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I'm not gonna act like I'm a Romeo but I've gotten a decent amount of play since I cleaned myself up - so regarding conversations, the majority of guys ask boring dry shit like "where do you work" or "what do you do". I guarantee the woman you're talking with has had that conversation literally over a hundred times, and she's sick of it. She has to really be into you to put up with it. The best way is to be playful and flirty. That's easier said than done but surely you've had moments where you …
/r/seduction08/02/25 09:42 PM
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Texting frequency is one sign of interest but not the end-all-be-all. Like, I once had a woman forget to respond to a text of mine (to be fair, it was a dry ass text on my end). Later when I texted again a few days later to confirm the date she apologized via a sweet minute long voice note lol. The common logic is that she's not interested/barely interested because she forgot to text back, but she was extremely interested during the date to the point that she was nervous, and we hooked up that n…
/r/seduction07/02/25 02:42 AM
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It's like that for most people. Like we don't have much trouble maintaining eye contact with people we're not attracted to, but if we are attracted it suddenly becomes really tense and awkward. It's just a matter of building confidence, it's not easy
/r/seduction07/02/25 02:23 AM
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Yeah I basically wrote her off. I could have handled things better anyway, I got a little too excited because I liked her so much and she was smoking hot. Lesson learned. Appreciate the advice. Onto the next one.
/r/seduction07/02/25 01:52 AM
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The smile is the most important part. I have a girl at work who constantly looks at me and sometimes we make eye contact but she doesn't smile. I'm pretty sure she's crushing on me but the lack of a smile is unnerving and I don't have the balls to risk it in the off-chance I'm wrong. If she gave me one single smile I'd go for it.
/r/seduction06/02/25 06:01 AM
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How long does that take in your experience? I lost a girl who was super excited about me, she came over to have sex and I couldn't get it up. It was weird because I normally don't have that problem. She slept over anyway, and I made sure to give her an orgasm with my hands and we still made out and stuff. She was excitedly texting me after for a few days then just disappeared. For context, she'd very recently broken up with her bf and they were still arguing over text the day her and I first met…
/r/seduction06/02/25 05:59 AM
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The more into her he gets, the more he'd start to be bothered by the fact that she slept with his friend. It would get worse and worse and eventually become unbearable. It's not fair to OP, her, or the friend even. Hence if OP can't get over it, don't even bother.
/r/seduction06/02/25 02:45 AM
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This. I'll just add that often women aren't even aware that they're shit testing you; it's almost subconscious. They want to see how confident you really are.
/r/seduction03/02/25 04:38 AM
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Hey I've always had trouble with physical escalation but after enough experience I figured out what works for me. I basically just make strong eye contact with them, smile, and tell them "I really want to kiss you right now" It's not a question, it's a direct statement. Every single time I've done this they've smiled or giggled and leaned in. If you do it right, it comes off as confident and even bold, and I much prefer it to fumbling around trying to figure out when the right time is. Also it g…
/r/seduction03/02/25 03:50 AM
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The reason I've been hesitant to ask anyone on a date is that I'm afraid I might trigger an emotional attachment in them and since I don't want any serious relationship, I don't wanna be the reason for someone else's emotional distress. Honestly good on you, if more people were thoughtful and empathetic like this the world would be a better place. I'm the same way now, I'm not interested in casual relationships anymore since I want to settle down now, and casual relationships generally lead to h…
/r/seduction02/02/25 11:32 PM
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because they like you as a friend/think you're cool but aren't attracted to you, so when they see you and your gf they feel happy for you and like the pic Don't overthink it
/r/seduction02/02/25 03:54 AM
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Women act differently depending on their personality type. Some women (generally those who tend to be really vibrant and expressive) will often make repeated glances at you; it's a subconscious reaction for them. Some women, typically shyer or less confident ones, will act like they don't like you without even realizing it - for example, they might completely avoid eye contact with you in a group conversation, or they avoid you or become tense when it's just you two. This is due to anxiety and i…
/r/seduction01/02/25 09:17 PM
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Chasing is when someone is trying to get away from you, yet you're still after them. Like, say a woman is mildly turned off by you yet you keep trying her - this is chasing. Pursuing is when they either don't mind, or they want you to come after them - some women (and men) like the pursuit; it's a classic part of romance that our societies have have written and spoken about for centuries. One example would be a woman who is neutral towards you, but you can see that she's slowly warming up.
