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It’s interesting because I was only ever “noticed” when I was very young. I was abused as a toddler by a family friend. Men approached me when I was a pre-teen and was walking to the corner store or at the arcade. When I was 13, a guy in his late 30s convinced me I was in a relationship with him, pushed me for inappropriate pics and that kind of stuff. Then when I was old enough to understand anything like that, it all stopped. I haven’t had a guy approach me as an adult. Never been catcalled, f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:24 PM
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BPD affects both men and women, so you don’t have to have a “male version” of it. You can also have BPD while still being high functioning (check out “quiet BPD”). It’s easy for people to miss if they don’t have lots of over-the-top outbursts, but either form is volatile in its own way, and tends to come with a string of broken relationships. Though you might also consider looking up other personality disorders. I’m not suggesting self-diagnosis, but it’s good to research these things. And there…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:06 PM
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Actually gone on a date with a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:57 PM
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If you have never experienced sex as a female virgin, and thus have no frame of reference for whether or not it hurts, maybe you shouldn’t make definite claims like “let me tell you that it doesn’t.” Just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:10 PM
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I’m glad someone admits it, at least. I was arguing about this in a thread the other day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:25 AM
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It’s all nonsense lol. For the sake of participating in “normal” conversations, I just use semi-arbitrary numbers. If I think someone is attractive, I say 8. If I think they’re unattractive, I say 3. If I don’t have an opinion, I say 5. None of it means anything, but people seem to like the numbers. Personally, I don’t think it’s worth getting into all the details and trying to figure out what everybody actually means. That just ends up confusing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:18 AM
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Agreed. If I saw her on the street, I’d think she was incredibly pretty. Seeing her in context of her Instagram feed makes her less so.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:25 AM
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I am confused by this interpretation. If “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander” means “what’s good for the female goose is good for the male goose,” why do we switch the genders for humans? Why does it become “what’s good for the man is good for the woman”? Why is a male goose equivalent to a human woman, and a female goose equivalent to a human male? That doesn’t make sense to me. I am also not sure that is what it has always meant. The original form (“sauce for the goose”) is refer…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:10 AM
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If someone is dead-set on using it with regards to gender, this makes more sense to me because of the ordering.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:08 AM
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I’ve never heard this phrase applied to gender whatsoever. Though it’s interesting, because I believe “goose” in and of itself is not gendered, is it? A “gander” is specifically a male goose, while “dame” is used for female geese. Not sure what to make of that, but the fact that they didn’t use “dame” in the same way as “gander” steers me away from the gendered interpretation. (It’s also interesting considering that “gander” is listed second. So even if we use “goose” as an equivalent to female,…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:31 AM
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Exactly many girls did this? Or was it just the one you detailed below, who arguably wasn’t interested in you to begin with, and who was possibly just trying to pick a fight?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:52 AM
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Nah, I’m not surprised by it. I’m a woman and I went through a big visual kei/jrock phase when I was younger. Maybe not the same as femboys today, but I think it might hit the same note.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:44 AM
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I absolutely love DS9. It’s not my favorite of the shows, but it’s up there for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:41 AM
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I gotta be real with you. I didn’t expect there to be a remotely acceptable answer to my question. But this made my entire day. It’s not stupid, and thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:53 PM
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Lots of women are, and lots of women aren’t. Is there anything insightful or interesting that could be said about this topic, at this point?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 10:56 PM
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Why did you call them “dear”?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 10:43 PM
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You should go into exile for your shame
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 10:12 PM
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I don’t have a list off the top of my head. But if you see people actually making an effort to absorb, process, and respond to arguments (versus people having already made up their minds and not being receptive to new information or perspectives), you’re looking at better people than I am. And I try to notice the good ones as much as I can. (I am not saying that this is exclusive to one side, either. Both sides do it. But as someone who is not a fan of TRP, this approach to discussion does not m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:10 PM
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At a certain point it just feels like a cycle of toxicity where no one is actually listening to each other. It’s very frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:03 PM
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In my opinion, it would help if more red pill men were actually willing to sit down and engage in dialogue (by which I mean give-and-take, acknowledging the validity of points the other side is making, refuting them in a non-emotional manner.) Lots of redpillers on the internet seem averse to conversation. They shut it down as swiftly and defensively as possible, even if the other person is approaching them in good faith. I can’t blame anyone for rejecting red pill ideas in that context.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 07:37 PM
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Yep. If someone presents me with red pill rhetoric and they’re intelligent, and well-spoken, and have data to back up their claims, and they answer my questions like a mature adult who isn’t highly reactive or projecting their baggage onto me, I’m likely to find a lot of merit in what they’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 06:57 PM
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It’s hilarious to see dudes complain about tiktok thots. Every time I open that app it’s a woman working her antique letterpress, or sharing niche knowledge about rare cheeses, or baking a traditional recipe from the 1500s while she talks about historical fashion. Where do they even find the thots?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 03:03 PM
