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throwaway3456783453/r/seduction13/05/17 12:38 AM
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Look, I'm not your therapist, and I don't know you. All I can say is that therapy works, and that it's really hard work, but worth it. Talking to people is hard, but it's possible.
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:31 PM
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As for relationship part, I'm not going to bring up anything about it, when she feels it, she will bring it up and until then I'm not going to bother with this and continue to act like her lover. That's a fine plan, but keep in mind that in society there is a certain expectation that the man will make the first move, and she will maybe be waiting for you. Don't stress so much, you seem to have a good thing going, and if you are compatible it will work out, and if you aren't then you've saved you…
/r/seduction13/05/17 10:28 AM
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Your depression doesn't decrease your worth. Friends and family are great, but they can only provide so much. I don't like opening up to either friends or family I've got to say that's super worrying. Firstly, you need to be able to talk to your family of friends. Secondly, putting everything on your partner is not healthy for either you or your partner. I've seen relationships like that, and I've been in relationships like that, and they're not good. Your partner can't fix you, all they can do …
/r/seduction13/05/17 10:24 AM
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find a club you like and join it
/r/seduction13/05/17 10:16 AM
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It's sort of tied up in all a lot of things. As long as you're clear what you want, and you appreciate the friendship for itself you're cool
/r/seduction13/05/17 10:15 AM
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Have you spoken to your parents about your worries about leaving your friends behind. You say their intention is to help with you depression, so they should be open to this conversation about what is actually best for you. An apology is always nice. She probably hasn't forgotten, and even if she has moved on it would be nice for her to hear one. And it might be meaningful to you to apologise, and help you to acknowledge that she didn't cheat. Darling, I get that this is really really hard. But i…
/r/seduction13/05/17 03:37 AM
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That's fair enough
/r/seduction13/05/17 03:30 AM
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That's fair. Bring up your own honest opinions, even if they might not be well recieved. If it backfires then chances are it wouldn't work anyway
/r/seduction13/05/17 03:29 AM
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You really need some therapy. There's online CBT courses, but I'd advise something in person. Meds work best in conjunction with therapy. Also if you're meds aren't helping talk to your doctor about changing them, or upping the dose. It usually takes a lot a faffing about to get the right dose, and even then it can change. If it helps to find a bench mark, aim for a dose that makes everything feel like less of a fight. You know that struggle to get up in the morning, the right dose will make tha…
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:46 AM
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I mean, it very much depends how you approach them. I'm not actually american, so I don't really experience that culture. But the first part is certainly gonna be an issue with your biting rate. If she knows that you're not a viable option from the start she isn't gonna bite. Other than that word of warning, my advice about clubs still stands
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:33 AM
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Okay, that probably isn't helping you. There's often a lot of pressure on brown girls to date within their race and religion from their parents. Also, I know that a lot of brown girls would feel super uncomfortable being singled out like that.
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:09 AM
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You're height isn't a problem. Don't worry about that. Give attention to who you want to give attention to. If you play games then you'll only attract people who like to play games back. If you're not already, get help for your depression. Don't do this to get girls, but for yourself. When you're talking to a girl, focus on enjoying the conversation. If you're enjoying talking to them, they'll know, and be more engaged. If you're sitting at the sidelines trying to make sure they enjoy it, then y…
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:07 AM
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It's really not passive agressive to directly ask what she wants from this. You don't seem like a "nice guy". You've been direct about what you want, and it's not unreasonable to ask her to do the same. Personally I'd ask about the pupperz whatever because I'm a dog maniac (I have two different people trained to send me pictures of their dogs) I get your worries about sounding passive agressive too. You could try ending with something like "either way I'd love to see some pictures of the pupperz…
/r/seduction13/05/17 01:57 AM
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Join clubs. Book clubs, sports clubs, salsa clubs. Take classes. This will get you out more. Can I ask why you want to date outside your own race? It might make a difference depending on why you want to date outside your race, and if you're struggling with some sterotypes about women of various races
/r/seduction13/05/17 01:45 AM
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Depends on the girl. Any answer to this will be a gross generalisation. Please try to remember that women are people, not a homogenous hive mind Even if it was something many girls find attractive, don't start. It's expensive, and terrible for your health. Like seriously. It aint worth it. Having a light, however, is a good idea, and always a good way to make friends.
