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Personal anecdotes do not account for medical or scientific backing either. Here is one of many systematic reviews on the subject: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2405457722002017 And another article with plenty of citations: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5764193/ I believe it is irresponsible to spread misinformation and give people false hope of curing a disease on their own. Some people can do it, like yourself, but all obesity studies that have follow up aft…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/25 02:41 PM
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I work in treatment of obesity and to say that medicine and obesity surgery works the same as a diet that you follow for a short period is not true. Obesity is considered a disease, and requires continuous treatment. It is not as simple as changing habits as the cause of obesity is both influenced by genetich, envoirenment, psychological factors etc. The best treatment we have is surgery for obesity (gastric bypass/sleeve etc.) as it is the only treatment that both induces weight loss AND keeps …
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/25 11:23 AM
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Have you consulted the sidebar or read any of the recommended books? I believe this will answer most of your questions :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/25 01:41 PM
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I'm so happy you've reached out for help. It is what is needed, at least it was for me. 26 is not a big age, I'm around the same. Some people don't seek help until much later. My SO is also very secure, I have learned so much from it, and I hope you will as well from your boyfriend in time. I've also learned that I have a lot of good sides, even though it was hard for me to see at first. Have hope!
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 03:12 PM
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I'm not an expert on this, but our abnormal reactions to situations can be related to trauma. Having outbursts like this is to me a sign that OP is feeling very distressed and the fact that she doesn't even realize in the moment, could suggest that it is a reaction deeply impacted by former experiences. Especially if she is dissociating (if I understand her comment correctly), as this is a coming mechanism (freeze response) and is a way to not feel what you are feeling because it is too painful.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 07:38 AM
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Have you lived in a toxic family system or perhaps experienced trauma or ACE's in your life?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 09:47 AM
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We've had this happen before. It can become an evil cycle where he becomes more anxious because he anticipates it not going well, so it's important you break it. We realised it was because our intimacy was "planned" and wasn't spontaneous. For example I would shower and make myself ready the same day of the week, and we would both know what was about to happen. Personally my libido is not very high, unless I make myself or he makes me aroused. Therefore in periods of my life, sex can become a ch…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/24 04:17 PM
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Fascinating Womanhood is a great resource for RPW theory. Here is a video about being feminine and for people who feel like they are wearing a mask of femininity: https://youtu.be/ub3kBs_x0jw?si=YKi0sXOFbFtUcQxi
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 12:36 PM
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The same issue recently arose with one of my guy friends. He says "Ugh. Women." when he has to interact with his girlfriend and makes misogynistic jokes towards me. I'm not sure how to handle it gracefully. I was thinking maybe telling him how it makes me feel (bad for his girlfriend, uncomfortable) and maybe spinning it to something positive by telling him what would feel good to me. But I'm not sure the approach is the same for men and women. Unfortunately I don't have any advice for you, I'm …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 09:04 AM
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When you say you'd wish he'd be more productive what do you mean? My SO plays games and so do I. We both enjoy it. I think it's okay to enjoy yourself as long as you get things accomplished in your life - have a job, reach your goals etc. It hurts my feelings to see so many women frowning upon gaming as an activity. It's the same as watching television - entertainment. And if you do it with friends, it's entertainment AND bonding. I don't necessarily think what you feel is about gaming itself, b…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 12:41 PM
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Good for you. But I must admit I don't understand the relevancy to this post, it sure doesn't sound like OP are 'into' it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 12:49 PM
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This is not normal, he sounds paranoid and like he has trust issues. You shouldn't have to download an app so that he can TRACK you. Have you talked to him about working through his problems with say, a therapist?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 07:06 PM
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If it bothers you it is more than adequate enough for you to want to talk to him about. It doesn't sound like you have talked very much about it, so I wouldn't say you should resolve this one yourself. I'm not sure I understand, are you implying that he is racist? If it was in a country like Thailand where it is very cheap and easily accessible, I would think that was the reason for it to be abroad. Might also feel less inappropriate when the culture in that country is more accepting (even makin…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 01:51 PM
