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You don't know if you are going to commit to someone for life in a few months. You go into relationships with life time commitment as a goal, as a mindset. If you date someone and only expect it to be casual then it will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 10:26 PM
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Every time I hear a man flat out admits he will not date a woman who makes more than him How often does that actually happen, really? ​ But why do women always seem to have a problem with it? Women don't want to date down. It really is that simple. How they define it changes daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 02:59 AM
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A FWB is inherently a temporary arrangement. A marriage (even if it only lasts a year) is expected to be long term and so the people getting into the marriage should think in those long relationship terms, thus, it is a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 02:53 AM
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Dating is dating. Marriage is a Long Term Relationship (intentional). FWB is friends with benefits (casual.)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 02:27 AM
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Anything that isn't with the intention of it lasting our life, is casual to me. It is one or the other. There is no middle ground. I am sure there are plenty of people who go into relationships to "Test the water" or whatever and dip one toe in, but to me that is a cowardly way to look at relationships and life in general. Do or do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 10:46 PM
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LTR means to me, exclusive monogamous relationship with the intention of it lasting the rest of our lives. I am not sure how it can be defined any other way?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 10:32 PM
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I think it takes a certain amount of social experience to understand how to properly interact with people. And I think a lot of guys are hiding in their safe spaces like video games and hobbies instead of learning how to interact with people. I feel like women naturally gravitate more toward social interactions more than guys who are more interested in solo activities. Over time, it created a big imbalance that we are seeing now, especially since technology allows it to be so easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 03:24 AM
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The guys I know who have the most success with women are fun guys to be around full stop. They know how to read a room, dress well, get the raise at work, and make people comfortable around them. They're also, in general, good people. The other kind of guy that has "success" with women is the sociopath/narcissistic guy who usually obsesses over his looks or physique and usually only gets short term "success" or ends up with a woman who is very inexperienced. Remember that saying "women prefer gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 03:08 AM
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that's not an unlikely scenario. I don't not like double negatives, but this kinda irked me for some reason. I think men and women tend to have different expectations as to what "work" is in a relationship. For example, remembering her brother's girlfriend's birthday is a thoughtful gesture, but for me being successful and meeting deadlines at work is more important than a person I met once and saying "and we should do something." OK, well I should have remembered, but give me a little credit, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 09:24 PM
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There's plenty of room between "asshole" and "simping doormat" I agree with you, however, it seems like after you are with someone long enough, things get simplified to either extreme and that's all she sees in you is one or the other. You forgot her brother's girlfriend's birthday? "You asshole never remember anything." You bought her tampons and flowers? "Why can't you just do what I ask? Don't waste money on flowers." also, a week earlier she was complaining you never buy her flowers
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 10:42 PM
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Being emotionally vulnerable with a woman isn't attractive. It is a let down and disappointment. Women are going to reply to this and say I am wrong, but you know it in your heart it is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 09:54 PM
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What about guys who drive lifted trucks or a BMW with lots of mods?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 03:19 AM
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Shhh- it is fun to watch the crazies come up with new ways to deny objective reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 02:25 AM
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Thanks, I take pride in that although I try not be too proud.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 09:12 PM
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I was referring to myself. I wasn't a single mom, I was the child of a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 09:11 PM
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My dad was a deadbeat. He was a loser, he saw other people had more than him and he wanted it without working for it. He hated the idea of hard work when he saw bankers making millions doing nothing. He was supposed to pay $150/month in child support for me and my brother but he couldn't even pay that. He ended up owing over $10k by the time I was 18. I didn't see him once for 10 years until I turned 18. And instead of becoming an incel (although, if they existed at the time, I may have identifi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 02:27 AM
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You're dependent on someone else and are sacrificing your potential Or the way you are looking at it is incomplete, everything in life is a sacrifice, no matter what choices you make. Going into medical school means you aren't going to start a band and do gigs as often as you can. Even though you would have turned into a huge music star, so you sacrificed your potential to help heal people. Or, you could have skipped all that and had 8 kids, who then proceed to have successful lives. My only poi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 12:50 AM
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So women who raise kids, keep the house, and cook the food aren't working? I am glad I live in a country that doesn't define what type of work my wife and I need to do. Freedom rocks! I would rather have my wife to have the freedom to do whatever she wants rather than what you tell her she should do, how about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 09:46 PM
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If you feel like you have to compromise so much, then why are you with that person?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 01:38 AM
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I like that my gf can go in a store and spend hours in there roaming around. I Hate the store and want to get out as fast as possible. She also has a kind heart, she wants to help people and take care of them, like make them food, give advice, or listen. I also value her honesty and personal integrity. Her actions and thoughts are congruent and predictable, because she is who she is and doesn't even try to be something she isn't. She is confident in being who she is. There is a certain grace she…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 11:08 PM
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It's not a very high bar to meet, which makes it even worse that so many guys don't. No joke. I find it humiliating so many men I work with are such losers. Short sighted goals, no savings, no ambition, video games and chronic porn addiction. I don't blame women for feeling so distraught. At work I feel like a dad trying teach my children to be adults and these are grown "educated" men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:41 AM
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What is a "good" woman in your eyes? Someone who tells the truth and takes care of herself. That is a woman I want to wife up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 02:46 AM
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I literally can't even.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 12:56 AM
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Absolutely, yes you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 10:33 PM
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And the ones who say "very few modern women are attractive for marriage" more often than not just want a mommy bangmaid whose existence revolves around them and lets them coast through life without having to bring anything to the table but a paycheck. Genuine question for you, what exactly should a man bring to the table, in addition to his paycheck? Also, considering you answer that question, shouldn't the man also expect his wife to do some housework and care about him? "Mommy bangmaid" is a b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 10:06 PM
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I wanted to write a lot here because I have some ideas about why this would be the case and how to overcome it. But you haven't replied to anyone in over 8 hours, which makes me wonder if this isn't a genuine post but more of a troll post? But for anyone else who feels similar to this girl, it is very important to realize that you are only seeing things through your eyes, what you want, what is attractive to you. A man is more than just something to make you feel attractive, there's a lot more t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 11:06 PM
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Men don't know how to lead And women do? Sometimes leading means making mistakes and having a loving spouse understand you did the best you could with what you had. Being a good leader doesn't mean being right every time, no one can do that. Women want men to lead but then you also want to criticize them and say you can do it better, but you don't have the responsibility sitting on your shoulders. I feel like this place is the blind leading the blind!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 04:26 AM
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It sounds like depression, have you spoken to your Dr.?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 10:34 PM
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Being overweight is hard, it is easy to take things too personal. I know because I used to be 340lbs, and I was the same way. I lost over 100lbs and have kept it off for more than 2 years and everything about my life has changed. Even picking up trash off the floor is easier, everything has changed. One thing for you to do is try and assume positive intentions from every interaction with people. You might think they are teasing you, but maybe they're just trying to be funny. It is all in your mi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 10:24 PM
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Hi, I think I can understand your problem but you aren't going to like what I have to say. I do want to help you, but remember I am a stranger on the internet and can only interpret what you have written. All that said, what you are perceiving is not the reality of the situation, you feel a certain way about the interaction (like with your coworker) and you feel like he was mocking you. In a literal sense, yes, he was, but not in a malicious way in a playful way, mocking you, because most adults…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 10:10 PM
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No you are totally wrong, here is why, our biology matters. You can try to discount it as much as you like but it has been here for hundreds of millions of years. JP even pointed out that you can give antidepressants to lobsters and they will fight again sooner and stand up taller. And that is just a small example, lobsters and humans haven't shared a common ancestor for 300 million years and yet the system is the same. There are a lot of things that are biological that you can't just toss away …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 09:28 PM
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Women only find 20% of guys acceptable in the first place, so no, low participation shows that they aren't finding what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 09:19 PM
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Only one thing, tell the truth. Be honest about what you want, be honest about what you are willing to give, be honest and fair compromising, be honest when discussing your needs. People seem to think that hiding everything is the best choice for peace, but it isn't. It is easier to deal with an uncomfortable truth than the uncertainty of a lie. And it is okay if we are honest with each other and decide that it is a deal breaker as we are saving each other so much time!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 09:45 PM
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Lack of self awareness is rampant everywhere. Not just here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 09:06 PM
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Did the fact you were dating a narcissist play any part in your lack of self esteem? His ego and put downs shouldn't affect you anymore because that type of man is garbage relationship material. Looksmatch is such a stupid term. A 87 year old can get a playboy bunny if he is a billionaire. A broke male model with a perfect body might get an attractive woman to pay for his carefree lifestyle. There's too much involved. Does that mean a greasy, balding, low income, overweight guy is going win Sele…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 04:46 AM
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I'd rather listen to nails on a chalkboard than listen to those screeching cats
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 12:30 AM
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SO I don't think your actively 4 hour a day gym guy getting back from his cake-walk $100k job in his BMW is just sauntering into the bar to find the fattest chick he can find. Whoa, I feel personally attacked, do you know me? But I have never been with a fat girl or an ugly one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 11:04 PM
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I absolutely do not want a woman to chase me. And I do value femininity. Every time a woman has pursued me, the relationship felt strange to me. Like, I had way too much control over everything and I could do whatever I wanted and she would be totally fine with it. It didn't feel like much of a relationship. I much prefer the relationship I have with my gf (why I want to marry her) because she is feminine, I chase her (mostly), but she has the courage to say whatever she wants, even if it might …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 12:11 AM
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Yup- Enough reddit for today!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 11:36 PM
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I am naturally a fairly optimistic person, but I also think my future wife is a unicorn. Virgin, kind, smart, honest, hard working, extremely attractive, etc. She doesn't spend any time on reddit or any social media except liking her sister's baby pictures on facebook. She doesn't have any vices I am aware of. She is very high quality, so it motivates and propels me work hard for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 09:12 PM
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Username checks out?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 02:18 AM
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Good luck on your marriage. Thanks. I will need all the luck I can get. I am glad you are finding peace, and I mean those words more than just as a platitude. Death is peace, it is rest from the everyday chaos and annoyances of life. There is almost no rhyme or reason to half the stuff going on around us anyway. People are just people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 02:16 AM
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I am fascinated you used the phrase "people as just people." My mom died unexpectedly at 45 years old, and after a long time of recovering from a devastating unexpected loss of the only person who loved me at age 22, I have a very similar view to you. In fact, I oddly say something similar "people are people." All of the anxiety and issues we have, and not all of them are as important as they seem. But some things are more important than people realize, like ceasing seizing the day takes priorit…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 01:46 AM
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I am in a LTR and planning to get married soon. I don't play video games anymore nor have any interest in porn. But virtually every guy I know is obsessed with video games and "other distractions." It is like they float a little further from reality every day. So Nope, I am not checking out, I am opting in. My comment was only to explain that it is very easy to escape reality and a lot of women make it so difficult to be in a relationship with them, it's not worth the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 08:57 PM
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Not all, but some men want one woman to be with for the rest of their lives. That means all chapters of their life story have the same characters. Some guys are mentally more like children or don't know they need to grow up. They want to stay in the young and fun stage of life. Responsibility is hard and a family, home, career, etc. is not always fun and carefree like being single. So my advice to any women who read this is to vet the man you are with carefully. Does he want children? Does he wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 03:20 AM
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The thing is, video games and porn are super easy. Chasing women is hard. Even in the best scenarios, relationships are difficult. If you don't want men to check out and go their own way, maybe you should treat us nicer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 11:52 PM
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I haven't read all the other posts, but I am a man about to marry my gf and here is something you need to understand. He won't understand hints. Also, he needs to understand, appreciate, and truly comprehend how important a marriage is to you. A lot of men view it as a superficial pointless ritual. But you must get him to understand how important it is to you. Even if you have to be entirely direct and say things like, you have "always dreamed of being married since you were a little girl and yo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 09:36 PM
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I disagree with your definition, I think it is more accurately defined as any emotional labor she doesn't want to do but feels obligated to do; responsibility is a man's job after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 02:24 AM
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This reminds me of a guy who was 53 and set his age range 23-50. I told him that seems a bit weird and if people knew you were seeking out really young women, it would put them off. And he basically said to mind my own business. But, dude, you were asking for help? I told him I am 37 and I wouldn't date a 23 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 09:08 PM
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Thank you for the reminder- absolute truth!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 08:28 PM
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While I agree with you, it is hard for women to find partners they actually love. I feel like that is because hypergamy is a moving target. Once she reaches a certain level, she sees a friend that has something more or different and suddenly the woman you built a life with who has been dependable for years changes drastically. On a whim.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 03:24 AM
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So it has to be a bit of satire because no one can actually be that delusional, right? I love my GF and she is every bit as feisty as some of the women are there, but she's also loving and forgiving. It is basically just being open with me- grumpy when things aren't the way she wants, happy when things are going well for us, and no games. The honesty can be brutal but frankly I would rather deal with the brutal truth than the uncertainty of a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 10:24 PM
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No, the women there deserve to be treated like KWeeNs with no effort on their own while simultaneously ragging on most men as low value "scrotes." The truly appalling thing to me is the advice to "never teach a man, just block him." Not everyone has an opportunity to date often and some of the mistakes guys make could be avoided with a little openness and kindness. This KWeeN mentality is pretty gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 08:09 PM
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I have been in both situations and the real answer is that it is somewhere in the middle. I am not trying to be obtuse but both men and women will "try too hard" if they feel like they are the lower value person after a higher value person, and the person with more value has more power. You want to be in a relationship where you both feel like you're with a higher value person, but just a bit, not extreme. That's the only way I think relationships work, but don't look at me, it isn't like I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 08:04 PM
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I assume every guy on the internet looks exactly like the second guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:26 AM
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Imitate a two thousand year old zombie that died betrayed by his friends and a virgin? I feel attacked. J/K. I think he just couldn't seal the deal with Mary and so got political. It happens man, and the government didn't like what he had to say. Used him as an example for all the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:52 AM
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My best friend and girlfriend are very left leaning and I am conservative. It does make for interesting conversations and I like having my views challenged and engaging with other points of view. And when it is done respectfully it is actually a lot of fun, I think Joe Rogan does a good job by just asking questions, even if the person says something he disagrees with, he can say, I disagree, but continue, let's hear more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:07 AM
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I think the problem is tribalism (on both sides) and the perception that my "in group" is being threatened, so you're evil. That doesn't lead to civil discourse or exchange of ideas it leads to even more extremism. It doesn't just happen with politics, it also happens with church groups over doctrine and even little kids playing with toys. In another note, how do you survive swimming in the super woke pond? It seems like there can't be enough virtue signally, to the point of absurdity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:53 AM
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There is zero time frame other than when you feel ready. Someone who loves you is going to wait. My gf is virgin also and we have been dating 2 years in December and we would have already been married if it weren't for covid-19, but we are still waiting because she really wants to be married first. She sometimes changes her mind and doesn't want to wait but I don't want her to do something she regrets later, so we are still waiting to get married first. She isn't religious per se but very tradit…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 09:37 PM
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Rule 1 and rule 2
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 02:55 AM
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What are your desires, specifically? I want people to tell the truth as best they can to each other and not hide anything from each other. Do you even want a partner? If you just want to have sex then say so. Based on your complaints about men and women, what would you like men and women to start doing? I consider lying about the same as cheating. It is easier to deal with an uncomfortable truth than the uncertainty around a lie. A lie is an intention to manipulate and deceive the person you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 02:52 AM
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Yeah, both sides do it. Like trying to turn a hoe into a housewife, women try to change the bad boy into a gentle sir. The real issue is that people go after who they are attracted to and not who will treat them well. Mostly, because people who treat you well it is harder to trust and respect them because all the attention and kindness feels unearned.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 02:35 AM
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This isn't how it works. Yes it is. This is a tell that you put women on the pedestal. No it isn't. It shows that I feel special for being chosen and loved by someone I adore. I suppose the alternative is that I can feel annoyed and disgusted someone would actually love me, right? you put women on the pedestal. Which means you'll also take them off at some point, which is scary I feel like you are projecting here, has someone pulled their love away from you before and you felt like the rug was p…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/20 08:09 PM
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Another thing you mentioned is the thrill of the chase. That is not the case with me, what works for me is knowing she has chosen me out of all the other potencial people she could be with. That motivates me beyond measure to be my best for her, and then she reciprocates.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 03:07 AM
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I don't seek validation from my "bros" and any man who is beholden to praise from his bros is not a real man but a child. I do what I want because I want to do, and if anyone doesn't like it, they can pound sand. I live my life the way I want to because it is the only one I have and I don't care if your feelings are hurt or if you disapprove. That said, no high quality person makes fun of someone they had sex with. That is something a low iq person would do. Sex is intimate and close and it is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 02:39 AM
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I think I know how to answer this. I think men are more visual, in that we are attracted to certain body styles, we see them visually and we react to it. Women are a bit different in that they see certain body styles and are attracted to them, but works differently. If a tall guy stands next to a woman, in kind of a protective way, she feels something deep inside. It isn't exactly physical attraction the same way guys feel it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 02:52 AM
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I don't understand why some guys get so butthurt about women wearing makeup. They go to the gym to get gainz but a little eyeliner is 'deceiving men?' Ok bro. Go level up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 07:38 PM
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No one forces you to work in those environments, you chose to. It is hard to imagine being so self delusional that you complain about something that you would have known about for years before you voluntarily did it. Also, my gf has only worn make-up twice in the 2 years we have been dating, and both times were for weddings we were invited to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 09:48 PM
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I visited Vietnam and the price haggling for everything was so tedious. And literally every bill had to be checked because at a restaurant, we had 4 beers but they charged us for 17. It was the difference between like 41 dollars and like 47 dollars so I was just going to pay it, but my Vietnamese GF yelled at the owners until they charged us the right amount. And this is just one example, this happened multiple times every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 09:34 PM
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There is our nature and then there are our choices. Fighting our nature is hard but it can be done. It takes discipline and hard work, so if you are around people who don't hold you responsible and additionally make excuses for bad behavior, it will be a lot easier to follow those natural instincts. You also have to have a conscience, you see, people who cheat on a test at school feel very nervous the first time doing it. But after they do it enough times, it isn't that big of a deal. You never …
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 09:34 PM
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Yeah that statistic that "the best thing you can do for the environment is not have kids." It hyperinflated having children, because statistically, those children would have children, and they would have children, and so on. So basically having a child is like doing all stuff (flying on a plane, driving a year, etc.) times a thousand. It was a super misleading statistic and yet people accept it without question.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:22 AM
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Absolutely spot on, and another thing, I don't know why OP is defending him. She apparently came here for help but she looks completely convinced to me. I wouldn't be able to trust someone who could twist reality so much and distort the truth just to justify their own beliefs. To me that would be a huge red flag and a deal breaker more than being a klepto.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 01:23 AM
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He seems manipulative to me, especially the crying, oh my. I think the point you are making here is valid and should be heard loud and clear. He is using his beliefs to justify stealing. What else can he justify doing down the road? You think it isn't a slippery slope until you're sliding down it. There are two sides, you are either on the side of the law or you are not. I sleep a lot better at night knowing that law enforcement isn't looking for me and my picture isn't on the inside of every st…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 10:27 PM
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The real problem is listening to anyone who tries to feed you with strategies or whatever. Treat every woman you meet as an individual, she was once a little girl, she grew up to be the woman you are dating. Treat her like a person who has every bit as much agency as you. Also, realize her thinking patterns are going to be different than yours. She will react emotionally to things you won't expect. Enjoy the differences and appreciate the way the women you meet are. Don't try to force anything, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 11:41 PM
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Then it was just another asshole forcing me to do things I didn’t want to do. Sex is supposed to be fun, enjoyable, and a bit carefree which is why it is way better in a committed relationship, imho. Anyone pressuring you is an asshole and that guy who took advantage of you while drunk is a sexual predator.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 12:46 AM
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I think you mean axis not axes. But no matter how women actually answer this question here, you have to understand that what they actually do is totally different than what they say. They will say they only want a guy with a good job and who is a little taller than them and has good humor and values. But who she actually sleeps with is a little bit more dangerous and exciting. The guys who actually get her excited are not who she "should" date, and finding a guy who fits all the criteria she wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 09:38 PM
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There is a good discussion here that can be had about when it is OK to leave. Relationships are hard and if you already have one foot out the door then you'll always have shallow relationships. But if you dig both feet in and never consider the possibility of leaving, then it opens the door for abuse and other bad behavior. It is much more nuanced if children are involved.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 08:37 PM
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Far too often on /relationships or /dating I see "me (f/21) with my bf (m/38), he never cleans, doesn't have a job, and doesn't seem to want kids like we agreed to." Then she goes on about working 2 jobs, borrowing from her parents, and cleaning up after a guy who does literally nothing around the house and plays video games all day long and ignores her. And the poor girl is trying to make it work, like, her whole mindset is, I have to make this work somehow, I just need him to see this the righ…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 08:34 PM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 07:58 PM
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When women say they want men to open up, what they mean is, they want the man who ignores her texts, sends mixed signals, and gives her tingles to open up. They don't care about you the way you care about them. They don't want to do have to do any work, they just wanna have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 04:16 AM
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Right, because women get actual labor from men, and if not literal labor, they benefit from the fruits of his labor by way of his paycheck. But, it is fine for women to put any value on their emotional labor, and I am fine to walk away if it the cost is too much for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 04:07 AM
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It matters if we don't have enough children to replace us and that leads to social and economical collapse. Have you ever watched the movie Idiocracy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 03:40 AM
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What kind of diet? Paleo? Mediterranean diet? Low Carb? Please don't say vegan...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 08:07 PM
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Student loans don't go away just because you decided to stop working and raise a kid. So the husband who is working would have to pay the loans. It happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 12:22 AM
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Specifically when dating, it is something a woman will say right away. Sometimes it is like a badge of honor and sometimes it is like a "you have to deal with it." I understand that people feel anxious a lot, but it is possible to change it with self-talk and having a more optimistic point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 09:26 PM
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I have a female friend (as in- I have no romantic interest in her, at all) and some of the things we have talked about and how she goes through it, shows me, that men and women are (basically) two sides of the same coin. Like, yin and yang. He might be pulling away but you're being too clingy. Both sides have faults and need to get to know each other and understand each other better and make allowances for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 04:15 AM
1

So for women who don't have anxiety (diagnosed or self diagnosed), do you think there is something wrong with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 04:11 AM
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Yup, that's the year my mom died, my family sued me (out of vengeance because they thought I contributed to her death by neglecting her or something insane like that), and I had absolutely nothing except a dirtbag dad I didn't know (who didn't have a job.) Everything was super easy for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 04:02 AM
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This is so true. Never thought about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:57 AM
1

I am 37 and I felt like that too when I was 22, but slowly I accumulated wealth and climbed the ladder. Of course, I had massive anxiety about where would I work, could I do a job, will I ever meet anyone, and more, but it all worked itself out over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 03:53 AM
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Our effort does not matter like it did in the past. I feel like that isn't true and it is just a way to win votes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:16 AM
1

I have noticed that women tend to compare themselves to other people and reddit is full of them asking "is this ok?" As if, they need validation that their boyfriend doesn't care about her plants.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:12 AM
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Precisely. That is my guess, but it isn't exactly an obvious connection. But I have noticed that people who are more anxious take less responsibility for things going on in their life. In other words, "things happen to me" instead of "I made bad choices but I learned from them."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:11 AM
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Without motivation, gen z is slowly becoming depressed. I feel like you are speaking more about you than the generation. Inspiration doesn't just fall out of the sky. You gotta go hussle and make experiences for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:04 AM
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I've been dating her almost 2 years and I haven't seen her act anxious. I have seen her get angry and she can be stubborn, but I have never seen her get anxiety over anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:01 AM
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Pretty much! She gets so anxious she literally drives by his house to see if his car is there. Like, if I did stuff like that, I'd probably be put in jail! She is a nurse and super cute so she gets away with whatever she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:59 AM
1

That is awesome, do you attribute it to anything specific?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:56 AM
1