/r/seduction01/02/25 05:51 AM
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Hey man I went through the same thing. For me it only really happened after years of one-nighters/flings from dating apps. I think it desensitized me or something, but for the better I guess. Now I only really get sexually excited if I'm really emotionally into that person - like, the thought of how much I care about them and the feeling of wanting to protect them can make me horny lmao. It almost sounds like a joke but I don't know how else to put it. Maybe it's a good thing, because it's large…
/r/seduction01/02/25 02:40 AM
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I think most people can be attractive if they hit the gym and work out, at the very least it makes a huge difference in how you feel!
/r/seduction31/01/25 01:53 AM
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this lol, I'm pretty fit and I roll into yoga class in a tank top, I'm almost always the only guy in the room and the few times there are other guys, they're all skinnyfat with noodle arms and look completely out of place. I sit up front near the instructor and I can see women checking me out throughout the class from the mirror, sometimes they don't even hide it and they just turn towards me during breaks and look. If nothing else it's very flattering and I always leave with a little confidence…
/r/seduction30/01/25 03:46 AM
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I take care of myself and I'm reasonably muscular and in shape, and I wear fitted clothes. I almost never see any fit guys outside of the gym and, to an extent, the club - compare that to Miami where everyone is on top of their game. Also, a large percentage of the men here are FOB Asians/Indians who either stick to themselves or are just utterly clueless (I say this an Indian-American dude), so again the fact that there are more men is technically true but not a bad thing. I've been with some p…
/r/seduction29/01/25 01:59 AM
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Following OPs advice too strictly will cause you too miss out on a genuine relationship. That's the problem with the seduction/game community as a whole; they take what should be general guidelines and instead turn them into strict "rules" that should never be broken, such as "minimize texting except for dates" or "don't double text" or "never chase". Someone who takes these statements literally instead of understanding the underlying intent behind them will, as you pointed out, miss out on a lo…
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:53 AM
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tech hub cities like Seattle. Yeah there are more men than women but the men are clueless, awkward and out of shape nerds. If you bother staying in shape and taking care of yourself, you'll be a star there.
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:08 AM
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yeah they are, I have no idea why the other guy thinks you have to leave the US to find promiscuous women. I'm Asian and everyone in the motherland thinks American women are the sluttiest, most promiscuous women on the planet
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:05 AM
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The best indicator in my experience has been eye contact. If they can hold strong eye contact with you, especially while smiling and in silence, then you're in. I test the waters by holding eye contact a little bit longer throughout the night until I get to that point.
/r/seduction27/01/25 05:03 AM
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Got it. After trying different approaches, my preferred method is to just look them in the eyes, smile, and tell them "I really want to kiss you right now". I only do this when I'm certain they're into me and thus it's worked every single time - they either giggle and lean over, or they smile and say "me too" and lean over, but the result is the same. I love this way more than trying to lean in because it makes my intent perfectly clear and it gives them a moment to prepare. Also if you say it c…
/r/seduction27/01/25 04:49 AM
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Obviously most women can’t just tell I’m a virgin, however, I’m sure I give off signs of inexperience and just general frustration. The woman who I lost my virginity to many years ago (I was 21) thought I was a player who'd slept with many women; she only got this impression after she got to know me more because she'd thought I was "too smooth" with her. Then recently I had a woman I was hooking up with "accuse" me of being a virgin despite me having slept with a decent number of women at this p…
/r/seduction27/01/25 04:35 AM
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What does being Indian have to do with anything? I'm Indian American and I've never had any issue with dating the women I want to date, and most of my Indian American friends are doing just fine too. Things like being muscular, having a good jawline, and being funny and confident are universally attractive regardless of race. Of course you're going to have more limited options when dating as a brown or black man in, say, Korea, because a lot of people will be completely closed off to you from th…
/r/seduction27/01/25 03:54 AM
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There are always exceptions to the rule, which is something I wish that seduction subs emphasized more instead of presenting everything as sets of hard rules
/r/seduction27/01/25 02:54 AM
