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After stimulating muscles there is a 48 hour increase in a hormone that says "grow/repair" and it drops pretty quickly after that. Using your program any specific muscle group will grow 2 out of the 7 days a week.. not enough.
/r/askMRP08/02/23 02:50 PM
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I dont understand, how do you afford a coach but not a better wardrobe? Plain v-neck shirts at old-navy are like 8 bucks on sale. Did you read Mindful Attraction Plan (MAP) - im sure the first thing it will tell you to do is start moving up the ladder... Being stuck at minimum wage shouldnt last long.. keep applying to new jobs and work your way up.. work hard
/r/askMRP05/08/22 01:31 PM
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wow, what a great morning laugh, haha
/r/askMRP05/08/22 01:28 PM
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You could always call a guy over and submit him before 'normal' sex nights to get her in the mood again
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:11 PM
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You know who people don't want to be touched by? People they are not attracted to. Sure there is a spectrum between attraction and disgust;. You seem to be close enough to attraction that she still enjoys sex with you, but not enough that she wants you to touch her the rest of the time Focus on reading and improving yourself. Re-read the books.
/r/askMRP28/05/22 02:55 PM
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Putting two categories like validation vs transactional seems like an over simplification. I also challenge both; validation of what exactly?? Her enthusiasm validates that you are an attractive man?
/r/askMRP28/05/22 02:49 PM
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Unfortunately it takes time. If you read the material then read it again because you missed something. Knowing information can be difficult when you THINK you are implementing what you learnt but no one else has reacted to it yet (either because it hasn't been long enough or they see you have holes in your frame.) You ARE butthurt when she turns you down... which is why she offers pity an hour later. She most likely thinks "Option 1 is he sulks all day and I got to deal with this baby, or Option…
/r/askMRP28/04/22 12:44 AM
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You were posting about challenges with her 3 years ago and it's gotten worse?
/r/askMRP19/04/22 01:55 PM
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Calling the police on your wife, if she isn't about to murder you or hurt your family, is pretty lousy. What would you have told the police when they got there? She wouldn't let you leave the bathroom? Imagine how dry that will make her when she thinks about how manly her husband is. I don't know what you are arguing about... But I am going to make some assumptions based on your lack of information; 1) you snap at her often and she's also fed up with your bullshit. Sure, you snapped 'mildly' thi…
/r/askMRP13/04/22 12:49 PM
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Jacko is also jacked and clearly lifts AND does BJJ
/r/askMRP07/04/22 09:03 PM
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I do the 6 core compound lifts You are missing bicep and back in your program And Average person... Look around and see what the average person looks like
/r/askMRP07/04/22 08:06 PM
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I didn't say don't do BJJ. It's amazing
/r/askMRP07/04/22 08:05 PM
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Lifting weight triggers hormones in your body to "rebuild stronger" for approximately 48 hours before it drops off quick. So lifting once a week means you are building muscle 2 out of the 7 days in a week. And how will you target every muscle during that one day? If you do half body then you are only building some muscles 2 days out of every 14 days BJJ is great and will build alot of stabilization muscles and cardiovascular strength (which is all good) but none of that makes panties wet There a…
/r/askMRP07/04/22 07:59 PM
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Unfortunately you haven't become the man that she worries will leave her or have more fun without her When she thinks you can replace her and get better things will change Your actions now are driving her further away
/r/askMRP07/04/22 02:52 PM
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Did you read the sex god method? You should
/r/askMRP26/03/22 10:27 PM
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I think you need to reread "no more mr nice guy". This is 101 shit and you seemed to have forgotten it or read it without doing anything with it
/r/askMRP08/03/22 05:52 PM
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Lol. Conservative person. Aka. Pre-WW2 family culture? Are you making enough money for such a lifestyle?
/r/askMRP15/02/22 12:34 AM
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I can't deny that my wife bringing me a coffee in the morning makes me feel 'loved' as she put it. Women do want to feel your engagement and attention.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 02:29 PM
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Are you sexy and irresistible to other women? Its a pretty low bar for a latte to turn her on... On the one hand, I make lattes for my wife all the time, and she makes them for me... but never with the promise of sex. I might even make a joke out of it; bring her coffee at 11PM at night and wink... or comment "really? You're that easy that a coffee gets you wet?"
/r/askMRP01/02/22 01:59 PM
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Sometimes shes not horny and your job is to 'get her there' - sometimes I am not horny and when she wants it ill tell her "convince me" - ideally ending up with my dick in her mouth which is very convincing. SO next time, pick her up, bring her to the bed and pin her down and play... then tell her she needs to convince you if she wants more... in your way of course
/r/askMRP01/02/22 01:41 PM
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Your wife asked you if you were going to "pin her against the bed" and you said no because you wanted to be 'unpredictable' She basically put the baseball on the tee and handed you the bat and you went to the bench to drink kool-aid
/r/askMRP01/02/22 01:32 PM
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Can you blame her for trying to get attention and warm fuzzies during a time when her husband had become Beta and unattractive. You need to set a rule, even MORE as a parent, dont threaten things you are not going to do. I see it all the time with misbehaved kids.. the parents yell "if you dont cut it off, we are leaving the party" and what happens? The kids continue and no one leaves the party. Before you react with a 'threat' make sure you are going to follow through with it exactly.. even if …
/r/askMRP01/02/22 12:23 PM
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Are you fit and attractive? Are you going out and generating the "is someone else emptying his balls and going to steal him" feelings in her? It could be a lot more complex then that.. but those are two general questions to answer
/r/askMRP28/01/22 02:31 PM
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Buy and read a book called "how to win friends and influence people". The title is that or something close. Thank me later You could also look at CBD oil to help reduce anxiety as you practice the new skills you learnt in that book.
