| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Fairly new here seeking advice for a girl with a boyfriend. | thrwaway10019 | /r/askTRP | 26/02/19 04:48 AM | |
| 4 | Wanting to upgrade a plate to LTR and I’m unsure how I feel about it. | thrwaway10019 | /r/askTRP | 27/04/19 04:05 AM | |
| 3 | In an LTR but might want to make it an open relationship | thrwaway10019 | /r/askTRP | 21/06/19 01:21 PM | |
| 1 | Curious about escalation (compliments turning into sexual convo) through texting | thrwaway10019 | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 03:26 AM | |
| 0 | Bought my first home and I’m curious on how to go about decorating it and not seeming beta. | thrwaway10019 | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 09:21 PM | |
| 0 | Plate starts acting crazy after sex. Looking for safe methods for nexting her. | thrwaway10019 | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 11:17 AM | |
| 0 | FWB wants me to go to a wedding. Decline or accept the invite? Other questions in the post. | thrwaway10019 | /r/askTRP | 27/03/19 02:07 PM |
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| 1 | Bought my first home and I’m curious on how to go about decorating it and not seeming beta.So far I got a sofa, coffee table, TV and stand all of which are grey black and white. Appliances are black and cabinets are white. It has dark wood floors and dark carpets. I have a bed no frame, no dresser so everything’s hung up or folded on shelves. I’d like to also put furniture in one room Incase a roommate can’t furnish and wants a spare bed. I figure rent a room or two at 300-400 a month and I’m set because mortgage is only $620. I have it in my budget to pay $1200 a month for the house … | /r/askTRP | 08/07/19 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Bought my first home and I’m curious on how to go about decorating it and not seeming beta.It was appraised at $88,000 and that’s what I financed. So yes I believe that’s retail. Should be paid in 8-10 years | /r/askTRP | 08/07/19 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Bought my first home and I’m curious on how to go about decorating it and not seeming beta.Thank you this helped me out. I’m but into cars and actually have a spare junk block in the garage I was debating on making a table out of and using other parts to build a lamp or something. I appreciate it man. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 10:52 PM |
| 4 | Bought my first home and I’m curious on how to go about decorating it and not seeming beta.I have enough in my budget to pay my mortgage double every month and I’ve got two potential tenants for the spare rooms. But thanks for the luck on not getting repoed. Glad you know my situation bud. I don’t think of it as a permanent domain. I’m here for the next four years. I plan on renting it after. My mortgage is $620 a month that includes home owners insurance and property tax. Total amount financed is $88,000. I have it in my budget to pay double mortgage without roommates. I bought in Te… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Bought my first home and I’m curious on how to go about decorating it and not seeming beta.I’d like to rent the rooms out to help pay it down quicker however I have a killer mortgage and my interest rate is 3.6 3 bed 2 bath 1 car garage I’m open to ideas on the other rooms | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 09:31 PM |
| 8 | Girls Complimenting Your Successes as ‘Lucky’?My Girlfriend says this all the time. She has the arm birth control implant thing so every time she says that I’ll feel her arm for it and make a joke about how I’m not trying to have kids right now. I had one plate say that and it was night one and immediately after sex. I straight up told her not to say that. Then she started explaining it and I just said it was time for her to go. Hard next on a day one. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 02:17 PM |
| 11 | Girls Complimenting Your Successes as ‘Lucky’?And don’t forget that a lot of women are looking for a father figure for their future kids or some trp saying like that. If they’re commenting on your genetics odds are they’re thinking that wether it’s fully in their mind or they aren’t realizing it. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 02:11 PM |
| 18 | Girls Complimenting Your Successes as ‘Lucky’?From my experience with girls who say I’m lucky a lot because I’ve had the same girl who says everything is always lucky. I pay attention to what it is. Example- I had a car burn down. I went and got a brand new car. Somehow that’s “lucky” for me to be able to get a brand new car. My response was “yeah the payments don’t make themselves” Another example- you’re lucky you live on your own. To me it shows that she has respect for me and also that she doesn’t intend on living alone. This girl was a… | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal to go through swings of big ups and downs when your on your journey of self improvement and becoming the best man you can be ?I’m on day 130 something of not drinking. I relate man. A lot. Like a hell of a lot. If you need someone to hit up and talk to about it don’t hesitate to shoot a message my way. I’m starting to get past the point you are in I think. Keep pushing though. Day 120 was easier than day 90 for sure. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Curious about escalation (compliments turning into sexual convo) through textingSo what should be said when she starts this compliment game? | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 03:30 AM |
| 1 | In an LTR but might want to make it an open relationshipYes | /r/askTRP | 21/06/19 01:57 PM |
| 2 | In an LTR but might want to make it an open relationshipTake it as in deal with her being away and stay with just her? Or take it as in have my end of the relationship open and handle that? | /r/askTRP | 21/06/19 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Wanting girls to chase meTo me it sounds like you need to work on abundance mentality. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/19 10:46 PM |