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One time I guessed someone was a Capricorn as a joke, and I was right, and now I’m doomed to spend my entire life trying to recapture that high
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:26 PM
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Capricorn
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:19 PM
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This conversation is ridiculous lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 10:30 AM
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Yeah. It’s still fun though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:02 AM
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INTP is one of my favorite personality types. They’re incredibly interesting…even if I don’t know what the fuck y’all are talking about sometimes, it’s always fascinating. INTPs also usually seem to be really witty/clever, and not too arrogant. I know there are other women out there who feel the same way. I hope you find one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 12:56 AM
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Any fun Christmas plans?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 11:40 PM
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It’s fun though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 10:55 PM
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Aw how old is your kid
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 10:52 PM
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Maybe. But 30 days ago you commented with “if a woman isn’t fucking me I won’t even say hello to her or keep a door open for her.” So it seems like you’re in a creative slump. It happens to us all sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:57 PM
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lmao I love your comments
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:28 PM
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You’re recycling your posts at this point. Take a couple of weeks off and write some new material.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:27 PM
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All of them are open to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 08:26 PM
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I spent the year having a bunch of breakdowns over being alone, before something just clicked and I realized I wasn’t even trying. That probably sounds silly, but seriously, I realized I kept rejecting myself without anything happening - I don’t talk to guys because I assume they’ll hate me, I don’t make myself look nice because I tell myself it doesn’t matter anyway. I always take myself off the table as an option. Idk how to fix that 100%, but I’m working on it. I’m taking care of myself, not …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 07:12 PM
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I’d rate it a 1. It doesn’t matter how content they are; there’s a lie at the very core of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:49 PM
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That’s also pretty sick. I’ll allow it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:43 PM
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This is the truest thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:41 PM
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Cutthroat bitches aren’t reading Ayn Rand. Lit majors who want to look edgy/intellectual are reading Ayn Rand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:08 PM
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I’d say suck it up and go to a yoga class. They’re pretty fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:06 PM
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That’s really sweet of her
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:02 PM
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obviously they do go outside if they’re going to yoga classes and stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:58 PM
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What about that feeling when paleontologists say they discovered a new kind of dinosaur? That’s pretty sick
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:52 PM
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He looks chill
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:19 PM
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I bet you could get a better feeling from eating really good pizza
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:16 PM
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I’m glad your solution allows for vulnerable populations isolate. I run in conservative circles, and a discouraging number of people seem to have a “fuck ‘em” mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:45 PM
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People have big egos. They want to turn themselves into main characters, and they want their actions to carry a deeper sort of symbolism. The reality of the situation is a lot less glamorous. None of us are as interesting as we think we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 03:03 PM
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Oh trust me, my mental health has been in the trash lol. It’s rough. But yeah, I couldn’t live with myself if I caught it and gave it to her. I’m sorry you got it, but I’m glad you got through it, rough as it was. If I lived alone, I’m sure I’d have hit a breaking point by now and stopped worrying about the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:34 PM
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Sometimes it’s hard to decide if you should go to the extreme. I’m on drugs that suppress my immune system, so I don’t know how COVID would impact me. I also live with my grandmother, who isn’t exactly frail, but she’s in her mid-80s. So I’ll see everyone going on vacations etc., and think it’s silly to keep taking the precautions I’m taking, but then I remember neither of us are the robust, healthy, “normal” type. Basically I don’t blame people who are still hunkering down, since I don’t know t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:20 PM
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At a certain point, would you say late virginity is just as difficult for women as it is for men? Or is it always more difficult for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:52 PM
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So use another word instead of “virgin.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:44 PM
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I understand. I’m religious/“conservative” in a moral sense, so a high n-count isn’t at all appealing to me, and is ultimately indicative of incompatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 03:18 AM
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That doesn’t change the fact that I am physically unattractive, and some other women are as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 03:05 AM
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The big one for me personally is a disability that impacts my spine. I can’t stand up straight - I’m always hunched over (think little old lady on a walker.) I also hold my neck at an odd angle, and I have to deal with muscle atrophy in my thighs/buttocks (and a little in my arms.) The end result is a lot of flab in those areas, even if I’m not overweight. I just can’t engage the muscles enough to even begin toning them. All of that results in a solidly below average appearance, at least in my o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:25 AM
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I’m not good at analyzing dog behavior, so I can’t answer that. But why the hell did she call it over? Especially if her own dog was around??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:04 AM
