysfunctional gender roles rooted in an instinctual tendency to treat women as if they always were or could be pregnant?Any man is evolutionarily valuable because variance is very important to survival of different subsets of a specie. Genetic degeneration effects can easily happen if only one man reproduces (stuff like shared vulnerability to specific pathogens, shared intolerance of specific environments AND INBREEDING YES). Imo having an as large as possible diversity of men (and women) reproducing is very important for genetic diversity and survivability as a result. Unfortunately most women are weakly varian… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 01:12 PM |
| 0 | Confused about feminists' prioritiesIdentity aggression is something people can easily feel on their skin daily, while poverty is something people don't notice or don't experience normally or overtly. I don't think there will be much of a shift unless people stop harassing and memeing the identities of others because that feels much more personal than stuff like climate change or economics. But we are all tribalist idk. Maybe the people who don't experience their identity being ridiculed daily can focus on more important things be… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 12:47 PM |
| -10 | Negative portrayals of men in mediaGot my question answered. The traits forced upon men by the societal expectations in that research are perceived as negative by the majority here. I was confused because I misunderstood what some people on this subreddit said. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/22 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?The Gamma Bias Hypothesis is something I had a lot of trouble with when I was young because everyone kept excusing mother torturing me daily "because she is a mother". It was hecked up. On average, perhaps, the aggregate male population has a higher sexual addiction than actual drive. I read that testosterone affects dopamine receptors in the brain of most men, making them more prone to addiction in general, including other forms of addiction. But about sex drive I am not so sure, considering so… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/03/22 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?It is interesting how they keep avoiding the "women who cheat purely for sex" demographic though. The gap is surely narrowing and soon people will admit that many women have the same reasons as many men to cheat and that the "saving the relationship" is often just an excuse to not show themselves as these animalistic beings that humans actually are. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/03/22 10:44 AM |
| 4 | What's PATRIARCHYWhen a few men (patriarchs) rule over the entirety of the population, skewing everything towards their own perceived benefit (oppressing everyone else, men and women alike). Or when in a specific environment a few men make all the decisions, skewing everything towards their own perceived benefit (oppressing everyone else, men and women alike). It can also mean that men have the potential to gain positions of power (become patriarchs) when women don't in specific environments. And the perception … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/03/22 10:09 AM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?The SeT tells me that many people have not genetically evolved beyond the more ape-like mentalities. And this seems to vary from person to person. implies that men Thankfully I believe in every single man and woman being quite different from each other. But I always found the "variety" word somewhat weird, since the naturally polygamous/polygynous who are like that tend to still go for almost the same type (they don't want the variety of someone being more fat or too ugly lol, they are still wei… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/03/22 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Okay, yes, shaming can be dealt with and is absolutely ridiculous. Any kind of pressure of this sort is unacceptable. I guess I was exposed the RP things for too long and my perception of "sociosexual value" is very twisted where it is all about body count envy and not other people's pressure. I have not considered the pressure that exists also because of cultural differences. I will correct that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/03/22 12:10 AM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?That is very interesting. What would be a potential reason a woman ends marriage out of financial reasons (and I don't mean obvious things like your husband using up all your money)? Why does outearning your partner result in divorce? (I earn more than my bf rn btw so I don't get it, aren't both people supposed to contribute?) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/22 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I always associated sociosexual obsession with RPs and sociosexual depression with BlackPs and MRAs with things that can actually be solved without forcing people into sex with those they don't want to have sex with or undergoing plastic surgery (which is entirely up to the man if he is dependent on this sociosexual value thing). I severely hope this is not core MRA. Edit: the shaming of zero body-count men is unacceptable and can be changed though. I find it horrifying that people don't protect… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/22 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I guess for me I empathize with every MRA problem: academic discrimination hyperagency perception abuse reduction to genitals female on male abuse dismissed female on male rape dismissed female on male exploitation dismissed economic poverty resulting in breadwinners resorting to criminality men treated like bags of meat forced to fight wars against their will and horrible working conditions at certain almost male-exclusive jobs therapy discrimination safe space discrimination reactionary revers… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/22 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Is the hyperfocus on dark triad men and hypofocus on dark triad women an extension of the perception of male hyperagency and female hypoagency? This would explain why dark triad females keep causing massive psyche and social destruction since they keep being excused. Evopsych even ignores them. But like, the whole of MRA advocates against what is a result of what mostly dark triad women cause socially. Parasitism. Trauma. Division. I also noticed recently that too many people here are more RP th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/22 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Considering all of this and that the statistic is about people who admit ever having cheated while married it does seem like older women are severely underreporting. Also, the last statement you gave is very interesting. If married men have more opportunities, but married women have less, then the statistics are underrepresenting the women with the desire to cheat. