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Hi OP, Most men choose their wives because in their head they fear it was time to get married. It's almost 95% likely your hisband did the same. It was timing and not special whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:04 PM
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No. She can file a complaint with wherever or whoever. And, that's guilty until proven innocent after
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:30 PM
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I agree with you about approaching, but it's for a completely different reason. In this western world that I know there is immense liability for a man interacting with a woman. If you don't know what I am talking about, good. If you do, then I am sorry that's happened to you. It's just not worth the trouble. As a man who's established, strong career, assets, reputation etc.... There is too much to lose for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:22 PM
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The truth is relationships are all unique and happen for different reasons. You are making a broad generalization as to why. There isnt just one answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 01:24 AM
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I agree with you. This idea that there is a natural power imbalance based on age is just nonsense. Just see people of any adult age as the adults they are and more importantly the "person" they are. I believe a lot of this is just societal stigma combined with the misandry that's pushed in society. Misandry with the idea that men are not allowed to have any preferences when it comes it choosing the opposite sex. Traditional roles are fine only in the context where it will benefit women. The impo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:11 PM
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Oh. It's so great that you're using reddit references as reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:19 PM
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Do you have any proof at all that's why older men have chosen a younger woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:57 AM
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This is the best answer.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 10:16 PM
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Absolutely in a good way. Your combination of self awareness and ability to reflect on your experiences is incredibly rare. I only wish to hear more. I hate text format for the lack of nuance and inability to convey genuine emotion. All the best, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:45 PM
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This is easily one of the most fascinating comments i've read in a long while.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:15 PM
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Let the new girl go. You have no control over your life and even less control over your Ex.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 11:40 PM
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This is a broad generalization of the worst men. And, yes, women need to choose better. If women don't take accountability for their mistakes then they are doomed to repeat them. And, a lot of single mom's do figure it out. That's why they end up dating and marrying men they would never have dated when they were not yet a mother. What becomes a the priority for single moms? A man who is stable, has a good job, is a good provider... etc. Yeah, women make mistakes with the men they choose. Men mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:52 AM
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Holy Fuck. After reading this post it is no wonder that misandry exists. Women, like men, have personality types and attractiveness that makes them easier to manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:28 PM
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Some are. Not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:25 PM
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Subservient is too harsh a world. A husband and wife serve one another, just in different capacities. It is not equal because it is comparing apples and oranges. Just as much as I want a wife to look to me for guidance, I would also refer to her opinion. Any good leader knows to listen. But, no organization can work properly when 2 persons are fighting for Leaderships. That's what feminism does. It is an all uncompromising way of life that puts all blame onto others and accepts no accountability…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:38 PM
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That's great. Don't change, but don't do the bait and switch to sucker a guy into marrying you under false pretenses. Don't ever lie about the type of person you are or change. Men don't care. Personally, I'm tired of the toxic masculinity labels and the constant attack on anything related to being a man. The conflict is not about your lifestyle, but about your inability to accept that men may not prefer your lifestyle. I don't blame you. No one likes rejection. I have said this many times and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:42 AM
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Women being discerning about their choice in men is biological and sensible even in the modern world. The possibility of having a child with a useless man can be devastating. Single mom's are an instant Red Flag for a lot of men. Before anyone can criticize, ask yourself if you have ever tried to set up a woman with one of these good men you know? It's easy to point the finger at people's mistakes and flaws. Why not point the finger in the right direction?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:18 PM
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I don't even believe the statement that women want a good man. It is my belief that women want a perfect man. They might tell themselves that they are going to settle and accept some flaws, but a few years down-the-line and a few years of making a man's life miserable because she can't or is not able to change him, she will divorce him. Divorce is only one of the options that she will select with.The others being infidelities. In short society tells men, they need to settle except what they can …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 02:10 PM
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Both men and women live longer when married. Stop with the nonsene. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7452000/
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 04:53 AM
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I have never encountered a man who hates promiscuous women. I have found they have an aversion to it. They would never want to marry one or be proud their spouse was a slut. I have encountered a few men who were proud their wives we "openly sexual". But, the entire room just looks at him like he's a weirdo. Personally, I don't care what promiscuous women do. But, I do believe they have trauma and some sort of mental damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:33 PM
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No, I disagree. The feminists ideology will continue because it gives women a sense of empowerment, no matter how much it might damage their sense of self. The current public educational system is all filled with leftist thinking feminism, then it continues in post secondary institutions. It starts from the very top with programs of indoctrination. It is much like how Communism is alive and strong even though history has proven that mankind's worst atrocities were under communist regimes. There …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:23 PM
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Oppressed? Statistically there are more women in post secondary Institutions than men. The trend in healthcare all along the west is there are more female doctors than male doctors. How often do you see an oppressed group doing better than the non-oppressed group? Yes, there are more male CEOs. There are also more male garbage men, bricklayers, roofers, and loggers. Women are drawn to different fields. Yes, sexism still exists and it's effing bullshit. But, saying that men overall are trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 12:49 AM
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I am not responsible for them putting that shit out there any more than I was responsible for the War in Afghanistan. It's just like Social Media trying putting Charlie Kirk in my feed or putting Road Rage videos in my feed. No matter what I do, they put that shit in there. Is it really shit I want to see? No. How do you hold a regular 8-5 guy responsible for this shit? I am up at 6am and leave at 7am to make it in on time. Do you think I'm writing letters asking for what movies to make? They pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 04:12 PM
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Yeah, again, so what? That doesnt mean that all other men are to blame. Asians are portrayed poorly in Western Media, you can't hold all white people accountable. I can't control media. I am not ever going to take accountability for their shitty behavior. That is like saying all men enabled Harvey Weinstein to SA all of those women. Hollywood doesn't represent the masses.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 12:04 AM
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I never understood why the sexualization of women in the media was the fault of men. We don't ask for it. We can't control the media. I don't blame all other religions when they bash Islam. I don't blame other races when they bash Asians. The media is fucked. Saying the regular man has any control over it is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:18 PM
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I have only met one man I would call a high value man. And, i didnt know him well enough to be speaking on women. But, he was married and had a mistress. I was friends with his mistress. I am not entirely sure what women qualify as a high value man these days. But, in my opinion, he was impressive. Harvard Business, massive real estate holdings... but it was the intelligence and character that stood out to me. We discussed everything from Politics, religion, geography, history, and cars. His kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 12:14 PM
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I could find the studies, but I don't even care. Believe what you want, I won't be considered otherwise. Until people who have all these casual encounters really face up to the reality of why they do these things, they can't engage in a meaningful relationship. Whether you are a man or a woman, when you have had sex with more people than you can remember, your body and your time aren't special to anyone anymore. Sadly, you're not special to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:15 AM
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Whatever. All you have is strawman rhetoric.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:46 AM
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It's not pointless to use population averages or else they wouldn't use them. It is not impossible to be faithful and healthy relationship after 9 plus partners, but the odds are against it. This is the reality. People who engage in this behavior might find happiness with one another, but odds are against it. After a point it's not sexual fulfillment, it's mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 11:45 AM
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https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-025-12607-1?utm_source=chatgpt.com
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 10:08 PM
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The studies really say different. But, if it works for you, great!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 05:46 PM
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I have never seen that movie and I'm glad I haven't.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:26 PM
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I thought it was just about the "pecking order". Women want men who are high in social status. And, these men are high in social status in their world (prison).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:07 PM
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I dont understand what you are saying
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 03:29 PM
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I don't give 2 shits if you are bi. What do a few slurs have to do with this discussion? The reality is women are repulsed by the idea of having intimacy with gay men. And, the more partners the gay man has had does effect how she views him. It is much like how some straight men are repulsed by women who have had many partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:48 AM
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Ask these ladies how they feel about men who have had male sexual partners. Then you will see the change.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:57 AM
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It's crazy that men are answering.....ladies? Explanations?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 01:32 PM
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I would rather be alone than raising someone's kids. That's a no brainer for me. Marrying into a family with kids doesn't even mean you are going to have a family. Who's to say the kids with love you or even like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:45 AM
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Everyone gas lights, men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:29 PM
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I was a very angry young man, but there was always rules to fighting. And, one of the most clear rules was if you shook hands it was over. Raja was obviously failed by his father. The interactions really seemed like Rampage never spoke to him or treated him like a man. How can you expect him to act like a man when has never seen the example of one. I am not trying to take away his accountability, but that's just how I am understanding his mindset. What happened wasn't one man disrespecting the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:09 PM
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This exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:15 PM
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This exactly. I feel that I am just one accusation away from complete destruction. Women facing accusations of wrong doing is not the same. Society has some sympathy for women and none for me .