Even highly educated women who are chill and deal with crazy patients (I have a nurse friend) and she is highly anxious over certain things, like if her guy text her 2 word replies all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:52 AM
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I know they do and I understand that. The problem is, why? There are mental tools out there to help. And the only thing to fear is fear itself, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:39 AM
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I have always wondered if there is something else going on. For example, hiding behind anxiety as a way to get out of responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:26 AM
1

I made the exact same mistake before, that's why I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:10 AM
1

Yeah, the car's weight helps with leverage, but because this happened, you know next time, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 01:01 AM
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I dated a lot of women, some highly educated and some with zero education. The one I am dating now has only high school and training in specialized medical field (no degree). Education has absolutely zero value to me, in choosing the person I marry. I would rather marry an uneducated waitress (she knows how to work hard, knows how to deal with difficult people, and has to work under pressure.) Educated women tend to have easier jobs and don't know what it is like to hussle and work hard for that…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 12:58 AM
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Also, my guess is you jacked the car up before loosening the nuts/bolts
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 12:37 AM
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Do you see what you are doing here? You are blaming the tools, the nut was too tight, you aren't strong enough. A guy doesn't think this way, if his tools don't work, he modifies them (for example, extending the length of the wrench with a breaker bar) or using a lighter to heat the nut up, or any number of things. There is no one to come help us, so we have to come up with a solution, we have to. We don't get to say, "I was just too weak."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 12:36 AM
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blame men for not 'stepping up'. That is really the key to this thread, men have to take responsibility for virtually all the heavy lifting. If the tire goes flat or any maintenance on anything it is always the guy who is supposed to do it all. Women will always ask men to take care of them because they don't know how to change a tire, but if a guy doesn't know how to do that? What a worthless man! It crosses into all kinds of areas and the expectations are that men should always be able to do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 09:36 PM
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I totally agree- you are right. Like, in my case, my mom is deceased and my dad is a huge piece of garbage. It is no wonder my mom divorced him when I was a kid. So I already know I don't have a support structure or backup if I need someone to help with my children. My gf moved her from Asia when she was 14, and her dad basically abandoned her with her step-mom, so she doesn't have support either except for her sister. The whole point I was making is that a lot of guys expect their wives to keep…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 09:17 PM
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I totally agree with you. It is the responsible choice for the stability of the children. What I don't agree with is most of the women I have met have gone to college and spent thousands of dollars on an education that they decide not use but then their husbands have to pay for. I am not advocating that women shouldn't get educated, they totally should! But if they are looking for an economically responsible husband, they should also be economically responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 09:09 PM
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It is the ever increasing demands that are the problem. At first, they are ok with a guy just earning more. Then they decide to reduce hours or quit and live off their guy. Then, they get bored doing all the housework and expect the guy "to do more." Remember, everything is subjective and changes on a whim because women are far more driven by emotions than logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:47 PM
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And as for covid dude.... Ohh I hate that guy. He got my girlfriend's sister pregnant, the 3rd woman he got pregnant, and moved in with my gf and sister. He can't drive because of "some stuff that happened" and everything about him irritates me. A huge Trump supporter, vapes and games all day long. Everything about him makes my blood boil. The first lady wasn't a teller, she was in corporate. She worked in a big skyscraper and did reports and stuff- she had good benefits and a career. But there …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:34 PM
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Haha- it is, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:55 AM
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But in the case of Jay, his wife had an established career, not just "a job" and she didn't say she wanted to leave until after they got married because she felt "stress." He loves his wife so he sold his truck and got a beater car (280k+ miles) to make the reduction in cash flow work. So now she gets to play half the day and he drives an old car.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:43 AM
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That's the point. She moves in with her husband and now he pays for everything and her money is "fun money." Whereas before she had to pay her own rent and car payment, etc. Now he pays all that stuff and she can play. This is why women don't marry broke guys!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:39 AM
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They take a drastic pay cut, usually right in half. In my country you get paid per hour worked. So working half the hours is usually half the pay!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:32 AM
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I am 37, so everyone I am talking about is around the same age as me (my gf is 31, so also around that age) where they almost all do have young children.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:27 AM
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Okay, well either he conforms to what you want or you conform to what he wants. You can't magically wipe away how you feel.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 03:10 AM
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I live in a decent sized town in Minnesota. I think it has more to do with the cost of living, it is pretty cheap here tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:08 AM
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Ok, one guy I work with, Jay, his wife had a good paying corporate job for 11 years at a bank. After they got married, she said she got too stressed out work and wanted a simpler job. So she worked as a barista part-time. But that also got stressful because "teenages." My girlfriend's sister works in a hospital in patient services and decided to reduce her hours (1.0 to 0.5) and she would like to quit but her boyfriend quit his job during covid because he would make more on unemployment (not sur…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 03:05 AM
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The reason you are feeling jealous and insecure is because you know you are the side chick. He doesn't want you the way you want him or he would be trying to lock you down. He is only using you and does not want you to be his girlfriend. He knows you won't leave him so he is taking advantage of that to do whatever he wants, I find that to be distasteful and disrespectful. But if you want advice on how to stop being jealous, then just stop being jealous. If you start to feel jealous, use mindfuln…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 02:42 AM
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I shouldn't have made the snarky comment about Chad, but I actually can't think of a single relationship other than one, where the wife/gf didn't want to work less hours. The other one relationship was the lady is a MD and earns like half a million a year so the guy is a stay at home dad. I genuinely can't think of any other than that example of the MD, I would say at least 20 relationships where the woman wanted to work less after moving in/getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 02:02 AM
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Just about every relationship I know, the woman wants to work less hours once she moves in. That way she has more time to giggle at Chad's advances at the gym she can spend more time at while you are working 9-5.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 01:04 AM
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I genuinely have no idea. Can you give me some stock picks that only go up tomorrow? ​ Do you think she'll magically develop her missing lust and desire the minute she says "I do"? ​ I view it as a gamble and a risk. I feel like I have seen some passion inside her and then she feels guilty and pulls way back. I am investing in someone who I hope works out, but maybe I will go broke. I won't know unless I try.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 01:39 AM
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Right- but how can she be empathetic about something she completely doesn't understand. She doesn't even want to understand because it is so important for her to wait until she is married. She isn't religious per se it is just the culture she comes from, a small village in Vietnam. EDIT: I want to add she has lived in America since she was 14, so it isn't like I am dating a village girl, not that there would be anything wrong with that if I was. She works at the same hospital as I do and I met h…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 11:37 PM
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I am dating a woman like this for almost 2 years now and we would likely already be married if it weren't for covid. She is a virgin but I am not. I have no issue waiting, I think everything will be fine after we get married. Until then, it isn't easy on me and she has no compassion for that because she doesn't understand desire or lust at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 10:54 PM
2

Where do you live? Because I have a feminine friend exactly like you and she's sad because she doesn't have friends to go try dresses and shoes on with.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 03:31 AM
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What is alpha to you isn't alpha to me. To some people earning a shitload of money is alpha. To some people having impressive muscle mass is alpha. To some people having a confident attitude is alpha. To some people you have to have all of these traits and more to be alpha. Some people will find a guy with a mix (shit load of money, very confident, but kinda pudgy) and still find him alpha, while other people will say hell no. You are seeking validation not traits we can agree on or you would ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 08:19 PM
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She is seeking validation, that is the only thing that makes sense. She is losing attraction to him for some reason (probably too reliable) so she needs someone to validate her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 10:14 PM
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Why do you care what anyone thinks? Can you live your life happily without the validation of internet strangers? Some people will say he is alpha some will say he is beta. There are two sides to every coin. You shouldn't care what anyone thinks except you and your LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 10:08 PM
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He has never been married and doesn’t have kids Does this mean he wants those things now with you? Or is he just saying that to date you for a while. The problem I have with large age gaps like 16 years is his experience can make it really easy to manipulate you. Not to scare you, he might be perfectly lovely, but be aware if you are always capitulating to him. If he makes you do things you don't like or feel uncomfortable with all the time, like, unbalanced in ways he never surrenders to you? T…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 10:15 PM
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You know that halo effect people have, they can get away with anything? Noticing when people abuse that power is key to finding out if a person is good or bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 12:07 AM
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I am a guy and I agree with you. One of my female friends said that guys have a power over her, she hates to admit it, but when a really attractive guy strings her along, she kinda accepts it because she is attracted to him. But when looked at it objectively, who does childish stuff like that? And she can let the player go be a player somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 11:53 PM
1

Maybe some men are like you describe but not all. I would say people like you describe them are broken and I wouldn't have anything to do with them. If I see a pretty woman, I don't feel any hate or anger I can't have her? I have a GF and I love her so other women are basically not a part of my mind. They are just co-workers or friends or whatever. Also, my GF is my companion, she is sweet, and yeah we have a good time being intimate. She is my GF, that is how things work. People who have such p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 09:41 PM
1

I think what you need to do is keep meeting people and keep being you. Don't ever have sex with someone unless you want to. The right guy will wait and be patient. If he leaves then that is a good thing, you dodged a bullet. I think too many women feel pressured to do what everyone else does because the man they want expects is. But if he won't wait for you to feel comfortable (no matter how long it is) then he isn't going to be a good long term partner.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 08:42 PM
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I am a man, I have been cheated on, my gf at the time had a million excuses, it wasn't her fault, in her mind... I have never cheated on anyone. The whole concept of cheating on someone is repulsive and shows lack of integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 12:15 AM
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There is no such thing as rape culture. No one thinks rape is a good thing or endorses it or allows it. If anyone covers up rape they are just as guilty as the person committing it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 08:54 PM
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I've never seen one, never been to a strip club, and have exactly zero desire for any kind of fake interactions with women. Normal interactions with women are fake enough, thank you very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 12:03 AM
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I think it is a competition thing. Consciously or not, men like to win and winning is easier if you have lower expectations. At least I am not like that other guy, amiright?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 09:10 PM
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I think Dread game is the most insane thing I have ever heard. It is just manipulation, plain and simple, full stop. If someone is using a manipulative tactic on you? You call them out on it and talk about it like grown adults. You don't pout, and plan revenge to game them harder than they gamed you. How old is everyone who is here, 14?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 08:22 PM
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Pretty amusing how when men don't find these women all that attractive, the problem must be with the men Bingo! Women get it right in some ways (makeup, dressing feminine, etc.) but get it wrong in other ways. I am supposed to be the man of the house, why would I want a woman who is constantly trying to knock me down and take control while simultaneously absolving herself of all responsibility? Men want a partner not a controlling, demanding, high maintenance woman with ever changing whims and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 11:03 PM
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Is he someone you can fully trust? Ask yourself what is important to you about him and if you are getting swept up in the feelings or if you are really seeing him for who is. It isn't easy and everyone thinks they don't wear rose tinted glasses, but try to be objective and even ask your parents what they thought of him (since he already met them.) Your parents undoubtedly love you and want you to be with the right kind of person. Bring up any concern with them and discuss it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 09:09 PM
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You didn't say how much older than you he is, and it seems like he is MUCH older than you. But even if he isn't, you should be listening to your gut. Is this the man you can put all your faith and trust in? To me, there are just too many weird inconsistencies.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 09:02 PM
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I have been on the internet long enough to know when I smell a rat. "We men" are obviously so blinded we can't tell if a woman is marrying us without being attracted? I mean, sure it can be faked for a while, but it is the little things that give it away.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 02:27 AM
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I am absolutely a one woman man. I have a great job $100k+, my own place, a cool car, and lots of spending money, decent emergency fund, and I am over 6 feet tall, and pretty good looking. I meet new people all the time but I have absolutely zero desire in any women except my gf (soon to be wife- damn covid). I know some guys would want to spread their seed and whatever but I have no desire for that at all. I want to have stability and an easy life. There is absolutely no desire for drama or exc…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:36 AM
2

I know a guy who has gotten three different women pregnant. He can't drive, he quit his fast food job because unemployment benefits paid more. This isn't the lifestyle I would brag about (he is named Derrick, which is why this post is extra creepy to me.)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:16 AM
2

Trying to read all this made my head hurt. Is this how we write in 2020?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 11:24 PM
1

What are your thoughts on women who decide they want to go childless? Why would I care what a person decides for themselves? I think some better questions are: Who are you seeking validation from? Why do you need this validation? How do you know you won't change your mind later on?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 01:18 AM
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Small-minded people need to be surrounded by people who think the things they do. People who are more self confident are perfectly fine being around people who have different points of view, and even engaging them to learn and understand them. That is how we grow and become well-rounded individuals who can be confident in our beliefs and our path in life.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/20 09:52 PM
2

Secure. I know this because I have a lot female friends of various attachment styles and I am constantly trying to figure out why they can't stay calm, or they avoid their bfs. Like, they will say he text me "ok gn" does that mean we are over? Like wtf, no he said goodnight? That is just a normal guy thing to text short texts. These are educated women in healthcare, not some bimbo waitress. One of my female friends told me her bf told her how often he watches porn in a day and she said she is so…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 02:57 AM
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Women do want a "good man," the problem is that the definition of a "good man" is constantly changing. That is hypergamy in a nutshell. My gf works with a group of women and one of them got a $10,000 engagement ring. Now all the women are comparing their rings and how cheap their husbands are, etc... Their rings were perfectly fine before, even special and beautiful, but now the taste has gone sour and they (mostly all) want better rings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:21 AM
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You seem like a thoughtful and kind person, but the questions you are asking are way out of our paygrade. I really suggest speaking to a therapist and working through your history. One of the things that thoughtful people tend to do too much of, is blame themselves. It is almost naturally to internalize everything as being "your fault" and feel self conscious over little things. Bullies can spot that mindset and that is why you were picked on. You have value, you are going to have a great life, …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 04:18 AM
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You don't have to believe me, you seem pretty set in your ways. But I have zero desire to have multiple girls, none. I only want one and I have always felt that way. If that makes me a simp or whatever, I don't care. I know who I am and I am very monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 03:41 AM
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Or you could communicate why it is so important to you that he help you right this minute when he is focused on something else. Otherwise, it seems like there's no reason to do it right when you want it instead of when I want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 09:33 PM
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It isn't just the halo effect, people are always projecting because there is no way to know how people actually are until you meet them. There is always this time when the projections are wrong and cognitive dissonance takes over.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 08:47 PM
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Yes I want my future wife to take my last name. I am USA 37 she is Vietnamese 31. She's lived in the US for 10 years and we have been dating almost 2 years. When I am marrying her, I am establishing my own family unit. It is my family and I am the one in command of the ship. This doesn't mean I get to bark orders or make irrational choices, I am responsible for my family and if it is successful or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 03:20 AM
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You are right, Chad is rare, but he will be with 150+ women by the time he is finished with college. Those women will almost always swoon over him, and every guy who dates those women after Chad has come through will forever be compared to Chad and looked down for not matching up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 12:09 AM
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Most women are too shy to communicate what they need. Or they don't know. They expect you to do it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 04:20 AM
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The heart wants what the heart wants. You can educate her logical side but she is going to move through her life focused on emotions. You need to educate her emotional side so she reacts to these emotions in a healthy intelligent way and not an emotionally irrational way. In other words, you need to make her emotionally intelligent. You have to teach her it is OK being assertive enough to say no, confident in her choices, and react to her emotions in an emotionally healthy way. So you have to ed…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 09:41 PM
3

Do women actually speak like this among their female friends? Yes, absolutely. She has talked to all her friends about your member size, what you did right and wrong in bed, if you have a mole somewhere. Literally nothing is sacred.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 02:41 AM
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I am being downvoted because they don't even realize their privliage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 03:46 AM
0

tells them what they want to hear That is what life is like to an average or above woman. They are always coddled, given the benefit of the doubt, and rewarded for no reason other than they aren't ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 10:43 PM
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#Me too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 04:22 AM
3

I actually finally figured out this "Sensitive Side" talk that women like so much but actually hate. Imagine you're married and you are camping with your wife in the middle of nowhere. Then you sprain your ankle. You have to lean on her for a couple days, literally to go to the river to go fishing. She is like a crutch, literally. But, it is only temporary. She doesn't want the responsibility of you leaning on her all the time, hell no. But for a day or two, it is an interesting new experience, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 03:56 AM
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If her post was real, it is because she was seeking validation in losing attraction to this guy. She was looking for some way to gain that attraction back to him because she thinks he is great superficially in every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 03:50 AM
1

Just curious but why?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:26 AM
2

I wanna be kandyapplez too
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:05 AM
3

Or it could be for attention because absolutely no one else does pink hair or blue strips.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 04:00 AM
1

She is attracted to his confidence, but good looks help always.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 12:38 AM
2

Haven't you ever heard, don't feed the trolls? Facts don't mean anything because the rules are all made up. I personally don't care what people think, if they wanna call themselves pansexual or whatever but biology is a science and a fact that shouldn't be confused with wishful thinking and psychological pseudobabble to make people feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 12:32 AM
2

I am more afraid of the murder hornet. I haven't been vacationing abroad due to the covidfefe so I am barely ever near the water anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:59 PM
1

I just wanted to say ass brain. But you aren't wrong, I can't suddenly get hard for a woman that I don't find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:52 PM
1

Yes, but why is that the case today? I know our genes point us in the direction but shouldn't we overpower that with our big ass brains?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:29 PM
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I know this has to be a copypasta, but I sadly know guys like this. One of them does have a gf but his family is super rich so he has never had to work a day in his life. All you need to know to understand him is that he is slowly getting the other guys I know into his fur con.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:07 PM
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You seem honest with yourself. That is extremely rare around here because everyone thinks they know everything. And if they don't know it, they won't allow someone else to know it either. This place is full of dishonest people who can't relate or have empathy. No one knows everything, all our lives are different, we come from different places entirely. There is almost no way we can debate ideas when we use the same words but they have different meanings to us all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:59 PM
1

If we are all crazy, then who is in control of this car? Jesus take the wheel!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:54 PM
1

I like the posts that talk about ideas instead of strawmen. The most interesting ones are the ones where we debate the reasons for why the world is how it is instead of just attacking the other gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:52 PM
12

Just like in the animal kingdom, you know which ones are poisonous because they have bright colors.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:36 PM
2

But you hurt my feelings. That should be a crime. I am outraged. Someone come save me. How could you do this to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:02 PM
3

I bet she gaslights people in her life so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 09:55 PM
12

I think the best way to view this, is if he is in the mood, you should allow yourself to also work with him, and try to get in the mood yourself. That doesn't mean it will always happen, but don't shut the door for no reason, just be open to the possibility that it could happen.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 09:08 PM
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My gf (31f) is a virgin and I kinda get what you mean but this is still cringy af.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:30 AM
2

Finally, the real answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 12:58 AM
2

It sounds to me like what you're trying to say is, a guy should be ready and emotionally available for your needs but you only occasionally want to deal with his needs. Maybe your ex needed more sympathy from you and because you withheld it, he keep trying to seek more because you keep pulling it away. I am not saying that a guy should use his SO as a crutch all the time, in fact I think I answered my question. I think you are saying that you do want to be an emotional crutch, but it is exactly …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 12:03 AM
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It sounds to me like what you're trying to say is, a guy should be ready and emotionally available for your needs but you only occasionally want to deal with his needs. Maybe your ex needed more sympathy from you and because you withheld it, he keep trying to seek more because you keep pulling it away. I am not saying that a guy should use his SO as a crutch all the time, in fact I think I answered my question. I think you are saying that you do want to be an emotional crutch, but it is exactly …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 12:03 AM
1

We don't need to prove anything, reality exists regardless of her acceptance of it. I hope her delusions collide with reality in ways that make everyone happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 10:17 PM
4

most men are worthless to women. "What you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul." -- from the film Billy Madison
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 09:47 PM
1

So you have no understanding of math or inverse square law? https://www.wifi-professionals.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/intensity.png Here is a picture, hopefully that works better than words.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 08:02 PM
2

I disagree, it isn't misused, it is an observation of reality and applied to dating in extremely generalized vague terms. It could also be a slight misunderstanding of what the Pareto distribution is. It doesn't mean only 20% succeed. It means, the top 20% get the most out of everyone. Like, say you know 100 guys over 5 years and you can somehow keep count of their sex lives. One guy will probably have like 800, the 2nd guy might have 120, then like 3-4 guys will be around 20. The rest of the gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 10:49 PM
1

https://effectiviology.com/80-20-rule-pareto-principle/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 10:42 PM
7

The 80/20 rule has huge variation from the top 1% to the bottom 99%. It is an inverse square law. So one Chad might have 1000 women in 5 years, Tyrone has 100 in 5 years, and 2 average guys get 20. The rest of your classmates are under 20 all the way to 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 10:41 PM
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The Pareto distribution isn't inherently flawed, it is an observation, and data supports the distribution in a lot of natural ways. It appears in nature all the time and even 20% of the carpet in your house gets 80% of the wear. The 80/20 rule is an observation, it isn't good or bad, it is just an explanation of things that already occur. Like 20% of words make up 80% of our language. It is just the way things end up naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 10:37 PM
4

You don't need any pills, you don't need to understand anything in this subreddit. Just be a decent human being to people, take responsibility for your actions, and find someone who is similar to you. This subreddit is full of people talking about the extremes, as is often the case for debates in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 09:18 PM
1

Some people consider the legacy media, cnn, abc, msnbc, etc., as conservative. Fox would be considered extreme to the right.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 09:08 PM
4

I would love for there to be a literal height check for men and weight check for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 04:28 AM
2

I don't get it, if someone finds out you aren't as tall as you claim? You are going to look like a damn fool. It is like saying to everyone you have a BMW when you have a Kia and everyone finds out you're a lying liar who lies about being truthful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 04:25 AM
3

Yeah, I am surprised by the number of guys who say they are 6'2 but aren't anywhere near as tall as me. Maybe I should start saying I am 6'4.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 04:17 AM
7

If you live in San Antonio, you probably dated my brother. He is like 5'9 and always tells people he is "almost 6 feet"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 03:00 AM
3

I am 6'2 and a half. Literally right between 6'2 and 6'3. Any time I met a girl from an app in person, she would comment that I look taller than I claim to be. That's why I make a joke about an "extra" half an inch making all the difference. But anyway, it has been in my experience that women get lied to about how tall a guy is a LOT. Which is dumb because that will always be found out eventually, and who the f actually cares about an inch or two? If you are 5'11 just say you are 5'11. My little…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 02:51 AM
1

You could also trust your man to do his job, that might make it more pleasant to live with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 08:19 PM
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I used to approach girls all the time, but I would absolutely never approach anyone I thought could be underaged. If you really look 14/15, that could be why you aren't getting the attention you probably normally would. Maybe different makeup or try none, or some way of showing your age. Also, don't be too anxious about never finding someone. You absolutely will. Finding the right one is the hard part.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 03:45 AM
3

I could really go for some Corona right now. Mmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 02:18 AM
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I am a guy and I don't do hookups. I have zero interest in having sex with someone and not having a relationship with them. I am currently in a year long relationship and we haven't had sex yet because we are waiting to get married and no it isn't a religious thing just a cultural and idealistic type of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 02:02 AM
1

I am sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 12:17 AM
1

Can you talk to her and try to figure out why having things done her way is so important to her? Maybe suggest that there is a sliding scale of importance in how things are done. Like, things that have to be a specific way are like, making medications or flying an airplane. Meanwhile, things like taking out the trash and vacuuming can be done in different ways and still accomplish the same goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 11:22 PM
1

I think having a good job makes all the difference. I earn 6 figures and have a comfortable job where I am vital but not stressed. It is always an adventure at work but it isn't like a lot of jobs. Have you ever heard of kick the dog syndrome? Dad has a bad day at work and snaps at mom, who yells at their son, who then goes off and kicks the dog. I am of the mindset that my actions and attitudes have consequences, perhaps far reaching ones. So I try to remember that in virtually all my interacti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 11:19 PM
2