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/22 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?women like this Dark Triad Women. I had a complete dark triad mother who also almost killed me 6 times. About 3., I noticed that many women get violent/neglectful towards their children if they get abandoned. It is just an observation. Okay. I thought that they were usually the ones to start war and cause populations to drop (Putin). So that would lead to less prosperity of society for sure. But they also seem to be into taking power and turning societies into hellholes where everyone serves the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/22 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Isn't that a right-wing obsession? Reproduction. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Ah, okay, you meant the "average of the statistics is X". Those sciences are great but don't account for the neuroscience of the brain enough aka something might arouse a man physically but not mentally but endocrinology would register that his hormonal state indicates arousal when he is not feeling any urges in the brain. I guess I just have to wait for more research and go into more therapy lol. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Ah, then it makes sense why they don't form the majority. The low child quality resulting in high social instability can easily lead to everyone dying, greatly reducing the overly competitive genetic proliferation. Also, such men are likely to murder each other, resulting in naturally less of them. The modern age allows them to proliferate easier due to them often being parasites on the hard work of other men and women and parasitically benefitting from the extreme female survival rates nowadays… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/22 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I mean, by evopsych the highest number of children would be from psychopathic narcissistic machiavellian sexually coercive competition murdering sociosexually unrestricted men. I see that as a slim minority. I would suppose there is more complexity to this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/22 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Are you saying by this that there are no naturally (not socially or culturally) sexually monogamous men? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/22 05:08 AM |
| 3 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I did say "pop evopsych" (which is literally a bunch of frivolous magazine articles usually) but sure. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/22 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Wth. Why. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/22 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I hear you and see that you are trying to misdirect me while feeling and defining yourself and all other males in the spirit of that false universal consensus as nonmonogamous and suggesting that I do all of this out of political correctness. Dodging that bullet. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Some humans are quite fixed in their natural strategies. Most humans are not. Saying that no one has a fixed strategy is not going to be very embracing. I definitely understand though that we have the ability to overcome almost any natural inclination... temporarily... for a great price. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I didn't say it's not allowed. I said it's not necessary. Sometimes people come from communities where that is enforced. We don't. Just FYI. Ah, okay. Understood. It is only a personal choice. examples of such insults Whole of "feminist" resources. And sporadic stuff like: https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/men-heads-women-hearts/1145531 https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AllMenArePerverts https://eu.thetimesherald.com/story/opinion/columnists/2017/11/29/men-evolved/108131252/ https://ww… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I have been in therapy for 7 years lol. I used to be much worse than I am now, so it helps, but healing brain from overload-related physical structural damage takes more than just 7 years... Btw, that definitely sounds rough and the OCD apocalyptic nightmares of death are really not something I would wish upon anyone, either. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Is everyone in the species adaptive? Is it so difficult to see every person as having a somewhat different mating strategy? Mostly nonmonogamous, mostly adaptive, mostly monogamous, extreme cases, etc.? I do definitely agree that saying "a pairbonding species" is wrong due to generalization. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Basically, yes. Trauma fears basically throw reality out of the window. But they can also block you from fully trusting someone. It is... fear of an almost entirely impossible reality that you can not easily get out of. I basically have OCD of several forms, this is a small part of it. I am afraid of a hypothetical thing that is almost entirely impossible. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:46 PM |
| 6 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Do people choose to be homosexual, asexual, transgender? Did you choose to be non-monogamous? Did you choose to project your own feelings upon the whole population of people you call male and then seek out sources that prove it? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?The third criterium sounds like quite an obstacle, unless he had a horrible breakup/loss and somehow managed to move on. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:27 PM |
