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This comment is hilarious.
/r/seduction05/11/18 03:08 AM
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You're awesome, man. I know what you mean about getting rejected at the club. Eventually it bothers me. Like one or two, I can shrug off, but when it becomes consistent it starts to hurt.
/r/seduction05/11/18 02:59 AM
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This definitely happens. It's pre-selection, but it happens with guys too. People see you with a gorgeous girl, it immediately validates you in their eyes.
/r/seduction03/11/18 12:41 PM
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Thanks man. I kind of know what you mean vaguely, but if you could elaborate that would be great.
/r/seduction08/10/18 01:14 AM
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bro
/r/seduction08/10/18 12:38 AM
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bro
/r/seduction08/10/18 12:34 AM
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What you have to realize that for girls dance floor is like a different world. Just because you were grinding few seconds before doesn't mean they feel sexual towards you. It might, it might not. To them "it's just dancing". I totally get that. I didn't really see it as them being super into me, I saw it as myself being super into them, if that makes any sense. And yeah, I understand that it's just dancing, I was so in the moment and just enjoying it. It was literally like a lap dance. Try pulli…
/r/seduction07/10/18 11:35 PM
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Yeah, that's definitely a great point. She must have a ton of guys all over her. I don't really understand why I was one of the only ones dancing with them. To be fair though, they were on their own in a corner, not on the dance floor when I went up to them. Oh, and I was just there and handed her my phone with the snapchat app loaded, didn't even say anything, just gave it to her and she added herself. I quite liked how confident that came across as (or so I thought it did!). Thanks for the adv…
/r/seduction07/10/18 11:33 PM
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This is caring too much about what other people think. That's actually a really good point. I'll bear that in mind. You did okay by telling them your "friends" were around. Maybe they believed you, maybe they didn't, who cares? Not really getting the quotation marks here. and for some reason I felt inclined to show them my texts while I was trying to find my friends. But honestly, if I was to go on my own, I would just say that. I wouldn't pretend I have friends there. Thanks for the response. O…
/r/seduction07/10/18 11:30 PM
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Haha, is that a reason not to? If anything it puts my worries out of my head and lets me just dance, without a care in the world.
/r/seduction07/10/18 11:27 PM
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I can confirm some strange side effects. I feel like I’m on cocaine. I want to sprint at full speed and jump everywhere and I have way too much energy. I don't see anyone else feeling like this to that extent.
/r/seduction07/10/18 10:49 PM
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Bro, the only consistent factor here is you. If you just try grinding out of nowhere, people are going to get fucking weirded out. You have to build up to it.
/r/seduction07/10/18 10:47 PM
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Not at all. I’m on Citalopram, 40mg. I can’t really speak much for my moods, which fluctuate less than they used to, as I still experience intense depressive states, but my anxiety has all but vanished and it’s fucking amazing. I used to have terrible social anxiety but now I’m comfortable going in a bar on my own and just talking to anyone.
/r/seduction07/10/18 10:46 PM
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Dude 😂
/r/seduction07/10/18 09:42 PM
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Thank you. Are there a lot of girls that are sexually open like that? They were the only ones I’ve seen to that extent yet.
/r/seduction07/10/18 08:56 PM
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Awesome, thanks, I’ll do just that then. It was just so fucking good and I want more you know?
/r/seduction07/10/18 08:53 PM
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Ha! I’m on pretty strong antidepressants so I think the alcohol has a much more adverse effect on me. I’m heading out again tonight, but on my own this time. I wonder how it will go. I’m pretty scared to be honest. edit: the club of choice was closed, went to a few bars but it was just old people and kind dead so I left. sidenote, I realised how fucking far confidence will get you. I hadn't even had a drink yet, but for some strange reason I just felt so confident and was able to talk to people …
/r/seduction07/10/18 08:46 PM
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Do you guys think there’s anything I can do about the snapchat thing? I really want to hit them up again ugh
/r/seduction07/10/18 08:43 PM
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That's a really good point, thank you. I always worry way too much about if I'm going to make the girl uncomfortable or awkward, and so I end up not really doing anything. That definitely makes a lot of sense. If we were talking for a long time and I touched her suddenly, of course she'd be creeped out. I guess I should read up on escalating physically, because I'm not sure too much about what I'd do initially. And I think it's really important to not try and hide under the guise of anything. Li…
/r/seduction07/12/17 08:46 PM
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Thank you! The initial approach was definitely the hardest thing for me. I actually could have done it a lot better than I could have though. I kept myself very firmly in the friend-zone, not that I necessarily wanted more, but I would have liked the prospect to be open and for there to be a flirtatious vibe. I didn't ask for her number out of some fear of how she would perceive that if that makes any sense. And she lived quite far away, and was a fair few years older than me, I think I felt a b…
/r/seduction07/12/17 06:39 PM
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Thanks Todd. I will do those two things, and then check out your videos!