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I think most of the commenters here lack empathy. You said it yourself, it fuels your insecurity and it disgusts you because you are conservative. The best thing to do here i to communicate. Tell him you found it kind of disgusting and you can't get the image out of your mind. He obviously trusts you with something he's a little bit ashamed of, use that trust to expand your own worldview. Get to know him better, why did he do it? If he could go back would he have done it again? Did he consider t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 12:58 PM
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We advice most women here not to go to the mens redpill, because their goal is very different from womens. The sidebar has a lot of posts, try looking there :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 07:13 AM
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You are not just stating facts, you are also expecting him to react a certain way, the way YOU want him to. If he doesn't then it's a red flag?? Why not tell him how you feel so he actually knows? Clear communication is important, and in this scenario you are expecting him to know he did doing something wrong without telling him. He might think that he can be a wingman at the trip instead, he might think that it doesn't matter that you're exclusive and he'll go through with it anyway. You won't …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 01:26 PM
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I believe that being different than your partner only makes it that more exciting. It makes you open minded, if you are interested in other world views than your own, and I imagine it will do the same for your kids. Them learning that people are able to love and respect one another, even though they have different views on certain things - that must be something to strive for. Femininity is also being empathetic, being able to put yourself in other peoples place, being curious as to why they thi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 12:47 PM
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You're not making much sense to me. If you're not looking for anything particular, I would just continue seeing her without any expectations and see where it leads. If you're looking for a girlfriend my answer might be different.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 12:05 PM
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If she told you she is not looking for a relationship, you should trust that. She might want to see you again to a) sleep with you b) become friends c) keeping you as validation that she is hot/can get men and string you along because she knows you think she might change her mind. She won't.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 10:09 AM
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This is for 365 days, is that the one you're looking for? https://sites.google.com/site/thefemininearts/365-days-to-artful-femininity
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 05:12 PM
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It's such a good book, and it has helped me love, admire and respect my SO even more, and I can feel him radiating love even more now. It's an old book, but the principles can be applied today. I love the way it's written as well, and that it gives examples from real life.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/22 11:48 AM
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I've recently been practicing not holding back my feelings, but instead being vulnerable. That means I get years in my eyes when I see a puppy, I cry when the movie is sad, and I also cry when he got irritated this week because I felt hurt. It has helped me feel so cared for and more understood because my SO holds me, thinks I'm cute or gets surprised to see my true emotions and comforts me immediately. He's such a great man, and I can feel that he loves me so so much. For this week, I will try …
/r/RedPillWives30/07/22 07:52 AM
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Have you read Fascinating Womanhood? It's a great book for this :)
/r/RedPillWives18/07/22 09:59 PM
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Have you read Fascinating Womanhood yet? ☺️ i think the sidebar might have a few suggestions
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/22 02:38 PM
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I am not downvoting you, I am trying to direct you to the best source of information you can get. Our sidebar is for newcomers or people who want to read up on different parts of the redpill theory. There are great posts that explains what the redpill is all about, made by people with far more experience and knowledge, who can explain the concept and answer your questions a hundred times better than I will ever be able to.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 07:57 PM
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There are dozens of posts like yours, I recommend using the search bar or better: the sidebar There's all the information you need.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 07:50 PM
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That's so great! I would love to hear some examples of how you gave validation :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 07:56 AM
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I don't judge other people's kinks or sexual preferences as long as it's not hurting anyone
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 04:30 PM
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Read the book "fascinating womanhood" it talks specifically what you can do to make him take the lead, feel masculine etc. It follows a case of a woman who has not let her husband take the lead and how she improves their relationship. I can't recommend it enough Edit: messed up the booktitle
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 07:33 PM
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Sidebar -> wiki
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 05:46 PM
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It sounds like she needs a lot of attention, yes. Havde you tried bringing up this issue? I don't see my closest friends very often, maybe once every 2 months because they're very busy atm. It's not as much as I'd like to, but we try to talk on the phone in between.