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Twitter is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:00 AM
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I fail to see how this is an issue. Women are individuals, the way men are individuals. For every 1 man I like, there are surely 9 men I don’t like. I can focus my energy on the one I like and respect, and politely ignore the rest. What the other 9 choose to pursue or what behavior they reward has very little impact on me, at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 12:00 AM
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Reactive abuse is messy, whichever one it was coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:54 PM
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Agreed. To me, it’s a sign of poor character, or at least poor choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:45 PM
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During the summer, I remember hoping that masks would still be vaguely accepted down the road (I have a compromised immune system and didn’t want people thinking I was weird for continuing to wear one.) I never imagined they’d still be enforced/mandated, especially for vaccinated people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:42 PM
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We’re probably all the problem at one point or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:24 PM
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You just seem to say something along the lines of “you’re the problem” a lot. Which is fine. Probably accurate sometimes. But it’s a fun pattern.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:22 PM
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Have you ever talked to someone who wasn’t the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:18 PM
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Everyone can feel however they want. I’m not in charge of that. But it’s funny to scroll through posts here and be told you should both lower and raise your standards at the same time. This comment managed to capture both at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:40 PM
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I still assume that a crime, regardless of determination, has some sort of impact on the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:38 PM
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I love this sub taking issue with both high standards and low standards at the same time. I need you all to make up your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:32 PM
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How does her receiving social security (presumably by default once she is of age) or government funding for education translate to her “begging” for support?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:28 PM
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“Incredibly low” implies that the majority of women are receiving this sort of money. What government programs do you assume she is receiving assistance from?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:23 PM
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Watching dumb videos, texting people, reading articles, fighting on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:21 PM
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Maybe this is my autism talking, but that all sounds absolutely unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:54 PM
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Victims of DV are often under intense stress and likely aren’t prioritizing self-care or healthy lifestyles.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:40 PM
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I don’t understand. Secure women will give it back, sure. But you risk actually hurting the feelings of an insecure woman. Is that worth it? What if you do make someone feel bad about themselves, or you ruin their day/week/whatever? I know there’s probably no direct consequence to you, and you can go on about your day since they’re a stranger, but wouldn’t you feel even a twinge of guilt?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:39 PM
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As an asexual virgin, yes, the idea of having sex with someone who I do not know and who doesn’t care if it is pleasurable or painful for me sounds traumatic. I would much rather work for hundreds of hours and have that money taken away.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:26 PM
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My stance has been “they’re both wrong” since the beginning. I do believe one is inherently more wrong than the other, and to try to argue that they are on the exact same moral level strikes me as sociopathic. Disagree with that if you want. But this entire thread is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:18 PM
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Interesting. Those comments would just make me cry and leave, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:14 PM
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I’ll never understand negging. “You’re the 2nd most beautiful girl I’ve seen here tonight” just sounds like a pure, face-value compliment to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:01 PM
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I agree that they are both morally wrong, but my discussions with the OP throughout this thread do not lead me to believe that is his position on the matter. But if that is his position, and he is morally opposed to both, he might need to work harder to state that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:39 PM
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Do you have statistics available? I’d be interested to know how large of a gap there is between genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:21 PM
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That all sounds great. But OP’s post implied that women who do not want to have sex with incels are hypocritical, insofar as they are withholding a resource that ought to be redistributed equally, regardless of the woman’s willingness to do so. I will continue to take issue with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:16 PM
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I agree, but I still do not see how these could operate on the same emotional level for people. If I had a choice between being raped by someone or giving someone several hours worth of my wages, I would pick the second option. But maybe that’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:06 PM
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Are you going up to the person who mows your lawn and sticking parts of your body inside their body?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:04 PM
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I can’t say much about this because I lean conservative and I do not support socialism. But I do think the analogy fails on several levels. If it works to illustrate the point for other people, that’s good. I’m glad people can take something of value from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:03 PM
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So you aren’t bothered by the idea of causing physical harm and bodily trauma?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:58 PM
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Has this person begged for government support?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:55 PM
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I am almost certain he does not care about that, and had given it absolutely no thought. No one who proposes something like this is doing so from a place of empathy or respect for their fellow humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:54 PM