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I mostly agree except for this part: Girls can ALWAYS tell when the guy they're talking to likes her more than she likes him. It reeks of low self-esteem. There's nothing more repulsive to women than a man who doesn't think highly of himself. You're conflating desperation (omg a girl likes me!) with genuine chemistry. We all once in a while meet someone who checks off every box and who we have insane chemistry with - in that case it doesn't matter how many other women you have on dial, and likin…
/r/seduction26/01/25 10:04 PM
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Then they're not serious and you just saved yourself weeks of pointless texting
/r/seduction26/01/25 06:58 PM
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but when It comes to Hot girls, I have this expectations about being super smooth and infalible that end up blocking and distracting me. I used to make this mistake with hot women where I'd start talking fast and try really hard to fill even a moment of silence with conversation. It wasn't until I observed another guy doing this with an attractive woman that I realized how bad it looks - it gives off desperate, anxious vibes. Now I'm working on slowing it down and filling the silence with a smil…
/r/seduction26/01/25 08:59 AM
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Seriously, sick of seeing Redditors who clearly don't leave the house recycle the same stupid comments over and over mindlessly. I know a good amount of people who met their spouse at work and who are happily married now. If anything, work is one of the best ways to get to know who someone truly is, especially if it's a stressful environment. As long as you're careful then go for it
/r/seduction26/01/25 08:43 AM
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But if you “look for” a sign from her eye contact, smiles, or twisting her hair, all that just barely means anything. Just approach if you see them not busy or not in a hurry. Little things like twisting hair are meaningless, but in my experience women who are interested in you (and therefore open to you) will glance at you multiple times. If they're shy they'll try to be subtle about it but a lot of times they're bad at being subtle lol. If they're not shy, they'll straight up look at you and h…
/r/seduction26/01/25 07:59 AM
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Honestly I understand why women say this though; every female friend I have who's done online dating has some pretty scary stories. Plus it's not just a safety issue but it takes effort to put on full makeup or even just foundation and then take it off later. I get how after enough wasted effort on bad dates they become tired and wary. Just offer to talk to them over the phone or better yet Facetime. Almost every time I've done this they went from lukewarm to genuinely excited, and a few times o…
/r/seduction25/01/25 10:29 PM
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some of my friends who get girls obsessed with them have told me that ignoring them is what does it. That only works if they're already into you - basically, if they like you but feel like you're pulling away it might make them anxious which in turn makes them think about you more, etc.. Honestly, purposefully ignoring their messages or them in general just to "make them like you more" is childish and should only be done if you messed up by chasing too hard after them.
/r/seduction25/01/25 04:39 AM
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Yea, but then you're also inviting other dynamics into yourself with this approach, ones that for myself am not about. What dynamics do you mean? If I had to guess you mean desperation, but I would say that really comes down to what aura you give off. I really didn't care if she said yes or no to me since I was talking with other women; it was more that I could feel she was on the fence which made me want to see if I could push it. I would always playfully ask her "so when are we hanging out?" w…
/r/seduction24/01/25 02:12 AM
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Like she has to feel that way about you to move onto the next person. Yeah that's been my experience. Almost every situation I've seen where a woman was cheated on her by her bf, they break up, the woman hooks up with some other guy as a means of getting over her ex, then eventually she can't take it anymore and goes back to said ex. I've been both the ex and the other guy she hooks up with and it always ends the same - doesn't matter how much better the new guy is vs the ex; it's not about that…
/r/seduction23/01/25 03:27 AM
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My point of the post is I just don't like how you can have these amazing moments in time with women and then it ends of in you being blocked or vilified when in the end time is all we have. Along the same vein, I really don't understand how a woman can have sex with you, spend the night with you, cuddle with you, all to just ghost you. This applies to men too of course but I find it more perplexing with women. How can you share such intimate moments with someone only to forget about them?
/r/seduction23/01/25 02:46 AM
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If a woman is on the fence about you then sometimes persistence does pay off - I kept asking my ex out and she'd always give an excuse until the 3rd time when she gave in and went on a date with me. Later when I asked her about this she said she'd decided to "give me a chance". We ended up dating for 2 years and I broke it off with her in the end. Really comes down to your ability to read her interest level.
