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Hey man, OP didn't mention anything about being/not being demi, so I just answered honestly. Apologies if it offended you somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:37 PM
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Sigh nope. I am what people call demisexual. He's overweight, short (5'4), his face was full of acne scars, he has zero fashion sense, and his hygiene & personal grooming are terrible. When I was dating, he was one of three prospects that was the least attractive, but he felt safe, I felt like he wouldn't hurt/betray me, so I picked him. He's nerdy, I loved that. Then as I got to know him more, my attraction for him grew & grew, and he actually became perfect in my eyes, I couldn't even see othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:04 PM
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Stop watching barely legal porn lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:55 AM
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Yep https://spartanshield.org/42176/feature/its-a-girls-world/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:27 AM
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That's quite alright, you are very much welcome to disagree & have a different opinion. If you want a justification to behave a certain way, I cannot give it to you, only you can decide what kind of person you want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 02:24 AM
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When good men date successfully, nobody made a post about them, everybody involved is just busy being happy. When terrible men do, people are more inclined to write about them online, and sometimes it's not just the partner, but also the observers, the parents, the siblings, the friends, etc. That's why people tend to think one is happening more than the other. Same reason how unhappy customers have more incentive to leave negative reviews. It's human nature. Then there's of course the loudest o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:52 AM
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Ahh okay. Honestly, if women sense that you are a friendly person who likes to chat (with everyone), they will let down their guard more & be more open to be (respectfully) hit on. If they sense you're not this kind of person & select only attractive women to initiate conversation with, they'll have their guard up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:04 AM
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Do you not initiate friendly chats with strangers unless you want to smash?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:04 AM
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I joined a lot of online women communities, and have never seen the double standard OP talked about. I found women needvery good at holding each other accountable & calling them out on awful behaviour. Oh man, whenever someone made a post about cheating or unhinged behaviour, they always get grilled so hard it's so entertaining to watch (and relieving too that we are still decent human beings). Not to say, I've never seen the kind of women that preach what OP said, these usually (but not always)…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:42 PM
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Exactly. I joined a few woman's online groups, and everytime someone made a post about cheating, no matter the excuse & circumstances, she always gets grilled HARD by fellow women. Sometimes they'd delete their post and made another one to justify the cheating, then grilled even harder. I've never seen women endorsing cheating unless it was in a cheater community.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:32 PM
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Everyone's shooting for the stars lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:54 AM
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Just because you're incompatible with someone in dating context & decided not to date them, it doesn't mean you look down on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:42 PM
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I've been called that since I was a virgin, and now that I've slept with a grand total of ONE man, I'm still called that 😅 think some people need English lesson on those words specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 12:27 PM
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Coming from a woman, I completely agree. If you cannot argue & handle conflicts as equals, then it's not a relationship worth staying for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:51 AM
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Yes yes they're liars & abusers. You should stay far far away from them & leave them alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:47 AM
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Yikes man 😬 let's say for argument's sakes, women are indeed liars & shallow terrible people, why would you want to be with them? Maybe just leave them alone? 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 09:18 AM
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It's really strange how that came to be the popular opinion of "certain group of men" on reddit... The men who are "out of women's league" do not need to mislead women, they can honestly say they're dating casually and women flock to them anyway. Some women might mislead themselves, but that's another story. The men who struggle with dating however, are usually the dishonest ones misleading women, spouting things like "open to long term", "dating with relationship as a goal" while actually havin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:10 AM
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Wish that were true... So many men mislead women with their intention so they can keep getting laid while "shopping around".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:37 AM
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I do agree both genders are now miserable (compared just just women being miserable decades ago), but several things came to play, greedy big cyber companies, using people's psychology against them, social media has implemented machine learning to optimize screen usage time & making content addictive & turning people obsessive. Online dating apps designed to keep people stay on the apps. People's insecurity & mental health issues becomes profit to these companies. People have unrealistic expecta…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:38 AM
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This is the simple version of what I had in mind. Back in the day society did not let women be self sufficient. They were not legally allowed to inherit finance. The type of career women were socially/legally able to do did not match the living expenses. Wage disparity between genders was horrid. Some women worked very physically taxing jobs, the hours were long, and they were paid so little, not nearly enough to support themselves. There's absolutely no point. So the only survival means that ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:39 AM
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Nope, same rules apply.