/r/seduction13/05/17 01:42 AM
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I only have second hand knowledge, but I know I guy who's into it. Sort of. His ex used to do it for him, and I know it's still a bit of a turn on. I also know he still has a trigger word that still works, but he wont tell me what it is. He seemed to enjoy it, but I also get the impression it had some negative effects too. Proceed carefully, and make sure she is fully into it before hand
/r/seduction13/05/17 01:39 AM
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Fair, I'd say if it's going well suggest a date. She might say she wants to get to know you more first. That's not a rejection, it just means she's a bit nervous. If she does outright reject you then chances are she wouldn't have said yes at any point anyway
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:40 AM
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~Having read other comments, I'd like to add that approaching other women might help. But be aware that you might simply follow the same path again. Be ready for rejection and embrace it. If you're being rejected that's good because it saves you time on a relationship that wouldn't work. If you find yourself obsessing over another woman then try to avoid her, and stop it before it gets bad
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:34 AM
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Okay, this might hurt to hear but I'd suggest getting into therapy. This isn't a normal response to rejection from someone you barely knew. This is bordering on, or prehaps well into obsessive. It's not healthy for you. Secondly, try to remember that this isn't the girl you have a crush on. You've constructed a person in your mind, who you've fallen in love with. Even if you were successful with this girl she could never be what you wanted her to be, and that ends in heart break for both of you.…
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:32 AM
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It's pretty variable what girls are after on the app. If she wants a quick fuck she'll probably ask for one. Otherwise time is actually on your side. The longer you talk to her, the more she gets to know you. The one date I actually accepted on tinder came after about 2 weeks of chatting. It really depends on what you want. If all you're after is one night stands/fwb then tell her that, respectfully. something like "Hey, you seem really cool, but I wanted to be clear that I'm on tinder for x rea…
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:26 AM
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Focus on you. What do you want to do. What do you want to improve about yourself. Do you want to learn a skill? Go do it. Join clubs. Reading clubs, sports clubs. Take classes. Also if you don't have a job, try to get one, co-workers can be great friends. Go to classes at the gym You're doing great.
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:19 AM
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I have literally no sense of rhythm and am a great jazz musician. Everything is learnable
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:18 AM
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Generally club dancing is very different from other kinds. Learning any kind of rhythmic dance should help. Also learn how to spin girls well. It's super fun when someone does that with you, and really intimate and trusting for her.
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:16 AM
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It's normal to feel this way. At least for me anyway, I tend to fall in love hard and fast. You don't need to force anything, but you can still let her know how you're feeling. Drop her the odd message saying wish you were here when you haven't seen her in a while. Or every now and then send a text saying "goodmorning beautiful" If she's always accepting your dates then that's great! And to be honest probably means she's shuffling her social life around you since there's usually be at least one …
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:14 AM
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That's great to hear! :) I'd say don't worry about how girls are looking at you. Just focus on conversations.
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:08 AM
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I think you're over thinking this. Guys do exactly the same thing
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:07 AM
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I've found climbing can be good (at least in the uk). There's been a serious push to include more women in the last several years. Plus if you go to a beginers course you will be talking cause you'll likely be put in groups of 2 or 3, and there;s a lot of time on the ground. Bouldering can be great for day game. People tend to chat about routes and such whether or not they know each other which is a great in. If there is a knitting club near you I'd reckomend that. Knitting is suuuuuper relaxing…
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:06 AM
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It might mean something, it might mean nothing. There's no point agonising about a few seconds with a stranger. If you see her again, try talking to her. Even if the eye contact meant nothing it might work out. Just be prepared to be rebuffed if you do, most people don't like the cold approach. In the mean time, focus on you. Get yourself confident enough that you don't feel the need to agonise over something like this.
/r/seduction13/05/17 12:01 AM
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Don't be a dick
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:58 PM
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You sure you aren't just noticing it more.
