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Me
/r/seduction24/09/20 04:29 PM
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Yeah, I had one girl lead me on. I wish she had just told me she wanted a sex partner, I would have happily obliged.
/r/seduction29/08/20 03:58 AM
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On the cold approach. I don’t think so. After youve known someone for a while, I think so.
/r/seduction12/08/20 07:11 PM
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I think if you just met someone, nervousness isn’t the best but if you’ve known someone a while and get nervous how they will react it shows you care. Confidence using the cold approach is needed because it indicates a little carefree-ness and no expectations. IF she thinks you’re attractive and or look well kept, it’s more likely she’s fair game so give it a shot cause you don’t know who will like you.
/r/seduction12/08/20 02:44 PM
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It depends
/r/seduction12/08/20 02:39 PM
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I think attraction also begets some nervousness, which is cute and adorable in the right setting. Demonstrates you can be vulnerable and human.
/r/seduction12/08/20 02:38 PM
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I get it!
/r/seduction11/08/20 01:45 PM
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This is a tough one. I mean, if you wanted to chat more about this you can always message me. I still think the information you gave me is hard to decipher through and I don’t know enough to really make a judgement. What I can muster is that, identifying how you feel about gender norms and how you feel childhood impacted you can pave the way for seeing things differently and for reactioning to old patterns differently. These effects aren’t set in stone and I’m not a therapist lol I lack the skil…
/r/seduction11/08/20 01:33 PM
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This is excellent advice
/r/seduction11/08/20 05:42 AM
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Do you deal with suspicion a lot ?
/r/seduction11/08/20 12:08 AM
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That’s a great point. But I think both mothers and fathers need to take an active role in challenging gender norms and educating kids. Parenting is always better done as a team!
/r/seduction10/08/20 10:04 PM
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Parenting is 100% gendered. Parenting is one of the socialization forces. There are many reasons why people make the decisions that they do, it’s take a lot of commitment to understand why, I think.
/r/seduction10/08/20 09:44 PM
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I meant “more pos sex Ed”. A comprehensive sex Ed program would also tackle gender norms and the entitlement men feel toward women, the excuses men make for their bad behaviour and how much they blame genetics for their poor sexual behaviour, like cheating and needing to be with multiple women. Good sex Ed would tackle what healthy masculinity looks like because most people believe it’s just genetics. Including socialization in this conversation makes room for change in gendered behaviour which …
/r/seduction10/08/20 09:14 PM
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I think the #MeToo movement is great so that women who have been sexually violated have a place to share their experience and reclaim their voice. However, a metoo movement without the coupling with education on safety, consent, boundaries and aftercare is necessary otherwise we have a group of women who feel entitled to insult and degrade any notion of sexual energy between two people. Which may actually result from lack of knowledge or judgement, not always legit fear.
/r/seduction10/08/20 08:17 PM
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I think as a society we should be more*** sex positive. I personally believe if we had better more comprehensive sex Ed that empowered both men and women, safety and pleasure. This would curtail this problem.
/r/seduction10/08/20 08:09 PM
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It doesn’t help that men have routinely taken advantage of women and actively suppressed women over the years as a historical pattern
/r/seduction10/08/20 08:05 PM
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Totally
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:55 PM
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Great question!
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:53 PM
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Respect woman as people first, learn how to initiate, practise and implement consent. Learn how to define, integrate and change boundaries in sexual relationships.
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:49 PM
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Ah yes, I see what you mean now. I haven’t tried enough to have that practical game knowledge ;) Nice insight
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:46 PM
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Can you rewrite this? Do you mean, they shame you less if you take care of yourself and are 4 levels within your own perceived attractiveness level?
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:12 PM
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Gah. I know this feeling all too well. Talk about suppressing your natural instincts.
/r/seduction10/08/20 06:34 PM
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Thanks for this. And This has got to be true. You only get shamed from women who aren’t interested in you physically. C’est la vie.
/r/seduction10/08/20 04:57 PM
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I love this reminder. Because of all the flack men get nowadays for looking at women I feel guilty sometimes for finding people attractive. Like I’m doing something wrong if I suddenly want to have sex with a sexy woman. And this is even without me approaching her or staring.
/r/seduction10/08/20 04:50 PM
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Adventurous sex with someone who is safe all around (physically/emotionally) and nasty as hell We don’t have to be exclusive
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:11 AM
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Lucky dude. Want to hear the advice you get.
/r/seduction07/08/20 03:08 AM
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Dude. You’re annoying.
/r/seduction07/08/20 02:50 AM
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This is true. But also after nut busting, people are les attractive more generally
/r/seduction07/08/20 02:36 AM
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I can deny it, because I’ve read the research on gender differences. And understand the latest research on how gender is understood. I’m not going to debate the lived experience of trans folks. Their lives are important. And what you want to believe isn’t more important than their reality. I get it, you can’t be inclusive. No need to reinforce this.
