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As a below average guy myself, I assure you that if we were actually given opportunities, we would not be Chads. Not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:00 PM
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I second the idea of a cheaters registry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:55 PM
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Unfortunately, it is hard. And even more so if you’re neurodiverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:53 PM
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“Dating isn’t supposed to be easy.” I’m having a hard time looking for just “genuine interest,” let alone dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:52 PM
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I hope he realizes how much of a keeper you are and I wish there were more like you out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:44 PM
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I’ll never be able to agree or disagree, because I’ve never had it and likely never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:38 PM
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A pretty smart douche though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:33 PM
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Having kids?! Man, at 33, I’m trying to just find someone who’s genuinely interested in me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:31 PM
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I mean I’ll take being “settled for.” Better than nothing, which is where I’m at.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:21 PM
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I am aware I’m boring. I’m also autistic plus my motor skills are terrible, which doesn’t help at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 08:15 PM
2

What if you don’t have friends to showcase your goodness to?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 08:25 PM
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Not much, really. Work, eat, take care of things around the house (as best as I can do and albeit at a slow pace and often not as good as “average”), sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 08:46 PM
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Not really no. With the combination of noise sensitivity, extreme pickiness when it comes to food, and terrible motor skills, any options at best are very limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 08:39 PM
1

Lucky you. Or him. Or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:50 PM
1

I’d say “Take Me,” but let’s be honest, I’d be too boring and autistic for you to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:32 PM
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As an autistic person myself, I can’t stand bars or clubs. Not even an hour in one and I just feel choked up and want to vomit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:31 PM
2

For some of us, it can be an impossibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:23 PM
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Yes, for the most part. Driving something not my own, as well as entering/exiting highways can put me on edge. I also don’t like to talk while other passengers are in the car, because I’m focusing heavily on not fucking up. No I suppose? I’m not one to eat out often, especially because I am EXTREMELY picky. No No My hygiene is fine, I’d say. Teeth look great, clothes are typically neat, no BO. Got a bald spot in the back though… My words are usually clear. However, despite the fact that I’m ente…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:21 PM
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I have trouble just walking straight, let alone do parkour.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:19 AM
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Can men just not be loved for who they actually are? I certainly can’t be. Because I’m not appealing in any way whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:54 PM
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I don’t know, but I hope it’s sooner rather than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:48 PM
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As an autistic person, a special needs student, someone with crappy motor skills, and someone who went through something similar, I disagree. It taught me that people WILL reject you and having a fairly normal life is essentially impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:46 PM
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”Apart from OLD, a lot of couples meet through mutual friends or work, you don’t need to be an extrovert for that. Most people have jobs and friends.” Unfortunately, my job only has 3 women. They’re all already married and are 10+ years older than I am. Even if I was gay, all the men are married too. Not that I see 99% of them, because they all work in a warehouse and I work in the office.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:40 PM
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As a special needs student, I essentially took social immersion/social skills classes. But it’s hard to use any skills to practice when people would rather bully you because you’re a special needs student and have a personal aide (and thus, automatically labeled as “retarded”).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:33 PM
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And if you don’t enjoy it, then what…?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:23 PM
1

I’m sure yoga is hard AF. Unfortunately, my entire body is more stiff and rigid than a California Redwood, not to mention my motor skills are absolute shit. Forget about finding women, I’d be too busy trying NOT to make an embarrassment of myself attempting the basics (and failing to do so… often).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:21 PM
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”You just have to get it right once.” Uh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:17 PM
1

So then who the hell are we supposed to date then? Grandmas?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:11 PM
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Same here. I could understand if most of the people were college age, but still…?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:06 PM
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Guess I’d bore you so much, you’d cry your eyes out. Because dear god, do I hate hiking, camping and anything associated with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 08:03 PM
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Guess I’m mostly screwed then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:58 PM
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Trick question for me because I’m already boring to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:57 PM
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I’m going to call BS on this, particularly about the “supermodel friends.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:22 PM
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Depends on what exactly the “mistake” is. Obviously, anything that’s criminal, there’s no such thing as too young (or too old).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:28 PM
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“You can’t take every person’s opinion as the objective truth.” But if every person’s opinion is relatively similar…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:00 PM
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Or you keep trying, continue to fail, get more dejected/it takes longer for you to get up and try again, you continue trying and failing before eventually you say to yourself “Fuck this shit.” Everyone can be a boxer. But not everyone can be Floyd Mayweather. Some of us are just Gabby Jay.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:56 PM
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If you haven’t been on a date by the time you turn 30, don’t even start. Don’t bother. You’re essentially fucked for the rest of your life. Doubly true if you’re neurodiverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:50 PM
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That’s not the issue. It’s when life keeps throwing shit at you and there’s no reprieve or anything positive happening in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:42 PM
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Something something higher taxes something something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:24 PM
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Just because it MAY BE a valid answer, doesn’t mean it has to be an ACCEPTABLE answer. I don’t just mean in dating, I mean with life in general. And when you keep hearing it so often, you really get sick and tired of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:23 PM
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As an autistic fellow myself, it all depends on the issues you have associated with your autism and the severity of them. Is it just social skills? Do you have any sensory issues? Are your or your partner prone to panic attacks and how bad does it have to be for it to set off? What about motor skills? Once those are answered, what’s the severity of each of the issues. Do you, from an outside perspective, seem functional? How much assistance, if any, do you need? Now I don’t know you or you partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 08:08 PM
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Some of us are just really, really wordy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:56 PM
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As an autistic fellow, I never understood the appeal of that. If there someone I want to date, it’s going to be for reasons other than just looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:53 PM
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Which is why women nowadays should do more of the approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:49 PM
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What if you don’t have the motor skills to do blue collar work?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:43 PM
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What if you already don’t do drugs but you’re allergic to animals and your motor skills are less than subpar?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:41 PM
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Now what if you’re allergic to animals and your motor skills are, shall we say, “subpar?”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:39 PM
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Except even Marley got to have a family…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:36 PM
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WOW, what the actual hell? I can only hope that this guy soon wises up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:28 PM
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Because it’s either that or have NO ONE.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:25 PM
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I hope those same friends have paid for your meals at times too, because otherwise you’re not a friend to them. You’re a meal ticket and you’re being taken advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:12 PM
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Not just a woman, but at minimum, a moderately attractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:13 PM
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I have no idea if getting drunk would even help my social skills (or even say, my balance) because I hate the taste of alcohol in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:08 PM
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And I wouldn’t blame him at all, considering what they said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:03 PM
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My cards are a 2 of hearts, a Joker, a Basic Edition Pikachu, a Kuriboh and a half-eaten Graham cracker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:19 PM
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“You make friends throughout your entire life.” I haven’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:46 PM
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Not necessarily, especially if you’re neurodiverse and/or have other disabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:42 PM
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As someone who has never had a social life: YES, you’re fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:39 PM
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I’ll be dead before I even turn 60.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 11:44 PM
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Yeah, when I was in school, we tried. Turned out no one wants to associate themselves with the special needs kid and would rather mock or bully him instead. Couldn’t really try if no one is willing to offer the opportunity. That’s why I always spent my lunches with the teachers and my personal aide instead of fellow students.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:27 PM
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You can’t compare sex with making conversations. That’s like comparing apples to beer. You can’t really talk to people if you can’t conversate. What am I supposed to have a conversation about if there’s nothing for me to talk about?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:18 PM
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You don’t. There’s your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:10 PM
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There’s more to communication that being able to speak. You have to be able to carry and hold effective conversations. And even with years of practicing in private social skills classes, I have yet to really be able to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:09 PM
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And? What does that have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 08:58 PM
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Using Siri on the phone. Not even holding the phone either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 08:51 PM
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Incredibly awkward walk, can’t put my feet down all the way or keep them inwards. Difficulties with balance. Hand grip issues. Generally physically slow, even basic tasks can take awhile. For examples, changing my bed sheets (a Queen-size) each week alone can sometimes take over an hour. Tying shoelaces, which took me until I was 15 to even get done properly, will still take me at least 3+ minutes to do (nowadays I don’t even bother and just wear laceless shoes). Also have some sensory issues as…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 08:12 PM
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Difficult to figure out what I like. Not really having the motor skills to be able to do things combined with being autistic makes me somewhat functionally limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 08:00 PM
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Because by then, it’s too late to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:25 PM
2

Because, in reality, MGTOW doesn’t really exist. It’s just a front.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:24 PM
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Hand is not good enough. Not anymore. Also, as someone who used to have a flip phone for years: Fuck flip phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:22 PM
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If you’re neurodiverse, you’re doubly fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:20 PM
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Unless you live in California, this is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:17 PM
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The issue isn’t that we all walk different paths. It’s that some of us walk paths without any assistance and are eternally fucked as a result. Might as well have “Boulevard of Broken Dreams” playing in the background at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:10 PM
3

This right here. Boomers ruining even more things for the youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:05 PM
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Unfortunately, if we do a 4 day work week, it will just mean working 10-hour days instead of making the same full-time pay for 32 hours instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:02 PM
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That would be nice, if this is true. I’ll still get passed over though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:49 PM
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That’s what everyone thinks. I thought so too. I thought things would change for the better once I got into my 30s. It was a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:47 PM
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I’ve stopped used online dating but I also have to acknowledge that it’s the closest for me to actually find a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:45 PM
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But how old were you when the relationship started? You may have also got him just in the Nick of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:37 PM
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Your tune will change once you reach your 30s. — 33m
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:36 PM
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If you take chances in life, but you’re neurodiverse, not only will you not accomplish anything either but your failures will life more dejecting than if you hadn’t tried at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:00 PM
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Not the guy you’re responding to, but for me, to put it simply: Autism. And I’m not just talking about social skills issues, though that certainly doesn’t help.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:58 PM
1

I’m with you, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:57 PM
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Not yet, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:54 PM
1

So why would you expect men to do the same for something that lowers theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:45 PM
2

Too bad no one with the money/resources to set something up wants to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:34 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:33 PM
0

As a man, I don’t really like going out to eat much. Mainly because, as an autistic fellow, there are a lot of foods that just make me gag or vomit upon instant taste. Farmer’s markets? Not many around here. I try to order stuff from the supermarket apps, especially since the pandemic, and pick up after work. Saves a whole lot of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:32 PM
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Coming from someone who isn’t forever single. When you’re forever single, you’d be happy to take what you can get, like a homeless person (not those tent-livers in California, I mean true homeless people) asking for food.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:26 PM
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No. If anything, a pill that greatly increases female libido would be more effective than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:18 PM
1

With the way things are changing, this needs to too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:14 PM
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Not where I work. I don’t drink anyway. Christmas parties, yes. But everyone I work with is at least 15-20 years older than I am and already married. Plus even if neither were the case, it’s a sausage fest. I work in the construction industry, though I’m on the office side.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:40 PM
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Awkward people are going to stay awkward people if no one bothers to try and interact with them. For us, it’s like applying for one of those entry-level jobs but they still ask for 5+ years of experience. Well, how the heck are we supposed to get experience if no one can help us get said experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:34 PM
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Can’t even get a “thank you” sometimes, just for that. I don’t mean just from women, I’m talking about in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:31 PM
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And that’s the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:30 PM
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We stay shy. We might have that thought you do, but when actually trying to do so, either one of two things happen: 1.) You chicken out right at the moment you think you’re going to “say what I want to who I want and just not care.” You go back to square on and go on an endless loop 2.) You don’t chicken out but when you “say what I want to who I want and just not care,” it somehow gets much worse and you feel even more dejected and shitty than you did before.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:35 AM
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What in the, and I cannot stress this enough, ACTUAL FUCK?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:26 AM
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But mostly bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:22 AM
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Plenty of people are happy largely because they are ignorant. Ignorance is truly bliss.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:21 AM
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At this point, I’d be happy for women to simply just be friends with me and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:19 AM
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I’ve been feeling tired of being angry just in general for over 20 years. I just turned 33 on Saturday.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:16 AM
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Mostly, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:14 AM
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I can’t make a decent profile, but not because of having decent text or photos with the right lighting. It’s because on my profile, I say that I’m autistic. And I know what you’re thinking, “Well yeah, you’re shooting yourself in the foot by doing that.” Well, in previous dating attempts, they either knew right away that I was autistic, by the way I move or talk, or have watched me be the awkward fellow that I am, literally asked if I had mental issues and leave me on the spot when I say, “Yeah,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:12 AM
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If only there were more like you out there. Not enough sadly…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:02 AM
3

I wish there was. That would be nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:59 AM
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What if their autistic and have social skills issues? Therapy only works to a certain point, you still need real practice and experience, but if no one can be bothered to help you…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:58 AM
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I’ve yet to know a fellow shy man turn around and cheat on someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:57 AM
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It’s not even wanting to date that’s the issue. It’s just giving the smallest bit of attention. I’m awkward as fuck and can barely carry a conversation for shit, but I still appreciate a “Good morning” at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:55 AM
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But just how often are you NOT interested? Because that’s the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:53 AM
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Lack of patience thus turns us with poor social skills off in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:52 AM
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Yeah, but I’ve been without friends for my entire life. And once my parents are gone, that will be it. Loneliness will end up killing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:55 PM
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I… kinda am? While I’m not fat, my motor skills, again, are terrible. Balance, I have difficulty just walking in a straight line; even more so, trying to keep my feet inwards. Grip is also another big issue. I can bench press 35 lbs at most, if we’re doing 3 sets of 10, and with breaks in between each set. And I am unable do a single push-up or pull-up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:54 PM
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Just in general. Very terrible motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:50 PM
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And nothing’s gonna get better when you keep making an effort but show no results or even improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:48 AM
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Kind of hard to fix the attitude personally, when you’re generally useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:47 AM
1

And if you have no friends…?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:34 AM
1

None of those hobbies sound good, especially since my motor skills are terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:32 AM
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You’re right, it doesn’t end at 33. It ends a lot sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:23 AM
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You’re right, it doesn’t. It ends a lot sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:23 AM
4

As a 33m myself, Solidus is right. We have both failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:21 AM
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Decades? At this rate, I see myself dying before I turn 50. Naturally, of course. Likely from a heart attack or some kind of heart disease.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:19 AM
1

Strange. Because I used OkCupid for about 3 1/2 years and I don’t recall seeing any repeat accounts. Then again, I’m within 50 miles of NYC, so maybe that’s why (although I’ve kept my range to 25 miles and under).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:17 AM
1

What if your motor skills are just terrible? Then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:13 AM
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And why do you think they’re bitter and miserable in the first place…?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:25 AM
1

Just being on OLD feels like being on LinkedIn or Indeed. You keep applying to posts but you never get a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:43 PM
2

Date disabled men/men with poor motor skills then. We need love too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:36 PM
1

Well, as someone who is 5’8” and has terrible motor skills, I assure you I neither have the size nor the strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:35 PM
2

We can’t desired by all but it would be nice to be desired by at least one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:31 PM
1

As a virgin myself, I don’t find whether or not they’re a virgin to be important but I do feel there is a max n count that depends on their age. I would much rather have a woman who genuinely cares about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:25 PM
2

I think it should always be split, especially if one person’s order exceeds by a big margin. I’ll get the full rack of ribs at $19.99 with no appetizers or desserts and be just happy with that. You want to spend $50+ on your meal, that’s fine, just don’t expect me to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:19 PM
1

All too true, sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:57 PM
1

“Online offers better odds” Zero is still zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:04 PM
1

As a ND person, I can assure you that the amount of OLD success is equal to IRL success: Zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:03 PM
1

Trick Question. The answer is to try to not have a son in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:00 PM
2

Uh… neither…?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:58 PM
5

Can’t it be BOTH?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:57 PM
1

Guess I’m forever fucked then.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:32 PM
1