| 4 | Wanting girls to chase meJust do your own thing and stop focusing on the women in your life each day. I put minimal effort into girls of yesterday and focus on what’s infront of me. If a girl wants to stick around she will. If she doesn’t then she won’t and either way I don’t care because It’s about me not them. If a girl wants to stick around just let them. If that’s what you call “chasing you” I don’t see any issue with it or reason to be annoyed by it unless they’re being over the top about it. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/19 10:46 PM |
| 19 | Wanting girls to chase meSomething I used to do as well. I think I’m finally past that point because I no longer care what they think and wether they chase or not. I’m doing me things and if that particular girl isn’t there then other(s) will be. That’s basically my mindset now. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/19 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Help trying to plate a girl who's fresh out of a relationshipCompletely ghost during the 7 day next imo. Respond on day 6 saying you’ve been busy or doing xyz. Don’t explain much because you don’t owe her shit for an explanation. Proceed based on vibe but don’t act eager or anything. Bring up scheduling and proceed slowly like you don’t care what the outcome is because you shouldn’t care. | /r/askTRP | 15/05/19 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Help trying to plate a girl who's fresh out of a relationshipIn short, I would Soft next for a week and then schedule plans for 3-4 days after that one week is over. If plans are cancelled then hard next. You’re operating deep in her frame and I feel like she is with you for validation due to her being fresh out of an LTR. Sounds similar to me awhile back when I was new to TRP and with a girl fresh from an LTR. Not saying you match the shoes I was in but it’s similar sounding. I hit a short monk mode and did some homework on trp before attempting anything… | /r/askTRP | 15/05/19 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Why do some women test frame more than others?This sounds exactly like an old plate I had who was also finance. She was a single mom and I think that played a role in this particular girl. I ended up dropping her because it got annoying and didn’t need her as a plate. She was crazy as hell after so be careful. Not sure if it has any relation to frame challenging but she was nuts. | /r/askTRP | 15/05/19 07:19 PM |
| 0 | Wanting to upgrade a plate to LTR and I’m unsure how I feel about it.Thanks your comment was a hell of a lot better | /r/askTRP | 27/04/19 02:09 PM |
| 0 | Wanting to upgrade a plate to LTR and I’m unsure how I feel about it.You’re literally voicing half of my thoughts because I feel on the fence and I know that this is the right move. She’s just got me confused because she got pretty into it the other day talking about how she doesn’t want me to move across the country when I have that opportunity in August and that she hopes I stay local to her. As far as my current frame and game I feel like I’m doing great here currently and I really don’t see any need for improvement with the other 3 plates. I’m debating on tre… | /r/askTRP | 27/04/19 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Plate starts acting crazy after sex. Looking for safe methods for nexting her.Just as a comment in this post? Unfamiliar with field reports | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Girl is perfect, except that she turns into a different person when she drinks. What to do?Sounds to me like you need to strengthen your frame and establish some boundaries (don’t ask me for advice on how to establish these, I’m not the greatest here). Expect them to be broken and mentally prepare yourself for this relationship to end. I’m no expert but I see a lot of my old beta self in this post. Knowing what I know now I’d bail out completely. Soft next and have her crawling back. Looks like you don’t take in the advice here so I’d say the first portion of what I’ve said is what fi… | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Plate starts acting crazy after sex. Looking for safe methods for nexting her.Mail is a better option. I’m not trying to have her come to my house again. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Plate starts acting crazy after sex. Looking for safe methods for nexting her.So what do I do when she says she left shit at my house? It’s jewelry not some paint of panties or whatever so I kind of feel shitty for her? Give it the old “I’ll look for it” followed by the “I looked and didn’t see shit”? Or actually look and drop it off to her? | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Plate starts acting crazy after sex. Looking for safe methods for nexting her.I feel like I missed than chance to AA that way. I’m hoping there isn’t another opportunity either. In the process of going ghost. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 12:03 PM |
| 2 | Plate starts acting crazy after sex. Looking for safe methods for nexting her.Haha I may have to add some creativity! Thank you for the morning laugh. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Plate starts acting crazy after sex. Looking for safe methods for nexting her.Probably going to do a bit of both. Explain I’m not interested for some reason and then ease into dead silent with the eventual block. Feels damn good knowing I don’t need this plate. Trp has started working for sure. My old beta self would’ve dealt with her crazy and ended up in a bad spot. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/19 12:02 PM |