/r/seduction07/08/20 02:32 AM
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Hopefully editing went right: I don’t think anyone intentionally excludes. However, I do think people don’t like ideas that challenge their own. Or like to speak about things they don’t have the experience of knowledge to speak about. I believe trans people when they talk about their issues and I read the science. My opinion doesn’t matter. Case by case is always the best approach with people. I mean, that’s the whole point of individual therapy, for example. With bi-women, if it worked it worke…
/r/seduction07/08/20 02:04 AM
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. Editing gone wrong folks
/r/seduction07/08/20 02:03 AM
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/r/seduction07/08/20 02:00 AM
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I’m glad we have some semblance of agreement. But I do think you could do with more learning and welcoming to diff people. Like me and everyone else trying to be better people for ourselves and for others. Apply your advice to some self-aware trans men and see what you find. Bi women I’m sure have their own proclivities like anyone else. Or not? Who knows. Case by case. But glad it’s been a success.
/r/seduction07/08/20 01:45 AM
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/r/seduction07/08/20 01:21 AM
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I thought the statement was off, I remember. Gender isn’t imprinted in our DNA or genetic programming. What if a trans guy came to this forum for advice. A short mention of “let’s be clear, not all genders are the same, biology doesn’t dictate gender identify” ...would suffice to at least nominally be gender inclusive. A trans man hearing otherwise might feel alienated hearing that gender is programmed. It’s nice to know even when we consider biology and gender that biology doesn’t dictate gende…
/r/seduction07/08/20 12:27 AM
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Still not taking you down. I always press enter before I’m done thinking. I started this conversation because you equated biology with gender which is why I referred you to the gender unicorn and recent research by gender scientists at UofT who probably have more knowledge about how to educate than me. How that statement effects trans men is huge, if you want to take the time to learn. This was not a debate but gentle advocacy for lives that are oppressed.
/r/seduction06/08/20 11:29 PM
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You didn’t understand me. Maybe we want different things but I don’t go into relationships expecting forever. Therefore I don’t initially expect care taking. I take life as it comes, without expectations. If we happen to have “forever chemistry” yay, if not-Short term love is a grest thing.
/r/seduction06/08/20 11:10 PM
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People feel invisible because people hurt and discriminate them. Based on such things like biology determining gender roles. It’s ok to be corrected and inclusive with your language it does good for a group of people who need less stress in their life. It also gives people an opportunity to evaluate their implicit biases, this is also part of self improvement. We are all people and we are all in this together. I stand up for the little guy because his journey has more warts and thorns than mine,…
/r/seduction06/08/20 10:47 PM
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I consider all the people I’ve slept with as caretakers. They helped me grow as a person in their own way. Not all life affirming things happen exclusivity in a monogamous relationship. Also, you shouldn’t need anyone to take care of you. Being spoiled should be a pleasant surprise.
/r/seduction06/08/20 10:36 PM
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Lol. I think this oversimplifies. We are all different.
/r/seduction06/08/20 10:16 PM
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Some trans men who date heterosexual women consider themselves heterosexual and would want to be included in this conversation. Their experiences are different and should be considered. Think about the impact of their socialization on dating practises. Men’s rights. All men. If you wanted this to be a cisgender male only conversation, just say so. Not really trying to push we already agree to disagree!
/r/seduction06/08/20 10:12 PM
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/r/seduction06/08/20 10:12 PM
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OP. I’m a 33 year old male and when I first dated an older women there were so many things I loved about her. She was 43 at the time. She was honest, to the point, knew what she wanted Inside and outside the bedroom. Very established and well known in her career and kept at it. She was excellent at what she did and she taught me new things everyday. She constantly challenged me to see things differently. Her experience in life was a testament to strong powerful women everywhere and I’m happy we …
/r/seduction06/08/20 09:53 PM
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Why do people think so much is biological without an ounce of proof. Sorry for the personal rant but attraction isn’t as biologically based as the lay man likes to first assume and then consider fact 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/seduction06/08/20 09:49 PM
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Ouch. I would totally bang my gf if she was older than me at 50. I’m 33, if she was 50 I’d still go at it. And yes, I’ve given this thought.
/r/seduction06/08/20 09:48 PM
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Lol. Hey, it’s not for everyone. I know what I like. Open relationships are less commitment and puts a lot less stress on me to take care of someone while still being friendly, available and sexually satisfied.
/r/seduction06/08/20 09:23 PM
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I should try this
/r/seduction06/08/20 06:41 PM
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Or lol, maybe people just don’t want to engage ;) Hrm. Yeah, I think you need to work UP to an open relationship. You need to be exclusive for a while to establish trust.