| 9 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Telling a subset of men that they are C and not B can be considered misandry if it is accompanied by specific forms of insults that pop evopsych really enjoys towards men who are not even represented by those insults in any form? Do you not consider that misandry? Is generalization of all men as X not considered as a form of misandry through the erasure of male diversity and variance, especially when done in an insulting form? Must I show examples when there is a constant stream of generalizatio… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I kinda combined the words. I meant when you are getting traumatized through sensationalist sources like articles or generalizing loud people to stuff overexposing you to things that you can't easily mentally handle by default already. In my case it was pop articles always saying stuff like "sexual monogamy is unnatural" and me not finding almost any materials refuting that and I developed a deep terror of infidelity being a thing 100% of people do (which I know is ridiculous because both me and… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:12 PM |
| 5 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?She raises good points. Unfortunately, she also overgeneralized but in an opposite direction. I wish people would stop projecting themselves onto everyone and making generalizations, erasing the extreme divergence and variance of every living human being. I am never going to simply believe that "all A are B" when it comes to humans. Could get me into horrible situations. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?It is basically a fear that is ingrained into me by societal sensationalism trauma. Not something you can erase easily. I know very well that he won't do it. But knowledge =/= absolute belief, no matter how rational, because even the tiniest probabilities still can affect a trauma brain. That is the problem with evopsych, I guess. Evolution does happen on an individual level as well, otherwise we would not see species split off or such diversity of human (or any animal) behavior. I guess the pro… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 04:03 PM |
| 3 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?And what about the men who choose not to have sex with prostistutes only because they are deeply in a pairbond with someone or in a one-sided pairbond where the other person rejects them but they keep pining? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 03:34 PM |
| 5 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I would keep my freedom to censor my own words, without affecting the freedom to use words freely of anyone else, if that is okay with the rules of this subreddit. I prefer to avoid causing PTSD flashbacks in people, personally, which is my personal decision and personal worldview that no one else has to follow. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 7 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?You did. just stop being upset by stuff | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?This makes a massive amount of sense. Oversimplification and overfocus on some factors while erasing other factors, making some factors look overly important and then the pop culture would adopt those as sensationalist remarks. Like "coercive sexual behaviors enables males to produce offspring" and pop culture would say "every man is a r*p***" while completely ignoring the actual statistics and the female on male r***. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Emotional suppression? Aka self-abuse? No, thank you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 01:14 PM |
| 4 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Yes, that actually makes sense. I am affected by the negative sensationalist bias. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 01:03 PM |
| 12 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?And how exactly would you know if it is genetic or developed later? No academic resources can easily agree on this. I know plenty of asocial men who are still sexually monogamous. Are you reducing men to genitals? What does "biologically built" even mean in this case if there are asexual men who literally don't even seek out sexual partners at all? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 12:51 PM |
| 12 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?Why are you erasing the men who refuse to date anyone after their partner dies? Or even the men who take years to get over their partner and only then will start seeking out another partner (maybe)? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 12:28 PM |
| 9 | Erasure of Sexually Monogamous Human Men in evopsych. If "males" are "supposed to want to impregnate everything that moves" then why are there so many men who latch onto just one woman/partner and spend their entire life force on them?I asked about sexually monogamous men specifically. Not "choosing to live a monogamous lifestyle because of circumstances" men. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/22 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Coming up with an alternative phrase for "incel"?This is what you told me in a different post: Mind if I ask you a couple questions? Hopefully this doesn't come off as insulting, but I'm genuinely curious. Why have a boyfriend at all if the point of it isn't sexual? I understand asexual people may not necessarily also be aromantic, but without sex, couldn't you just derive the same benefit from relationships with anyone? Is there a sense of being "straight" and wanting to date a man despite there being no sex, or was it just a matter of chance… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/02/22 07:08 PM |
| 3 | what caused the women are wonderful effect?Ah, I understand now what you mean by that, thank you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Coming up with an alternative phrase for "incel"?Considering what you said in the first paragraphs, Why would you tell me that "you did not understand what was the point of being in a relationship at all if it was not involving sex" when you asked heteroromantic asexual relationships? Sounds contradictory. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/02/22 10:13 AM |
| 2 | what caused the women are wonderful effect?Are you referring to something I wrote? I am a bit confused what you are referring to... | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/02/22 05:25 AM |
| 5 | what caused the women are wonderful effect?Maybe because men are demonized more and some humans love binaries, so they put women into the opposite category? Let's see the simple usual biological differences where men are easier demonized: Most men tend to be stronger than most women aka most men have higher capacity for physical damage if they are physically violent compared to the female average that is physically violent, also people don't see the mental violence effects easily so they don't account for them. This also results in peopl… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/02/22 04:12 PM |
