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(Can this guy possibly be for real?) Absolutely. It's not uncommon. Depending on what field he works in, there may be a strong bias against men doing "girly" things and for leaving all arrangements of daily life to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:54 AM
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When I started my studies at a university that was in a different city, I had to learn all household skills from scratch (my mother had though I was too stupid and had never taught me). I had a cookbook with simple recipes and started with hat, then learned more from friends and from other cookbooks and recipes in magazines. It's not difficult. Working out isn't difficult, either. Running doesn't require a gym. If you can't / don't want to go out, there's a lot you can do at home, from "jail jog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:24 AM
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I think it's to show how tough they are or something like that. I don't really get this BSDM thing. I remember reading that people who were physically abused by their parents tend to associate being hurt with being loved. However, although I was abused as a child (beaten, slammed into walls etc.) I never developed this connection. I really don't understand how you can hurt someone you love. That includes being in the "dom" position - I couldn't whip a guy I'm in a relationship with or whatever y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:18 AM
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Many years ago, I was a IKEA with a guy I knew. I didn't realized he was romantically interested in me (actually, it wasn't personal, he just wanted a women who'd pop out a few kids for him). But if I had been interested in him, that visit would have killed any interest. Before the visit, he was totally biased against IKEA because they had "bad quality" stuff (he had never been to an IKEA store before). Then, in the store, he had to admit some items were actually quite nice. After trying in vain…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:12 PM
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Not really - a model has no right to the picture or sculpture an artist makes of them. If you commission a piece and pay the artist, that's different, there is a contract in place and you have a right to what you paid for. But he gave it to her as a first anniversary gift, and she says he "surprised" her with it, which I guess means she wasn't aware he had made it, nor had she agreed with him that he would make it. It became hers when he gave it to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:34 AM
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"I want to cheat on my wife with other women, but only with women who are guaranteed not to tell her about it. I'm not going to infect you with COVID, not saying anything about other diseases though. Also, I'm immature and use smileys like a teen."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:38 AM
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"When someone shows you who they are, believe them." (Maya Angelou) "Women have very little idea of how much men hate them." (Germaine Greer)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:35 AM
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If someone said something like this to me, I'd get up, grab my bag, get my coat and leave. Tell serving staff that "the gentleman will pick up the check". Unfortunately, "negging" is a strategy popular with redpillers, PUAs etc. because they want to dominate a woman, and saying negative things to her is seen as a means to achieve that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:33 AM
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He gave it to her, at which point it became hers and she could do with it whatever she wanted. Sell it, smash it, throw it away, whatever. He probably wanted it around so she'd feel bad about how her body had changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:29 AM
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Either they are lying, or they are addicted to something that makes them sleep all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:25 AM
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her response was “But… he LIKES you!” That's always their last line of defense. So he has a crush on me? That doesn't mean I have to be together with him. I might have a crush on an actor or a rock star, does that mean they have to be together with me? Of course not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:14 AM
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most of the successful relationships she sees are traditional. Successful? Sure. Happy? No. These relationships are "successful" because the women have no agency and are under their husbands' thumb. They typically have no job and no money of their own, so they can't get out of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:11 AM
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Nothing wrong with dressing like Elton John, provided one condition is met: You are Elton John.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:09 AM
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This matchmaking isn't about you or about the guy. It's about the matchmaker and how it allows her to brag about how great she is at "bringing people together".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:06 AM
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I hate rom-coms. Apart from maybe a few b/w screwball comedies like "Bringing up Baby" (the one where Cary Grant is a paleontologist and Katharine Hepburn the owner of a cheetah called "Baby").