I’d have to disagree with “being yourself, you can find someone truly compatible.” At least with pretending, you COULD find someone, even if on a temporary basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:26 PM
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I’m a 32-year old autistic fellow with zero social life, very poor motor skills (thus a general lack of interests), and extreme food pickiness. I’m polite but that’s the only true positive trait about me. I’m honest but to the point of being more blunt than a bat to the head. I try to help, but often will hinder in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:24 PM
1

Very poor motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:18 PM
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I don’t expect ANYONE to. No one’s dating a fellow such as myself, regardless of how nerdy or not they were.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 08:58 PM
3

If it was that simple, I’d already have them by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 08:56 PM
1

TOO MANY is the correct answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:46 PM
1

I’d be lucky enough to even be a 5 to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:44 PM
1

Problem is, there aren’t enough “hot” nerd girls to around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:43 PM
1

As a single, autistic man who has been told by their now Grandma-aged neighbors that they’re “cute” and joked on by family members on my singles status, I assure that this campaign wouldn’t do anything for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:41 PM
1

I’m 32m, straight, autistic, never been on a date. Yeah, I’ll take settling. Something IS really better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:36 PM
1

My first two high school crushes rejected me because they said they were ace. They are still ace.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:33 PM
3

You fell for him because he was already great and didn’t need to “be someone else.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:25 PM
5

These paths though only apply if you’re neurotypical and possess actual skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:25 PM
1

How can you focus on what women tell you in private if you can’t even get them to associate with you at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:23 PM
1

Someone else? One that’s better than myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:22 PM
5

What if you know who you are, but yourself isn’t enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:21 PM
0

Well, if you’re disabled, that physical strength part might be tough, if not, impossible to overcome…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:19 PM
4

But if “being yourself” and not “pretending to be someone else” hasn’t gotten you anywhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:17 PM
1

Men peak at 50? Well, shit, guess I’m never going to peak then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:18 PM
1

I was once one of those bold autistic kids, but being beaten down by society (both figuratively and literally) changed all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:15 PM
1

Exactly. And that’s not even counting if you’re neurodiverse, which makes everything doubly worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:13 PM
1

THIS, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:59 PM
2

This is why sex/romance robots need to be a thing sooner rather than later. Like the Persocoms in Chobits or something…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:54 PM
1

I’m a 32-year old straight man, and I’m a 2. Looks alone, I’m meh, a 5 at best. But being autistic, having terrible motor skills, and being a generally uninteresting person significantly downgrades me. All I have really is kindness, but that alone does not make you date-worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:52 PM
1

I mean, I’m definitely not desirable…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:47 PM
2

I would agree with the #8.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:45 PM
3

“All things are fixable.” Well, except for motor skills. Medical science cant fix that just yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:34 PM
1

I would say in my case, OTHER men caused my loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:58 PM
1

I mean I don’t really care about someone else’s virginity… … but at the same time, I’m 32m, and still a virgin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:15 PM
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What if your motor skills are terrible?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:12 PM
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For some of us, life actually has to have something to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:09 PM
–

Just one of many reasons why I’m screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:05 PM
5

As an 32-year old autistic man, I have never been in a relationship nor have I ever had sex. At least I’m in the 10% that’s actually employed? Though for how long, and would I ever be able to find a different job, are two entirely different questions…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:44 PM
14

Being rejected isn’t the issue. It’s when you’re ALWAYS rejected that’s the issue. Same can go for other things like applying for jobs or college too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:45 PM
6

OR… You fight even harder as you say, continue to get rejected, and feel EVEN WORSE.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:43 PM
5

And if that doesn’t work…? And so on and so forth?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:42 PM
1

Not me either, even though I’m 32 and yet to have been on a date, let alone have sex. Even if I were to land a date, I’m not a sex on the first date kind of guy. Or the second. Probably not even the third, unless we were able to develop such chemistry real quickly. Honestly, if I were to get into a relationship, I don’t think I’d be even asking for sex until at least a few months into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:54 PM
3

I’m autistic as well and in a similar boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:40 PM
1

Guess I’m never leaving my parents’ house then (until they’re dead, that is).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:15 PM
5

I work for the hope that I can afford my own house one day. 32m, not there yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 03:29 AM
2

Yes. I’m autistic and my motor skills are so poor that even basic tasks like tying shoelaces or changing bed sheets can be difficult and time-consuming. When it comes to being an “average” man, I wouldn’t even consider myself at sub-average level. I’m fortunate to have a job (for now, at least), especially since many of us autistics are unemployed (and even when we are, many of us are underemployed) but there’s no real trajectory with it, unless maybe my boss just suddenly dies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:33 PM
3

What if you lack purpose? What if your career (provided you have one) has no trajectory?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:21 PM
2

What about below sub-average?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 07:51 PM
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I’ve never been on a date, let alone had sex. I’m all for abortion. Also if a woman was raped/sexually assaulted and was impregnated (and provided that there is indisputable evidence), she should be allowed to have an abortion free of charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 05:22 PM
13

At 21, perhaps not. But once you get past 25/26, and still nothing, then it’s definitely abnormal. So you got a few years left. Don’t be me at 32, still completely inexperienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 04:24 AM
1

WHEN I’m married and have children? Let’s get past Step 1 first, finding a woman remotely interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 04:22 AM
4

Or they try to, but nothing works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:29 AM
5

I don’t think that’s what they mean. What I believe he is saying that women can have these kind of issues and still have luck when it comes to dating/relationships, while men do not have that luxury. You ever see those end of news segments where some guy with a moderate to severe mental health condition has a prom “date” (and I use that term VERY loosely) who most people would consider a 9/10? Why do you think that’s the case?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:26 AM
2

I would be one of them. I’m autistic and not “borderline” either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:20 AM
10

If you want an AI girlfriend for free, you can just use Character AI. At least until we get actual sex bots.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 06:09 PM
4

I’m 32m and autistic and I’m just seeking a partner who doesn’t mind my autistic... “quirks.” I would like to one day get married and start a family, but I also don’t see that happening anytime soon right now. I would like to have sex, but I’m not a fuck on the first date kind of guy. Or the second. Or even the third or fourth, unless we somehow develop really great chemistry between each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 04:43 AM
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I’m autistic and I’d say I’m 50/50. Half the time, I feel touch starved and want to hug and be hugged. The other half of the time, I want nothing to do with people, just let me rock back and forth standing in a specific spot in my bedroom while I listen to my music on full blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:10 PM
16

But how many men, especially younger men, have that disposable income?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 06:45 PM
1

My preferences is that they’re not overweight, their hair color is an actual hair color, they’re not head to toe in tattoos, and have no facial piercings.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 02:54 PM
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Exactly! I have yet to meet a person IRL who doesn’t mind my autism quirks, not even for mere friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 02:21 PM
1

Masking just burns us out even more. We need to ease our emotional exhaustion, not increase it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 08:06 PM
6

Variance can be next to impossible if you have mental health issues, such as autism. As for social circles/friendships…. well again, see autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:55 PM
1

As someone who also has autism and has tried the former option, I agree. It’s definitely not worth doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:29 PM
1

I haven’t been on a dating app in 2 years. Still unhappy. And I’m a one-flavor of ice cream, don’t drink coffee kind of guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:23 PM
1

I was told that because I was such a sweet and nice guy and that because I was myself, I’d have no problem getting girls to want to date me when I got older LIES.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:20 PM
1

Sometimes you need to change. But sometimes, you may be incapable of changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:15 PM
1

As an introverted, autistic man, I have to disagree when it comes to the opportunity. I tried OkCupid, Bumble, Hinge, even Hiki. None of them were successes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:14 PM
3

As an autistic 32-year old never-dater, just general validation would be nice, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:03 PM
21

But you see, that’s the problem. If you can’t get past the looks attractive in the initial stage, none of that stuff for later, such as personality, matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 06:58 PM
1

I never said it had to be illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 09:36 PM
1

But how do you think they get to that mindset in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 08:33 PM
8

Honestly, probably better to do drugs than to try a find a potential partner, especially if you’re a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 08:31 PM
1

If you can’t fuck the AI waifu, it won’t satiate enough men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:59 PM
1

I’m 32M. Never been in a relationship, never dated. Tried dating apps OkCupid, Hinge, Bumble and Hiki with zero success.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:51 PM
1

Now if only I was capable of having a relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:50 PM
3

Nature isn’t just a bitch, she’s a demon. So many of us autistic people are just screwed. And what if you’re not into those things to make friends? Also, churches? HELL NO.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:41 PM
7

Cuddles and affirmation?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:38 PM
2

Pardon if I sound superficial, but when it comes to looks for me personally, the head/face is most important, then torso, then butt. I actually find butts to be overrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:09 PM
1

As long as she’s cute enough, kind, and understands my autistic ass needs time to simply be all to myself, her social life (as long as she’s safe) can be whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:08 PM
1

They tell me nothing other than “her face is _____,” “I like/hate her hair”, “Can she not shout so much, my ears are already overwhelmed as it is?”, etc. Simply a cute face and a decent chest isn’t enough for me to suddenly be popping boners.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:05 PM
2

I mean, I kinda do a brain checklist…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:57 PM
3

I mean I don’t have any, so I’d have no issue with that personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:50 PM
3

I have never understood the appeal of Nick Cannon. I don’t mean from a attractiveness/gold digger perspective, I mean from an entertainment perspective. Amongst all the various cast members of All That, why exactly did he get his own spin-off show and why is he arguably the most successful of the bunch? At least Amanda Bynes was arguably the most popular girl of the cast and her own sketch show can be entertaining. Kenan & Kel had such natural chemistry together, both in their sketches and in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 03:58 PM
1

It isn’t? I wouldn’t know, I haven’t fucked either. 🤣😭
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 03:32 PM
1

This is, of course, provided I even make it past 50, as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:40 PM
1

I think leagues exist. The problem for me personally is that I don’t belong in one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:07 PM
1

Nah, I’m 31 and my dick works just fine. For now anyway. Maybe I will need them in 20 years, provided that I make it that long, we’ll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:03 PM
2

Is he a beta? Well, that depends. Did you have sex with other guys before him? If so, did it take SIX MONTHS? Did they have to jump through less hoops to get in bed with you? If your respective answers are Yes, No, and Yes, then he is a beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:01 PM
1

Not EVERY MAN gets ED when they hit their 50s, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:51 PM
-1

”A robot simply can not compare with a human.” From an emotional standpoint, no. For everything else, especially sex, I’d say it’s a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:45 PM
0

If you’re being cared for and happy, who cares about social legitimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:43 PM
1

The word is retarded (unsure if mods are okay with it, I know it’s not on other subreddits).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:18 AM
7

I was berated by a girl for being “the r-word” in school. And told me that any time she was being nice was mainly out of pity. My personal aide warned me that I shouldn’t have told her my feelings. I should have listened to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 07:13 PM
1

A park with friends? Not sure, could be ok but you also have to make friends first. Board game cafes? I don’t know any that exist. A Google search has them 90 minutes away, into the city. Hiking groups don’t really work for me personally because of my janked motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 07:02 PM
1

It’s not simply just that. A lot of public settings can overwhelm one’s senses. Bars, clubs, restaurants, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:38 PM
1

I’m not from California, but I feel similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:31 PM
2

Well, duh, look at what Californians have done to California!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:23 PM
1

Or you just end up killing many peoples’ only way to properly communicate with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:18 PM
10

I can counter all but the last one this with one word: Neurodiversity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:43 PM
1

What are my likes and dislikes? Well, I don’t really have anything under likes. Difficult to really find anything you like to do when even basic functions like tying shoes can be an arduous process. Plenty of dislikes though, that’s for certain. What is my opinion on commonly discussed topics? Well, I suppose that depends on the actual topic at hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:53 PM
1

Well then, in your specific case, I’d be out of the running. 31, turning 32 next month.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:05 PM
1

It’s not that I’m telling myself that, it’s that when I actively try to engage in a conversation, I end up saying little to none at all. And I don’t mean “small talk” or a “Good morning, how are you?” I mean, an actual back-and-forth conversation. I just have nothing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:04 PM
3

Oh, I get that you can’t click with everyone, that’s an impossibility, regardless of how much effort. But for me personally, my overall neurodiversity combined with my terrible motor skills doesn’t really give me anything to talk about. You can’t really form a connection with people when you’re toeing the line of trying to function like a “normal” person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:28 PM
1

”asking about their work/growing up/dreams” What if that doesn’t work or what if there’s nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 02:13 PM
2

I didn’t even mean in a relationship, I just meant in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:30 PM
2

But if there’s nothing you have in common, how can you form a connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:25 PM
10

While I believe your husband did it the right way, at the same time, a lot of men who listen and engage and challenge the woman intellectually also just end up getting “friend zoned,” the guy who ends up being a vent/shoulder to cry on when the date she went on just hours ago went horrible. Only seen as a “trusted friend,” but never anything more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:24 PM
2

In the case of number two, “they’ll try to make things happen instead of finding someone else:” Are you surprised if they’re not receiving any other bit of attention from the opposite sex? So, of course, they’ll cling on. Because for them, it’s the sliverest of slivers of hope or absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:19 PM
1

Long-term considerations aren’t talked about as much, because many of us men are struggling just to get through dating/losing virginities to even talk about it. Now if more of us men here can actually find women who genuinely want to date us and we can actually enter (seemingly) meaningful relationships, then sure, let’s talk about long-term considerations.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:13 PM
1

Any porn that I watch is either amateur or hentai. I don’t bother with “professionals” or OnlyFans.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:04 PM
1

When I was in college, I made a few attempts. Some were respectful while others were rude. I took it in stride back then but seeing as I’ve continued to have no success post-college, it’s just been more and more dejecting. I don’t do bars because I can’t stand the taste of any alcohol. I tried to enjoy myself as best as I could in clubs on several occasions, but my autistic brain was simply overwhelmed. The music, the lighting, all those people taking LSD and sniffing up Vicks, seeing people fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:02 PM
1

Late college, you say? But what about beyond that? 25? 30? 35? 40? And not just no experience with sex, but with dating in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:21 PM
2

Nah, I just want a woman who genuinely loves me. Experience be damned.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:09 AM
3

I think that’s a fair point that not many people consider. And I mean that for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:07 AM
1

Ok, but what is your age limit, both in terms of virginity and lack of dating overall?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:04 AM
1

Okay, the real question at hand is: Are you willing to date/fuck someone inexperienced beyond that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:03 AM
2

And the latter part is the issue at hand…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:01 AM
2

A truth that needs to change. Time for women to make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:41 PM
93

Stop hinting. Stop being subtle. Just be direct!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:40 PM
3

”Everyone brings something to the table.” I don’t know about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:30 PM
6

The issue isn’t the work/effort. It’s when work/effort doesn’t bring in results. Imagine you’re at work. A promotion is being lined up and it’s between you and a co-worker. You are a model employee, the kind that employers want to hire. Meanwhile, your co-worker does fuck all, maybe the bare minimum at most. However, because he’s 🤞 with management or because he’s buddies with the other employees, you get passed over in favor of them. Now imagine it happening again. And again. AND AGAIN. AND AGAI…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 03:13 PM
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Thank you and I agree on that. Unfortunately, when I was in school, because I was a special needs kid, I was classified as the “r word” by all the normal kids. They associated me with the students who weren’t cognizant — I’m talking literally in a wheelchair, slumped over, drooling, with one of those special computers (that I never saw them use) — because I was taking those classes, because I had a personal aide, because my motor skills are so janked that if it weren’t for my aide, I would have …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:54 PM
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As a special needs student who had to take social skills classes in lieu of actual academic classes, they don’t help if people in general don’t want to associate themselves with you in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:26 PM
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Agreed. That kind of mindset is why a number of men become incels in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:23 PM
-1

