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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
95	This really, really works..	FDS SUCCESS!	tisfemina	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 12:03 AM
5	FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life.	QUEEN SH*T	tisfemina	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/19 08:19 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	FDS works! Met a great guy who meets all the characteristics of a HVM This is good! But slow down a bit hun! You’ve only really been on a handful of dates and he could be anyone.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/01/20 12:01 AM
28	Views on anal sex? I like it. But my partner at the time moved so slow and used so much lube. Personally, I had a good time, would be open to it again. However my current man finds it gross. So guess what I’m not doing? Pushing it on him and guilting him like an insane person.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 09:26 PM
2	Why do Boomers and Gen X men honestly think Millennial and Gen Z women want to date them? The “Ok Boomer” meme came about because we literally can’t stand you. I'm reading this thread as option two and my mind is blown. I didn't realize I was a prostitute a cause I'm in my mid-late 20s and my boyfriend is early 40s. He just had the right approach and I liked him. He's also established and knows how to plan a date. I didn't know this was some big, crime.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/19 05:19 PM
6	Q4RP - Can a seasoned TRP please explain the 'she won't do anal because you'require low value' notion Okay but then that goes back to what OP said. If I did anal a bunch of times, then liked it, so why wouldn't I do it with a new partner?? Is TRP saying that anal is something women enjoy depending on who the partner is? That's ridiculous. It's either you like it or you don't. There's no weird zone where if my bf is "super hot Chad" I'm totally into it, but "beta boyfriend" doesn't get me going. Yeah, young and dumb women do shit they don't like, but if she doesn't like anal there was no point in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/19 05:03 PM
5	Q4RP - Can a seasoned TRP please explain the 'she won't do anal because you'require low value' notion Anal sex, unless it goes really really well, is painful. This is from someone who likes anal. In having discussions with my friends, I'm among the only ones who do. However they have all tried it with their boyfriends at least once. So if a friend goes moves on to another relationship and says she tried anal but hated it, why is a man so interested in doing something she hated? Why is a man eager for a sex act that his partner is ,at best, enduring?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/19 04:49 PM
3	Q4RP - Can a seasoned TRP please explain the 'she won't do anal because you'require low value' notion Sex can happen for a women for so many complicated reasons. I've had sex simply because it was too much trouble to not have sex. I know women who have been bullied, gaslit, lied to, pressured into all kinds of shit. I can't believe there are men out there who think women only have sex cause they want to. We aren't men. Our sexuality functions in a completely different way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/19 04:38 PM
4	Q4RP - Can a seasoned TRP please explain the 'she won't do anal because you'require low value' notion Oh this is completely untrue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/19 04:26 PM
4	Q4RP - Can a seasoned TRP please explain the 'she won't do anal because you'require low value' notion I don't understand this. If anal was a painful experience in my past, that I really didn't enjoy and I tell my partner that, Why the hell would he want to do something that hurts me?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/19 04:24 PM
8	DO NOT SETTLE LADIES Girl, last year I went on one date with a guy. The red flags kept flying in. We decided on a movie and he: sent me the link for the amc ticket so I could buy my own. I should killed it right there, was late to the movie, was shorter than he said on the app, and touchy-feely during the movie. Afterwards he asked what I wanted to do. I suggest we get something to eat and he agrees. Once I'm in his car, (I ubered there) he starts asking if I want Wendy's or McDonald's. He starts complaining about h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/12/19 03:22 PM
4	Dating Older Men in Your 20s = Guaranteed Trauma? Doing it right now and it's going pretty well. He's in his late 30s, I'm in my mid-20s. I didn't intend for it to get serious, but we kept going on dates because I liked his company. I realize that it’s a high risk relationship, so after 4 months, we are still only going out two days a week at my discretion, so I don’t get too caught up in him. He of course pays for everything, and if I say I want to do something he’s makes it happen. I like him, he’s funny and interesting. I just keep at the fo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/12/19 01:43 PM
14	How men learn to hate women I think it's more of a risk-factor than an absolute. No one thing will make a man LV. But it's many things all put together. Bad relationships with parent (dad especially) is just something to look out for.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/12/19 12:49 AM
2	This really, really works.. I've dated around, had two serious boyfriends. I come from a stable home, and I have a good head on my shoulders. And I'm not "caught up", I just like him. Idk, this sub is treating me like I'm a moron who moved in with some loser 3 weeks after I met him. I'm just trying to let the relationship run its course.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 07:55 PM
3	This really, really works.. I don’t know that he’s such a catch, I think he’s a normal (albeit kinda weird) guy. I think he’s kind to me. I think I’ve set a standard for how I want to be treated it and he meets it. He’s a complete human. I love some things about him, I’m annoyed at other things. The good is currently out weighing the bad. If it switches then I will move on, simple.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 05:45 PM
3	This really, really works.. Thanks! Even if he was my age I wouldn't be getting to ahead of myself. I'm just having fun dating this guy, who knows if it's even going anywhere. I know what everyone is saying, it's valid. But it feels crazy to break up with a guy who's only been fantastic to me, because "when we get old, I don't wanna have to take care of you." The dude hasn't even seen my bathroom yet.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 03:33 PM
3	This really, really works.. Honestly, I thought he was mid-30s. He definitely can pass for 34-35, so that was my initial match. I realized he was older when I got the first message, and he said he hoped I had a "creatively inspired summer." Honestly I had to see what that was about, lol. To tell you the truth, I didn’t think it’d go past the first date. Yet, here we are.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 06:41 AM
6	This really, really works.. He thinks they are dumb, I am more of a traditionalist. My dad's a pastor and my parents are high school sweet hearts, so I grew up pretty conservatively. There are somethings I think I should do because I'm a woman and somethings he should do because he's a man. He on the other hand spent his 20s backpacking across America interviewing alternative lifestyle (I.e homeless) people for his book. So he's of the opinion that whatever works for the couple and "who cares what society thinks" and blah …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 06:35 AM