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It is “unsavory” because it implies a direct violation of physical autonomy. I cannot think of an equivalent factor for money. You can argue that taxes/welfare programs/etc. infringe on autonomy by requiring you to provide something that belongs to you, which you theoretically do not want to part with. But I cannot see how that is as painful or upsetting as someone inserting a body part into an orifice on your own body. Humans will typically have a stronger reaction to the idea of physical viola…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:52 PM
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What makes you think you are more of an authority on this matter than the individuals who are telling you it is a poorly-crafted analogy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:41 PM
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Okay. I am not talking about happiness. I am talking about what is necessary for basic human survival in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:38 PM
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I would argue that a lack of money is more directly correlated with death. Starving, lack of shelter, lack of medical care. I have lived for three decades without sex. It would be much harder to live for three decades without money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:32 PM
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Your standards for “analogous” are interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:10 PM
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How are sex and money equivalent
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:05 PM
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I don’t see the connection between sleeping with someone and capitalism/socialism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:03 PM
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How do I start getting my free everything
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:58 PM
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I hope you’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:48 PM
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That is a very optimistic perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:40 PM
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Okay. That’s still a female population of 166.7 million. Assuming that up to 10% of them qualify as a 1 or 2, it’s still a big stretch to say “there aren’t many such women.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:34 PM
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Do people actually spend their time thinking about this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:26 PM
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I will never understand why men act like unattractive women don’t exist. I do not need to “put energy” into being unattractive. My baseline is unattractive. It’s not that uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:24 PM
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There are more than 3.8 billion women in the world. 5%-10% of that figure is still a pretty huge number, so based on your percentages, there are a lot of women struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:08 PM
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Most people have preferences about everything. I don’t think you want to hear their preferences about everything - that would be a very exhausting conversation. Sometimes “it doesn’t matter” is easier than saying “I have some thoughts about this, but they are complex and nuanced, and sometimes directly dependent on other factors which much be addressed first for context.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:54 PM
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“It doesn’t really matter where we eat tonight, but I have a couple of preferences to narrow it down.” I think that’s a pretty common sentiment. I know you can’t exactly compare food to people, but I don’t see it as a glaring contradiction. Just people weighing the word “matter” differently. I would say “height doesn’t matter” without adding the caveat “assuming the person is of a relatively average height and does not appear to have any growth issues.” Maybe that’s dishonest of me, but leaving …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:21 PM
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He said men are “just looking for women to be physically attractive.” Which is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:09 PM
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The bottom line is lots of men, like lots of women, are not seeking stable, kind, gentle partners. Which is what they should be doing, in my opinion. But maybe those partners are boring (mostly to some women), or they are not physically attractive (mostly to some men), or whatever else. Humans are largely shallow, and are not always good at prioritizing the traits that lead to lasting, monogamous relationships. There may be differences in the way that presents between genders, but at the end of …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:18 PM
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Chad doesn’t marry them, but homely girls settle down with homely guys frequently and at any age. At least that’s the case where I am, which is relatively rural area.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:04 PM
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I’m a lot quieter in person. And a lot more afraid of confrontation. This is really the only place where I ever argue lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:00 PM
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People don’t take kindly to that sorta talk around here. But you’re right. And thanks for saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:53 PM
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No, but there are plenty of men who date someone who’s good at hiding their trauma/mental issues, and then struggle to leave her after those issues have been revealed. Just look at support groups for personality disorders on this very site.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:49 PM
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Where are you getting “hopeless disgusting fuck” from any of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:46 PM
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If it’s your personal mission to keep people from screaming when their cognitive dissonance gets revealed, all I can say is good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:43 PM
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I wouldn’t list a prostitute as the equivalent to a “bad boy.” I’d go for the stereotypical chick with BPD who men can never seem to get over, even if she wrecks their life again and again. That’s a common trope for a good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:41 PM
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We live in a society that rewards deceit and dishonesty. That’s not news.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:37 PM
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I’m consistently surprised by the number of comments people turn into arguments here. But I shouldn’t be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:35 PM
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The bottom line is that most humans want excitement, and overwhelming passion, and maybe even a hint of danger, but they don’t want to live with that day after day. We all love the way adrenaline feels in a brief moment, but too much of it is exhausting. I really don’t understand what’s so controversial or mind-blowing about this quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:29 PM
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8 for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:18 PM
1