/r/seduction06/08/20 06:06 PM
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I see what you mean by pride now. Thanks for the info bud. I’ve never heard someone talk like that about casual flings. I guess in a way you’re right. Personally, flings give me a chance to explore my sexual desires in a way I couldn’t with past partners who had hard limits on certain sexual things. Like anal or pegging. I try to be friends with flings so we are more like FWB. Sometimes I settle for just a quality sex partner who I am not afraid to explore with and my body feels safe with. Someo…
/r/seduction06/08/20 05:32 PM
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Thanks for clarifying. I know what you mean now yeah. I have to admit I am Bi and have dated more men than women. It is FAR easier to date women as a female presenting person. Not only because I get more leeway for behaviour men are condemned for AND because I’m not “intimidating” or seen as naturally “aggressive” even if I am. But I digress, I have definitely met women who lead people on and say things they don’t mean and end up never meeting. It’s actually a lot of work having to “chase” and a…
/r/seduction06/08/20 05:22 PM
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I don’t know what you mean by checking someone’s pride. I think people don’t know how to be RESPECTFUL during casual flings. Like honouring the person as a person, being a good human towards them, kindness, nurturing. Also, no one teaches you sexual boundaries or how to deliver and receive consent!
/r/seduction06/08/20 05:13 PM
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Makes sense bud
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:23 PM
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Makes sense bud.
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:23 PM
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Makes sense bud! Good work!
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:22 PM
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How do you know someone just wants validation? Also, what’s wrong with wanting validation?
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:19 PM
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Who is this person? Did he find that the approach works? I’d really like to know. If he has written about his techniques I’d love to see it.
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:15 PM
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Hopefully you don’t mind me just saying: Omg!!!! I get this feeling all the time. Even when I’m being respectful there is at least a 10% chance I’ll be called a creep for enjoying our convo or simply talking to the gender I’m attracted too!! To be fair I’m not always looking to pick a girl up. So I meant this more generally than in the context of actual seduction.
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:52 PM
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Can’t wait for the final results on this one
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:51 PM
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When I have time I’m going to check things out on this list
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:05 PM
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No she’s not a troll. Men are definitely intimidated by women who lead. At least in a good number of cases. It goes against their gendered notion that they need to be the leader or the dominant one. Men are often intimated in the bedroom when a woman is more dominant as well. Makes for lifeless sex for the headstrong woman type.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:47 PM
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This is wonderfully written. I was just writing to another poster on another thread that not all women want to be dominated and it would be useful for a guy to take a step back and be swept away sometimes.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:44 PM
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That’s what I like to hear. And you’re off, good luck mate. Nailed it :)
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:32 PM
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I personally like your comment about feeling not worthy. When I get overly attracted to people and too many of them, I def feel these things.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:31 PM
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Lol! Post nutclarity. Honesty, this is a thing!
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:30 PM
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Stop the car. Your post just described me with my last crush.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:27 PM
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That makes sense. I had a friend who acted desperately. He became a little enmeshed with the relationship. And I think let her control him a bit. It was hard to watch. I think it came from his low self-esteem. He was looking for validation.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:22 PM
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Exactly with respect to being a team.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:20 PM
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Yes. I’d say with certainty the last girl from tinder used me. I think we need to have more compassion for women and why it might be hard for them not to have casual flings. They are slut shamed and often don’t have enjoyable sex till they are older because young men talk a lot, want a lot but don’t have much skill. Maybe females are protecting themselves from predatory men and if that’s the case I don’t blame them. Wherever the codes come from, it makes it harder for decent men to get a shag or…
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:20 PM
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Like I said. It’s a bold statement for you to say this is biologically programmed. I only return to it because it’s dangerous to the community as a whole. The LGBTQ+ community isn’t necessarily the outlier community either and making space for their voice is important, even in forums like this one. It is more important for everyone to be heard then to appeal to an audience. That’s what it means to be inclusive. I’d reframe it as “initiation”. You can lead in a relationship without there being th…
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:14 PM
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I think you’re on to something. I also think it might have something to do with hookup culture today and and the “rules” of dating on popular apps like tinder. Like on tinder that banter is necessary to “show interest” because showing adequate interest is one of the codes of dating someone on tinder. Gee
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:25 AM
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Hrm. I personally find the notion of “exotic” racist. Because it implies a standard that is more often than not based on European Beauty Standards. What is your goal here? Is it just for sex? If it’s just for sex then you just need to learn how to approach women, be confident and be charming. Consent and being Direct is always best when sex is the goal. This takes practise and the ability to deal with rejection which is better dealt with, with practise. Lastly, personally, I try not to have a ty…
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:14 AM
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Anytime!
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:08 AM
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I would not say there are millenniums of biological programming that indicate women are “submissive”. The animal kingdom is ripe with examples where this is not the case. And cultural history has pinpointed very specific points in time where women were subjugated, leading to male “dominance”. But this is another story for another post and another subreddit. Nothing dirty about submission and dominance. I just think it’s important to be open minded, and diverse with your sexuality and gender. I l…
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:04 AM
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Why are you desperate?
