throwaway28492432 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
51	Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive? Dated someone who was all of these things, and I thought I hit the jackpot. Unfortunately, in addition to these wonderful qualities he also had an intense need to control everything, and would throw fits when things didn't go according to plan. It's so hard to find someone that strikes the balance between fun-loving and relaxed, but also responsible and reliable.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/22 01:51 PM
32	behaviors that connote power, control, dominance: what to avoid When walking next to him in a crowded area, see to what extent he moves to the side to allow others to pass by easily. I dated a man who refused, and I mean REFUSED, to ever accommodate the space of anyone else. Especially other men that he didn't know. He'd get what I called a stubborn "bulldog face" and march forward until the other person would need to jump out of the way to avoid him. He also drove extremely aggressively (in a large truck with jacked up tires) and almost never let others hav…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/12/21 12:40 PM
7	Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these. YAS.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/11/21 09:16 PM
43	Men rarely think they are the problem After sobbing to my ex that I was feeling lonely and unloved in our relationship (being so careful to frame my pain with "I feel" statements and no accusations, to protect his delicate ego), he told me that he was "not responsible" for my feelings. Maybe so, but he was definitely responsible for the things that led to those feelings. He never apologized for anything in the whole 3 years we were together.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 02:48 AM
5	The Ick My ex did almost all of these things. I was such a pickme for tolerating it. Saving your comment to read over and over again...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/21 01:12 AM
20	The Ick When he was complaining about a female colleague and called her a btch. When I asked him why he thought she was a btch, the best he could come up with was that she was too assertive.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/21 01:07 AM
131	This weird type of poor communication that I dealt with after talking to a guy for a few months I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three years for the above. You've articulated it in a way that I wasn't able to. It felt like I wasn't ever allowed to have negative emotions or to bring up issues /problems in the relationship.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/11/21 12:35 PM
115	JOHN MEEHAN FROM "DIRTY JOHN" WAS A HOBOSEXUAL. So many people hate FDS because we warn women about hobosexuals. Women have every right to protect ourselves from men who want to use and exploit us. And then there are the LVM who say they want to live "off grid" or do "van life" or "live small" in a tiny house, but then they end up crashing at your place every time it's too hot, too cold, every time they need a shower, every time they need to do laundry, every time they want access to a regular sized kitchen, every time they wish to throw their trash/recycling out in a real bin, every time they need to store a "few" belongings somewhere because their space is too small.... Ask me how I know…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/06/21 01:56 AM
9	I'm 25 years old. What advice would older women give me? Also, don't move in together unless marriage is going to happen. I can't tell you how many times I had to re-buy basic household items and furniture after premature cohabitation. Looking back on it, I loved loved loved the years when I lived alone the most, and was never happy when I lived with my ex LVM. Living alone gave me so much more room to learn who I was and learn to establish boundaries with others. Harder to achieve but SO WORTH IT.... I lived in a two bedroom apartment by myself, and …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/05/21 02:30 AM
9	I'm 25 years old. What advice would older women give me? If you are in the US, put at least 12 to 15% of every paycheck into a tax advantaged retirement account. Don't put it off because the more you do before age 25, the more the compound interest takes off in your mid 30s (where I am now). Trust me when I say that true freedom is looking at your bank account and knowing you can make ANY big life change you need/want (e..g move somewhere new, take that job, leave that job, buy that house, take that vacation, etc.) without needing any help from someon…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/05/21 02:23 AM