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Goddamn this is me in so many ways. Very illuminating. I've had ADHD my entire life, but didn't know so many things you talked about in your post. Several things were spot on, like my ability to spin plates but not maintain a secure LTR, hypersensitivity to rejection and oneitis (been improving for the last few years, but my recent breakup has really been a punch in the gut). So much of this felt tailored to my brain, thanks for posting so in-depth about a topic that doesn't get a lot of attenti…
/r/TheRedPill11/08/18 05:20 PM
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I’m moreso asking how to know when to keep my mouth shut and when to speak my mind... and if I should have kept my mouth shut but didn’t, how to dig myself out of that hole.
/r/askTRP30/12/17 10:11 PM
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Both rules that I've mentally double-underlined for myself in the past. I think you hit the nail on the head in terms of validation-seeking. The tough part is, I never think to myself before speaking, "I'm going to start digging my own grave now." It always begins with the thought, "I'm sure we'll find common ground here..." and then when there isn't any I try to backpedal or explain myself in the belief that "surely we'll find some common ground somewhere." My closer friends, we'll be able to a…
/r/askTRP30/12/17 07:42 PM
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It's not so much that I lost in terms of me vs. her. It's that I lost in terms of letting my ego get ahead of me. I often go back and forth between whether I should be a man who says what's on his mind or who only says what needs to be said, or some other variant. There's a fine line between saying what's on your mind because you're secure in who you are and don't give a fuck who agrees vs. saying what's on your mind because you feel the need to externally validate yourself. My dad did a lot of …
/r/askTRP30/12/17 07:34 PM
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I like your last paragraph. You have the attitude of a poet, and that's a wonderful intellectual trait, but in abundance, it turns people off. Bullseye! Thank you for helping me see that in myself. It's something I'm aware of, but rarely has it been put to me so succinctly. As you can see, I tend to be longwinded, intellectually dense. Sometimes that works against me. Often. I've spent much time these months thinking - on walks, in my own head, writing thousands upon thousands of words trying to…
/r/askTRP10/02/15 05:36 AM
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I think red pill has a lot of interesting concepts, which are unfortunately undermined/overshadowed by the emotional language people use, especially insults/pejoratives. This is one of the ways I think red pill logic is flawed. Red pill claims to be logic-based. It also establishes that men are logical, women emotional. Yet the use of ad hominem proves that to be untrue. As wikipedia defines it, ad hominem is an attack on someone's character rather than the nature of their argument. Red pillers …
/r/askTRP10/02/15 04:10 AM
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I guess this is one of the ways I don't align with red pill philosophy: the use of ad hominem attacks. I'm interested in rational discussion, as red pill folks also claim to be, yet the language is so emotionally charged when talking about women, it exudes resentment, jealousy, insecurity. For example, referring to her as a "loose whore." I'm not defending her when I say that "whore" is an improper classification. RP seems to do this a lot: calling people "fags" and "bitches" and "pussies," and …
/r/askTRP09/02/15 12:50 AM
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Mmm, once again, you're making many extraordinarily broad assumptions. Yes, she was slutty. No, she did not have better sex with other people. I was able to hypnotize her during sex, making her come on command. Often penetration wasn't even needed. You might respond, "She was faking," or "She was lying," but all that serves only to confirm the world you want to dogmatically cling to. You have no evidence, yet you religiously hold your claims to be true based on some sort of omniscient understand…
/r/askTRP08/02/15 06:49 PM
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Ah, yes, egoism. Bitch played you like a fool and you're defending her?!?! We often dehumanize, other, when we become frightened. The same way men are labeled as "monsters," "predators." Make them inhuman so we can dismiss rather than understand. Similarly, make a woman into a dog so we can feel good about being cowardly, avoiding self-reflection. Then, a second ad hominem attack, this one at me. I'm a giant pussy. Displaying weak, "woman-like" traits. It seems you see me as cowardly, wanting to…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 09:46 PM
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Thank you for writing such a thorough response. I'll try to chip away at it and digest it in time, which will be difficult due to how strongly I disagree. :P I think a lot of this comes down to politics, and there isn't much point in democrats debating republicans other than for sport. And truly, I will do my damnedest not to see you as an "other," but rather as one perspective of many. If I find myself recoiling, that tells me a lot about my own fears, attachments. I don't believe in unconditio…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 09:28 PM
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Yeahhhhhhhhhhhh you're right. :/
/r/askTRP07/02/15 08:54 PM
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Hmm, interesting. The idea of partners not being able to lean on each other is difficult for me to accept... but that doesn't mean it's incorrect. I value compassion, egalitarianism. That relationships need a balance of "yin" and "yang" (thought I don't believe in anything metaphysical or superstitious about that.) I was actually the one who was more interested in being poly. Addressing my insecurities, jealousies, working on the jealousy I'm conditioned to feel as a man. She went along with it,…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 08:53 PM
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Woo, so much anger. When you express anger towards someone, you show them that you fear them. You feel backed into a corner, so you posture. Anger doesn't make you look badass, it makes you look like a frightened little kid. Best of luck.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:32 PM
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Yeah, pretty much everything you said was spot-on, I think. I only compare myself to this guy as a way to try to understand the situation. What she saw in him that she saw as lacking in me. Not that I necessarily want to be more "that," just to try to get a clear picture. You're right, though, about negotiating from a place of weakness. No one will respect someone who does not respect themselves, and I think the weakness I had in the few days we were back together were enough to make her jump sh…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:30 PM
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I confess, I have not read it enough. Will do.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:27 PM
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Disagreeing with you is not thinking little of you. You are insecure, defensive. I say this to help you, to empower you. Good luck, fellow.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:26 PM