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 06:40 AM
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I never realized this until I started to dress better myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:44 PM
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Thank you for commenting. Yeah, some people just have the most toxic view of the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:58 AM
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Some people, men and women, love spicy food, despite having their asses burnt every time. But, yeah, my friend was a lost cause. I just hope she does treat the new man like shit, because looks wise she really settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:54 PM
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Come on.... gimme a break. It's not a guy on welfare.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:50 PM
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Yeah, I said that: looks and status. Lol jj. Sometimes the looks and slick talking is more than enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:20 PM
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I apologize, I should have said women should look for qualities that include more than looks and status. And, yes, it is frustrating listening to men. We do contractadict ourselves as there is a variety of different opinions. You can win as a woman as much as a man can win. Imo it is all about understanding what you want. And, most people don't know what they want. Moving into relationships based on attraction alone is a terrible idea. I have read many horror stories from women dating and men da…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:14 PM
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Hi OP, I have seen the alternative. A friend of mine "I only date assholes."from a friend of mine. And, yes she only dates assholes. The thing is people follow the same patterns of attraction. It's not some kind of mystery. The men she dated all fit the same profile. Tall, white, and arrogant. There is a happy ending though, she did find a "nice guy" in the end. And, no he does not look like any of the previous guys she has been with. It's pretty simple. If men find a hot and easy party girl tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:45 PM
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Everyone deserves respect no matter how they look, but not everyone deserves a partner or a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:31 AM
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It needs to be set out clearly that men and women are equal in value but vastly unequal in other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:29 PM
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Absolutely you should choose who you want. Any advice otherwise is horrible. What is worse than a woman rejecting and not choosing a man is settling for him. Going for a stable guy who's 3 levels below where you are at is a recipe for disaster. You won't be happy and chances are you would make his life misery because of it. Never ever lower your standard and if you do, just be very honest with the one you are settling with. Chances are he will be so desperate he won't leave, but at least he will…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:56 AM
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I wish someone would have explained this woman's role to my Ex, because our relationship was nothing like this. Submissive and western women don't go together at all. You might be describing something akin to 100 years ago. But that's not any reality I have experienced or even heard of.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:10 PM
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Hey! Interesting take and point of view. Those are all sensible and valid concerns. And, no, I do not believe for a second there is any bigotry or malice in your statement. I think your objections to being with a gay man can just as easily apply to being with a straight man or woman. Promiscuity and having multiple sexual partners comes with inherent risk for all. There are women and men who are no different in terms of non practicing safe sex. I don't believe men are inherently dirty or that ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:25 PM
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Hi OP, I think that's where building a relationship and history of cooperation comes into place. "The Wall" isn't something I prescribe to exactly. I believe women's looks tend to decline in age, but that in part is due to the higher standard society places on a woman. In my own opinion a woman that is aging gracefully is also beautiful. A woman's fertility is tied to her age, and some see this as "the wall". I don't see women as just a receptacle and vessel for fertilization, that's stupid. As …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:55 PM
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Thank you for the lesson, I stand corrected and apologize for my ignorance. Haha, you are a smart one. I am not one who digs into a position until I perish. Thanks for sharing. Makes me wonder that if bastards were so common, why was it a derogatory term?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 07:27 PM
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I absolutely hate that you or anyone needs to leave the state to get an abortion. It is beyond stupid. . If the man doesnt want it, the woman decides to keep it, then she knows exactly what she is getting into. Doctors are unreliable, but the internet provides a lot of info. Health Literacy does not solely come from a physician these days. Is it really a felony for you to go to another state to get an abortion? No. It's not. I had to double check this. If this is true, then that is beyond stupid…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 06:09 PM
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Well, no. Is the woman allowed to put the kid up for adoption and walk away?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:33 PM
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Yeah, for sure. Thats why intelligent mate selection was important. But, poor mate choices with the expectation that the Govt needs to chase these guys down is nonsense. You ladies know EXACTLY the kind of piece of shit you are welcoming into intimacy with you. If you are in a state where abortion is legal then financial abortion should also be made legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:21 PM
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99.7% effective when taken properly with no missed or late doses. You were one of the 0.3%. Hopefully you were responsible enough to be with a man who also used contraceptives, but obviously he wasnt either. There are many different measures that can be taken to have an abortion instead of saying "my state doesnt allow it so I cant get it done." I am all for abortion being legal, it's just common sense. And, if it is cost prohibitive to leave the state, how cost prohibitive is it to have a child…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:16 PM
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You are going to apply use a King as an example of how the rules once applied to the common folk? You say it like having children and sex out of wedlock was the norm, it was not. Feminism was a good and just ideology before it became this perverted ideology of misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:07 PM
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How can you possibly assert, "don't have the kid if you can't afford it alone," while acknowledging that abortion access varies by state? Many women don't have the option to terminate a pregnancy and/or they face EXTREME social pressure surrounding that choice. Condom, birth control pill, day after pill. It's not rocket science. Imo, I think "financial abortions" should be permitted. However, that can not and should not happen until women have universal access to affordable contraception and abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 02:12 PM
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It used to be men were bound by a legal contract called "marriage" before having the opportunity to plant their seed. Feminists have argued for their sexual liberation. The unpopularity of the contract of marriage is partially the reason why there are deadbeat dads out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:32 AM
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Abortion isn't squashed, it is decided at the State level. I think it is no one's business but the patient and Healthcare provider, but covid has changed my thoughts on that matter. It is disingenuous to say that abortion is banned. Saying passport bros is a blight to society is not even an argument, it is an insult. I know several men who have found wives overseas. They are not political or misogynists, they are just old school. "There is no logistical way for this to work correctly. Also, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:28 AM
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I must be an outlier. I find men who have had sex with many women disgusting also. Absolutely disgusting and revolting, maybe even more so than women. I have known 2 such manwhores in my life. The women they went home with were.... hideous. Any woman who has shared a bed with one of these gents I would find equally revolting, no matter the looks or personality. Societies indifference to men being sexually assaulted is because Society sees men as disposable. Men are disposable as weapons of war, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:01 AM
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That's all I have ever needed. And, no, i have never dated a man. Can you elaborate a little? I wouldn't mind learning a new perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 03:27 AM
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Because that is rare behavior. I see too many videos where women keep saying "He ain't shit. He can do his own laundry." Women don't understand how absolutely easy it is to keep a man happy. It consists of feeding him, leaving him in peace, and being intimate 12 times a year. A man will literally work himself to the bone and risk his life for a woman who will do that for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 08:50 PM
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No, of course not. That doesnt make them bad in any way. I believe women have a better pallet than men in general. I am not sure if this is just my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 05:52 PM
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You have never had the "Where do you want to go for dinner?" Conversation with a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:29 PM
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This exactly! I don't have to think about it! It's decent, I am satisfied. Done.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:17 PM
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What an odd post considering how much you don't care about the male perspective and how much you don't need men in your life. But here goes.... I can eat the exact same food everyday. I can eat at home with the exact same pot of stew and I am just fine. I can go to the exact same restaurant and order the exact same dish. It would not bother me at all, I dont get sick of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:37 PM
