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REMINDER 👑tiredatheart/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:13 PM
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I've heard these complaints from women who are doms in bdsm communities too. They never truly feel like they're in power because they are still putting on a performance for a man and the performance is exactly how a man directed them to dominate him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:16 PM
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Lately I've been seeing a lot of these men parroting the excuse of "you're responsible for your own orgasm." But apparently that doesn't apply to them. If they were responsible for their own orgasm they would just masturbate and not use someone else's body. It really is all about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:30 PM
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This is a huge problem with fantasy media in general. They could do so many things, but many resort to misogyny, and often racism too, for plot. It's difficult to find something enjoyable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:10 PM
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"Any job where you do not need a particular skill tends to lean dangerously towards exploitation." That's a really good talking point. Especially when arguing why prostitution is bad. A lot of people bring up that it's like any other job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:47 PM
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Honestly everytime I see FDS's standards on other subs they warp what we say. We say we want somebody who is financially stable. They say we want someone with six-figures-plus as the minimum and that we're gold digging. We say we want someone who takes care of their appearance aka hygiene. They say we're looking for supermodels. We say we don't want criminals. If they are a criminal and we didn't know they say we need to pick better. We say we want someone selfless. They say we want a doormat. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:14 PM
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Men have also been brainwashed to think they need porn to masturbate and can't separate the two. They're Pavlov's dogs... Literally. Masturbating to extremes for a small moment of ecstasy is conditioning. Aside from how horrible the porn industry is, they don't realize their sex lives would be better if they weren't conditioning themselves to seek extremes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:42 PM
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Personally, I spend too much time on the internet afterwork and it leaves me feeling kind of empty, so I get back into my hobbies that I neglect. I haven't read a book in a while so I started reading again for fun. The serotonin boost for me comes more from disconnecting from everything for a bit and finding ways to meditate/clear my head. Reading is a good escape, but I also like I paint, exercise, give myself an at home spa day, sit in quiet to nature sounds for a bit, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:21 AM
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I also don't get why people excuse rape fantasy. It's really messed up to fantasize about it, but if you slap "kink" on it it's okay 🙃 Even if it's consenting adults as they say... Why do they think it's okay to get off to harming people? That's not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:17 PM
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"It's just fantasy!" is weird because it feels like it is self admittance that they don't view the women they are lusting over as real people or people to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:57 PM
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I think it mostly ties with pubic hair on women. Men who get up in arms about women who don't wax their pubic hair can be a little pedophilic since children are basically hairless. Pubic hair on women shouldn't be viewed as disgusting when it's guaranteed most men don't shave or trim the hair on their junk. All in all, women shouldn't have to shave if men don't have to. Hair comes with puberty and it's normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:26 AM
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This for sure! It's always "not all men" with them, but they sure ass hell are okay with their friends that are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:11 AM
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Thank you! I appreciate your insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:07 PM
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If I remember correctly didn't that "study" come from PH itself? Like isn't it common knowledge that men roleplay online as adult sites? I wouldn't even say the study was accurate for that alone. What you said too, even for the BDSM community a lot of women admit they're into it because of trauma and it helps them feel "in control" which doesn't make sense to me personally why they are being pushed to self harm. Agree. They don't want people to ask why. They see how it benefits them and that's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:14 PM
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God doesn't it always seem like "she wanted it" or "she enjoyed it" is their excuse, and then in the same breath they also throw out the whole "women just don't like sex" when it also benefits them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:49 PM
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Can't tell if assault is so normalized that they can't recognize it anymore, or if they really don't care and complain that women are sensitive if they don't consent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:04 PM
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I've noticed this is my mixed friend group. When it's dominated by men I feel like I can't get a word in and I'm often ignored. When it's majority women I always feel like I'm being listened to. This is one thing my boyfriend doesn't get when I complain about it. He just says I'm quiet, but it only happens around men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:41 PM
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"the women on this app" Yes. Straight from their mouths that they see women as nothing more than products. Super objectifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:57 AM
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It depends I think. I've also had guys tell me unprovoked that they really like me but don't want to date me because I'm tall. But also my boyfriend is on the shorter side for a guy. I guess some guys see it as a sort of "conquering" thing since women don't really date short men shorter than them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:07 AM
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Men also praise other men for the women they're with and it's creepy. I'm a bit taller than my boyfriend and he tells me that he gets a lot of weird "compliments" from strangers about having a tall girlfriend in weird congratulatory ways. Even weirder, he told me that strangers would come up to him and talk about my boobs. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:21 AM
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I'm against bdsm course, but I've seen so many pro bdsm people excuse people with trauma getting into those circles with "it's just therapy for them!" No, see an actual therapist. This is self harm. No one should be getting into bdsm if they have trauma. That's unhealthy. Would you expect people with nonsexual trauma to reenact their traumas for therapy? I swear it's a cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:29 AM
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They also excuse this by saying "Well who pays the bills??" She does. They act like women don't have jobs like they're all SAHM 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:15 PM
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Yeah... Don't put your guard down too soon. When I was 24 I had a professor in his thirties that would flirt with me a bunch. Even to the point where my classmates would notice and ask me about it. Be safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:45 PM
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My experience is similar. I used to box for fun and men who've never boxed before would critique my form.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:53 PM