| 5 | Paper: Even in Sweden low education and income negatively affect men's ability to have children but not women's. This can be explained by sexual exchange theory that describes heterosexual partner selection with economic market factors. Sex is a female resource, created by a supply-demand imbalance.I reject gifts like that in general because they make me feel invalidated and go against my values of not being a parasite. But I am asexual, so I can not really be a good indicator. Also, for every gift - a curse. I feel very uncomfortable with gifts in general because they always mean the person wants something back from you. This is why I only exchange small gifts with my bf and don't do that with anyone else. Give and take. Give and take. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/02/22 03:51 PM |
| 3 | An Important Reminder for Valentine’s Day SoonFor us only New Year and birthdays exist. For his parents - also Christmas but I don't care. We make small creative gifts for each other, like a small meme minigame or a drawing. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/02/22 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to teach some ppl that the "average behavior of X" they think about is almost always a thin slice in the middle of the bell curve and most people will be divergent from that? Or that the most loud and visible part of "behavior of some X" only represents a minority of "behaviors of X"?Well, I did mention in the OP that is is whether the most visible people (which criminals often are) or statistical average slices that people, who "research" don't read into better that create stereotypes. At the same time, I guess there is nothing to be done about people over associating the entire group with only a certain behavior when they convince themselves so hard as a result of some form of trauma. I did notice that for some reason some social people start copying what traumatized peopl… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/02/22 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?Maybe this is why we tend to have extremely rigid beliefs about this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 05/02/22 11:38 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible to teach some ppl that the "average behavior of X" they think about is almost always a thin slice in the middle of the bell curve and most people will be divergent from that? Or that the most loud and visible part of "behavior of some X" only represents a minority of "behaviors of X"?Criminals are the most visible kind of people due to negative bias. I think I did include that visibility affects perception, not just statistical averages. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/22 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?I see, so you are saying you don't see f-girls doing the same things. I do agree that they are less visible. I still can't understand why you don't notice them when many of my female acquaintances are like that... or maybe they just don't approach guys usually where guys traditionally try to approach women, but do it in other places and under different circumstances and you just don't happen to ever be in those situations or places? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/22 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?Okay, I did not understand what you mean correctly at first then. Sexual harassment of men by women is still significantly high and is unacceptable. I really don't know why you don't notice it when even guys on this subreddit keep telling horror experiences about women shaming them and abusing them when they refuse to have sex with them because some women believe they are entitled to unlimited sexual access to all men. I know like 3 guys personally who were raped by a woman. One of them now can'… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/22 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to teach some ppl that the "average behavior of X" they think about is almost always a thin slice in the middle of the bell curve and most people will be divergent from that? Or that the most loud and visible part of "behavior of some X" only represents a minority of "behaviors of X"?That makes a lot of sense in some cases. I will edit the op. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/22 10:04 PM |
| 6 | Is it possible to teach some ppl that the "average behavior of X" they think about is almost always a thin slice in the middle of the bell curve and most people will be divergent from that? Or that the most loud and visible part of "behavior of some X" only represents a minority of "behaviors of X"?And yes, this is basically about the most visible members (criminals), the exposed in the news behaviors of those criminals and trying to confirm initial beliefs (trying to convince themselves that "men who do bad stuff definitely do it because they are misogynistic and only because of that"). If it is that ingrained then I guess we can not do much about it or at least easily. I personally get shocked by any stories of violence and abuse, no matter from which side, but that might be because I al… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?You seemed to imply that the majority of men were strongly affected by the need for sex and were affected by the alpha stinkdog thing. In my personal subjective eyes the first is not the majority of men and the second does not really work in the reality for most cases but works for the most noticeable cases because of negative bias and data selection and what types of women usually get attracted to those men (also often very visible). Maybe I misunderstood what you meant though, but you seemed t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/22 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to teach some ppl that the "average behavior of X" they think about is almost always a thin slice in the middle of the bell curve and most people will be divergent from that? Or that the most loud and visible part of "behavior of some X" only represents a minority of "behaviors of X"?I guess I just have to embrace this as something I can not change but gotta protect myself from. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/22 12:34 PM |
