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Your mental health is important. You’d still be their dad they can call you whenever they want. You are allowed to start a new life.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 04:03 AM
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why not just move to a new country? Live an easier life, be at peace, get a dog, move on from the stress
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 11:28 AM
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I respect your reasons, That all makes sense at a logical level even if emotionally I feel like being forced to work a career you hate when you can’t be around your kids a lot is very disturbing. I feel like I wouldn’t quit if the CS won’t change then, but just not be doing well and be let go as it is at that point. It’s also the principle that you get to choose your career in life you have freedom of choice. and my freedom to choose where I work is my decision.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 10:10 AM
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What keeps you motivated to work like that? how do you mentally stay focused and not make mistakes? Or just if you want to leave can you do so by getting fired for poor performance
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 10:40 PM
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I’m sorry that sounds hellish. There must be a way to get a newer job where you aren’t forced to work like that. I have a couple of women on here telling me that after divorce our only role is to be a workhorse and it doesn’t matter if you suffer and can barely see your kids if its for their benefit
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 09:13 PM
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Could you transition to a new lower income job that would give you more time with your kids? Were you told you could never leave your job?
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 08:59 PM
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Can’t really prove anything in that scenario and after a year or so of not getting a job like I used to have in my location I should be okay
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 11:04 PM
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It seems like I would just need to get laid off somehow and then just mess up any interviews I get to eventually get out of the field.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 11:03 PM
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Also she’s been SAHM. The true flip would be if I was the SAHD and I chose to divorce her. If she said I want to be around the kids more and I want to take a lower pay job closer by. The house would be sold and our lifestyle would take a hit but we’d be okay and survive. Should I tell her no?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:20 PM
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Not apples to apples since I’m not looking to be a stay at home dad and have zero income, just reduced income and work closer to home to see them more and get overnights during the week.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:16 PM
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Sorry to hear that. You got fired and your old income was used?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 08:56 AM
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I don’t have the option to go part time it’s full time only. I don’t understand, How is it reasonable to: a) expect someone to not get fired when dealing with incredible personal stress and they can’t focus or feel motivated to work at optimal levels b) be forced to work a job you don’t want to do anymore if you maintained that job stress to be with your family and see your children every day. If your personal life circumstances have changed the family life has changed. Thanks good idea on the d…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 08:55 AM
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It’s not quitting it would be getting fired for poor performance I work a demanding job where you have to be very focused and motivated and on to succeed and I know that it would be impossible for me to continue working like that.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 03:35 AM
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This is in CT near nyc. I work in Manhattan. I know I would not have the desire to want to work and commute a lot of hours post divorce. I’d want to see my kids more than just 2 weekends. But Anything local would pay a lot less.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 03:14 AM
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What a heartless reply you have no empathy do you
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 11:34 PM
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No im the dad but this is interesting perspective thanks
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 10:42 PM
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Hmm it could be he is appealing but can’t for 2 years. Meaning he asked for equal but the judge denied that request based on their bias and the mom’s preference. But hypothetically let’s say you know that if u marry the mom there is zero chance he’ll get more custody based on the creation of a new family unit. So you marrying the mom means you will be with his kids 26 days a month and you’ll displace him and he’s asking you not to do that
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 11:52 AM
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Let’s say you wanted to marry one of them and the dad reached out to you respectfully and asked you not to until he could get better custody and he did not want to lose his kids. Would you be willing to listen to him?
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 12:55 AM
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I think you are missing the point altogether , this has nothing to do with the stepdad assessing the dad or that he legally has to protect the his role — this is an argument about moral integrity and the stepdad not destroying the dads chance to get fair custody. Not wanting a stepdad to displace your role is not narcissistic.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 07:05 PM
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So then are stepdads in this particular scenario showing very bad character
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 06:56 PM
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That could be a reasonable compromise perhaps
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 06:55 PM
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