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Thank you for your reply. Funny, I've actually gotten super into Buddhism/Taoism these past months. Trying to examine my hurt, sit with it, see through blamefulness and victimization. And I think you are right about having other hobbies. I spent so much time building my house, it kind of ran me into the ground physically and psychologically. I found myself not having the energy to go out, explore other things. These days I've been going to shows, parties, getting involved in improv comedy, getti…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:25 PM
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Really? This sounds delusional after having just read of your epic incompetence at managing the relationship with this woman. Touché. I suppose that is my weakness. I'm confident, capable, well-rounded - I think I have a lot of qualities that attract the opposite sex. When things fall apart immensely is when I become attached in relationships. I'm a sensitive person, easily able to see other people's perspectives, and it's difficult to navigate when I realize I'm wrong versus when I'm pandering,…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:19 PM
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Thanks for the reading recommendations, and for being welcoming. I know this is the internet, and there are jerks everywhere. And while there are people in this thread who give y'all a bad name, there are many people like yourself who are willing to meet me in the middle, or to explain their viewpoint without being defensive or angry. Much appreciated.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:07 PM
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I thought you were assuming that I had red a bunch of criticism of TRP and was making a bunch of assumptions based off that. Which I really haven't. If a male friend behaved like this, would you give him the time of day? Well, no. In general I'm much less attached to male friends than I am to romantic partners. I suppose it's because I feel like I can open up to my partners in a way I can't do with guys. I'm not quite sure what to do about that, if I should stop opening up, stop being sensitive …
/r/askTRP07/02/15 06:04 PM
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Cool. Thank you for your message, and your clarifications. I think that's one of the points of commonality I have with TRP: a sort of buddhist sentiment about relationships, seeing through cultural delusions we've been raised to hold true. Love, trust, support, altruism: all of these values are deluded, I'd say.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 05:55 PM
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I don't have a feminine build. I'm not bulky, but I do have muscle. I bike everywhere, hike, climb, build things. Not that that's super important to clarify, just to give you a clearer mental picture. If you're imagining some thin frail wuss, you're incorrect. I do not hate TRP, I simply disagree with it. This is a common sentiment I see in this thread, a jumping to conclusions, projection that I hate you all. It's possible to disagree with someone's viewpoints without being angry, defensive. An…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 05:52 PM
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Guess so.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:33 AM
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This is my favorite response. Direct yet compassionate. Many of these responses are full of projection, assumptions. You have good advice without being blameful or bitter. If you go out of your way to make her feel better, she will test the waters to see just how out of the way she can make you go. The more you do, the less respect, is the general rule. Yyyyyyyup. this hipster guy is giving her tingles. She feels compelled to give him her best side. She also thinks he gives her status somehow, w…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:33 AM
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Word up.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:27 AM
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and let's be real, you and I both know that "polyamorous" garbage was her fucking 20 men to your 1 chick at best Projecting. I think I fucked more people, actually. What was upsetting was that she had other successful partnerships, all I had was a few casual fuck buddies, most of which were mediocre, uninteresting. Yes, there is definitely jealousy towards him. That he is lame sometimes helps, sometimes makes it worse. And yes, he's definitely got the alpha edge, especially in these past months …
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:26 AM
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Because I'm interested in hearing your perspective. I dunno, I guess I was in the mood for hard truths, and was open to being challenged by a view which I'm generally opposed to.
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:17 AM
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Thank you for your post. I believe I disagree. There was good, there was bad. There was manipulation, there was kindness. I don't want to vindictively foster hatred, rather I'd like to foster acceptance. Be able to hold both without them hurting. We did have love, and it was lovely; we also had unhealth, bitterness, manipulation, and while it sucked, it was immensely valuable in teaching me about my own attachments, insecurities, personal issues. Saying the relationship was unequivically shit wo…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:13 AM
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I've had sex with three other women since. It helps, a bit. But it doesn't last, and it doesn't feel healthy. Feels like getting over a heroin addiction by doing cocaine. Better to sit through the withdrawal symptoms till you're clean, I think. Or at least, don't fall to quickly into the next thing. I was pretty slutty during our relationship. I don't think I'm in that place so much anymore. Or, at least, if I am I'm trying to recognize it as unhealthy, pleasure-seeking, distracting. In moderati…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:07 AM
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Thank you for your response. And yes, she lied, to whatever rebuttals you can think of (she always used a condom, she got tested, etc, etc, etc) You don't know that, you're projecting. I've done much self-reflecting throughout this. I've had sex with a few people, started seeing someone casually. Am trying to focus on what I want (no more polyamory, definitely) as well as try to get to the root of why I allow myself to be dragged through relationships, allow myself to be exploited. Why I'd rathe…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 11:04 AM
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Hmm, you had me up to "But you won't, since you despise us..." I never said that. I disagree with most of what I read on TRP; that is a very different thing than hatred. you believe in reading what other people think of TRP, rather than what we think of TRP You're projecting. I never said anything to that effect. I don't read what other people think and judge you to be wrong, I read what you think and judge you to be wrong. This is one of the sentiments which I find repellent in TRP: a lack of h…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 10:56 AM
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Yes, I definitely take responsibility for what happened. I don't blame her, think it's her fault. I knew everything that was going on and tolerated it, compromised, traded self-respect for comfort. I had to look up "oneitis," as I'm not too hip with trp lingo. Perhaps it's true, to a degree. I'm not so naive that I believe in the one, and I've been with plenty of women, both casually and partnered. She's the fourth +1 year relationship I've had, like the 20th person I've had sex with. So I don't…
/r/askTRP07/02/15 10:50 AM
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