That’s not really an older/younger dynamic. We’re talking 40+ men dating >25-year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:20 PM
1

I actually agree with you. I’m not for loan forgiveness (or if you do, give credits to those who did pay them off) but I am all for access to abortions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:03 PM
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Am I shifting to the right? I don’t know about that. All I know is that as someone who actually paid their loans off at 25, I hate the idea of student loan forgiveness. Or at the very least, if you’re going to forgive student loans, you should also compensate for the ones who paid their loans off in full.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 12:57 PM
8

Honestly, at this point, I don’t even know. They say life isn’t a race, but I disagree. It’s like a marathon, except I’m coming into the race already on crutches. And while most people are halfway finished, I’m still stuck at Mile 1, I’m cramping and I’m trying to find a water table.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 12:54 PM
1

It’s a combination of men not wanting to be “divorce raped” into oblivion and too many women having too high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 12:37 PM
1

Personally, even if there was a draft, I’d be 4-F’d immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 04:32 AM
1

Except I don’t have anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 10:29 PM
5

”As long as you aren’t disabled, extremely short, or deformed.” So your title is essentially a lie then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 07:25 PM
9

He has to get with someone first.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 07:01 PM
33

”As time goes on, if you work hard your value will become apparent, and you will be the one with the power in your marriage. You become the prize.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 02:33 PM
1

Okay, you go ahead and tell people on both sides that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:02 PM
3

At home.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:00 PM
1

Looks aren’t the reason. I know what the reasons are. The problem is I have no control over them, unless medical science advances far enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:22 PM
3

You’d be surprised. I could probably find a couple if I’m inside long enough. Usually around the deli or meat sections.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:21 PM
2

5’7.” And with crappy motor skills to boot!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:17 PM
0

I wouldn’t go after someone who’s 20 either. Anything more than 5 years either way feels skizzy for me. Not that it matters anyway, no one’s dating an inexperienced autistic guy with terrible motor skills, regardless of my age or theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 05:10 AM
1

No thanks, too old for me. I stick to my age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:47 AM
3

You expect people, especially women, to lower their standards? You might as well ask me to dunk a basketball.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:41 AM
8

And yet, it’s the genuine assholes that I keep seeing getting laid and married.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:38 AM
2

Only if we can create fuck robots with artificial wombs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:36 AM
11

Because you supposedly know what you want by that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:35 AM
2

You need to have more than simply authenticity and honesty though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:42 AM
2

Tell that to the United States political system… Ha ha, but in all seriousness, some of us do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:29 AM
1

Well, I have no friends, so that wouldn’t be an issue for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:05 AM
1

Some of us don’t really have a choice…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 12:04 AM
2

And yet, still better than being forever alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 11:58 PM
3

I’m 100% honest when it comes to my dating past. I also don’t have any dating past to speak of and I’m KHHV.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 11:58 PM
1

Time for World War 3 then? Bring back the draft?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:04 PM
3

Eliminate their chances to hypergamy their way out?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:02 PM
6

All of this is why I don’t have any friends. Well, that plus being autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:01 PM
1

People you like are the problem and why more and more men watch porn nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:53 AM
1

Sure. Too bad it doesn’t seem to be the same when you reverse the genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:51 AM
2

Oh, I believe in love. I just don’t believe it will ever happen FOR ME.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:47 AM
2

I’m a straight man. But as an autistic man, I wish I could be both asexual and aromantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:44 AM
2

I don’t carry about a woman’s height. I just want to be genuinely loved. She can be 4’7.” She can be 6’7.” I don’t really care about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:43 AM
2

If you’re neurodiverse, depending on the severity, you should give up and not even bother trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:42 AM
2

I wouldn’t know. Never lost my virginity yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:40 AM
2

Dating market? Perhaps they are. Sex/hookup market though, different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:38 AM
7

Well, I have both no social life AND an incredibly low social battery.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:36 AM
5

It’s because they’re not getting the attention and affection themselves. If they did, then they wouldn’t be feeling hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:34 AM
5

I’m autistic. Everyone intimidates me, regardless of what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:32 AM
16

10?! I’m not even at one!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:30 AM
1

Ha! But the correct answer is actually nihilistic!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:28 PM
5

If it’s true, if only there were more out there…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:44 PM
18

Doesn’t matter whether you are good looking or not, having a disability, whether physical or mental, fucks up your dating prospects. For example, I’m autistic and my motor skills are janked. No woman wants to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:42 PM
1

The problem IS finding that one genuine person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:36 PM
1

Sorry, but I can’t be “cute.” I can’t be “a man” then. My beard does not make me look rugged, it’s ugly. I don’t have much muscle. I’m shy, introverted. I’m autistic. I have a high-pitched voice. I can’t change these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:34 PM
1

No. For all we know, it’s the woman in question that’s the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:32 PM
2

Still have a much better shot than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:31 PM
1

I drive a 6-year old BMW convertible and mainly wear polo shirts, what does that make me?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:28 PM
1

Walkable cities? Art? 🤣 No, women need to start showing the initiative and make the first move, instead of relying on men to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:26 PM
1

While I can’t speak for every autistic guy out there, many of us appreciate being able to cut out the social cue BS. Also understand that autism is a spectrum. We all have various issues, not just lack of social skills or likely introversion, but other things such as sensory overload or motor skills issues. And the degree of these difficulties can vary between people. Some have virtually little to no trouble and on the surface, can appear normal-functioning. Others need some support here and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:46 AM
1

Were you into him? If he actually was autistic, then you often have to be the one make a move, tell him you’re interested. Be direct, I can’t stress that enough. No winks, flirtations or other subtleties. Just be direct and to the point. And if you happen to date one that is autistic, showcase some patience. For many of us, we’re a slow burn. And keep being direct with what you want to do. Want to make out? Tell us. Is there a movie coming out on Friday you want to see? Let us know and let us kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 03:20 AM
3

As someone who is autistic: YES. ABSOLUTELY YES I CAN BE AND HAVE BEEN.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 03:07 AM
5

”You have to proof that you are normal.” Might as well tell a paraplegic to “just start walking.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:32 AM
1

I suppose it depends on how quickly the people in question connect as well as how often they see each other. I’ve never been on a date, but I’m definitely wouldn’t fuck on the first date. Or the second. Maybe the third…? Again, depends on how quickly and how good of a connection we would create.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:28 PM
2

As someone with dyspraxia, I’m calling bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:00 PM
15

Unfortunately true. And if you were special needs like I was, it’s doubly worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:34 AM
5

”Don’t other guys acknowledge you?” Pbbbt, no. Not unless they’re looking for an easy target to bully and beat up, then yeah, sure. ”Women are conditioned to be nice/pleasant” Only time that really happens is in the restaurant industry and that’s more of an obligation really than anything. Even then, the rate’s not 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:33 AM
8

To quote Bender from Futurama: “Ba ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Oh… wait, you were serious. Let me laugh even harder.” ”BA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA.” It’s delusional, man. Compassion doesn’t get you anywhere nowadays, not in this individualistic society of ours. It just gets you run over and stomped on while you’re down.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:29 AM
3

Too bad I’m not like most people and often don’t try things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:21 AM
4

When they’re actually decent for applying to jobs and not a place to copy/paste shit articles written by out-of-touch Boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:01 PM
5

Be able to search by interests. I know OkCupid used to allow you to search for people based on interests that they may list in their profiles, but for whatever reason, they took it away. Would certainly help especially if your interests are more niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:59 PM
0

Replace my arms and legs with bionic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:56 PM
2

That’s provided that you even manage to get with a woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:33 PM
2

I’m with ya. I have trouble just walking straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 12:09 AM
2

Beauty - 5.6 Age - 35. Reality - 31 BMI - 24.7. Don’t know what it actually is in reality. Gender - Man - Correct. Mind you, I have a beard that I haven’t shaved off in a couple weeks, so it could have affected the age. No matches, never been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:23 PM
1

Finding a new job, hopefully down south.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 06:00 PM
1

Too bad I’m allergic. Can’t be around stables/horse farms for more than 10-15 minutes before my eyes get puffy. Would say that’s a -5 in SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:58 PM
4

True. But looks are what get you the initial attraction. Without the initial attraction, you’re not really talking. Or if you do, it’s merely as friends/acquaintances and interest levels don’t increase.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:57 PM
2

Yeah, being socially gifted definitely helps with your odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:53 PM
2

Because I would want to raise my own child, not another man’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:23 PM
11

Uh… no we don’t. Especially if we’re more introverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:50 PM
1

Time for World War 3 then?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:49 PM
1

There are certainly people who could do better if they actually bothered, but simply don’t. Whether they lack the motivation or simply choose not to because they feel it isn’t worth the effort. Meanwhile, there are people who can put in as much effort as they possibly can and yet still have nothing right going for them. Whether it’s a long string of bad luck or simply just lacking the the ability/competency to achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:23 PM
1

Or a fourth option of just being incompetent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:42 PM
1

”If you fail just try to excel at something new.” You still have to have the capabilities. Effort without ability is simply a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:41 PM
1

If the wedding is the starting line, what the hell is dating then?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:38 PM
1

If you want “enough time,” don’t marry someone in medicine. They will never give you “enough time,” no matter how much they want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:37 PM
3

And by then, their biological clocks have mostly passed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:25 PM
2

Because being forever alone really, REALLY, REALLY sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:24 PM
1

You can be a Trump supporter and still get the vaccine. My parents did.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:22 PM
4

”The price of sex with me isn’t high. It’s free.” So you put out on the first date then, no strings attached? No gifts, no dinners fully/partially paid by the guy, no activities that cost money (like concerts, for example)? Because if not, you’re not really free then, are you? ”Because I only have sex when I want” That’s the other thing, when YOU want. Well, what if you were interested in a guy with a more active libido then? Now personally, I’d never pay for a prostitute myself because I want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:57 PM
1

I get ya, man. Just hoping your friend can offer something too. As long as he’s not an ass, overall job security might be a bit safer too. Just concerned that if the labor involved is more physical, you don’t want to potentially keel yourself over just for a few extra bucks. Could hurt you when it comes to costs, especially later down the line. I’d say see what your friend can offer you and then weigh your options.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:49 AM
1

Does your state job have benefits? Can your friend provide benefits? Also, is there a chance of being promoted where you are and getting a higher salary as a result? Those are my issues with whether you should take the job. But if he can pay you and you can withstand the work he’d plan on giving you, then take it. By the way, just want to mention that I didn’t start at 50k. I actually started at 39k and am only at 50k now after 6 years. Previous job at the sports wire service, I was making minim…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:58 AM
1

$50k not all that much. Does your friend do any labor besides the estimates? Higher salaries really go to the guys that do the installation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:06 AM
1

Well, after getting laid off, I still had to pay off student loans (I managed to fully pay mine after 25). I was applying to broadcast journalism jobs across the country but no luck at all. Meanwhile, at the same time, I was fighting unemployment because I lived in one state by worker in another (and my first job as a sub teacher is in the state I live in). 9 months of unemployment and I was down to my last $30 in my checking account. Now my parents would have technically been on the hook becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:40 PM
2

Can’t really blame him for his negativity. It really sucks when you have something that is deterrent but is completely out of your control, whether it’s a physical disability or a mental health issue. And yet, no one is willing to offer an opportunity (and for many of us, it’s not just with dating, but other things like friendship and employment). At least unlike me, he has friends. But that only helps so much. I don’t know if you can find him a woman that truly doesn’t mind that’s he’s deaf, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 08:18 PM
1

Challenge would be an understatement. It’s like playing a bullet-hell shooter blindfolded and with your feet, but they’re tied up. If the roles were hypothetically reversed and I was the one that was “normal,” I’d like to think that I would at the very least give them a shot and overlook their issues that I have. Social skills not great? That’s fine, I feel that can be (even if slowly) improved as we spent more time with each other. Clumsy and has difficulty even with basic tasks? I can overlook…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:11 PM
7

Yeah, unfortunately that didn’t really happen for me. After graduating from college, I was working for a sports wire service. Then I was the first one laid off (as I was the newest) less than a year in, as the company was supposedly being bought out (they did… 3 years later). I continuously tried to apply to all sorts of jobs broadcasting (my degree was in broadcast, not print), but I just couldn’t get my foot in the door. Closest I got was, surprisingly, for an anchor position for a now-defunct…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:59 PM
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Ah, you’re one of those types of journalists. The type that gets to travel around and stuff. Yeah, that would make you more interesting. Because as someone who has a degree in journalism, I was the complete opposite. But that’s because my work was more pertained to local and collegiate sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:42 PM
2

I’m autistic and have dyspraxia, and with that combination it’s been a dealbreaker for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:39 PM
3

No, I want a genuine connection with someone that involves a consistent amount of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:29 PM
2

Male, 31. Is it possible to have a negative amount of options? No woman is going after the autistic guy who has trouble with even his motor skills when even an “average” man is better by comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:34 PM
0

”They’re better off learning the way we all should (and most people my age did), just fumbling along and checking in for consent and enthusiasm.” That’s why they’re asking you in the first place. They can’t find anyone their age to begin with, thus they can’t the learn the way “we all should.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:16 PM
3

Except you never minimize how hurt each rejection is, unless you manage to sprinkle “wins” in between. The more you try and the more you fail, the more dejecting it gets with each effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:36 AM
17

Meanwhile, women just have to look halfway decent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:34 AM
1

31
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:43 PM
3

I’d say you’re an outlier then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:11 PM
4

Most people who are that experienced though are either not willing or not patient enough to teach.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:07 PM
1

It can be unnecessary. If you can choose between a kind and stable person but lacking in anything else versus an exciting, good-looking, fun, charismatic yet violent asshole, most if not all of them are gravitating towards the asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:21 AM
5

Damn, page 115? I mean if I’m not finding anything after page 4, I’m moving on to a different category. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:13 AM
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I’m 31 and my age range is 26-32. I honestly don’t care what her partner count was, as long as she clean and feel of any sexual diseases, is not a single mom, is patient with someone who has never even been on a date, and is ok with the fact that I’m autistic and that my motor skills are terrible. Unfortunately, I’m asking for way too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:10 AM
4

Yes, you would feel deprived.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:06 AM
2

Well, I have no experience dating whatsoever. So having someone on the same or very similar level might be less intimidating than someone who’s partner count is high and already knows what they want, when they want, and how they want to. Too bad, at my age, there aren’t really any women that have absolutely 0 experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:04 AM
4

Except it does. I’d rather have a woman whose kind but looks-wise would be graded a 5 by people than a 9 who’s a bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:55 AM
4

Because it is. If you’re a nice person but have nothing else to go along with it, women aren’t simply interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:49 AM
1

Positive self-talk only works if you believe in it, which only works if you actually achieve success.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 05:56 PM
1

Companies don’t care about loyalty. They want who can gives us the most prospect job at the lowest possible price. PROFIT PROFIT PROFIT
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 05:54 PM
5

That’s why they’re trying to ban interstate travel. Also, citizens can call in and inform authorities if they think someone who is pregnant is going to go get an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 05:49 PM
0

The legalization of prostitution would only affect the dating/sexual marketplace if it’s cheap enough. And I mean CHEAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 05:43 PM
5

”Women often like genuinely nice guys (IF HOT)” Looks > Personality
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:35 AM
3

You can have low/no standards and still get nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:32 AM
8

Because the issue is finding someone who actually likes them back.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:30 AM
3

Well, I’ve never been on a date before. And even then, I’m not a “sleep on the first date” kind of guy. But let’s just say, hypothetically, that I was on a date, it’s our first, and the woman wanted to have sex with me. Now does the woman want to have sex because she is genuinely interested in me and feels that so we are well connected that she is willing to have an exclusive relationship with me? Or is she just horny for dick in general and I just happen to be on the menu that night? If it’s th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:24 AM
1