/r/seduction06/12/17 10:20 PM
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Hey Todd, is there any advice you could offer to a 19 year old virgin, who doesn't have many friends, who really wants to change things? Thanks!
/r/seduction06/12/17 08:07 PM
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That is an amazing insight. Thank you so much for sharing this.
/r/seduction16/10/17 06:47 PM
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As someone who has this problem, low self esteem and struggles with self worth in general, thank you so much for writing this. It was really helpful and I'm writing if in my notes!
/r/seduction03/02/17 07:56 PM
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What the guck man. Really happy for you but damn, you must be stupidly good looking if they gave it to you without even talking to you omg
/r/seduction03/02/17 07:38 PM
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Well said. I'm 18 and I struggle a fair bit with talking to girls, mainly due to lack of experience I think and so I sometimes check out this subreddit. 1,2 and 4 are incredibly obvious things to do, though I guess a guidline on them might be helpful to some people. 5 is ridiculous and has to be a joke and something really bothered me about 3 but I couldn't quite pinpoint it until your reply. It's like you're being false by opening with one thint, she'll help you if she's kind, then shoving in h…
/r/seduction20/10/16 12:11 AM
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The amount of confidence it would show would be off the charts. Go for it. Look her Dad in the eye while you do.
/r/seduction17/06/16 11:18 AM
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That's really kind of awesome actually. I do kind of agree. It's just I'm really really tired and bored of looking and masturbating to girls that aren't real. I can't do it anymore. I want something real so, so, fucking bad.
/r/seduction16/06/16 10:33 PM
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"I understand. We could always skip the drink if you'd prefer. ;-)" OH MY GOD I WISH I THOUGHT OF THIS FOR FUCKS SAKE OMG The point is to acknowledge what she said, possibly tease her a little bit, and make it clear the door is still open on your side - without doing anything that looks like pestering or pressuring her to change her mind. That's utterly fantastic advice. I will stick to that, thank you!! :)
/r/seduction16/06/16 10:32 PM
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To be honest that was kind of the reason I wanted to ask that here rather than on nofap. I really wanted an educated opinion from people with life experiences and who have gone through similar situations? But I understand, thanks for explaining.
/r/seduction16/06/16 09:07 PM
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Wow. What you've written is amazing. That's such a fucking amazing idea. To just ask why. I know why though, at least I think I do. Why am I so angry and frustrated? It's because that girl is so, so fucking beautiful and I don't know her. I want to know her. I want to talk to her. Why? I'm stuck there. That's honestly such a fantastic idea though. I'm going to do that. I'm going to see how I change and explore it. The main feelings and thoughts that arise are biological in nature though, and the…
/r/seduction16/06/16 09:05 PM
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That's a good idea to try it and find out for myself, I think I will do just that, thank you! I've done it a few times a while ago, and I'd find myself doing things I would never normally do, and thinking things I would never normally think. The problem with the energy I have is that it's so, so much and in comes out in the form of sheer rage and frustration at everything.
/r/seduction16/06/16 07:58 PM
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Thanks for your response, but did you remove my post?
/r/seduction16/06/16 07:55 PM
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Thanks again for your response! Thank you for the reassurance. I was very worried that I wrote was really bad. In terms of something more flirtatious, what would you say to her saying that? I'm so curious! Haha that does make sense, and it could happen, you're right!! I most definitely will toy with her and be flirty, and you kinda nailed it with mutual ego gratification hehe! And wow. that's incredible oh my god.
/r/seduction16/06/16 04:47 PM
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It was still my fault though, sorry!
/r/seduction14/06/16 11:48 AM
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Oh my god I'm so sorry. I thought you replied to my newer post, not this old one!! None of what I just wrote is relevant at all! I didn't know her at all, it is to this date, the only cold approach I've done.
/r/seduction14/06/16 11:01 AM
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Well I asked her and she said she'd love to, I wrote about this in the dialogue! And if you look at the edit, you'll see why she didn't. She is married and very close friends with my mum, I don't think she wanted to do anything to sabotage that. I mean my mum would probably hate her and think she's digusting if she did anything with me.
/r/seduction14/06/16 10:40 AM
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I think you really need to establish a connection and a rapport before you start being direct with them, otherwise it would just be weird. And we clicked almost instantly, interestingly enough! My heart was racing as I suggested to her we go out together, it was so fucking risky. And she liked it. She wanted to do it. I'm still a bit sad she didn't but I understand why.