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This exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:15 AM
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Yep, feminism wants 2 options for men, accept all of their bullshit or be alone. I have said this numerous times, and I will say it again. There are good women over there who are traditional and loving. While feminism continues creating ever more insufferable women here in the west, those ideas are nonsense in the 3rd world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:13 AM
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I have seen first hand many men who have been successful finding wives from overseas. My 2 best friends have wives from overseas. One lady is from Eastern Europe, the other from Central America. Both are intelligent and wonderful wives. These ladies are desperate.... of course they are. And no one over here wants to put up with their shit, so they go overseas. It doesnt work the same though. It's Conservative in those parts. Men from those parts aren't going to put up with a western woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:16 AM
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It doesn't work for women, it just simply can't. Men wanting traditional and conservative wives can find these women in Asia, South America, Central America. Women going for passport Bro's are not Conservative women and in these countries you will mostly find conservative men. If the women were traditional and conservative, they would have found husband here in North America. The men over here don't want them, nobody wants them. Objectively, it is worse for them. For the record, two of my close …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:02 AM
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"The male preference means nothing." You should have included in your original post for only women to respond then. And, I hope enough many people read this and see that feminism is rooted in misandry and not equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 08:57 PM
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"Now that women can have sex with fewer 'obligations', the moral panic and outrage is less about "promiscuity" or "morality" and more about losing control of the old system that primarily kept womens autonomy and sexuality on a leash." Ladies, do whatever you like. But, most men don't want a promiscous woman. That hasn't changed from 1000 years ago. Paraphrasing James Sexton, there are 2 rules against adultery in the Bible and everything else only gets one. Promiscuity is linked with unfaithfuln…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:28 PM
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Very fucken true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:23 PM
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This is exactly why men need to be single and alone. The crazy shit that comes out from men is hard to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:23 PM
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Why do you even care?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:22 PM
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The complete lack of accountability in this thread is more telling than anything else. A woman will get played because she wants a relationship and all he wants is sex? Well, why is he to blame? He didn't force you. You were the one to give it up without any type of relationship. Like.... Is it really oblivious to you who a player is? I don't know any woman in the western modern era that "does everything" for a man. In fact, most women I know can't cook for shit. They say they can cook, but "I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:36 PM
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I agree, a physical job. But, dont forget there is a HUGE number of Nurses with bad backs and injuries from the same. And, NOWHERE near is the labor from Nursing the same as Trade work. Trade work is much harder, much much much harder. Except maybe electricians, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:00 PM
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Yeah, I am not a fan of that shit. But, believe me when I say I took my share and continue to take my share of bullying. Your friend was the wrong sex, maybe the wrong color too. It doesnt matter, if you are the wrong anything, they get you. There is no winning them over or getting into the group over time. Ironically, the Union environments are the worst. Anyways, I am sorry that happened to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:52 PM
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The only logical and sensible answer to the crime of falsified paternity is to make the child pay when they are an adult. The Government is saying that they are worried about the welfare of the child and that it is unfair to punish the mother. Well, it is the child who has benefitted, let the adult that emerges recompense for the lies of their mother. It is the only fairness that can come of this.
/r/MensRights11/08/25 03:41 PM
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Hey, I am sorry that shit happened to you. I'm glad you found something. I don't prescribe to that shit about "women can't do the job". I have seen they can do the job and be good at it too. I don't know what an Operator is for the occupation you are describing. I'm sure you could do it. I know a few small women in the trades. They can do it, but I know it wrecks their bodies. It wrecks my body and I'm big and stocky. The truth is that it's not because you are a woman. It's because you aren't a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:32 PM
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"Toxic masculinity, men need to be vulnerable and in touch with their emotions." It goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:21 PM
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I agree with your statement, but I would like to contribute. Women don't apply for those dirty jobs, because the thought of heavy manual labor and the filth is a deterrent. The women who do enter into the Skilled Labor/Trades market do face a lot of sexism and discrimination. I don't believe that's as well known or as much of a deterrent as the filth and heavy labor. The reality is we are built different. I am not saying women can't do the job. It is very physical and most men are broken down af…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:20 PM
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Biological instinct is to love your child and put resources into raising that child. I would argue that it is not in a man's nature to father dozens of children with several different women. The mating strategies with the best outcomes are with 1 man and 1 woman working together.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:08 AM
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If this is a body count issue you are talking about, then yes it matters. It's not a Puritanical issue. Because, this idea extends past all cultures and beliefs outside of the Judeo Christian world view. And, yes, it is insecurity in the most biological instinct, men want certainty of paternity. We want a special bond, exclusivity, and monogamy with our wives. That exclusivity cannot exist when she has been with so many partners that she has lost count. I am going to flip this argument though. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:28 AM
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They are having access to sex with a partner with whom they are attracted. They are working towards building a connection. Even though the likelihood of such a connection is in doubt, the opportunity should still be seen as a benefit. These men who play with women are VERY well known to other men. I don't believe for a minute that the women they play with are ignorant to that fact. The delusion that you can change them or make them into a monogamous person is more a sign of a woman's past trauma…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:28 PM
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Well, what "more" might a woman want then? Commitment? Exclusivity? Monogamy? I agree with your statement it doesnt benefit women, but only in the long term. In the short term it absolutely benefits them. Or else they wouldn't find themselves in these situations. If it is freedom without judgement and double standards, you have exactly that with fwbs. Women have had agency over who they chose for partners for a very very long time, I would say from the beginning or early 20th century. Sexual Lib…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 08:53 AM
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Yours is a statement of opinion and very difficult to debate. I know several people who found wives overseas. Two of them are my best friends. One of them had no issues finding ladies. The other best friend just wouldn't settle for any of the ladies over here (he was looking for a traditional/conservative/cultural match. These aren't ugly guys who can't find women. The other co-workers of mine are just average guys (not fat slobs like the lot of you are imagining). I have only known one guy who …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:53 AM
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Your complete fabrications just dont stop. I shut down your point on Andrew Tate, then you jump to Pearl and make up some BS about children being interviewed. She was attacked for her wild anti feminist views. Charges pending?! Tate?! Well, it has been 2 years, what the fuck they waiting for? Your inability to see things with any objectivity is exactly why I thought you were American. But, I suppose you are one of the elbows up folks that still has his face planted to Trudeau's backside.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:50 PM
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Just keep sticking your head in the sand. There was no human trafficking. That's why Tate is a free man now. And, Pearl didnt do anything nearly as bad as children's story time with drag queens. Your attitude is exactly why people reject the left. You are more responsible than anyone else for Trump's election landslide. People are tired of it and they are voting against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:43 PM
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Yeah and look what happens to them. Pearl Davis was demonetized on YouTube. Andrew Tate was arrested for several months. Real Canadian Politics on YouTube was completely eliminated. I dont need that shit in my life. I dont agree with everything they say or anything they say, but they have the right to say it. Free speech doesn't exist when you can lose your job and ability to feed yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:05 PM
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There are groups in society that you cannot criticize in public without the real threat of dire consequences. It is much like how I would imagine in Stalin's USSR.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:48 AM
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Yeah, I am ok with only having sex with my wife. I am ok with only ever having sex with one woman. But, even if some would accept your argument that is beneficial for men to have womens sexual liberatjon, it is still only a small subset of men who are benefitting from it. The majority of men aren't getting any attention from women. Remember, sexual liberation was not something men wanted, it was a feminist ideal. And, in my opinion, it was a good idea. Women having agency is a good thing, but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 08:39 PM
