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It's real: https://youtu.be/9TuQtqOhMkM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:08 AM
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It's real: https://youtu.be/9TuQtqOhMkM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:05 AM
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It's real: https://youtu.be/9TuQtqOhMkM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:03 AM
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Unpopular opinion here, but this seems genuine to me. All this implies is that he's dating and assessing compatibility, trying to see if a spark will develop. 🤷‍♀️ Real fuckboy behavior would be if he wasn't attracted to her but kept stringing her along for sex anyways. Yes, it's possible that he could have been trying to see if he could get sex out of her (despite the lack of attraction), and he just left that part out of the post. But based off of the text here alone, there is not enough evide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:11 PM
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Guys proudly admit that they fake entire relationships and will lie about anything to get them due to their entitlement to a woman's love and support. I had no idea this was a thing until I found this sub. And everywhere else, they’ll deny this concept exists and probably call you sexist. When I was younger, I knew men lied to get sex, but I used to think that was only in the dating phase and no man would take it as far as getting into an entire relationship just to get easy access to sex (+ oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:16 PM
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Everyone should watch the embedded video (you can turn on subtitles). Brought me to near tears 🥺 To quote one of the mothers in the video: "'leftover women' are outstanding, 'leftover men' need to try harder." 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 04:52 AM
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Cornelia Street starts with her casually inviting the muse of the song to come up to her apartment, by the bridge she thinks she's being played and is about to walk out, but gets convinced to come back. ”I thought you were leading me on I packed my bags, left Cornelia Street Before you even knew I was gone But then you called, showed your hand I turned around before I hit the tunnel Sat on the roof, you and I” Damn, it honestly sounds like he was hesitant to commit and then at the last second ga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:47 PM
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I thought Cruel Summer was definitely about her having a no strings attached relationship with Joe ("It's cool, that's what I tell 'em, 'no rules'") but I've never really analyzed and thought of the other songs you mentioned to be about the same subject. Will have to take another listen now. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:15 AM
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Which music video is that in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:13 AM
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Also in Lover: "I've loved you three summers now honey, but I want 'em all"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:09 AM
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Glad you posted this because I've also wondered this—especially when I see lots of other Taylor stans praising Joe for being such a great partner simply because he's supportive of her re-recording and re-releasing old songs about past exes. Like... is that not the bare minimum of being a good partner? If a man is insecure about her re-recording old songs about past exes, something she's doing for her career and not because she isn't over them, he's literally just a shitty partner. Supporting her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:07 AM
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I used to really, really be against astrology because I saw how much most people on it Reddit hated it and thought that their reasonings were justified. I thought most people hated it because it has no scientific backing, and as someone who whole-heartedly supports science, I agreed. Then I realized that Reddit's massive hate boner for astrology is mostly because it hates women and things that women like. And since then, I've never really looked at astrology the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 05:42 AM
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Taurus man’s idea of a date: lie down and watch TV. Occasionally go out but only because you had to tell him you actually wanted to go out first, and even then split it 50/50 down to the penny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:48 AM
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Omg same, I'm constantly in and out of the sub—I realized I honestly can't be here regularly because it makes me feel bitter and jaded. There's great advice here, but many of us have been hurt and abused at the hands of men, which results in a lot of negativity circulating. But the podcast has more of a fun, light-hearted vibe. They really crack me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:48 AM
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Unfortunately women have been collectively headfucked For the longest time, I thought it was just me that had low self-esteem and always settled for breadcrumbs from men. Then I found FDS, and realized it's such a universal experience. Living in a patriarchal society has let men get away with so much BS, and we still fall for it each time. Women have collectively been conditioned into accepting struggle love, mixed signals, breadcrumbs, situationships, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:17 AM
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Agreed, I really wish someone had told me this shit when I was younger. Instead I'd try to justify mixed signals and be like wELL mAyBE He's toO scArEd To MaKe A MOve! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:11 AM