Didn’t you say this stuff about eggs the other week
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:54 AM
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You can still have some pretty good anecdotes without sex
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:42 AM
5

You forgot Mennonites. And Quiverfull groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:13 AM
0

Thank you for your reply and for taking the time to share your perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:57 AM
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You do what works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:52 AM
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I just want to be included ☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:44 AM
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I am religious, and I do want a traditional partner/marriage, but I will always prioritize values and beliefs over roles. From what I’ve seen of TRP men, they would not share many of my values at all. TRP, at its core, is a very worldly movement. It is focused on pleasure, on the self, on attaining gratification and fulfillment. TRP is not focused on spiritual growth. It is not focused on empathy/compassion/grace. It is not focused on denying the body for the betterment of the spirit, or on deny…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:40 AM
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How do you know I’ll get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 11:58 PM
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It’s the opposite for me. Men have done more damage than women in my life. But I definitely understand people feeling the other way - I think it just comes down to the hand you’re dealt in life, and whose shit you have to put up with more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 11:55 PM
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What are the reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:21 PM
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I’d be surprised by it, sure. But I think it’s way less likely to be an “I’m drunk and lonely” spontaneous decision like a text can be, so I’d probably end up assuming it was pretty genuine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:19 PM
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Lmao this is one of my dreams for my next relationship. I love that kind of stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:16 PM
2