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Well, why would women complain about it?,
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 07:57 PM
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Hi OP, Men wanting sex early and a sexually liberated society are not the same thing. Wanting only sex and the sexually liberated society is more similar. I would even counter the idea that men are benefitting from this, because we are not. There are a few men in the upper tier of looks benefitting. The rest of us dont have that brnefit, but must also accept the strong likelihood that a future female spouse has had a secual exploration phase. That doesn't harm us per say, but it is not a prefere…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 07:34 PM
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Hi, Can you elaborate on the damage of sex only relationships? It is confusing to me because that's what feminism fought for, sexual freedom. If a man mentions body count it is a Red Flag. Women have the choice and are free to have sex with everyone and anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 07:11 PM
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That doesnt make any sense. Your statement would imply that women derive no enjoyment from sex. Both parties enjoy the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:34 PM
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Hmm.... interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:11 AM
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Great advice. Don't trust any men. Don't trust your husbands, fathers, brothers. Don't even trust your sons.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:46 AM
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Sorry, what's your point again?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:45 AM
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I didnt think this needed to be said. It is obvious high earning men will have relations with younger women. High earning women will do the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:22 PM
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Men in the past would be married or visit brothels.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:45 PM
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Hi OP, I recognize your frustration, but it is misguided. You need to understand a bit more about the male psyche and how testosterone influences the sex drive. It is a mechanical need that women cant understand. It is the same like women... when they fantasize, do they fantasize about their middle aged spouses? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:03 PM
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Hmm.... Where do I start? I would NEVER choose 1000 different women for 15 minutes over 1 woman for a life time. Yeah, biologically attracted to younger women, but that doesn't mean I throw away a strong relationship and connection because there's someone younger. Most functional relationships have both parties contributing to the household. Child rearing is a female only area. So my job is to take care of the physical stuff. Cooking/Cleaning/housework it all has to balance out. It doesn't alway…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:09 PM
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Your rejection of women is your choice. I assume you are a man, I don't know. But both men and women need each other. It is easier when we dont hate each other. I understand people are frustrated,
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:29 PM
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Please explain to me when this time of patriarchy existed. Because for the last 80 years at least, I dont believe any of these things happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:50 PM
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You are telling men to "be celibate"? Well how the fcuk does that work for a man's nature? It doesn't. This has got to be one of the craziest takes i have ever read.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:22 AM
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Your value as a man isnt devalued by frequently sex workers. People really need to stop shaming men for their need for sexual release. All relationships are transactional, husband, wife, parents, and children. My employment is a transactional relationship, so? Men are shamed for being lonely, rejected for being too short, shamed using sex workers. Just do your own thing, mind your business. We aren't shame women for body count and promiscuity, but it is acceptable to shame men for hiring sex wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:44 PM
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hi OP, Withdrawal from society isn't a solution and it isn't facing the issue at hand. I understand your concerns and it is a terrifying landscape out there. I would say the much better solution is going overseas and marrying a conservative women from over there. You just have to have some common sense. If you are a fat disgusting slob of a man and a 10/10 woman shows interest in you, it isn't because of your personality. Just go out there and find a normal lady. A school teacher or whatever. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:02 PM
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I can tell you my own issues with modern feminism. It shames men for wanting or asking anything of women. I want traditional marriage and traditional gender roles. Feminism shame men for wanting that and shame the women who want that as well. I have never seen such as era where SAHMs have been criticized and looked down upon. There's a lot of men who want these things, but really can't say anything. When we ask women not to dress a certain way or not to go clubbing on a girls night, it's "Contro…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 12:50 PM
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No. In today’s culture, porn and OnlyFans are feminist triumphs, where a woman’s sexual autonomy is measured by how well she can turn lust into profit. It is the pinnacle of modern feminism where hypersexuality and sexual exploration are embraced and pushed to the outer envelopes while using men as only a means to enhance their own social and financial standing. These women assert agency over their sexuality and capitalize on male desire in a reversal of traditional power dynamics. It is as plen…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 12:33 PM
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They shame other women for wanting to be SAHMs. Shame women for dating older men. Shame women for not having hypersexuality (aka Hoe phase) where they can explore their bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 12:25 PM
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You forgot to add Men are shamed by women for wanting a traditional wife and to play a traditional masculine role. Men are shamed for going overseas to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:18 AM
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Hi OP, The phenomenon of more women entering post secondary than men is interesting. I don't know why it is. But, it does show that women are doing well, and in some ways better than men because more of them are receiving higher education. I don't see how many women are being pushed into teaching or nursing. I think a lot of young women get their first useless degree, then follow up with teaching or nursing because they see it as a back up plan. And, yes, women are treated poorly in trades. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:42 PM
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Let me expand. This have improved in many ways that needed to happen. Freedom and agency over their own lives. But, look at current society. The epitome of feminism now is Bonnie Blue or Brittany Renner. They represent the modern feminist ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 06:15 PM
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I would argue that feminism has hurt the position of women in society. It went from improving their standing to rapidly destroying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:49 PM
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How messed in the head do you need to be to have revenge fantasies against your daughter?!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:46 PM
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How do you expect vehicle manufacturers to engineer around a set of women's breasts? I have a friend who is 6'6", he drives a truck because that is what he fits comfortably. He hates trucks and loves sports cars. There is no one size fits all. Vehicle design has been created with women in mind. Hence vanity mirrors, adjustable seat height, steering wheel adjustments, seat belt adjustments. I am not invalidating your entire argument, but seat belts isn't convincing. The reality is everything in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:29 PM
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In my experience, no, the reason is worse than that. It is just easier for them to blame on another person when they aren't happy with the outcome. It isnt laziness, but an issue with accountability. This is only my experience. I have known women who took the lead and took responsibility and accountability, but their husbands with useless POS.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:12 PM
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You are stressing too much about it. Giving women what they want is ultimately leading to their destruction in the west. Giving feminism their demands is ultimately leading towards their destruction. Unfortunately, it is also leading towards the fall of western society as well. But, fuck it, I have my escape plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:01 AM
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Please explain the seat belt... how is it designed for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:57 AM
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How is it not getting better for women? Are you really trying to say women's right haven't improve in the last 100 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 09:53 AM
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I don't think you can really pay any attention to these comments. Just be "realistic" about your level and needs. With some men, women just can't win in any domain no matter what they decide or say. Even this idea of women only wanting the top high value 20% of guys doesn't make any sense to me. Does it mean "all mean" from aged 0-100 years? Well then, men are probably choosing only a small percentage in that measure also. We all know a friend who has dated a bad person (both sexes are guilty). …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 09:55 PM
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Who is accusing them tho? If that's happening, it sounds like other women doing it. But, I honestly dont believe even for half a second that women are labelled a slut for that. I don't even hear men label women like that anymore. The exception is a lady at work with 3 kids from 3 father's. I am not in her business, but all 3 kids are different colors. And even with that, I tell people to STFU when I hear them talk shit, because she is a wonderful lady, really sweet, and looks amazing....