/r/askMRP23/01/22 02:00 PM
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If you want to start with something light; Carcassonne is a game my wife loves to play.. takes about 30 minutes but she always has a great time Pandemic (yep, funny name now) is also a really fun game where you work together to beat 'the game' - 45 min games
/r/askMRP20/01/22 11:37 AM
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Shut up and keep working. The biggest challenge is your new found knowledge. You think just because you discovered it the world will shift for you..... It won't You have months of hard work, if you do it all right, before you see people reacting to the new you. To them, you haven't changed anything yet
/r/askMRP17/01/22 11:29 AM
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REading/fucking/exercise might be a hard leap from TV.. esp if she likes it alot I would suggest board games... Maybe a co-op one where you work together.. you can laugh, drink wine, have a good time and tease throughout. ​ But one day i flat out said "im not watching TV anymore, its useless and a waste of time" - She fought back with "what do you mean, we enjoyed watching X, Y , Z" and then i asked "OH, and what memories or lessons did we learn from that? Nothing" ​ Took about 2 months before s…
/r/askMRP14/01/22 09:02 PM
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during covid; read, fuck, exercise or play a board game together... All actual bonding things vs. watching TV
/r/askMRP14/01/22 08:32 PM
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Yah, you need to capitalize on those spurts of 'motivation' - When my wife had it I showed her the compound lifts and basically wrote her a routine and helped her through it. I would constantly push her to add more weight while fixing her form. If you don't they will follow some phoney "do 200 squats a day" exercise that wont do anything.
/r/askMRP14/01/22 07:03 PM
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the difference is women would fuck a blow-up Henry Cavill but not the real OP
/r/askMRP14/01/22 06:07 PM
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Odd, my wife started 'getting in shape' about 4-5 months after I started to show major changes... she didnt want to be left behind.. But I also included her in things so it was easy for her to hop on board. I also quit TV so "sitting on a sofa snacking" was removed from my life and that was a big source of her extra calories... I switched that with something else that improves my life and once again, she followed along
/r/askMRP14/01/22 06:00 PM
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Unfortunately being lean does not give you sexual points. There is a reason we lift; as girls who feel strong muscles change their attitude towards you Your intelligence and yearly salary are great comfort features for a husband but not necessarily something that gets you anal. Read the books and follow them and you have a chance.
/r/askMRP30/07/21 08:47 PM
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You have never met her (considering you havent had sex with her in real life) so why are you putting so many eggs in this basket? Dread doesnt work in long-term relationships like it does in person. She seems like she is running more dread on you anyway since you are questing her phone sex enthusiasm Why not spend the time in the gym and hitting on local girls and have her wondering where you are instead of the other way around
/r/askMRP27/07/21 07:35 PM
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It is weird. Everything you wrote would typically make a women dry up:. Not dealing with income potential of a property (which I assume means you don't fix anything in the house too,) and you can't even make boardgames fun with her???!!! I am surprised she wants to fuck you once a day and hasn't started fucking on the side already.
/r/askMRP19/06/21 03:14 PM
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The real test is your weight lifting numbers? How is it possible you can lift 140 pounds over your head (very impressive) yet deadlifting less than my wife at 205????? When I was overhead pressing 135 pounds I was also deadlifting over 375 pounds
/r/askMRP04/05/21 12:13 AM
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What is your question? Are females primal desires different outside of the US? No they aren't Legal system may be
/r/askMRP31/01/21 01:21 PM
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so friends with benefits and she wants nothing more
/r/askMRP16/12/20 02:30 PM
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It sounds like she likes you mostly for your new-found money and once the material flow stops she starts acting bitchy. What are your lifts? Are you muscular? No one cares if you can pick up girls at a bar... Are girls picking YOU up in the bar?
/r/askMRP15/12/20 04:31 PM
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Sounds like she likes you most when she doesn't know you desire her. Are you sure you aren't friend zoned and haven't realized the bubble you are in yet?
/r/askMRP15/12/20 04:28 PM
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More muscle growth as in visual growth??? if so, higher reps, longer time under tension But as a starter, you should focus on heavy compound lifts.. Heavy lifting alters the brain and creates new connections. Even Arnold says his foundation was heavy lifting. So do your compound lifts for strength and do hypertrophy training as finishing sets
/r/askMRP04/12/20 06:57 PM
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Yah, but you made out with her afterwards.. Hows all that homeless saliva... 15% covid filled
/r/askMRP04/12/20 06:55 PM
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There is a reason why the books are prerequisite reading... your answers have already been written by better authors than us. A few take away notes for you: WTF are you sharing a blunt with a homeless guy during COVID. I know you Americans are in denial but this would result in me leaving that girl behind with her homeless buddie Stop trying to be a white knight and save this girl. There is no scenario where she gets over her past trauma and every time you try to break a new sexual barrier with …
/r/askMRP04/12/20 06:53 PM
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Keep reading the books, you have some things skewed. While any human can be a sneaky little bitch (like marrying for money) - Its also your fault for turning into an unattractive mess. Too many men feel that the wedding vows somehow protect them from the decline of attraction and that the pussy will always be wet. Its actually the OPPOSITE So now you know she left b/c of multiple reasons (read the books, you will find all the reasons) and slowly try to work on being a better you ​ Greif is fine …
/r/askMRP26/11/20 07:08 PM
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If you follow the readings and do the work this question should not be a problem - barring some sort of actual issue with your wife that impacts her ability to have sex. I've had women past menopause want some crazy sex because I was fit, attractive and was 'the prize' Dread, being attractive and not being unattractive, etc.. etc... etc...
/r/askMRP17/11/20 02:11 PM
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I categorized red-pilled men as intelligent men who were able to wade through the bullshit and fog that we believed was real. Men who were able to change their life when most people just droop into the same pool they came from; We came out on the other side of it stronger and able to cut through future bullshit. I really didn't expect you to be a Trump supporter.