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:57 AM
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I would look into what having good self esteem and understanding what good boundaries look like and try to develop myself that way
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:56 AM
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Be genuinely kind. Be curious and open minded. Taking an ACTIVE INTEREST in the person you’re talking too. Be curious about what the person is saying. Treat them with respect. Repeat back things they say or show an interest in the finer details of what’s being said. Focus the conversation on that person. It’s not about how you look but more about how you’re making the other person feel. Learn how to listen. Make them laugh. Work on what humour fits you best. If humour is not your thing hats ok. …
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:50 AM
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This is a tough one. I had a wild ride with a guy 4 years ago. He was good for my body, the cuddles, warmpth was exactly what I needed. I also just wanted to be part of his world. I dabbled in being with his friend and meeting some of his peeps. I considered seriously dating a number of times because of the chemistry between us. Ultimately though, what kept the situation platonic and FWB was lack of expectations and the commitment to being open. I worked through my jealousy and kept the goal in …
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:43 AM
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As I mentioned in another post before. These power dynamics behind gender at least at this time in society is constructed. Some women are alpha and trying to dominate them isn’t the best approach. Saying men need to dominate also doesn’t give women the opportunity to fill that role when it is right for them. It also makes it impossible for men to explore a different role than what is demanded by society for their gender. What’s the fun in that? Sometimes, being the man and also the submissive on…
/r/seduction06/08/20 03:32 AM
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Wear a mask during sex :)
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:57 AM
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This is an ableist response. Why hate on autistics? ...and smells of toxic bro mentality. Gross.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:39 AM
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I used to be anxious about my anxiety all the time. It helps when I reframe it. So like, It makes me awkward but awkwardness is quirky and cute. My anxiety also makes me neurodivergent, there is a whole movement that supports neuro-diverse folks. So I’m supported in society by the movement. There is also mad pride that breaks down the idea of stigma altogether and asserts “mental illnesses” can be seen as natural reactions to life circumstances. I’d also look up Brené Brown and her talk on Shame…
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:34 AM
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If this makes you feel better. I’ve been stuck on a girl for two years for a whole variety of reasons. I work on myself and am constantly trying to meet new people. Well not constant but often enough. I’m 33 so having sex with old flames and casual sex gets my cuddle and sex needs met too. Always be safe. Wait, no sex Or cuddles during quarantine!
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:15 AM
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This was serious mature insight. I love how confident you were when you caught that initial glimpse. You seem like a really respectful person you simply respected where she was at in life and could go on to be friends. I’d say that’s unexpected. I’d expect a man to feel rejected and take no further interest in a woman. Shows genuine curiosity to another human in my opinion. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction06/08/20 02:05 AM
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/r/seduction06/08/20 02:05 AM
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I haven’t read the other comments but, my last gf, she wanted me to put out right away so I did. In trying to get to know her she had a more difficult time moving past the sexual stuff and I think it hindered us from bonding. There were other factors involved but even friends I know, if sex isn’t first it’s with the first few real dates which ultimately annoys me, When I was young I waited 4 years before having sex for the first time.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:59 AM
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You’re right. It’s true. All in how it comes across
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:50 AM
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I think in this dynamic the women really need to be ok with your youth. Need to enjoy someone younger to show around and teach. Some eagerness and just being yourself would be enough. I think some women would be impressed with some surprise maturity but you can’t control that.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:48 AM
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If this comment counts: I read Robert green when I was really afraid of rejection and needed something to buffer ways she could reject me. The book feels manipulative and that was in alignment with the idea I could handle if she said no. Having confidence and no expectations is a good idea. Being curiosity and not being afraid to show attraction is what helped me out.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:44 AM
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Are there really techniques for this? I find my gaze naturally glazed over when I see my type
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:39 AM
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I like the way you phrased this, emphasizing the way she looks. I dont like compliment too much be cause every-time I give a girl a compliment she’s going to think I’m hitting on her. Why can’t men sometimes genuinely enjoy fashion
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:32 AM
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Gotcha. Thanks bud.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:16 AM
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Needing to dominate is toxic in my opinion. False power dynamics between men and women create inequality more broadly. Respect each other as people and approach others that way is my motto.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:15 AM
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Exactly. I fully respect this approach.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:11 AM
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I don’t see why respect needs to be gendered. Consent education is needed, feminists have done a great job. Consent is important. Men approaching with the intent of sex without being forthright gets annoying m. Also, Being assertive isn’t a manly trait, it’s a human trait.
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:10 AM
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Biologically need to be dominated? That seems off
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:07 AM
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What exactly is the cold approach?
/r/seduction06/08/20 01:05 AM
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