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 07:27 AM
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I came here to say this. Asking a guy out does not give a girl a rep like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 07:20 AM
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There is nothing wrong with men who misread and misinterpret kindness for attraction. There is zero malice in a man for making that mistake. So, why is that even a complaint? Women leading men on has ill intent at worst and deliberate misrepresentation at best. If you can concede that woman do that, can you concede that many women take no accountability and say "Oh, he just misread my signals"? That is why it is better for a man to make his intentions clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 06:37 PM
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I hate to come on here for an echo chamber, but you are 100% correct. The worst part is these women are constantly changing the goal post. It goes like this: Men dont approach. Men approach without getting to know you first. Men aren't reading my signals, why aren't they approaching? Men have mistaken my signals. Why are they approaching? Join my hiking club so I can get to know you. This guy joined my hiking club only to meet women. I don't need to ever provide you sex in a marriage. Escorts ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 06:24 PM
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No. It is best to ask her interest right away to be clear and not have any miscommunication. I dont understand why you are coming on here and pretending women never lead men along to seek validation. That shit happens all the time. You just tell yourselves "OH, it is just innocent flirting." Or "I was just being nice." Please ok? I never see women going out of their way to do that to the socially awkward guy who's 400lbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:50 PM
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I agree with you. But, my point is to make my intentions clear. I am not "getting to know you" for a few weeks to find out nothing is to come of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:23 PM
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Why? For me, it is because women have led me on. She seems interested, a bunch of signals, then boom "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." Many women just want the validation of towing a man along. So, fuck it, if you want something then say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:07 PM
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Is it a Generational thing? Because, that shit happened when 20 years ago my cohort. Not only did the both of them get excommunicated, that outting was permanent amongst us men. The ladies were always the same, side with their own etc. Maybe it's a culture thing. We grew up in poverty/lower middle class and in a rough neighborhood. Reputations meant a lot and still mean a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 01:20 PM
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Why? Men, younger or older dont initiate unless a woman gives them signals. It is reciprocal. The complex down from me is filled with bought women and sugar daddies. They are all consenting adults. I dont care at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 11:22 AM
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You are just sore because he is winning all the debates.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 11:09 AM
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I need a Latina like that. This lady is genuinely happy to make her husband happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:57 AM
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Hi OP, I believe that probably happens. But, I know first hand 2 successful marriage/families. Neither of these men is ugly or unattractive and they are NOT the type to "take advantage" of anyone. They are honest decent men who married honest decent women. They have beautiful families and are both very happy. I doubt they have boyfriends, they both live up in Canada now. In fact, I applaud these ladies because they left their families back home to live in this frozen sinkhole called Canaduh. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 03:54 PM
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I didn't want to provide anecdotal responses, but sure. My ex is a hair stylist. I have a friend she's a receptionist, her husband is a doctor. I have a friend who is a nurse, her husband is a physician. Same with another couple, she is a hair stylist, he is an iron worker. My brother is a mechanic, married an IT worker. My neighbor is in sales, his wife works at the local rec center. The ONLY relationships I have heard of (which are few and far between because I only know one) she is a physicia…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 08:53 PM
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That is totally cool. I am just looking for opinions, because I dont have a number and was curious how other people came to their own conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:58 PM
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Really? Because I see the complete opposite. Men absolutely do not vet women on their career choices except maybe if she was a stripper or a nurse. A spouse making great money is only seen as a bonus, but never as a requirement. Just look thru reddit or anywhere else, men dont complain "I want to build a future with her, but she only makes 40k a year." I am not talking about a person who cant hold down a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:57 PM
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I am not so sure that the number of partners will change that, but your opinion is valid. There are women that I have heard of who have left the adult entertainment industry to reform and become faithful and loving partners. I believe their intimacy and commitment to their spouse isn't in question. But, thanks for explaining your view.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:25 PM
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Thanks. I think the subjective aspect is problematic for me. Because, let's say the limit I would want in my partner is 10 and she's 30 years old. Would 11 bodies be a disqualifier? If the range was 10-15 bodies, would 16 be the disqualifier? So it's almost like choice between all or nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:20 PM
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I think the unfairness in divorce has some serious truth to it, and it is biased as against the person earning more in the alimony sense, and biased in favor of women for child custody. A plumber making 200K a year marries lady a working at McDonalds. When they divorce, he has to pay alimony amount to half of his wages. He has to provide her lifestyle even AFTER she cheats and fucks a 100 guys. Why does he have to maintain her lifestyle? Does she have to maintain her duties as a wife to fuck him…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:09 PM
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I disagree with this statement. Men and women have different standards. Let me expand: On another dating subreddit, a lady was complaining about her new B/F. He was perfect in too many ways, except, he wasn't financially secure. His job work was inconsistent, it bothered him a lot, but he didn't always have money to take her out. She had 2 kids from a previous marriage and didn't really need his money. The overwhelming majority of people (both men and women) said she needs to dump him. Even she …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:01 PM
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Hey, I am just curious as to your point of view. Why do you not want a F-Boy or a guy who has been with a lot of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:52 PM
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Fuck, that's a very good point, and very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:48 PM
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Why is 100 the limit?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:47 PM
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It's interesting that you mention this, because you are correct as it is preference. But, lemme ask you a question, because I haven't got an answer myself. If it is preference, how high of a body count is too high? And, is there really any rational thinking behind that? It is either you want a virgin or anything else from a body county of 1 to 1000?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:46 PM
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I don't think it's that simple. If someone came up and said to me at a party "I fucked your GF in the A$$" disrespected the both of us, I would fight him. I would also ask the GF after "Did that happen? Why were you ever with a guy like that?"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:43 PM
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Do you mean the virgins are insecure or the men who like them are insecure? You have a misplaced modifier in your sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:36 PM
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I think it goes both ways. I have a good friend who lived this up exactly, she did both roles. She took over all the roles actually and he was a lazy piece of shit. But, at least he had a job I guess. In my situation, i married a lazy POS who contributed nothing to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:31 PM
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I would like to add a counterpoint to your argument.... sort of. I was on another dating subreddit, and a woman was telling her story. This lady, single mom of 2 kids, found this wonderful man, great everything etc, but wasn't financially secure. She made good money and could support herself, but this guy's employment was inconsistent. As a man, we need to check in the following boxes: Financially secure. Attractive Good personality So, on flip side, men don't give 2 shits about financial securi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:36 PM
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Hi OP, I agree. No one should be excited to enter into a partnership where one contributes more than the other. I wouldn't be excited to marry in that situation. My Ex-wife was as useless as the men you complain about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:54 PM
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So? My parents are 3 years apart and their relationship is the picture of dysfunction. MOST relationships aren't working. My buddy visits home alone, never brings his wife. His entire social network and family does NOT like white people. So his wife isnt welcome. Every relationship has obstacles to overcome. This societal taboo of age gap is garbage to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 12:42 PM
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The entire age gap thing is just another example of this society being too involved in other people's business. Consenting adults can do whatever they want. To me, criticizing the age gap is akin to criticizing interracial relationships. I don't care if she is Jewish (doesnt eat pork) and he is Chinese (eats mostly pork). Nor would I care if she/her was white and the other person was black. Age gap is this antiquated and obsolete idea that needs to go the way of the dinosaurs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:40 AM
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Hi, I dont feel attacked and im not attacking anyone. Personality: Outgoing, funny, and charming is not people can develop easily. It takes a lot of time and mindfulness to become this way. When you say personality I was thinking in the way of what makes a man attractive. I know that's a vague statement, but I believe most of you know what I mean. Socially awkward people I knew in high school are still socially awkward today. Real change and growth is a rarity, not impossible, but rare. A friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 09:56 PM
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Can people really work on and improve their personality? I have yet to see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:44 AM
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I couldn't treat any human being like how she is describing. Truth is that many young women are very sexuallt active and don't want to commit. Its happening to both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:17 PM
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Someone to take care of and for that someone to appreciate my efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:06 PM
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As much as I am against the notion of women being "over the hill" or past expiry at a certain age, I also find these kinds of posts against men distasteful. It serves no purpose to bring down any group to make yourself feel better. Even this idea that men age like wine and women dont. It's nonsense. I find women in the 40s and 50s stunning. The lines on their face aren't unattractive, neither is the Grey hair, etc. Both sexes have found a way to age gracefully that previous generations never did…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:05 PM