These seem like trivial things. Yet I know all the small things matter when it comes to relationships with women. I suspect it's not about the trash at all, it is about you not doing what she wants when she wants it. It's a kind of power/control thing. She wants it done right now. Why can't you see her point of view and do what she wants. Right now. Meanwhile your choices are perfectly reasonable to you but she can't see that because you aren't doing what she wants. Right. Now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 10:01 PM
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I mean no disrespect at all, but I am genuinely curious. Why? It is a lot of pressure to be the only one bring home the bacon. The house, the kids, all the things you want to make your life better for your family, and all that pressure is on you alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 09:00 PM
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I have a CS bachelor and make 100k+ I think OP should focus more on the personality traits of the guy she wants rather than talking about herself in her profile. "I am curious about the world, what things are you interested in?" Something along those lines because she only has to be attractive for guys to be interested in her but she can quickly vet for guys who have some intellectual curiosity and she can learn about their job to find out the kind of money they earn. I am really glad I have a g…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 08:29 PM
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It is true, the women I find most attractive stand up for themselves and aren't too eager to please. The women that are too accommodating, too nice, work too hard for me? It feels almost abusive to take from them but it does boost my ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 03:28 AM
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I have dated a lot of low n and virgin women. They tend to be people who are very comfortable saying no. A lot of people don't realize that most women are agreeable, they want to get along with everyone, and they don't want to stand out from the herd. Also, they tend to have traditional values and dress well. Also, the ones I dated tend to be skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 12:53 AM
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I know, but developmentally, a boy needs to be more active for his brain to get wired properly. Think of it as cause and effect while the brain is still forming. And once it's a certain age without that development, it can't really correct it as easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 09:02 PM
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All I am saying is that a young boy's mind needs to develop in a natural way, like playing, hunting, being outside, being active, etc. Sitting still and being told not to move for long periods of time changes the way the brain is wired and is unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:22 PM
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For thousands of years the boys would go with dad and go hunting, gathering, and building a better life while the women stayed home and tended to the babies. Now boys are told to sit still and not do all the things our evolution has led us to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:09 PM
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I gave you an upvote but I disagree with your conclusion that it isn't a double standard. If I say, I want a woman who has never slept with a man, is thin, is younger than me, cooks, cleans, wants children, and misses me when I am away? People are going to look down on me for saying what I want. You probably have a strong reaction to my preference, but why? It is what I want, why should you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:01 AM
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But why do you get to decide what men really think? How do you know where my passions and desires are? Why do you get to question my love?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:39 AM
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"The best" is always a moving target, because you might have been "the best" until she decided you aren't anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 11:11 PM
1

Yeah I have been approached directly 4 times, and so no, it is absolutely not normal to me. That is why it feels like something is a little off. I am used to doing the pursuing, so when that is reversed, something feels different or wrong. Which is why I unconsciously assume something is wrong with the girls approaching me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 08:05 PM
1

Why can't we all just get along?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 09:13 PM
2

Your shitty analogy is actually a good example of things that can be taught and incentivized and things that can't. But soon you'll be demanding I buy your toilet paper because everyone has to poop. There is literally no end of injustice in the world so demanding other people pay for your shit (literally) is asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 08:18 PM
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You are right in that men are lazy, I know too many guy friends who are pushing 40 years old and play video games like they're still teenagers. The problem is not really with men though, there will always be lazy guys, the problem is still with women. You choose guys who are "boyfriend" material because they have physical attributes you like and try to turn them into "husband." But you can't and won't realize there's a whole bunch of guys who pay their taxes, mow their lawns, walk their dogs, ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 03:51 AM
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I have been approached (37m) a few times by women and each time I would say they were attractive and not beneath me in SMV. In fact, I think I may have been a little lower than them. I will say it is quite an unusual dynamic when I am the one being "chased" instead of doing the chasing. It makes me feel a little over-confident but also it makes me think there is something potentially wrong with this woman, like she has a past or angry stalker boyfriend or something. Probably because the first ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 03:18 AM
2

The more money we give the more politicians spend to make their buddies rich. It hardly ever works as intended to help the right people. And every positive program (say, SNAP) is designed to make people dependant rather than independent. It creates a perpetual cycle of poverty, requiring more and more resources for diminishing returns.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 01:27 AM
2

Sticks and stones can break my bones but words from bitter women won't hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 12:46 AM
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I think it is important to stabilize yourself before you try to stabilize the world, because what gives you the right to impose on me? If I have had a little success, what gives you the right to take it from me to give to less successful people? I know your intentions are good but I am really asking, what gives you the right to take away from me the things I have worked hard and earned? Why is your choice with my money better than my choices with my money?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 12:38 AM
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Whoa, I never said it was just. It is the way things are. Some people are better looking than others. Some people were born to a wealthy family. Some people were sexually molested as children. Nature is not just.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 10:15 PM
1

Nope, I am voting to lower taxes on myself. Why wouldn't I?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 09:55 PM
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What you are witnessing is called the Pareto distribution and it is very natural. It is everywhere in nature and society. It doesn't matter what type of society you try to engineer, you'll almost always end up with a Pareto distribution of resources. The Pareto distribution, named after the Italian civil engineer, economist, and sociologist Vilfredo Pareto, is a power-law probability distribution that is used in description of social, scientific, geophysical, actuarial, and many other types of o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 09:48 PM
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First, I love your username. Second, if you browse /relationships, you'll see the exact same things over and over. A woman who is tired of cleaning up after her SO and has lost all attraction to him. She resents any thing he does because she feels like he should be doing more around the house. Third, there is never any actual direct communication from the women. It is always scoffs, vague nags, and huffing and puffing but never a straight honest explanation of feelings. Because if the guy was a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 09:11 PM
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Beta bucks does exist, it is just not respected like it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:25 AM
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That is using your position of power abusively and I hope no one else thinks this is a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 11:52 PM
1

It comes across as lazy but sometimes it feels good to be passive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 08:53 PM
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I met my gf when she was 29, her n=0. We are still together and she is 31, n=0. It is hard to date someone without that physical aspect but marriage was right around the corner until covid-19 pretty much prevents a normal wedding... I think it is a good idea to get to know someone really well without sex. Sex can cover up some of the flaws a relationship because of all the emotions and chemicals involved. It makes sense to vet someone without sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 08:49 PM
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Pretty sure she said it to rile people up but it can also show how easy sex is for women. Men gotta do alllllll the work
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 02:55 AM
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Honestly, everyone is allowed to enjoy whatever they want but "variety is the spice of life..."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 02:31 AM
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I think OP is just looking for justification to keep dating guys she is highly physically attracted to because she thinks a 5/10 is the same thing but not attractive, so lose-lose. If she is actually wondering why people are so replaceable, it is her attitude that causes it. She easily dispatched the 5 guy but is she trying to build him up? Be a partner instead of expecting him to carry her? Is she making him the best man he can be? Men and women make this same mistake, we are supposed to help e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 07:36 PM
2

I see you have met my Ex...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 02:31 AM
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Thank you for clarifying, because I have noticed that even babies have certain temperaments. I am not sure how much can even be socialized because of how different the attitudes are even in infants.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 01:27 AM
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Do people really have varying mindsets on collectivism? Does that mean some people are born more independent? Or do you mean it in a social construct / socialization type of thing that isn't hard-wired but structured as "correct" by society so it is not really questioned?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 01:17 AM
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I can answer this; this is the first time I have ever had a true solution to a problem posted here. He absolutely must have an alpha in his life. He needs an alpha as a best friend, an uncle, crazy neighbor, who ever. He has to spend time learning the alpha mindset and what abundance is actually like. He must really soak in and appreciate what it means to be manly and alpha and the confidence it brings is a positive feedback loop. I was raised by a single mother to be a simp and it wasn't until …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 09:23 PM
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I looked through your history and I think you are better than a 4, but I don't think that matters. What matters is that you aren't getting attention from the guys you really want. You have a "look" to you, maybe your style, that says you don't do hookups and you only want to be with a guy who will commit and marry you. I don't know if that is true, at all, but most guys (that you probably lust over) will get that vibe from you, and most guys also want a girl who is going to be easier and not hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 04:06 AM
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Yeah, this is spot on and it is a problem because even attempting to mix these traits into your actual personality makes you come across as unauthentic, and women can smell an imposter from a mile away. You can't fake confidence. But if you are a sociopath/psychopath then you are extremely confident all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:58 AM
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Yeah, I know a guy who is 26, lives with his parents, drives an extremely uncool car (2003 Buick Century) , and he has never had a girlfriend. He just assumes the love of his life will fall out of the sky at some point. He is awkward, he stutters, he gets incredibly nervous just being around a woman, and he doesn't understand social cues very well. But he is also a loyal, hard-working guy who would surely make his wife a queen, but there's no one out there who will give him a chance at all. I fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:53 AM
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This sub is so good because we use weasel words all the time. No one can define "shallow" adequately. Also "men" could mean any kind of man. Is that a neckbeard incel or a wealthy Chad with a chiseled jaw? "Men" are x,y,z loses a lot of context in that instance. And it is exactly the same with blanket statements about women. "Women don't care as much as men..." whatever, there's no one "woman", which woman? Old women, young women, highly educated stay at home moms? What woman? So there's so litt…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/20 09:36 PM
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A lot of women are exactly like the OP describes, even several of my female friends. I have learned over time, that it is actually insecurity that makes them so drawn to these guys not the challenge (which it seems like at first.) Nice guys being nice is a little gross to these women because she feels like she doesn't deserve it and hasn't earned it. These women are good people and don't want to "take advantage" of a nice guy. Women who think this way are inherently insecure about themselves and…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/20 03:23 AM
1

Don't forget filters. Everything is filtered, and I am not just talking about pics and apps. People fabricate their history and cherry-pick their identity from aspects of their past or sometimes flat-out makeup. People filter their lives in such a way that they don't even know who they are anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/20 02:33 AM
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I have a different suggestion, how about you talk to him? "Hey, I was hoping to hear from you more often now that we got a little time." Or however you want to phrase it. Communicate with him very directly. Maybe he thinks he annoys you too often and doesn't want to come across as clingy? Guys lose if they are clingy and they lose if they are too aloof. There's a balance there and not everyone has the same expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 01:15 AM
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I know I am monogamous and have never had any desire at all to be with multiple women no matter how attractive they are or what they offer. I have always only wanted one person and to be that one person for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 12:31 AM
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The reason is that men don't listen to soft toned, polite advice as much as over the top exaggerated aggressiveness. Think drill sergeant vs petite 26 year old school teacher. We know we shouldn't eat 4 burritos and 6 beers or we will get fat, but we do it anyway until someone snaps us out of it by being rude and blunt about it. Maybe it is stubbornness or laziness, but it is just the way a lot of guys are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 11:58 PM
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As animals, yes we are similar in that we have 2 arms and 2 legs and we like to eat and be lazy. But our natures and our desires are significantly different, regardless of culture. Egalitarian cultures like the nordic countries found that women, even given every opportunity to do otherwise, prefered to go into careers like teaching and nursing. Whereas men preferred to go into STEM. Women tend to react a certain way and men tend to react differently. We are wired different, have different hormon…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 02:24 AM
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Correct, in order to be a functional adult male in society, you need to have a successful career (be educated, follow the rules, conform, not stand out too much.) You also need to have a great personality meaning well rounded and experienced (not depressed, aggressive, pitiful, incel, etc.) while also being spontaneous and exciting. Also need to work out, look good (clothes, style, hair, etc.) Also, bare-minimum he needs to have some humor and soul, basically a passion in life- without this wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 02:04 AM
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Right, I agree with you, but given the choice between a good "companion" who works in fast food and lives with 3 roommates and a guy with an established job and owns a house are going to be vastly different in how attracted you feel. And I am not saying this in a bitter or angry way at all, I was once the poor guy and now I am doing well. I see first hand how even though I am older and less good looking, doing well financially has made me a lot more successful. There is no way I meant women only…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 08:18 PM
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I think this question shows a basic misunderstanding of what women want. How many younger guys have lots of money to throw around on trips and restaurants?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 02:10 AM
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I enjoy this subreddit because I can see the wide variation in people's views on relationships and their views of people in general. And that is the big problem, it seems people generalize too much and need to get out more.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:19 PM
5

unvaccinated autism. I love this phrase and I am stealing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:17 PM
2

BP calls it "confidence" but if you are trying to be confident, you understand it isn't so simple. RP gives a bunch of tools and calls them "game" but to someone who doesn't know it is "game" they just think you're naturally funny or charming or confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 12:26 AM
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My mom raised me to believe that girls were "sugar and spice and everything nice." Since she was a single mother, she taught me that women are treated badly by guys, that guys usually don't care about women, and that most guys want "just one thing." So my whole life, I was fed a constant diet of how terrible men are and how I need to be sensitive and compassionate toward women. And I am. But I learned to be way more assertive and dominant. The sugar and spice thing is a lie, all people are treat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 12:31 AM
1

I would question everything about my choices in people and develop serious trust issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 03:46 AM
16

My thoughts are that you should be with someone who respects your wishes and doesn't laugh them off...
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 03:30 AM
2

You are young and it is not easy to get right. I am 37 and still don't have it right.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 01:37 AM
8

OK first off, don't confront him. You don't know what is going on in his head. Also, why do rarely initiate texts? I am not saying it should be 50/50, but if YOU are acting disinterested he is going to get discouraged, which is what it sounds like is happening. You should send him a funny meme or something and laugh about it and relax, ask if he wants to meet up. You are taking everything extremely seriously and micro-analysing every detail and it is going to make you anxious. You gotta step bac…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 01:33 AM
2

A guy I work with wears makeup, it looks very natural. One day he wasn't wearing it, I asked him why he looked so tired. I mean, guy's don't usually wear it and I usually tease the guys I work with. It was actually really funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 02:24 AM
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You are right and also wrong. I believe that women think they want a hot guy, but they don't realize that he comes with a lot of competition from other women. They don't realize that the hot guy is not going to treat you as well because he has options and knows it and can leave at any time. Where as a normal guy would view himself as lucky to be with a woman and wants to impress her. Women think they want a hot guy, but what they actually want is a useful guy. Don't believe me? Go to r/relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 01:41 AM
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Maybe a long time ago, wait a week, but do not wait a week now. You have got to at least touch base and ask how her day is going the next day. Or she will think you ghosted her and she will block you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 01:31 AM
2

My dad is a narcissist at best and a sociopath at worst. I can't tell if he is worse than a narcissist because I have been mindfucked too much by him, to be honest. But I can tell you one thing, my dad is a master at finding becky buxx. He has lived off of at least 7 women -not including my mother. And he twists everything so it their fault. It is scary actually and I keep my distance because he is so full of lies and manipulation you don't even realize the spell you're under.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 12:24 AM
2

You are exactly right about /relationships. I also see every day women complain about their husband/so not doing enough chores and she feels resentful. Same if she earns even a little bit more money than the guy. Then you get the ones where he hasn't had a job for 3 years and she's tired of doing literally everything. And it is always a huge age gap too, like, "my (26f) husband (47m) hasn't had a job for 8 years......" and I always wonder what the in the hell an 18 year old girl is doing marryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 12:14 AM
0

I understand what you are getting at, but the love a dog gives it's master implies that you are the owner and the pet is your slave. And you can't really own people anymore, but you can earn their respect which is almost the same thing. And women who are a little older respect men who put in the effort and give them utility, whether that is doing dishes and laundry or bringing in enough money. Women value men's utility and for that she will show you love, but you have to remember to keep doing w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 04:15 AM
1

I work in a professional setting. All of us wear them every day to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 01:02 AM
1

The answer is because everyone else is doing it. Why do guys wear neckties? You think I want a noose around my neck all day?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 12:59 AM
3