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✨ I'm sorry, the old miss_peach94 can’t come to the phone right now. Why? Oh, because she’s dead. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:59 AM
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We need more of this in society, think of what a much better place the world would be if men had no choice but to be high-value. If women literally stopped putting up with men's bullshit. More women need to realize their power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:16 PM
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They will stay with them as long as it’s convenient, and not a second longer. They will literally string women along for years. It wasn't until I was older that I realized a woman having a boyfriend doesn't necessarily mean he even likes her lmao 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:59 AM
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Ugh, it's like, you could’ve asked literally anything else. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:42 AM
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Perhaps platonic male friends just aren’t a thing!! Listen to FDS!! Unpopular opinion here but I think platonic male friends can definitely be a thing, I know I enjoy the company of my platonic male friends. Plus, they're good at providing insight into how men think when they're dating or in relationships—perspective women may not necessarily have solely because we're women. Women just have to vet their opposite sex friends harder than if it were the other way around. It is fine to keep them aro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:09 AM
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Tuesday ramblings: If women are the prize, why have I felt that men are the prize my entire life up until the point that I found FDS? It's so frustrating. Men in my past have treated me like trash and at the time, I still desired them more than anything in the world. I always stayed because the good parts, the serotonin and oxytocin being around them produced, made the bad parts of them seem worth it. Is it societal conditioning by the patriarchy? Basic biology and attraction? Why am I like this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:44 PM
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In my previous job, the vast majority of the women were in long-term relationships, engaged, or married. I was one of literally three women who was not. I also did not talk about my dating life publicly. I'll never forget when I went to a work happy hour and got a ride home from a coworker. Literally the very first thing she did when I got into the car was take advantage of the fact that we were alone, and proceeded to ask me about my love life. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:53 PM
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I'm always wary of men who continuously state what they supposedly are. Have dealt with men who claimed "I'm a nice guy," and turned out to be dicks, and another guy who for whatever reason repeatedly told me he had "a really guilty conscience," when I'd never asked. It was like that "nobody:" meme. Nobody: Him at least once a week: I have a really guilty conscience The same guy ended up lying to me on numerous occasions, gaslighting me, and ghosting me. Lesson learned: nice men don't have to te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:00 PM
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So Last-Second Liam kept getting turned down for his last minute invites and sent me a truly amazing breakup novel dumping me after two months of not seeing him at all. (Were we together? Exclusive? I still don’t know.) 😬🤷🏼‍♀️ sigh. Well, I tried. 🤣 Lmao I'm enjoying all the Hemsworth references. I'm deceased @ "Last-Second Liam" considering that I also dealt with one of these! And the audacity of him trying to "dump you" after not seeing you for two months!! That was probably more for his ego t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:49 PM
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Really good points, and I agree. The more I think about it, the more I feel it's bullshit that he felt like I was "playing games" by turning down his last minute date proposals whenever I was free. No means no, and the right guy would respect that I don't want to go out on last minute dates, regardless of my reasoning for that. It's really not that hard to respect this decision. Is it really that difficult to plan two days out? As the person in the TikTok said, if they can't respect a low-effort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:07 PM
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Lmao do they actually think we'll welcome them back into our lives with open arms after being ghosted A YEAR ago?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:27 PM
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It tells me that they dont value time unless it suits them, and that youre a “might as well ask you out because I dont have anything else to do”. Totally with you on this one—agreeing to someone's constant last minute date proposals is just signing yourself up to be someone's backup plan. Their "I don't have anything better to do this Saturday night anyways, so let me just hit her up". I think spontaneous dates are okay some of the time (mostly only true if you already have an established relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:18 PM
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Thanks, I totally agree! I'm not signing myself up to be anyone's "backup girl" or "backup plan" when they have nothing better to do on a Saturday night. 😒 I'm actually not dealing with this situation currently—it pertains to a guy I dated in my past, and I'm asking so I know how to deal with this if it comes up again with other guys in the future. This guy only ever asked me out on last minute, day-of dates. I turned him down a few times, even if I was doing nothing at the time. He said he felt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:12 PM