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Extinction: It is a sad truth. What i find odd is when I was young, women would have their friend approach and it seemed to be a good way to break the ice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 08:21 PM
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On that flip side, men dont need to approach either. Only fans, pornography, and escorts are fast becoming the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:52 PM
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Equal effort. Interesting conversation. Someone who is both reflective and empathetic. She brings peace or is peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:10 AM
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I disagree entirely. I am and have always been center and left leaning. I now support Conservative Govt at every opportunity because the Current left has gone off the rails.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 11:15 PM
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Oh I agree. Life experience is only a small part of it. I didn't want to Dox myself, my story is hella unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 05:27 PM
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Human beings are visual creatures. Physical attraction isnt some abstract concept. It exists because that's how we find mates. I am not saying it is everything, but being funny and interesting is important, but so are looks. I am never going to say looks don't matter to me, because they do matter. The person as a whole should also not be ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 08:08 PM
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I am just going to caution on saying what women want. That road just becomes more along the lines of men telling women how they think or feel without asking them. Even this idea of "not look like a slob" all depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 08:05 PM
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Interesting doesn't necessarily equate to attraction. I have lived and experience a lot of shit, that has not equated to attraction. At least, not as much as working out and getting in shape has.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 06:54 PM
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Men who want power care about women as anything other than accessories. For me, being in a relationship is not gaining power over a woman, it's losing a bit of emotional control leaving me vulnerable. I don't see how most men gain "dominion" or power over a woman in any way. Being in a relationship and opening yourself and your life up to someone is opening yourself up to criticism. This is especially true because there is ALWAYS a disconnect between the dating phase and living together phase. L…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:04 AM
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Hi OP, The friend zone to me isnt about being friends. It is when women begin to manipulate their friend zoned man into doing favors and running errands for them by offering small pieces of affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:00 AM
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In all fairness, Hollywood and the Music Industry has done a lot of nefarious stuff. Ie. Judy Garland as a Pre-teen was left by her own mother to be with a movie producer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 07:44 AM
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Evolutionary biology ? A women with more weight and bigger hips would make a better mother. Chance of survival at child birth would be better. And looks for man? Evolutionary biology would prioritize the ability to hunt and physical prowess. People are animals, yes. But we are also more than animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:30 AM
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Every human being is worth of respect and dignity until they work hard to through them away. And, yes, some men are equally bad if not worse. I have been in that position where someone settled for me. It was the worst time of my life. I'm never going through that again and I don't recommend anyone else do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:52 PM
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What you are saying is "You are going to have to work harder and expect less because I am not all that attracted to you. I will have sex with you as minimally as possible with the least amount of enthusiasm, and you should accept that because you are ugly." Don't get me wrong, I am not saying any man can demand intimacy from a woman. It is your body your choice. What you are offering is the minimal and so absolutely transactional. If this was my lot in life, I would rather be with no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 11:25 AM
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Hi OP, I just think people need to be accountable for their own life choices. Just own it, whatever it is, male or female. We will be judged in one way or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:31 PM
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You obviously haven't worked at my Industrial site. These guys are anything but nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:04 AM
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Of course! I'm perfect, it's every body else that's got the problems! I'll just say this about your post, which I really appreciate btw, it's that people who don't have enough access to the opposite sex are likely to hold harsher views. Or, people who have been burnt by the opposite sex will do the same. BUT, even if you have been burnt, if you have friends in the opposite sex, you won't hold harsh views. This is based on the assumption people aren't all outright assholes. The stratification of …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 08:28 PM
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Well, who am I supposed to hate and blame all my problems against if my enemy shares values with me?!?! Lol. I am joking btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 05:58 PM
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Hi OP, I get your comments about playing games, not messaging, etc... That shit is childish. But, as a guy who's trying to improve himself and his life through working out, it kinda stings to hear that's what people really think. There are those of us who are just trying to be better every day. I try to smell nice, dress nice, my attitude is exactly the same, I try to lift everyone up around me. Believe it or not, some of us men are not working out to impress women. Some are battling demons like…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:31 PM
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Yeah, I hear you. But, you don't have ownership of what Red Pill is or isnt. Saying they are not Red Pill is inaccurate. Red Pill is them as much as you claim your thinking is Red Pill. How am I or anyone else supposed to make that distinction when you both claim to be Red Pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 02:53 PM
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For a lot of men, RP is that rage. You can't say it's not RP. That's like a Feminist that says Feminism doesn't hate men, when it's obvious many feminists hate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 10:55 AM
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Hi OP, I have female friends. They don't expect potential mates to have a house. Just have their shit together. I hope some women on here can back me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 10:39 PM
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Correct. Men did NOT breed around. Having access to a woman and sex was being married. Marriage now has been completely disincentivized. Relationships are the next that have suffered. Men DO Love to say "Women want this", "women are only attracted to___". And, when women say otherwise, they get torn down. Some women love to completely devalue and emasculate men, hence toxic masculinity. Both sides have completely stopped listening to one another. There is this garbage these days of 50/50 for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 04:49 PM
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Hi OP, I agree with your take. But, i take a more balanced approach. Both sides are entitled. But this entire argument only exists because of the fish market aka Dating Apps. Men, you are correct. They try little if at all at bettering themselves and their appearance. Yes, we do have an attitude of entitlement and resentment at being rejected. No woman owes you shit. Your standards are too high. Women's standards... I don't blame them. If you gave me the choice in picking a woman and I knew I co…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:39 PM
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It's not happening. Men are not creating this positive masculinity trait. The rise of the red pill movement is a clear sign of where that direction lays. Feminists is even too broad of a term. 4th wave feminism and 1rst wave feminism are completely different. I know you believe different, but from my point of view and many other men share my view, masculinity and being a man is under attack in the west. I read some of the posts on positive masculinity. And, I have read things like "be kind" "sen…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:14 AM
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You are correct. Nothing wrong with being single. There are major risks involved in marriage as well. Leaving a bad marriage, I am surprised to find myself wanting a long term relationship again. I guess I am a slow learner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:43 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful response. I am going to reflect on what I've read and I hope i can adjust my ideas on masculinity and toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:05 PM
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I'm masculine, I don't and have never picked fights. Short guys who pick fights are just insecure assholes. Why is picking a fight masculine? Sport boxing, mma, soccer are just sports. That doesn't define masculinity. Desescalating is feminine? I've seen women fight, they don't de-escalate anything. I just think masculinity is associated with bad behavior all too often. Like... if i started picking fights with people, that makes me masculine? But toxic masculine? I don't see starting fights, or …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:31 PM
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Picking fights with people makes you an asshole who don't know how to fight, how does that get associated with masculinity? It's as if I labeled cheating women bullshit feminism. Being unfaithful and feminism aren't the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:13 PM
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My bad. I assume a statement like this stems from personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:00 PM
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Whenever I hear the phrase toxic masculinity. Can't it just be "toxic men"? Not all men are toxic, and masculinity is not a bad thing. I'm hard wired to pay for things and defend shit. How that toxic?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:40 AM
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Hi OP, Maybe you are chasing women out of your league? As for asymmetric courtship, I don't think it is ever 100% symmetrical in any relationship, but there is must be a strive by both partners for it to work. You are saying women are over valuing themselves? I'd rather any woman do that than undervalue themselves. If they aren't realistic, they will just end up single. If they settle, they will end up unhappy then divorced and single. The market will always decide. From a man's point of view wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:15 AM
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Hi OP, I am so sorry you have encountered these experiences. Yeah, the hate is real. We aren't all like that. And, being from the older generation, I have never forced a woman into anything. Your complaints, no matter how justified, end up only adding fuel to the fire. Modern society is under attack. They have turned the battle of the sexes into all out war. Standards and boundaries aren't allowed on either side. And, many men don't bother with women anymore. I'm sure there are women who are the…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 07:29 PM
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Because it's an entirely different dynamic. Women and men are equal, but completely different. There needs to be a boundary, because a wife is a wife and a friend is a friend. There will be things I share with my wife that I won't with my friend, and vice versa. Edit: Of course I want a spouse to be a friend. Of course I want companionship and time spent together. I'm just saying I'm not going to be not try to be your everything. That is a recipe for failure imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:49 PM
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Best friend. I as a husband am not your best friend. You are not my best friend. I am your husband and you are my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:41 AM