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:01 PM
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I don't share intimate information with female friends for exactly that reason. I'd talk to a therapist but not to a friend or a "friend". Because so many will try to push their creepy acquaintances on you, give them your contact information, give them information that allows them to intercept you on your way to/from work, etc. And these women totally get off on how uncomfortable you feel. Because "he likes you" and "he's a nice guy" and "he wants to be with you". Well, I don't like him, think h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:57 AM
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I found this forum when I was looking into OLD for older women and found that men in their 50s and 60s typically want a woman who's in their 30s/40s, so about 20 years younger, in order to have a future carer. In your case the age difference is small, which I guess is a good sign. I know someone who has Crohns and they keep having flare-ups that can take weeks to resolve. They are limited as to what they can do. Diet is a huge thing; they can't simply go into a restaurant and eat whatever they w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 07:42 PM
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That's what makes vodka dangerous. You can tell if your orange juice looks watered down, though. Or simply by the expectant look on the face of the person who hands you the drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:10 PM
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He'd probably be appreciated by a shorter woman who wants someone a bit taller than herself but not too tall. Someone who is maybe 5'. So let him find someone who is into him. You are not into him, and that's OK. Politeness doesn't mean anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:33 AM
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And they might put alcohol in your drink without telling you. Before today's date rape drugs became popular, people would put vodka into a drink and then hand it to their victim. So they'd take a bug gulp of what they thought was water or soda, and it would be a massive amount of vodka. Also done as a "joke" with people who didn't drink. No matter what you drink, be 100 percent sure where it's coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 10:27 AM
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Some really old rules that we old fuddy-duddies had back in the last millennium: Don't ever drink something that somebody got for you. Only drink something that you watched being poured or that came in a container you opened yourself. When you leave a drink unattended, to go to the bathroom or to dance, don't finish that drink later. You don't know who has tampered with it. Say it's warm, the ice has melted into it, or you feel like something else. And avoid alcohol or keep it to a minimum so yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:05 AM
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Very realistic, though. I have met a few Nates in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 07:02 AM
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I don't trust Iman's words, either. Supposedly he was the love of her life. And six months or so after his death she auctioned off a lot of his belongings under the pretext of not having enough storage space. She's a multimillionaire and could easily have rented another warehouse. If someone has fetishized me in public, that would have been the end of the relationship. I don't think you can take celebrities as examples of HVMs. They have to be too ruthless to get where they are. A lot of what ce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 07:00 AM
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make them miserable by abusing drugs/alcohol Stay away from addicts. No matter whether it's alcohol, H, coke, meth or even weed, once someone is addicted, the addition is the most important thing in their lives. More important than their partner, their children and their job. Addiction is the rival who will always win. That includes the meth-using homeless person just as much as the coke-sniffing executive or "creative" person, the ordinary office worker who has a bottle of vodka in his desk and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:19 AM
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Yes, you will become a walking, talking ATM for all his relatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:10 AM
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she would send long messages pleading with them to stop, how it’s hurt her and affected her life, her mental health That's that "nonviolent communication" stuff. When you say X, I feel Y. It is based on the assumption that when people realized they made you feel bad, they will feel sorry and stop saying or doing these things. It doesn't work with predators, abusers or people without empathy in general. They see this kind of feedback as a validation that their strategy is working. The victim feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:59 AM
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It all boils down to: Don't be a good victim. Predators are not looking for a fight or an opponent, they are looking for a victim. Don't worry about somebody else being attacked instead of you. Look after number one. Don't worry about being rude. Better rude than dead. Better rude than injured. Better rude than raped. And better injured than dead. Your life and wellbeing are the most important thing. Don't worry about your belongings, even if your clothes were expensive and that diamond ring is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 07:26 PM
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One, I think, and her account is dubious because the timeline doesn't fit, and she said in another interview that it was Jimmy Page, not Bowie, who took her virginity. I'd be very cautious about any story told be a "groupie". Or by a rock star. Both have their reasons to lie. What counts massively against Bowie IMHO is that he spent a large part of his life as an addict. Like many rock stars, that's true, but dating an addict or a former addict is hugely problematic. Because even if they are off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 07:15 PM
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Watch the documentary Nothing Like A Dame). It's just four elderly British actresses talking about their lives and careers, but it's fantastic entertainment. Dame Maggie is one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 07:10 PM