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If he calls you last minute all the time, how do you know if he’s already called ten people before you? Ain't that the truth! He probably sent out the same text to 10 different girls in his phonebook and just went out with whoever answered. 🥴 I'm actually not dealing with this situation currently—it pertains to a guy I dated in my past, and I'm asking so I know how to deal with this if it comes up again with other guys in the future. This guy only ever asked me out on last minute, day-of dates. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:09 PM
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Thanks, I very much agree! I'm not dealing with this situation currently—it pertains to a guy I dated in my past, and I'm asking so I know how to deal with this if it comes up again with other guys in the future. This guy only ever asked me out on last minute, day-of dates. I turned him down a few times, even if I was doing nothing at the time. He said he felt like I was "playing games" because I'd turn him down even if I was totally free. Do you think it's reasonable for him to have felt that w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:06 PM
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Thank you, I very much agree! And I dealt with the same thing, a guy I dated would literally only hit me up with "what are you doing tonight," there were never plans in advance. And if I proposed a day to him 2 days out, he couldn't stick to it. It was so frustrating. I'm glad that you told your dude it wasn't going to work out as opposed to trying to make him make plans in advance—good for you! If there's anything I've learned from this sub, it's that you can't "make" men do anything. Let them …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:02 PM
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Thanks, I totally agree! I think spontaneous dates are okay some of the time (mostly only true if you already have an established relationship), but if someone only ever asks you out on last minute dates, that's a red flag. I'm not dealing with this situation currently—it pertains to a guy I dated in my past, and I'm asking so I know how to deal with this if it comes up again with other guys in the future. This guy only ever asked me out on last minute, day-of dates. I turned him down a few time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:43 PM
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Thank you, I very much agree! This is not something I'm currently dealing with, but pertains to a guy I dated in the past + I'm asking because I want to know how to handle this if it arises again in the future. This guy would only ever ask me out on last minute, day-of dates and I turned him down a few times, even if I wasn't doing anything at the moment. He said he felt like I was "playing games" because I would turn him down even if I was totally free. Do you think it's reasonable for him to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:38 PM
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If you ask a guy to stop asking you out on last minute dates and only ask you out in advance, is that a boundary?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:55 AM
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TELL IT LIKE IT MF IS!!!! I wish someone had showed this tough love to my pick-me self back in undergrad. I was surrounded by other pick-mes who kept reassuring me, borderline berating me that he was “busy” and I wanted too much… The way it's so normal for women to be gaslit 😖 I see this a lot in Reddit posts on other dating subs. "I'm probably being unreasonable..." "Am I asking for too much?" etc. etc. Always posts from women. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:04 AM
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It takes time to forgive yourself for making the choices you did in the past — then, you did not know any better but you do now. That’s what matters. Agreed, I need to drill this into my head lol. As for other relationship-oriented TikTokers, I don’t think I have any other ones to recommend 🤔 If I think of any, I’ll make sure to PM them to you! Thank you so much! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:56 PM
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FDS has seriously changed the way I look at things. It should be the guy that says stuff like this, not her. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:53 AM
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She said she’ll ask to see his driver’s license next time they see each other 😂 Not sure if she's joking or not, but I have literally had to do this before when I dated a guy who was supposedly 30 but looked like he was 40. And trust me, my friends roasted me for it too. So I acted all cute and pretended I just wanted to see if he had a good license picture, but I was really looking for his birth year. 😅 Not sure what I was thinking, that guy turned out to be a real clown in the end. Like you ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:46 AM
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Sis, this ain't it. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:40 AM
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It is very difficult to witness other people enjoying healthy love lives and to be mistreated/manipulated your whole life — and some people are even abused their whole lives and it is not fair. You feel awful because it isn’t fair that others get something so easily that you have tried your hardest to get (including leveling up in all facets of your life). And the truth is, it isn’t fair. This is EXACTLY why I feel so resentful towards her lately. My entire life, I've only ever known mistreatmen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:26 AM