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100% My experience. There are a few ladies at the job site who suffer this BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:48 PM
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I love a smart and successful woman. No idea what there is to be intimidated about. Is she going to be me up?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:42 PM
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My response is in no way proving OPs thoughts, it is just my own experience. I wasnt always like this and I didn't always not trust. The trauma my Ex put me through forced me to face all the other trauma in my life. I'm working through it, can't afford counseling or any other professional help, but I can at least listen to others and reflect on my situation and how to fix things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:25 AM
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Oh I know. And, I struggle with a lot. I try my damnedest not to fall into misogynistic thoughts. It just happens I have a good friend leaving her POS husband, it is always a reminder the Red Pill narrative of women leaving their husbands isnt always "because they are bored want to have fun." Trusting is not something I can see myself getting over at this point in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:21 AM
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Speaking for myself, my Ex used everything I told her against me. Being vulnerable was just more for her to manipulate me. I'm not saying all women are like this. I am saying I would be emotionally constipated with you and any other woman. It's a trauma response.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:39 PM
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That's one answer. There's many though. A LOT of guys just absolutely turn into a slob after marriage. I mean, take a look in the mirror. I see the guys at work and I don't know how they let themselves go like that. You didn't have a baby, so what's your excuse? Looks fade over time, I get it. But, there's no excuse for letting your gut hang 3" over your belt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:32 PM
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Just think about what you are saying. I couldn't just have sex with with a woman I had no attraction or connection with, why would you think it's so easy for the opposite sex to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:21 PM
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I think you just encountered an asshole. I'd call him an asshole for that. Men are not at all accustomed to kindness like that. We don't buy shit for one another. Women normally don't buy anything for us. My Ex never bought be sweet fuck all for all the years we were together. I personally would buy you something back then hope that kind of behavior stops, because it's so foreign. Like... it's just not things that we do. The rest of his behavior, he's such an ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:18 PM
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Thank you for sharing. I appreciate the thoughtful response. I want to hear women's opinions. That's something that's lacking in my life. As for your negative experiences sharing with men, I believe it. I have encountered a lot of it even as a man. A lot of men (myself included) have been hurt deeply by women. And, the way we are raised is to not express emotions. You can't understand it unless you were disciplined as a child for crying. It would be a spanking, a switch, or stand outside until y…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:10 PM
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Thanks for sharing this. Men are guilty of this all the time. I gotta say that I do it too. It's not right, im glad you called it out, and I myself will be more mindful. One of the issues I face is Red pill content. It offers clear explanations for situations i just don't understand. The women at work flirt all day long, and there's a few that show genuine interest. But, both times I find out they have long time boyfriends. Red Pill comes along and speaks about hypergamy, and for the lack of any…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:25 PM
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Interesting. I have never been to one of these events and it does not sound promising. I do honestly believe men are much less picky when it comes to choosing a woman. Attraction is simpler for a man. The really brutal part of the dating market is the women who settle. Because settling never works out. So, I encourage women to never settle. Please, keep your standards high and find the man you are happy with. Men who settle? Men are a lot easier to keep happy. There are the few who are not and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:34 PM
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Worrying about penis size is as silly as worrying about vagina size.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 07:47 PM
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I think marriage rates continue to fall and divorce rates will continue to rise. Right or left wing doesn't matter. It is social media and people (men and women) pushing unrealistic standards that continue to hurt society.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 09:22 AM
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I agree with you. You are both using one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:55 PM
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Nonsense. Even from a man who was cheated on. Cheating is immoral, but growing the strength of the State is garbage. Teach men and women to spot the signs, change the laws to stop punishing men in divorce, and teach men and women to set boundaries and demand accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:22 PM
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I've never heard that joke before. This idea of power and penetration is new to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:51 AM
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I'm confused. How is being compared to gay/homosexual the same as being compared to women? It's a different culture and group to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:39 AM
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Yeah, it might be that in part. I also believe there's a lot of negative stereotyping surrounding being labelled as "Gay" or "Homosexual". I hope that's a PC Term, I'm so confused and mean no offense if it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:26 AM
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Purely cultural. I had a buddy in high school grab my hand while walking, I pulled away immediately. "What the fuck are you doing?" The look of confusion on his face when I explained "That's gay dude." He wasn't gay btw. Just culturally different.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:24 AM
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Wedding cake will destroy your libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 10:15 PM
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6 all day, every day of the week, and twice on Sunday.
/r/seduction25/04/25 09:59 AM
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Just my experience, a young woman with an older man is labeled a "Gold Digger" or worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:39 AM
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I have only ever heard of men being shamed for dating younger women, and young women shamed for dating older men. It is the cultural taboo of today.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:23 PM
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Wow, that's looking too deep into it. I just don't want to deal with the politics of a family. I don't want the pressure of having to care for them. As for hierarchy? Shit. I have never and will never be at the top of that food chain. That's fine. I don't aim for the hottest women around, never have. I just work on being the best version of myself. And that's enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:34 AM
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Hey Buddy, Can't thank you enough for sharing that link. It's kinda wild to see all the insights. I even used his discount code to buy some stuff. It's like an entire new world has opened up. I had no fucken clue where to start. Cheers again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:29 PM
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No. I had the opportunity, and I never did. I regret it a little, because my wife at the time was unfaithful(I didn't know). I would have just dumped her on the spot and taken the opportunity with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:07 PM
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Ooh wow! I will definitely check it out. Thanks, I had no clue
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:14 PM
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Hi OP Lots to unpack here. I wouldn't say I don't care about my looks. I work out, eat right, etc. But, I was NEVER raised with any fashion sense, and I grew up in poverty on top of that. How is a guy to really start? What's poverty? I wore the same pair shoes in high school. Just one pair. But, i am to blame for that, I spent the money I made working on food and drugs. I work in the Trades. Everything I have gets ruined. But. I agree men's and my wardrobe especially is lacking. But, where does …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:27 PM
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So, you are describing men who can't find happiness without chaos? And actively seek chaos in their relationships? You are right. When I reflect on it, there's a lot of dudes that are like that. Fucked up homes and fucked up people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:40 PM
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You think so? I grew up in chaos, I love my peace. But, does that only apply to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:26 AM
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Hi OP, It's not easy for anyone to deal with these emotions and stress. He probably just needs time. If you give him space, he will appreciate it. It's a tough situation, but, it is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 10:52 PM
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She started therapy after she left.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:02 AM
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Hi OP, My marriage was the exact opposite of everything you said. EX Wife didn't do fuck all, worked part time at best, dead bedroom, She was unfaithful 3 times. The 3rd time I walked. I cooked and cleaned and worked a 48 hour work week commuting 2.5 hours everyday. I'm not a fat piece of shit. I'm younger than her. She was devastated I wanted a divorce. I can't wait to have my life back when this divorce process is over. She will own half my assets for what? What did she give me? Absolutely not…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:40 AM
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You can't categorize all situations like this. I have a friend who left her SHIT husband. And, the Red Pill guys might criticize her, because she's in her mid 40s with 2 kids. She did the right thing though. The guy was an absolute POS. Yeah, he worked and was faithful, but honestly treated her like an outside doormat. She's in therapy now. It's not a lack of accountability. It's figuring out why she put up with his shit for 20 years. It's figuring out the childhood trauma the led her to it. And…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:57 AM
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Can you imagine a fat slob of a man being put on the cover of a magazine and everyone demand that he be recognized as handsome? But, society expects that morbidly obese women be celebrated. I don't believe women should look "perfect". But, can't they just celebrate "average"? I love average women. Flat butt, small boobs, beautiful face, it. Big Boobs and nothing else? Love it. etc... But, men aren't allowed to have any standards. We have take what we are given. All of this shit just says to me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:50 AM
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Settling never works. It always leads to infidelity by one partner or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:06 AM
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Ask him out for coffee.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/25 06:25 AM
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Hi OP, I'm not sure if you mean in general or personally. Personally though, I am handy, I can do basic house repair, plumbing, and extensive mechanical repair work. I will not fight for you, but I'll defend you to the death. And, yes, I can fight. I earn 100k plus and hope to earn more than that in the future. I cook, I clean, I'm at the gym or training martial arts. My red flags? I'm very slow to anger. I detest violence and avoid it at all costs. I'm very centrist in my political views. And, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:40 PM
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Depends if she really adds value to my life. From what you've said, there is no value added.