8	This really, really works.. I have my own mind. He will certainly not be putting a kid in me, nor will we be discussing any sort of marriage situation for a least another two years. He just became my boyfriend yesterday, for God's sake. I know the age gap is a red flag, but it’s not like everyone with a gap is destined for disaster. My grandparents have a 15 year gap for example. Frankly, if he’s a bad boyfriend, I will break up with him. That’s really all there is to it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 04:35 AM
8	This really, really works.. You're 100% correct.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 04:10 AM
11	This really, really works.. Right now I'm just enjoying my time with him. No plans of anything until more time has passed. And I'll defend him a bit here. He's put in 15 years in NYCs school system teaching special needs children in addition to playing over 10 instruments and a published author of two books. He's not just some fly by night guy, I wouldn't be involved with that. And we debate about alot of things sometimes politics, gender roles, movies and music. Our conversation is really varied and it's my biggest attrac…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 03:53 AM
14	This really, really works.. You feel like it's love bombing? I admit I was very hesitant with the age difference and looked up all the signs it could turn toxic. He hasn't done anything odd yet. I don't feel pushed by him, and as much as I'm gushing to you guys, I don't let on how great I think he is to him. He's respectful of my space and time, and when I can't see him for a week or so because of school, he doesn't push. He's waited till I was ready for everything. I hear what your saying about women his own age, as well.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 03:10 AM
8	This really, really works.. You are absolutely right. He is very "it will be fine" about our age difference. If he doesn't start to approach it with a serious eye if/when we get more serious, and give me some real assurances, then I will have to let it go. Thanks you for being frank with me. I need that when all my friends think he's the best thing since sliced bread and the age difference isn't a factor.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 02:44 AM
20	This really, really works.. This is the biggest thing. I'm so, so concerned about our future and having to take care of him. He rebuts with he lives a healthy lifestyle (yoga every other day, gym 3 times a week, good diet) and also that life isn’t a guarantee. But still. To be 60 when my husband is 72? I don’t know if I want that. The political differences aren’t that extreme and actually very nuanced. We are both liberals. He is a musician (who does therapy for autistic children as his day job) and a writer. And he basica…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 01:25 AM
54	This really, really works.. All definitely in my head. He's met some friends, but I refuse to let him meet family or talk me into anything serious until I'm SURE. FDS has gotten me here, I'm not gonna abandon ship now.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/19 12:13 AM
10	The Broke Man with Ambition vs The Lazy Broke Man I’ve done alright with grad students. It’s more like the dates themselves we’re cheaper. (coffee dates, happy hour, 2 for $20, he’d order takeout, etc) What you have to look at is the effort. A rich guy may throw money at you and still be trash. But if a guy plans a picnic with some sandwiches and your favorite soft drink, you know he tried.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/19 11:07 PM
5	Has your perception of your brothers or close male friends changed after applying the FDS mindset? Same. I would be so embarrassed to tell my dad/brothers that I paid for things.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/11/19 01:40 PM
20	“For Every Hot Chick, There’s A Dude Who’s Tired Of Having Sex w/ her” Thankyou! This is why I’m eventually going to write a post about how it really is about personality. This is why a girl gives a short guy a chance when he’s funny. This is why a Thor like guy will date a fat chick if cause she wears red lipstick and gives him some sass. You looks will always attract a mate, but it will not make them stay. So women have to stop behaving like a big nose or a few extra pounds means that some guy can treat them like shit.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/10/19 07:10 PM
39	Share your bios with me. My bio gets me little to no matches and that’s the point, I only want to match with men as high value as me. It’s too long and too serious. Never put what you don’t want in your bio, it just advertises that you’ve been fleeced before. Men are on the apps for fun and sex, you have to guide them into a relationship. Your bio should be fun and sexy (Note: by sexy, I mean cute and a tiny bit flirty. Not actually referencing sex) I would keep it two or three lines. One line is a joke, one line is about your hobbies or where you are from, last line is about your girls.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/10/19 12:37 PM
2	Men who don't wanna pay for dates are insecure Exactly! Start off with what’s not gonna fly. Don’t sit there hoping he’ll suddenly start feeling guilty. Men don’t work like that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/10/19 05:44 PM
12	Men who don't wanna pay for dates are insecure I’ve found literally the opposite. No guy “decides” to start treating you better. That’s how women think. You teach men how to treat at you. Early.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/10/19 05:02 PM
12	Doc Martens on a date? Dress however makes you feel feminine! This isn’t RPW where its dresses or bust. But you should always be reminding your date that he is a man and you are a woman. I personally love docs! ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/19 03:10 AM
4	FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life. Thankyou!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/19 02:33 AM
4	FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life. Correct!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/19 12:44 AM
13	FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life. See the sub you’re on.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/19 10:25 PM
10	FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life. She meant to prioritize your life and your things above some guy. We all have been guilty of blowing off friends or something else important to be available for some guy and that’s not the way to stay high value. Of course see the guy that your dating, but don’t drop your routine to accommodate him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/19 09:33 PM
8	FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life. Same! I would be embarrassed to tell my dad/brothers that I paid for things. That should have been my first clue . 🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/19 09:09 PM
1	Trashy. How To Never Pay For A Daye. I don’t understand. If you don’t want to go pay for dates, then don’t go out with women who require that. Simple. What’s so hard about that??	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/19 08:57 PM
1	FDS works, my mother has been doing it my entire life. I had the same realization. It’s horrific,lol. But my mother knows how to keep a HV man, so may as well emulate the master.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/19 08:44 PM