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Thank you so much, I am trying to take care of myself. Hoping to get out of this spiral shortly. I’ve got a long holiday weekend ahead so hoping that will help clear my head, the added stress of work has definitely not helped how I’ve been feeling. It’ll be good to step away! ❤️ I’d still make mistakes, get hurt along the way, and would have to grow out of my naivety. Even when equipped with FDS knowledge, you’ll make mistakes and run into LV people, it’s a part of a learning process! I guess th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:14 AM
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Aww thank you, I appreciate you! Why does it make you feel like you don’t deserve the same, though? I feel that way because I've never experienced it. I think that if I'd had history of being in a healthy relationship before or even having interest from a HVM reciprocated, I'd have evidence that it's possible. The fact that I've never truly had that experience leads me to believe that I can never find it, or in my worst of thoughts, that I don't deserve it. In fact, even breakups are a success: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:47 PM
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Thanks, I already watch like all the FDS Youtubers haha. I haven't found a video on this issue specifically though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:43 PM
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How a man is in a relationship vs friendship may be entirely different. You may not know how he truly is in an intimate, romantic partnership with another woman. That's a good point, thank you for bringing that up. He’s likely insecure or had eyes for her when she was taken — if the latter is true, it’s likely that he only tried to put his best foot forward (or pretend to have it) in order to impress her/lay the ground. That’s inorganic and, to an extent, tricky. Yes, he definitely had his eyes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:41 PM
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Thank you. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:29 PM
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Feeling jealous is usually a sign that you really want something and are worried about your ability to get it. You probably don’t have an issue with your friend, but the situation is triggering you. Maybe take some space and focus on you? You are right, I do worry about my ability to get it because my love life hasn't had great history thus far. I have actually taken space but unfortunately I find that I keep lurking her on social media to see if there are new posts. Also is she really with HVM …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:47 AM
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Lately, I find that I've been feeling resentment towards a friend who always seems to have success in her love life. How do I not feel this way? She's my friend and I should be happy for her, but my love life has been absolutely shit for the vast majority of my life, so I'm starting to feel jealousy and resentment. This friend got out of a relatively healthy, long-term relationship with a HVM awhile back (I considered him my friend too, awesome dude). Immediately following that breakup, she rebo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:27 AM
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Yes, a very small handful people backed her up and stated that was it was fine for her to have a preference. They were obviously downvoted a fair amount though and had many people argue against them. Thanks though, I appreciate the reassurance that these people getting angry are probably just projecting because they can't meet that standard. However, I think the worst part is the women getting angry at them. I mean, I guess I can understand men getting triggered over this, but women? One woman s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 06:33 PM
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Nah, you're right. If you go directly to her TikTok, her last video is of her talking about how she started dating a new guy only for him to turn out like trash too. So this video wouldn't make sense for that timeline. Not trying to be a hater, I just want to see real content lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:16 AM
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Haha I clicked on this to check it out and saw that it was a response to my comment 🥺 we've all been there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:13 PM
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Commenting again to say this is why you should never be jealous of happy couple vacation photos on social media—you never know when shit like this is going on behind the scenes, where the man had to be dragged onto the vacation kicking and screaming (or dragged into the relationship kicking and screaming).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:01 PM
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i’ve understood femininity youtubers are pretty much teaching women how to physically perform femininity and act small and soft to attract men. I'm sure YouTubers like that do exist, but if so, they're not for me lol. I'm not interested in making myself "small and soft" or whatever—just tired of getting taking advantage of whenever I do the pursuing, and trying to fall back into a more passive role in dating so I can actually see who's truly into me. funnily enough i was treated quite well after…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:56 PM
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Notice how in her last post she says “what’s wrong with me?” as if all of this is her fault. That’s a direct result of patriarchal conditioning. When our relationships go wrong, we instantly question “what’s wrong with me?” instead of being able to see that it was the man who strung us along the entire time. A man stringing you along does NOT mean there’s something wrong with you, it means there’s something wrong with him for continuing to waste your time if he wasn’t truly into you. Don’t let c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:49 PM