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Great book. I'd also recommend Strong on Defense by Sanford Strong. Full of real-life stories, and he always explains what the person in the story did right and what they did wrong. Also Meditations on Violence by Rory Miller, which explains a lot about aggressive male behavior and the differences between men and women when it comes to aggression and violence. Pretty tough stuff sometimes, since Miller is an ex-LEO and a martial artist, but very informative. He has written extensively about viol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:29 PM
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It doesn't even have to be that the man is a bad guy or a LVM. Sometimes your and your partner's goals in life are just incompatible. In that case you can talk like adults and end things amicably and find partners that are better suited to you. I'm childfree, and I could have gotten together with someone and had children just to please him, but I would have lost myself in the process. As a teen, I read Gone With The Wind and there was one passage that had a deep impact on me. It's the backstory …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:19 PM
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The main problem is guys who are ugly outside and don't make an effort to be good people. I think we can all agree that Danny De Vito is not a good-looking guy, but from what I have heard, he is a really decent person. A man doesn't have to look like George Clooney in his heyday. But he can work out, keep good hygiene, eat properly, dress well, and above all, behave like a decent person. Be kind and helpful; be generous; be courageous, respectful, accountable. These will make them look good even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:57 AM
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One additional point: Your friends' husbands are not just their husbands, they are also the fathers or stepfathers of the kids that need watching. The other parent. Why should a stranger babysit those kids instead of their actual father or stepfather parenting them? I wouldn't even want to be friends with someone I cannot trust. I'd keep them at arms' length and put them into the acquaintance zone. So why should one be in a relationship with such a person? Makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:31 AM
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I first learned about Stoicism at school, and I also find it a very helpful philosophy. Philosophy can be a great guideline if you are not religious and are looking for a set of rules or ethics to live your life by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:23 AM
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Yes, if you went to a super well known school (e.g. Eton or other extremely expensive boarding school) , it might make sense to leave it in your profile, just like well-known colleges or universities. But he doesn't even put the full name of the school, just the type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:27 PM
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If it's not their choice, they can simply not put it into their profile. If they put it there, as you say, they are looking for an old-fashioned, obedient wifey aka bangmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:23 PM
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How many red flags can you find? Based on Gavin De Becker's criteria, i.e. what he calls PINs, pre-incident indicators, in The Gift Of Fear: Forced Teaming: No Charm and niceness: Yes, all over the place. As De Becker points out, "charm" is a verb. That's what he's trying to do, charm you. Too many details: Yes, like the weird gas pump story, the name of his employer, his job title and the "Catholic High School" in the profile, also that he is going to Virginia to meet his /female) best friend a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:21 PM
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Catholic High School - no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:03 PM
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I prefer to go shopping on my own, too. I don't want or need anybody else's suggestions. I will even leave a shop if there is one of those super obnoxious sales people who basically stand behind you, breathe over your shoulder and comment every item in the shop. And with cosplay or similar activities (e.g. LARP, historical reenactment) one wants to be with the (knowledgeable) fan crowd, one doesn't want to be a walking, talking 101 level lecture for one's date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:24 PM
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So his career has stalled now that he is your ex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:30 PM
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Love languages are nonsense, just like signs of the zodiac, whether Western or Chinese, and Myers-Briggs personality types (those 4-letter things like INTJ). Convenient ways of pigeonholing people instead of getting to know them as individuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:29 PM
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They want not just a mommy substitute but a free accountant, financial consultant and tax advisor as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:17 AM
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They want a mother substitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:16 AM
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Older people often have no social media presence (other than professional, e.g. a LinkedIn profile). For younger people, let's say 35 or under, I'd expect them to be on social media, though. I also compartmentalize my life very strongly for certain reasons that have to do with both my family and my career. That includes not being present on social media, or only in a way where I cannot be identified. So I'd say it might be a red flag but isn't necessarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:40 AM
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I hope you left early and left him to find someone else to take him home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:34 AM
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“Aw you got yourself a nice present, where’s mine?” Brilliant. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:32 AM