/r/askMRP10/11/20 02:44 PM
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Haha, what a great statement
/r/askMRP10/11/20 02:37 PM
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Most men got stuck on the 'ride' of life. Finish School > Get a Job > Get a Girl > Have Kids We didn't realize you could get off and assess what you want and 99% of us found MRP after hitting some sort of 'rock bottom' somewhere in life.
/r/askMRP29/10/20 03:58 PM
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Why do you feel the need to sacrifice the rest of your life on a broken human? She has mental issues that you will not be able to help. If you DONT have kids then I would get out NOWWWW. You don't owe anyone, but your kids, a lifelong of servitude for something out of your control. Get OUT
/r/askMRP29/10/20 03:53 PM
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Your challenge is that you read some books, gained some insight and feel like you reached stage 2. None of this stuff works without weeks/months of daily efforts to become a new man. Reading means nothing without the constant efforts to move there. Lifting is the number one foundation here, if you haven't started to put on muscle then your attraction is most likely low Video games are low attraction and seeing someone play brings up the thought "is there really nothing more important in your lif…
/r/askMRP08/10/20 06:53 PM
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This explains perfectly why you cant push change, or red pill, on other people. If making OTHER people change was possible then none of us would even BE here because we all tried to get our wife to change at first before realizing we were the problem. The smoker might not quit until he gets some bad news from the doctor.
/r/askMRP12/08/20 01:08 PM
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Yes, you need to learn proper listening skills (in the sidebar material) instead of try to solve her problems. The difference, when your a leader, is that she comes to you to 'vent' and then relaxes into your leadership... You heard her, gave her a kiss, and she knows things will be alright. When she tries to vent to a non-leader, like most men out there that doesn't know how to listen and they aren't leading anything, she also realizes that your one of her problems in life and she never relaxes…
/r/askMRP10/08/20 02:47 PM
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National girlfriend day? They are lucky they have valentines.. shut up with this. Does she follow these phoney days? Ie, did you get a steak and BJ on 'steak and BJ day' There are a hundred ways to respond to this shit test and you failed it miserably. ​ Her constant need to be on instragram is a glaring sign that she is either bored out of her mind and/or has low self esteem and is seeking validation constantly
/r/askMRP04/08/20 12:36 PM
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I never looked at her in a sexual way really. This is a pretty telling comment - Even if you were with her sister you would have looked at her sexually if there was some internal desire for her. You seem to be lacking that with this girl yet let her in and now your mind is all messed up b/c something you never wanted doesnt want YOU and you dont know WTF is up or down.
/r/askMRP29/07/20 02:56 PM
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It's not happening any faster than it was before. You are just more aware of things that you consciously did not process before. Don't attempt to rush anything. Currently she suspects that these sudden changes won't be long term... a passing hobby at best ​ Your progress will be slow, just as slow as your muscle building (if you were actually doing it) ​ Use your new-found anger and discovery to continue to drive forward
/r/askMRP28/07/20 08:43 PM
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This website will be all you really need; https://stronglifts.com/5x5/ Do compound lifts 5x5 as heavy as you can without breaking form and being able to do 5 of them.
/r/askMRP28/07/20 02:45 PM
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I used to get this a lot too when I was doing unattractive things and my muscles were non-existent. You would be surprised how little 'emotional connection' is needed when she starts to feel muscles anywhere she grabs and you are a man in demand (not just other people checking you out but your schedule is busy with things to do... TV not being one of them) Keep on your journey and work through it - all your answers are in there but MOST of the results wont come until you internalize them and bec…
/r/askMRP28/07/20 01:16 PM
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Your missing something in the 'leading' department. My wife fully embodied my lifestyles after about 10-12 months (so maybe you haven't peaked yet) - She wouldn't stay up late to smoke/drink if i was going to bed to start an early day of awesomeness
/r/askMRP27/07/20 08:02 PM
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Did you even read the article before you bashed it?
/r/askMRP23/07/20 12:56 PM
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Its on google. Search "statue of david" - except imagine a bigger chest... and dick
/r/askMRP17/07/20 07:39 PM
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You haven't read the sidebar and/or you have made little progress in becoming the person. How can I tell? Before: My wife would gossip and nag, like her other girlfriends, about their husbands. Now: My wife comes home and tells me "I didn't want to say anything because i didn't want them to feel bad" because I'm not the lazy & fat fucks the rest of the husbands are. Most importantly... most of those wives come over now and fawn over me. Why? Because I read the books and continuously do the work.…
/r/askMRP16/07/20 08:02 PM
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You should be treating her the way the guy in her office, that wants to f*ck her, would treat her. He wouldn't say "I am so proud of your achievements and how you are starting to look better" He would say "Damn you look good in that dress... If i was your husband it would be hard to control myself" ​ Act more like the guy that wants to get into the pants and less like the guy that feels like the pants are 'default' his
/r/askMRP07/07/20 01:22 PM
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Few pointers; You have come to the right place. Your progress here will be as quick as your muscle growth - that means slow even with daily work. KNOWING the answers and the path doesn't automatically turn you into the person. You need to constantly analyse and adjust. Its not about winning every upcoming battle but being able to look back and realizing where you messed up and how you will not make the same mistake again. Im surprised you allowed this 'affair' to continue. Option 1 was to walk a…
/r/askMRP02/07/20 04:36 PM
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Figure out how to find the sidebar and there is a list of books to read, read them all.. more than once. The most important thing to remember is that this isn't a fast process; reading and learning this is eye opening and even if you make the changes today it will take a while before the results are felt. Kind of like when you start lifting weights...