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:57 PM
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nothing
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:57 PM
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definitely. If I'm in a club, then I have literally no way of telling if you're a dick, and cool guy, or an axe wielding murderer. If, however you're clearly friends with a few girls then you have effectively been vouched for. Also, girls make the best wing men I have the opposite issue to you, I'm fine with groups as long as I know one person, but I hate hanging out one on one, even with people I know reasonably well
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:56 PM
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easier said than done if this dude does have anxiety
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:53 PM
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This! There's nothing wrong with using a crutch if your leg is hurt
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:52 PM
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I get where you're coming from. There's a lot of guys out there playing the numbers game and trying to match with literally all the girls. It sucks for everyone. It makes it really hard to girls to find the guys who are actually interested in her, and it makes it hard for those guys to get noticed. If you chose to continue with online dating, when you match, don't just send a generic hey, because I literally had a sheep as my pic on tinder and was getting up to 20 of those a day. Studies have sh…
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:51 PM
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Also there's girls like me, who use tinder like a game, and then feel like they have to talk to the people they match with. Edit: though to be fair to myself, my picture was a sheep
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:45 PM
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It means she doesn't really think anything about you either way. People notice other people and motion. This causes them to look at you. (same as if you walk into a room late and everyone stares they can't help it)
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:44 PM
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Don't text her asking for a second date if she hasn't responded to the first attempt. I get that it's sucks, but sometimes people do change their mind. At the same time, she might have seen your text and forgotten to reply If I were you I'd just be direct and ask if she was still interested, or if she changed her mind. Given that you thought she was super interesting it might be worth pursuing a friendship with her if she says no to a date. If you chose to do that, be aware that she might interp…
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:42 PM
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Focus on making the convo fun for you. Are you enjoying these conversations or are you just feeling like it's a step on the road that leads to sex/relationship? Talk to them because you want to talk to them. Asking questions is great, but you've still got to talk about yourself, and bring up your own perspectives. Otherwise it's not a conversation, she's just verbally filling out a questionaire
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:37 PM
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Are you sure these girls are into you,and you aren't just interpretting what you want? crossed legs is pretty defensive body languages, and excessive fidgiting can mean nervousness. That being said, if the whole interaction just reeks of attraction keep the vibe going. Just try to be aware of their reactions and not to overstep their boundries
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:34 PM
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There is nothing wrong with meds, but you need to be taking them for yourself. You need to look and see if they are effecting everything in anxiety is effecting you whole life. If it's just mildly effecting your dating efforts then no. Talk it through with a doctor, preferably one who focuses on mental health. Whatever else keep up the meditation and excersize
/r/seduction12/05/17 10:22 PM
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nah. I can see that having a cool snapchat/insta for them to follow so that they see you and think about you more is helpful. But plenty of girls dont have these either, and it's certainly not essential.
/r/seduction12/05/17 10:15 PM
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So if girls are actually saying to you that you're a "nice guy" in those terms, they might mean you're more like someone off r/niceguys. To avoid that is pretty simple. If you're going into every interaction with a woman only intending to get a relationship/sex out of them, and are only nice to them for this purpose, you're a "nice guy". Please stop and consider that it's incredibly hurtful to have someone you thought liked you for you turn out to just be trying to manipulate you. Learn to love …
/r/seduction12/05/17 10:08 PM
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It's not so much that you yourself are weird, but that online dating can be legit dangerous and scary for girls. As long as you're a genuine dude with no malintent it shouldn't be too hard to put them more at ease. You certainly seem to be doing that if you say the dates are going well, you're just not ending up with a second date
/r/seduction12/05/17 10:01 PM
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Personally I'd say no to the small of the back touch. I hate that unless I know someone very well. Arms and shoulders are fair game though
/r/seduction12/05/17 09:59 PM
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So firstly, to a certain extent it can't be reproduced. However, you might help it along. Try looking at lips as well as eyes. It's subconsciously suggests you're into them, and having someone into you is very attractive. Equally lean forward, towards them. Unfortunatly both of these can come off as creepy if not reciprocated, so keep an eye on body language, and wait until you've already been chatting a while and it's going fairly well before starting this. Also I'd say a little more touching. …
/r/seduction12/05/17 09:57 PM
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