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him buying his own ticket to tag along And complaining and bitching all the time, I bet. I'm not going to do this again, did it once and it was a major mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:25 AM
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Great advice. I'm a vegetarian and don't want to go to some meat-eaters' restaurant. No, I'm not magically going to eat meat because it will make me ill. No, I don't enjoy overcooked spaghetti with tomato sauce that's just heated canned tomatoes without even salt or pepper. I eat it because it's the only thing on the menu I can eat. No, I won't finish it because it's crap. I'm making you look bad? Whose fault it this, hmmm? Who insisted on going to this place? Hint: I wasn't me. And don't even g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:24 AM
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No, you don't have to forgive. Check out http://luke173ministries.org/ for ammunition against the "religious" people who claim it's in the Bible that you have to forgive. And even if you want to forgive, you don't have to let the abuser abuse you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:15 AM
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Because the motive is for them to get both things they want and sacrifice your happiness in the mix. And control you. Abusers try to control you a piece at a time. See how far they can go. Then a little bit more. And a little bit more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:32 AM
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And you can see some relationship-related things as well. Does he try to order for you? Or try to tell you what to order? Does he try to talk you into eating a dessert if you don't want one, or vice versa? Does he mock or criticize your choice of dish or your diet? (I'm a vegetarian so that's a huge thing for me.) Or does he do the opposite, does he wait for you to tell him what do eat? Or let you choose and then order the same? (Adults ought to be able to decide for themselves what to eat.) Als…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:48 AM
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First he cheats with you, then he cheats on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:48 PM
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“I've never had a relationship, so you'll be my first.” Sorry, but I prefer a man who actually knows his way around a female body. And around a relationship. I am not the training wheels on a man's bike. “My empathy is based on either logic or the suffering i've myself gone through. So don't expect me to be the super feeling types but i'm not stone cold as well.” In other words, he's unable and/or unwilling to put himself into another person's shoes. He probably treats servers in restaurants lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:35 PM
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Not that she would notice it financially if she did as they are both extremely rich. The price of a movie ticket or a meal is nothing to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:05 AM
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There is a passage in Gavin De Becker's book The Gift Of Fear about this that states you shouldn't be together with someone for their potential. Chapter 10, "Intimate Enemies", in the middle of the chapter: "One of the most common errors in selecting a boyfriend or spouse is basing the prediction on potential. [...] What a person is doing now is the context for successful predictions, and marrying a man on the basis of potential [...] is a sure way to interfere with intuition."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:01 AM
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It's like Myers-Briggs personality types, signs of the zodiac etc. Complete BS. But people love sorting themselves into categories because they can then use these as a personality substitute or as an excuse for shitty behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:55 AM
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the last time their house was cleaned was by the last pickme Or by their mother. the bizarre increase in refusal to shower, brush teeth, wash hands, buy new clothes I'm middle-aged, and I thought this was only a sign of me getting old that I thought this, but apparently younger women notice it too. Slobs also existed and continue to exist among men of my generation, but there seem to be more of them now, or the behavior is getting more socially acceptable, along with other things like watching p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:50 AM
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That's the problem with the "checklist mindset" that focuses on things like how he looks, what job he has, etc. All these are fine ... as long as you are only looking for a piece of arm candy. Which I'm sure some women are. They are willing to put up with a lot of things, infidelity, abuse etc. as long as they can still present this seemingly great catch to their friends. I don't care whether a guy looks like a fashion model and is a highly paid executive at xyz Corp and wears bespoke suits and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:43 AM
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Speaking as an older woman, these guys certainly existed before porn became such a widely used thing. Basically pre-Internet. I think it's because falling into familiar models of behavior is easy. He behaves the way he behaved as a child and teen, and she models her mother's behavior. This ties into the general idea of male incompetence that is propagated e.g. in TV commercials and is also something that women will put up with. They will joke about how their husbands can't be trusted to look aft…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:32 AM
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These stories perpetuate the idea that it's somehow masculine to be forgetful and incompetent when it comes to typically "feminine" activities. Either these guys don't care, or they do it on purpose in order not to have these things in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:17 PM
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Of course he doesn't want to date the porn stars. Porn doesn't have anything to do dating or relationships or intimacy. It suggests that these things don't exist, or if they exist, they don't matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:39 PM