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I feel like it was just one excuse after another. “He can’t commit because he has OCDP” “he can’t commit because he wants to wait until the pandemic ends” “he can’t commit because he can’t wrap his mind around spending his first Christmas without his grandparents” 💀 Men really be like “sorry I can’t commit to you I have to stop for gas on the way home and also attend my grandpa’s sister’s cousin’s turtle’s funeral in 6 months”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:40 PM
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How do you like anna bey/school of affluence? I did a search of her in the sub and am seeing mixed reviews, along with a bit of controversy. Not sure what to think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:47 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:46 AM
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I’m not OP but for me, “masculine behavior” in my relationships meant I always stepped into what’s traditionally known as the man’s role. I would always “shoot my shot”/pursue men, make the first move, ask them for exclusivity in relationships, flag down random men and tell them I thought they were attractive, etc. All of that got me literally nowhere. I’d scare men off with how much I was willing to make all the first moves, OR they would take advantage of it and use me for sex even if they wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:43 AM
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And I thought getting unsolicited dick pics was bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:50 PM
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What feminity channels on YouTube do you advise? I have also struggled with being highly masculine in my relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:01 AM
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Y'all, I'm looking through one of the dating subs for older people (I know we can't name sub names, but as a hint, it's for people over the age where "women have hit the wall"). There, I came across a post where a woman says she has a bit of trauma from her ex who nickled and dimed her, kept extreme tabs on all the money they spent and made sure everything was split evenly, down to the penny. She recalls their first date together and how he didn't even offer to pay for her $2 coffee and how she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:56 AM
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Aw thank you! I appreciate you. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:12 AM
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I love this sooo much, thank you! Saving this. Cheers to walking down new, better streets with no holes. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:11 AM
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Lmaooo they think this is LinkedIn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:03 PM
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How do you forgive yourself for how you let a LVM treat you, after you'd already discovered FDS? I guess a part of me is like "I was already in FDS, I should have known". 😭 I think how I tolerated his mistreatment was a lot better than it would have been had I not discovered FDS, but it still wasn't great. It's still embarrassing to reflect upon. I overlooked a lot of red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:44 PM
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He wrote D-A-T-E. Big win! (And yes, I know the bar is on the floor lol). Back when I was using OLD, I got so many "WheN Do YOu WannA HanG OuT" type messages. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:35 PM
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She's an American singer with a hit song called Drivers License haha. I'm sorry you got downvoted, people downvote for the weirdest things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:53 PM
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Of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:50 PM
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Olivia Rodrigo has entered the chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:10 AM
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I would just like to say, I am 16, nothing on this subreddit applies to me (Yet). You're lucky, I remember some guy from my class trying to booty call me and lose our virginities to each other when I was 15. FIFTEEN. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:09 AM
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Men will literally treat you like shit, then look down on you for accepting that exact shitty treatment. 🥴 Get out while you can. 🏃🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:06 AM
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1) Consistent source of sex, which isn't guaranteed when you're only casually dating. 2) They're afraid to be alone, and in some cases, they're afraid they won't find anything better. 3) The woman provides a shoulder for him to cry on/emotional support. Men typically don't get deep emotional support from their male friends. 4) Familiarity/they're comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:01 AM
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Anyways he treats his wife just as badly based on a video that surfaced (I can’t even remember now what the video is about but I remember the internet talking about him being shitty to her) so it goes to show LVM don’t change for the ones they left you for. Do you know how we’d go about finding this video?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:45 PM
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Can you share how you know this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:43 PM
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So happy for the tone change! Would definitely love to see more positivity and optimism around here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:08 PM