| 3 | How can we let our male friends know that they can call us for emotional support?It will be difficult but I found that being super emotionally open with my male acquaintances and just accepting any emotions they express as valid eventually opens them up really hard. You need to take care of no longer invalidating or gaslighting anyone (this is a habit in too many people that they usually don't notice). That includes no more toxic positivity as well. No more "it will be okay" or "don't worry" or "don't feel bad". And being emotionally open also makes sure they don't assume yo… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/22 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?There are many women who treat men like "pieces of meat" as well. For me I don't see men, women (or nbs) who engage in polysexuality as that though. I see it as them having allosexual needs without any interest in pairbonding. I find it to be just what they are. They are trying to fulfill their instincts. Do we vilify something like a predator for eating other animals when it is their instinct? I don't, I just protect myself against them. Inbetween each other they are very happy, so are they tre… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/22 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?I read that article and cringed hard through all of it. I guess that comes from being asexual. I know though if I had a crush on someone and they started messaging me like that without any connection, my cringe would be weaker but I would start losing my feelings rather quickly. I can derive from what you have written and the article that many women are surely much more selective and probably socially influenced because while this guy is probably a romantic type of many women for me he looks unt… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/02/22 11:04 AM |
| 3 | Does widespread female on male sexual assault and female on male r*pe imply that these are not just crimes of violence, but also crimes of sexual access aka maladaptive reproductive strategies?I edited the OP to reflect the specificity. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/02/22 12:49 AM |
| 8 | Does widespread female on male sexual assault and female on male r*pe imply that these are not just crimes of violence, but also crimes of sexual access aka maladaptive reproductive strategies?I wonder where the person who reported me saw generalization... I am a woman myself and since I am asexual I don't think I could have the intention to say that all women are like that. Only a minority of women and men commit sexual assault. Unless the person just did not like the topic. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/02/22 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Does widespread female on male sexual assault and female on male r*pe imply that these are not just crimes of violence, but also crimes of sexual access aka maladaptive reproductive strategies?I will read that and I hope it does not focus only on male on female sexual coercion like similar resources usually do. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/02/22 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Does widespread female on male sexual assault and female on male r*pe imply that these are not just crimes of violence, but also crimes of sexual access aka maladaptive reproductive strategies?I will read that article, thank you. Sounds like mental abuse to get what they want is hardwired into some people. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/02/22 11:05 PM |
| 9 | Does widespread female on male sexual assault and female on male r*pe imply that these are not just crimes of violence, but also crimes of sexual access aka maladaptive reproductive strategies?Yes, I would say the same now. I used to think differently before because of not having enough perspective. It still always felt wrong to say that primarily violence motivated sexual assault because to me it always looked like it was unhinged people trying to have sex at all costs without any care for the person they are having it with more than just pure violence in most cases. Also, since I am a woman who was used to normalized misandry when I was younger, I was convinced by my initial circles… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/02/22 08:20 PM |
| 6 | how to show to women that advocating for men does not mean anti-women?I don't think those specific women have much empathy for anyone who is not like them... Where do you find so many of them? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/02/22 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?Oof I knew some people weaponized sex but I did not realize how much that can actually affect some people. Deriving esteem from being able to weaponize sex sounds kinda psychopathic ngl. Those women (and other people) who do that sound malevolent. It does seem like many heterosexual women are scared (or even repelled by) of sex with most guys while still having mating (reproductive and not) urges towards the same guys. Which is probably why people think they are asexual, okay. The heteroromantic… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/02/22 09:06 AM |
| 5 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?That is really depressing. They have no right to sexual access to whomever they want. Especially getting violent when rejected. Disgusting behavior. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/01/22 03:50 PM |
| 4 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?Being on the other side (high libido asexuals) where you are often sexual but don't have mating urges towards anyone IRL even when feeling sexual, it is just literally there but towards no one, is kinda funny. You are probably right, most heterosexual women I know do seem to be very phallocentric themselves (from what my female acquaintances at least do tell me). And they tend to fixate on those things, when it comes to men they are sexually attracted to, a lot. Your exes were really obsessive a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/01/22 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?I hope they don't make you cringe too much. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/01/22 11:56 AM |
| 3 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?Which they are not and should never be. I know there are some woman-obsessed guys but they are rare (thankfully), I believe. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/01/22 11:55 AM |
| 10 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?male victims are seen as "lucky" - ughhhhhhhhh people are really abusive. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/01/22 07:08 AM |
| 9 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?Wow, okay, so even if he is a huge scary guardian stereotype they still can't see him as just himself. I know that while there are a lot of very high libido men, there are as many very low libido (heterosexual low-libido specifically, not asexual, there are non-stop-fap high libido asexuals lol) men due to high variance in Y-chromosome people in how testosterone affects them (which can be diverse no matter what the T levels are). Would those lower libido guys also be seen as defective even thoug… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/01/22 10:18 PM |