/r/askMRP26/06/20 12:56 PM
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When I say maturity I really mean age and wisdom. Not like when you tell a 18 year old chick "your mature for your age" just to get in her pants... i'm talking about introspection and wisdom. I just finished showing my daughter how to wipe her ass for the first time and on the second poo she is already acting like she knows how to do it... This is an antidote to show how people always feel "they know" when the truth is that they don't know anything. She is going to walk around with shit stains t…
/r/askMRP22/06/20 03:32 PM
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It is safe to say that the majority, if not all, of the men on this subreddit did not know 'red pill' before they got married. They may have acted it in certain ways but did not understand all the components and what they meant. Most of us 'went with the flow' or are coerced into decisions. Go to school, find a job, find a girl, get married, have kids... how many? as many as you CAN! - Its all bullshit and unfortunately you dont stop to think about it until its too late... but maybe its maturity…
/r/askMRP19/06/20 01:08 PM
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In my early career i moved around A LOT. After school I took a lot of contract work (1 year average) and would jump around. By the end of 6-7 years I had a bunch of experience in different areas... but they all complimented eachother (and they all made me better in the next role) - I never moved into the same job, always a small step up with different experience. Accounting would help a Sales person, no doubt... but applying for a sales job with just accounting experience will be difficult so yo…
/r/askMRP10/06/20 05:25 PM
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Stop having the divorce conversations. It's the same as the 'sex' conversations... They go no where Next time she mentions it tell her you don't want to hear about it unless she is ready to file.
/r/askMRP28/05/20 11:23 PM
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Best way I can explain it is women want the perks of a male provider without the responsibilities. Every women would like that. The difference is; Does her current man allow it or not? ​ You had multiple red flags smack you in the face and you continue down the path of "everything will be great" 1) She has a low libido... for you 2) She wanted to leave you a few days after your planned marriage 3) She expects you to pay for her future while leaving you behind
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/20 01:56 PM
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Its all relative and most importantly; Are you an achiever with a mission or a low-life with no ambition? The dude following his passion and making less than his wife won't have the same problems as the guy working at blockbuster without ambition to work his way into something better. Blockbuster dude most likely also comes home 'so tired from work' that he needs to sit infront of the TV for the rest of the day to de-stress from his high achieving role.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 07:40 PM
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country I live doesn't help with economics Learn this rule quickly; No one but you (and maybe your parents) are going to help with anything. Stop expecting anything and achieve what you want in life. Knowing this your expectations will be aligned with reality and things will go smoother
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:32 PM
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u got some fair points there. I never went back together with anyone, just this one cause of my son. The first 5 years are important and I didn't want his psyche all fucked up, and things were well with her. STF Geezus, how did you uncover that scandal?
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:30 PM
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Being overt about your 'leadership' is not what a real leader does. I can guarantee that the best leaders/captains out there walk into a room and dont announce their title.. they just ARE and people believe and follow Your original post is right.. but you are applying it to the wrong situation. Yes have boundaries and stand up for them, women will like that... but this guy was doing it wrong
/r/askMRP05/05/20 01:29 PM
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Slow down mate. You seem to be firing at the hip and treating every interaction like a rapid fire flow chart. You mean within 24 hours you had THAT many arguments and 'conversations about expectations' and 'positive reinforcement', yadda yadda yadda From her perspective she has a husband who blows his lid a few times a day.. and if she feigns a smile he immediately praises her "THATS how I want you to be!" ​ Don't check her google search history, you might find "dealing with a bipolar spouse" ​ …
/r/askMRP05/05/20 12:34 PM
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Carbs maybe too low ? (25% of diet, 55 protein). Also, 55 protein?? every document out there says 0.7 - 1.5 grams of protein per pounds on the scale. So you should be in the 150~ protein range
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:59 PM
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You said: I'm 5' 8" and 148 You are super skinny man. 1400 calories is not going to get you anywhere. Lift heavy... you need your body to go into 'wtf is happening mode' and then feed and rest it. I was exercising 4-5 days a week (not to failure) and getting great results for the first year... Your also cycling diet and exercises too fast.. 1-2 weeks is not enough time to measure progress. Figure out your TDE based on your height and weight and weight gaining goals. Go on strong-man lifts
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:56 PM
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A few pillars to consider here; Rest, Diet, and Activation (Exercise) are three elements that need to be taken serious in order to change your body. Are you getting all 3 properly? If your getting 1400 calories that seems low unless your a 4'5 female but I don't have the time to do your calorie math. I would switch to a power lifting circuit instead of 4x10.. at least to build your initial mass (5x5 for example) - doing reps of 10 is great to add muscle but I feel you need to have that core musc…
/r/askMRP29/04/20 06:46 PM
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You are confusing 'withholding emotions' and 'STFU' STFU is not spilling your emotional baggage on her to carry for the rest of the day. Having emotions are normal and real. But what caused those emotions MIGHT not be real. The more in-tune you are with yourself the quicker you will realize when the emotions you are feeling are real, or some conjured up feeling because of a badly analysed interaction with someone. So therapy might help. ​ Your wife doesnt want to take your emotions and deal with…
/r/askMRP21/04/20 01:57 PM
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“When one eye is fixed upon your destination, there is only one eye left with which to find the Way."
/r/askMRP20/04/20 12:51 PM
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You have fallen into the trap that many men fall into when they find the RP. You read some books, gain some insight, then sit back and wait for all your revelations to change your life. The truth is; Nothing is going to change without hard work You say you read all the books twice and yet have never joined a gym. Either you started reading all these books since the quarantine or you never acted on anything you learnt from the red pill. ​ I don't understand your problem with your wife. She is ove…
/r/askMRP17/04/20 12:40 PM
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When you are in her frame.. is it something that makes sense? If my wife is a doctor and someone gets injured I would definitely let her take the lead and follow her directions... but I am assuming 'her frame' in your case is more that you have let go of so many facets of your life that she has taken charge.