/r/RedPillWives14/02/22 06:56 AM
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Seems like you've done great, I don't really have any advice for you. Good on you for helping him when he asks, helping him find what he wants and complimenting him. I'm sorry to hear that he doesn't take action, I wonder why he is content with just staying at home doing nothing in particular
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:20 AM
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Other commenters have already told you this is not great, I just want to point out that there is no consequences right now (unpaid bills etc.) and that might contribute to the problem. I won't talk about this but I will make you reflect on what you are doing: How have you encouraged him? It seems like you're taking the lead a little bit on this one by looking for jobs FOR him and telling him how to expand his hobby to a business etc. I don't believe this will make him feel capable of actually fi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 08:09 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like it might be necessary for them to change.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 07:23 AM
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Having parents or one parent who can be unkind can be really rough. I know it's hard but you have to keep being kind and forgiving if you want to befriend them. Have you tried telling your father how it makes you feel when he writes texts like that? My own father got really surprised when I told him how he made me feel, because he didn't want to make me feel that way. But his temper and negativity got to him, and it keeps getting to him, but I've tried to accept that this is who he is. I try to …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 07:10 AM
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I made vegetarian lasagna today, it turned out really nice, but I might have used too much cheese. I made way too much so I'm really grateful for our freezer ;) Tomorrow my SO is out, so I'll probably end up having a homemade sandwich and a drink for dinner
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 09:57 PM
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Hahahaha You're basing your views from...... porn?
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 07:27 AM
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I like to think that he provides what he can for me right now, as we are both students with little money. I see a good leader in him, and we have discussed my desire to stay at home part time with our future kids and my wish for marriage. I know splitting your finances in your established relationship is not redpill, but I don't feel like I can demand that we have one shared account when he works more on the side than I do and when we don't have a goal. Our young age is also an influence. I don'…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 11:14 PM
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These are great examples! It makes a huge difference, and yes it will improve your dating life drastically
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 09:23 AM
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I didn't expect the man to pay when we went on dates, we split. In my country its very normal that you split the bill on the first dates. Just because he wants to split the bill, doesn't mean he doesn't want to be a provider. I think putting too much emphasis on who is paying on dates in the first months of getting to know each other is unnecessary. Especially today where women make the same or even more money than men. When I met my SO we were both studying with a small job on the side, and we …
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 09:21 AM
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Have you met yet? Talking over the phone and texting is much different from meeting someone in real life. I would start seeing this man irl for some time before I'd make a decision.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 10:10 PM
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How old are you? This is not the first time you've described this problem
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 07:30 PM
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This question has been asked a lot of times. Use the search bar and read the sidebar :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 08:01 AM
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I would try phrasing it as a desire. Like "I would love to go for a walk with you this week" this adresses what you want and gives him the opportunity to suggest you do something. If he doesn't respond well to this (he might not! and don't feel bad about it) you can try saying something like "I know money is tight right now, but I really miss spending time with you. Could we go somewhere?" It's okay to be a little upfront and asking for things at first. You might be displeased that you have to A…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 08:37 AM
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I understand. Thank you for replying! I can imagine it can be a deal breaker when your sex drive is strong.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 08:27 AM
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I didn't even consider if our kinks were compatible when we were dating. Honest question: Is this something very important?
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/21 10:13 PM
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Your sister and boyfriend sound very immature. How would you describe your relationship? Mature? Immature? Telling someone they are annoying and asking another person if they agree is something I would never ever do to anyone out of courtesy. And that's for people I don't know.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 06:16 PM
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I find that focusing on the positives help. It's hard to complain when doing this. What are you grateful for? I've noticed that when I'm in a good mood I admire the trees and enjoy my music even though I'm right next to a big road. When I'm in a bad mood i notice the road, the noise, the grayness. if I catch myself focusing on the negatives, I try to shift my thoughts to being positive. This usually helps on my mood, but some days I'm just having a really bad day. It's important to note that it'…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/21 08:23 AM
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I understand, but as I said they must have some other qualities. I know it can sometimes be baffling how someone can fall in love with someone who is seemingly rude, puts others down etc. but I really do advice you to focus on the positives. Thinking "How wonderful that they found each other" instead of "Why is it never me" will benefit you. It seems like it's making you miserable and as if you are inadequate. You are not. I'm sure you have great qualities, and if you focus on them, how you can …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 09:09 AM