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Me too. I'm also someone who likes anime because I'm an artist and I grew up with it. Anime gets a bad rep in this sub, but I think people forget that anime is kind of like live action, as in, there are A LOT of shows out there which means there is also a lot of trash out there. There are still some really good shows and movies in the animation medium. It's important to pay attention to what kind of anime the men you're dating are watching. It is really telling who they are by what shows they wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:17 PM
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I remember seeing somewhere that this is because men have been socialized to view media targeted at women as inferior and it really stuck with me. Because, you know, women are less in their eyes. Kind of how most movies and games have male protagonists unless it's to cater to their gaze. Men don't know how to relate to women but women learn to relate to men from birth. It perpetuates men's lack of empathy towards women. When I see posts like these I feel lucky to have a bf who likes to watch wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:33 PM
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This reminded me of my first experiences with sex too and the terrible sex education people have been taught, or lack of proper education. I couldn't get into sex either and thought I was broken because I didn't feel pleasure whatsoever from just p in v. My friends that were my age would brag about how amazing it was, so I thought to ask them for advice. Asking them, "I can't feel anything with p in v. Is that normal?" They would tell me it wasn't normal and I needed to try new things, different…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:36 PM
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I hate the word now too. It's so empty and means nothing! Totally agree with the idea of appearance being heavily tied to the notion of empowerment as well. Of course there are exceptions, but most times it doesn't make sense. I love fashion as well, my go-to-feel-cute outfit is a miniskirt (woo!) with black tights and chelsea boots. It makes me feel confident... but is confidence really the same as power? I'm conforming to what the patriarchy considers idealistic for women anyways. Then on soci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:59 AM
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Yes! Lately I've been coming to the conclusion that a lot of people are conflating empowerment with social validation which leads to women feeling pressured to do a lot of these things to fit in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:38 PM
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For reals. It feels very similar to how they go about men's rights. They don't do anything about it except to silence women about women's rights and to manipulate them to do all their activism for them. They need to take more initiative to fix their own problems instead of treating all women like personal mommies to fight their battles for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:23 PM
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They want to be complimented, but still would rather it just come from women and not other men most of the time. My boyfriend made it thing to start complimenting his male friends and male coworkers. His friends like it, but his coworkers had homophobic responses at first. After some time now they love it and compliment him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:21 PM
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They call women golddiggers yet make tons of posts like these?? Their brains really do run at the PS5's 120fps because it's smooth asf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:17 PM
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Artist here too! My art history courses barely touched up on the women in art history. They usually got a tiny paragraph in each movement in the textbooks. We would talk about it once and never get tested on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 05:16 PM
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Thank you for sharing this! That stats are horrifying... It's disturbing how common sexual violence is in our media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:23 AM
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I'm going through the exact thing right now from my friend who only talks to me when she needs something, to mental health struggles, and to her forgetting my birthday. It was really strange reading this... It was like having my mind read. I've talked to my other friends about it and they said it was all signs of a toxic friend. It's difficult to avoid her because she's in my friend circle, but like others in the comments are saying, I'm not going to prioritize her. I've decided not to really ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:49 PM
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Don't like that he pushes your boundaries? "WhY dOn'T yOu JuSt COmUnICate??" Communicates and establishes boundaries. "YoU'rE sO CoNTrOlLinG aNd InSeCuRE!!" There's no winning tbh until people realize that it's okay for women to have boundaries. This also overlaps with consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:55 PM
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Honestly I always feel like these men never really interact with women and get their ideas of our "privileges" from movies and tv. Most women I know never experience any of the privileges they claim we have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:11 AM
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I also wish people would talk more about how often directors coerce actors into nude scenes/sex scenes. There are lots of interviews out there with women saying they signed a contract with no nudity required and suddenly the director will flip the script halfway through the film and guilt them into filming something they never consented too. Also the shaming from other actors... "You're just not confident with your body" "It's for the art so it's okay" "You shouldn't be sexualizing the female bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:23 AM
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Kind of have to agree here. Women shouldn't be forced to wear bras, but somehow the idea of bras got turned into patriarchal concept with libfems. Bras, and even corsets going further back, were invented by women and made by women with women's comfort and mobility in mind. Yes, even corsets, a properly tailored corset provides excellent back support. I think cheap manufacturing of the modern day removed the aspect of women's comfort in exchange for mass production. A well fitted bra also shouldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:59 PM
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Once had a male friend who would openly say that he would masturbate to pictures of his female friends and imagine having sex with them... And say it in front of his female friends. Made us all uncomfortable. Glad I'm no longer his friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:07 PM
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Isn't referring to people as "male and female" in the military meant to dehumanize them? Really puts things in perspective when men only refer to women as female and not themselves as male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:42 AM
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You are so right that the female sexual organ is vastly understudied. I spent a lot of my time growing up thinking is wasn't normal for having a larger labia. Google would never help because when I would look for answers it would always result in "you're in the minority of women, so get a labiaplasty." In reality people get so much of their sex education from porn it's ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:16 AM
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The more I am around men the more I realize they have little to no base-level respect for women as they do for their male counterparts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:35 AM
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They complain about the pressures of providing and pretend that most women don't have jobs and provide with their incomes too. Women work full time too and are still expected to provide children, provide free housework, provide cooked meals, and provide free emotional labor. So typical to turn a blind eye to that, pretend housework and child reering isn't that bad, but still refuse to do it themselves. Such incredibly large egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:18 AM
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I actually told my mom about the sexual abuse I got as a child from a family member last week and she tried to downplay it... "Could have been worse."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:33 AM
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