/r/askMRP15/04/20 12:33 PM
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Well the fact is; People are contagious for days before showing symptoms... So if you have been close to your wife in the last 5 days, or kissed her (which I would assume you have), then you already have it
/r/askMRP14/04/20 12:33 PM
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Do you follow through with your actions? Positive reinforcement is always the ideal path but if you have gotten so far down the shit-hole that your kids dont care about you then goodluck with that. When I say "I am throwing out any toy that I find on the floor tonight" they will notice that those toys will actually be gone tomorrow... NOT neatly stored in their toy chest thanks to daddy. My kids are younger but making a game out of it helps; If I say "Lets clean this all up" they all freak out b…
/r/askMRP13/04/20 01:41 PM
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Your challenge is that you found the red pill (congrats btw) but instead of starting from scratch and learning it you jumped into questions and now are getting very defensive over the facts. ​ The truth is, this is all you fault and so far all your attempts to correct it have been wrong. Talking about it with her wont fix it. ​ Most importantly, if you became a sexy fuck then your women wouldnt be hoping to fill her sex quota for the week before she gets a break. ​ How do I know? - Because I was…
/r/askMRP07/04/20 06:55 PM
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I come to Marriedredpill to learn something. This was more softcore paperback porn than anything worth learning from.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/20 05:19 PM
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Everyone has said the important things; But why are you showering two times a day? How bad is your genetics that this is a requirement for you? Seems way to excessive for a normal person; especially if you are WFH and not getting 'outside dirty'
/r/askMRP01/04/20 02:10 PM
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Its been pretty difficult since I have two young kids that require attention and a leadership role at work. Basically if I work my wife cant, and if she works my stuff starts to pile up. So we have this carousal of work/kids/meal/work/kids/meal We created a schedule (its huge) and pasted it on the wall so we can structure our day; its broken down by the hour. You would be surprised how much kids want some structure in their life. It helps, even though getting them off the Ipad/games is always a …
/r/askMRP26/03/20 11:47 AM
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Have you read any of the books? Mostly 'no more mr nice guy" or rational male... or book of pook?? You seem to be operating in the 'don't want to hurt others feelings' instead of "what do I want in life"
/r/askMRP24/03/20 12:01 PM
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Its all obvious; The wife is dreaming about her ex (alpha-widowed) and her current husband is the safe pillow that will supply her future family with stability and safety.... not hot passionate sex She clearly wants her ex for physical reasons and her current husband for stability reasons. This dude didn't see all the signs until too late in the game. Now his wife will continue to fantasize about her Ex yet be smart enough not to mention it next time
/r/askMRP24/03/20 11:58 AM
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She is missing out on life and wants other dick. You clearly are lacking in the 'fun' and leadership role. She likes what you provide her (hence the sex and blowjobs) but fantasizes about a life being free and fun. Did you read the Married RP material? Or just the stupid TRP stuff from 10 years ago? - Most of your answers are in those books ​ Additionally, Once you become a man she looks up to, and is in awe of your accomplishments (that seem to have no end) she will not be actively looking for …
/r/askMRP13/03/20 11:25 AM
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Wow this is stupid; After you release your libido drops... that's not rocket science and is general "being a man 101" shit. If your libido drops to levels this low you need to determine if masturbating is your path to glory. If you somehow think jerking off to porn is more exciting than having a girl hanging off your dick then I don't know what to say; Quit porn for 90 days and re-align your sexual mind into a healthy state.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 08:17 PM
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I cant tell who is trying to swing their dick more.. OP or this guy
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 08:12 PM
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Low self esteem good girls are just as likely to cheat if given a low risk opportunity. They love the attention and boost it gives them.
/r/askMRP26/02/20 11:18 AM
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So your wife is secretly buying presents for another man.. major red flag that outlines two things... 1) How she feels about you (you dont do it for her) and 2) Your boundaries are as soft as marshmallows. ​ Once you become a valuable man you could simply say "So it is OK for us to buy gifts for the opposite sex that want to fuck us?" Your tone should make it clear that you have a few women that would love to be gifted a butt plug from you... This doesn't work if she knows you couldn't capture a…
/r/askMRP24/02/20 06:51 PM
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I don't know where you read that red-pill is treating your wife like shit. There is also multiple disclaimers to tone down the 'redpill' with pregnant women. It's not the 'asshole' that turns women on, its the man with a mission/goal that doesn't revolve around neediness and other peoples validation.... being perceived as an 'asshole' might be a byproduct of your attitude but not the goal; you just can't take the effect and make it the cause ​ And I haven’t been complying with any of her simple …
/r/askMRP24/02/20 06:37 PM
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I have a similar experience. She has commented, and continues to, comment on my improved body and goals... Often actually. A typical playful response of "my eyes are up here" works well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 05:40 PM
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I dont know how your deadlift is near your bench press and how your squats is higher than your deadlift.. wtf.. your deadlift should easily be the heaviest weight you can lift. anyway. You should focus on weight loss. Don't analyze why your wife is asking you to change a dirty diaper and start to analyze why you are eating at such a caloric imbalance; Intermittent fasting, pick an 8 hour window (start/end time) and only eat within those windows every day Do not drink calories. If you enjoy coffe…
/r/askMRP18/02/20 12:42 PM
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You are doing something called freakanomics. Comparing two things and trying to make some similarities or proclamations. You have it wrong Women aren't choosing to sleep with their husband as some progress bar to help their husband identify their place on the BETA <-> Alpha bar; They aren't even CHOOSING to sleep with their husband... it really boils down to this: Are they attracted to their husband and desire him on a primal level. If so, they are receptive and open to being sexual. If not, the…
/r/askMRP10/02/20 01:03 PM
2

A women that licks her fingers and your stomach clean. You can find a perfect girl who has a great family, low sex count, and dedicates herself to you.. but if you fall off the wagon and become a beta she might have an awakening moment where she realized she wasted so much time with you and suddenly wants to explore her naughty side that you repressed... ​ Become a proper man and have boundaries, then ask this question
/r/askMRP07/02/20 04:31 PM