And yet, still better than absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 06:24 PM
1

As an atheist who hates watermelon and has never even been on a date, that’s still more options than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:42 PM
4

As a fellow autistic person, you’re one of the lucky ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:39 PM
1

I’m diagnosed with autism, not ADHD.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:36 PM
4

I’m in my lower 30s, and I remember a world before IG, Facebook, Tinder, Snapchat, TikTok and OnlyFans. It’s not like things were really that different back then they are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:12 PM
1

Your own comfort zone might be bigger than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:28 AM
1

Because of the biological time bomb in their uteruses.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:20 AM
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Lucky you. I’m KHHF AND have no friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:19 AM
1

So why did you stop dating him then?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:17 AM
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Those same men don’t care though because they’re already getting laid and thus have already won.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:15 AM
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We never said you’d have a good relationship. But you have options and you can vet them how you please.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:09 AM
1

It’s not a mentality. We CAN be easily discarded for the next best thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:58 AM
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I’m just trying to start dating 1 woman. Forget about 2 or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:54 AM
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Grey, but definitely leaning on the darker shades.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:53 AM
3

Maybe that’s why more women should show initiative instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:50 AM
2

Very terrible motor skills is the main issue. But also low social and general battery, anxiety, easily stressed and overwhelmed that drains my battery even further, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:48 AM
2

Well, I’m one of those in the supposedly small percentage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:33 AM
2

Not necessarily. Some people can improve, while others peoples’ limitations are so low that no improvement can be made, regardless of how much effort is put in.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:28 AM
6

If you’re ugly enough, you can be forever doomed. If you’re neurodiverse, you’re doubly fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:25 AM
3

While physical appearance is not the only basis for sexual atttcation, it is what gets you that initial attraction to begin with. Things like personality, humor, status, etc, can certainly add to one’s overall attractiveness, but if you’re an ugly SOB, if you’re not attractive, none of those things will matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:23 AM
1

I do have a job, fortunately (though I am burned out and am currently looking for something out of state). However, I’m part of the office staff in my company and the staff is made up of only myself, my boss (the VP), my other boss (the owner), a secretary and a payroll admin who works part-time. Secretary is in her upper-40s and married and payroll admin just turned 70 earlier this year. All other staff work in the warehouse or out in the field. As for the will to stick with it through college,…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:45 AM
2

And that’s why it will never work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 07:08 PM
3

When I was 7, I was diagnosed with Asperger’s. Coupled with my awful motor skills, I was assigned a a personal aide as a result. Academically, I was fine. But because of my terrible motor skills, I would often need assistance with tasks that required the use of my hands, particularly art and music. Other simple tasks like tying shoes, which is still an arduous process for me to this day, were usually done by the aide. I also needed accommodations such as leaving 5 minutes early from class so I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 06:55 PM
4

Maintain? I didn’t even get a chance to make, let alone maintain. No one wanted to associate themselves with the special needs kid who needed a personal aide.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:55 PM
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I took social skills classes for years. But all the practice doesn’t help if no one wants to associate themselves with the special needs kid, let alone make friends with them. “Work to make more money?” Then employers need to hire and not underpay autistic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:44 PM
2

I didn’t drop everyone after high school/college, because I didn’t have any to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:37 PM
2

So as an autistic person, either stay in my comfort zone or be completely overwhelmed?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:28 PM
1

🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:26 PM
3

You have to be capable of it though. Everyone has limits, and unfortunately, some peoples’ limits are very, very low.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:36 PM
5

If you have to lower your standards (provided they’re realistic), then you’ve already failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:58 PM
6

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:56 PM
6

”Men are not selective when swiping.” Uh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:50 PM
1

Ok, but what if you’re not average?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:47 PM
2

Unfortunately…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 12:28 PM
-1

They’re also taxed up the wazoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:06 AM
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Yeah, that’s not happening anytime soon. People in general can’t even be paid decent wages to simply live now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:00 AM
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I was in Boy Scouts for years. Camping always sucked for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 09:24 PM
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You have to have one first.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:39 PM
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Sorry, but I hate the outdoors. Having terrible motor skills also doesn’t help, in a number of cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:32 PM
2

What if you’re not even a “Bob?”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:16 PM
10

I’ve been asking women, both IRL and online since I was 18. I’m 31 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:14 PM
1

I wish that was the case for me, but I’m lower than a beta male.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:12 PM
1

Not have mental health problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:40 PM
1

Optimizing an autistic person’s status can be, depending on the person, an impossible task.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:39 PM
16

This year, IRL, I admit it’s 0. I’ve made efforts over the years though, only to meet in rejection. Coupled with rejections when it comes to friendships and employment, I’ve largely given up at this point. I understand that rejection is a part of life. However, when you’re ALWAYS meeting rejection, with no “wins” to speak of in sprinkled between all the rejections, it takes a toll on you, mentally and emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:37 PM
16

And mind you, this is all if you’re neurotypical. If you’re neurodiverse, all of this is doubly worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:29 PM
39

It’s not facing rejection that’s the problem. It’s ALWAYS facing rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:27 PM
2

Meanwhile, I’m abysmal at making friends AND I’ve never been on a date. 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:26 PM
1

Autism and dyspraxia.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 11:01 PM
1

I’m talking more of motor skills functions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 11:00 PM
1

1.) Can I live with it? Seeing as how i was born with it, I don’t really have a choice, unless medical science advances far enough. 2.) Nope, can’t ignore it. Wish I could though. 3.) Again, been with me my entire life. 4.) Medical science. 5.) The cost is any semblance of a social life. Also discriminates me from things such as employment, even though it’s against the law (but it’s difficult to prove such a case). 6.) What price am I willing to pay? If it means being able to perform like a norm…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:32 PM
1

That’s because I haven’t. Without the ability to function and operate like a normal person, I am unable to adapt or change.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:27 PM
1

Not just body language, but walking, grip, performing basic tasks, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:26 PM
2

Can you fix autism? Can you fix motor skills? No, because unfortunately, medical science has not advanced that far yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:50 PM
1

What if your flaws are one that cannot be fixed?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:25 PM
2

Some issues can’t be resolved though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:24 PM
1

But the best of 0 is still a 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:23 PM
2

Yeah, I would say I’m relatively still the same person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:23 PM
1

That just means women who manage to marry those Chads get to inherit all their stuff when they die.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 02:10 PM
1

Not an asshole but I am unfun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 02:05 PM
1

My body is… meh. Just a bit short at 5’7” but I don’t give a shit about height. Not fat but lack muscle, balding a bit, face is relatively clean (am dealing with a stye though right now). Dick size is fine too. Would not deny sex because of my body. Am a bit concerned about performance/technique though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 02:04 PM
1

Being a football player with a shit ton of money certainly helps though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 08:46 PM
1

Not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 08:43 PM
1

Well, personally, I have Asperger’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 03:06 PM
1

Also, what about neurodiverse guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 01:00 PM
2

As someone who is autistic myself, I don’t consider us in general to be any better or worse. The issue is that few bother to actually get to know us and that far too many people would rather mock, bully and threaten our very existences, and treat as second-class citizens instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 08:13 PM
1

I don’t know about “hidden gems” but boy, do I wish more people would get over the initial hurdles.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 07:17 PM
4

Well, when you don’t actually achieve or accomplish anything on your own…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 07:15 PM
8

Is it a positive though if they are not even getting dates or relationships, let alone get married?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 02:47 PM
1

So if relocation didn’t occur, what do you think would have happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 05:42 PM
1

You dated. So what happened with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:56 PM
2

Maybe you’re not average either.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:55 PM
1

Genetics - 8 (+7) Maintenance - 8 (+7) Social Skills - 4 (+3) Net Worth - 7 (+6) Logistics - 1 (0)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:54 PM
0

Not always. Still better than escorts though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:43 PM
1

Can be learned, can be practiced, but can it be applied? It takes two for friendships/relationships to form.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:28 PM
1

At least with a relationship, the person presumably wants you for you, not your wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:22 PM
7

Maybe they are, you just think that they’re average. 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:18 PM
7

You should skate there anyway. Fuck her and her nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:36 PM
5

”People have more flexibility and access to options than ever.” Not in this economy we don’t. Also, there’s the whole language barrier issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:33 PM
1

Eh, it’s happened to me twice now. Also been perms-banned from r/Antiwork and r/lostgeneration because even though I’m 31, I don’t think student loans should be forgiven.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:04 PM
4

So you date within you friendship circle then? They still have to want you and to do that, they have to get to know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:21 PM
9

So you want us to want you without actually getting to know you? Also, we all LIE? Uh, what? Talk about a head-spinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:17 PM
1

It’s the last point more than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:04 PM
7

But how can we get to know you if you’re not willing to approach/allow guys to approach you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 05:52 PM
1

And why do you think that’s the case?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 05:49 PM
1

My hand is a 2 of diamonds, a 9 of clubs, an Uno green 0, a Mahjong tile and a half-eaten cracker. I try not to compare myself to others, but is difficult not to when I can’t even get out of the confines of my own hometown. When you’re often just functionally inept, when some of the most basic of tasks are a struggle to do because your motor skills are awful. When you see people do everyday things with ease, not just the pics or statuses they share on social media, meanwhile you’re falling flat …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 05:00 PM
3

Do they have a right? Yes. What I’m saying is that if that if they weren’t continuously getting knocked down by society, they wouldn’t even think about it in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 04:42 PM
1

Oh, I left that room the following semester. Not even a full year I spent with them. But it also sucks when you see those same shitty people achieve success, especially when you’re still struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 04:41 PM
1

As someone who had to take social skills classes as a special needs student, all the practice in the world doesn’t help if no one is willing to associate themselves with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:50 PM
3

Someone that is constantly knocked over by society shouldn’t have to kill themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:32 PM
2

You yourself don’t have to make it an identity. My freshman year in college, my three roommates fucked, drank and smoked weee 3-5 times a week, and often engaged in orgies. And yeah, I was mocked for not taking part in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:20 PM
3

Most of them had sex at some or at various points though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:17 PM
6

”Teach boys that there are worthy dreams, goals and aspirations to be had outside of getting laid and they’ll be happier overall.” Only one problem with that: Those dreams, goals and aspirations not only have to be obtainable, but they have to actually be obtained, or at the very least, there needs to be progress made. My dream was to become a news anchor. Not only was that dream never obtainable, I was never even able to get my foot in the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:16 PM
17

Exactly. Most of us men want sex with a woman who willingly wants to have sex with us for us. Not for our wallets. Not because of an obligation. But because they are into us, romantically and/or sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:11 PM
2

As a guy, I never really understood the appeal of tattoos, on either men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:28 PM
3

It’s both.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:09 PM
2

For some neurodiverse people, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:08 PM
4

I sure as hell don’t believe in that. If anything, my looks have gotten worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:01 PM
1

1.) I’m honestly sure because the idea of a woman apparoaching me just seems far fetched. 2.) It’s rather subjective because a 10 to me could be a 6 to someone else (and vice versa). In the end, it just has to be someone who actually matches with me… which unfortunately hasn’t happened. 3.) If we’re talking about in just looks, I’m a 5 perhaps? At 31, I’m balding at the top, not fat but not skinny either, lacking in muscle in the arms but have strong-looking (looking, not actually strong) legs. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:59 PM
6

Guys that are exciting and fun, but also brash, arrogant to the point of narcissism. ignorant, can be just plain mean and assholey to their partner as well as to the world around them. May also cheat, use hard drugs, break the law, etc. Whereas “good boys” are kind and typically have their shit together, but usually otherwise have simple and uninteresting lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:43 PM
1

No, it’s because people tell me and then usually tell me that “it’s fucking weird” or “what is wrong with you? why/how do you do these things and why are you like that?”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:56 PM
1

You’re more of an exception than the rule though. It’s like you’ve said, you spent 8 hours a day with other neurodivergent people. You’re not only used to it, but you’ve tolerated it. How many people can say that? And from those people, how many would be willing to explore a relationship that goes beyond friendship/acquaintanceship?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:23 PM
1

As a special needs kid, I had to take social skills classes for years when I was in school in lieu of academic time. But all the practice in the world doesn’t help if people aren’t willing to associate themselves with you. Just because you’re willing to extend your hand out in friendship and respect doesn’t mean others will reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:14 PM
1

How am I supposed to not do something that’s out of my control?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:12 PM
1

I have both autism and dyspraxia.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:24 PM
3

What about neurodiverse, clumsy, socially AND physically awkward, lacking functional motor skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:33 PM
2

I’m in no social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:29 PM
2

As it should have. Did she have good intentions? Perhaps. But she clearly did not do her research. Also her grooming is just really, really creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:38 PM
6

Counter-counter argument: This applies if you are neurotypical. But if they see someone approach who walks awkwardly, constantly rocks from side to side and is unaware of it, with a high-pitched voice, they will instantly want to shut down any bit of conversation whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:21 PM
6

Except most people who have Asperger’s our are neurodiverse in general do not become famous, largely because of their neurodiversity. Hell, when someone makes (or tries to make) a movie about someone who is neurodiverse, do they cast someone who actually has it? No, they hire somebody else. Or in Sia’s case, she just uses that girl she’s been grooming for some time now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:19 PM
81

The women actually have be willing to talk to you first.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:14 PM
5

Not going to help someone who has Asperger’s. Dan Aykroyd and Elon Musk may have it, but Aykroyd was born to a former adviser to the Canadian Prime Minister and Musk was already born into wealth; he just got himself even richer. In other words, if you’re neurodiverse, but aren’t already born into upper classdom or above, you’re fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:13 PM
1

It won’t. They don’t want to fuck a woman who wants them for their wallet. And escorts/prostitution are too expensive anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 07:59 PM
1

Nope, not happening. Let me eat my steak and baby back ribs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 07:56 PM
3

What’s lower than beta?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 07:42 PM
13

What he’s saying that if she does not consider him the most attractive man, she’s not putting in her best/most effort with him but instead with the guy who she considers more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:07 PM
2

Ok, but what if you’re none of those things? What if you’re not funny or interesting or talented or artistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:02 PM
1

I’m multidimensional?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:01 PM
6

Exploitation is the only way to gain success nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:35 PM
1

Sure, if you’re neurotypical.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:26 PM
5

Tell that to corporations.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:25 PM
2

I live 5 minutes away from a college town. Everyone just takes shuttles that pickup/drop off at various dorm points, parking garages and the train station. And nobody bothers to park their cars around unless you’re going to the hospital because parking garage rates are $12.00 just to enter plus $4.00 for every hour afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:38 PM
0

Nobody goes to a bar/club and not drink. And when you’re the only one sober there, it gets a lot more awkward and uncomfortable for the non-drinker.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:18 PM
1

The problem isn’t being rejected. Rejection is a part of life, I’m sure that’s something we can all agree on. The problem is being TOO OFTEN or ALWAYS being rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:15 PM
1

I have before, never saw any, nor at the driving range. Maybe it’s because I live in a suburb and not near the city?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 03:16 PM
2

You’re not meeting women at a golf course. If you go to a pub, restaurant or sports game, they’re either completely uninterested or they’re already with a guy to begin with. And provided he has the space to throw a party or barbecue, the people who show up will just be neighbors, most of them, if not all, already in a relationship as well. Once you get past a certain age, your ideas of places to approach women, particularly cold approach, become more and more limited. Doubly so if you’re introve…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:35 PM
-1

Well, where should the 40 year old guy go then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:38 PM
7

Or how about if the woman is interested in us, make the initiative and actually tell us that you’re interested. No “signs.” No games. No flirtations or other signals that may fly over our heads. No BS. JUST. TELL. US.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:32 PM
1