It would mean more to me, yeah. I’d be far more likely to accept a handwritten apology, as silly as that sounds. It’s a good, personal way to make amends with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:10 PM
1

I’m on the verge of sex-repulsed anyway, so I’ll just have to take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 09:46 PM
1

I cannot imagine ever sending anyone a text about taming them, regardless of familiarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 09:42 PM
4

The fact that you almost sent it is a little frightening.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 09:34 PM
3

I thought 65% was the figure using contraception in general, not just oral contraception. At least according to CDC data.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 08:39 PM
2

If you would like to interpret that as an insignificant number and continue talking about women “popping pills,” you are free to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 08:30 PM
2

What about them? I’m not arguing that most women don’t use it as a contraceptive. I’m saying that having it medically prescribed for other reasons is fairly common.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 08:20 PM
4

Approximately 5 million women, yes. Glad we’re on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 08:13 PM
5

I am talking about PCOS. Do you not think that’s a real condition or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 08:10 PM
2

Do you believe they are over-prescribed to both men and women, or only to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 08:09 PM
5

Women do not typically grow beards during puberty. That comes from a hormonal imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 08:05 PM
4

Do you feel that SSRIs should not be prescribed as frequently as they are?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:59 PM
5

In situations like PCOS, there are common indicators (irregular periods, facial hair growth, acne, etc.) I assume there are similar flags for other conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:58 PM
2

It could be. A lot of stuff on tiktok/social media is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:56 PM
1

I didn’t know people still quoted that movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:55 PM
4

It’s just a bit silly to refer to it as “popping pills” across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:52 PM
3

Disagree, but you’re free to live life as it best suits you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:51 PM
2

I do know that, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:45 PM
2

Sorry if I upset you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:30 PM
2

I don’t hear it much in person, but I run into it a lot on the internet. And it seems to be a big thing in gaming culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:24 PM
1

Isn’t cosmetic surgery a pretty invasive procedure with a significant recovery time? And significant expense. I don’t blame people for being opposed to it. It isn’t simple at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:18 PM
3

Birth control is actually used to regulate hormones for some medical conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:14 PM
3

I will never understand why that or the r-slur are so widely accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:13 PM
2

I am a very ugly person. My life is not easy. I would not call is systemic, personally, but you are free to disagree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:09 PM
2

It doesn’t necessarily have to be romantic love. Just care about people without expectation of receiving anything in return. Love your friends, love your family, act lovingly towards coworkers or strangers even if you don’t particularly like them. Assume everyone is coming from a good place or acting with good intentions. If you misjudge someone and they turn out to have bad intentions, practice empathy/compassion/forgiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:07 PM
2

Do you think he was on the spectrum? I was trying to figure it out but I couldn’t tell (I am, but I’m not great at telling when other people are)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:01 PM
1

What kind of pills?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 06:58 PM
2

Would you say incels face the same kind of systemic/institutional oppression that other minorities deal with? Does the revulsion trickle up in a way that has political or socioeconomic consequences?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 06:58 PM
1

Birth control pills are used for hormone regulation and other health concerns, particularly in cases of PCOS. What would the new treatment plan be for these cases?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 05:44 PM
4

It’s just a shitty cycle. I’m a woman. I didn’t know about TRP/incels/anything else until men were hateful to me online. I got very defensive and went through a phase where I was cruel to men. That wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t seen reactionary hatred from those groups directed towards me as a woman…but those groups wouldn’t have had the reactionary hatred if someone hadn’t treated them cruelly…I don’t know. It’s all just fucked up. But no, nobody starts out as hateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 05:37 PM
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Yeah, I can imagine. It’s got to be hard when your kid is the center of your world, but ends up being a dealbreaker for so many people. Maybe I need to be more upfront about being chill with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 05:18 PM
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It makes me sad how defensive guys get about being single dads. I was messaging a guy, and when I took a few hours to respond, he straight up asked if I was upset about him having a kid. I guess they’re jumpy because I don’t have kids myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 05:10 PM
3

What makes you say they’d be bitter about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 04:48 PM
2

Yes to all, as long as the drug use was firmly in the past and they’d been clean for years. If they had just gotten clean recently, I’d pass on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:47 PM
3

I’m ugly and I’m crippled. But I’m smart enough to know that isn’t what men are looking for, ever, period. Why should I approach and bother them? They’ll just be disgusted, or they’ll feel bad for having to reject me. I don’t wanna put that shit on them. Imagine having to turn down a girl who can’t walk. Does that sound fun to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:19 PM
2

I’m sorry about what happened to you. I don’t know the story but from what I’ve pieced together, it sounds shitty, and I can see how it would have a significant impact on you. We’ve talked before when I was using a different account - I think I remember you saying you weren’t religious anymore but had grown up that way? Or something like that maybe, idk. As somebody from a religious background myself, I understand how that shapes you. I have a really complicated relationship with my own virginit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:06 PM
1