I appreciate this exchange and I am happy it happened. There is something very gratifying about people understanding each other a little bit better. But it also goes to show that some people think empathy doesn't really have much value. But how can you measure what someone else feels? A single smile can make a person's whole year.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 09:39 PM
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For a first date, I always make it something like coffee or dessert. And we arrive separately (unless she specifically asks me to pick her up, which has happened before too.) I do this so the date can be short and sweet if either of us aren't feeling it and also I don't want someone to feel trapped with me. It gives off all the wrong vibes and I want everything go as well as it can. Another thing to think of, he could just want to "show off" his car or something like that. It might not be the re…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 03:48 AM
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Me personally? I couldn't date a girl too much younger than me. When I was 27 I dated a couple 21 year olds and a 22 year old. I felt like their maturity level was too low and I couldn't get into the same things they enjoyed like Teen Mom. My GF now is almost the exact age gap, she's 31, but we have a lot more in common. If I was 27 and I was dating a girl that literally just turned 18? I would feel like she is too much of a kid still, unless she demonstrated a lot of maturity. If any of my budd…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 03:02 AM
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I got downvoted to hell for stating my opinion on this, but I will do it again. A guy can easily be friends with women if he does not have sexual interest in her. I have a lot of female friends and I have zero interest in them physically, but I enjoy their friendship and talking about relationships and stuff. The problem is, a lot of guys see a beautiful woman and they want her physically. Even if they deny it, a part of them wants her, and that part of them will cause the friendship to fail bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 02:23 AM
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I think most guys are trying to do what is best for them. That means not giving their money away to women, and that's the number way women want men to be. Wait, I mean, make her feel special, cared for, and loved; it doesn't require money but it sure helps paying for flowers, clothes, gifts, nights out at restaurants, drinks, and not only is all your money and time expected to be given to her freely you better not expect anything in return. And regardless if you do what you're "supposed to" then…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 02:18 AM
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I can tell you how women have treated me if I show any sign of mental weakness! (mild depression, uncertainty, anxiety, etc.) Poorly. I think women are naturally a bit more insecure and naturally a bit more in tune with emotions, so if you are showing any sign of weakness or even perceived weakness, you have lost all her attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 02:03 AM
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I have to have a strong emotional connection with a woman before I want to have sex with her. I mean, in order for me to really enjoy sex, I have to trust her, and that doesn't happen overnight. It is hard to explain to someone who doesn't view the "relationship world" like I do. I'd rather masturebate alone than have sex with someone I am not emotionally attracted to. It feels ugly, like I am using them and I don't like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 02:31 AM
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There are shitty people out there. Men and women. Not everyone is bad though, some people can be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 02:02 AM
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Yeah this obsessive lusty behavior is actually kind of scary. It is temporary and is not going to feel as good as OP thinks it will. OP clearly thinks that a women throwing herself at him carelessly and in lust is a good thing, but that isn't good at all. It is a little sad to see someone act so "in love" when it's just a short lived chemical reaction that will die and die hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 11:45 PM
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This is why I come here and enjoy this sub. It is like both sides create a strawman to complain about. There is so much generalization that it is silly. The real reason women don't ask men out is that women don't like to chase men. Who ever is doing the chasing is the loser. It should be a little bit like a dance, Sometimes I chase, sometimes I am chased. But if you are a guy and a woman comes on to you and wants to see you all the time and have sex with you all the time and goes all out on you,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 05:18 AM
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You seem like a nice guy, a smart guy, but you don't understand that like 90% of communication between people is non-verbal. Women love it when you flirt with them non-verbally and if you're confident it comes across just right. If you're nervous then it makes the girl nervous.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 01:17 AM
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It can depend on how old you are. If you are really young, then yeah looks are pretty much all that matters. But if you're going for girls over 23? I think personality is going to win in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 12:02 AM
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Then learn from it and move on. It sounds to me like you may be fixated on one lady. There are a lot of them out there and they're bored. They want someone interesting and fun to come into their life!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 11:34 PM
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Listen man, everyone picks and chooses? It isn't just women. Do you think you lusted after that girl because she had a nice body and cute face or because she had principles? If two women had similar principles but one was more attractive to you, I think we both know which girl is going to be lonely and which one you are going to focusing your attention on. The point I am trying to make isn't to poke holes in your post about principles, but rather to embrace the fact that we are all unique and ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 11:09 PM
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I don't know, I am not very attractive but I have plenty of luck with attractive women, but it was only after I started treating them like guy friends instead of thinking of them as "special." So I tease, horse around, and generally be a brat and it is way more fun. If you are seriously constantly friendzoned, then you should move way out of your comfort zone and make some waves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 11:01 PM
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It means you are put in a room with someone and you can't leave. It means that since we both agreed to stay in this room, we might as well start working our differences because I am not perfect and neither are you. It also means you are on the same team. You aren't in this room against each other, you are in this room against the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 04:00 AM
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Whoa there horsey, I am not talking about me. I get all this. I am saying that women modify their needs along the way- I know that. I am just saying that logically it doesn't make sense. It is an emotional thing. I am not an idiot and I know that needs and wants change over time. I was just using an example of the most important difference between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 02:47 AM
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No, explain. Logically, if you do the same thing consistently for 4 years, she should be ecstatic to have such a reliable partner, but that never happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 02:31 AM
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I think this might be a silly question to ask here. What the women will say in text is almost certainly going to be different than what they actually do in real life. And I am not saying this as a jab at women I am just saying that ideas are different than actions and people tend to love their ideas but what they do shows their real character.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 02:25 AM
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There is definitely a biological difference between men and women (despite what some people say). The problem is we generalize each other so much that the generalization becomes a creature of its own. Nuance is what makes everything difficult to discuss, because I say a woman wants to feel cared for, and someone will reply, oh you mean men don't? Well yeah, but in the case of some women, feeling cared for is extremely important to them. The problem is, it isn't a simple solution like, you pay fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 02:22 AM
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A first date feels like an interview, there's this transactional element when a guy buys a drink and the woman compensates it with giving him attention. I think this is more you than American. Although I am an American so what I say may have less weight to you. My first date with my GF was over coffee and it wasn't like an interview, I was flirty and had her laughing. We talked a little bit about boring stuff but then I would make her giggle over something I said (it was over a year ago, I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 02:03 AM
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I guess what I mean is, you aren't eager and waiting to have sex with her- she's just a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 01:19 AM
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You are a friend if she respects you and you don't want to have sex with her. You are an orbiter if you do nice things because you want her to have sex with you. I think friendship is far more rare because what guy doesn't want to sleep with an attractive woman? But I do have attractive female friends and the only way it works is I do not want to sleep with them. There is nothing they could do to make me sleep with them, and that is why I can be friends with them. I can tell them their clothes a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 01:06 AM
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Female friends should be what gets you more dates and relationships because you're increasing your circle of friends. And those friends have friends, etc. But this whole "you should tell her" is cringy. If you were born in 1983 like I was, then that means your 37 years old. You should know how to flirt and tease a woman, words account for virtually nothing when interacting with women? It isn't the words you use that win them over it is your tone, teasing/flirty attitude, and confidence to take w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 10:08 PM
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I was using an example, "I don't like it, I love it", it is just a way of saying it is important to play. You’re probably a 42 year old, hairy overweight jackass who’s opinion literally no one would ask for if we could actually see you in person. I am 37 and if you want my picture just ask
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 09:04 PM
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You are going to have way more success with women if you are confident and know how to flirt and tease properly. Women want a guy who is fun and plays with them, makes them a tiny bit upset but then smooths it over. "Honey, did you like the thing I did in bed last night?" "No, I didn't like it................. I love it!" You see how there is a heart sinking moment and then suddenly a reversal? Women love that kind of thing. It is exactly like hiding your face from a baby and then saying Peek-a-…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 04:51 AM
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The girl I had oneitis on actually is special. But I realized we are better off as friends and accepting her as a friend is amazing, the insight into a woman's mind and actions is fascinating. And far more emotionally driven than I ever expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 01:30 AM
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Women don't feel attraction the way guys do. I am not very attractive but I have always dated attractive women with good jobs. Women care about looks when they're on FB but in the real world they need to feel like they're with someone who is strong, capable, charming, funny, confident, etc. I know all those words seem daunting but it basically means taking responsibility for your actions, being honest, and knowing how to flirt (play).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 10:23 PM
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I wish women would approach me, I wish I had a trust fund so I didn't have to work everyday, I wish my car didn't need new tires, but you know what? Reality sucks. Women rarely approach and they have reasons for it. Instead of asking women to be confident, why don't you just be confident and go for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 10:03 PM
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I feel like a lot of these posts could be answered with the common saying among guys: "Why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free?"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 09:38 PM
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I decided to do a thought experiment to see if I could understand OP better. I am a guy, but imagine I was constantly being chased by women I find unattractive. They spammed my social media with likes and heart eyes, they slid into my DMs, they say nice things to me everywhere I go in public, but for whatever reason I just can't find them attractive. I would feel so arrogant to say I am so much better than these women chasing me. "Don't they know my value? Who do they think they are trying to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 02:34 AM
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I decided to do a thought experiment to see if I could understand OP better. I am a guy, but imagine I was constantly being chased by women I find unattractive. They spammed my social media with likes and heart eyes, they slid into my DMs, they say nice things to me everywhere I go in public, but for whatever reason I just can't find them attractive. I would feel so arrogant to say I am so much better than these women chasing me. "Don't they know my value? Who do they think they are trying to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 02:33 AM
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Personally, betrayal like this would cause me to end it immediately. I don't care if we are living together or whatever. Keep the dog. Keep the furniture. I am out. ​ But if this is something you want and don't mind? You do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 03:39 AM
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I am not a girl so I posted to automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 03:35 AM
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On the flip side, what does it say about a girl who hides her bf from her circle and family?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:06 AM
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Everyone is looking for different things. Some people want casual (but will say whatever they can to get what they want) Some people want a healthy long term relationship with shared goals like a house, children, wealth management, etc. Some people have no idea what they want and run around aimlessly, making everyone's life harder. All I am trying to say is, it depends on the person. You can't clump all women into the same mold. Some women want kids and others want to be childfree. Some want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 12:21 AM
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I know, I see it all the time guys get pissy and stupid when rejected. It is good to reject them because they're obviously too immature for a healthy relationship if they can't take rejection from a stranger. There is no good reason for people to treat each other bad, yet it happens everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 11:10 PM
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So does this mean you're single? ;) Your experience shows you why men and women are so different. Attractive women get bombarded with offers constantly and men simply don't. We have to put ourselves out there and work for any attention we get and even when we do, it is full of rejections and let downs. I am not in any way implying you are doing anything wrong, I am just saying the difference experienced between men and women is so stark it can be hard to see it from the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 10:49 PM
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I definitely feel like I lose IQ points on this sub some days.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 10:36 PM
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Before I turned 27, I had retail, security officer, and basic low skill jobs and I think I earned like 28k on my best year. I was a kissless virgin. When I got a career (earning ~100k now) I easily got girlfriends and women wanting me like crazy and for the first time in my life, I was rejecting women. A huge change from what I was used to. I probably rejected 15 women by the time I was 32, when I was 27, I hadn't even touched a woman. So, I am going to say it makes a huge difference. But I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:54 AM
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I think you're just trying to get men to drop out of society. I don't think women are so much the enemy as our culture is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:17 AM
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Have good genetics and lift heavy things then put them back where they were.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 04:07 AM
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Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 01:59 AM
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Republican men Online is the best place to discuss politics, it is always so civil and real understanding of both sides takes place. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 01:43 AM
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Some guys learn assertiveness from their dads, some learn it from a coach, some learn it from a book. Isn't it better they are assertive rather than where they learn it? I don't think that is a red flag. What is a red flag is when you, as a woman, test his assertiveness and he fails over and over to stand up for himself and speak his mind clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 04:52 AM
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That is like saying, you want to have children but you only want a guy who is previously a father?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 04:43 AM
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Then they need more awareness. I say that constantly while I am driving, how can that person be so unaware?? Wanna start the church of RP? I always wanted to be a Cult Leader.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 04:19 AM
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I haven't but if they get oneitis, shouldn't they know why their relationship failed? They can't go around blaming someone else, the problem is with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 04:18 AM
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I think people overthink this stuff- we should try to make each other's lives better. That is about all that matters, I kinda see it in a binary way. Either I am improving my life and my girlfriend's or I am not. So sometimes I gotta do what I don't want to so I can invest in our future happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 04:16 AM
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That is an interesting idea, but I have a hard time believing it. It is like saying you have learned to harness fire but decided it was too hot. Of course, anything is possible- but once your eyes are open, it is hard to go back to being blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 04:05 AM
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How would you know? No guy is going to wear a sign that says he found TRP, he is just going to start doing things that work for him with the knowledge he has.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:59 AM
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Absolutely! I agree with this 100% Although, I don't mind telling my cringy stories as long as people relate and see it was totally innocent.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:53 AM
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Are we trying to say that women who have high-n are the same as a beta guy who found TRP? TRP is whatever you want to make it- it is just knowledge that the guy is not going to be loved by a woman the same way he loves women. Women value men's utility far more than they value our compassion or intelligence. If you don't believe me, look on /relationships and every day you see women complaining men don't make enough money, don't contribute enough around the house, etc. etc.... Women may say they …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:48 AM
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You do know that if you get obese you permanently damaged your body, and i'm not just talking scars and stretch marks, I mean liver damage, cardiovascular changes, and on and on. So to follow your own analogy, yes, you can get healthier from being obese (frequent casual sex to none or rare in your analogy?) but that doesn't change what you did in the past and how that changed your thoughts and beliefs. You can't just say, well I am skinny now, so everything is fine. No, no it is not. If I want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:24 AM
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No I don't lie. I tell the truth. Anything I did shitty in my past is something I use to learn from and hopefully be less shitty in the future. I did all kinds of cringy stuff like once I left a poem I wrote to a girl (I barely ever talked to) in her purse. I was like 15 at the time and I still can't believe I did that. I would rather deal with an uncomfortable truth than deal with lies and uncertainty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 02:29 AM
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Red pill is a strategy for guys to use on women who have anxiety/attachment issues. Since a lot of women do, it tends to work a lot of the time. Healthy, well-balanced, educated women aren't as susceptible to the red pill strategies that are designed to make the woman anxious because those women aren't constantly questioning their own worth, assuming they are wrong, they see a guy using a tactic as manipulative, which it is. That said, human nature is human nature, sometimes we want what we can'…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 01:22 AM
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Or, I could talk to her, like an adult would. If sex isn't fulfilling, then we will talk about ways to change it or try different things. Did you know, when you love someone and trust them, you can work things out instead of just giving up? EDIT: I wanted to add, that people like you are why women are neurotic about "performing" well during sex. Sex isn't a sport there isn't a winner, it is something you enjoy- sometimes it will be great and other times not so great. What is wrong with just enjo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 04:49 AM
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I was molested, not just by one person but two totally different men in different states (I moved around a lot when I was a kid.) It messed up my confidence and self worth for a very long time but I eventually realized that I am not who I was, it wasn't my fault, and I want to live my life and not be a victim. It isn't as easy as I say it is, I know I drank too much and wallowed in confusion for years about it. I think I am doing pretty good now though- great relationship with my GF of 1 year an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 12:28 AM
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My gf is a virgin and has kinky preferences but we won't have sex until we are married. But I still provide and care for her. This madonna-whore thing sounds like you all have mental issues and pair bonding issues. You can't expect your partner to fulfill all your fantasies at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 09:38 PM
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I remember reading that if a single man buys a house, he is 5 times more likely to get married
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 10:21 PM
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I am over 30 but male, and "would I be with the girl I am right now when I was 20?" Yeah, except she probably wouldn't have liked me as much because I wasn't very well sorted out and kinda thin skinned that I have grown past as I got older. Stuff just doesn't affect me like it used to. I am a lot more confident than I was in my 20s and I have a dgaf attitude that I never had back then. I used to be insecure about everything back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 02:11 AM
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I am going to go ahead and out myself as a person who respects Jordan Peterson, and I am going to recommend him to you. Watch some videos on youtube or something. You need to find meaning in your life and a reason to push through the difficult chaos that happens every day. You live in your head too much. You need more action and less thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:19 AM
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And treat yourself like someone you love. I wanted to say the same thing to this guy. Are we suggesting this guy needs JP?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:42 PM
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If you are trying to find meaning in your life, you need to start taking responsibility for how it is going. You say you are spiralling out of control, why? Stop that. You know already that you have to lead from the front, so start doing it. Make a list of chores. Make a list of places to take your fiance on dates. DO SOMETHING. Nothing happens in life unless you put in the effort to make it happen. Don't be a leaf blowing around in the wind, be the wind and make your life meaningful on purpose.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:38 PM
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I don't think it is so much of a "rights" issue as an "understanding" issue. Men and women want and expect different things from their partners, but we seem to expect the other side to think the same way we do. I have used this example before but men don't realize how much women value our utility. It sounds unromantic but how often have you read /relationships and every day a woman is complaining her husband doesn't do enough chores around the house? To a woman, the man is supposed to be useful,…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 10:32 PM
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Disagree- I work with a short cambodian guy with a beautiful redhead woman who is taller than him and they live together and seem quite happy. Obviously, my one anecdote doesn't solve everything, and I am not saying starting out ugly is going to be easy. But it doesn't mean everything. Life isn't fair, a huge chunk of the world lives on like $2 dollars a day, how much chance do they have? I am just suggesting you max out your possibilities and grow a can-do attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 05:04 AM
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Well my advice was to lift and gain a good personality. If he already has those things, then yes my advice is pointless. If not, then maybe he won't feel ugly if he can talk to anyone and people respect his muscle structure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 04:23 AM
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There are many personalities that are attractive to women and one that isn't is the kind says "I was born ugly, everything is hopeless because of how I was born." Which is kinda how this post comes across to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 04:14 AM
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Lift, get a good personality, make lots of friends, and learn how to increase your skills and money making opportunities. I think what a lot of people think is "I was born this way, that's just the way I am." When in reality, they have opportunities to learn skills and abilities to vastly improve themselves and their lives. When you realize you have potential, you realize that you can really improve yourself and the people around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 03:51 AM
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I think this will be wildly different depending on the woman. Some women only like tall, dark, and handsome (whatever that is, strong jaw probably?) Some women only like tall, blue eyed guys with intelligence. Do you notice a trend here? Women aren't attracted to just physical appearance, it is the implication of what the look brings. The guy is strong, the guy is smart, the guy earns a lot, whatever makes her girlfriends jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:59 PM
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I think you misunderstand evolutionary biology here- Chad gets lots of women pregnant and the species survives. It is great for Chad, the women, and our species, but it is bad for social cohesion, as society is build (generally) around being monogamous and not part of a tribe and harem like thousands of years ago. I think the real issue men have with it is that women say they want a stable monogamous guy, but they actually want Chad, even though Chad has zero interest in being a stable monogamou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:48 PM
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I think this is the problem with generalizing too much, upon closer inspection with any generalization, it can picked apart. It is something I see a lot here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 11:13 PM
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Yeah, but my attention is special. Why don't you understand? I think it comes down to the fact that men love women differently than women love men, we are all into the aesthetics and physical stuff while women are usually more interested in our utility. I am not saying either side is right or wrong, just in general we don't understand each other very well. How many posts are on /relationships about women complaining that their husband doesn't do enough housework? It is because we don't understan…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 10:47 PM
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Part of the reason I enjoy this subreddit is the crazy stuff. I view this more as an entertainment sub than a real debate sub. It seems like a decent number of posts are made just to annoy the other side or to have a "gotcha" and the other side says whataboutthis, so it is a lot like elementary school debates.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 10:40 PM
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I approach people all the time, but I'm not like, "hey girl, wat's ur number?" I am normal, smile, and say something like "Hello, pleasant weather today for a January, how's your afternoon?" If she smiles back or we start a conversation, great! If not, then I just go on with my day. I am amazed at how clumsy and awkward people make these things. Talking to people is pretty easy and virtually everyone is polite if you are too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:47 AM
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I am in a relationship like this right now- for over a year- and we are waiting to getting married before we have sex. I think it is bearable because it will eventually lead to sex, not that sex is the end-all be-all of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 10:12 PM
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If I was a woman, I couldn't imagine even wanting a guy. Yuck, what for? That is the problem with these questions, women yearn for a masculine energy and men are attracted to feminine energy. It is not talked about often because we try to define it in words like she likes "confidence" or "broad shoulders" or men like "petite" women but the whole masculine/feminine thing isn't so easily defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:16 AM
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Ok, but that will just make the pool of women "on the market" for lonely desperate men all that much smaller. That means it will get worse and worse and probably already has.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:11 AM
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Fair. A criminal gets caught the 6th time stealing a car, no sympathy from me. But not everyone is a criminal with a repeat offending list and it can rub us the wrong way to feel accused of things we haven't done and wouldn't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 05:06 AM
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If I face difficulties, can you respect them on face value That is what I am asking you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:59 AM
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men think it's a legitimate issue. I have had it before, so bad I actually had to go to the Dr. and get all kinds of things checked out, but I don't expect someone who doesn't share my genitals to relate to me or have an abundance of compassion for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:56 AM
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Can we not have debates about things that are obvious, like human nature? Men are wired to do something- it is in our blood. Women aren't wired the same and so want that same thing a lot less. There are outliers on both sides but in general, men need sex more than women do. Supply and demand isn't made up or really debateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:50 AM
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I can tell you put a lot of effort into this but I am not sure how seriously I would take anyone who says blue balls is the biggest challenge to men's issues. Yeah things like that suck, but we are men and literally no one cares. I don't even expect women to be sympathetic to a situation they can't physically be in. Can we agree both genders have issues and respect the challenges the other side faces? I like being a man, I don't want periods or to carry a child inside me. If I face difficulties,…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:42 AM
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Do you know how many times I go other relationship subreddits and the writer is explaining textbook gaslighting behaviors and even if I decide not to armchair diagnose over the internet, they describe frequent lies and manipulative behaviors? And they wonder why they can't have a happy stable relationship? When we fall in love with someone, we often excuse a lot of their bad behavior instead of calling them out on it, and those problems snowball over time into an avalanche of predicaments that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:20 AM
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Yeah, but those guys watch hours of porn actresses everyday. Is that the kind of guy you're attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:09 AM
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My GF trims my eyebrows and I had no idea how much of a difference that makes in the symmetry and cleanliness appearance of my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 04:01 AM
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Some guys prefer women with makeup and some don't. Find a girl that doesn't wear it if you don't like it. I did and it's very awesome to say "let's go somewhere" and actually be out the door in 10 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 03:26 AM
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Yeah, I don't understand the thinking here. Is the wife supposed to be super thrilled he is "100% been there for her *the friend* the whole time". Sometimes I wonder if I live on a planet of morons and maybe I am a moron too but don't know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 09:31 PM
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The only real view I can change is that prenups can be thrown out by the judge, even if they're perfectly reasonable. But I don't want to get into "I heard about some guy..." type stories so, let's focus on facts. Marriage is for the stability of the family unit as a whole, shared resources, division of labor, etc. When that marriage falls apart, each side will think they are getting the worse side of the deal, even if they are getting a great deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:56 AM
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I live in the midwest, earn ~100k, and have good benefits. I think I could afford it, but I do have student loan debt that kinda sucks. That is the #1 reason I haven't bought a house
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 11:20 PM
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I think it is a genuine problem but we are part of the problem. Everyone has an idea of what a perfect mate should be like instead of just meeting a person and getting to know them. Trying to find your ideal is like finding a needle in a haystack, and even if you did find them, it's not like that person has any obligation to like you back.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 09:49 PM
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Listen, a lot of TRP stuff is used to make a girl ANXIOUS. It is manipulative to make her feel like you could leave at any time so she will do whatever she can to keep you. This is why TRP doesn't like LTR because the women almost always burn out and give up eventually. TRP bros basically want a woman to give their best and they take that and then move on to another woman. This whole thing with making women anxious or jealous is pretty psycho to me. Healthy relationships aren't like this, secure…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:46 PM
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This is Reddit. You think a whole lot of Alpha guys are sitting on their computers reading forums about relationships? This place is a magnet for beta men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 10:02 PM
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I think it is more about what kind of guys use the internet and PPD. Do you think a whole lot of alpha guys are sitting around on Reddit reading forums about relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 09:31 PM
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Thanks. I agree she's a keeper. But I really dislike the stereotype perpetrated by the OP, and people who post these types of comments basically saying men want dainty submissive Asian women. Maybe some guys do, but I would date my Viet girl no matter what, if she was Nigerian or German or whatever. Just because I am a white male dating an Asian woman, doesn't mean I am a stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 04:14 AM
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I live in America and I am dating a native Vietnamese girl who moved to the US when she was like 15. And she does make me feel like a king but it comes at a cost of me being very responsible and focused. I am used to being single and having a more carefree lifestyle. I guess what I am saying is, she has expectations and I do too and we both are working to make each other happy. So when people tell me I am dating a submissive Asian girl, it kind of annoys me because she might appear a little subm…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 03:15 AM
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This one actually does belong in r/relationships. What does this have to do with RP or BP?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 03:04 AM
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I agree, he is being insensitive and selfish about it. She was colder, not as horny? Of course not. He also made it sound like he wasn't totally sure she was genuinely sick. In relationships you either trust or you don't. If you don't then it'll slowly and eventually fall apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 02:59 AM
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Right, but, anyone who thinks "Asian women are submissive" hasn't met any Asian women. They can be accepting of traditional roles but that means you are also fulfilling your role as the head of the house and earning lots of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:03 PM