I am actually autistic, yes (also have dyspraxia). But I’ve always had crushes and been attracted to women. But my autism (and dyspraxia) has always been a huge block for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:17 PM
7

Well, I’m a 31-year old straight male. As for my desire, I’m not sure. I feel like it’s waning but that might be because nothing has happened. I’ve never even been on a date. I also have no interest in escorts/prostitutes because if I’m going to have sex with someone, I want it to be with a woman who genuinely loves and cares about me, not my wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:04 AM
6

Can’t really say how strong my sex drive is, as I’ve never actually had sex. That said, I’d like to to think that I can go once a day? But I’d say as a minimum, maybe twice, three times a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 03:59 AM
1

You forget the mental health bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 03:57 AM
1

It is skewed if you have physical and/or mental health disabilities or disorders. A lot skewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 03:55 AM
8

Except the physical attraction is what initially draws you in. The rest don’t matter until he accomplishes the initial attraction. But women such as yourself won’t even give him that chance just because of his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:27 PM
6

If your starting point is a 0, you remain a 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:25 PM
1

I’m fine with having sex with just one woman. I don’t need to take part in a threesome or an orgy, regardless of the female-to-male ratio. And no, I’m not into pegging or femdom, but I’m also not into being super-dominant either. I want lovey-dovey sex more than anything really, full of love and care, of truly desiring one another and wanting to make each other feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 02:21 PM
2

The equivalent of playing a bullet hell shooter while blind and two people are playing the vuvuzela directly into your ears. I do not see it being resolved any time soon, if at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:06 PM
3

No idea. I have to actually land a date first.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:04 PM
6

Exactly. I’d like to not be homeless, please, even if society would like for me to end up that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:45 PM
1

Rejection is a part of life, yes. The problem for many of us is that we’re always getting rejected. No “wins” sprinkled in between. And each rejection we get is more and more dejecting. If we got some “yes” in between, attitudes would change dramatically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:54 PM
2

You could always do art/animation like YouTube storytime artists/animators do. People like JaidenAnimations, Emirichu, Shgurr or Illymation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:26 AM
2

I believe in love, just never got to have the experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:24 AM
4

As someone who has been alone his entire life, I’d take settling down.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:23 AM
11

But in the end, looks are what gets you past the initial step.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:21 AM
5

No, they have an issue with women who have spent their “prime years” with other men and not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:28 PM
3

For some people, it’s either her or nothing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:27 PM
16

Unfortunately. A lot of neurodiverse people get screwed over because of this. Both when it comes to dating and employment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:24 AM
1

Nope, none at all. I’m 31, 5’8”, 162 pounds. I’d say I’m average-looking at best. What’s truly holding me back is having autism and dyspraxia.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:56 PM
1

Well, with glasses, to me, while it doesn’t work for everybody, for some, it just WORKS. With the right person and glasses style, it can add to one’s attractiveness. That’s just me, but I’m sure there are others with a similar mindset. You say about skinny jeans but what about tops? It doesn’t necessarily have to be revealing, but perhaps it shows off a general outline of your figure? By no means does this justify unnecessary cold-approaching or any creeps, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:24 PM
1

If you’re neurotypical, perhaps. But if you’re not, different story. And the taste of any alcohol makes me vomit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:11 PM
1

I’m autistic so eye contact is always an issue, regardless of who I’m interacting with. Either my eyes are somewhere else or it feels like I’m trying to stare deep into your soul. That’s why I either try to make sure that the tone of my voice is one of interest or try to ask questions/respond in the conversation, instead of just going “yeah or mm-hmm.” Though the latter is still difficult, especially if the topic involved is one I have little interest or knowledge about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:08 PM
3

Neurodiversity, the willingness to associate themselves with someone who is neurodiverse, and how far of a relationship they would be willing to go with said neurodiverse person (acquaintances, mutual friendships, friends with benefits/casual sex, LTR’s).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:04 PM
1

So we’ve been long overdue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:59 PM
1

cough cough People with physical and/or mental health disabilities/disorders cough cough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:57 PM
2

Well, if a guy confesses and is denied, it just makes the friendship awkward. And if the feeling of affection lingers even after being denied, the awkwardness just makes things worse. That’s also why some guys don’t even bother with confessing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:52 PM
1

Hair? Eyes? If you’re not wearing a parka/puffy jacket and loose sweatpants, overall figure?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:50 PM
1

Easier said than done to be confident and/or carefree.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:48 PM
1

If that was true, more people would be moving in, not moving out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:38 PM
2

Or at the very least, a new amendment or two. We haven’t had one in 30 years and the last one had to do with the salaries for Congress (which took over 200 years to ratify!)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:38 PM
2

I appreciate the sentiment, but I don’t even have any friends, let alone been on a date. More than likely already missed the boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:41 PM
1

Then you’re more likely an above-average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:31 PM
2

Because he’s saying if most of them did and they got rejected even just a couple of times, they’d crumple into a heap.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:26 PM
1

Rejection is a part of life, yes. But we’re talking about guys who are ALWAYS rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:03 PM
0

Which means I only have 4 years left myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:14 PM
-3

Well, if you’re looking to have kids of your own…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:13 PM
2

Seeing as she’s a model billionaire, I would say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:50 PM
1

Or you want kids, especially multiple, and you want the least amount of risk for your kids to have issues upon birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:47 PM
3

Most? Well, shit, then I only got 4 years to find a woman that I like who reciprocates my feelings, have a LTR, marry, and then make babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:45 PM
1

No drugs, I’m straightedge.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 05:18 AM
1

Well then, I guess I’m screwed because the taste of any alcohol makes me vomit immediately upon it touching my taste buds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:49 AM
1

Polite decline? “Fuck off?” I wish it was only that bad. More like mock you, beat the hell out of you, hold you by the scruff of your neck and threaten to slit your throat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:36 AM
8

For me, it’s a lot more than just “a bit.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:31 AM
1

Not OP, but clubs and bars don’t really work for me since I don’t drink and I find drunk/buzzed people more uncomfortable than when they’re sober. Also, if I go all alone, wouldn’t I look like a creep, even if don’t even do any cold approaching?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:27 AM
1

Not OP, but I never made any friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:21 AM
2

Not everyone likes the taste of alcohol. And drunk/buzzed people might make other people very uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:18 AM
2

But if I don’t drink, why would I go to a bar/club? Especially all alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:15 AM
2

Well, if you never made any friends in school, then it looks like you’re likely shit out of luck then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:14 AM
3

Damn, you’re lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:10 AM
3

I don’t think a recession is enough, maybe if we go into a depression…?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:08 AM
2

I’m just trying to get past Step 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:26 PM
4

Personally, introversion is just the tip of the iceberg. Being autistic and dyspraxic certainly doesn’t help matters. And being a special needs student with a personal aide from 2nd grade onwards and through college prevented me from having any semblance of a social life because no one want to be friends with “that kid.” Even being a part of a number of clubs never helped. As for my day, you’ve sort of hit it. I’m not really that much of a nerd, I estimate commercial projects for a living. I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:50 PM
1

For some, you have to actually be in a league first.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 01:32 PM
3

It doesn’t really help that Bumble is an app where women HAVE to take the initiative. Meanwhile, I’ve seen a number of profiles on that app that say they won’t message first. Girl, you’re SUPPOSED to be the one that messages first, that’s how it was intentionally designed!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 01:31 PM
2

90%?! Well, fuck, guess I’ll never bother to get married then.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 01:16 PM
1

I’d say it’s equally as embarrassing. Playing the piano incompetently in front of a bunch of senior citizens is fine, because they don’t care; they’re generally just happy someone is playing for them. But doing so in front of your peers, especially when each of your peers is vastly superior, is another story.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:47 PM
1

Not easy to enjoy something you’re bad at, especially if you’re just inept at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:36 PM
1

And if he’s not competent…?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:30 PM
6

And how many have you asked?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:54 PM
5

You do and the same thing happens again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:51 PM
10

Because the rejections aren’t constant and endless, and that’s provided they even make the initiative in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:50 PM
15

After just one time, obviously no. But when you are continuously rejected without any “successes” in between, it gets very dejecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:06 PM
17

Because finding the girl you want to be with has no interest in you and thus it doesn’t work?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:40 PM
13

We don’t fall into bitterness because of just one rejection towards our “ultimate crush.” It’s a series of endless rejections with no “successes” in between that makes us fall into bitterness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:37 PM
4

But if you don’t have any of these things, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:36 PM
1

Geez…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:30 PM
1

You just said you were in a long-term relationship with someone else before your husband. That alone was an option. You said it sucked so you left said relationship. That was also an option, especially because you found someone else afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:29 PM
1

I never said that I knew more at all. What I’m saying is you had other opportunities before your husband. You had options and you were allowed to vet those options. For many of us, the one opportunity that we may have could be the ONLY opportunity. We don’t have options, thus we don’t really get to vet, because we’re then otherwise doomed to be forever alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:58 PM
1

But your were in other relationships beforehand, yes? The difference is that you had experience, while many of us, simply do not. So the few, if any, opportunities we have, we take. Because it’s either that or nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:52 PM
1

So, it took you until your 30s, but when did you actually start?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:51 PM
1

”You know how every once in a while you just click with someone?” Actually, no, I’ve never experienced that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:45 PM
2

r/oddlyspecific
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:43 PM
1

If 20 is considered “pretty old,” what does that make me at 31? Geriatric? 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:40 PM
0

Why are they the only ones that have to accept their generic fate and be forcibly locked into a lose-lose situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:29 PM
0

But why were they assholes in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:26 PM
1

I work in the construction industry, but I work in the office, not out in the field. We have 3 women in the company, all are in their 40s and married with kids. Actually, everyone in the company, both in the office (it’s only 5 people including myself) and out in the field, are married. Except for me, of course. Only 2 other people (35 and 37) and I (31) are not in their 40s or older.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:10 PM
4

Problem is the idea to sociopathically develop a thick skin is just that. An idea. When it actuality, each rejection makes you feel more and more dejected and bitter, your self-esteem and anxiety worsen, and the recovery time between said rejection and your next attempt at an approach lengthens.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 01:03 PM
5

That’s provided he CAN make friends at the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 12:58 PM
1

I don’t know, man. I wish people wouldn’t have that mindset. A lot of us with mental health disorders/disabilities are just trying to have some semblance of a normal life. We can feel, we can empathize, we can feel love. Too bad it’s difficult, if not, impossible to find some who reciprocates.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 12:51 PM
2

Me, never been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:14 AM
2

True, you’re not going to be compatible with everyone. It’s impossible to do so. But what if you can’t find anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:35 PM
14

Easy to say, but if your rejection rate is 100%, sooner or later, you’re going to take it personally. Each shot you take gets more and more difficult to initiate and the recovery time between rejection and the next initiation gets longer and longer. Rejection is a part of life, yes, but when you can’t get any “wins” sprinkled in between all those rejections, it gets more and more dejecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:33 PM
4

But if doesn’t have an existing social network, how can he build it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:31 PM
1

Nowadays, IRL, I’d say 0. Swiping on dating apps, maybe 5. I don’t right-swipe on everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:17 PM
2

You have to be able to do the exercises though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:59 PM
2

If you’re neurodiverse or are diagnosed with a mental health disorder/disability, don’t even bother to play the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:16 PM
2

Not applicable to some neurodiverse people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:12 PM
2

MGTOW view women as commodities and objects because MGTOWs are viewed by women as commodities and objects. It’s a two-way street but only one side actually acknowledges it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:09 PM
7

Except most of the cool asshole kids grow up to hold most/all of the power and wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:07 PM
1

You almost had it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:05 PM
1

Dyspraxia prevents me from doing most of the exercises, especially ones that require use of equipment, properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 07:19 PM
1

Not much of a gamer, but certainly not active either. Kinda hard to be when motor skills are terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:46 PM
1

Every 2 months?!?! May as well not even bother then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:24 PM
4

They’re having babies past 35, but do they have issues? My mother had me at nearly 40. I’m autistic and dyspraxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:55 PM
3

You can have a baby after 30, but once you get to 35, is when issues can arise, so there’s not THAT much of a window. Can’t really wait until your 40s (man or woman) to start having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:51 PM
1

Most men CAN NOT afford $300-500 an hour, especially if they have a whole bunch of other payments they need to pay off first (student loans, rent, car payments, utilities, food/groceries, etc.) And even more definitely so if they’re looking to have sex on a more regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:21 PM
3

It stretched on into college too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:49 PM
7

Also autistic (and dyspraxic). I tried putting myself out there for YEARS, joined a whole variety of clubs, had to take weekly social skills classes in lieu of actual academic classes, etc. But no one was willing to extend their hand in friendship. People would rather bully, beat up, sexually harass and even death threaten the special needs kid with the personal aide. They would rather group me with the two kids who were wheelchair-bound and seemingly incapable of any cognizant thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:10 PM
1

Not if they want a family of their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:18 PM
1

“Removal of social media” So get rid of the thing that allows many introverts and neurodiverse people the one avenue to communicate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:15 PM
1

“Men should normalize paying for sex if it’s only sex they want.” Isn’t that what prostitutes are for? Also, hard to normalize if it’s not cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:13 PM
0

“Be the best prize you can be” 0 times anything is still 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:11 PM
1

MORE pussy? How about we just start at 1 first?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:06 PM
12

You’d think that, but for a lot of us, we just get mocked, ridiculed and bullied, the more we put ourselves out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:51 PM
10

They only have those same opportunities if other people are willing to extend their hands in friendship. Which they usually don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:50 PM
13

What if you’re not fat but also lack muscle?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:46 PM
6

His character also had a very controlling girlfriend who supposedly cheated on him with a cruise bartender, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:08 PM
2

Any of these ideas may apply to the neurotypical, the “normal” people. But I don’t know how you improve the dating scene for the neurodiverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:01 PM
3

Rejection is a part of life, yes, but when you’re ALWAYS being rejected, it hurts. A lot. It’s incredibly dejecting, and the more it happens, the worse you’re going to feel and the longer each recovery takes. I have no buddies, so I have no one to impress anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:44 PM
1

Autistic introvert here, can confirm it holds me back.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:33 PM
3

And how’s that working out? If it is, I’m assuming you are what they call a “high-value male.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 02:32 PM
1

As someone who was once deemed “cute,” “the sweetest thing,” and “wish you were my little brother/replace my little brother with you,” by women who were the exact same age as me, boy, does it get grating after hearing it so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 02:15 PM
2

You get matches from bots?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 02:09 PM
1

Unless they’re the ones that have to pay child support themselves. Then, they’ll go on a tirade about how it favors women far too much and prevents newly single men from being able to live life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:46 PM
1

Watch, conservatives are going for that next.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:09 PM
0

Making the best out of a 0 is still 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:43 PM
1

Never made any friends, men or women. However, when I was in school, and when forced to work in groups for assignments or projects, I would always try to partner up with women. Not for any platonic/romantic reasons, but because they were easier to work and collaborate with; most of them would actually do work instead of goof off or do nothing like some of the boys would. Now you may ask, well, why didn’t you try to become friends/hang out with them? Simple, it was the student equivalent of a bus…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:36 PM
7

If I may sound superficial, personally, I find the face to be the most important, because unless your potential partner/SO is a nudist or is frequently in the buff, the face is what you actually see the most without anything covering it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:26 PM
1

I feel similar. I’m a bit of a “wears his emotions on his sleeves” type of person, wherever it’s positive or negative. Also, whichever mood that it might be will linger throughout much of the day unless something occurs that would radically shift from one to the other. That said, I’d say 85-90% of the time, my expression is very neutral. I wouldn’t say “resting bitch face,” more blank than anything. Even though I’m autistic, I’m not good at masking or acting out emotions, unless I genuinely feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:19 PM
1