/r/AllPillDebate06/11/23 09:57 PM
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Ayo man, if you're doing it right, your partner will feel like she's the lucky one and your her best option.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:07 AM
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It's absolutely fine to have standards, and it's abso-fucking-lutely fine to not want to date women with certain body shapes. It is however, not fine to shame women because they don't fit your standards. It is also not fine to feel entitled to the women who fit your standards.
/r/AllPillDebate06/11/23 07:25 AM
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But when women don't put out, y'all get angry lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:03 AM
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Yep this. I can understand wanting to find someone with similar values, E.g. I see sex as a previous intimate thing therefore I want a partner who believes the same. However, what we're seeing in droves are guys who slept around (or wanted to sleep around but couldn't afford to), but think poorly of women who do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:56 AM
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Omg thank you for pointing out the insanity & the hypocrisy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:36 PM
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Being nice is a pre-requisite, if a guy doesn't fulfill this basic requirement, they won't even get to selection process. Problem is a lot of guys take it as they need to only act nice with women they're sexually/romantically interested in, while they treat everyone else like they don't exist lol So they're not actually nice, they're just trying to look like they are. Some women might get fooled, most are usually observant enough to notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:42 AM
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Without knowing you as a person, if you're dressed okay & talk like a socially adept person, I would think you're asexual/aromantic, or religious, or have other priorities, or just chose that lifestyle for whatever reason. If you seem socially awkward from your clothing and/or speech, then I'd think you're too shy.
/r/AllPillDebate19/10/23 05:34 AM
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Absolutely nobody should settle being treated like shit or getting breadcrumbs. If a woman do this to you, you should just leave and move on. Likewise, if a man do this to a woman, she should do the same. It's called self respect.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 12:30 AM
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How in the world did you come to this conclusion from that comment. That person was simply stating don't make "being ugly" your whole personality. Try to find some passions in life, hobbies, interests (apart from women), learn something new, try to socialize outside of the internet (not partying kind, just find a hobby meetup). Also women are not nice "things", they're people like you and me, with their own stories, trauma, memories, and just trying to live the best they can in this unfair world…
/r/AllPillDebate12/10/23 10:56 PM
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Best answer I've read on this subreddit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:21 AM
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Not fucking them = angry at them lol
/r/AllPillDebate05/10/23 09:57 PM
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Exploring/discovering nature/new places/experiences is not childish at all!!
/r/AllPillDebate05/10/23 04:21 AM
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Why does it have to be sexual? Do you not get anything at all from platonic interaction?
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 08:07 AM
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I dunno man, sometimes I got sad from man problem then a hug from my female friend got me through the week. Do you have platonic/male friends you interact with outside of hobbies/activities?
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 02:06 AM
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Men need to normalize hugging their homies
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 01:35 AM
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Omg this is my dilemma with dating, you'll never know which one you're getting until few years are gone down the drain.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:43 PM
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I mostly lurk. Reading the posts made by men here gave me validation, I.e. It made me certain that I made the right decision. It also serves as a cautionary tale, to remind me there are many unsafe men that I need to avoid, and reading these posts helps me identify them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:08 AM
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I never quite understood whenever men here are told to be an equal partner (as in do more around the house, child care, and house administration), they start screeching nonsense statistics. They're not denying it's happening, but also refuse to change their lazy ways. They'd rather blame women than actually be functional adults & equal partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:36 PM
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Omg thank you for restoring my faith in men. My head was spinning reading some of these arguments. These people don't want wives, they want sex slaves to be used at will and will not demand anything back, oh but they also need to do all house chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:14 PM
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If he hasn't processed and reasonably healed from past relationships, and hasn't taken steps to fix it (by seeing a therapist for example), imo he's not fit to be in another relationship. I put in a lot of effort in managing my mental health and make sure I don't cause harm to people around me. When I have an insecurity, I address it with my therapist so that it doesn't affect my relationship with others. I set the same standards for the man I'd be dating. There are certainly women who have a "f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:53 AM
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I don't get how OP just assumes women are promiscuous by default if they don't want kids. I'm just busy doing nerdy shit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:09 AM
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The ones I know don't bother whining, they just stopped dating and stay single lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 02:52 AM
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From my understanding, these stats were taken from OLD usage. So it's definitely true for women who frequent OLD. However, there is a reason why OLD is skewed so heavily against men, it's because most women don't use it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 09:12 PM