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I have been with my gf for a year and we are waiting for marriage. We have lots of chemistry kissing, so why wouldn't sex be good? It is really more about effort and appreciation. Also, you create chemistry in your head. Sometimes it is completely automatic because of how someone looks or smells or something they did, but other times you have to put a little effort into making chemistry by actively finding things you find attractive and sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 04:01 AM
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So all the women on PPD say no way, yet I bet this guy gets a lot of attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 03:33 AM
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I would also like to add that TRP tends to go after a very specific type of girl (anxious attachment style) and a secure woman won't put up with all the obnoxious behavior most of the TRP and PUA types do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 10:05 PM
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Sports is all about in group. "These are my people." It has nothing to do with dominance. Someone is reading gibberish somewhere, because it seems like mostly feminist who see everything as those with power and those without.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:33 AM
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I drive a BMW and wear name brand clothes. I don't care what anyone thinks. I love my car and how I look. Why should I care what anyone else thinks? Why would I care about what a woman I don't even know thinks? She can call me a tool or a fool, who cares? I do what I want because I want to. Dominance mimicry sounds like a made up term by feminist. Also, a team jersey or brand name item is more like saying "This is my in group." BMW guys give me a nod, Mercedes and Audi guys brake check me. But s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:23 AM
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This is exactly what I was going to say. It might be an expectation for either party but that isn't equal to consent. It is like going to a car dealership, I might fully want to buy a car that day but if I don't feel right or find out the car I want isn't exactly what I want? I can nope out and go to a different dealership. By the same token, it should be expected that people going to be alone together are expecting some intimacy. It is like going to a car dealership expecting them to sell you f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 01:52 AM
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I feel like I was kinda like you. My advice (if you want it - from a stranger on the internet you don't know) is you have to be really picky on which women you decide to date, only date what you consider high quality women (how ever you define that.) The rest aren't worth your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 03:55 AM
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Absolutely not. If someone doesn't like me, that is all them. No one has to like me, no one owes me anything, and I don't really need anyone's approval. Rejection hurts, it sucks, and it can be easy to take it personal, but don't! You have no idea what reason someone rejects you, even when they do tell you why they reject you, there is no reason to fully believe them. People lie and justify their lies constantly. If you are looking for someone to have a relationship with, study what details you …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 03:38 AM
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WTF!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 03:29 AM
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I read The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar in like 2007 and I wish I had read it way earlier. It was eye opening because I was raised by a single mother and so so cringy beta blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 11:12 PM
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If I hear those things beeping I fix it myself, no need for anyone to tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:37 PM
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Yeah, that is exactly why I don't rush into things. I also like to take a week or two vacation with potencial LTRs to see what they are really like. It is easy to catch feelings but it is so important to be a bit disinterested and view things from a distance to be as objective as you can be. Not everyone is going to show you their true colors, but if you can hang out with their family (like sisters, friends, etc.) then you will get a more rounded understanding of that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 05:29 AM
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Definitely looking for validation!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 01:31 AM
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When I was young, I was so stupid and virtually everything I did related to love and relationships is so cringy now. It wouldn't have mattered if you gave me the best advice ever, I was stupid and lacked any experience. I am 36 and I think I have a decent girl but everything leading up to this makes me wonder what in the hell man. Maybe in 10 years I will think the exact same thing about me, right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:40 AM
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So- basically nothing has changed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 01:33 AM
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This boy needs to get away from his mom and make it out on his own. He needs to learn life skills and experience responsibility. He doesn't need mommy to do anything but push him out on his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:47 PM
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I think it is not something women actively think about but they feel it. Like, when a guy is taller, it makes her feel safer enough though that doesn't really have anything to do with it consciously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 10:23 PM
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Pick any two of the above and don't expect the rest. You can only get about 50% of what you want, even if you are very lucky. If your girl is low n or a virgin, then she is not going have sex with you before you get married. If she puts her family first over career, then you are going to liable if she wants a divorce. You can't have it all. If you find someone who you think fits all 4 of your criteria, then go after her and lock her down. But don't think you can predict the future. You can get i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 04:51 AM
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Even if it fades? I am a better person with her than without her. But I wasn't trying to humble brag or anything, I was trying to share with OP that it is possible to identify a certain way and that it can become who you are. If you aren't a virgin anymore (someday you won't be) you have to still be happy with who you are. Like a type of depression can set in because you aren't who you used to be, like you used to be proud of this aspect of yourself and now its gone. You could feel empty and eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 02:13 AM
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Nah she loves kissing and making out and giving me hickies. I don't think we will have any issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 01:40 AM
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My GF has never had sex and she's 30. We are waiting for marriage. No we aren't religious, it is just her choice to explore that side of her only while married. I have concerns about it, for one thing, she is anxious but hides it by being a bit bossy and stubborn. But she is actually a sweetheart and too giving. But the reason I am writing all this is because I think it has become a part of her identity to be a virgin. She has identified as that for so long that I worry if she will become deflat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 01:17 AM
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Directly or indirectly feminism exploits the labor of men to benefit women. It also shames men who don't fall in line.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 10:01 PM
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Basically, it is self interest. When we as a society were more agrarian, we needed as many children as possible to help us with our farms. More children, more labor, more food, more money. Now, children are a drain on money and don't do any labor. It isn't in our best interest to spend all our money and time raising children like it was before.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 05:00 AM
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TIL you only see things in black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 09:29 PM
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I think it has everything to do with shared values. If you want the same things in life? You are going to both work together for those things. Men and women complement each other if we open to seeing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 10:00 PM
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Why don't these relationships work out? You know you want a smart man, that is your ideal, and then when you get around them you enjoy the intellectual space they make for you two to play in. I think that adds their attractiveness (for you.) But the question lingering in my mind is, why don't these relationships turn into a stable thing for you? And have they created work drama?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 05:45 AM
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Some people are social butterflies. They can float around a room and chat up anyone. Some guys are a bit autistic and avoid those situations like the plague. Then those same guys try dating apps to various degrees of success (usually not great). They never learn what it is that they are missing because no one takes the time to tell them that they need a bit more social intelligence to woo a woman. I was one of those guys. It never seemed like it was an important thing anyway, who wants to chat t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 05:34 AM
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I disagree that men are more collective. They are more likely to get aggressive with each other over disputes where as women tend to talk bad about people behind their back instead of confront someone directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 04:49 AM
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Her n=0 so no she isn't and we are in an exclusive relationship leading to marriage. She wants to wait, and while I don't "like it" I understand it so I will wait too. Could she go crazy and divorce me and want to "find herself" at some point? Sure. But we both want kids and other goals that make our interests mutually aligned. I could lose my job or get injured or something, I mean, it is life. Roll the dice. Take a risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 10:05 PM
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Eventually AI will track, monitor, and know everything we do. It will draw conclusions about what we think, feel, and who we want to interact with. Depending on who is in charge of society, we may or may not be allowed to do what we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 05:04 AM
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Yeah, it's a good deal for women but terrible for men I disagree, why wouldn't a guy want to marry a young woman who matures with him and gives him successful offspring? There is a chance she will divorce you but there is also a chance she will be the greatest investment of your life. Roll the dice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 04:54 AM
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These differences are why this sub can be so entertaining. Everyone has such different expectations and points of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 10:39 PM
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I meant for serious LTR's. Dating and just having fun, yeah that happens all the time. I am still friends with girls I dated in the past too. It is honestly healthy for me to keep girls as friends so I can get more perspectives on my LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 10:28 PM
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Also be attractive, don't be unattractive. I think this is the real key. Attractive people are usually given a pass in a lot of situations where uglier people are generally critiqued more. This plays into being a bit more confident/assholish if they're also moderately attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 04:46 AM
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An asshole is someone who exerts power over people incompetently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 04:20 AM
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five years is normal, five to ten is acceptable, above ten is not normal. I think we agree and I won't be able to change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 03:28 AM
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Your view is, men mostly date their own age. Yet I have almost always dated younger women. My GF is 6 years younger than me. Most of the men I know are dating younger. I am not going to google this at work, but it seems to me that women view older guys as more mature and they are usually more stable in their job, thus have decent resources. It makes total sense for a woman in her late 20s to date a guy in his mid 30s which is exactly what me and my GF are doing, but would I date her if she was 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 03:16 AM
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I am a guy, and I have opened up like this with a girlfriend before. I usually regret it because I become too vulnerable and then the girlfriend starts to see me as weak and then she loses interest. One thing in your post, he didn't say directly to you that you don't make him happy. His friend makes him happy in a different way than you do. Also, after being crushed by his ex he could be a bit jaded and not ready to really dive in deep to a relationship yet, which kinda explains his odd rambling…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 09:30 PM
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"I also pick that guys dead wife" I agree that made me actually lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 07:43 PM
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I know what a catch phrase is. I thought it was a game some redditors do, like the guy who starts out an interesting reply and then always ends the story with his dad hitting him with jumper cables. It is OK, I am absolutely not a grammar nazi, I was just trying to play your game. But it was not a game.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 12:14 AM
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I thought you were doing it on purpose (because of your username) so I was letting you know (in a joking way) I get your jokes. But now I see they aren't jokes. Now I am sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 12:04 AM
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You have to treat her the same way you treat someone who was brainwashed by a cult. She is too close to the issue and can't see the forest for the trees. She's throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Look up deprogramming and other techniques like that. You have to start small.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 08:51 PM
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The problem with your wife saying, "I don't want to do all of the cooking and cleaning" is that we have no idea where it starts and stops. It is subjective, situational, and changes by the day of what your mood will be. However, on a man's side, he can't decide to skip work and play video games or take a walk in the park because bills got to get paid. No woman is going to stay with a man who can't make rent each month.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 08:24 PM
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Can you tell me what is going on with all your words? Are you for real, dutie? Duel when you clearly mean dual. Sense when you mean since. Stop it. It is driving me crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 08:13 PM
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I think that sex in a LTR is better than casual. Once you have that kind of relationship, you don't really find that thrill of hunting down a new person to be all that fun anymore, it becomes a chore. At least, that is my experience. Some people don't do well in LTR because they like that excitement. Guess everyone is different, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 03:43 AM
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I don't understand this, so many people are caught up in "performance". It should be about having fun with that person you are with, enjoying every aspect of it. It isn't all about wham and bam. Obviously, you wanna get to the "good part" but take your time and enjoy the process. If she's already ready to go then just make her wait a tiny bit longer but only in a fun and playful way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 02:17 AM
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I am curious what the "Queen of Saigon" looks like. Is s/he even Vietnamese?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 12:16 AM
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Sure they tend to be slutty chicks with daddy issues but it does happen. FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 12:13 AM
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Nope, I couldn't care less if you were BBing someone, as everyone gets in relationships for their benefit, but you do seem a little sensitive about it. Sociopath isn't a bullshit word, it is a type of personality that is basically unable to feel guilt. In other words, not capable of putting yourself in someone else's shoes and understand the harm you could cause them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:25 AM
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Some people just want to watch the world burn
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:15 AM
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Do you think you're a sociopath? Have you ever felt remorse? What do you think about people who do feel guilt?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:14 AM
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I think the guy in this story feels "enlightened" because he is agnostic. He feels morally superior to his SO, and thus he thinks he is right. I can't imagine they're going to have a real happy relationship. On the flip side, I bet his SO, she feels morally superior because she has faith. This is a crash between an immovable object and unstoppable force. I have no idea how people this radically different end up in a relationship except teenage hormones. I never caught their age, so they could be…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:04 AM
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WoMeN dOnT aGe My GF looks 20 sometimes and 40 sometimes. She is 30. She can do some things that make her look really young, like even under 18, like by wearing bangs and ponytail and also this miniature backpack she finds super cute? She honestly looks like a kid or teenager when she does that. But other times she can't be bothered to wear makeup and just wears scrubs and puts her hair up and she could be 25-40 and you'd never know. She is Asian so looks very small even if she isn't really.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:50 PM
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This needs a NSFW tag. I am getting aroused.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:04 PM
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I know how this is going to sound, but truthfully, there are a lot of asian women who want a guy like your friend, and they are usually virgins or very (sexually) conservative, too. Depending on his age and how he looks, I know women looking guys like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:33 PM
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You win an internet point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:06 PM
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cocky - hot = asshole cocky + hot = dreamboat
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:04 PM
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Confirmed: OP is a furry. I come here to see people get angry at trivial things so I can laugh at all the pointless conjecture while autist explain things in surreal detail. Why is purge week making me so sad and lonely?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 09:18 PM
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When are we going to stop allowing camera angles? This is starting to get out of hand. Also. 'Merica!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 01:01 AM
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I don't think it has to do so much with "types" as much as, most guys are invisible to most women unless you do something to stand out. You make yourself the center of attention and tell jokes, or make eye contact, or do anything to signal to the woman you have interest. If she returns interest then act on it!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 11:54 PM
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It is the same as asking why are white women so insecure about guys dating Asian women? Everyone is insecure about everything and it is kinda gross. Why can't we all just get along?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 08:31 PM
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The redpill "game" mentality only works with anxious-attachment style women. It is unhealthy and bs. To me anyway, learning to be a manipulative asshole is interesting in a learning context but the guys who put it in use are serious creeps. Make her wait, make her feel like you have other options, and never listen to her emotions. There is a whole checklist of ways to be a manipulator. I know it only works on women with very low self-esteem and women who don't know what healthy relationships loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 01:30 AM
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I think you should reconsider this friendship of yours and analyse yourself. Why are you so attached to someone who is uninterested in learning about you and understanding you? I feel like your attachment to this person is unhealthy. Anyway, to answer the question, emotional support from a woman is something like this: Listen, don't judge, and give affection. If I am in a relationship, I expect my girl to listen to the things I say (and understand them), don't pre-judge me before I have been abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 12:44 AM
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I agree, TRP is a reaction to the SMP. TRP exists because women generally say they want one thing but actually want another, then they change their mind after they get it regardless of what they have. And the law and society privilege any choice women make, but they still aren't happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 08:13 PM
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I think this is why some guys are purple pill. They will be beta to the right woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 08:01 PM
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Does this mean tall guys have an advantage in Philadelphia? I am packing my bags!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 02:43 AM
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You aren't thinking about sex the way women do. Women tend to crave the feelings that the alpha guy makes her have. Sex with him is just a way to keep him giving her those feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 02:59 AM
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You are yelling about stuff that doesn't matter and you are snarky about it. Nothing screams privileged and ignorant quite like you do. That's OK, I come here for this type of short-sighted "left eating it's own" attitude that you have because you believe in an inherently intolerant, close-minded, destructive ideology. I think everyone should be liberal, open minded, tolerant, and kind to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 12:13 AM
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It is an observation of your state of mind and ignorance. So yes, that reinforces my previous judgements about extremely left SJW types.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 10:51 PM
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I'm not looking to discuss much tbh Open minded just like all extremely left leaning social justice types.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 10:34 PM
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The person who asked this question doesn't really understand the difference between a good man and the man a woman wants to be intimate with and sweep her off her feet. They are mutually exclusive. The good man is the guy who goes to work everyday being reliable and dependable meanwhile she cheats on him with the mysterious stranger who has abs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 09:56 PM
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Is this more of a wishlist or do you expect to actually find this guy? Also, if you do expect to find him or have, do you bring a similar set of qualities that make you "a good woman?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 09:51 PM
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We are biologically animals. When a lion kills a gazelle it isn't amoral or "murder" it is survival. We probably did quite a bit of killing and it is in our nature. We are lucky we live in relatively peaceful times and can have such lofty ideas like morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:02 AM
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Shhhh... You'll let our secret out. You might have your Man Cardtm taken
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 02:59 AM
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OK now reply to the other part of my of post to you Everything worth having in life is worth working for. If everything came naturally, you wouldn't value it. I was only using an example to show you that you put effort into different interactions and you are so used to that effort that it is natural to you because you've done it so often. Learning to "create a bubble" is not rocket science or all that difficult. If someone else can do it, then you can too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 10:27 PM
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People are getting married a lot older than we used to as a society. It was nothing for most people to be married by 20-21. Now, people wouldn't even consider getting married that early.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 01:52 AM
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Yeah I am not a nerdy girl and I am not into that culture. Not shaming anyone who is. The guys who are super nerds? More power to them, whatever makes them happy. But I was just saying, these guys don't mope around complaining about women. They either go get after what they want or they stay single, most of them see women as too much of a chore and would rather play video games. I am around 32 year old boys basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 11:56 PM
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Male, 36, and I am around nerds, furries, WoW obsessed, and are up until 6am playing games with each other. I think they gave up
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 09:47 PM
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i’m tired of the whining that they don’t get all the super models pussy they want. Do you only hangout around incels or something? No man I have ever met complains about that, they go get what they want and sometimes the ones they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 10:08 PM
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I have said this before but I want you to understand something, your personality is always changing. You aren't the same to everyone so this "letting my own personality out" is bullshit. Go ahead and tell me you talk to a puppy the same way you talk to your boss at work, or act the same around a baby or a policeman. You LEARNED how to act in different situations so LEARN to act a certain way when you want to seduce a woman. It didn't just come natural, you had to learn all this stuff so don't pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 07:46 PM
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I will have to find a guide or something to get me started
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 09:35 PM
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Stellaris I bought this game on a steam sale and realized that I might be too old to play video games now because I was confused and frustrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 09:30 PM
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I think you should get out more
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 12:24 AM
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He seems to be a very kind person. You seem like someone who lives in your head quite a bit. That isn't bad, most creative compassionate people are exactly like that. But you also might regret (later in life) not putting yourself out there more often in the real world. I know what this sounds like, it sounds like I am telling an introvert to stop being so introverted... But what I really mean is that to grow as an individual you have to experience things that are new to you. Also, you'll most li…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 04:01 AM
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OK- so face yourself and accept you have a crush. It is fine to accept it. But you don't know this guy at all- you are crushing on your assumption of who he is. Of course you are getting obsessed with him, he can be as perfect as your imagination can make him and he doesn't have to exist to disappoint you. It is OK to accept you had a crush, no big deal, but see it for what it is. Then, accept that you have a "type" obviously something about this guy touched you in the right way. Now, realize th…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 02:29 AM
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Women know they are competing with each other. That's why they wear cute shoes and makeup and everything. It is to out-do the girl next to them, it isn't to impress men. Why do you think women tear each other down so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 11:25 PM
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Intelligence is an evolutionary dead end
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 10:20 PM
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She isn't saying there is a conspiracy like the Illuminati or anything. More like, women tend to act helpless and like little children when they want a guy to do something for them (like change a car tire). Even a perfect stranger of a guy will want to help the "damsel in distress" change a tire or get something off the top shelf. Basically, the woman with a flat tire is extracting unpaid labor from a guy who is perfectly willing to be enslaved to her will and unable to see he was being used bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 09:06 PM
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It isn't just women that need men, society needs men to pick up the trash, police the streets, fix the plumbing, and repair all the cars. With more men going MGTOW then all parts of society are going to break down because there's just so much work out there that too many women do NOT want to do and do not respect men who do them. With no respect, low pay, and difficulty navigating the landscape of finding a girl, a lot of men are going their own way. Can you blame them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 08:56 PM
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Yeah I think we need to define terms. I am not talking about a masculine guy as someone who is been in prison 4 times and tattoos everywhere and lies and cheats like Chad. That isn't masculine (to me) that's psychotic- but I understand that a lot of women might view them as masculine. To me, masculine guys are guys who stand up straight, work out, have good jobs and know who they are and what they want out of life- they aren't afraid of responsibility and taking the lead when necessary. They don…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 02:09 AM
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I think something we don't talk about enough on this subreddit is masculine guys like feminine girls and feminine girls like masculine guys. This means that when they are with this person, they feel balanced and this crazy energy the other side has. But when you break up, you lose all that. And there are a dozen other reasons like validation from friends, not wanting to be alone, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 01:45 AM
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We have to generalize here, because we are making such huge blanket statements. But in general, men want sex more than women do. It isn't just want like you might want ice cream, it is more like a craving. And it is mostly biological because of testosterone, it isn't that we were raised to want women, it is a biological urge that's been selected over thousands of generations. So sex is almost like a commodity and in economics if demand goes up so does the price. It is a normal natural thing. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 12:17 AM
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I don't care what anyone thinks, I don't live my life for them and their comments mean nothing to me. I am 36 and I dated a girl who is 38 but genuinely looked 22 and got all kinds of weird comments and looks everywhere I went. After a while, I got used to it and immune to it and kinda enjoyed causing people to wonder what the hell was up. Am I a trafficker? Am I super rich? Huge Johnson? Why is THAT girl with THAT guy? But honestly, who cares what people think?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 08:30 PM
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You people What? Do you even know anything about me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 08:12 PM
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It is like saying I lift 5x a week, do fun shit, was recently in a relationship, I like the exact same things women say they like, so am I boring? He is probably young and hasn't got a handle on humble brag yet. Also, the frugal part sounds like he doesn't do anything interesting or spontaneous for his girl so she eventually feels neglected and leaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 10:23 PM
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What article?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 09:51 PM
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Women rarely get in a relationship with a guy they find "unacceptable." This study is about as clever as saying water is wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 01:28 AM
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You mean 94% of women with a partner find them acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 12:06 AM
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john green I googled him and watched a youtube video. I have absolutely no idea who this goofy guy is. Should I? Also, are you literally insane? I am describing a relationship between a man and a woman, where the woman is desperately in love and the guy acts like he only cares about 30% of the time. I have literally no idea why you think that is "gay shit" but I suspect it has more to do with you than me. Keep projecting your "gay shit" out there, I hope it helps you!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 12:52 AM
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Haha nope, I just have female friends that deal with Chad. He push/pulls, makes her feel incredible, and then pushes her away. She has feelings for him and just cant stop, she is uncontrollably attracted to him and he is short, bald, and awkward. But he acts dominant and avoids her just the right way to stir up all her anxiety. It is OK if you haven't had a crazy intense relationship before, no need to call it homoerotic babble. It will happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 10:17 PM
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Yes, the push pull will drive you insane. It is so easy to overlook the bad stuff because when things are good, they're soooo good. But you have to be assertive and put your needs first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 09:26 PM
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Reading this has shown me that women think pretty boys are Chads. No, that isn't a Chad. A Chad is almost never that good looking (but can be), he is the guy who comes into your life, makes you paralyzed in fear and anxious over him constantly - but also sexually aroused because he just "does it" for you like other guys can't, there is just "something" that draws you to him, even though he probably isn't good for you long term. He has zero regard for your feelings. Takes whatever he can get. Che…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 07:06 PM
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Exactly, you think women want tall guys because they can reach stuff on tall shelves?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 02:46 AM
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Actions speak louder than words. It doesn't matter what your pick up line is, or how funny you are, you aren't making a woman instinctively excited unless you know how to act dominant and sexy while being flirty. Also, how you say something is more important than what you say. Words matter, but communication with women is mostly non-verbal. She knows what you're thinking before you open your mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 02:38 AM
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Yeah- I agree, it is a lot more biology that people understand. We were making this work for hundreds of thousands of years even without evidence of language. You can't just hide all that biology behind some fancy words.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 02:33 AM
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Yeah I mean she straight up kissed you and you probably never got her name! This is something that a lot of people don't really consider...not all men drawn to TRP are losers. I think this sub has a bunch of 19 year olds that think that their life is over and they're r/ForeverAlone Also, I think a lot of people take TRP too seriously or literally. It basically describes female nature. Not everyone is exactly the same but a lot of western women grew up watching the same TV shows, reading the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 02:19 AM
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Oh man, this hits me way too close to home. There is a bar about 2 blocks from where I live, so I go there on a Friday night to have a beer. While I am there just chillin at bar with my beer this very attractive girl comes up to me. She is giggly, cute, but short and I am 6'2+. So I can't actually hear a damn word she is saying. But I play along like I do. She was still super interested and pointed at a table with some girls at it who waved to me when I looked. She went back and sat with him. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 02:01 AM
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There was another comment that really made it clear, that women want it both ways. They want a man to be assertive and make a move but not the wrong man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 01:05 AM
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I think it depends on where you live. If you live in a crowded city and ride buses and trains crammed with people, yeah, you're going to get groped and random cat calls. If you live in the midwest, I think it's more rare because people just aren't that close together. Not saying that assault doesn't happen here too, it does, but I feel like it is uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 12:57 AM
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The issue is, some women love being pursued aggressively. A guy who is shy and acts meek and hangs around for too long because he won't make a move is going to repulse women. The completely unwanted advances that go too far (like forced kissing and groping) is unacceptable and there are already laws in place against that kind of behavior. What more do you want us to do? Genuine question.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 12:47 AM