It’s hard for me to think of because everyday things can be difficult itself. Just starting off with basic functions would be a nice start. Tying shoes not being an arduous process or not taking 90 minutes to change my sheets each week would be great. Heck, being able to walk straight would be great. My feet are pointed very outwards and trying to put them inwards and look normal causes an extreme amount of discomfort. So I have a bit of a penguin waddle when I walk. You know the sitting stretch…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:35 PM
1

No, I don’t. Eat, work, eat, work, eat, sleep is my usual weekday schedule and weekends are typically spent of doing chores around the house and sleeping longer to prepare for the whole work week all over again. It also doesn’t help that I’m autistic and have dyspraxia, so I can’t really do many things that neurotypical people normally do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:57 PM
1

Nothing, as there isn’t anything for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:20 PM
1

You must live in the Deep South, because that does not fly in the Northeast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:49 PM
1

And yet they still do better than unattractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:44 PM
6

”Start a conversation with an attractive girl just like you would a guy.” Uh, well…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:42 PM
4

More women are, yes, yet still not nearly enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:34 AM
19

And if they don’t, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:33 AM
1

No backup plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:48 PM
0

Not OP and not suicidal, but: What would you consider as beautiful music? No, never tasted strawberry cheesecake or mangoes? I actually don’t like the taste of fruit in general, unless they’re in a pie or they’re a sauce with high fructose corn syrup added. Never been to the Swiss alps. I have very little interest in traveling, and not to Europe. Can’t say that I ever spent a whole day doing whatever it is I wanted, as there’s always something in the way - work, groceries, chores, etc. I make my…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:45 PM
5

It is too late if you have no experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:39 PM
4

Not if you’ve always failed. Not if you’re at that age and have absolutely no experience whatsoever. It might already be too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:38 PM
1

But by the time you get your personal life sorted out, it may be too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 03:02 PM
1

I have no friends so I can’t answer that. As for family members, every male cousin on both my mother’s and father’s side got married in their mid-20s. Most of them are in their early to mid-40s now and all of them have multiple kids. None of them have divorced. My lone uncle on my father side never got married but he’s also been a player, even as he’s about to hit 65. Meanwhile, at 31 and as the lone single guy in my families’ generation, I am getting constantly teased for never having a girlfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:41 AM
2

You only have so much time to sort, especially if you’re looking to start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:35 AM
2

Those people who say to expand their social circles don’t understand that for some of us, other men are more uncomfortable to hand around with than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:33 AM
0

Even if it was made legal throughout the country, I also doubt it would be cheap. At least for a “quality” prostitute. Unless the market oversaturates…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:28 AM
1

I never had any friends and I never really thought about dating or sex until after college.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:26 AM
1

I mean I was lacking fulfillment beforehand, so it’s not like much changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:23 AM
7

The South Park version. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 08:14 PM
5

Because far too many people wish it was still the ‘90s. The internet, TV shows, pro wrestling, etc. It’s Monday, let’s all trade our Gen 1 Pokémon with our Game Boy link cables, talk about last night’s episode of Friends and Seinfeld, then go home to watch Stone Cold Steve Austin stun Vince McMahon for the 537th time while Sable and Jacqueline catfight about their “puppies” in the most revealing outfits (if you can even call it that), so we can blog about it on our Geocities page that just hit o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 02:25 PM
3

While there are, it’s nowhere near enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 01:13 PM
2

Cheating is ALWAYS wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:22 AM
0

So you’re saying you’re anti-rape but rapeplay can be fun…?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:05 AM
1

Still more than I’m making now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:02 AM
3

Damn. I’m still waiting on 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:00 AM
1

I’m like that when it comes to food. I just stick to basics and the same old, same old. For example, if we go to steakhouse or something like an Applebee’s, I get a full rack of ribs. Mostly because ribs are my favorite food, but for me, there’s not a ton of options for me. I’m extremely picky to the point where if I don’t like something, 50% of the time I’ll vomit the moment it touches my taste buds.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 03:58 AM
25

Now that would be nice… … you know, if women were the ones to take the initiative in asking someone out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 03:47 AM
3

Uh, no. No one is going to want a partner who is inept, no matter how much confidence one possesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:55 PM
8

Ah, but you see, I AM boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:49 PM
2

This is provided that you are neurotypical.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:21 PM
2

Being a doctor probably helped.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:33 PM
3

Exactly. If you’re never successful, how is one supposed to have confidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:31 PM
10

But if you have no abilities, how can you have confidence in them?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:29 PM
1

Not as easy as in your 20s, but still significantly easier than any man that is also in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 03:29 PM
2

Nope, never would happen. Besides, I’d be lucky to have. one person be genuinely interested to be in a relationship with me. Pretty sure my brain would explode if 2 or more were interested at the same time, let alone be willing to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:18 AM
1

Because being alone sucks. As for pay for sex/hookup, I want a woman to have sex with me because they’re genuinely interested in me, not my wallet. Besides, I only have so much disposable income anyway, and I’m trying to save for a house to call my own (too bad everything is too expensive, can the housing market crash already?)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:41 PM
1

I made numerous attempts to bars and clubs when I was in college. However, I don’t drink and I learned quickly that drunk people make me even more uncomfortable. Also, as a former autistic special needs student, I took social skills classes in lieu of academic classes at times over the years. All the practice in the world does not help for the real thing, especially when the person you’re trying to have a conversation with has no interest in doing so; even worse, when they’d rather belittle and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:36 PM
4

Agreed. The problem is that guys who are virgins hit a wall when it comes to dating/relationships very, very quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:32 PM
1

So what’s lower than a “beta?”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:27 PM
1

The number of straight, non-asexual women should at least be significantly more than the number of straight, non-asexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:25 PM
2

Work is not a good place for romantic/sexual opportunities. Classes? What if you’ve already graduated? Social circle and hobbies, well that all depends on your circle (if you have one) and the hobbies you have (if you have any). “You do realize for every women that married, a man is also getting married, right?” You are aware that lesbians and bisexual women who gravitate more towards women exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:22 PM
1

Personally, I find clubs and bars uncomfortable. Besides, even if I didn’t, going to one alone to find/meet women is kinda creepy, don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:17 PM
1

And yet, there are still far too many competitors. Also, if every attractive woman gets “taken,” what are you left with? It’s like if you’re a contestant on The Price Is Right. The person who wins the bid before you got a chance to win a brand new car. Then, if you somehow win the next bid, your prize is something nowhere near as good like an exercise bike.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:14 PM
1

Rejection is a part of life, true. But what if you’re always being rejected?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:09 PM
2

Wears chinos button downs/polos, slacks, semi-dressy shoes, grooms what hair is left, showers minimum 5 nights a week. Never been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:08 PM
1

Chads and attractive people might not always succeed. But they nonetheless still do succeed. When you’re below-average, rejection isn’t just a part of life. For some, it IS life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:03 PM
1

What if no opportunities arise though? What if you don’t go to bars or clubs?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:59 PM
2

To ask an autistic fellow to do that, you might as well tell a paraplegic to walk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:56 PM
1

If you’re a 6-8 though, then you’re above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:54 PM
1

I have to disagree with that. I tried that and I felt just as bad as I did using them, possibly worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:40 PM
2

Provided of course that you’re “normal.”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:39 PM
1

Ah, but I don’t have enough money or good enough job skills to live well off over there, so that itself is not an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:53 AM
1

If I somehow make it to 70, I’ll still be listening to Billy Joel.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:59 PM
1

Yeah, by the time you acquire them (if you even do), it’s already too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:58 PM
10

If you have 0 experience (not even sexual) after 25, you’re most likely fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:56 PM
1

You have to be attractive though to a potential partner first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:55 PM
1

Regardless of whether you get over that urge, you still need to be successful, have successes in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 08:25 PM
1

For some people, possibly. But not everyone. Some of us cannot be fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 08:16 PM
1

There’s more to it than just looks. Personality, skills, interests, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:43 PM
1

It sure does.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:31 PM
1

The equivalent of polishing a turd. It’s still nonetheless a turd.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:30 PM
1

I don’t insist on virgins. Just women who would be even remotely interested in me. However, there are none, because I’m low-value.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:29 PM
1

If I went to an all-male school, I’m positive I’d get bullied and get the shit beaten out of me more often than I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:20 PM
0

Us neurodiverse people would be even more screwed than we already are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:18 PM
4

So true on the biological clocks ticking. You don’t want to rush into things, but also can’t be too patient and wait it out either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:16 PM
2

I was born in 1990, but I was already socially awkward to begin with before the internet started to blow up. Never really had a chance. Also, the best of a 0 is still a 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:14 PM
2

It’s hard not to compare yourself with others if you haven’t experienced any success whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:12 PM
1

So essentially, extroverts ruined online dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:11 PM
5

If you manage to get any experience, that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:10 PM
1

For some, there aren’t any.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:01 PM
2

Have to have worth to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:00 PM
1

I don’t have the skills or the interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:25 PM
1

Well, obviously. But I wasn’t talking about abusive people. I meant people in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:16 PM
3

And yet, still better than a guy with an n count of 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 05:57 AM
3

You’d think that, but trust me, being all alone really sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 04:34 AM
1

Shape? Possibly. Money? The job market has to be more willing to hire autistic people and pay them an actual decent wage. The last one is an entirely different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 04:31 AM
1

Well, I haven’t. My shape is meh, my money is meh, and I’m autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 02:08 AM
6

A reality show will never use unattractive people, unless the concept of said show is supposed to revolve around unattractive people. Whether it’s Hell’s Kitchen, Survivor, American Idol or Temptation Island, it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:32 AM
2

As someone who is 31, I get way less attention that I ever did in my 20’s. I’m also a below-average man, so take that into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:07 AM
1

If one girl ditched you, that’s one thing. It’s another if you are constantly being ditched/ignored, there’s a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:05 AM
14

And this is why a lot of us men remain as stoic as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 11:50 PM
1

You almost have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 11:49 PM
2

Only if you can find other people genuinely interested in you to the point they want to have sex. For some of us, there is only 1 option, if there even is any.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 10:04 PM
2

And for a lot of us men, we don’t comfort because we didn’t receive comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:55 PM
1

Comfort, easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:54 PM
1

No one to share life with. No one to share in the joy, no one to console with or be consoled by when the day(s) gets rough. No one to embrace and feel comfortable in each other’s arms.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:24 AM
2

So when you have no backup, what do you do? Best-case scenario would be to settle, would it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:05 PM
1

If I’m complimenting, I’m always being sincere about it. Same thing when I apologize. I never say sorry unless I actually mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:04 PM
1

Nope. So sports doesn’t work and neither does trivia. And my terrible motor skills takes me out of the running to do a lot of things. So now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:37 PM
2

Better to have too many options than none at all. Also, what if you don’t have anything to appreciate?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:32 PM
1

That sucks, I’m sorry that you’re instantly vetted as an option because you’re in a wheelchair. At least you have those things. I’m autistic AND lack those qualities, so I’m double-whammied.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:30 PM
3

As someone who is 31, has never had friends and never been on a date, I can assure that you being alone absolutely sucks. You say that settling is a depressing disaster that is waiting to happen. Being lonely is far, far worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:25 PM
0

I don’t want to abstain. I’m just not putting my dick in crazy girl pussy. I want to have sex with someone who genuinely likes/cares about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:25 PM
1

They do? If so, not as many and not nearly enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:24 PM
1

Why wouldn’t we?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:18 PM
2

It’s more complex than that. It’s single, never-dated men vs. single, have-dated men vs. single women vs. coupled people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:17 PM
1

I don’t have one either. I’ve never even been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:13 PM
1

Not me. Everyone pays for their own meals, regardless of how much either person’s costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:10 PM
0

Not me, I stay away from that shit. I’d rather remain a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:08 PM
1

Sure, they care about other things too. But if you can’t get past Step 1, none of the other steps matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:06 PM
1

Research only gets you so far. You still need to be those things. Also, I’m autistic, which does not help matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:02 PM
1

The times I’ve done trivia have always been individual, never team or group.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:01 PM
1

But you just said it yourself: Looks are the ENTRY POINT. If you can’t even pass the entry point, does anything you have really matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:51 PM
1

Money-back guarantees on paid apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:48 PM
2

In order for that to happen, men need to receive compliments from women more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:46 PM
1

If I change up my arms/hands or legs, would that mean only changing how they look or would I be able to change how well they function? If it’s the latter, please change them. Can’t be any worse than what I have now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:44 PM
1

Either by having answers so far off, or answering so many questions wrong, you end up having negative points (and you’re the only one).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:41 PM
1

As a “below average” man, yes, an “average” woman would be worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:37 PM
1

Because as someone who has never had any friends or ever been on a date, being absolutely alone SUCKS.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:34 PM
1

Exactly on the first part. Trivia isn’t great either, I actually have embarrassed myself trying to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:32 PM
1

Okay, but what if you have no social circle? What if you’re not confident or charming and lack a sense of humor?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:28 PM
1

Part me of wishes it was just 5%. Because if more and more people are finding relationships on apps, yet I can’t even get any likes or matches, it just feels even more deflating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:24 PM
1

You get matches on Tinder?!?! Or any other dating app?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:21 PM
2

One of my cards is an Uno card and another is a half-eaten cracker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:21 PM
1

It’s not that I’m neither athletic nor competitive, I lack motor skills and will often literally trip over my own damn feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:19 PM
2

For some of us, even when trying, the odds are still at 0.00%
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:03 PM
1

There is no way someone such as myself is “on the cusp.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:01 PM
4

I don’t have any hobbies, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:59 PM
2

Is she an actual idol? I don’t mean a member of the flavor of the week idol group, I mean a REAL idol group. Or is she just a Japanese pornstar?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:25 PM
2

Which is just weird and dumb. What kind of men do you expect to be living in a tech city in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:19 PM
2

If you can find it, pass some over to me. Preferably not in pill form though, as I tend to gag and vomit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:16 PM
2

And IF they’re developmentally challenged?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:15 PM
3

Yup. I’ve got the triple whammy going on. Autistic, bullied very often, and not very trusting of other people (as I’ve been taken advantage of before). And you expect people like myself to just “get out there” and “be extroverted?” Come on now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:13 PM
1

HOURS? Most I’ll watch is an hour, and even then, I’m watching hentai. Then again, if I had a partner, and had a decent amount of sexual access, I wouldn’t be watching.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:09 PM
2

Welcome to the club.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:02 PM
1

Nope. Only country traveled outside of US was Canada. English is bad enough, let alone other languages. Don’t even drink alcohol. Motor skills too poor to play instruments.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:57 PM
7

I think that’s just hentai, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:53 PM
7

Having no friends certainly doesn’t help.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:15 PM
5

Exactly. There is a biological time limit. I can’t wait another 20 years to get started, unless I’m going to somehow marry/fuck someone 20-25 years my junior (and if I can’t get anyone in my own range now, I highly doubt I’d be able to get someone that young. Plus, it comes off as sort of creepy anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:06 PM
12

I don’t care about traditions and all that, just so long as said hypothetical woman genuinely loves me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:04 PM
14

I get that this is an analogy but if that safe, boring job pays very well and has great benefits, then yes, I would give up at early 20s. I don’t want to explore all that much, I don’t have the leadership to start a business nor the skills to try a music career. I don’t have a “real shot.” For some of us, trying IS so wrong, it is very wrong. Trying and failing constantly is incredibly dejecting and only leads to bitterness and resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:59 PM
3

If I’m looking to start a family, I can’t wait until 50. Not every woman can be like Halle Berry and have kids in their mid-40s (also potentially not good for the kid either).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:50 PM
4

They are what help get your foot in the door, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:37 PM
2