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This post is taken straight out of the r/nicegirls subreddit. The girls in mention have other qualities than being nice. Stop being bitter about what other women have and ask yourself how you can achieve that instead.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/21 10:14 PM
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You're welcome. I understand and I'm sorry to hear that, it must feel really disappointing. Dating is hard work. We all want to be wanted and I'm sure you can get to feel that way again when you start seeing someone more than platonically. Like I said I haven't dated that much myself and as another comment or mentioned, it could be that you're just compromising which can be a necessity and a good thing! I'm sure you can decide whether or not it is this man in mention that you want to be with, or…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 07:14 PM
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It could be compromising. It's hard to judge from a Reddit post. I think you're right, but I also do think it's very important that there is an attraction and OP says in her post that he only ticks a few boxes. From this wording to me it seems like he doesn't meet a lot of what OP wants. But it all depends on what those boxes consist of. It's also very important to have a man that truly cares for you as you say.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 06:53 PM
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I'm beginning to understand why you're considering settling for this man you're not attracted to. If the males you want don't seem to treat you the way you want to be treated, you can be tempted to settle for less. I haven't dated a lot myself so I can't say whether or not this applies to all men. It is plausible that a man who thinks you're 'out of his league' will try harder to please you than one who is on the same level or higher. I hope you have better luck finding an Alpha who is more atte…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 05:30 PM
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It is really important that your partner understands your emotional needs, but I think this is a skill that can be developed in a relationship. As I said, if he doesn't tick enough boxes and there is no attraction I would keep it platonic. Do you find that you meet a lot of men who doesn't understand your emotional needs?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:44 PM
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I think it's very natural for a man to be attracted to what you describe when you first meet and don't know each other too well. Status and beauty are the first thing we notice. Relationship wise, if he only ticks of few of your boxes and you aren't attracted to him, I wouldn't go for it. What draws you to him and for how long have you known this man?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:33 PM
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Are you just venting or are you asking for advice?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 04:22 PM
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Could be, glad you found a different book you enjoy more! Maybe that should be my next book when I get back to reading ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/21 07:41 AM
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No, I felt like it reasonates very well with me and my values. How do you not see yourself in the material?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 11:34 AM
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I buy vintage night gowns in satin (a little see through, but sexy) with cute details and lace. I mostly sleep naked, but I like to wear those sometimes or even before I to to bed. I love vintage slip in dresses as well.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 11:14 AM
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Great post! But I shouldn't have read that hypergamy is monogamy post, it's telling men they could and should cheat, and if the woman doesn't forgive you the relationship wasn't right... It makes me very uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 06:37 AM
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Did you read some of the books recommended and the sidebar?
/r/RedPillWives02/09/21 12:44 PM
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I would advice you to seek therapy if possible :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 12:43 PM
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I found my boyfriend at my job at a bar. We were both in high-school and kissed at a party. We only kissed (for a good while!) I told him I didn't want us to just have a one time thing at a party, and that I would like to see him again. He invited me on a date a few days later, where we got coffee and split the bill. I think I was very fortunate to find a wonderful guy who was not interested in hooking up - He partied almost every weekend in high school, but he hadnt been with anyone else before…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 12:56 PM
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Im also interested 😊
/r/RedPillWives30/08/21 02:30 PM
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Since you've stated that you just stumbled upon this subreddit in you first comment, I recommend you read some of the RPW material, like LightOverWater suggests. I really liked most your first comment, supporting and guiding OP, who is in a bad place atm. But while we do support eachother here very much, we do it with respect for the truth and the different characteristics and preferences between men and women. It is very clear from this very comment, that you do not agree with redpill. You have…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 09:42 PM
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This question is very non-specific and therefore hard to anser. You attract him by practising RPW (read the sidebar) and being the right places to meet him (use the search bar)
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 07:22 AM
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You see not lazy. It's very difficult to find motivation to exercise if it feels like a chore. What kind of exercise were you thinking? Is it something you think you would enjoy a little? There are a ton og different ways to get toned, and finding the right activity is important if you wanna stay motivated for more than a few weeks or months
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 09:58 PM
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Are you practizing red pill? Specifically, have you read Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood? Nagging won't work, but being a joyful, respecting and appreciative wife will. I know it's not so easy when you see him being his not so good self, but I must remind you - the power lies in changing your own behaviour. Nancy Campbell talks specifically about putting your man first, him being your number one. She also mentions that when you have a baby, your husband becomes number 2 and he suffers. I'm cert…