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I am 36, my GF is a virgin and she wants to wait until we get married. And I am not a virgin, so to me, waiting is painful because there's nothing to do with a boner and sometimes that stuff gets painful. Also, I am the kind of guy who never expected to be with a virgin? I am 36 so I figured that ship sailed 20 years ago. Honestly, it made me feel tremendous pressure when I found out. I wasn't looking for a virgin. I do worry that if I do marry her, she will begin to think like you do, and after…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 04:37 AM
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And that is great- if you think that's exactly what is happening here. And it very well could be. But it is also OK for a 3rd party to see if there are any blind spots. The reason I think it is OK to question is because he is laying a lot on her, including his own work! She said she feels like his secretary or something because she has to rewrite so much of his work or rephrase it or whatever. That raises legit questions in my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 03:09 AM
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I am not saying being a SAHM is a bad thing or anything, but she already said that money isn't abundant and he is already working 80 hours a week. He can't keep that up. No one can. That is all beside the point, I asked 'what is she getting out of this relationship' because it is obvious she feels neglected, lonely, and 2nd place compared to his job. So I was mentioning it is OK to look for signs of narcissism and have a 3rd party check in to see if everything is how she thinks it is. It could b…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 02:28 AM
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2 2 I think cute ascetic? photo. The video makes me wanna barf for some reason 1 times a thousand. I am probably really different from most guys so don't really go by my choices. For the record I am white, 36, 6'2, good job, and I have an Asian girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 12:36 AM
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I sense a little bit of narcissism in his actions. Me too, it is hard to point to any one thing, but it is mostly the combination of expectations he puts on you that pile up and make it your responsibility to help him with his work, cook his food, take care of his pet, etc... What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? The fact you are having little fights could be your subconscious showing you that you aren't very happy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 12:00 AM
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I swear the only thing people all agree on here is that this sub causes everyone to become more negative about the opposite sex. I would disagree with that. The word negative is wrong, I would say realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 09:59 PM
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I used to be super conservative Christian, but I fell out of that when I was like 22-25? Then I started dating seriously when I was 27, had sex in a long term relationship, and after that ended I dated for a while. I am 36 now and last year I met my gf who is 30 who is waiting for marriage. I respect that and I will wait for her (although it's difficult!) My point is, don't assume that guys who will respect your choices aren't out there. In fact, you'll probably weed out the weak guys. What I do…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 12:43 AM
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OK, I have a girlfriend. She wants to get married, have kids, etc. like, yesterday, if she had her way. Do I treat her like she's going to run off and cheat on me and branch swing the first chance she gets? No. Why? Because I am a high quality person and if she leaves me she is going to lose access to me. You are still missing the forest for the trees, so I will try again. You treat all guns as loaded because there could be serious consequences if you don't. You never get complacent with a gun. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 03:03 AM
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You are kinda missing the forest for the trees. We have been saying this over and over in this sub. AWALT is like saying, treat all guns like they are loaded. Of course, not all guns are loaded, but you don't point it at people and randomly pull the trigger. So women and men are different- some can even be NAWALT, but in general, if you treat women a certain way, they will react a certain way. In general, if you treat men a certain way, they will react a certain way. We developed over thousands …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 01:06 AM
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It personally would do nothing for me. But the guys I roll with ALWAYS notice blonde girls first. Even mediocre girls get a second glance if they're blonde. So I would say do it and gauge the reaction yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 02:04 AM
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We aren't wimpy idiots, most of us aren't anyway. If we want to have sex we make it clearly nonverbally and verbally, we aren't shy about it unless we are like 18 years old and it's our first time. Shy guys are more common when young, but most men will do what needs to get done. We read cues, you act like you wanna get frisky, we escalate a little, it's the mating dance we have done for thousands of years. If you act disinterested then we either move on to a new target or redouble our effort. Do…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 09:02 PM
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Less to do with testosterone and more to do with serotonin. That is the chemical that makes you feel good, and hold your shoulders back and head up high. You get more of a serotonin fix when girls look at you, when guys submit to you, and when you feel like the world is on your side.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 05:17 AM
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I am glad we agree, sometimes we are lazy and have lazy sex, so what? But it is nice to feel wanted and desired for a guy. That's about all we need from our mate to feel like a happy little puppy. I think the original post was written by someone with autism who has never been a relationship before or has no idea how people actually are in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 02:55 AM
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I don't even try to initiate if it's obvious there would be an issue, and honestly I get more out of sex when I am pleasing my girl rather than pumping away mindlessly for 45 minutes. I find that I get more turned on when she is more turned on, so that is another aspect to wanting enthusiasm. I don't want a body to masturbate with I want a partner to connect with me. I mean sometimes are better than others, but I hope you understand, that for me anyway, I don't want a hole, I want a person. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 02:38 AM
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Absolutely- I agree with you. No one should be held to the 5-star restaurant, exclusive performance, mind blowing experience every time. That's just not possible. What is possible is feeling loved and wanted. And for guys (ok me) that means eagerness to have sex when I initiate, not, "oh god, why, we did that like a week ago? Oh was it 3 weeks? I forgot." The relationships I felt the most loved were the ones where the girl acted like she was waiting for me to initiate and my loneliest relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 02:23 AM
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You are both incredibly wrong. Such female sided thinking and not understanding the male point of view. Do you want a guy to give you flowers every day? After the 3rd or 4th day, those flowers sorta lose their meaning right? What about after 5 years of the same flowers every day? Why is it so hard to accept that males are validated by being desired? Men love to feel wanted and needed sexually, intellectually, physically, etc. The idea of flowers is that he thought of you unexpectedly or you coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 01:50 AM
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Intelligence is an evolutionary dead-end.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 09:26 PM
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It isn't just about sex, it is about eagerness and enthusiasm. It isn't like, oh this girl let me do anal, so she must really love me. You can't write down a check list of things you want like, she cooks, has sex, and gives me bjs, so she has proved it to me because I crossed off my checklist. That isn't how it works. When you love someone you'll do anything for them. Fly across the country, crawl through broken glass, and jump through any hoop to prove your eagerness. And sometimes you can do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 09:18 PM
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Not the poster, but I can tell you why I don't like casual sex. It makes changes to our brain chemistry, in that we crave novelty and new relationships rather than a slow burn/ pair bond relationship that lasts a lifetime. It is a known fact if your brain is wired to novelty and new relationships you're going to be bored as shit in a monogamous long term committed relationship (that may include children, combined finances, etc.) Not everyone wants that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 01:01 AM
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So they push things onto other people 'because things are always getting pushed onto us we need to fight back!' This is literally every corporate/government job.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 11:35 PM
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Some men want 50 girls and some men want one woman who is a loving wife and partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 03:42 AM
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increasingly less This is called an oxymoron and I don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 03:32 AM
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Highly paid jobs usually come with more stress which is why they pay so much, they can't keep people employed in them proficiently long-term, because eventually people learn how to be lazy (it is just human nature, ok?) That is actually the same thing that happens in LTR, after a while the quality and novelty goes down and people don't do "the sex" as often. I don't get lazy at my job that I have been working 11 years, I do my best to bring demonstrable value as often as I can. Since I am in a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 03:31 AM
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I am 6'2.5 (sometimes I say 6'2 sometimes I say 6'3- I said 6'3 when I was young because I thought i'd probably grow that half inch, I didn't) Anyway, I know for a fact that my height has given me an "in" with women way out of my league. I am bald, I was 300+ lbs (but held it well) and I was getting a lot more attention than the guys I went out with who are shorter but far more muscular, better looking, and funnier than me. Maybe it was simply easier to make eye contact with them across the club…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 03:12 AM
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TRP views the best sexual strategy (to TRP) as having sex with as many girls as possible. LTRs take a LOT of work and maintenance. You have to constantly upkeep your mind, body, soul, and career. You have to be the best father, gardener, cook, car guy, sex guy, spider killer, and on and on. And even then, the woman can still monkey branch and divorce rape you. Which is why TRP considers the best sexual strategy to just spin plates and live your own life instead of trying to cater to her ever cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 03:01 AM
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I would never sleep with someone I find unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 02:54 AM
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I am older than you, ok, I went through this. I was there. I was you. I felt anxiety and crippling fear. I didn't want to approach anyone. It isn't worth it. On and on. Your thinking pattern needs to be reversed. Instead of thinking about what could go wrong? Think about what could go right. Also, don't hesitate, just do it. When you're standing in line at Starbucks just say something like, wow can you believe this line? whatever. Just say something. If she is eager to talk you'll know, if she i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 02:04 AM
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Yeah, you are going to fail. You don't even want to try
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 01:48 AM
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Being friends is good. You need to spend more time around high quality women to truly understand them. Have so many attractive women friends that you can't be thirsty
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 01:35 AM
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I used to be 340 lbs. I had no game. I am bald. I am not attractive. I was a 27 kissless virgin before I started dating, losing weight, and gaining some game. I feel like if I was able to do it, anyone can. I don't think incels existed at the time, so I didn't have a group I identified with, I was just frustrated and alone all the time. So anyway, I started to lose weight, strengthen my game, and I met lots of women. Not all through apps or whatever, but I mean, I met women everywhere. I would s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 01:20 AM
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ends up using 20% of them, leaving me whatever's left). so... 80%?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 03:50 AM
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The blue pill is exactly what Morpheus describes as "the matrix." It is the world around you that you fall into so easily without resistance. You want to believe it. Blue pill is the way things "should be" the blue pill lets you believe whatever you want to believe. But it isn't reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 02:03 AM
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Listen, you can't. I mean you can try but someone will always call that toxic too. You have to do what is right for you, in your life. You have to be an independent, competent, wise person and figure these things out on your own. You have to pick up the nuggets of gold and throw out the nuggets of crap. That's up for you to decide what those are exactly. The red pill opens your eyes to possibilities that you didn't see before. It is like the knowledge of good and evil from the Garden of Eden. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 09:28 PM
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Dating is kind of nebulous. Women can get dates easily, but it is hard for them to find guys they want a relationship with. Not all women want relationships, so those women have it great. But finding a quality guy to commit is very hard for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 03:59 AM
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Men are shamed the most, honestly that is the typical weapon women use against men. Women can have as many preferences they want, right down to height, income, race, and dick size and face no consequences of any kind. She is just considered picky, but if a guy ever says he likes a specific race even if it is his own race that is considered cringy and creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 10:05 PM
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It was never on my radar, I enjoyed your write up and I am open to ideas on how to make my space more masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 09:17 PM
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I have lived alone for 10 years and frankly it is still quite bland. My GF hasn't tried to do anything to my space, but I suspect she wants to. She suggested I buy a blanket for my couch because she gets cold. I told her I will keep her warm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 09:11 PM
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Oh I am annoying, that's for certain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 03:48 AM
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Yeah my GF has to work hard to do that, it isn't natural to her. She does it, but it isn't her nature
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 03:44 AM
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I hate being driven. I prefer to drive. I feel emasculated being driven by a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 03:43 AM
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I am not sure if this is exactly your definition of empathy, but for me personally (as a dude) it is more like I want submissiveness. Not a doormat, not a pushover, not someone who hides all their feelings but feels safe trusting me. Makes me feel manly when I am the captain of the ship and my gf lets me take control (driving, sexy stuff, picking where we eat dinner, whatever).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 03:15 AM
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My brother's 2nd wife told me in confidence that she had her first baby and "never felt anything toward it" (she choose the word it.) She went on to have another baby and it was exactly the same. She said she felt like a broken person because she thought she would have all these feelings of love for her baby but simply felt nothing. So I that can happen to some people. FYI, my brother is working on his 3rd marriage now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 01:36 AM
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It is more about being authentic. If you don't give a shit, act like it. If you do care, then be assertive. Say what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 10:02 PM
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I had never text anyone a whole page. She would text several pages and I would reply in kind. It was almost like we were sending letters over text. Really diving deep into the meaning and symbolism of fictional universes. Beyond that, just the way different fictional societies organized themselves and discussing nuanced things from obscure groups rarely mentioned (like Nox). Anyway, I must have said or did something that didn't mesh with her. I liked her though, she was super smart. Hope she fou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 12:35 AM
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I think I had a date with you once; first a week of solid texting about philosophical things in BSG and SG-1 before you wanted to meet up and then we talked for about 3-4 hours in the restaurant about all kinds of things and then you ghosted me right after.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 10:47 PM
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It goes against my moral code to do this, but I actually did exactly this. Truth is, she was (and still is) the most attractive woman I've ever met. I'd never do it again but it was a huge ego boost for me and all my relationships after that have been a lot better because I am more assertive than I used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 02:58 AM
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I know a girl just like this who lives in Staten Island right next to the ferry. She's a little older though. She can't find any normal guys, I think it's because she's so pretty she intimidates the lesser men or makes them insecure. But she's really a sweetheart. She has a good job as a nurse. She'd bend over backward for a normal nice guy, though. With so many people in NYC, you'd think that it'd be easier but apparently it's significantly more difficult. One thing though, if you want a woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 02:46 AM
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I think a lot of people are going to say things like casual has benefits too and LTR can start well but gradually decline and then you're stuck trying to separate your life from someone you've merged together over a long period of time. Frankly, I think those people are too pessimistic. They are a glass is half empty kind of group. Just because some people had bad LTR doesn't mean you will have a bad one. They aren't easy but they aren't impossible either. Nothing worth having in life is easy!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:05 PM
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I approach people all the time. It is important to be in tune to social queues, if they look bored or annoyed then just say, "have a good day" and walk away. Don't linger around and force someone to listen to your stupid story or question. Be social, friendly, and non-threatening. I am a big guy and not the most attractive but all of my most recent girlfriends have been from chatting them up in the wild. This whole thing where women don't want to be approached, and society is all falling apart i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 03:35 AM
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How exactly do you plan to do that? I am not trying to be a jerk. Honest question: how do you change people making poor choices so we all have the same outcome?? Assume I am an idiot and smoke and drink excessively and eat unhealthy. Should other people pay for my bad health choices? Since I also decided to work at fast food because I decided to go to college for 3 years but drop out because I kept drinking so much, I also have massive student loan debt I can't pay back. I think you should pay f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 01:01 AM
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I am sorry that you disagree with reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 10:43 PM
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Entitlement comes in all kinds of different forms. Honestly, life isn't fair and some people want everyone to have the same outcomes. It just isn't possible, no matter what, life isn't going to be fair. The sooner people accept that, the better we all will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 10:10 PM
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I mean, usually the solution seems obvious but you're right. Not everyone is smart enough to figure it out. Being as clear as humanly possible is the only way to communicate effectively. People are too scared to hurt the other person's feelings or feel like they need to hide their own feelings. Feelings are neither right or wrong. Feelings are reactions to causes, and those causes could be misrepresented or incomplete.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 08:53 PM
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I really hope she listens to you, because she's headed to a bad place No doubt. I feel like she lacks self respect and that is why he disrespected her. Forget red pills, the healthy adult way to handle any problem is to be honest about it. If you can't say straightforwardly how you feel? Then you're going to have a bad time. It is so important to say how you feel and let the chips fall where they may. If you are a healthy adult you know when to let shit slide or when to take a stand.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 02:03 AM
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For this problem (or any problem) ask yourself: Why did this bother me so much? Take the answer to that question directly to him as a conversation. It should be a statement like this: "I am really hurt by how excited you were to greet this woman affectionately." You should always ask yourself what your feelings are and intentions. Because you CAN NOT assume he knows or understands what you are feeling or thinking. Even if he can reasonably assume it using your words to explain it is very importa…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 10:55 PM
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In reference to what? If you're talking about sex, then yeah, there's always more to learn. If you're talking about an oil change on my car then, yeah, I do the work and high-5 myself. Some things are important and other things aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 01:50 AM
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I have never wanted casual sex (past age 20.) Been offered several times with the mutual understanding it's just a fwb thing but I turned it down. I only want to have sex in a committed relationship. It makes all the difference in enjoyment for me. Call it a fetish if you have to, but I only enjoy committed relationship sex. So no, I don't lie, exaggerate, or fake anything at all. Is a relationship the end goal or sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 01:10 AM
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Only someone very sheltered unintelligent would view the world in absolutes like, every woman will cheat or every man will rape but it is hard to fit nuance into catchy phrases. I swear the outliers make the most noise in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 04:52 AM
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Well she calmed down eventually, and moved. She was just waiting for her friend. Her reaction to me felt unjust. To be fair, I had a long day, it's midnight, and I just want to take a shower and sleep. I wasn't expecting to get screeched at and I also felt angry someone would take my parking place when it is clearly labeled.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 04:18 AM
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When I first read TRP and I read AWALT and internalized it and understood it, I knew that it was more like, "All would COULD be like that" and we have to be really mindful and not get swept up into a daydream. It is like a reminder that you can get in a car accident or cancer from smoking, it can happen, and it can happen to YOU. Obviously, women don't branch swing or whatever at every single opportunity, but they could. So keep that possibility in mind. Don't get too comfortable. I think men es…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 04:04 AM
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I admit that physical safety is higher priority, I can't deny that. But my point is men face real consequences for their actions not perceived ones. Women often don't. Even for the same crimes women get significantly less time and are let go more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 03:56 AM
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It is definitely significantly less stigma than it used to be. A divorced woman/man is no longer a pariah.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 03:28 AM
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Beheaded actually. /s Seriously when did I say that? I said society doesn't shame people for breaking their vows.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 02:59 AM
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Sure, I will go pay for parking when I already pay for a space. Walk 8 blocks in the dark putting myself at risk. Or I can park in someone else's spot, since I worked until 12pm, the owner will definitely wake up before me and have my car towed, because (at the time) I leased a brand new red BMW and everyone knows what assholes they are (I am an asshole though, just so we are clear.) And I would be doing all this to protect some girl I don't know's feelings? To avoid confrontation? When she is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 01:55 AM
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I know Luke Skywalker isn't real but fuck Disney for turning him into a broken daddy so Mary Sue could excel at being perfect. Yeah, so much wrong with that movie. Neutered the best new character (Poe) for no other reason than, "women know best". Barf
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 12:31 AM
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This is the truth, and this is why the phrase "don't try this at home" came into being. Sometimes I feel like that warning shouldn't exist so Darwinism can take place properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 12:26 AM
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I understand. And frankly, I do see her point of view. My point is, she is in the wrong and I am the one who got yelled at. Another thing about this post that bothers me "Men are Dangerous" Just because some men are dangerous doesn't mean I am. Just because some women branch swing or trade up or whatever doesn't mean all of them will. However, society will absolutely track me down and bring me to justice if I harm a woman. Society doesn't do anything negative to women if a woman chooses to break…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 12:15 AM
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I really like your update, sounds like you got a good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 12:04 AM
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Yeah, but she was parked in my spot. I just got off work and wanted to take a shower and go to bed. Instead, I can't do that. I have to find a place to park my car, which there are usually NO open spots on a Friday night. So I would have had to pay for parking or parked far far away from my apartment. What else was I suppose to do? Fck her for parking in my spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 12:03 AM
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Yeah but the premise is all men are dangerous. I didn't fight her or anything, I was just telling her to get out of my parking spot. So my point is women can monkey branch, but that doesn't mean they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 11:27 PM
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Something like this happened to me in real life. I work evening shift and get home around midnight. I get to my apartment and someone is in my assigned parking spot. And there is a person inside the car. I park a few spaces over and walk up to a young woman in the car (she has her window down) and she yells "I DONT KNOW YOU" I said, "You are in my parking spot." She yelled back, "You are a scary looking person you can't approach people at night!!" I am tall and was on the heavier side at that ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 11:14 PM
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If TV has no effect then why do companies pay for advertisements on TV and product placements?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 11:05 PM
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I am a guy, but understanding the idea behind "cute" and "hot" is important. So I am going to start redefining things in a AF/BB way but it isn't exactly split down the center. Women find guys who are dominant and masculine to be more in the category of "hot" if he has traits that show dominance (stance, attitude, tall, whatever) then he is "hot". A hot guy a woman will wreck her life for because he just does something inside her that makes her attached to him; he is AF. So BB men see that as, "…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 02:15 AM
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Why do you think I needed your bitterness?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 10:34 PM
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You asked me if I believe people are being asses the first portion of their relationship. Do you think all people dramatically change for the worst over time? Do you think people can't work together if they same the same goals?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 10:22 PM
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So I should be bitter and wait a few years for her true ugly self to show, because everyone is hiding their dark evil soul? Listen, I can't distill our entire relationship to a few sentences on Reddit, but even when things aren't perfect it is usually a good opportunity to learn from. You don't think two people can want the same things and get along?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 10:10 PM
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If you are a quality person the other person won't want to lose you so they won't act in weird wandering-eye type ways. And you know you're a quality person and don't need their shit and can leave anytime if they do. I don't use apps, I meet people in real life like an adult. I don't use apps
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 08:51 PM
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Someone sounds bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 08:35 PM
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My GF was born in Vietnam, she's very traditional. She's anything but a gold digger. Yeah, I would say she is 10,000% better than any American girl I have been with. She is less entitled, more grateful, and a lot more giving. She also doesn't take any bullshit like "Honey, I am too tired to go to the gym today..." I admire that about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 01:20 AM
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In Feminism what's empowering for women *is* speaking up, not taking it lying down, so you kinda misinterpret that I think. Maybe it is more empowering to figure your issues out on your own and not identify as a victim? I think you could be misinterpreting the supposed cure, because it sure looks a lot like the symptoms. Hardship forces people to adapt and grow more knowledge. That experience can make a person more confident and wise going forward. ​ Personally I'd say no western/feminist women …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 01:02 AM
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Basically yeah, it doesn't matter how good you are or how much effort you put in, if she saw a grey hair and it reminded her of how sad she is to get old? Seriously, anything can and will derail a woman who isn't in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 03:14 AM
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I am a man and I will tell you right now the problem is men don't understand women at all. Women barely understand themselves, but think they do. Men think they have to have sex at certain speed/size matters/and perfect position without realizing that a woman has to first be emotionally engaged in the whole situation. Men do not understand how much emotional connection women absolutely need and the ironic thing is that by withholding emotional attachment (that TRP teaches) that actually engages …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 03:00 AM
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Maybe you don't notice they notice
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 04:43 AM
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I am a 36 y/o 6'2 white guy, and I have noticed that I get a lot of attention from girls. Doesn't matter if they're 20+ my age or 20- my age. Women tend to notice me, look at me, and if I look back they give me a big smile. I am not saying that means they wanna get together, but it is way WAY different from what happened to me when I was younger, had hair, and was 340lbs. Droping 100lbs has changed my entire life and I wish I had done it sooner, because I went from creep to getting more attentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 01:08 AM
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The value of a man would go up if the society is monogamous. Also, you would want to limit the y chromosome because x is female.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 09:10 PM
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You are a greddy and selfish person. You're right, I am so selfish and greedy for wanting to keep the money I have earned. I should be more like you and waste other people's money to virtue signal my selflessness. If you ever wondered why you're so lonely Sorry it took me a day or so to reply, I have been getting ready for a 2 week long vacation with my girlfriend to Vietnam. She is going to take me around and also we are going to meet her relatives because her niece is getting married and she w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 09:02 PM
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These kinds of questions are a little silly to me. Everyone is different. Every couple is different. Relationships are not simple equations that once you have had 3 dates, agree on x, y, z then the relationship proceeds to the next step. No. Something like that might happen if you look at it from the top down, but it is way more involved. You have to feel it out. I can't tell if you are a woman or not, but women do not approach relationships through a logical lens. It is almost entirely about em…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 04:17 AM
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I never assume exclusivity until we explicitly discuss it. It doesn't matter how many dates or if we have had sex or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 09:37 PM
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I know several very very wealthy farmers and ranchers that just took over their family farm/business. They're legit multimillionaires and do whatever the hell they want, buy expensive cars/trucks, invent toys and play with home made drones and take extended vacations whenever they want (fly to Cancun, Japan, Fiji, France) and they never stepped foot in college. It is a little bit like being handed a trust fund but with more responsibility. They have varied interests and passions and are really s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 09:57 PM
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I am going to Vietnam with my gf in a week, (visiting her family for 2 weeks) so expensive vacations will have to wait at least a couple months. I have been to NYC and it is a mixture of being every bit as wonderful and every bit as awful as people say. I can see how people fall in love with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 03:04 AM
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I live in Minnesota. I would go to NYC just for the hell of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:59 AM
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This is too real
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:56 AM
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I would so love that, can we make this a thing? Name tags with our Reddit names on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:46 AM
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Yeah, and? You aren't a normal woman are you? Fewer than 2% of all people in the USA have a PhD and even fewer are women. It says a lot about your maturity and dedication to complete a degree program like that. ​ 40 years ago when you were a child, those children weren't coddled, they were taught the lessons of life early on and given space to fail. 20 sometimes today don't know if the earth is flat or not!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:43 AM
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I think the older woman will have the vetting process down better than a 22 year old because most 22 year old don't have a clue wtf they want out of life. Do they want the rich boring guy? Do they want the poor hot guy? Dominant Chad? Do they want Tyrone? They don't know. They don't know if they want kids or a career or whatever either. Some do, some don't. But the vetting process comes from experience and experience is exactly what the 22 year old wants and in come cases craves. She won't want …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:10 AM
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You gotta have compassion for people who are so misguided and help them (educate them) to see the error of their ways, not get angry at their ignorance. Some men literally were told women are sugar and spice and everything nice and they were raised by single mothers who sheltered them against literally everything. Then they're dropped into the world to be used, abused, and taken advantage of. That isn't someone you should be angry at, it is someone you should have empathy toward and you should w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:03 AM
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we see what we want to believe. This is why being told AWALT is so powerful, it changes our naive thinking into a more realistic view. I think we agree but you dislike the term AWALT because it sounds harsh, too harsh, but it is more like "treat all guns as loaded" "treat all women as flawed humans, we because we are all flawed humans." Maybe it is because I was always an optimist at heart, but I would believe women who lied and used me and I would still keep believing. Because I was stupid as f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 12:00 AM
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AWALT is more about how a guy views women. Women are magical creatures to some guys, sugar and spice and everything nice. The gatekeeper to sex and love. They build women up to a huge ideal that no woman can live up to. "All women are like" that is a reminder that all women could be like that. It is like what you said about treating all guns as loaded. It is about respecting the capacity of women to be both good and evil, because we tend to only want to see the good sides. It is just as much a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 10:15 PM
