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You been dating for 4 months, why is this on divorced men? Anyways, if you are not happy, break up.... it's only been 4 months.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 09:25 PM
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Affair partner
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/21 08:36 PM
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Yeah, setting a custody arrangement should be set up asap. Protect your rights to see your son.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 05:56 PM
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Just be honest so they can make the decision. You will find it is a deal breaker for some and not for others. That fact you said you have not filed sounds like a line a married guy uses. Maybe it's time to file? For me, I was separated for 7 months, divorce filed before the separation. Meet a women on old and clicked. Divorce was finalized after second date. 3 dates and two months of talking she decide I was to soon divorced. We where taking things super slow, but I get it. Hope you have better …
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 05:47 PM
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Please don't tell me you left the house before talking to a lawyer? Your next and only step is to talk to or hire a lawyer first thing tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/21 09:17 PM
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Marriage is something you need to be in agreement with. Not a right or wrong thing. Just a compatability issue. If she wants to be married and you don't, it will likely eventually be a deal breaker if she can't change your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/21 03:08 PM
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I have my son 50/50, exchanging every week. He still misses his mom. My ex says he says the same when he is with her about me. Just rember, kids have had no say in this and have to deal with a split family as well.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 03:47 PM
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Think of the time more as making sure they are the right person for you. Once you know they are not the person. You know it's best to tell them and move on. Once you know it's won't work and keep dating is when you waste your time. After divorce I bet you have a better understanding of what you want and what you don't want. Hope you find what you are looking for!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 03:30 PM
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Good luck. This sucks but you will get through it!
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/21 10:56 PM
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Talk to the lawyer once you hire them.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/21 08:32 PM
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Are you in a one party consent state? If so, record all conversations going forward. If no, try to only communicate via text or email.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/21 08:29 PM
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Good news is michigan is a one party consent state. If things go bad. Record conversations, save text messages, save voice mail. Bad news is michigan is a one party consent state. Assume she could be recording you at any point. Be kind in text and on voice mail. If you are mad, say nothing and walk away. Be smart and good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/21 08:32 PM
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My understand is it depends on your location, but the preference now is 50-50. Your lawyer should know more about your jurisdiction.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/21 08:25 PM
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Yes, great point. Expect and plan for the worst. I would try to communicate through text, so you have a record. If you live in a one party consent state, record any conversations. If you can, Setup cameras around your house. Assume she is doing the same, so don't lose control and don't say or agree to anything incriminating. If you are getting upset, hang up or walk away. Don't let her provoke you. Save and document everything. If you share a back account, talk to your lawyer about what to do. C…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 03:55 PM
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I don't know location, but I find it highly unlikely the police would get involved. Get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 01:45 AM
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Not sure if your stbxw means you just move one day and act like nothing changed or just disappear from your son's life forever. I also hope you will do neither. You are the dad and he still needs his dad. And you have a responsibility to be his dad. You also just moving out without talking to him would be horribly traumatizing. I know talk to them is so hard and heartbreaking. It will suck, but you need to do what's best for your child. Best of luck!
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/21 05:08 AM
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It sounds like she likes what your are currently paying and wants you to just accept it. She can want this all she wants. What you actually do should probably be based on what your lawyer says, not your ex. Sounds like you are doing the right thing.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/20 06:38 PM
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My guess would be about the money in most case.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/20 09:48 PM
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https://www.phillyvoice.com/child-abuse-single-parenting-divorce-marriage-new-partners-advice/
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/20 02:59 AM
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Yes. An overwhelming number of physical or sexual abuse is committed by males. Moving children to males you don't know is risky.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/20 02:24 PM
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Some people just can't be alone. Be strong and maybe not date until you are ready. Needs to be about you and not trying to win. The kids thing is tough. I am sorry. Bring people in and out of there lives so quickly is selfish. Everyone should be vetted before meeting your kids, especially guys.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/20 04:45 AM
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It sucks, that is for sure. Try to be strong. More importantly, be kind and forgiving to yourself. I have heard it gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/20 04:13 AM
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When you son is 12, can't she just ask for a change in the agreement? She would have had fully custody and seems like she could easily argue best interest of the child. I am unsure on California, but my understanding is as children get older they get more of a say in the living arrangements. Giving her many years to poison him against you, if she wanted to. Additionally, if mom had primary custody for that long he would naturally want to stay and keep his routine, school, friends, etc. 12 seems …
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/20 10:45 PM
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CA is a two party consent state (at least Google says it is) so you can not record conversions without her consent. This means you should communicate via text and email. Refuse her calls. Screenshot and save someplace safe everything. I am not a lawyer, but I would hope proof she is threatening to go for full custody for a favorable settlement and threating to hide things from the State/court would work against her. When you hire a lawyer as everyone is suggesting, you can ask them how helpful t…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/20 10:35 PM
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If she is taking this much about you, she is clearly not over you or the relationship. Your her ex, of course she is going to trash you and talk up the new guy. Most people are like this. This is about her and not you. Try not to take it personally and focus on you. What matters most is Your kids, if you have any. Self care Self healing I know it's hard not to retaliate, but you should do what's best for you. Time to move on the better things. Good luck and best wishes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/20 03:45 PM
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I am in a similar situation. My son is 6 and my wife wants the divorce. I am very active with my son (sounds like you are a well). My stbxw and I both work full time jobs and I am really his primary care giver. Lucky for me we agreed to 50/50 custody. I hope you get this as well, if not, fight for the 50/50 split. And it does bother me that I will miss him and new people will at some point brought into his life and I have no say to if they should. But blaming your stbxw will not help your son. W…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 05:16 PM
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Make sure your state or country is a one person consent before recording. If it's legal. Please do this.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 05:00 PM
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I agree with the comments of getting a lawyer and fighting for 50/50 custody unless you already have this (your comment says yousee them every other week, but not for how long) Your kids deserve to have there father. Don't give up. Get a therapist. Normally I would suggest get a therapist if you could afford it. Where you are mentally, you need to find away to afford therapy. Don't give up. It will get better. Best of luck with child custody. My stbxw agreed to 50/50 custody. So I got some what …
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/20 05:37 AM
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I would talk to a lawyer about this. They should be able to answer what is a realistic outcome and what you should fight for. Clearly fighting for all you can is better then homelessness.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/20 02:32 PM
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