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 06:44 AM
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I saw this post yesterday when I fell over the purple pill subreddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/nvzdn7/how_much_do_most_men_today_really_care_about/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I don’t like how it portray being a RP woman. It is mostly correct, but doesn’t state ANYTHING about being warm, kind, patient, having character etc. and doesn’t describe things like treating a man with respect, being positive, looking to a mans good side etc. which I think…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/21 12:18 PM
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I can recommend watching Adrienne everheart on YouTube, she is a feminine energy coach, and although I haven’t specifically used her videos for dating, I know she has a lot of them. Maybe it could help you? She has a lot of examples on what to do when dating which involves texting, the date itself, setting boundaries etc. She also mentions that you should keep your life rich and your schedule busy and date more guys than just one, it is only dating after all.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 06:58 AM
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I’d recommend you do some research I can recommend reading fascinating womanhood. It doesnt seem like you grasp the concept of RPW. Being feminine is being warm, open, caring etc. and your interest in makeup really doesn’t matter... submitting to your man means letting him lead, I don’t know why you find it disgusting, but If it does, then I don’t think RPW is for you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 06:54 AM
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Try working with that then. I have a hard time asking for help but every time I do people always wanna help! All it takes is practice
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 04:17 PM
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I think it’s very drastic to recommend her leaving her husband because he gets upset about something that is very wounding to his pride. If he doesn’t come up with a solution, maybe you, OP, could try and ask him directly “What do we do?”. It’s a tough position to be in for you, but he has to lead. Don’t be too hard on yourself for not being good enough, and try to do what you can to not feel drained. Ask your husband for help, I’m sure he would love to help you out and men love being useful - e…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 10:53 PM
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I feel the same way. I dont’t reciprocate and only say thank you and giggle, but yet I feel guilty. But it’s not like it’s your fault that you’re being flirted with, what matters is your actions and values. If you don’t reciprocate, enjoy the attention! I feel like it’s never the right time to say “I have a boyfriend” without making the interaction akward, because flirting is subtle and without clear intention. It feels flattering and good to be complimented, so it can be hard to set boundaries.…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 04:10 PM
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I ask him for small favours like helping me reach stuff, what he thinks I should do and is really appreciative when he helps me. I also admire his muscles a lot by caressing his chest or arms and telling him I like that he is handsome and strong. He lights up. I ask him if he wants a cup of tea every now and then. He tells me thank you in a very sincere way when I bring it. I know he loves massages but I don’t enjoy giving them much, so I should try giving him more of those without him asking ab…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 09:14 AM
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Did you read about your archetype? Mine led me to a site where I could read that it was great to have mother as main one and lover as second, as you are open minded, seductive, childlike, nurturing, play no games etc. it really reasonated with me that it said I was willing to give to others and being vulnerable. The dangers of the mother archetype are not setting boundaries and becoming a doormat. There should be more explanation on the site I believe. It’s not the same motherly features that we…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 10:28 PM
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He hugs me tight and kisses me many times a day He smiles at me often when I say something or we kissed and gets silly! Like a little happy boy! I can tell he loves me and what I’m saying He tells me he loves me several times a day He loves my butt and compliments it every day He cooks for us, and the food is amazing! He brings me tea when my stomach hurts He shares his worries with me and want to know my opinion (My opinion is that he knows best) He makes me laugh so much
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 01:44 PM
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My boyfriend and I have lived together for 1,5 years now. Same story, we spent almost all nights together before we moved in together. We both study, but we spend most mornings together watching something. We spend the day in seperate rooms where I do my thing and he does his, and I love that I can go into the next room and kiss/hug him whenever I want. We do not spend all evenings together. It’s easy for us because he likes to watch television in the living room while I sit in the bedroom and p…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 07:21 PM
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I think that the reason that femininity is associated with appearance is because of the general focus on appearances rather than ones personal attributes. Feminism has probably had a big influence as well, because of the narrative that women can be career focused, strong willed like men etc. There was a recent post on here that talked about the reason some women are miserable, is because they expect their man to change but at the same time expect a man to love them for who they are. They don’t h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 10:20 AM
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You are very insecure. He loves you, and says he doesn’t think about his exes. He is not like your ex. He hasn’t spoken to that girl, he’s with you and he loves you. You are putting too much value on being the first. He wants to have kids, he’s great, everything seems great. I would recommend seeking professional help to deal with your insecurities. You’ve been in a bad relationship before this and have been raped, and you need to process it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 03:08 PM