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I saw a post where someone said whenever women include their significant other in their Facebook profile pictute, it means her man is a cheater and she put the profile pic up solely to fend off other Pickmes. Then, in the comments, people were ripping apart women who put their SO in their profile picture, not just because "that automatically means her man is a cheater," but also stating that these women lack their own personality because they can't even have this small thumbnail space be a photo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:18 PM
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Yes, more “green flag” stories, please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:11 AM
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THANK YOU. Honestly, I left the sub for awhile and was really on the fence on whether or not to come back. The negativity and cynicism here is off the charts, and it was getting really, really depressing to read. I want to date men, not swear them off forever because “they’re all LVMs and anyone who seems like a HVM is just putting up a front”. While it can be true that many LVMs temporarily disguise themselves as HVMs, I’d like to believe that there are still real, genuine HVMs in the world. Ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:09 AM
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Agh, men. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:17 PM
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Oh yes, can't forget the dark witchy colors! Love those as well. 🧙‍♀️💄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:17 AM
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There’s a pinned post on the front page stating that this is a female sub for dating strategy. I dont think this, or any other makeup posts are relevant here, unless in the specific context of the sub. I agree, which is why I suspect this was posted for makeup shaming reasons. While it is informative, it doesn't have anything to do with female dating strategy specifically. I also wear makeup, only to work, because I feel magnificent I see it as a form of self-expression. Like, I'm showing you a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:13 AM
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I can’t with the Pickme song in the background either lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:25 AM
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First of all, 🗣 Why are we asking men for exclusivity?! If he wanted to, he would've asked her first. There would be no need for her to even bring it up. The fact that he MOVED OUT OF THE COUNTRY without locking her down first speaks volumes. I wish someone had taught me that earlier in life. You'll never hear WhaT aRe wE? from these lips ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:28 PM
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While I do agree that this is informative, what does this have to do with female dating strategy? I hope this wasn't posted to continue pushing the narrative I've seen around here that says women only wear makeup due to conditioning from the patriarchy and that we should therefore stop wearing makeup altogether. I wear makeup because it makes me feel like a fabulous, badass bitch. Not because "the patriarchy conditioned me into doing so". If pushing that narrative wasn't your intent, I do apolog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:21 PM
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This might be an unpopular opinion here, but I think it can be healthy for both men and women to have friends of both sexes. Women just have the unfortunate task of vetting their male friends harder than if it were the other way around. I personally think it really helps if you met your male friends in a group setting or through a common interest, as opposed to them "scouting you out" somewhere e.g. asking you to go for coffee after class or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:02 PM
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Reads exactly like me in my early 20s tbh. I really thought I could try to get myself to like casual sex. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:23 AM
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I almost cried when I saw this on the news 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:11 AM
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Okay, what I want to know is how the hell to get over this/make yourself feel better about this when it happens?! In the past, I dated a lot of ugly looking dudes, and it would really, really help me get over them by telling myself I was way out of their league anyways (which was actually true). Then an attractive guy I dated did me dirty and I had no ammunition to make myself feel better, ugh. He was an LVM with no bedframe but somehow that just doesn't hit the same as "he was ugly" lol. 💀 Has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:58 AM
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Women having standards for men as high as they have for us = toxic /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:25 PM
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Yet you'd never see this type of meme made for men. "When he's your bf vs. when he's your husband". The patriarchy runs deep, y'all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:19 PM
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Thinking about potentially dating and marrying a LVM scares the crap out of me. It's so easy to come on here, comment, and upvote empowering HVW/Queen shit—much harder to apply to real life when you meet a guy you like. Looking back, the last guy I dated was not HV at all, and I dated him when I had already discovered FDS. I didn't realize how truly LV he was until after the fact. I'm scared that when I get back out there after the pandemic, I'm just going to fall back into old patterns again. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:36 AM