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Watching a high caliber event (finals for championship) is fine.... ​ But watching every game every week is no different then women finger fucking their social media feeds. Waste of time
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 03:32 PM
2

Who the fuck cares? Someone is coming to your house... Cant you act like a normal human being and say hello and go about your day... or include them in a funny story or offer a drink??? Your so beta that you are visualizing your failures
/r/askMRP07/02/20 03:05 PM
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If you try to take the Redpill as some diet... where you decide "Tomorrow I am a vegetarian" you are going to FAIL because you will be hungry in the kitchen and not know what to cook... nore have the ingredients if you wanted to cook. This is a slow process.. as slow as building muscle will be. Your goal is to focus on the priorities and do those first.. make them a habit, and keep adding more as soon as its sustainable habit. Again, just like lifting you increase your weight as soon as you can
/r/askMRP07/02/20 02:57 PM
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Your spending 10 hours a day working on the wrong things. 200k is nice but your somehow in debt? How about working 8 hours a day and spend the last 2 'working' hours figuring out how to manage your financials. ​ You basically have a gamer wife at home who is addicted to games and pretends to clean so she can spend the next day gaming again. She has no concerns about loosing you and is enjoying her life
/r/askMRP27/01/20 02:44 PM
1

So what, you used to have an innie and now you have an outie
/r/askMRP27/01/20 02:31 PM
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// Update: Shortly after posting this, she told me that a male childhood friend (that she hasn't seen in years) is coming in for coffee. I reacted stoically, I'm actually starting to give less shits even though the situation hurts. It's starting to feel like a massive shit test, seeing this guy and seeing that guy. But she did act honest, so I respect that. "Oh Ok honey, I didnt know we were OK with having the opposite sex over and hanging out with them... here I was rejecting and avoiding all t…
/r/askMRP22/01/20 03:22 PM
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You told her to 'fuck off' because she called you twice and wanted to talk.. haha; wow your a real winner man. Do your future kids a favour and don't have them with a women you use this language with. They will turn out to be a problem for society What is even MORE funny is that you somehow think your on the right path with this bull shit
/r/askMRP20/01/20 03:01 PM
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Ok, i tried it and It didnt work. I slapped 4 times and told her she looked great but nothing happened. What did I do wrong? Was I supposed to stagger the 4 slaps throughout the day or machine gun them quickly? Please help
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 02:38 PM
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There is no 'us' - You need to take lead and she will follow/submit if worthy. You are very skinny... 70 pounds lighter than me and I am only 2 inches taller. Your freckles are probably the most attractive thing on your naked body. Wait until your pecks and arms have ballooned and she will start playing with your muscles. Read the Sex God Method for some tips... and... like your muscles... expect slow gains and no crazy quick breakthroughs
/r/askMRP08/01/20 06:47 PM
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If its right before, during, or after sex then you just aren't attractive to her and she doesn't desire you. She doesn't know WHY and thinks a deeper emotional connection is the answer ​ If she says this during normal day-to-day life your a boring fuck who is missing people skills and a good dash of being fun and eventful. How much time do you spend on non-improving activities like televisions/sports and games, etc..
/r/askMRP03/01/20 07:41 PM
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Then he has alot of work to undo. Ever see one of those dog trainers... he could walk into a house with a bulldog that is ready to eat children and bite anything that moves... yet a few days later that guy has the dog pacified. ​ His wife is acting that way because he created that monster.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 02:10 PM
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You talk to much.. on this post and in real life. You first seem to say something that upsets your wife... by now you should know her buttons and avoid them. Then you explain your way out of it... it never works. You need to be a little more intelligent in your responses in the first place not to trigger her. ​ Plus; your wife can tell when your flirting with two women in front of her and not paying attention to her. You said you felt under the weather but seem to have been acting just fine to t…
/r/askMRP02/01/20 12:56 PM
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First time on OYS despite being on this RP journey for 2 years now. Stats – 6’3 220LBS approx. 13% BF Lifts (not my 1rm) – DL 405lbs, OHP 145lbs, Squat 275lbs (knee injuries reoccurring), Bench 225lbs, Row 205lbs. The good: Career and self-motivation has been at an all-time high. I am very successful at work and it wasn’t until I learnt (through RP) to apply my prowess at work into my personal life that everything started to come together. Financially I am in a great place for today and the futu…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:41 PM
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When she tried something like this my response was more in-line with "Oh, I didn't know we were cool with each other hanging out with people that wanted to have sex with us. ha, i've been rejecting these women that wanted to hang out with me for no reason"
/r/askMRP30/12/19 02:48 PM
1

Carbs help with recovery and overall energy availability (your body can access carb energies much quicker than fat energy) Keto is great for loosing weight - you basically turn yourself into a fat burning machine for energy vs. using carbs. In the short term you might not notice too much, but long term your recovery and performance might suffer. Try it for a month and you might drop the weight you want Disclaimer - Everyone is different and what might not work for 90% of the population might wor…
/r/askMRP18/12/19 02:27 PM
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You seem like the type of kid who fantasizes about their future with a women on the first date. I know, I was him at one point You would do much better focusing on yourself right now instead of focusing on creating a guarded relationship Go lift weights... Have women knocking on your door while biting their lip with anticipation..... then revisit your little list
/r/askMRP18/12/19 02:03 AM
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Not enough exercise if you expect results. Muscles have the hormone/chemical to 'grow' for 48 hours post exercise. If you are working out twice a week (and i assume you arent doing every muscle in your body) then each muscle is only growing 2 out of the 7 days in a week. thats not enough Do what you want.. but you should be hitting it at 3 times MINIMUM and 4-5 times ideally (not to failure) You need muscles building at least 4 days of the 7
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 06:07 PM
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Having kids is the weirdest fucking paradox ever. I love them to death and would sacrafice my life for them.... And at the same time I would be fine if i never had them... It's a hard job and if you don't step up your wife will take extra pressure and it won't go well for you. It's a job that never ends. Late weekends don't exist anymore because they are going to wake up at 7am with 100% energy...
