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MALE DEPRAVITYtinyoceankisses/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:59 AM
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27

I could have written your post myself. I too, am a lumberjack-look afficianado.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:44 AM
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Yes. I know this first-hand, sadly. I got vulval dermatitis from my bearded ex. My GP said, because I never had it before him, and after we separated it cleared up, the cause was his beard. Which was actually a shame, as I ADORE beards, and he was definitely one of those men that kinda needed a beard. Plus the cunnilingus was pretty great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:41 AM
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"Making unnecessary compliments to other women? Bye. Liking other women’s pictures? Bye." THIS, every time. Best advice ever, and something I subscribe to myself after coming out of an abusive relationship where he felt it necessary to compliment other women and 'like' other women's pictures. It's utter bullshit that you should never accept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:18 PM
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I couldn't agree more with what you've said. The most HV men I know don't even have social media accounts. I love it, it makes me respect them more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:14 PM
72

Sounds like a guy I used to date. God it made me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:10 PM
23

I'm with you, it screams of insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:24 AM
7

Haha! I'm going to keep that one up my sleeve!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:23 AM
23

That infuriates me, they so rarely listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:13 AM
11

Yes, he looked over at me and smirked as he did it, and then told me that he always sprays his cologne "down there"...it was his signature thing, or some rubbish. So confident that what he was doing was so sexy, cool, and unique. Ugggghhhh....I still cringe at the memory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:11 AM
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I bloody-well hate that emoji being employed. It's so hateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:52 AM
43

I'm so damn tired of them blaming living in filth on depression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:46 AM
77

Oh yes...it's exactly that, right!? And you're suddenly like What the Hell was I thinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:46 AM
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He sprayed his cologne not only on his neck but also on his lower torso just above his dick...and was so smug about it. I still cringe hard over it to this day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:44 AM
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I experienced that. It's the most degrading thing. When the man you're with openly checks out other women and you're standing there, just looking at them. Makes me sick to think that I put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:16 AM
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Holy shit. This is exactly my ex. This part is so accurate: "They have an assortment of female "friends" most of the time that they act like embarrassing little boys around because their dick gets hard every time a woman breathes at them. They love these women. Love. They are obsessed with the possibility that the girl, who is now a representation of all the women who only want to be friends, will eventually fuck him. These are the only women they think are high value. They will flirt with waitr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:09 AM
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Gross. My ex had a file on his computer named "epic cum shots". Like a teenaged boy would name it. And he is almost 50 years old. It was one of many things that made me back out of that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:32 AM
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I love when they refer to all their ex's as "crazy". It's a great way to discover that it's actually themselves that are crazy. The ex's rarely are, in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:16 AM
14

I agree, absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:12 AM
67

Me too. It's absolutely unacceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:11 AM
65

This infuriates me, it's so revolting and disrespectful of their partner. And they know it, but because they want to do it, they ignore the fact that they're cheating. I had an idiot try and explain it away once by saying "but we were both married, so I didn't see it as a problem", referring to the emotional cheating he had engaged in with a co-worker. Made me sick to my stomach. And then he wonders why I didn't trust him. My god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:36 AM
7

Yes, she mentioned that he had liked some of her photos. I took a look...he had absolutely cherry-picked the most revealing ones. Absolutely vomit-inducing. She's so young, she doesn't even have the body of a woman, yet. A man his age should not find that appealing. He has three sons. I bet if he had daughters he would think very differently about young girls' near-naked bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:33 PM
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Ha! He EXCELS at fake outrage! It got quite amusing, on occasion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:31 PM
14

Me too. When I saw the link she had sent me, I felt physically ill, no joke. Seeing some guy try so damn hard to get a teenagers attention is one of the most disturbing and gross-feeling things I have ever read. I literally felt dirty afterwards...I couldn't shake it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:54 PM
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I thought about it, and asked around, and not one of my other 45-55 year old male friends do either of those things. They all seemed fairly appalled that someone their age that was healthy and normal would follow IG models or OFans. I agree - NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:47 PM
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If you ever start that service, I'll be your first client!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:14 PM
8

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:11 PM
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I agree, I love women that support other women. I would never be angry at her, she can't control his disgusting choices. AND....she's a teenager. I hate to say it, but the almost 50-year-old man should know better than to comment OR be attracted to a girl that young. I actually felt sorry for her - she doesn't want him following her or making gross comments or emoji heart eyes.....it's the most vile thing, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:36 AM
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No, but I might send her a message!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:44 AM
24

Yes, I wish I hadn't wasted my breath or time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:50 AM
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He commented on an IG pic that she was modelling in for a local surf shop. I saw it and found it gross, and replied to his comment (publicly on Instagram). He removed it after we had argued about it. But she had obviously seen the exchange (I mean, she would have received notifications) and contacted me via DM to let me know that he was leaving comments on her personal account page, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:49 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:46 AM
12