/r/seduction23/01/25 12:48 AM
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Museum/Art Museum This is my go-to, there are endless things to talk about. You can admire good art and clown on pretentious art. Of all my date activities, I've consistently found this one to be the best way of getting to know someone fast.
/r/seduction22/01/25 10:46 PM
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I disagree, us men look at a woman and if she's attractive enough we're ready for the date. Women need some kind of emotional connection or at least some assurance you're not a weirdo. In this situation just offer to chat over the phone for 10-15 min. That's plenty of time to show her you're not a weirdo. I've done this a few times before dates and it makes the dates way less awkward and more smooth.
/r/seduction22/01/25 02:20 AM
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Eye contact. Look into their eyes and smile. It doesn't even matter what you say, you could ask the most rudimentary questions but if you're gazing into their eyes with a smile and low voice then it automatically becomes sexy. Hold eye contact too, let it linger after you or her says something. It projects confidence and frankly it's kind of fun to see how different women react - some return it back with their own confident smile, others squirm but slowly build up comfort and start holding it ba…
/r/seduction22/01/25 02:16 AM
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i tried to simplify the concept as much as possible so you'd understand, since you seem to think they're only for LTR's. They're for meeting women lol. If you want a LTR that's for you and the woman you met to decide
/r/seduction18/01/25 07:54 AM
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That's entirely dependent on your success on the apps though. I don't think that's much to pay to get laid once in a while and, more importantly for me, to find a LTR partner. I'd say if you're able to get 2-4 dates a month that's pretty worth it.
/r/seduction18/01/25 07:52 AM
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...a gf is just someone you fucked who you liked enough to keep fucking you can meet a lot of women on dating apps. If you're decent looking it's the fastest way to meet women by far
/r/seduction18/01/25 07:03 AM
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Dating apps are not a waste of time and a good chunk of my friends met their partners there. One of my friend's now wife who he met through a dating app was a virgin too, so I don't buy the idea that they're all inherently sexually prolific. My female friends have gone through Tinder/Hinge/Bumble with me and frankly the vast majority of men's profiles are trash - shitty pics, selfies, or the guy is overweight, bad angle etc.. No wonder most guys find it a waste of time. I'd say Tinder Plat is wo…
/r/seduction18/01/25 06:40 AM
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One thing I've noticed with the PUA community is that because we play games we assume everyone else is playing games too - when you have a hammer, everything looks like a nail. Speaking from experience, she's not playing any games with you nor is it a test. Remember that women are primarily driven by how they feel. When women feel confused because they're feeling conflicted about something, it creates confusing signals like "I'll be leaving after this glass". Rather than trying to focus on what …
/r/seduction18/01/25 06:35 AM
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Bro, I bet you you're getting a lot of attention from women but you're just not noticing it. It took me a while to notice the signs but now that I can identify them, it's clear as day - women staring, or the quick repeated glances, or obviously the smile. Once I started picking up on them and approaching based on positive signals, my success rate went way way up. If women are doing the things I mentioned, they're almost always open to you I bet if you pay attention you'll see women doing these t…
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:54 AM
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As cliche as this sounds, the biggest game-changer for me was getting to a point in life where I'm just naturally in a good mood almost all the time. It took me working out, nailing my diet, getting enough sleep, and getting the job I always wanted to both boost my confidence and to get my body to a point where I feel good just naturally. When you feel good, relaxed and happy, talking will come naturally to you. I'm in a state of mind where I genuinely just enjoy chatting with people whether the…
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:36 AM
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The game community can be really funny and confusing in that they apply technical terms to things we don't even think about. It's actually good from a technical standpoint, but anyway, in this case what normal people would call "feeling out the vibe" is what the game community calls "indirect game" Basically, you make a comment or what not and see how they react. It's actually really effective because it can save you a lot of time. If a woman is attracted to you, she'll smile or give another ind…
/r/seduction17/01/25 02:12 AM
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My question is, are there any places online or preferably in person, that still have that old school style of community when it comes to seduction? I'm gonna say, you probably don't want to be part of such a community. Neil Strauss actually spent a decent amount of time talking about how many weirdos were in that community, and he made it clear he wanted nothing to do with the majority of them. Granted that was way back in the day, but just saying. Your best bet is roping some of your IRL friend…
/r/seduction17/01/25 02:07 AM
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another day another post from a clueless man who has no idea what women really want or how they work. Brother, women care much more about how a guy makes them feel than anything else, they're not like us where we just want the hottest woman we can possibly get
/r/seduction17/01/25 01:52 AM
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With your hands. You either take two fingers and rub the clit in a circular motion, and/or you insert two fingers into them and curve your fingers upwards so you're kind of rubbing the ceiling lol. Some girls respond better to the former, others more to the latter. I think some guys know about rubbing the clit but very few know about the curved fingers, they think fingering a girl is just shoving two fingers in and out as fast as they can, which is pointless and will make the girl secretly laugh…
/r/seduction13/01/25 10:16 PM
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I'm brown and not much taller than you and pretty fit, and I get looks and smiles from white and Asian women a lot (not many black women in my area). If someone looks at me repeatedly I may or may not approach, but I almost always approach if they smile. Looks do matter yeah, I'm not bad looking at all, but people place way too much of an emphasis on skin color. A guy with a strong jawline and muscular body and most importantly a fun confident aura is hot no matter what his skin color.