And some aren’t still getting jobs no matter how much they apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 04:48 AM
4

Yes. But from what I’ve seen even in IRL conversations, people still like to share their successes. A high-paying job, an award they earned, a prize from a contest, a new house they bought, etc. When you don’t really have anything to share yourself, you just become that person who smiles awkwardly and nods every so often.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:16 PM
5

I don’t care about height. DD titties size are not necessary, especially if they’re short. And as long as her n count isn’t ridiculously high and she’s free of any diseases, I could care less about whether or not she’s a virgin. Hell, I’m 31, I honestly do not expect any woman in my age range (27-33) to be a virgin at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:10 PM
1

As someone who has never had friends nor ever been on a date, I’d take the mediocre partner. Still better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:01 PM
5

That’s partially why I don’t even bother with a lot of social media. People will always post their successes, but what happens when you don’t have any yourself? When you don’t get things right? When you don’t even get a bite on the hook, let alone catch a fish?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:57 PM
3

Still better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:53 PM
2

Pretty much, yup. When you’re autistic, you may as well remove yourself from the metaphorical game.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:50 PM
1

I’m a millennial and I have issues with approaching women. So now you know at least 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:45 PM
1

You can only be rejected so many times before it begins to feel really dejecting, especially if you ONLY get rejections.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:40 PM
0

Well, I do have poor social skills IRL. Just not good at initiating or maintaining a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:38 PM
1

Agreed. I really wish there was a shortcut, I certainly could use one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:10 PM
3

The way I meet women is the same way I meet men. So… none at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:08 PM
1

I’m 31 and never have dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:06 PM
2

“Just move on to the next” Yeah, but at some point, that’s just not going to work. You can’t just keep moving on to the next if you can’t even get a bite.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:04 PM
5

But curb appeal is what gets you looking in the first place. Just like with looks for a person. If there’s no initial physical attraction, things like personality don’t matter. That only comes afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:53 PM
2

Looks > Sex Drive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:48 PM
1

Not everyone can learn another language. I have difficulty maintaining English. Tried both French and Spanish and was terrible at it. You’re going to carry around a translator device all day, every day you’re out?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:26 PM
2

Here’s a question for you: Have you already had sex in your 20s and when women were in their 20s? If so, congratulations, you got laid when both of you were in your physical primes. Betas are settled for, they get married after the women have already had their fills and are past their primes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:24 PM
2

Not enough English-as-the-main-language-speaking countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:18 PM
7

Attractive. Hell, you could argue I’m financially stable right now. Granted, I can’t buy a house at the moment, because everything in the Northeast is way too goddamn expensive. But I have no student or car loans, I’ve maxed my Roth IRA for the last 4 years, and I’ve also “invested” in several rookie refractor cards (both current and upcoming).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:17 PM
1

When you have no support or network to speak of, being all alone ain’t all that great.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:40 PM
4

Forever Alone
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:39 PM
68

As a shy, awkward man, I would actually like it if more women did the approaching. I do not view them as “easier” and find that notion ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:16 PM
3

And one of the cards is actually a half-eaten cracker.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:54 AM
3

So, he was expecting to you do a ton of work but wasn’t willing to do anything in return? Yeah, I can see why that would be mediocre. Even though I’ve never had sex, I still know that it takes “two to tango.” Sex, from both a physical and emotional standpoint, needs both partners willing to act upon each other, in order to truly feel good. If one is not willing to perform certain actions, they should still have to make up for it with something else that can make their partner feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:22 PM
1

I am autistic and have dyspraxia, so… yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:55 PM
2

What exactly about the sex makes it mediocre? Too vanilla? Not doing certain actions? Not fast or hard enough? Unwilling to do certain kinks or wants to do kinks that you’re not comfortable with? No emotion or emotional reciprocation behind it? I think it still beats having no one sexually or romantically interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:54 PM
3

You can’t really train if you lack the functionality to perform. Can you really expect someone who has difficulty just walking straight with their feet inwards or tying their shoelaces to be able to do trade work?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:51 PM
1

That’s a untrue generalization of autistic people. You also don’t have to be autistic to have those double standards and be blatantly sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:49 PM
2

It is. There’s nothing can be done, unless my brain is fully rewired and both my arms and legs are replaced by cybernetic ones. Unfortunately, medical science hasn’t advanced that far.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:47 PM
3

Still better than no sex whatsoever (unless you’re ace, of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:43 PM
5

If you can even have a relationship in the first place…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:42 PM
2

You know, just because someone is autistic doesn’t mean they’re filled to the brim with degenerative thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:41 PM
1

My motor skills are terrible, so unfortunately, I could never be a tradie, even if I wanted to be. I can grow a beard, I just don’t look good with one. Hence why I shave mine. Soft and full of estrogen? I am to the first one, possibly on the second. I do drink a lot of milk after all. At least my cock is ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:39 PM
7

And many men got a hand made up of cards that aren’t even standard playing cards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:34 PM
2

Yeah, I have, both mental and physical, but it didn’t work out for me. While I do believe everyone should give therapy a shot, it’s not a guarantee that it’ll work out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:38 PM
2

In terms of looks, I’m ok. Not handsome, but not ugly either. I’m autistic, have terrible motor skills, no friends, no hobbies, incredibly picky eater, and am just boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:33 PM
4

If I was a prize, I would have already been taken by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 02:28 PM
1

I would never PUA, am not nor will ever be smooth enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:27 PM
1

And if you’re NOT doing ok on your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:55 AM
3

Well, I work an 8-5 job that leaves me exhausted at the end of the day. And my motor skills are garbage, so no, I am unable to “get shredded.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:52 AM
6

All sorts of magic can still happen? First, we’d have to find someone genuinely interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:49 AM
7

And as someone who is 31 and not only a virgin but never dated, you are absolutely correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:47 AM
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Yeah about that… I lack that. A lot of jokes and sarcastic quips fly over my head to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:54 AM
1

True, unfortunately. I’m in the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:09 PM
1

As a shy guy, I can say that “men getting better with age” is not necessarily true. In fact, if anything, at 31, I’d say I’ve been worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:07 PM
3

Balding, high-pitched voice, lacks athleticism. I’ve been triple-whammied.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:57 PM
1

Public or private? And if public, were you in-state or out-of-state?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:17 PM
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Why is it that he has to be “gross” attitude-wise for him to not be able to find someone who is willing to fuck him? What if he really is ugly, even if he puts in an effort to look as best as possible? What if he’s disabled, physically and/or mentally? What if his social skills are absolutely terrible? What if he’s a doormat? What if he’s truly alone with no support, no network whatsoever? Now I would never pay for a sex worker myself, because personally I want the emotional aspects that come wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:57 PM
5

Then why do it in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:41 PM
1

High-value men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:39 PM
11

If the titties take up so much of your torso that you can’t even see anything but it, I’d say that’s too much titty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:50 PM
6

I’m also turned off by Instagram/Snapchat accounts on OLD profiles, especially if that’s the ONLY thing that’s there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:45 PM
1

And super-low n guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:43 PM
8

At 20, I don’t think that’s unrealistic. Now if you’re 31 and a virgin like I am, expecting a virgin/inexperienced woman is a much different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:35 PM
21

I’m a man and I do not want a goth gf. Also, I believe there’s such a thing as too much titty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:33 PM
20

Not just for not being Chad, but being UNABLE to be a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:29 PM
2

Graduating high school is the academic equivalent of getting a participation trophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:28 PM
0

Maybe if you’re a “normal” woman, meeting someone on a dating all is easy to do in 1 month. Not if you’re an autistic, very below-average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 06:07 AM
1

Don’t really have any activities. As for school subjects, there really wasn’t any subjects that I particularly enjoyed. I just did the work and tried to get the best grades possible; I suppose you could say history was my best subject, but I can’t say I enjoyed, more like retained the information long enough to do well on tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:52 AM
0

Geez. Hope you’re still devoid of anything nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:40 AM
1

You can say the same thing with the genders reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:03 PM
1

Betas nowadays don’t get shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:43 PM
2

Depends on their age. I’m 31, so if I was dating (LOL), I’d say anything higher than 10 might be too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:41 PM
0

2 or 3 every year?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:37 PM
1

Why does it have to be the guy who approaches?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:35 PM
1

What strengths?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:41 AM
1

Unfortunately, I don’t really have that either. Besides lacking social skills, my motor skills are also awful. So I’m not very useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 05:14 AM
4

Because being alone sucks. To always be the target of being mocked and taken advantage of. To always have what you say to be never taken seriously by your fellow peers, even when you’re right or if it’s important. To be disregarded by new people just by them seeing you walk or opening up your voice. It just sucks. I will never make six figures. I will never have a true established earning. No network, personally or professionally. No recognition or utility. Every day is a battle just to ensure I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:44 AM
2

That someone such as myself will never have a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:58 AM
2

Autistic doormat here, can agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:36 AM
4

It’s not wrong to wish it. But it certainly is foolish.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:35 AM
8

At least you even managed to get that…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:31 AM
5

Why do you have to go to other countries? Why can’t it be those in my own country?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:29 AM
14

I can’t say when it comes to intelligence, but… I don’t drink at all I stay out of fights (provided that I’m not getting the shit beat out of me) Friendly personality? I guess…? No criminal history I’ve never been on a date in my life. I’m also autistic, so might as well throw that wrench in there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:27 AM
3

I’m nowhere close and never will be. I will especially, as an autistic fellow, never be a great communicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:22 AM
1

This is why I watch amateur porn rather than professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 03:28 PM
1

”Not every man is dateless because he’s some kind of undesirable freak” I beg to differ on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:19 PM
2

Can we learn if the answer is everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:12 PM
2

I can’t even take OLD as a learning experience though. Not able to land likes or matches. I have no idea what works, just what doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:10 PM
6

I appreciate the sentiment. I am from the United States, yes. I don’t think it’s exclusive, you just hear about it more coming from our country, especially when it comes to those who want to take “revenge.” Actually, the bullying for me started as early as the 2nd grade, intensed around 8th (sexual harassment and on a couple of occasions, death threats) but then just completely stopped around 11th grade. I’m assuming it stopped because they probably didn’t want their acts to harm their records a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:38 PM
8

Well, personally, I don’t look at the breasts but I will admit that keeping eye contact can be troubling. I try to make a decent amount of eye contact, as I feel too little would make it look like I’m uninterested, even in times when I’m actually engaged in the conversation. However, I also fear of making too much eye contact; making the person uncomfortable because I’m staring right at them. Maintaining a balance can be tricky. I admit, when I was much younger, I tended to prattle on when it ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:31 PM
13

As someone who went to therapy growing up to better myself in social situations, it can help… but only to an extent. The issue is finding people who are willing to associate themselves with you. You may be willing to extend your hand out in friendship, but are they willing to reciprocate? Despite all the practicing that I did, my peers would rather belittle, mock or beat me up instead. They’d find it funny that I difficulty tying my shoes or completing something in art class. They got angry that…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:00 PM
11

Being the richest man in the world helps a bit, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:52 PM
7

Even though I’m autistic and do play video games, I do agree that it’s a silly stereotype. I also hate the stereotype that us autistic people are either unbelievably gifted savants or are the r-word and are incapable of independent thought or lacking emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:51 PM
6

As someone who has disclosed their autism on their dating profiles, I can confirm that I’m likely being swiped left. I’ve also tried the Hiki app, but I don’t think it’s any good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:48 PM
6

As an autistic man myself, I’m curious, what is it exactly about autistic men do you find off-putting?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:44 PM
29

Confidence and personality are just boosters to one’s attractiveness. You still need the looks, that initial attraction, to get anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:18 PM
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Maybe they shut out reality to play video games all day BECAUSE they’ve been shunned too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:30 PM
1

How can you know his orgasm giving ability though if he’s never had sex? Also, does dick size go by when he’s at full mast or flaccid? Some of us fellas are growers and not showers after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:16 PM
2

For some of us, OLD might be the only option, as IRL approaches either don’t work or are very limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:15 PM
2

Well not just being keen, but video chatting would definitely reduce catfishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:13 PM
1

Yeah, the AVERAGE. Women aren’t looking for average. Hence, 6 feet and up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:27 PM
3

I just listen to Rapper’s Delight by Sugarhill Gang. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 05:37 AM
1

I don’t consider myself all that masculine, so I don’t really fear losing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 01:26 AM
1

Disagree on the first part, but do agree on the latter. Zeroes are forever stuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:37 PM
2

What about a man who also has a 0 n count, but because he hasn’t been with any women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:33 PM
3

I admit, I’m a venter. Don’t really have an endgame here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:26 PM
3

The best version of a 0 is still a 0. Just being yourself isn’t sound advice, regardless of whether you want a LTR or casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:21 PM
0

I don’t think it’s negative views. It’s that they don’t want to be the backup’s backup’s backup’s backup’s backup’s backup’s backup, while said woman can have a relationship/date/fuck whomever, whenever and wherever with ease.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:02 PM
2

Yeah, I’m also one of those people who feels guilty for making someone feel bad, even if it was blunt yet inadvertent. For example, let’s say we were hypothetically shopping for clothes together. You picked out something and ask if you think it looks ugly upon trying it on. If I honestly think it did, I would have told you yes. I’m a terrible liar and I feel crappy even if I were to get away with said lie rather than telling you how I honestly felt. But I’d also immediately apologize profusely a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:26 AM
2

A combination of Asperger’s, anxiety, terrible motor skills, picky eating (to the point where I may vomit upon immediate taste if I don’t like it) and being just plain boring as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:13 AM
3

I don’t ignore it. If it’s “no” (and it always is), I turn around and walk away. Possibly crying too if I was laughed and mocked at in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:08 AM
26

31, male and also a virgin. I feel ya about possible intimidation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:23 PM
1

It’s Brock.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 03:43 PM
4

“Not extremely drunk” is not good enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 10:52 PM
3

As a man, I don’t go to bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 10:42 PM
10

Absolutely, to the point where I’ve never had one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 08:27 PM
3

Rapeplay is a kink that does exist and I do not understand as to why people may find that appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 08:26 PM
12

I certainly didn’t nor do I do now. But I’m also neurodivergent to an extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:41 PM
9

Imagine if the roles were reversed and men were the ones who decided what women had sex or not We’d have a bigger femcel rate than we have incels now!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:20 PM
39

Exactly. Maybe if more women actually did the approaching, this wouldn’t be such an issue. This is especially true for Bumble users, the whole point of the app is for women to message and engage FIRST!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:18 PM
25

Nope. Not fucking unless she’s sober, consenting and genuinely loves/cares about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 05:54 PM
1

Yup, that’s why I’m saving as much as I can now. In addition, I max in my Roth IRA each year and “invest” in rookie/prospect refractor cards.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:32 PM
2

I wouldn’t even need to say anything. Me vomiting would have already said all that needs to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:26 PM
0

A reform on relationships? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:25 PM
2

It’s hard to know what love really feels like when you can’t get even past Step 1: Finding someone you’re genuinely interested in who reciprocates that. So while I can say I have felt admiration, attraction and infatuation, I can’t really say whether or not I’ve felt love.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:12 PM
1

Hey, you’re not the only one. I find a warm, soothing voice to be attractive myself. The hypothetical idea of listening to a very pleasant voice, whether engaging in conversation or hearing her comfort me in times of distress/anxiety or sadness, I think is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 02:15 PM
0

My issues go far beyond just looks, which… aren’t great. Not horrific, but not great. A 4, maybe? I have no interest in BDSM, swinging or really anything kinky. I’m vanilla as you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:42 PM
-2

I’d say both. Limitations, especially. You’re not kidding when it comes to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:19 PM
-2

If unattractive people fuck like rabbits, I’d have already lost my virginity by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:13 PM
3