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I’ve always had mostly guy friends because I play video games. I’ve recently begun to get more girl friends, but my best friend is a guy. I talk to a lot of guys 1 on 1 all the time. My boyfriend knows this is just the way I am, and doesn’t ever complain. I think it depends on what friends you had when you began the relationship. I know redpill advocates for no opposite sex friendships, but that’s my social circle. It really depends on the context.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 11:11 AM
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At the lousy bar we both worked at while we studied. I was 19 at the time.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 03:37 PM
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Do you honestly not see any problem in him liking a lot of photos from instagram models? These are not casual photos of girls from high school, but photos taken with the sole purpose of looking hot, getting likes etc. he is also commenting on their photos to get their attention. Why would you want that when you’re in a loving relationship? And publicly?? It’s just embarrassing and very disrespectful. It’s not an ‘interest’ to like other girls, only if you’re single. Yes men can look at a woman w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 11:06 PM
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No, I haven’t. I wouldn’t search for a coach through Instagram personally. Also her instagram videos look like TikTok sketches, I know it’s a marketing strategy, but I find it unprofessional. There are plenty of coaches out there, I think you might wanna dive into what you really need out of a series of sessions :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 02:38 PM
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Remember that it is okay to make mistakes, and that your whole worth is not defined by these mistakes. Sometimes we need help to become better. It’s okay to ask for help if you’re feeling like a task is overwhelming. Even if it’s not. Try to think ahead, what will you need help with? Men love to be needed, and I personally love that my boyfriend wants to help me with small things :)
/r/RedPillWives23/02/21 11:24 PM
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I feel exactly the same way. He can instantly cheer me up but I can’t do the same for him. He told me he would like to just be upset sometimes, that I don’t need to try and get him in another mood. I always try at first, but when it doesn’t help I step down and just agree that it whatever he is facing is annoying, difficult etc. but reassure him that he can handle whatever it is. Assuring him you trust him to come up with a solution is really important. Fascinating womanhood teaches this. The bo…
/r/RedPillWives22/02/21 08:40 PM
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Counting calories is not necessary for weightloss. Following your countrys recommondations is a great and healthy way to lose weight. Getting enough vegetables in your diet is really important for weight loss as vegetables are very filling while containing very little energy. Personally I don’t enjoy always snacking on vegetables, and therefore I try to incorporate them at dinner. You can fit a lot of vegetables in a bolognese, soup, one pot dish etc. Eating a variety of foods will definitely wo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 11:37 PM
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I definitely embody most feminine energy, and from these descriptions, I can say that my partner mostly embodies masculine energy. Thanks for sharing! I think me and my partner compliment each other really well. I have a lot of emotion and I show it. If I get too caught up in little things or can’t let go of a feeling, he’s always there to comfort me and help me with his more logic view on things. I feel like he is very aware when we discuss subjects as well, and I always get so excited! I love …
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 10:09 PM
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If you’re offended you missed the point. Both sexes have their strengths, and when both in their right energy, feminine and masculine, they compliment each other so well. This community is about finding your inner femininity, embracing it so that you can improve your relationship. I recommend like OP said that you read the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/21 09:51 PM
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I think feminine clothes, jewellery and a little makeup can go a long way. Dresses/skirts with long socks/tights, a cardigan etc. is an easy feminine look. Losing weight is mostly diet. Exercise is great, it’s really healthy, energizing etc. But diet is your most important tool. Try to pin-point where most of your energy comes from. Is it because youre not feeling full? Snacking throughout the Day? Do you often eat takeout? Try to work with one thing at a time. You could use your weightloss jour…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 11:13 AM
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You made a post one and a half month ago, where you wrote that you were breaking up. If you considered that before, I think it’s time to leave now. This is not his only red flag, I can read that in your other posts. 4 years is a long time, and yes you will feel lonely at first, but it’s nothing compared to the regret you’ll feel if you don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 10:46 PM
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I’ve listened to the last 40 episodes of The Suzanne Venker show, the last month or so, and I’m really loving it! She invites really interesting to come and talk about the dynamics between men and women, how men think, how the culture gets it wrong etc. I’m also reading Fascinating womanhood, which is really great so far! It talks about letting your man lead, how to better your relationship etc. If you’re interested, I can send you a link to it :)
/r/RedPillWives22/01/21 10:01 PM
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Where I live in Europe it would be quite strange, unfortunately. That’s the culture here, a lot of people have already had sex multiple times before they hit 18
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 08:45 AM
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I’m sorry if this is an odd question, but on reddit??? How do you meet men you share the same values with while simultaneously not living too far apart?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 10:42 PM
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Interesting question. I’ve never masturbated very much. Maybe once a month. Now im 22 and in a long term relationship, I only masturbate maybe 3 times a month. My sexdrive is not very high (I am content with 1 time a week, but always try to do more for my partners sake) I do feel more horny when I do masturbate though, and maybe I should do it more to get in the mood!