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I can fully understand the female kakapos. What I cannot understand is how this species didn't die out millennia ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:53 PM
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The main problem with porn is that porn treats women as objects. The writer of this "article" doesn't even get this point. And depending on what kind of porn it is, it can certainly make someone deviant. Porn is like a drug, and the consumers will need more and more hardcore stuff to get the thrill they are seeking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:46 PM
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Why would I be together with someone who has no plans for the future? People who have no opinion are annoying. Remember when you were at school that there would always be this one "friend" who'd say "I don't know" when you asked her what she wanted to do, or even whether she wanted a drink, and whether she wanted a Coke or a Sprite or a glass or water. Remember how annoying that was? Now why should you be together with a dude who is like this? Also remember how this one annoying friend would the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:16 AM
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About the family details: saying that your family or your parents are "a bit difficult" or that you are "not close" can be enough. Then sit back and watch the reaction. That way, the ball is in the guy's court and you can see what his opinions and his values are. As for contact information, having a burner phone or a Google phone number can be very helpful, as can having a separate email address for dating purposes (gmail, outlook dot com, etc. all offer free email accounts, and you can delete t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:09 AM
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The dude should grow a spine and block her and move on. He probably has moved on already and she is only a side chick but doesn't realize this. She should stop contacting him. There is no relationship. There has never been a relationship. He has told her this. He told her he is not that into her. He has told her that they have different ideas about their lives. She should listen. He is not the frog who is magically going to turn into a prince. He is 28 and she is 35. Quite an age difference. Now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:56 AM
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it baffles me how they think this shit will work Must be some kind of special male logic at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:52 PM
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They also do this when they are in a relationship (including marriage) and the relationship is getting rocky and breaking up. Because they want to make sure they have a backup in place in case their wife or fiancée or steady girlfriend kicks them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:07 AM
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That is such a cringy and embarrassing thing to do. And utterly manipulative. I wouldn't want to be together with a guy who thinks that this is romantic. And I absolutely wouldn't want to be together with someone who is that manipulative. The fact that he chose to do this in public so that she'd be pressured to say yes shows that he was aware she would probably say no. I love the 3 questions that the poster of the video brings up. These are things one can bring up casually before proposing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:01 AM
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I remember reading in a discussion about online dating that these guys want a woman who is young enough to serve as their carer when they are elderly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:42 PM
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I bet he would either have stood in the kitchen and criticized your every move, or watched some sports programme on your TV and yelled every five minutes whether the meal was ready yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 07:41 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:56 AM
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Élisabeth Badinter! Such an important philosopher and feminist. I'm glad people still feel she's relevant. Her writings were a huge influence on my generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:41 PM
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Antivaxxers or people who are into pseudoscience of some other kind are a huge no for me. Imagine somebody like that were your husband and could make medical decisions for you when you are in a coma or otherwise incapacitated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:52 PM
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"The male species doesn't like to read instructions" - ROFL. She's nailing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:28 AM
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Totally agree. Language is important. Focus on the criminal and what they did. And don't say "my rapist" but "the guy who raped me". "My rapist" makes it look like there's a personal relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:27 AM
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I hardly ever let people into my place anymore. I have had stuff stolen, too. And I only lend books to reliable people. Unless they are books I don't want anymore, then I "lend" them to unreliable people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:25 AM
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Very interesting, I like "history mysteries". Learn and be entertained at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:22 AM
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Completely agree. My comments are not shown (yet?) because I haven't commented enough, I think. I comment in a variety of subs but that doesn't mean I agree with everything other people in those subs say. Same for FDS. There will always be differences of opinion. So what? That's life. Even with my best friends, I don't agree 100 percent. I find FDS offers a lot of sensible advice and is valuable as a different point of view from the usual advice dealt out to women. A sub that states that women a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:20 AM
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