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ADVICEthrowaway_lalaland/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 12:11 AM
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I’ve never been cheated on but getting revenge probably won’t make you feel better… it’s better to quietly exit the relationship and without any arguing on your end. He doesn’t need to know why this isn’t working for you anymore as honesty isn’t a priority in the relationship anymore. You can always tell him that you’ve lost attraction towards him, which would be a little mean but also not untrue if that’s how you feel now.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 03:22 AM
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He treated you well except he thought he could do better and tried to come back around. Are you really okay with someone treating you like sloppy seconds?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 06:30 PM
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There’s no gentle truth here. He realized that you are not compatible (or not good enough for him) and broke up with you. Be glad that he was honest enough to break things off. If you want to feel angry, go to r/Waiting_To_Wed and read some of the stories there from the posters’ POV.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 06:28 PM
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I love that blog! I’ve referred to it many times over the years. Have you read his book? It’s basically a compilation of all the best posts + extra really good nuggets of info. I’ve reread it a few times, highly recommend. Thanks for sharing the wiki, adding to my reading list!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/25 07:37 AM
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I completely understand what you mean regarding double think! I’ve experienced this first hand. In college, I went out a few times with a religious guy who completed various trainings and seminars in theological study. He was upset that I didn’t want to sleep with him early on and said that it was a normal part of the dating process. We eventually stopped seeing each other and I remember feeling confused because premarital sex was against his beliefs. I agree that a lot women aren’t prepared for…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/25 07:17 AM
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Funny you mention that, I live in a very conservative area and went to the opposite of a party school! I graduated from a commuter school and half the student population identified as religious. A lot of folks in my area tend to get married between 18-22 and attempt to wait for marriage (divorce is also super common but that’s another subject). I mention accidentally screening for low libido because many of my ex-religious friends struggle with their partners’ lack of libido. Although, this coul…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/25 07:06 AM
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Your relationship dynamic is in need of a reset! Nagging is like death by a thousand cuts. It can really weigh on someone to be criticized and made fun of so often. Research says that five positive comments are needed to balance a negative comment in a relationship. If you want to cultivate a peaceful atmosphere in your relationship, consider reducing the amount of negative comments and increasing the amount of positive comments. It will go a long way in restoring warmth and joy in your relation…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/25 08:23 AM
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Interesting! I didn’t think this option would be this popular. Is this something you bring up ahead of time or do you let it come up organically?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/25 06:57 PM
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It sounds like we’ve navigated this pretty similarly! I like to slow down the pace of intimacy because it gives us a chance to develop a deeper emotional connection beforehand. Usually, the guys are grateful that I made us wait too. I completely agree to not let a man’s sexual attraction cloud our judgment. It feels nice but doesn’t tell me anything about how emotionally invested a man might be in me. I just accept it as a given and wait for concrete evidence that he wants to take things further…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/25 06:56 PM
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This is good reading, thank you! Are there other resources on figuring out your SMV or improving girl game? Or do I just need to hunt for more reading material on the wiki?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/25 06:48 PM
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That’s true! It’s not as common, but being exclusive before intimacy shouldn’t be seen as impossible. I’m curious, after how many dates do you share your boundary with them?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/25 06:46 PM
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That is so true! A lot of women hear what they want instead of what’s actually being said. I think I’ve becoming more guarded after reading online stories about women getting strung along in dating and relationships. It’s starting to stress me out so I will probably need to mute those. Thanks for your input :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 10:58 PM
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Interesting! I’m curious, how does your boundary come up in conversation?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 03:27 PM
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Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 03:24 PM
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I appreciate how intentional you and your husband both were throughout the dating process. Sounds like you were both on the same page from the very beginning! It’s true that there is no perfect or risk free strategy. I’m very intentional about how I date and was curious to know others navigated this area. I’ll try asking the hard questions and letting him answer first so there’s no pressure to say what I want to hear. Thanks for the suggestion :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 03:12 PM
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I haven’t read that post, thanks for sharing it! It’s exactly what I was looking for. Seems like we both have a similar boundary centered on the strength of the connection. Have you shared your boundary with your dates or do you keep it to yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 02:38 PM
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Generally speaking, if a guy is very handsy on a first date or ignores your physical boundaries, he probably isn't looking for anything serious with you. Personally, I think it's okay to kiss/make out on a first date. If you're not comfortable with that, then you don't have to. Just know that the faster you escalate kissing, the faster you escalate everything else. If you want to pace yourself more, it doesn't have to be a super loaded conversation where you lay out what you will and won't do li…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 12:05 AM
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Completely agree! I have noticed a trend of people flaking out on friendships due to anxiety or simply not being present with friends when hanging out. Obviously there are exceptions to this, but you can't dip out on a friendship for an extended period of time and expect the quality of the relationship to be the same. All relationships require consistent care and attention!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/25 11:39 PM
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I've formed very close, long-lasting friendships + the majority of my friends are women so I think I'm qualified to answer here! The first thing that I would recommend is to stop being generous to people that you don't know very well. You will inadvertently attract users and set yourself up for failure when you realize they don't share the same values as you. I'd also recommend avoiding talking about heavy/traumatic subjects when you first meet people to avoid attracting people who are unstable …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/25 11:33 PM
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