/r/askMRP13/12/19 10:51 PM
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My wife was the same.. until i started telling her how much I liked how she looked when XXX, how sexy she looked when XXX, how i want to spank her XXXX whens she XXXXX You said you read SGM, have you implemented all areas of it? ​ That is assuming you like all these things about her
/r/askMRP11/12/19 06:19 PM
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You should focus on gaining weight and improving your lifts instead of some weird 'perfect female' calibration. ​ My wife deadlifts more than you two months into lifting... get your shit together
/r/askMRP09/12/19 02:27 PM
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Its kind of crazy how a pair of tits suddenly makes the tranny experience not so gay... (assuming a gentle voice and feminine face of course)
/r/askMRP03/12/19 02:12 PM
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Not only is this amazing, but a little too similar to my timeline... damnit. This dude has the knowledge to turn his life around and he is wasting it away
/r/askMRP28/11/19 03:01 PM
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All this new attention you are getting from women are because they don't know your a lazy child... ANYTHING you find right now will end up the same was as your current wife. That is your future because you seem lazy and unambitious. So lazy you didnt even take the time to read any of the books in the sidebar
/r/askMRP28/11/19 01:41 PM
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Your core is getting a workout when holding form during OHP, deadlift and squats. Do all your exercises standing up with a barbell and your core is activated (except bench of course) I would do chin-ups on your barbell row days and dips on your bench press days
/r/askMRP27/11/19 05:53 PM
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Looks good, I would only recommend adding chin-ups and dips.. both great practical compound lifts that our body is naturally designed to do.. pull yourself up, and push yourself up
/r/askMRP27/11/19 03:44 PM
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You have to switch from the generic cookie cutter "i like your body the way it is!" - these words dont even penetrate her mind... When your having sex with her, and see something you like... be a little more verbal about it. "Damn, the way the light is shining off your ass is amazing.." then give it a slap or squeeze. Be specific.. hopefully your wife is attractive enough for you to be genuine, otherwise start acting.
/r/askMRP27/11/19 03:23 PM
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Well i don't give a shit either.. i've read all the books twice. BUT - Not everyone is technical and some of these men seeking help might not know how to use reddit (I know I didn't when i started this journey) Everyone keeps pointing to 'the side bar' and there's no fucking sidebar here
/r/askMRP26/11/19 05:19 PM
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Do you get paid per word? Successful and assertive in your career.. so why are you an introvert outside of the office? Treat all interactions like you do in the office. Smile, shake hands, talk to people as if they were a new employee in your office. ​ You felt more DNGAF before RP - You were more ignorant when you were BP... Considering the fact that you had all those 'i need more sex' talks then you definitely gave a fuck. DNGAF and OI work best when you have become a man that other women want…
/r/askMRP26/11/19 02:54 PM
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Your problem is that you put the power of your happiness into other people. You literally stuffed it in a backpack for them and now your wife walked out with it on her back. Many men can come back from it... there are men on this board who have come back from WORSE... So yes its possible but its all up to you. If you dont have the motivation and drive to dig yourself out then you will remain in this hole. ​ You need to make steps.. take action... towards getting your life together. Start with; S…
/r/askMRP26/11/19 02:43 PM
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Can one of the mods update the sidebar so ASKMRP actually has one? Or points to marriedredpill to find it? I cant find no sidebar anymore
/r/askMRP26/11/19 02:37 PM
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I chose no masturbation because I'd rather use my energy to fuck a real woman instead of my pathetic and lonely hand. I went this same path. Used my energy for productivity and/or on my wife. After 2 years of this she doesn't let me build it up much anymore though...
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/19 02:35 PM
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Yep - It took about 8-10 months before my wife started to respond with her "how can I do that too" questions
/r/askMRP22/11/19 08:35 PM
2

Have you practiced this? How long did it take for some success?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 06:40 PM
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I dont understand how your 168lbs at 6" - I am 6"4 and 210 and I have alot of muscles to go... First, you need to keep bulking, you arent big enough for anything yet. Second, and more importantly, you cant make her do anything. There is no combination of words that will motivate her. ​ Just keep doing your thing, live a life of health and activity and she will eventually follow or leave your life.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 06:19 PM
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Men have the ability to come to a conclusion and STICK to it a lot more than a female. A female will decide that she wants X (after much deliberation) and then start questioning if she should have picked Y like 10 minutes later. ​ Her going to bed 'fine' on day one means nothing.. you should know already that her hamster will start to spin on this again shortly. She will wonder how much time SHE has.... How she would feel if she got the news... "Oh shit, i'm stuck with sash_northpoint the rest o…
/r/askMRP22/11/19 02:28 PM
1

The question you need to ask yourself is this; Are you worth the pain of waxing her privates for? All of your RP knowledge means nothing if you ARENT that RP guy yet. And you aren't Also. baby fucking steps.. Why not ask her to trim or shave it first? You are going straight to hardcore request mode.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 02:42 PM
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Agree. Same experience here... But only works when you become a man she will follow
/r/askMRP21/11/19 02:33 PM
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you don’t even masturbate except when she’s out of town and you only use your wedding photo haha
/r/askMRP18/11/19 02:24 PM
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Damn! serious commitment
/r/askMRP18/11/19 02:22 PM
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Don't watch porn or masturbate. Could this be my problem? I can read. I read that statement as "Ohh! dont watch porn or masturbate? could this be my problem" instead of "NO I DO NOT watch porn or masturbate, should I"
/r/askMRP15/11/19 03:04 PM
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Not sure what to do - I told her finish me with her mouth after I cavemanned for a while but she’s got issues with her own body fluids that I haven’t been able to address. Tell me if you ever break that code... I've torn down almost all barriers except this one
/r/askMRP15/11/19 02:43 PM
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Yes foreplay is great, who doesnt love a warm mouth. What I mean to say is... the 'foreplay/choreplay' that wives apparently expect to have good sex is typically due to their lack of desire to have sex with you. When you become a desired/attractive man the foreplay barriers are removed; then you are doing it for pleasure and not some X+Y+Z process to get duty sex.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 06:37 PM