Of course learning about it is voluntary. But isn’t whatever I’m learning about his passion? Doesn’t he have opinions about it, doesn’t he have cool niche knowledge about it? I love hobbies, and I love learning about shit. Why wouldn’t a guy let me dig into whatever he was about? (I am sorry about your past experience though. I don’t understand why anyone would act that way.) The last guy I dated was into WWE/AEW. I’d never watched it in my life, but by the end of the relationship, he’d gotten m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:51 PM
2

I do not expect men to be comfortable. If they are not comfortable, I absolutely understand that. I do not expect anyone to approach me, ever. No one ever has, so I have never refused them. Stop projecting. I assume a man would approach me if by some miracle of god, he really wanted to talk. I absolutely don’t expect him to, ever. I am not entitled to his time/attention/anything else. If he’s interested but too afraid to approach, that’s no loss for him. I am not exactly a catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:15 PM
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I don’t have any male friends. The only time I came close, it was with a coworker, and the relationship seemed to get very flirty and weird. I wasn’t comfortable with that, especially since he was dating a different coworker. I might try being friends with a man again if there was no hint of flirtation, but I don’t know how feasible that is. I also don’t interact with men much in general - I don’t work in an office anymore, I don’t interact with the general public much at this point in my life. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:13 PM
3

Near average, sure. But if you’re below average, those assets don’t seem to matter much to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:00 PM
1

Of course a man can keep his hobbies, but I’ll absolutely try to adopt interest in them as well, and learn more about them. And if he doesn’t want me to do that, it would hurt my feelings a little. I like video games, so if the guy I was dating was a gamer but didn’t want to talk about them with me, I’d really struggle to understand why.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:57 PM
1

Who, exactly, am I holding to a double standard? If a man feels it’s pushy to approach me, he absolutely doesn’t have to do it. I wouldn’t expect them to do anything they weren’t comfortable with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:54 PM
2

No. Her bio father died, she was left with her step-mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:13 AM
1

Maybe it’s different since I’m a woman, but I think I’d be very unhappy if I tried to be in a relationship with someone who didn’t enjoy the things I enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:12 AM
1

Do you eat a sandwich every single time?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:54 PM
2

I watched that and I’m completely red pill now
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:51 PM
1

I’m not making any assumptions about it one way or the other. I always think it’s silly when people bring out biology as an argument explaining women dating out of their league, but then turn around and try to say that some LVW actively seek LVM (which I believe undermines their arguments about hypergamy.)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:45 PM
1

Cinderella was part of a very well-to-do family. She just wasn’t treated well by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:42 PM
1

That’s not my perspective on it, but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:40 PM
1

Spine fusion problems. I’m shaped like a question mark and have to use a walker.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:23 PM
2

It applies to me. So “be pretty” doesn’t serve me well. If it serves other people well, good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:45 PM
1

That’s why I said “you can get into shape.” That may be a significant factor in the equation, but when you consider disfigurements/disabilities/etc., it’s ridiculous to act like weight is the only factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:41 PM
1

That’s a little depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:31 PM
1

Can’t disagree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:26 PM
5

Being a traditionally feminine woman who is, at best, a 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:25 PM
12

This isn’t specifically advice, but I have found that a lot of the traits men say they want are the same traits that cause them to overlook a woman. Being a nice/quiet/compassionate/non-promiscuous type might make you pleasant, but it also makes you blend in with the scenery.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:24 PM
3

“Be pretty” isn’t exactly good advice when there are numerous factors beyond your control. You can get into shape and take care of yourself, yes, but that only goes so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:08 PM
5

As a woman, I can’t imagine finally working up the courage to approach someone, and then aiming for someone who is out of my league. That sounds like a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 09:56 PM
2

Never seems to work out well for these dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 09:51 PM
2

Don’t you have any interests or hobbies?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 09:46 PM
2

In my experience, men don’t even care about femininity if you aren’t attractive enough for them. Being sweet, pleasant, caring, and a good homemaker doesn’t yield any results if you aren’t hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 09:40 PM
1