/r/MensRights02/03/25 09:37 AM
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Hi OP, I am a man. I'm genuinely sorry you are going through this. I am going through the same thing with the opposite sex. I see clips on Instagram talking about the Patriarchy and how men have been raping and enslaving women up to about 50 years ago. How men are born with a life of privilege. I start to resent women too. But, I remember reality is always very different. When I see this stat about more than 60% of divorces are initiated by women, I think about a good friend of mine who left her…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 03:17 PM
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Yeah, I dunno what to tell you. It makes sense to me. A man's needs are for sex. he doesn't need security, attention, or a safety net. A woman needs sex, but the security, attention, and safety net are more important. A friend-zone is not just a friend. My buddies have been there. It is psychological manipulation at its finest. These men just give and give and give, they go on "dates", but they never get any sex. Women who are FWBs. They give and get sex. That's about it. Needs of men and women …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:30 PM
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Sorry, I finally understood your message. Yes, most women do have one. But, my opinion is this is the difference between the sexes. Men if given the option would have a woman who gives them sex on the side. The FWB solves a man's needs in a relationship of intimacy. Women ARE given the option, and what they choose is to have a man in the friend-zone kept on the side. The friend-zone satisfies the woman's needs in a relationship. There is the security, the attention, and safety net.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:54 PM
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Above average men are rare, that's why they are above average. And, women would rather share them. Men on the other had, especially above average men, can have many average women in their fwb circle. But, you may be correct, women might have harems. Madonna comes to mind. Shannon Sharpe is another woman. Your question forces me to accept my own bias, I assume male athletes (basketball, hockey, football etc....) all have a side chick (at least one) in every city. If not all, then very commonly. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:06 PM
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I feel your pain. And, an amicable split is the absolute best thing that can be done. Good Luck.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 03:10 PM
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A harem would be preferable to what women are offered these days. At least in a harem they would be taken care of. The modern day Harem is FWBs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:02 PM
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Hi OP First off, Zero Fucks. I've left the dating market. It's ironic. Women are leaving the market because they can't get what they want. Men are leaving because they are tired of being rejected. My own take is that men have not been leaving the market to punish women. Men have been leaving to find peace and have made peace with a game that's stacked against them. The fact of the matter is that men will eventually travel to foreign countries to find women. There's South America, Asia, etc.... W…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:54 PM
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I agree entirely. But, the zero fucks mentality existed as per the Boomer generation. Or, look at most immigrant men from that generation from any part of the world. You are correct though. The true zero fucks mentality has only been a recent creation. We now have men who walk out on their wives and baby mama's and hold no responsibility to caring for their children. The rest of what you said i agree with 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:38 PM
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Hi OP, People get busy with life. Modern life takes up most of your time. End of a long work day, spouse, responsibilities. What could make it better? We need to first stop this lie that men need to go to their spouses for emotional support. We need spaces where men can congregate & masculinity can flourish. And, i don't mean Red Pill spaces, spaces where men can be physical, active, competitive. The modern man has been emasculated. I saw the foundation of that idea 20 years ago. It was a term c…
/r/MensRights27/01/25 01:32 PM
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All the love you receive from is conditional on your performance. The love from your parents and spouse, etc. The only conditional love is really from friends. Your buddies don't give a shit if you didn't perform, if you lost your job, etc.... When your buddies grow distant with time, that's when loneliness begins.
/r/MensRights26/01/25 03:12 PM
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I foolishly expected a return on investment. It provided me a purpose where I didn't see one before. Never loved myself, that thought never even crossed my mind, so it made sense to love someone else. Never again though.... Absolutely never.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:18 AM
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In my opinion the loneliness epidemic is just a symptom. The cause has been in creation for the last 20 years. 20 years ago there was a movement to begin emasculating me. It was promoted that men should wear make up, shave their bodies, etc... Men have lost that sense of zero fucks masculinity that is the very essence of our nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:02 AM
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Men should never be vulnerable around women, because women will use that shit against them. Get into any sort of an argument or dispute later on and all gloves are off with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:27 AM
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Your logic is correct in analyzing the thinking. This is the current cultural situation. But, men are slowly finding 2 options out of this situation. They are checking out of the entire scene or they are going overseas to find women. Apart from that idea of finding a "better man". The truth is there will always be flaws and this idea of perfect is unattainable. Going down that path of continually seeing flaws in one and seeing a better option in another is a path towards loneliness. There is ano…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:00 PM
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Well, women can very openly demean men in any fashion they like. There is absolutely no issues for a woman to publicly state "I don't date short guys", "he's a fat slob", or the worst of it sometimes is just saying "ewww". But, any single preference that a man might have is seen as wrong. I don't want to date a single mom. I don't want to be with a woman who has a body count of 50 men. I don't want to be a fat woman. Essentially, a lot of women have decided that men are not to be respected. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:34 AM
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Anyone that takes a person who is "settling" for them is a fucken idiot. People who settle only end up creating miserable relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:51 PM
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Really?! That's "The Wall?" Women of every age are attractive. Women in their 40s are so much more interesting to be wife. They have built up so much... personality? I don't know to describe it, maybe personality isn't the best term, but I have a much better time speaking with older women. To me, it makes more sense to call the wall the time in a person's (man or woman) where they are settling. I think men settle a lot less often, because men really don't have a lot of access or options with wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:14 PM
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People who do this are not good people. My soon-to-be-ex has done this to me for many years. Completely broke my spirit to maintain control. It is very believable to me that men can do this as well. I think the issue is "settling". If that is what's happening in someone's thought process, then there is only a base level of satisfaction and little happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:03 PM
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Essentially your wife as decided that you are no longer to have any intimacy and affection for the rest of your life. This may drive you to become unfaithful (which I don't endorse), or just leave her. She's not being fair to you, so you need to be fair to yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/25 03:48 PM
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Why would a man use a younger woman to make an older woman compete for attention? The goal is the younger woman. I don't want to use any analogies because I don't want to offend anyone. But, there is a flaw in that logic. As for women "hitting the wall", I don't entirely understand that term. I assumed it was that point in a person's life where they've decided to settle because they weren't able to acquire the mate they desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:34 PM
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I took my ex out to eat at 5 or 6 fancy restaurants. But my current gf only wants to go to 2 of those same places. Do I have to force her to go eat at all those restaurants because she only enjoys 2 places?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 02:55 AM
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Great observation! For that very same reason, most average men NEED to understand that the woman they are with is settling for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:19 PM
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Yeah, not the greatest. I work with a Great Human being from Afghanistan. He misses the food and the culture, but he thinks it's so stupid that women are locked up. He's never brought his wife over there, because "What's the point." Aside from that, she's not from Afghanistan either. The irony is he's from a culture that doesn't eat pork, and she's from a culture that pork is the primary protein. He shows me videos of the food and restaurants etc. The food looks amazing btw, but he always mentio…
/r/MensRights05/01/25 04:00 PM
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Just move to Afghanistan. All the women are either locked in their homes or completely covered up. I wouldn't consider it. I think women balance out men.
/r/MensRights05/01/25 02:12 AM
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Ask her honestly if there is someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 08:35 PM
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Please pay extra close attention to your child. It is affecting her in ways she won't know how to process. This situation isn't healthy for any of the parties involved, but your kid has no choice in the matter and can't escape. Be her guardian, get her the heck out of that toxic situation.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 04:38 AM
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