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 10:36 PM
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I think that the way it’s understood is bad advice. (Accept them, don’t try to better yourself) if you can better yourself, to ‘change’ a flaw requires you to acknowledge and accept that you have this flaw. To make a change, we have to accept the way things are. I think in general, almost every flaw can be worked on. If it’s that you’re insecure, bad at waking up in the morning or feel bad about how you look. The last one is one of the things I think should be considered very carefully though. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 07:35 AM
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Okay, your post is a little up for interpretation ! I can’t help you as I’m also working on some of the same things. Hope to see some replies ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 09:49 AM
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I completely support applying what’s working for you. But you do write at the end of your post that you want to drive him crazy and keep him guessing. Isn’t this ‘playing games’, which as far as I understand, is the opposite of the redpill. Why do you not want to start out with honesty instead of games, and drive him crazy in the sense of just keeping busy?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 08:42 AM
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It’s a myth. The myth says that women will be more exposed to cystitis if they are cold, and cystitis can if not treated lead to pelvic inflammatory disease. There is no correlation between being cold and your ovaries.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 08:12 AM
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I’m sorry if this is a dumb question, but how are you following the redpill strategy when you already sleep with him on the second date and take the lead on how to plan your third?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 07:59 AM
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I’m happy to hear that. I’m only at ch. 4, and I haven’t really had trouble applying these secrets. But yes there is a different dynamic today, and you have to take that into consideration.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 11:18 PM
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You know your relationship best. I can really recommend reading Fascinating Womanhood if you haven’t already. It describes a whole way of living with regards to making him feel loved and masculine. There’s a link to a PDF in another thread, if you want I can pm you it :)
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 11:09 PM
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I’m sorry to be blunt but he sounds horrible... no one should feel like they should walk in egg shells around someone else. You are saying nothing that is inappropriate, he is insecure. And how mean is it to tell you that that’s why he doesn’t want to start a family.. He is treating you badly. You’ve got to talk to him about his behaviour and set boundaries. You write that he has done lots of stuff you don’t like, but by not telling him that it’s crossing the line you become a doormat. You’ve go…
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 09:21 AM
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I’m sorry you’ve ended up in a situation like this. You are not a slut, you had your reasons and now you’ve realised it was a mistake - and that’s okay. You write that you feel disgusting and you know it’s wrong in your heart. That is enough for me to tell you to stop. If a girl friend told you this or even your boyfriend about anything they were doing, wouldn’t you tell them to stop? I completely understand that there are perks as the money and the support from a lot of followers - but it’s not…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 11:37 AM
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So am I!! Side note: I’m also quite young
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 06:01 PM
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I recommend reading fascinating womanhood. It really is eyeopening and I’m only at chapter three. You’ll get a better understanding of when and How to say things. There is a pdf link in another thread.