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What strikes me is how similar this is to so many experiences that guys have had, including myself. If the guy only knew what their woman was thinking or she could communicate the guy would compensate to fix it. But this guy has no idea, and she is going to either cheat or dump him when she finds another guy who gives her that spark. It is all about her feelings and her inability to stand up and say what she thinks. She actively hides what she feels to him and then silently blames him for not kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 09:31 PM
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She could.... Oh I don't know... Talk to him. And tell him, hey we need a little excitement, also, I am not ready to get married and have babies yet. Instead she "knows what she needs to do" and this dude is about to lose 6 years of his life to learn a lesson, AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 09:21 PM
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Hey man, I know you think that men don't get a lot of opportunities and you think you gotta meet women in social situations like bars and whatnot, but that is totally wrong. I met my gf at work on the elevator. I have met a lot of women "in the wild" just chatting them up anywhere I see them. It is a lot easier to get "in" when she can create a story about how you met. Honestly, next time you're in the grocery store stand by the fruit and just wait for an opportunity to talk to a woman. It doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 08:57 PM
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I am going to leave this here https://i.redd.it/h54ebzskzx031.png
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 08:26 PM
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https://www.hud.gov/topics/housing_choice_voucher_program_section_8 Literally nothing about vets. And I have never said veterans should be thrown in the gutter or not given public aid. How do you sleep at night knowing you're so delusional?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 08:23 PM
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Nope, those are people who earn 50% less than the median average income. Nice try at trying to make me look bad though. My points all stand and you're too delusional to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 08:00 PM
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In this scenario, I go for the girl that is tugging on the arm of the girl you're describing. The one trying to get to slow down, calm down, not do anything too crazy. You know exactly the girl I am talking about, every bit as pretty but dressed more conservatively and definitely not as reckless or "forward." That is the girl I walk up to and talk to when her friend is out dancing or leaning on a guy. I go to her and say hey, this place is pretty loud right? Bonus points if she says "huh?" and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 04:05 AM
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I agree with you, you are right. Children are cock blockers. Relationships are extremely hard work. So that must mean that to some people sex isn't the main thing. Sex is great, fulfilling, feels good, validating, and fun. But it isn't everything. But it is everything to those guys who aren't getting any sex (the guys who find and read TRP)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:47 AM
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My gf wouldn't believe me that I feel that way. She asked me on the 3rd date how many FWB I have. I said none. She said ok but in the last 6 months or so. None. She is like, ok, I am not judging you, I just want to know the truth. She couldn't believe that I am not interested in casual sex because all guys are. I told her, I have had casual sex and I don't like it. I want to be in a relationship first. To me sex is very intimate and brings us closer and frankly it's not fun to get closer to some…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 12:20 AM
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So many guys are a like that. They won't ever snap out of it. And even if you do eventually win them over, they'll resent you for it, and blame you for any little thing that isn't right. You have heard it a hundred times, if you have heard it once. But cut the dude loose and find someone more compatible with your relationship goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 12:07 AM
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Nice to know I am weird. I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 09:03 PM
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What if a guy can have casual sex but chooses not to?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 08:58 PM
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What if a guy can have casual sex but chooses not to?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 08:58 PM
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No I am not angry at anyone. I do not like using my resources for other people's bad choices. That isn't just abortion (which you KNOW women want/demand be funded by government), it also includes welfare, section 8, wic, food stamps, cash assistance, medical care, etc. for people who are perfectly capable but make poor choices and expect more and more help. I have to open up my wallet and give and be told I am an asshole for being responsible and working hard. And I clearly wasn't talking about …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 08:26 PM
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Not huge into parties or bars, never really felt comfortable there. But it is fun to go with friends and have a few drinks and laugh at stuff. I'd rather have people over and grill out with some beers or wine and talk politics and why I am better than them. Just kidding. Not politics or serious stuff. Everyone takes things too serious when it is easy to just let go a little bit and have fun. I figured this out around 27 after college and a few years of mourning the loss of my mother, the clouds …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 02:36 AM
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Strawman. I am not talking about the exceptionally rare cases, I already gave exception for those, as everyone has. I am talking about irresponsible people, which is the vast majority of abortions. It isn't necessary to have sex, it is people's responsibility to use birth control or abstain. Why am I paying for their mistakes? Why should I, Taxpayer, pay for their irresponsible choices? And don't pretend like the women advocating for abortion don't want the government (IE. me, the taxpayer) payi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 08:25 PM
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And you still have no answer to my simple question. Why should I PAY for someone else's bad choices? I will wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 08:18 PM
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Great so you all must adopt a lot of those unwanted kids born to poor women who can't take care of them then huh? Maybe buy them food and clothes, pay for their education? Oh, what's that? No? Remember when you said that? Guess what? I do pay, I pay a lot in taxes and some of it goes to people who make irresponsible choices. Meanwhile I am over here, being all responsible with my choices. So one last time. Why should I pay for someone's bad choices?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 03:45 AM
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Ahh yes, but if you had your way, the feds (IE. taxpayers like me) would be paying for it.Don't act stupid. Also, have not answered my question yet. Why should I pay for your bad choices? Why should I pay for your baby you weren't prepared for with wic, healthcare, section 8, food stamps, dependent tax credits, etc. while I am being responsible with my money and my choices and you weren't? Why should I pay up for your irresponsible choices? Crickets...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 03:35 AM
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Give a huge refundable tax credit to first-time married couples, like $20,000. Then to incentivize marriage, give them a credit for each year they are married
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 03:30 AM
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No if I pay for your abortion, I am still paying for your bad choice. I win, and you haven't answered my question. Why should I pay for your bad choices?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 03:08 AM
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Why should responsible people literally pay for irresponsible people's poor choices? What's that? No answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 02:45 AM
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I find it odd the only people who are for abortion weren't aborted themselves. For me it comes down to, do we protect all life or no life. Pro Choice crowd says don't tell me what to do, but pay for my choices. That lacks personal responsibility and is bad for society overall when many people divorce themselves from personal responsibility. Is that the case in every abortion/welfare precipitant, no. Of course not. You can show an exception, and lots of them, I am sure. But in general, you're get…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 02:23 AM
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they would be immediately offended and defensive This is exactly the problem, insecurity abounds. And I don't know why guys especially take things so personally. And I am a guy, and I was like this when I was 16, but I eventually got over myself and realized, it is no big deal. If some woman doesn't like me, who cares? I am not her, I don't know her thoughts? I don't have to impress her. I think guys build relationships up too much in their minds and expect too much from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 09:39 PM
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But I'm going to be the one to say its not simple. Being the one to make the first move, having interesting topics to talk about, relating what the girls saying back at you, building mystery to build attraction, knowing how to approach certain topics, etc. In all is very hard to master. Okay man, yeah, it isn't super easy. But you can learn it in like a week if you try every day. You learn that some things work and others do not. Also, don't over think it. Just have fun in the situation, like I …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 01:44 AM
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I think it is evolutionary and biological. If a raiding village comes along and kills all the men in your community, if you weren't submissive naturally, you'd die.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 01:26 AM
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This is how you grow, you learn from mistakes and apply those lessons forward. It is basically never a good idea to tell a woman you don't know. Make a choice and go with it. Have a good reason for it and stick to it unless it is obvious it was terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 01:24 AM
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I think confidence is a higher level trait, like love. You can't really explain love to someone, but you know it when you feel it and it is built off of a lot of other qualities, like how someone makes you feel special, physical qualities, and some slightly more intangible stuff. Confidence is also a difficult thing to explain because two people can say the same words and yet the way they say them, the body language, the certainty that they believe what they say? It can be totally different and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 01:19 AM
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I will be honest, when I was younger, I was meek, timid, introverted, awkward as f. I also did some stupidly cringy things as a teenager. But as I got older, I met guys who were more confident, had "thick skin", and were socially aware. That helped me improve my skills dramatically, even so much so, that I like meeting strangers and in fact met my girlfriend this way. My point is, if I can be "socialized" I suspect most people can be too, if they are receptive to criticism and able to grow from …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:36 AM
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Thank you, I learned a new word today.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:32 AM
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I think it's also worth noting that much of these positive personality characteristics are not in one's control. Sure you can put yourself out there and you can try, but at the end of the day some people just aren't good with people. Anxieties, tics, bad luck string of negative interactions, whatever it is it's not so simple to just go be some other, more socially acceptable person. Man, I disagree entirely with this. You might start charisma at level 0 but as you gain experience points through …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:18 AM
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Diffidence Not sure what you intended to write here. The thing is the lack of confidence. I don't understand all the excuses. Why not meet the girl? Just meet her and say hi, buy her a drink, chat a bit, if sparks happen good, if not oh well. Why is it such a big deal that these guys make it into an end of the world scenario??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:11 AM
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I agree with you. I have tried to hook up quite a few guys with girls I know in my girlfriend's circle. I work in a hospital, I am IT and my GF is more patient care. And all the girls are looking for guys just like the ones I work with. But I have noticed that it is always always the guys who say no, they can't meet the girl. The guys have so many insecurities that they won't even meet the girls I know. And they are decent, well-meaning, kind people on both sides. I would call them all normal pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:08 AM
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I know a number of (outwardly and "on paper") attractive guys, but they are too socially awkward or insecure to chat with a woman. I manage anywhere from 13-17 people a night at work and I have tried to set up some decent guys with some decent girls I have met. But the guys (not the girls) are always like, "nah, she is too pretty."' "Nah, I don't think she would like me." "What would a girl like that see in me?" He gave up before he even tried, and this was a guy who is 37, 6'4, good looking, ed…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:01 AM
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41.7% relaxed 50% engaging I am basically dead center on pink. ...lol Very attractive women tend to have anxious attachment styles. I don't know why. Avoidant guys tend to drive them bonkers, they want to figure them out and win them over and all that jazz. Most guys I know are higher avoidant. Dunno why. I think it is because these attachment styles are from somewhat insecure people. Just a guess and a shot in the dark...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 04:37 AM
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Yeah, he is attractive and dresses well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 04:00 AM
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Alpha is a combination of things, it isn't any one thing that makes a person alpha. I would say that it is 95% attitude and about 5% genetics, and genetics can mask some of your attitude flaws (non-alpha traits and behavior.) The most alpha guy I know (if a room had 25 alpha males, he would be the alpha of that room) was born to an extremely rich dad and was the only son with 3 older sisters. His older sisters were the spoiled bratty girls that TRP likes to hate on so much. So he was raised with…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 03:54 AM
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I just wanna say, I read all of this thread and it's amazing. You both are amazing! I absolutely love PPD! Might I suggest something for you both? Don't ever stop being you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 01:11 AM
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Of course only in healthy doses, too much and you will be in the loony bin with these traits. Literally all of these traits are on a sliding scale and can change on a whim. For example, if you have a good job, and make decent money, she will be attracted to you. But if you inherit 20 million dollars, you might make her nervous because you have too much money now and that makes her insecure. You can go on trips, buy cars, start a business, etc, and she will feel like she can't keep up. Same with …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 11:20 PM
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I personally have divided the definition of love into three definitions: there's lust, compassion, and true love. You can figure out the first two, but how do I define true love? It would be like an ideal relationship between a parent and a young child. The parent is almost entirely selfless and provides and cares for their young child in every way, protection, food, safety, etc. The problem is, it is unrealistic to have such high expectations from a partner as an adult. So it is important to re…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/19 02:39 AM
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Even if youre a sociopath Sociopaths just move on to a new area. Rinse and repeat. They will find new people to devastate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/19 08:31 PM
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Oh look, another woman trying to shame a man for trying to maximize his potential for a good life!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/19 04:24 AM
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keeping most men in the dark about the fact that women find most men repulsive. Ouch man, who hurt you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 09:36 PM
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I think that metaphor of a fridge works if you're a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 03:50 AM
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Never gone to a strip club. Never hired an "escort." I am attracted to classy not trashy. *note: I am not saying I am against strip clubs or escorts, and I am not personally making a judgment about the people who participate in those things, but my opinion is that women who have sex for money and strip naked for money are not the type of women I want to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 12:44 AM
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I think the real issue here is that the woman is expecting commitment from the guy (a long term commitment, involving constant work and effort to maintain) and meanwhile, the same guy is getting lackluster performance from the girl and she thought that's perfectly OK, until he found out. Dude just wanted a bj?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 08:30 PM
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Yeah, I am definitely not saying that. That is some incel dark fantasy shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 07:33 PM
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Yeah but I am talking about the addiction to "the feels." It is seriously more powerful that people realize. Some women even self-destruct following their bad boys off a metaphorical cliff. They want all their suffering to mean something and they're addicted to the push and pull. I see it a lot, and it's really sad, because it's like a heroin addict or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:58 AM
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The real issue is the most men don't experience the peaks and valleys of emotions that most women do. Yeah we dudes have ups and downs, but women seem to experience them 10x more. The rush of "feel good" chemicals is very addictive, and surprise, bad boys cause all kinds of highs and lows. Biology controls us more than we think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 01:30 AM
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Yeah, women should do whatever they want. Why listen to men? Besides, men are constantly controlling and telling women what to do, because men obviously have all the power and take away the agency and free will of women because women absolutely NEVER do WHATEVER they want. /s (Do I even need this?)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 01:27 AM
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Their best true authentic selves. I find this to be a bit problematic. Let me explain through example. Imagine you are talking to a dog, you are reassuring him because he did something well. "Good boy! Such a good boy, look at this thing you did!" Would you talk to the man doing your taxes, oil change, or making your latte the same way? So which of these is your Authentic SelfTM? Are a different person for your dog? Nah, you are the same person but you do things different in different situations…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 01:14 AM
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Of course, you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 07:45 PM
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No no no... Women absolutely love these kinds of games. If they are done in a flirty, light, fun way. Women absolutely love it when you come in to the room and say, "wow you look awful today!" *shock* "Awfully cute!!!" *finger guns* *giggles* You have to do it right and be playful, not everyone understands how to do it. There's a huge playful component here that a lot of people simply never understand how to modulate their voice and body movements for the sake of a joke. Like /u/Actuallyconsiste…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 04:16 AM
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This girl was testing your dominance and assertiveness. This was genuinely a case where she wanted to see if you would work hard to "change her mind." She said "I am not into white guys" but she could have just as easily said, "I am not into bald guys" or "I don't like fat guys" or "I never date IT guys..." It is a test to see if you will back down or if you have confidence in yourself to assert you are good enough and will change her mind about bald IT guys who drink too much beer. You have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 04:08 AM
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What about the people who started with nothing and worked those $9.50/hr jobs and saved and saved to get to a decent place in life? Sacrificed my youth, drove a beat-up car, had no family, no girls, and now that I finally have a decent income, I am being treated like I need to be taken to the cleaners? Get out of here with your entitlement. All those other rich people who were lucky in their "circumstances of birth" had family before them that also worked hard. You can't keep taking from the mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 04:50 AM
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Sorry man, AI and robots are either going to come so fast we can't control what happens next, or they will be privy to only a few. What gets me annoyed is that suddenly everyone is tripping over themselves to give away the most free stuff to buy votes. And this is what kills me, it is working. People are so ready for free stuff they will tax the hard working people out of existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 04:13 AM
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Maybe we can create a better society that involves men and women sacrificing for a better tomorrow. For example, let's design some robots and AI to do all the work and thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 04:04 AM
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You are totally right, I agree. I think the point is, women have certain expectations from men and men have certain expectations from women. Society tends to favor women over men, as far how acceptable these expectations are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 03:17 AM
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Wait a minute, if a nice guy "works hard"- gets the courage up, introduces himself, gets a number, has playful text game, plans a charming date, pays for dinner, and works hard on the conversation he doesn't get to expect sex. We all agree to do that, right? But if you "worked hard" to be a "good girlfriend" you deserve him protecting you at the bar? Confused. I think it is because men and women value sex highly but for completely different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 02:53 AM
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I agree with you, and that is why the fight to stay rooted in personal freedom is so difficult. ​ We are all too happy to give up rights for a little 'free stuff.'
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/19 01:51 AM
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Just because you think your guy isn't Chad? Doesn't mean he isn't. Why is he so old and not married? Why would he commit to you and risk his money? You are seeking guys with money because you seek security (another part of anxious attachment). I think you'll find that when you date people who aren't as wealthy, you will see how people can be secure and poor. Which is a lesson you need to learn, badly. You also seem to get upset very quickly, watch your temper.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 11:39 PM
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This is what I was thinking also. She is getting "best of her life sex." She is getting favors at her work worth thousands of dollars, but she thinks she is beta because Chad won't commit. <roll eyes> I think this girl is just uninteresting. She says she was a model for years and traveled all over dating extremely rich men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 11:12 PM
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She "flew all over" as a model and "dated" extremely wealthy men. She feels entitled to rich guys. Ugly rich guys become attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 11:03 PM
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This will likely get buried but I hope you read this message. You need to learn about your relationship "attachment style" My guess is you are anxious and you are attracted to avoidant men. Also, I think you tend give to people gifts because you, yourself like to receive gifts, so find a guy who likes to give. I am always bringing my girlfriend popcorn, flowers, beer, a card, etc. because I realized that's how she feels appreciated and thought about, and I suspect you're the same way. ​ This isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 09:44 PM
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Have I ever blamed women (as a whole?) I do blame the Illuminati reptilians though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 12:15 AM
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LOL who are you trying to fool? Lets be honest. There's a lot of blaming going on here by people who at the end of the day just lacked social competence and avoided doing the work to learn it. This guy I work with, he was raised by his mom, homeschooled, and goes to church every Sunday. Are you saying this 25 year old (boy?) is "avoiding" learning how to be assertive, sexy, and dominant? No, you are extremely wrong in your criticism of this kind of beta male nice guy. He has no concept of domina…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 09:15 PM
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Some radical liberal secret agenda by the Jewish gay illuminati scientology aliens reptilians. FTFY They were playing it wrong and missed out. That's because we were told by our mothers and grandmothers and every woman we ever met, that only bad women like those "fun" guys who act like Chad. We were told specifically to be secure, save money, and be "less fun". Can we agree that a "fun guy" isn't just a happy guy, it is a dominant, sexy, assertive guy. So guys who were raised by their mothers on…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/19 03:49 AM
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I get taken way more seriously when I talk than my girlfriend does when she talks. I see it all the time, and not even kidding. We went to the dr and she asked a question and the dr pretty much dismissed her. Then I spoke up and said he didn't explain why he was dismissing her concern and understanding is important to her. There are a thousand ways that I see women not being taken serious all the time just because they are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 02:27 AM
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username checks out...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 02:23 AM
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Depends on if you're a white male, lol amiright?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 02:14 AM
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I meant nature. Biology. Thanks for pointing that out
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 02:12 AM
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Not full of shit; I never wanted to be a woman and I doubt the incel men here would do any better as women. I am sick of people being whiny sacks of shit who act like they have no agency, and are coddled into a victim mentality they'll always be a slave to (Men and Women.)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 12:31 AM
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Absolutely not, I love being a man and swinging my dick around and I enjoy being taken seriously. I don't want to carry a baby or worry about getting pregnant or feel faint and moody because tomorrow I am getting my period? F-That. I do my best to respect women and the crap they have to go through and I know society biology has handed them a raw deal. They're weaker than men, not as smart (in some ways: STEM), and not as logical as us. Women are almost always controlled (read: manipulated) throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 12:20 AM
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I don't understand TRP use of "optimal sexual strategy". What I mean is, what do those words mean to you? a) Bang lots of attractive women. b) Make babies and have successful offspring. ​ In my view, making children and setting them up for a really good life (investments, inheritance, good upbringing, discipline, intellectual curiosity, etc...) is the "optimal sexual strategy" because when I die eventually, it won't matter how many chicks with birth control I banged.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 05:01 AM
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highest income inequalities Ooops! There is your mistake, listening to only one side. Inequality isn't the problem, income mobility is the real issue and guess what? America has one of the best results in that case!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 02:08 AM
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My main beef with TRP is the idea that women are incapable of the type of love men want and crave and that women will always ultimately be disloyal because AWALT. I would argue that a relationship is a two-way street that requires effort on both sides and the man has to provide more than just a steady paycheck to keep his woman happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 09:24 PM
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I am a guy, my mom died young, and I don't have any kids. But this post really spoke to me, I just wanted to say thank you for typing it and sharing it with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 01:51 AM
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First laugh in this post, thanks :D
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 04:16 AM
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a single radical liberal socialist feminist trying to collect her cash and prizes from the government taxpayers FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 03:27 AM
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Men like women and women like men because (unconsciously?) they view them as opposite of themselves and all their own weaknesses. For example, a man might be typically masculine and seek a woman who is typically feminine. And a woman might seek a guy she perceives as strong because she perceives herself to be weaker/smaller. But this is just one example of what someone might conceptualize as love. She could seek a guy who has financial resources, or looks fit for making babies, or it could also …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 01:56 AM
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I wasn't saying women can't control them, I am saying they feel them more intensely than men realize. So our advice to women is always control your emotions, but we don't appreciate how gut wrenching they feel things every day and we simply do not feel things that intensely all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 02:03 AM
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rather than your emotions. This is what you don't get as a guy, women are far more emotional than you are. They feel with the intensity turned up to 11 and us dumb guys are around a 4. With every emotional response cranked up, every little thing is a big thing (the toilet seat, again?) and therefore women tend to justify their heightened emotional responses to everything (you secretly hate your wife, that's why you are purposely making her fall in to the toilet.) My point is, you can't just tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 01:42 AM
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using the government as a weapon to forcefully take it from you. Oh I already know
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 04:22 AM
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I want you to learn some life skills, like responsibility and pride of ownership. Which you have never learned because you've never owned anything worth having. If you have, then you wouldn't like the idea of someone else deciding they should have it instead of you and using the government as a weapon to forcefully take it from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 04:04 AM
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and seriously China? Good god, these people cannot be real? OP has definitely never had a job or visited a 3rd world country. He needs to move out of his mom's basement. The arrogance of this guy to try and 'school' a guy who is from China makes my blood boil.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 03:42 AM
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No you idiot, I don't thrive on other people's good will. I make myself useful, like you should. Instead of trying to take stuff from people you should try to formulate something of substance that other people are willing to pay for. You lack creativity and willpower. Move out of your mom's basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 03:38 AM
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My gf immigrated from Vietnam and is gorgeous and polite. She's not perfect by any means, but a lot of women are super jealous of her and even say trashy things about her and even TO her. I have even noticed when I have mentioned on PPD that I (a white guy) am dating an Asian chick, I get downvoted to hell and even once got a very racist person saying how our children will look weird, date inside your own race, etc... Why do women feel threatened by immigrants if they're so good? Should I feel t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 02:00 AM
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Can't help but notice the communist can't answer this question. Why do they always ignore evolution in mankind? They can't understand human nature?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 01:38 AM
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Sorry VOX is not a source, it is propaganda. Dude... what do you think Jeff Bezos does with all that money? Have you ever thought about it? He doesn't horde it. He invests it. The companies he invests in can employ more people and they can buy more components to make items to sell. This is how capitalism works. Part of that money is most likely also buying bonds, you know city and municipal bonds that fund city projects? You need to learn how the world actually works friend. You do not understan…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 12:12 AM
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So I found out I am from a place worse than Fishtown The median income for a household in the town was $25,284, and the median income for a family was $34,107. Males had a median income of $26,083 versus $21,071 for females. The per capita income for the town was $14,989. About 16.4% of families and 17.8% of the population were below the poverty line, including 24.9% of those under age 18 and 15.6% of those age 65 or over. So that means I should be shamed by women and socially excluded. Instead …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 12:04 AM
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The problem is a shortage of marriageable men Only in the mind of women, because they think the world is full of guys who are in the top 10-20%. Men need women to help them and support them so that the men will be motivated to achieve more in the world; it is the way society has been ordered for thousands of years. Now that women don't do that, men are left almost as perpetual children with little to no guidance (hence TRP.) Your UBI and welfare payments to unproductive people does not help soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 11:32 PM
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If you think the meager welfare given to single mothers is competitive with salary men, you're delusional If you think that "the meager welfare" stolen (taxed) from productive men and given to single mothers is of such little consequence, then why not get rid of the system?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 09:46 PM
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The combination of birth control and state funding have made the beta sexual strategy all but obsolete. This really is the key, because it also keeps people in a perpetual underclass dependent on that state/federal funding.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 09:40 PM
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Honestly? I am pretty fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 08:07 PM
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I am +6 feet and earn ~6 figures but about a 5 in looks. The only 6-pack I have is chillin' in the fridge for me to drink after work. I am bald. But I have a cute af gf so I am pretty happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 08:04 PM
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If I was a woman, I would have to think like a woman. That means my emotions mean everything and logic is just the patriarchy trying to confuse me. Therefore, I would want the guy who mixes my emotions up the most, hot and cold, strong but weak (but only in an adorable way, which my definition would constantly change), smart but not too smart. You know, basically I demand an impossible mix of characteristics that could never make me happy even if he was all those things. Also has to be 6 feet an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 05:12 AM
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Semantics. Are you purposely being obtuse? Either way, he asked a question for women. Can you establish what it is, exactly you are suggesting? I don't mean to use incendiary language, but you are acting like it was a conspiracy theory and it wasn't a real question. You are acting as if he just wanted sympathy from men. You are trying to decipher the word's intent instead of just appreciating the words at face value.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 12:35 AM
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To the rules of this sub Reddit? Is it a silly question? Maybe? Is that what you're arguing? I don't see your point here. A random dude on the internet asks women of a sub Reddit if women are trustworthy. You seem pretty worked up over something silly. He could have asked, women of PPD, do you think chocolate is good? Some might say yes some might say no? But maybe one person will come along and give some interesting personal experience with chocolate that changed them from yes to no. That is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 11:19 PM
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So basically, the whole point of this forum is to debate red and blue pills, right? I mean, I don't want to defend silly questions. I don't think women are more or less trustworthy than men are. People are people. But I think it is valid for him to ask personally and objectively (philosophically?) if women should be trusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 10:55 PM