I'm looking forward to that partner, and the respect that this piece of rubbish never showed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:41 AM
14

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:40 AM
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I will!! You know what I do love? That a 19 year old was aware of his shameful behaviour, and was happy to call him out to me, a 47 year old. It makes me happy for the young ladies that they are so empowered these days and don't put up with this crap. I love learning a thing or two from younger women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:35 AM
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Absolutely!!!!! Oh, I couldn't agree with you more. It's a learning curve, but I'm getting there. "If he truly cared about your boundaries, he would have unfollowed after the first request without argument.".....THIS IS CRUCIAL. I made the mistake, and suffered terribly for it. This guy is an absolute asshole. Edited to add: Learn from my mistakes, ladies. Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:24 AM
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It was all her - I wouldn't have been any the wiser if she hadn't given me the head's up. In fact, I had been happy to hear from him over the past few days. This woke me up FAST! Thank goodness for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:55 AM
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I recall he commented once about how small the swimsuits were that young girls wore at the beach, and that their parents shouldn't allow them to. I responded that they can wear whatever they liked, and men shouldn't be ogling them. WTF is wrong with men that they can't seem to realise that this behaviour is so appalling?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:53 AM
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It's so creepy and inappropriate. She seemed pretty horrified. And I took a look at her photos - I mean, it could be one of my daughters. Almost identical. The hilarious thing was, she replied to all her other comments, but absolutely ignored his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:05 AM
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Thank you! Yes, I agree, he HAD to know exactly what he was doing...I've fallen for his BS so many times. I always thought he made some poor choices, but I'm absolutely floored at this, I have to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:35 AM
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I'm so shocked that this guy seems to like such young girls. I mean, they're still girls! She is almost the same age as my daughter. It's so wrong, I'm still actually in a bit of shock. I thought he had just stupidly liked pics and probably shouldn't have (I KNOW I shouldn't make excuses, but that's what I honestly thought), but the comments were sleazy. When she showed me he had gone to her account and liked and commented on MORE....I almost died. She said "I thought you should know..." I'm act…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:15 AM
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40+ men that "like" and reply to 20-something girls' Instagram pics.....it makes me absolutely sick. I had this exact experience recently, and I cannot get it out of my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:34 PM
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Exactly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:29 PM
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I made a typo once and got called "mentally disabled" by my ex. He was such an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:55 PM
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It's so true! I had an ex that was so ridiculous in his replies I would literally burst out laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:53 PM
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. And I agree with you, absolutely. There are no excuses. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:28 AM
7

Thank you! I am really glad to hear you're much happier! I'm looking forward to that feeling...can't wait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:48 AM
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I had a similar experience. I developed an autoimmune disorder and had pretty significant hair loss while trying to deal with my ex partner. My stress levels were off the chart. I also developed cPTSD, which my therapist is convinced will completely disappear once I no longer have the anxiety in my life that he brought me. It's incredible how a bad relationship can affect your body. Awful stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:28 AM
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Wow - you have repeated what my therapist told me almost verbatim! And you're absolutely right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:51 AM
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This is my last relationship ion a nutshell. Everything you wrote. "You start to think of how to gently bring it up so as not to trigger his delicate emotions, because you’re anticipating a reaction. Of course your concerned feelings come second to the temper tantrums he might throw if you voice a concern" And this was my perpetual state of walking on eggshells around him. It's exhausting and it hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:21 AM
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This is the best comment here. I'm so with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:39 AM
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Gosh, I could have written your post myself. My therapist pointed out to me that exact thing: that someone that actually loved me could never do/treat me the way he did. I am working with her now to move past the guarded feeling when interacting with them. BTW, I love your username! JRT are my favourites, and they ARE terrors!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:19 AM
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My therapist read through some text message exchanges between me and my ex and said "Wow, he is INCREDIBLY selfish and inconsiderate, isn't he?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:57 AM
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Brilliant!! And true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:55 AM
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I wish I hadn't, believe me. It wasn't even worth it, because although he removed her photos and all the gushing he wrote about her, several months later he went right back to following her online on social media, and then argued to defend that choice. I look back now and cannot believe I allowed someone to treat me like that, and to this day, he believes he is in the right. It's sick. The hilarious thing is, I have contacted her and she really dislikes him. He remained obsessed with her for yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:09 PM
7

I had a therapist tell me the same thing, and also said it can point to narcissism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:04 AM
12

I do that. I see the message come in and just delete it without even reading a single word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:30 AM
5

You are so right. I have experienced #1 and #2 on repeat. It's never for closure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:23 AM
5

I love when they're trying to sound intelligent and then use a word incorrectly, thinking they're correct. Gives me such a laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:20 AM
8