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I think this is the most accurate answer. Many women who chose to be single did so because they GENUINELY believe they're happier. Also, they are generally good at making & maintaining close friendships, so relationships are most often supplemental, not necessary. Most single men are not single by choice. And for those that are, mostly made that decision because they didn't want to work on deep rooted issues. Not saying this is always the case. I met some bitter single women, but they are GREATL…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 01:25 AM
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Typical conversation with men: M: "Hi" W: "Hi, how are you doing?" M: "I'm horny. Sex?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:49 AM
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I read posts made by women who are either older or not conventionally attractive trying to make conversation with men (not even in romantic setting in some cases), and the man ignored them completely, or dismissed the conversation. I also personally found very stark difference in how I'm treated in public events/meetups depending if I'm coming with my partner or not lol I really believe a lot of men who complain no women will talk to them just filter out the ones they're not sexually interested …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:23 PM
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The only dating lesson I got from here is give up dating 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 01:53 PM
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DO YOU want to attract women who prefer you to suffer inside??? Have some self worth mate. If they don't want you happy or be yourself, even if you pair up with them, you're gonna be miserable & lonely regardless (yes being lonely in a relationship is a thing). And you'll likely grow resentment towards your partner overtime.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 12:59 AM
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Why don't you think about what YOU want to be, not what YOU THINK women want you to be. If you want to be a toxic asshole, by all means be one, but take accountability and say you're toxic because you WANT to be, not because YOU THINK women want you to be. Stop shifting blame man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 12:18 AM
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The key is to open up GRADUALLY. Don't go on an emotional diarrhea on someone you went on 2 dates with lol I know this chronically single dude who always complains that women are cold hearted bitches, but he went on self pity monologue on bloody first dates. When we told him to stop, he said that's a good way to test them. Lol ok bud. Also balance. How many percents coming out of our mouth are complaints and rants, some women have higher threshold than others, but the thing is if we need more ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:47 AM
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From personal experience and hanging out in venting spaces for women: One party (usually the man) just lets their SO deal with all (or majority of) mental load, inc: plan travel, make itinerary, book transportation, accommodation, activities plan dates in general childcare (feeding them, clothing them, take them to school, doctors appointment, play dates, help with homework, entertaining them, generally spending time with them, etc) meal planning, grocery shopping, cooking household management, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 12:14 PM
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Agreed, this sounds like an interview question, "why should we hire you?", but in a more sinister way, "why should we value you?". It is asked to make women question their worth, not to encourage civil argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:22 AM
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It is for me, and I believe/hope it is for him too. Frequency is almost everyday, or basically everyday unless we did some outdoor activities and are dead tired, or super busy with some social/family things, or one of us had a very stressful day, or I'm on my period. I told the gym body guy I got into a relationship, and he was suddenly super keen (kept messaging me). I shut it down and made things clear. It took a bit of time until he gave up. I believe he is now also in a relationship. I hope …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 05:20 AM
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My partner is very emotional. I'd start talking about some things that I appreciate and he'd start crying. He'd share some things he feels strongly about and he'd start crying. When he does, I hug him and let him let it all out. I love him for it. I am a bit of the opposite, I rarely ever cry. He's not someone that can be defined as traditionally masculine, nor conventionally attractive, he has some extra weight that he wants to work on (I said these things, but he's the only person I'm attracte…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:58 AM
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I feel that's an excuse people like to use to avoid being honest. Personally for me, it's because I was the only one trying to hold the conversation, or the extreme opposite, if the other person just can't stop talking about themselves and seems to have very little interest in me, if they look nothing like their pics, or if they said something that make me icky, issues related to hygiene, habits, manners, incompatible lifestyles/morals, etc. All these can be summed up into "no chemistry". I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:13 AM
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??? What's this got to do with what they said?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:29 PM
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Omg thank you. I was reading some of the top comments and they all mention being physically fit and strong, but nothing about being a functional independent adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 11:10 PM
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They need to earn enough to match the woman's lifestyle at least. E.g. My partner and I have similar earning & spending (I make slightly more). When I plan for holidays, I don't have to consider he might not be able to pay for himself, I know he can. If he earns a lot more, it might mean incompatible lifestyles, or the relationship dynamic might be unbalanced. Also, it's a red flag when the man boasts about his wealth on a date. It just gives us the ick like he's just looking for transactional s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:04 PM
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Since your goal is fun casual relationships with much younger women, then money absolutely helps. If your goal is long term reciprocal loving relationship, waving your wealth around will just drive these women away.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:20 AM
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Yes yuck, also the other way around, men who date "pixie manic women" thinking they can change them. These people are delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:34 AM