/r/seduction13/01/25 09:57 PM
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yeah it's more a comment that one should take a holistic approach to game. Get as in shape as you can, groom yourself properly, style yourself nicely. These make a massive difference and attraction comes much easier. Otherwise it's an uphill battle
/r/seduction13/01/25 09:29 PM
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Eye contact is so, so important and an incredibly powerful tool when used correctly. Don't be afraid to hold eye contact; most people find it awkward or lack the confidence to do so, so those that can stand out. With almost every girl I ended up getting intimate with, we had these moments where after a joke or story we'd keep maintaining eye contact, as in we'd silently stare into each others eyes and smile. This could happen as soon as 30 minutes within first meeting. If you get to this point, …
/r/seduction13/01/25 04:01 AM
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Making convo in the club is so hard I don't even bother. Bar though is easier. That being said if she is attracted to you, she will help you with the conversation and keep it flowing. So the easiest way to get a good conversation is choose someone who is already interested in you. Also if you're feeling energized and in a good mood, the conversation will naturally flow because you want to talk. Getting to this stage is a holistic thing that involves taking care of your body, getting enough sleep…
/r/seduction13/01/25 03:55 AM
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Well 24/25 is sure a lot better than never getting laid, right? The longer you wait the more limited your option pool. Mid twenties is perfect
/r/seduction13/01/25 03:38 AM
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Bro you're only 22! It only takes about 1.5 to 2 years of lifting and dieting to look shredded to the point that people notice, but you have to be locked in. Start now and by the time you're 24/25 you'll look great. You'll look like a Greek god in your late twenties. Always be in a position where you're grateful to your past self, not upset at them.
/r/seduction12/01/25 08:44 PM
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If a girl specifically calls you a player, it means she's interested The only thing it means for sure is that they've observed you're good at talking to women. That more often than not means they're interested, but it's not a guarantee. I remember a woman asking my friend if I was a player but I know she had no interest. Also I remember a cute female friend of mine observing a male friend of mine talking up girls and she asked me if he was a player, but she had no interest in him when he tried t…
/r/seduction11/01/25 03:10 AM
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I know multiple couples that met through work and they're all still going strong. It's absolutely a normal and respectable way to meet someone.
/r/seduction11/01/25 03:00 AM
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But you wanna make the move soon, not take too long or you will get friendzoned. I mostly agree with you except for this part. I keep seeing this idea that if you don't make moves quickly you'll get friendzoned, and in my experience that's absolutely not true - it's only true in a dating context, like if you don't escalate physically after a few dates. If you're an attractive man, not just in terms of looks but more importantly your personality and the way you carry yourself, she will never lose…
/r/seduction11/01/25 02:58 AM
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I've hooked up with a decent number of very attractive women and I'm not funny or witty either, actually sometimes my jokes can be annoying or lame lol. I used to put them on a pedestal, but I since spent years lifting and getting shredded. Now attractive women notice me and seeing them make an effort to talk to me has been a huge ego boost. My face isn't even super attractive, I think as long as you have the body of a man then you will be treated as one. It's also made talking to normal looking…
/r/seduction11/01/25 01:55 AM
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