I had a very similar experience. Changed the way I thought about him permanently. He made me beg, plead and cry my eyes out on four occasions before he removed the posts. What the hell is wrong with them that they can't see, or just flat out deny that this is so grossly disrespectful? He said he refused to "sanitise" his social media for the sake of my feelings, and called me pathetic. Then again, this is also a guy who is in denial about assaulting and abusing me and seemingly expects me to jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:10 AM
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hahahaaaa! It's so sad and so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:08 AM
12

Aww thank you! xx Yours, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:33 AM
13

Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:38 AM
6

Another red flag I stupidly ignored. My ex calling many of his ex partners and casual hook-ups "crazy". The only one that missed out on the "crazy" tag was the ex he was utterly obsessed with. I'm sure I get called crazy these days, by him to everyone. I was crazy for putting up with his rubbish for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:22 AM
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Brilliant! And TRUE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:19 AM
5

GREAT book. My therapist gave me a copy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:11 PM
2

yes :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:14 PM
11

Mine did that once. I told him not to, and said I would transfer it straight back.. He insisted I keep it for my medical bills. So I did. I used it to cover some medical costs for cancer treatment. He then used it against me and demanded (in a very abusive manner) that I pay it back during an argument. I was so stupid not to see that coming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:39 AM
5

If they're paying compensation for trauma, mine owes me at least 80K, in my estimation. He has cost me close to 15K in therapy which I didn't ever need before he came into my life and ruined it. His mother offered to pay for my therapy, once. She recognised how abusive he was to me. I should have taken her up on the offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:32 AM
6

Me too!!! It feels SO sleazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:00 AM
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ugh vomit. My ex had "cheeky fun" on his profile after we broke up. And he had the audacity to tell me he was "just looking for friends". Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:48 PM
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I'm interested in opinions, too, as I don't really believe there can be platonic relationships between the majority of men and women. I have the same experience as you: my male "friends" hitting on me when I find myself single. It's pathetic. Also my shitty ex, who flirted with any woman that he possibly could. Especially on social media. It was embarrassing and disrespectful, but according to him, they were always "just friends", and I was the pathetic one for not accepting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:28 PM
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I got "You have nothing to fear from me". Proceeds to be verbally abusive to the point I was diagnosed with cPTSD because of it and also runs over my foot after kicking me out of a moving car. Threw hot tea on my back when I was running out the front door. Yes. Nothing to fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:53 AM
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Absolutely. I got "I hate lying" from a man that constantly told lies...even when there was no need to. Just stupid, white lies, but ALL the damn time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:50 AM
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I have fallen for this one way too many times form the same asshole. He still claims that I have "nothing to fear" from him. I was almost perpetually on high alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:47 AM
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Oh god yes. My ex used to say "but I CHOOSE YOU", like that was some sort of achievement. Awful in every sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:46 AM
2

Deal breaker for me, too. My ex was all Only Fans anal sex accounts and dangerously, a girl that looks younger than my 17 year old daughter on Twitter...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:45 AM
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Oh, I know this. My ex behaves completely differently to his friends online than he does to me, or his immediate family, who he is abusive to. All his friends fall for it. It's crazy to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:28 AM
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My ex does all of these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:26 AM
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Mine actually did run over my foot, after kicking me out of the car (while it was still moving) on a night I was sick and had to collect my daughter. I was in my pyjamas in the middle of the city. I still cannot believe the crap I endured with him. He is easily the worst man I have ever known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:48 PM
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A prison sentence is exactly how it feels!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:46 PM
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I'd believe it. The only man to ever raise his voice to me is also the only man to ever throw hot tea on my back as I ran out the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:44 PM
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It is SO incredibly scary...and when I would tell my ex I was frightened, he would roll his eyes and claim "you have nothing to fear from me". I had EVERYTHING to fear from him. His behaviour is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:41 PM
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It's no way to live. It's utterly exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:40 PM
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Anger issues have got to be some of the worst things to deal with. You live on the razors edge never knowing when they'll lose it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:38 PM
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Yes, I was always fearful of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:36 PM
2

This is my experience, too. He's a nice as can be to everyone else. Abusive as hell to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:34 PM
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Oh wow - I could have written your post myself. Mine shoved his face inches away from mine, pointed in my face and yelled the SECOND day I was with him!! How stupid I was to stay. I placated him, and feel like such a fool, now. I wish I had just walked. My best friend has told me that exact thing - the I am a shell of my former self - since dating this guy. Never, ever ignore the red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:33 PM
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I was really sad, I mean, how hard is it to just stop following the accounts? I thought he was better than that. Showed me how important I was to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:21 PM
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It's recently become a deal breaker for me, for several reasons. My ex followed a couple of Only Fans anal sex accounts and when I mentioned on several occasions that I didn't like it, he pretty much ignored it and kept following them. Deal breaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:02 PM
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YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:50 AM
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This is one of my greatest fears as the mother to two daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:47 AM
13

I'd love to find a man like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:43 AM
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Love this. She is brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:17 AM
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