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I admit the post was not very articulate, but I think he was asking women if they were trustworthy. It would be like you, having always believed your car would start when you turn the key, suddenly being let down. The car didn't start? What happened? Is my world crashing down? You have to appreciate the idea behind the words, in addition to just seeing the words. Are women trustworthy is a perfectly legitimate question to ask women. He should have had it Q4ALL instead of Q4W because I would tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:26 PM
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Since he said Q4W? I am going to go with him asking women if they are trustworthy. He probably thought women would be like nah, we lie like hell to every potential guy we meet because we are scared to show him our true self.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 09:05 PM
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I knew I could get you to respond to that part. It proves my point, women focus emotionally on the words used and kinda miss the point behind them. The post was a guy basically asking if it was OK to mistrust women. I like the Russian saying "Trust but verify." Women are far more in tune to their emotions than men are, we tend to trust people more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:52 PM
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I don't understand why you are acting like this? Men are sympathetic toward men who they relate to? Probably the end of the world right? Think about it like this, men are fed a constant diet of "sugar and spice and everything nice" and yet we get out into the real world and find out, women are absolutely nothing like they we told to expect. It is confusing. Some guys were very sheltered.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:25 PM
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Men tend to learn by doing. Women tend to learn by memorization. How is the education system is designed?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:46 AM
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I think TRP discussion with AWALT get's lost some times, because what it is actually describing is women's inherent abilities (their advantage over men) which is that women are far more emotional and reactive to those emotions. So I agree with you, it isn't that women "compare them against every swinging dick" AWALT is more like this, women's emotions can be easily manipulated. AWALT: Chad has that devilish smile and a strong jaw-line that makes women tingle. Will she act on this careless but em…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:36 AM
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I think the OP is realizing that women are not "sugar and spice and everything nice," like he was told ad nauseam as a child. The thing is people are people; most people are about the same level of kindness/compassion as you are. Some are better and some are worse, but mostly people are people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:06 AM
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I hope you aren't being obtuse, I mean, clearly money can help with happiness, obviously. But money isn't everything and if you think it is I think you are probably pretty young.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 03:14 AM
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Family, philosophy, psychology, hobbies and adventures, just to start. What does money buy you? Ever heard the saying "you can't take it with you?" No matter that thing buys you joy, it is the other people's lives you've touched that carry on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 03:01 AM
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This sounds a lot like my girlfriend, except she has never had sex before and we are waiting. There is more to life than money. It is OK to have ambitions of a family instead of a career. However, that means you are happy without name brand purses, expensive make-up, and you don't care your girlfriends just got back from Hawaii and the France trip is in 4 months but you can't go because you make a basic income. If you know that being a homemaker is what makes you happy? Then you're already ahead…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:11 AM
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I met a girl once and had a mutual spark of attraction. She really liked me but when she found out I was Aquarius and not Cancer she broke down in tears. She was told when she was younger that she would marry a Cancer. To be fair, she was SE Asian and Buddhist and horoscopes were very important to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 12:28 AM
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I am somewhat tall, 6'2+ and have a pretty good face but I am balding. But I have noticed that I have significantly more confidence than guys who have more money and bigger muscles than me but are not as tall. I feel like my confidence stems from being taller. I get automatically respected more at work and trusted by strangers more often than I think shorter guys do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:25 AM
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As a guy, I find that I am naturally fairly masculine, but when I have won the attraction of a very feminine girl, bubbly, cute, flowery dress, etc. it feels like I am the strongest guy in the room. It feels badass but also feels like it takes be a bit beyond my control as a guy. Like, so many feel good chemicals or something that things go a bit fuzzy and I am not myself, I get jealous more easily. I am most myself when not around a super feminine girl but around a bit more homely girl, I can t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:14 AM
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I am male, what makes me feel masculine is talking to beautiful strangers and making them smile. I don't care if it is an old person or a child or a beautiful babe about my age? I feel like I own the world around me when I talk to a complete stranger and they react positively to me. Even if they don't respond in a positive way, I just move on and I feel a huge burst of pride for trying. Also, being taller than most people, I think that gives me a certain confidence that other people don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 01:27 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/19 04:04 AM
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The manipulated man made me so depressed I couldn't finish it. But there it was, all laid out in black in white and it was like the red pill took away all the fog and everything changed. Like the allegory of the cave, suddenly, the world was all different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 12:35 AM
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The good news for those boys is that they are getting red pilled. For me, (I am 36) it took forever to get any kind of information. I saw those nice girls I wanted to date going after Chad and Tyrone (who didn't give a shit about them like "I" did \cringe*) meanwhile I had no clue what was actually going on and why girls didn't like me even though I was kind, had a good job, tall, and everything *I thought women wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 09:23 PM
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Can someone explain how some younger guys are so blind to this? I think everyone wants life to be easier. We want lots of money, we want good relationships and sex, and we want to feel validated and respected. I don't think it is such a problem for people to project their expectations for society into a medium people can see it and debate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 08:22 PM
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I think the worst thing about the word and tactic of shouting insecurity (in this context) is this is the shaming language that is used as a weapon against men. Also, how long do you think a guy will be happy raising some other guy's kids because you guilt him into it and pat his head occasionally while secretly hoping Chad comes back. ...Then you claim that guy is insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 10:09 PM
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I admit, it was a bad example, but I am trying to think of something she could have done or said to them that I wouldn't know about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 03:59 AM
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Short answer: absolutely. My family is crap. I would abandon them for my GF Long answer: Probably not. If my whole family or most of them can't stand the woman I love, then I would listen to their reasons. If they are substantial reasons and factual "she made a racist comment, supported by actions that show she generally doesn't like a certain race" then I might have to put away my rose tinted glasses and reevaluate what I am doing. If my family's reasons are crap, like my family mostly is, (ur …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 01:06 AM
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LTR in 3 months? That doesn't make sense to me, but it doesn't matter how long or if I am married. What matters to me is my relationship with my partner. We can figure out if we want to adopt or whatever. If you're in a committed relationship, you are committed to them. I think sometimes people forget words have meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 12:42 AM
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A woman needs resources for her offspring but she also wants status to feed her ego in front of her peers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 08:11 PM
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Found out the hard way: NSFW
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 12:54 AM
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Of all the things to be empathetic about, this is like low on the list. If it is such an easy thing to do, why don't more women do it? It is a respectable thing to approach women because it exactly is NOT easy. It is honestly not that hard to strike up a conversation with someone in the right situations. Yet, women barely ever do it, because they don't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:29 AM
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Is this a question PPD can answer? I think it is pretty obvious most of the time when people scream it is for a particular reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:25 AM
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OK, so what I learned is when you start talking to a woman and she seems receptive, showing you interest? Flirt with her, and ramp it up to insane if you really like her and she's digging it. Flirting is basically teasing and it takes guts and humor to do. Like with my girlfriend, I met her at work (major hospital) and the elevator didn't line up exactly correctly so it was a little hard for her to get her computer cart into the elevator. I work in IT and I helped test and design the blood draw …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 02:01 AM
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I am trying to determine exactly what your CMV is, but I will give this a shot. I think your argument is that NAWALT. That is something I struggle with, I think that, in general, people have some of the same proclivities. Like, we all typically feel hungry and want to eat. We want to look decent, so we shower and wear nice clothes. So I point out that humans eat food and get naked and pour water on their bodies, then you would say, yeah, I guess humans tend to do that, but I know this one guy wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 01:36 AM
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Best results for me have been cold approaching. I don't like the term cold approach because I won't approach unless she seems open to it and if she doesn't seem receptive immediately, I will back out. I have met both of my last 2 girlfriends this way, and my girlfriend right now I think I might marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 01:24 AM
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You can approach women anywhere if you follow rules 1 and 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 01:21 AM
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Yes they do, but women think they want one thing but what they actually go after is usually different. That is why you don't ask the fish, the fish will say they want one thing but what they actually bite on is something else. My female friend's dating profile says she wants a compassionate guy who is tall and makes her feel special. She is dating a short guy with big muscles and he is emotionally unavailable. But she says to me, listen, I don't get it, because she loves him!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 12:52 AM
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You mean like how everyone whores themselves out for fake internet points? Who would'a guessed? It is all about dopamine and making ourselves feel like we are higher in the hierarchy than other people. We are basically lobsters with iPhones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 10:50 PM
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You mean, just about everything on the internet is fake? What? I thought Susan and Joe were having a perfect life? Look at their facebook? What do you mean they are getting divorced?? Seriously, the world is way more nuanced that what we read here. And there is no way that life is solid blue or solid red pill. I think it is just a way to conceptualize different ideas that are compartmentalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 10:42 PM
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My advice to you and lots of people on this subreddit? You all overthink everything. Just get fit, have fun, and enjoy meeting people. Don't worry about red or blue pills, just be assertive and stand up for yourself and don't be a pushover. By the same token, don't be an overbearing selfish prick.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 10:36 PM
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Took me a while to figure this out: Dude a has x income Dude b has x income plus z income What I don't understand is why the dude with more income "is not shown in tax form." I promise, the more you make the more they take.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:23 AM
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This exchange is exactly why I love this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 09:19 PM
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Instead of doing what you want (hang out with her, buy her gifts, take her places...?) have you seen how she reacts to you? Is she excited to see you? Does she think about you when you aren't there? Does she do little things to let you know she cares? You have to read the signs to see if she really wants what you want or if you are making this girl into a delusion. It is so easy to fall for a fantasy you build up, but people, in person, are a bit more nuanced and complicated and frankly quite fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 04:01 AM
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Women are creatures of emotion. They are attracted to guys who make them feel strong emotions. Sometimes a hot guy can do that by his looks, but usually it is more about what he says or potentially has to offer her (so she can build the fantasy in her mind.)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 10:30 PM
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Eww those guys are super cringy. But to be fair, I am in IT and white af.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 04:26 AM
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This is the strat I am using. Read my post history. EDIT: Although, to me, an average Asian girl is more pretty than an average white girl. CMV
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 03:25 AM
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The only thing I am going to try and change your view on is that you should have sex before you marry them (this is odd, coming from me, if you know my post history.) But I am trying to change your mind on this because of my experiences. Every guy I know who has married an Indian/ Sri Lankan woman has done exactly these three things: Stopped having sex with his wife Cheated on her with someone else (or gets obsessed with porn) Gets Divorced In that order. I know 5 couples personally and know 3 o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 03:21 AM
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I also suggest male should reduce PU requirement in new era, accept cheating and polyandry more. Nope and Nope. Why should I accept Paternal Uncertainty and spend my time and resources raising someone else's kid? People argue that it takes a village, etc., but I could spend my time raising my real kids choosing how best to use my limited resources if I knew the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 02:50 AM
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More risk and often no reward. It is like this: buying a 60s mustang that is rotted out. You need to fix all the metal and repair the rust, get a new engine and tranny, suspension, interior, etc. etc. So great. You put 60,000 into a 25,000 car on the high end. And because it has no safety features, it is basically a death trap (Edit:) just like my ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 01:25 AM
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This could be a good reason that women with good careers always complain that guys don't like women who make more money than them. Nah, it isn't that, they want the hot guy who DJ's on the weekends, and his gig business is totally going to pick up soon. Or the personal trainer who spends literally every spare minute in the gym and every dollar on Testosterone supplements and protein powders. Chad is the guy the girls want and the engineer is the guy the women completely look over. The thing is, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 12:34 AM
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Mostly giving my time. Thinking about what she needs, wants, and cares about. Anticipating those types of things so she finds me useful and thoughtful. Also, I might bring her a small gift when I see her, like a chocolate or last time a t-shirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 12:08 AM
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I started out 100% blue pill beta all the way. Raised by a single mother, taught to be kind to everyone and to just ignore bullies because they'll "go away." I also was fed a steady diet of soda, mac&cheese, pizza and ice cream. So I had the worst of both worlds, I was "fed" an unhealthy diet literally and mentally and had to take a long time to figure it out and get out of it. Honestly, not even there yet. Alpha dudes act like they care mostly about themselves. This is really the only thing I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 10:54 PM
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i can't really be fucked to take any advice This is a really negative attitude. You can be totally justified in having a negative attitude, don't get me wrong, okay? But women sense negativity from a mile away. On the flip side, being too happy or too nice is also death by intuition. I think to be really attractive to women is to let go of your attachment to the outcome of your interactions with them. Don't expect anything and don't give a fuck about what they think about you. How did you approa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 05:06 AM
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I am in Minnesota. But listen to me, what you say is only a fraction of how you come across. A big part of the way people perceive you is also how you talk and how you look at them. If you are friendly or thirsty. If you are alpha or beta, it is all about how you come across and women tend to call that confidence, but it is an understanding of how you present yourself. Learn about flirty chatting, learn about tonality of your voice, learn about posture, and you'll do a lot better, not just with …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:13 AM
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The title is "Confidence is just looks: CMV." It seems disingenuous to say it isn't the same thing after the fact; when in fact, it seems like it is your entire argument? 1- Confidence is naturally a result of combination of other factors Yes, it is a combination of a lot of factors, looks can be included, but I argue that it is more likely to be experience that boosts confidence the most. 2- Building confidence is not possible by itself Disagree entirely, see my first post. I was not confident …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:08 AM
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I am trying to change you view because I am not good looking but I have been with girls way more attractive than I am because I approached them and I am pretty good at having a fun conversation with a stranger. I am challenging the belief that you have to be attractive to have confidence. I have a lot of confidence and I am not very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 03:56 AM
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Where do you live? If it is near me, I will meet you and we will go talk to people. It has to make sense in the moment, you can't approach random people in a way that would be off-putting, like you singled them out and tracked them down. That is kinda creepy. It has to come naturally, but it can be pretty easy to force an interaction if you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 03:52 AM
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Look, I am not a horrible looking guy, but definitely not attractive. I got fed up with online dating and decided I would meet people in real life. It was hard. I got rejected. I was awkward sometimes. But I kept meeting people in real life like it was a mission. I would briefly talk to the cashier about the weather, talk to guy looking at shoes, talk to the grandmother buying yogurt "is that strawberry yogurt any good?", I talked to attractive women too. But not like, I am going to get her numb…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 02:18 AM
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“Enjoy the decline” The men in more patriarchal societies (think where women have little to no rights) have far more success breeding than Western men do. In fact, we are at or below replacement levels. We will be replaced by those societies in due time (but will probably collapse first).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 05:20 AM
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A blue piller in therapy would learn boundaries and coping skills. I classify that sort of thing as maturing. A blue pilled man will do everything in his power appease women, believing that he will receive that same effort in return from the woman of his desire. When, it is all a game and a tedious one at that, because at any given moment a woman's attention can flutter away to the next guy who makes her feel strong emotions. TRP is understanding that women are slaves of their emotions and (fran…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 04:22 AM
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Men get validation from women by her submissiveness to him. Men need validation from several aspects of their lives, not solely from women. Mostly, I think we want to feel useful. If we don't get validation from women we can adjust to getting it from our success in other ways, even though blue pill guys yearn for that validation from women I think red pill men realize it is far less important. So what I am trying to say is, there is a lot of psychology at play here that extends beyond "love" wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 01:52 AM
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These are all great points, I hope OP reads them. They are exactly on point with my experience. Another thing from my experience is that all women really are like that? They want a guy who has everything, and if a sister or girlfriend meets a guy, they are comparing him to you and every sweet thing he does that you didn't do is ammo against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:34 AM
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I have experience with this, first hand. In theory, you are correct, your SMV is higher and you may find a very awesome girl. But you can't just show up with your set of values and culture and expect her to ditch her own culture and expectations. You have to find a balance that meets you both and supports you both. Also, don't expect a virgin or very inexperienced girl to have sex with you before you marry her. A guy at work met a Filipino woman and thought she would, even though she wanted to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:26 AM
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If you are good at reading people, then it is alright. Short and sweet. Even if she isn't interested, it is just a nice little interaction. The guys who can't read social queues or are too nervous make it cringy and weird for girls getting approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 10:04 PM
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I agree that cold approach can be cringy, but it shouldn't be. It should flirty and fun and the interaction short. I met my girlfriend cold approached at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 09:35 PM
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Can you translate? I don't know what you are asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 11:08 PM
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Not at all harsh to say I am blue pilled. I think your characterization of me very accurate and I think you get me. What I think I made this post about, is unconsciously I know this feels too good to be true and I need some harsh reality (like TRP) to get my head out of the clouds. We have talked about going to Vietnam to meet her family later this year, probably November or early December. She does want to get married in Vietnam too. She is thinking next year sometime. She seems to have it all …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 06:28 AM
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I won't let my kids be that pathetic. Self loathing and excessive insecurity are for kids who don't have a good father.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 05:31 AM
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First of all, I get you, CMV is probably not possible, but I want to hear the arguments and a solid one so far is AWALT. Even if they aren't right now, they will be later. I was not originally looking for a marriage, although I did want kids some day-some how. I have actually known her for a little over 3 months, she has worked as a phlebotomist at the hospital I work at. I work in IT. I met her on an elevator, I told her I helped design that computer cart, and we call them COWS (Computer On Whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 05:27 AM
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I am upvoting you because I agree. No one is perfect and neither am I. But I genuinely want kids and a family. She does too. If we are both after the same things, doesn't that make it a little bit easier? Can I live my life in fear of what could happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 04:39 AM
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I want to be reminded of everything I have to lose and be convinced or at least challenged in my main stream view? I have been debating if I am going to back to the matrix or if I am really choosing my path fully actualized. Red pill and blue pill people have had horrible relationships and maybe someone could share some red flags. Red pill and blue pill people also have had wonderful relationships, and maybe they should share advice. We are all learning together, right? The whole point of intera…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 04:30 AM
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This is all very true. Accumulation of "life challenges" for lack of a better term, is a laborious issue. But there is no alternative to it? Everyone is going to have shit happen to them in their lives. Some people get to coast through easy (it seems) and other people get shit on their entire lives with no escape. In my view, I can either get shit on and feel crappy, or I can wipe the shit off and smile anyway. We don't get out alive anyway, we might as well enjoy it while we have it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 04:21 AM
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Thank you for reading my post. I dated a Sri Lankan girl once and her family alternated between being in love with me and hating everything about me. It was hot and cold with her parents. Anyway, my GF skypes with her family back home, and her sister "secretly" shows me talking to my GF to her family. Apparently, they all adore me, but I don't speak Vietnamese, so I don't know that for certain. But, I have also skyped openly with them and said hello during Christmas. So anyway, her family defini…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 04:16 AM
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That is a lot of pressure on your lives externally. But you have each other to support each other, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:58 AM
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I didn't mean it like "traditional wife" I meant it like, "traditional life": kids, house, etc. If I wanted a "traditional Asian wife" I would go to an Asian country and get one, I actually have no doubt I could do that, but that isn't what I want. The culture shock is too much of a risk, imho.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:48 AM
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I agree with you, I used the traditional word incorrectly or in a confusing way. I edited my OP to reflect a better understanding and show her hybrid views. I posted this looking for red and blue pill advice or ways to change my view that this is a bad idea or good idea. I already know it is rolling the dice. I know that really well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:40 AM
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Low n-count but was in stable relationships for several years, so not hungry for sex. Also, I was never looking for a virgin nor was that something I expected to find at my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:35 AM
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We have discussed things like that a lot actually. I know we have been having a light-hearted time here, but the undertone of your messages seems to imply, "she could be one way now, but could totally change." Is that right? Because if it is, then yes, I agree with you and that is the type of stuff I want to hear, that is why I posted this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:30 AM
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Yes, her sisters and mother live in Vietnam but she has a more... hybrid view of how she wants to live her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:27 AM
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Here is how I understand it, she believes in traditional values (waiting for marriage, having kids, etc.) but she is more modern in her view of who she wants to marry. I have pushed her to answer uncomfortable questions, and one of them was what happens if her family wants her to do one thing and I want her to do another? She said that it is her life and she will do what she wants to do. I said that sounds good but your family means a lot to you and can put a lot of pressure on you. She said it …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:21 AM
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Sounds romantic to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:16 AM
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She is a mix of both, how many beautiful women do you know are waiting to get married because they don't want upset their family?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:14 AM
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Thanks for sharing this. My girlfriend is very deliberate. She thinks things through and through. She is good with money and very picky about things. I don't think I have ever seen her make a rushed choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:10 AM
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You never paid child support, can I have 5 dollars now?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:09 AM
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Her family is like that, but she is not. She finds that detestable as well. That is why she is never going back.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:08 AM
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Oh for real, that does sound super cringey. I meant traditional like, she wants kids and a family. Not like, some vision of a traditionally dressed Asian girl in old style clothes and she is super shy or something. She has lived her for like 20 years and is as American as anyone else, and she isn't shy at all, who wants a weak submissive woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 03:07 AM
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Counter-question: does it matter? Does anything? If TRP has done anything to me, it has made me give less of a fuck. And I feel like, I have started to find my own path but it is right back where I was "in the matrix" so to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:56 AM
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Are you my dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:54 AM
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Traditional probably isn't the right way to frame it. It is more of a yearning for what the RP calls a fantasy that we believe growing up: happy wife, nice house, kids that draw you pictures, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:51 AM
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This is my favorite Reddit Sub, and I wanted to hear from the people here and have someone challenge my view. Also, isn't everyone uncertain if it will end well? You can't possibly know the outcome of every choice? Sometimes you have to make one and go with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:48 AM
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Absolutely not, why would that bother me? I assume they will be half white and half Asian. Does that bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:45 AM
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Thank you, that is a solid point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:04 AM
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She is a virgin and wants to wait until she is married? I respect that boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:02 AM
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I am not purposely being obtuse, but why is that a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 02:00 AM
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I can't expect experience from someone inexperienced. I know that. I think it would be interesting to consider it a journey. Is it wrong to enjoy the process?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:55 AM
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It seems like they have low expectations. Apparently, to her family, the women are suppose to sacrifice everything to the men who provide for the family. She isn't so excited about all the traditional sacrifices that her mother and some older sisters have made, so she thinks a relationship with me (a very average white dude) is pretty stellar.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:48 AM
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Interesting point of view, and thank you for your reply. I genuinely believe her, she seems pretty inexperienced in a lot of silly little ways. I got this far with her because I really trust her. I feel like I am pretty perceptive and ready to accept whatever I see, but she seems quite genuine and eager to start a family and be a mother and even learn about sex. I have always wanted that RP fantasy life: house, wife, kids. It is the dream world I don't want to escape from. So I know it won't be …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:44 AM
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Her family is very close to her (they skype daily) and she respects her family but wants to start her own (with me). We talked about starting our own traditions. But there are some aspects of her that she is focused on with her own family too. Like, she wants the wedding to be in Vietnam and not America (where we live-she does not want to move back)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:36 AM
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OK, but change my view. Why? I genuinely want to know. I read the other posts recently about the raw deal that marriage is, but what if works out?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:33 AM
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She is not very materialistic. We have talked about it a lot, and her words were something along the lines of, there is more to life than work and money.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:32 AM
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She was raised in Vietnam and moved here when she was a teenager
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:30 AM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:30 AM
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I think her view is similar to mine, since we are both in a western country and she has been here for 15 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 01:30 AM
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I have thought about starting a firm and I am curious if it is viable for attorneys to bill 20 hours a week and earn half as much?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 05:02 AM
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Look man, I don't think you understand flirting. Flirting is NOT making a pun with the girl's name. Flirting is communicating on a different level, it is playful and light teasing. If done right, it increases her attraction to you significantly because you're communicating that you understand her and aren't scared of her and you desire her. Add in a little bit of playful touching, like ask to see some jewelry on her wrist or a ring, and gently hold her hand. Flirting is playful and communicates …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 06:19 AM
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Guys basically use women for sex, but girls use guys for all sorts of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:19 AM
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It was easy for her because she had a very detailed digital calendar, which is how I found out about it (I lived with her as a room mate at the time and she shared it with me so we could keep house things organized). But it was literally like, Tom Sunday 11am @lunch, Gary Sunday 7pm@dinner, Matt Monday 6:30 @his house, etc. etc. etc. And if you think about it, some guys are actually really busy, like the shy resident dude? He barely had any time to get to know her because he was constantly worki…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:36 AM
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I knew a girl who had a guy she "dated" who could fix her car. A guy she dated who had a Porsche. A guy she dated who had weed. A guy she dated who had a gigantic (use your imagination). She had a guy who was a medical student (resident). She had a guy who loved her and gave her flowers and teddy bears and sent her pizza and food (but she never slept with that guy, or maybe once in a long while.) She juggled all these guys simultaneously and was always on the look out for more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 10:56 PM
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I can totally understand why you'd be afraid, but fear has no end. Even if you conqured this fear, you could find another to take it's place. The best advice I can give is to be picky and keep looking for someone who likes you for you. Everyone makes mistakes in the past. Don't worry about that. You deserve a healthy relationship. You seem to have healthy introspection and curiosity which is great, so don't doubt your ability to have a happy relationship with a mentally healthy guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 04:44 AM
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Do you know your "love attachment style"? I know an extremely attractive woman who can get FWB sex anytime she wants, but she cannot get a guy to commit because she has an anxious attachment style and it pushes any sane guy away like she has the plague, even though she is absolutely gorgeous, wealthy, low maintenance, and very giving. I have tried to talk to her about it, but you know, I am a crazy ex so I am just jealous or whatever (I am not, I adore my current GF, and actually want to help my…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 04:10 AM
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