It’s an important topic, but a very private one. I would not be comfortable bringing it up with someone I barely know. If we got a long well enough to make it seem like a long-term relationship was feasible (and if the conversations were respectful/aligned with my values) then I’d be willing to discuss my virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 09:38 PM
1

Woke liberal media won’t stop until he’s canceled
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:51 PM
2

Velveeta is at least 5000000000000 times better than Kraft. That’s a completely scientific objective measurement.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:50 PM
2

Isn’t he the one who agreed to set his kid on fire
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:48 PM
1

Do the followers actually interact with posts or provide some kind of feedback? That’s wild to me, but then I don’t use Instagram so I might be missing the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:47 PM
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Exactly. It’s an expression of care, and I don’t understand anyone who refuses to do it for someone they love. But even beyond that, it’s an important basic skill, and one that will always serve you well regardless of relationship status.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:41 PM
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This is usually my assumption. If a man ever wanted to talk to me, he would probably approach me. If a man is making no indication that he is interested, I certainly won’t bother him. It seems pushy and presumptuous to approach him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:37 PM
2

Unless a woman is actively trying to become an influencer, I cannot imagine her buying followers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:28 PM
1

How is a low quality woman seeking a low quality man reconciled by biology? Would this even happen, according to this sub/TRP?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:19 PM
3

Why do you think a woman who differs from the norm is actively choosing to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:13 PM
1

Why do you assume that someone who doesn’t have two arms/two legs “wants” to differ from the norm? That sort of deviation is rarely a choice under the control of the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:07 PM
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Poverty does tend to result in trauma, yes. But I do not agree that status in and of itself is an indicator of good character. In my experience, a rich person from a bad family will be significantly more damaged than a poor person from a good family.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:06 PM
3

It’s very interesting to see someone prioritizing status over character.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:54 PM
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So you don’t believe that a woman can actually, genuinely differ from the norm? It’s always just a form of posturing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:50 PM
1

Lol ok that makes more sense. Thanks for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:39 PM
1

If you enjoy being frivolous about who has access to your credit, that’s your choice. More power to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:37 PM
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If you don’t give your money to people, they won’t spend your money. You could have solved this problem very easily before it started.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:32 PM
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If the problems developed overtime, perhaps your boundaries were not stated firmly enough in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:28 PM
3

Why are you giving them anything, if you haven’t established that they are trustworthy, mature, and responsible?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:26 PM
2

So you prefer individuals who did not have to work for their status?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:23 PM
5

Why did you give them your credit card?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:22 PM
2

In what universe is 75k-90k a “lower paying” job? How extravagant is your lifestyle at that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:19 PM
1

90k seems like a very high barrier for a “minimum” qualification. Can I ask where you live, generally speaking?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:15 PM
1

Why is everyone so shocked by 3? That’s a very reasonable number if you attach deeper meaning to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 05:42 PM
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I’m absolutely not attractive enough to approach men. I assume they’d make fun of me, sneer at me, whatever. I don’t ever want to deal with that, so I don’t open the door for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 05:38 PM
1

Why do women need to collectively get together and define something that is inherently personal and shaped by unique experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:54 PM
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I imagine most individuals have drastically different definitions of this. I will not have sex outside of marriage. For me “dating” does not include sex at all, period, full stop. I do not expect all (or even most) women to share my definition. Why should I? That would be incredibly narcissistic of me. Like men, individual women will have different definitions of these things. I do not see how that in and of itself is a struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:52 PM
4

They absolutely internalize it. Brains are not as nuanced as we give them credit for. If you say something often enough, it becomes a pattern the brain latches onto. If you hear something enough, it becomes a belief. We can tell ourselves it’s just a joke, but we cannot consistently parse the words that way without failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:35 PM
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It isn’t attractive, it isn’t unattractive. It’s a personality trait I’d pay very little attention to. It wouldn’t lead me to make any assumptions about their social adjustment or general happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:25 PM
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I don’t understand you even begin to bring this up comfortably with a stranger. I’m a virgin but if someone asks me about my sexual history and we’ve only been on a couple of dates, I’d find an excuse to leave early.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:22 PM
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