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They discussed this in the FDS podcast as well. Like, why would we want to be exactly like men? Why don't we define empowerment for ourselves instead of defining it as essentially mirroring everything men do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:22 AM
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I’ve got a friend who got out of a long-term relationship and started dating someone else literally two weeks later. We had convos about how he “wasn’t a rebound” because they were technically friends first and I had to bite my tongue. 😶 They ended up "making it" and now she's in a long-term relationship with him lol. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:19 AM
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lmao I saw this on the front page the other day and immediately thought of y’all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:49 AM
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Lmao are you in Florida by any chance. I also know a nurse who feels meh about his girlfriend, they've been dating for like 2.5 years now. Like bro... that's fine if you've come to the realization that she's not the one, but if that's the case, 🗣 stop wasting her time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:26 PM
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I'm from the West, and the guy I dated specifically practiced Vajrayana, or as he once referred to it, "Dalai Lama Buddhism." He went to a center/a retreat that practiced it, and also had like a coach or something. I guess I was kinda banking on the fact that he'd be good to me just based on his religion, which I probably shouldn't have done. It's weird—sometimes he felt very genuine and sweet (and I had friends who met him as well and they felt the same way), and then he'd turn around and do so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:06 PM
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Somewhat unrelated in this context, but I once dated a Buddhist guy (he was a white dude, actually) who turned out to be an LVM. Please tell me someone else can relate. 😂 You'd think that being Buddhist would make him a "good guy," but as I learned the hard way, LVMs/fuckboys can come from all different religions. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:39 AM
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Can you tell me more about this? I’m currently a little sad about things ending with someone who was pretty low-effort. (Luckily, I’ve cut off all contact with him, so I guess I’m just being a Pickmeisha emotionally). Would love to know what kind of bullet I likely dodged so I can feel a bit better lol 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:45 AM
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God forbid a woman reach 30 and still be single. But if a man does it, he’s just an “independent bachelor, “living his best life,” etc. Society has made it so that so much of women’s worth is tied to whether or not they have a significant other. That would be why so many women are concerned with “whether or not they can keep a man”. It really shouldn’t be this way, but that’s just the way it is. A woman I used to work with made the announcement that she was finally engaged during one of our meet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:12 PM
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I’m made of gold, I’m enough and have always been enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:16 AM
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“The best gift you can give your children is their father” is a comment I came across on this sub once. I think about that whenever I’m dating and the dude starts exhibiting LVM behavior and I’m wondering if I should excuse it or not. Would I really want this man to potentially be the father of my children someday? We’ve gotta think long-term ladies, not just the attention from him we want in the moment. Will he be worth keeping in the long run?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:15 AM
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“If the female spider isn’t impressed, she may eat him!” I’m deceased
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:12 AM
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Can you talk a bit more about how therapy has helped you? I feel like it hasn’t done much for me at all, and I’ve gone 1-2 times per month for the past year. Honestly, this sub has raised my self-esteem way more than therapy has, lol This sub has really helped me grow my wings in the past 8 months or so, and I feel like I’m a pretty confident woman now—almost solely because of it. I used to have really low self-esteem and almost feel like an entirely changed woman, mostly because of FDS! However…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:02 AM
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Agreed. I love it here, but sometimes it’s a bit too much. There was a post I saw here a few weeks back saying “not to smile for men on dates unless they’ve earned it” and it was heavily upvoted. I’m a positive, outgoing, energetic woman—I love using humor whenever possible, and in my social interactions, I’m often either laughing or smiling. To not smile on dates “unless he’s earned it” would be removing an entire positive aspect of my personality. That post was wild, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:40 AM
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Lmao the men of Reddit are a different type of male tbh. I honestly think they genuinely don’t like it when a girl is “hard to get” because they’re below-average or average looking dudes who have trouble landing women in the first place, so they want it to be easy. They want a woman to initiate, because they were already having trouble with women to begin with. Attractive, high-value men who actually like the chase and the challenge aren’t on Reddit answering these types of questions, so the ans…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:29 AM
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