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Women can now earn enough (or more than enough) to support herself, can own property & businesses, and modern age is opening up to cater to all sorts of lifestyles imaginable. There are services on the market to fill the gap of "manly tasks" around the house. Being in a relationship is no longer a matter of survival for women. The need for companionship can be satisfied with having friends. So they'll only get into a relationship if it adds positive values to her life. If being in relationship j…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:22 AM
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This is the correct answer. Find people who are compatible with your values & morals and date them. Dating someone with the premise of changing them is the textbook definition of controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:54 AM
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I wrote long paragraphs, but instead decided not to engage further. Good day to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:51 AM
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I know exactly the kind of people you mentioned, people with savior complex, these are usually the kind that struggles with abandonment, or people who were "parentified" as children. Just because a woman came from good background, it doesn't mean she's truly well. A truly mentally healthy woman won't look for a "project". She's going to look for a compatible partner to build a future with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 12:41 AM
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Broken people attract broken people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 07:44 AM
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Well it's like the saying, if you met an asshole, you're just unlucky, but if everyone you met is an asshole, well... 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:38 AM
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Omg I actually read the whole conversation thread. Thank you for making a good point and provide intellectual argument, even though that other guy doesn't seem to be able to argue in good faith. It was very satisfying when he resorted to name calling lol. What I don't understand is the sheer entitlement - men are physically stronger so they deserve to sexually harass women, and that being safe is a privilege bestowed by men, and that women need to reward them for not raping/murdering them. Lolwu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 07:23 PM
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I consider myself a submissive partner, in a way that I let him make the final decisions when it comes to us. If there's anything that I feel like is a concern, I approach him & bring it to his attention, but I let him decide what's best. He views me as an equal, he asks for my views & opinions on things, never belittles or dismisses my concerns. He always consults me on what I think about the situations & what I think is the best directions, he listens, we discuss, then he makes a decision. Som…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:29 AM
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There are people everywhere who prefer transactional arrangement. The most common trope is rich ugly/old men preferring pretty younger women, I presume there's the female equivalent as well, high status women looking for good looking men. Honestly, if they're both adults and the arrangement works out for them, then who are we to spit on it? For the rest of us who prefer to build emotional connection, it's much easier to do that with someone with similar lifestyle, education, and wealth. E.g. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:30 AM
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I think this is the info that's missing from your post. You're talking about very specific group of PhD women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:12 AM
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I think this dude is one of those who see a woman throw a friendly smile and immediately presume she wants to fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 08:39 AM
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Also initiating & planning date itinerary, remembering important dates, buying gifts/planning something for friends/family's birthday, mother's day, etc, remembering expiring vouchers or coupons that we need to use, taking a mental note of fridge inventory, making sure guests are fed & happy, communicating with rental/electricity/water/internet provider when there's issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 06:01 AM
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This is what I don't understand. They like to think women get enraged that they're happily coupled. Honestly, if they're both happy, I'd be like, oh cool so back to abc xyz... I had been led on by men before, I just dropped them and moved on, I don't even think about them. One reached out to me about a year later to tell me he got a gf, happy for him honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:44 AM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:56 AM
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This is the actual answer. We cannot gauge someone's character from just a few interactions. Also if they are really attractive, they might have valid reasons to be extra wary and might take extra time to open up, especially if the other person gives off "overly keen" vibe. Also, what is "interesting"? Everyone has their opinions and interests, albeit some might carry a mild demeanor & not a high energy bubbly one, it doesn't mean they're boring, they just prefer a calmer conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:03 AM
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Nope, I've always ended it because we have compability issue or he has commitment issue. Usually I won't even think about dating until much later, and just spend much of my time hanging out with my gal pals.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 09:26 AM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:10 AM
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Men with low body count are okay to prefer women with similarly low body count. Men with high body count who prefer women with low body count are hypocritical assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:35 AM
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This is what I meant by taking a step back from the friendship. Obviously, many one-on-one activities are out once he's in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:39 AM
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I actually have another side to this view. I have a male friend that I've known since we were teenagers (we're both approaching 40 now). We never had any romantic or sexual tension, and of course never had sex/kiss/cuddling/holding hands, noone ever suggested any of these, it's weird even imagining it, and I know he feels the same. We go for lunch/dinner/movie/trips together, sometimes with other friends, sometimes without. I grew up in an abusive household, so he's like a family I never had, we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:48 AM
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