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 05:57 PM
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You can use apps, but I didn’t. You meet likeminded men at your uni, with a high morale for working. I met my boyfriend at my work as a bartender, not the ideal setting but he also went to school and wanted to study at uni. He’s the first guy I ever ‘went’ for. He was good looking, kind and is very interesting and clever. It wasn’t exactly redpill, but we kissed at a party and I asked him for this not to be a one time thing. He asked me out on a date a few days later. I was very lucky to find th…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 12:56 PM
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You’re very welcome. It is a long time, a lot happens. My father told me on my recent visit that I looked more like a grown woman, that I was more calm and mature he said. I didn’t feel much different though. It had also been around 3 months. I really hope you parents begin to understand where you also are coming from. You seem very kind and empathic, I’m sure they’ll see that. You know your situation best, if ignoring your sisters name calling is the only option, go for it. Pick your battles :)…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 10:08 PM
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The changes you’ve made sounds wonderful to me, I hope it’s okay if I try and give a little bit of advice. I haven’t been in the same situation at all, but I do understand where you’re coming from. I also know about fighting with your family, as I unfortunately argue with my father quite a lot. My experience is being open about how you feel really helps people understand why you end up arguing. If you’ve always acted a certain way, and your mom and sister too, and been happy with it, it might be…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 03:38 PM
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It’s great to become aware of the underlying issue. The next step is to address is in an open respectful way to your husband. No judging. I’m not the one to say exactly how it’s done, but telling him how grateful you are that he goes to work every day/provides will probably help so it’s not all negative. Communicating your needs are important, I’m sure he also has noticed his sex drive has gone down
/r/RedPillWives16/12/20 10:55 PM
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I see a therapist because of my anxiety. It’s not as bad as yours and I’ve only been there twice, but she has given me some good tools. It would be nice to turn off your thoughts and worries but we just can’t. We can try to think of our thoughts as a radio playing in the background - sometimes you listen, sometimes you don’t - and try not to go into/think about a certain worry too much. We should try and focus on something else than what’s inside our head. What you are doing, your body etc. you …
/r/RedPillWives02/12/20 08:07 PM
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I play league of legends, genshin and occasionally other games like stardew valley etc. My boyfriend also plays and have asked if I ever wanted to play something together. Might try it out :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 04:45 PM
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I feel the same way as you do. It seems like I am not as insecure, but nevertheless. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3+ years, and he has really helped me with my insecurities about being good enough in general, but I still have problems feeling good enough for him. I get sad when I don’t feel like having sex often enough, I can’t take criticism without getting really insecure and sad, and it’s tiring. I believe it stems from my past, my family and the depression I had some years back. There are…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 09:16 PM
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I thought I was the only one who did this!! My friends tell me it’s a little weird, but I feel like I can’t stop acting cute around him...I’m glad to hear it’ll go away eventually. It doesn’t seem like he minds. What was your husband thoughts on you changing your voice?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 10:53 AM
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I just listened to one of their podcasts- How to make your fantasy a reality - it was really great! These two women talk about all the aspects of sex and have so much wisdom! Thank you, I will definitely be listening more
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 08:47 AM
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I’ll try it, last time I told him something about sex we were also sitting beside each other on the bed... might come naturally to me!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 03:46 PM
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Sounds like a great idea! Thanks for the advice
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 03:45 PM
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I think this only works if you or your SO has a thing for dirty talk. Your point about being a whore for your man - I totally agree and try to, but maybe I should try more. Might be a good idea to try and get him to talk about sex so I’ll step out of my comfort zone. Thanks for the reply!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 01:58 PM
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I think it might be just as awkward not daring to face him haha! I don’t see how he should use them against me, and I’m very certain he never would - he’s a great man :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 01:55 PM
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I never thought about asking for something/expressing what I want as we begin, thank you. I don’t feel like asking if he likes it - I feel like it is unnecessary. I might ask if I try something new, but I think the easiest way to begin is starting to express more gratitude when he does something I like
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 12:30 PM
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Thank you! I Think there are both good and bad things about each way of living, lets hope it all works out
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 10:26 PM
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Where I live in Europe, you don’t get married unless you’ve been together for many years, and lives together for most of those years. I’m moving in with my boyfriend of 2 years because I want to. We have both committed and we love each other so we want to live together. We already spend a lot of time together, so it’s convenient as well. It all makes sense to me, but I guess it really is different in America.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 09:02 PM
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How are those traits masculine virtues? And what is seen as feminine virtues then? Isn’t being charismatic for everyone?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 11:27 AM
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