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Yes this is one of your problems... coming from someone who watched porn and jerked off instead of putting the effort to game my wife (which would have lead to rejection back then... or a sad unenthusiastic handjob) I wouldn't call it bad or demonize it.. but for someone in your state I would stop doing it. Until you have re-synchronized your brain to normal sex. Your brain needs to be re-wired away from those dopamine dumps I also found myself more interested 'in the finish' due to porn... and …
/r/askMRP14/11/19 06:34 PM
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Funny, foreplay used to be so critical back when I was blue beta... After 8+ months of following and becoming red I hardly need to use it at all. Not to say I don't, or don't enjoy it.. But I can tell her to come to the side of the bed and she will be ready.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 02:25 PM
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All of these above. When you start putting on muscle (all the compound lifts) you will find sex getting better. As you build frame and become more attractive you will find that the excitement of 'getting some' dies down a lot more. ​ Also; stop watching porn Buy a book called; Lasting Longer: The Treatment Program For Premature Ejaculation Kindle Edition by Dr. Sy Silverberg M.D.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 01:57 PM
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She slept topless, then rolled over to blow you and ride you... and you didnt say anything? Theres a post somewhere about aftercare, you should read it. The next morning (or right after sex) you could have dropped a "damn that was sexy and i enjoyed that" - Praise the things you like... dont go STFU and not try to cultivate what you want by giving positive feelings about it
/r/askMRP13/11/19 02:52 PM
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The whiteboard is a good tool for people who get shit done. For this man it will only broadcast to his entire family that he is inactive and unable to strive for goals
/r/askMRP10/11/19 07:24 PM
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An important phrase I take in life is: "Never put more effort into someone then they are willing to put into themselves" The men on this board that are leaders won't put the effort into helping someone who doesn't want to help themselves. We are too busy working on things that can actually improve You either want it or you dont
/r/askMRP10/11/19 06:55 PM
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Read it again.. slowly.. while focusing on every word. Dont read it while thinking about something else.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 02:56 PM
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Seek a professional AND don't be embarrassed about it. The % of people in the world actively working on their weakness is very low and the fact that you are working on it shows something. But if you dont take the effort to improve and then your just like the rest of the people. ​ I'm going to make the assumption that your also an aggressive driver and blame everyone else for shit you probably are doing to other drives ALL THE FUCKING TIME. I see it. I have yet to see a 'road rage' idiot drive no…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 02:56 PM
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e: the stopping sex now - do you feel it's due to a shift to abundance? IE, when sex was infrequent, you needed to cum because you might not get another shot for however long (I find myself trapped in this mindset every now and then). Whereas if you know that you can get sex frequently, "going the whole 9 yards" becomes less of a concern / more casual / not worth thinking about? Or do you attribute this mindset shift to fully embracing OI, regardless of what actually does or doesn't happen? Its …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 01:48 PM
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Failure #3 - failure to communicate my wants . I know she's not sexually confident or imaginative. I'm cranky because I didn't get off and she's just lying there as if it's OK (since I just told her it was). Why should I have expected it to be any different if I can't communicate? My wife was like this too. Shes very different now. I hope you are somewhat attracted to your wife. When you read 'sex god method' you will learn what kind of things you could say to help her with her confidence. My wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 05:09 PM
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good ambition but take it easy. It sounds like your starting a fad diet and within 2 weeks you will be back to where you started. You are trying to make life-long habbits so you might need to focus on a few things instead of attempting to overhaul your life today. Dead is to be worked on over months, not within a single day. ​ The gains you start to get in life (and sex) will appear as slowly as your muscles do... its a slow process but quitting doesn't get you there any quicker
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:59 PM
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Break up the boredom of watching TV with her. That was one of the first things I dropped. It took her a good 3-6 months before she believed me. Do something interactive and fun together. Shit; Go bowling, rock climbing, play pool, interactive paint night. If you want cheap options then look up some good cooperative boardgames... they are fun and I get WAY more out of my wife after a good game vs. sitting like zombies infront of the television (msg me if you want some boardgame starters.) If you …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:54 PM
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You are taking STFU too literal. It doesn't mean sit across the table and don't answer questions.. It means stop pouring your emotional insecurity and faggot answers to your wife. When you read "WISNIFG" you will learn how to better answer some of her questions like "do you find me attractive" - You could have knocked that out of the park by just picking one thing about her to defuse the situation like "What? I love the way your booty looks in those pants" or reverse it to "why do you think I do…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:48 PM
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what the f&ck! You arent red pill. Red pill teaches you not to argue; which you seem to do alot of It also teaches you to be man that internally validates himself and not external looking for it ; which you seem to be doing alot of It also teaches you to be happy with yourself and be someone who she WOULDNT want to cheat with; which clearly you are not ​ Your just a kid with dynamite that is pretending to be red pill because you read a book
/r/ExRedPill06/11/19 02:10 PM
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You need to separate from your wife for a bit... And I don't mean 'open' relationship or move out.. I mean stop watching her like a hawk and caring so much. Kanye said it; We all lost our women to the instagram... We cant compete with that system Focus on yourself and improving, stop arguing with her or analyzing her.. internalize that shit and put it into the bar.. then push or pull it. My wife quit social media (or at least dropped her access significantly) when she realized I was having more …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 01:42 PM
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Find a personal trainer that specializes in strong-man lifts (deadlift, squats, overhead press, benchpress) and have him teach you proper form. Your deadlift numbers are pretty sad. My wife was doing your numbers 2 months into lifting. And she has a vagina
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:31 PM
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