| 12 | Why does the phrase "Asexual Man" shock people?Those are some ego-addicted women. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/01/22 10:09 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop using toxic masculinity when it’s the only thing that works for me?You are self-abusing. Guess what that leads to? Adopting abuse as an acceptable tactic. There are ways to achieve what you are doing without self-abuse. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/11/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?That actually doesn't work in most cases. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 05:05 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?I think they are narcissistic or genetically inclined to be narcissistic. That is the only reason I have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 05:04 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Hmm. Okay. That will require some extra creativity. Thank you for the tips. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 05:44 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Huh. I can be very theatrical with my body language, I will actually try amplifying it next time to see how it works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 05:01 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Yes, I do block online ppl doing that almost instantly. And about coworkers... well, sometimes it is hard for the HR to solve the problem because they see it as minor, so I have to do it myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 04:56 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Wow, that really makes me feel much worse about some humans. And good. Now I will know some people can be that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 04:08 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Yeah, thankfully, I avoid parties like hell and only have this problem online or with coworkers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Thankfully, it is not in front of my bf (online or coworkers usually do it because I am a homebody). If they did it in front of my bf, I would probably feel like smashing their head with a metal object because I would feel SO INSULTED. Like COME ON. My partner is standing RIGHT THERE and you DARE do this BS?! Also, ppl like that don't draw me into conversations. I feel repelled by them the moment they attempt to woo me or smth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:40 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?OH WOW. That is actually genius. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:36 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Trust me, I seriously want to erase their existence when that happens. And I do tell them that I have no interest, they still continue to be repulsive. Only being really rude helps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:35 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?That is really despicable behavior, then. Do people really believe putting down someone else's partner is going to work and not just make the person really angry and insulted? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:34 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Alright. I will if anything escalates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:33 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?That's... strange. I did not expect that people are just trying to be way too opportunistic. Well, it's still strange why they keep on insisting even though I keep being super obvious about my revulsion... it's repulsive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:33 PM |
| 7 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?So not feeding them can work, okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:31 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Makes sense, but my bf is usually not there because it is some kinda online or coworker situation (I am a homebody otherwise, so thankfully this happens not often). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:30 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Yeah... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:29 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?That's... really strange for me personally. Back when I was single I would stay away from anyone remotely in any form of relationship/situationship. I guess women (and people in general) are diverse or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:29 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Well, we all know they were just trying to be annoyingly opportunistic and there is nothing friendly about them insulting me and my bf by trying to poach me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:28 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Hmm, bringing my bf with me would be hard lol but I can ignore ppl, yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:28 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Wow, that is directly ego-damaging, I am not sure if I can easily invent ways to insult people (I insult people extremely rarely), but I can try. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:27 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Yeah, alright, instant disengagement - can try that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Alright, then I will avoid them actively and employ associates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:26 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Yeah, their behavior does feel very repulsive for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:25 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?That is actually a more extreme variant, but I will try that, interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:24 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Yup, that's how I feel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:24 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with some guys trying to poach you specifically when they find out that you have a bf?Alright, then being nasty is going to be my go-to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Withholding sex, because the person wants a 'serious' relationship is bad if the other person is asexual and doesn't know it.Both me and my bf are like you and that happened really by luck. But having matched sexuality really, really helps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:18 AM |
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