Aerial coitus? You want if fuck while skydiving or something? Zero-gravity sex? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:00 PM
8

The world IS competitive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:59 PM
3

Well, I’m out then. My voice is so high-pitched and screechy, I often get called “ma’am” on the phone, even when I just said my name 5 seconds ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:43 PM
1

I can definitely attest to this, sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:52 AM
1

Somewhere around 3-5 times a week. How long the session lasts varies though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:43 AM
3

If you are a below-average man and/or have mental health disorders/disabilities, don’t even bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:21 AM
1

Uh… come again with that last sentence?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:17 AM
1

You and me both, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 05:16 AM
1

1950s gym/wood shop? Oh god, I’d fail those classes so hard. I’d have to try using my IEP to get out of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:01 PM
3

Yup, I would fall under guy #2 at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:59 PM
3

I would never have sex with a girl that I wasn’t/didn’t date. I want the emotional aspects that come with sex, not just the physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 07:43 PM
2

Lots of people ARE that dumb though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:58 PM
9

Neo-feminists are guaranteed to have a meltdown. True feminists actually believe in equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:55 PM
0

I get the double whammy, single for life and not even good enough for casual flings.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:41 AM
1

I don’t really care about “traditional” or not, I just care about said hypothetical woman genuinely loving me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:42 PM
4

Fucked up, ain’t it? Was bullied mercilessly as a special needs kid and I’m still trying to play catch-up in the metaphorical marathon of life at 31.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:43 AM
1

As a gay guy, I don’t really mind straight guys as long as they don’t get mad if I make a move on them. Which is exactly why I wouldn’t go to a gay club. Though I doubt I’d be of any interest anyway. Also, I avoid clubs altogether since college. And I don’t drink either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:37 AM
–

I’ve used OkCupid, Bumble, Hinge, Hiki and even Tinder. All of them have been terrible for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:33 AM
1

A better version of 0 is still 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:24 AM
2

What if you have no friends? What if you don’t have the motor skills to participate in various activities? What if you’re too picky eating/drinking to the point where you vomit upon immediate taste?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:23 AM
1

Except that’s not even enough. Not even close. That just means you can walk outside and interact.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:22 AM
2

I wish more women like you would.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:11 AM
1

I’m not even a beta though. Besides, I’d inadvertently Pat Tillman several people than be of any actual use in combat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:03 PM
1

Except they’re not actually human, they’re robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:53 PM
1

He said threesome. That could infer that he wouldn’t fuck them one-on-one, but would be ok with engaging with both of them at the same time. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:33 PM
1

You have to go all the way with sex bots. You need to make them as humanlike as possible, complete with artificial wombs. Anything less will not be good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:29 PM
1

You’re not sending out sub men in a war if you’re looking for your side to win. If/when WWIII happens, if we hypothetically brought back the draft, I’d be 4-F’d immediately. I’d be a liability to the armed forces.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:27 PM
3

It all depends on the age and the seriousness of each count. Was it a one-night thing, a few times, a regular thing? So, let’s say, the person in question is 30 years old. If you take the assumed loss of virginity was at 18, that’s 12 years for that someone to have had sexual relationships with. I think 2 times or more within that timeframe is much; so, in this case, 24 or more would be considered promiscuous. If the person in question is 40, than an n count of 44 or higher would be too much. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:23 PM
1

All depends on the breakup. Was it amicable? Did we both just stop feeling the spark between us and feel having a relationship beyond friendship is too much? If yes to these, then I think it’s ok. It would likely be awkward for some time, but I can’t see why you couldn’t have a bomb-as friendship with an ex, so long as the breakup wasn’t messy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:23 PM
4

You’d be surprised how many guys would be happy with such a mandate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:12 AM
3

They still want YOU to pay for the whole dinner though…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:10 AM
2

Most people aren’t making that much a year. In a lot of places, you’d be lucky if you made even half that amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:10 AM
2

What’s more, there’s no emotional connection when having sex with a whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:08 AM
6

Not everyone can self-improve, even when putting in the effort. Some of us are far too limited to be able to do so. Social media didn’t ruin anyone under 25, it only exacerbated it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:03 AM
1

Not sure. They could be aware that for them, this is their only option. If I somehow ended up on the show, I would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:21 PM
3

The combination of being autistic, a very picky eater (to the point where I may vomit if I don’t like it immediately once it touches my mouth) and poor motor skills makes my options very limited in terms of doing activities and going places. If we were hypothetically dating, for example, you couldn’t take me to a bar or a coffee shop, because there’s nothing for me to drink, unless you find the idea of seeing me vomit on the floor in disgust appealing. If you like to hike, I hope it’s a simple r…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:19 PM
4

I find it more sad and depressing than anything. Makes me feel like it will be the route I’ll have to take one day, only to be taken advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:03 PM
1

Honestly, I’m more attracted to a woman’s face and voice more than anything else. I say the face, because you can actually see it in full view. Unless you go to bed with her, you don’t see the true rest of her body; you can certainly imagine it, yes, but the reality could be worse (or better, it depends on her and your imagination). As for the voice, I don’t mean when she’s talking sexually/dirty. I mean just talking in normal fashion. The pleasantness to one’s voice, I believe, can add attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:01 PM
5

I don’t think I’m basic. I’m just straight up boring. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:44 PM
2

Ridiculous that you got an earful. Imagine if you didn’t reject the sex. You would have gotten much worse than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:18 PM
3

Subsides with age? I’m 31, and if anything, it’s either stayed the same or increased from my 20s. Then again, I’m autistic. I’ve also never dated, let alone had sex, so I’m probably an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:01 PM
1

I have to be a boyfriend first…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 01:56 PM
1

I feel both.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 04:03 PM
1

I don’t care about tradition, I just care if she genuinely loves me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 03:55 PM
2

Asperger’s Syndrome and dyspraxia.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 02:07 PM
15

I’m 31 and not interested in any woman younger than 26, too much of an age gap for me. I have no interest in casual sex or pump-and-dumping. As for wanting a relationship with a woman who is more attractive than me, beauty can be subjective. My personal issue is that I have mental and physical health issues that cannot be fixed. It is because of these issues that I am not of any interest to anyone, be it for friendships or relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:20 PM
1

Height. Also motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:19 PM
1

I took social skills classes throughout K-12 that would eat up some of my academic time, as I was a special needs student. All that training and practice doesn’t help. When the person you’re are trying to interact with knows you’re autistic, or sees you walk like a damn penguin, rocking back and forth, you will immediately be cast aside. Because no one really wants to be friends/date one, you’re lucky if you even get pitied.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:17 PM
2

I did occupational therapy in school, which would eat up some of my academic time. Didn’t really help. Also tried church league basketball. That was… shall we say, not great…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 06:46 PM
2

No odds for people with mental health disabilities/disorders.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:54 PM
1

Do YouTubers count as celebrities to some degree? Because I think Emirichu is really cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:53 PM
2

But even criminals can get relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:43 PM
6

That may be, but you still need to get that first attraction. And how do you do that? By looking good. So yes, it is still the most important thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:22 PM
3

Ah, but he was hot, you say. That makes a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:19 PM
6

As an autistic man, I need every dollar I can earn in order to survive. Besides, I can’t do a lot of “fun” and/or “exciting” things anyway due to terrible motor skills; those that I could do, I shy away from anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:18 PM
6

I already know my SMV, it just happens to be in the negatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:15 PM
2

Maybe if you’re “normal.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:13 PM
3

Underground level men get nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:12 PM
2

Unfortunately, never me at these parties (if I’m even invited to begin with).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:11 PM
2

Dream for the moon? I’m just trying to get off the ground, but I’m weighed down by unremovable iron boots.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:10 PM
3

And yet, some of us are uninteractable NPC’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:08 PM
4

Some of us don’t even get options.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:07 PM
2

But I’m weird and not chill. And that’s if I even wanted to bang an escort (which I don’t).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:06 PM
44

Well… at least you have a farm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:05 PM
14

Which is the problem with a number of women. In this day and age, where we’re all trying to compete in order to survive, “excitement” and novelty should be the last thing anyone should be worried about in a relationship, unless you’re already rich as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:03 PM
4

So, 1 or 2 then? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:01 PM
3

As a man, I think NNN is dumb. If I feel like fapping, then I fap. Sometimes, it’s consecutive days, sometimes it’s not. But I don’t do any more than once on that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:22 PM
0

Male prostitution? Yeah, maybe gay males, not straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:46 PM
1

I’m autistic, so I’m incredibly socially awkward, and have some money. I’m still not paying for it. If I’m having sex with a woman, it’s because she’s genuinely interested in me, not my wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:44 PM
2

Well, I’m never going to since I have too many unfixable red flags so I guess I won’t have to worry. Besides, if I was that worried about just having sex, then I’d have already done it with an escort by now. If I’m going to have sex with someone, it’s with someone who is genuinely interested in me, not because of my wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:23 PM
1

Nope. Never had sex, never even been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:27 PM
5

I want both. I want the sex to have meaning. Love, care, trust, genuine compassion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:23 PM
5

Because I want the emotional aspects associated with sex, not just the physical. Might as well pay for a prostitute then.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:11 PM
4

No, VR would not be enough to satisfy. If you’re going to make a sex bot, you have to go all the way to the point where it can pass off as human. Anything less isn’t good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:07 PM
6

Exactly. Either that, or we start developing sex bots that cater perfectly to the individual, complete with artificial wombs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:01 PM
1

It’s so few and far between though, sadly. That’s why shows like Love On The Spectrum exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 05:34 PM
1

I used to be a substitute teacher. It’s fine… some are unruly and in need of discipline, yes, but some can be the most darling angels.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:11 PM
-1

I’m a man and I would like to have children (biological) one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:06 PM
-2

Unless dolls/robots can start producing children, it won’t be good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:57 PM
1

Everyone stays “in their lane” So people with disabilities/disorders get screwed even more?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:54 PM
4

Good luck trying to turn said ugly, fat girls into smoking hot beauties. As an autistic person, I actually avoid the stock market, outside of the Roth IRA (admittedly, I did do AMC and made a few bucks). Instead, I’m going with a much better way to make money for the future: Rookie refractor cards.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:53 PM
2

You have me on the war with China. Of course, I wouldn’t have to worry about entering said war. If they brought back the draft, I’d be 4-F’d immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:49 PM
1

Yeah, try telling that to someone who is disabled/has a disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:44 PM
2

I’m convinced that Billie Eilish isn’t an actual person, but an advanced AI created by boomers who tried to come up with a new standard of what emo people are supposed to be nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:42 PM
6

The future is that the rate of this will be happening exponentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:15 PM
2

Sad that this is a more likely scenario to happen than people with permanent disabilities/disorders being able to have and maintain a livable lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:13 PM
2

I don’t even know what it’s like to be friend-zoned. I got something worse though, “little brother”-zoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 02:08 PM
2

As a FA guy myself, me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:14 AM
1

Lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:14 AM
1

Well, my motor skills are shoddy and I don’t drink alcohol. So this strategy doesn’t work for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:10 AM
1

What if no one is eyeing you or they are but not in a good way?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:07 AM
1

You’re a lucky fellow then.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:06 AM
1

Well, there’s my problem from the beginning. I don’t go to bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:05 AM
1

”These folks need to pay the bills too” That’s what jobs are for. The same can be said towards Twitch streamers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:04 AM
1

I’ve never had my heart break when it comes to relationships because I’ve never been on a date. However, when it comes to supposed friendships, that’s another story. I’ve been betrayed and taken advantage of so many times by people who I initially thought were my friends. But they were never my friends… they just saw a special needs student who was an easy target…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 12:57 AM
1

Why not just watch amateur porn then or hentai?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 12:51 AM
0

No deformities but definitely not even average. Autistic, terrible motor skills, very picky eater (to the point where I may vomit if it doesn’t take good) and otherwise just plain boring. Only way for me to be “better” would be a complete rewiring of my brain but medical science hasn’t advanced that far yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 02:46 PM
2

Just being genuinely loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 02:20 PM
3

A “better” version of 0 is still 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 02:14 PM
2

Well I never got to experience this “experimental phase” because I never dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 05:33 PM
1

At least you can keep a conversation going. I have trouble with that AND I’m boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:47 PM
2

If you met me in real life, you’d find me boring. Hell, you might wonder how the hell I’m still living.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:44 PM
2

I do it for the money because it’s the only way for me, as an autistic guy, to survive. I don’t want to end up homeless, because I know if I do, it’s going to be a hole I’ll never be able to climb out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:41 PM
1

While I’m aware of the show’s existence, I don’t have Netflix.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:16 PM
0

No, I have never been inside a sex shop. Why would I? As for porn, I used to just watch either solo female shit or hentai.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:38 PM
1

OnlyFans is porn you have to PAY for though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:29 PM
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I’d say the amount of “traditional” women are far greater than the amount of 6-foot men with abs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:14 PM
1

And some of us have issues that can’t actually be fixed, like mental or physical health disorders.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:49 PM
3

The best version of 0 is still 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:45 PM
1

Unless you work towards those goals and no results or improvement is shown. Then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:41 PM
6

”Everybody is somebody’s everything” So where’s the women who genuinely enjoy autistic guys with terrible motor skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:30 PM
2

How many people are flying to dictatorial Turkey, let alone just to get a cheap hair transplant?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:28 PM
1

Being a woman over 30 isn’t as bad as being a virgin, no-date man over 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:55 PM
0

I’d love to be considered as “boyfriend material.” A lot better than being “little brother material.” Imagine women actually saying to you, “you’re so sweet, I wish you were my little brother” or “thanks so much for helping me out, I wish I could replace my little brother with you,” despite the fact that we’re the same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:25 PM
1

Exactly. Just one success can change a person’s entire mindset, even if they don’t realize it themselves. But when you’re continuously rejected, whether it’s dating, employment, etc., you’re going to feel very dejected. Doubly so if you keep putting in effort and have no results to show. Rejection is fine, it’s normal, it’s a part of everyday life. But we all need at least little sprinkles of success in between. Too bad some of us don’t even get that…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:43 PM
1

I know what my flaws are. Problem is I can’t fix my flaws without a compete rewiring of my brain; sadly, medical science hasn’t advanced that far yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:07 PM
1

Both…?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:29 AM
8

Or just end up with nothing. cough cough ME cough cough
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:27 AM
2

”honest people have no chance” Guess I’m screwed then. I’m a terrible liar and am not manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:47 AM
1

31M, I’ve already failed dating and making friends multiple times. I’m stuck in metaphorical grade school.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:42 AM
1

I think the issue is the reasoning behind being touched. If your paying for a manicure, massage or professional cuddler, that’s the reasoning for being touched. I want a hug from someone who genuinely loves and cares about me, not because I paid insert amount here to get one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:37 AM
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Are you out of your mind?! Bullying toughens peoples up? It certainly doesn’t. As someone who actually did try to stand up for themselves, it didn’t work. I may rid myself of one bully, but it only resulted jn more bullies coming in and the bullying itself to be even worse. What was once teasing and mocking is replaced by group beatdowns, sexual harassment and death threats. Post 9/11, my peers were actually being less disciplined than ever before, if they even received discipline at all. What w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:04 PM
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Oh yeah, great idea, let’s exclude the neurodivergent even further away than they already are. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:33 PM
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I have low self-esteem but I also don’t put women on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:30 PM
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Without more rigorous discipline, no. Bullies need to be punished much harsher but god forbid the education system to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 05:26 PM
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I’d say the making friends is probably harder to deal with. It’s one thing to be simply rejected and ignored. Everyone goes through that, it’s life. It’s another to be mocked, bullied and taken advantage of due to circumstances that are beyond my control (for me, being a special needs student with a personal aide).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 05:23 PM
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