| 3 | Contemplating suicideIt’s a lot. Almost phone call worthy. Everything from healthy boundaries with friends family and relationships. The effects on the brain as stated here. The signs of relapse (might not apply to OP). Having self respect and boosting self esteem. Nutrition. Coming to terms with your past so it doesn’t hold you down. Basically it also teaches how to put yourself above everyone else. Being in there for alcohol I mean that in terms of “people who drink or are using drugs, they’re less than you” you’r… | /r/askTRP | 08/04/19 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Contemplating suicideWow as far as your description of dopamine and stuff goes it’s spot on. I’m currently in my last week of “addiction medicine intensive out patient”. I’m there for alcohol dependency and 7 weeks sober tomorrow. You’re very correct in how it effects the brain. Alcohol releases the same shit so I’m in the boat you described. If OP sees this comment feel free to message me. I have just gone through three weeks of learning how to overcome shit with the brain that’s similar to your brain shit for lack… | /r/askTRP | 08/04/19 05:27 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys spend your weekends?Shits not easy. Thank you. I had a car get totaled on Friday due to a random engine fire and was dangerously close to relapse. | /r/askTRP | 08/04/19 05:16 PM |
| 12 | How do you guys spend your weekends?I’m currently learning guitar and working on cars on free time. House is always kept clean and meals are always prepped. Workout when I can but not as often as I should. Naturally fit so I don’t care all that much about the gym. I’m also looking for ideas because I’m trying to stay sober. 7 weeks tomorrow of no alcohol. | /r/askTRP | 08/04/19 01:52 PM |
| 1 | I was never taught basic life skills and now I find myself having to move out within a couple months' time. What do I do in anticipation?If you want more personal financial help shoot me a pm. I just setup my friends budget and he’s loving it. I’m no professional but I do okay for myself and those who I’ve helped. I’d start with finances first. Can’t survive very well without money. Then focus on other things like cooking and eating well. After you’re good in those departments I’d suggest the gym and stuff. Life is only as hard as you make it. For me financial stress kills all. I won’t want to do shit if I’m struggling with money… | /r/askTRP | 04/04/19 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend left this week need helpSeems how others have pointed out that you have failed and sucked I’m gonna give my advice beyond that point. Do your own shit man. Work on yourself. Make progress. Set short achievable goals so you can feel better about the progress. Once you have progressed sit and look at how much better you are. Think about how you’re better than she needed you to be now and have that satisfaction if that’s what you need. Depressions shitty. Progress is what helps me. Stay on top of things and focus on what … | /r/askTRP | 04/04/19 05:27 PM |
| 1 | FWB wants me to go to a wedding. Decline or accept the invite? Other questions in the post.Thanks man. Addictions a bitch and I’m definitely cross addicting to cigarettes more than I’d like to but I just got some free nicotine patches from my providers in my alcohol program. I plan on trying them out. If you’re looking to fix or better yourself addiction wise watch the film “pleasure unwoven”. I think it’s in YouTube. Kinda tough to sit through but has some great knowledge. It’s followed by a film called “memo to self” by the same guy. Same cringeyness to it but also just as knowledge… | /r/askTRP | 27/03/19 04:32 PM |
| 1 | FWB wants me to go to a wedding. Decline or accept the invite? Other questions in the post.I’m more concerned with going and meeting family/ escalating a FWB into an early LTR when I don’t want one right now. The way it’s going now is good and I don’t want it to start progressing and get weird. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/19 04:30 PM |
| 2 | FWB wants me to go to a wedding. Decline or accept the invite? Other questions in the post.She knows I’m a recovering alcoholic and is supportive over that. I’m not concerned about relapsing at the wedding because I’m in an outpatient rehab currently so I’ll definitely get caught and it’s not worth the trouble. I definitely gained value throughout the process of explaining how I am a recovering alcoholic because I put a spin on it to make it a benefit to myself and others around me. Which is 100% true. In no way has it negatively effected my life or mental state. All positives so far.… | /r/askTRP | 27/03/19 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Being direct (noob, but getting better)In my opinion you did okay on the initial start but once you took it more personal it went off track a bit. I ask more open ended questions. Such as “do you want to make plans on Saturday to go do something?” Then they say “plans? What kind of plans” (or something similar) then I say something along the lines of “well I’m free around 6 and figured we could do dinner.” It usually goes from there. If they immediately say no after I ask about Saturday then I drop it. If they question it then they h… | /r/askTRP | 06/03/19 03:15 AM |
| 20 | Girl cries after sex, says she's afraid I won't want to see her againNew to trp but can confirm big BPD red flag. My ex did the same thing. She had BPD. | /r/askTRP | 06/03/19 02:50 AM |
| 0 | Fairly new here seeking advice for a girl with a boyfriend.See it seemed odd as fuck to me too? He’s cool honestly. She brought up wanting to come to here and live here with me in front of him too and he said he wants to ride his bike down and see the states on the way here. He definitely gave off the friend vibe and is a single dad with like 3 kids and is 23/24. I’m 21 have everything paid off and make a good amount for my age. I personally think I out do this guy by a ton and this girl is definitely not happy if she even is in a relationship with the … | /r/askTRP | 26/02/19 05:31 AM |
| -2 | Fairly new here seeking advice for a girl with a boyfriend.Can you go a little more in-depth with the in over my head part? Still reading. There’s a ton of stuff there. I don’t pay anything for her and it’s been established that if she moves in or moves down that she’s splitting everything. I’m not about to risk doubling expenses over a girl. I have some hobbies and I’m not giving my life away just yet... but damn I feel close... The in over my head part is something I’d like more detail on honestly. | /r/askTRP | 26/02/19 05:09 AM |
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