/r/seduction14/06/16 09:58 AM
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England?
/r/seduction14/06/16 08:43 AM
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I don't see how I was being desperate. She knows I never drink, I was inviting her to hang out, in secret, outside of her friends and my mum, which is a very risky thing for her to do. I'm not going to be too direct, as seeing as she is my mums friend, that might scare her off. But I see what you mean. How do you think I can show it to her that I can rock her world. Because I honestly believe I could. I had so much energy in me then, I was literally roaring and growling. If I had my hands on her…
/r/seduction14/06/16 08:42 AM
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It's okay buddy. I understand why. Thank you though lol
/r/seduction14/06/16 08:36 AM
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She definetely works out, but based on what she said, I don't think she wants to hang out with me; as she doesn't want to keep any secrets from my mum, they are very close friends. It was one night. I'm not going to keep pressing her and being stalkerish. If I see her again, sure I'll be flirty. But I'm not going to keep inviting her to stuff, it will seem very desperate.
/r/seduction14/06/16 08:34 AM
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How the hell did I fuck it up?
/r/seduction13/06/16 10:29 PM
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Hey David, she did reply but it didn't go too well.. http://imgur.com/5VngnNL
/r/seduction13/06/16 09:40 PM
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Good question lol, I got it from my mum
/r/seduction13/06/16 09:39 PM
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Hey! Thank you for your incredibly detailed reply. I'm definitely not, no! And wow. I'm honestly in disbelief a little. That makes a lot of sense. I texted her and this was her reply: http://imgur.com/5VngnNL I think she is afraid of it conflicting with everything, getting judged by her friends and it potentially ruining her friendship with my mum. I replied, thinking of my mum, saying I understood because I don't want to ruin her friendship with my mum at all. In hindsight I should maybe have b…
/r/seduction13/06/16 08:11 PM
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I appreciate you saying it. What could I have done?
/r/seduction13/06/16 04:12 PM
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She pretty much said exactly that, and not subtly at all. I understand though.
/r/seduction13/06/16 03:46 PM
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Yup, you are pretty much right to be honest. I did try and move it forwards though.
/r/seduction13/06/16 03:46 PM
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I did!! See my last edit omg
/r/seduction13/06/16 01:38 PM
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DUDE I WISH OMG
/r/seduction13/06/16 11:54 AM
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Maybe she has an open relationship with her husband? I'm sorry you've been so badly hurt by someone.
/r/seduction13/06/16 11:39 AM
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I think I already have blown it. She hasn't replied. :/
/r/seduction13/06/16 10:23 AM
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But what if she doesn't reply? It's almost midday and she still hasnt. And I hope you don't mind my asking but why is it weak af? I thought it'd be quite cool to hang out together like that. And she is married and lives with her two sons so getting together at her house would probably be borderline impossible.
/r/seduction13/06/16 10:22 AM
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I kind of did something really bad. I got her number from my mum. I said I wanted to say "thanks". I texted her saying: "Hi Bev, this is x! I had a lovely time today so thank you! And I'm guessing you weren't serious then? Hehe" She hasn't replied. I think I might have blown it :S
/r/seduction13/06/16 01:19 AM
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That is some seriously good advice, especially with finding excuses to touch her. She wouldn't stop touching me all the time hehe! But the party's over? I just got home? I don't think there's going to be another party anytime soon..
/r/seduction13/06/16 01:04 AM
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BUT HOW CAN I GIVE HER ME IF SHE CANT CONTACT ME (sorry!)
/r/seduction13/06/16 12:57 AM
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I did try! But she never did give me her number, and I don't understand why?!
/r/seduction13/06/16 12:35 AM
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Hehe that's actually brilliant advice, providing I don't take it too far (m'lady anyone? :D), thanks!
/r/seduction28/04/16 05:07 AM
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I know. If you read the comments, I came to the same conclusion. What do you think I could do better? Like I didn't necessarily want anything romantic with her, I just wanted to talk to her more than anything.
/r/seduction28/04/16 05:06 AM
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Thanks! I'm sorry but I heavily disagree with the first point, I think that just sounds really awkward, it was just casual, and it seemed like she was curious. I was kinda happy that she asked, to me it showed interest on her part. And um sure I was acting boyish but I do look seriously young, I think that's more it. I like your answer though, it's really forward, flirty and funny hehe. Oh my god the forbidden fruit thing is sooo good. I mean I'm not actually expecting anything to happen but jus…
/r/seduction28/04/16 05:05 AM
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Mark Manson :)
/r/seduction28/04/16 04:48 AM
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I can imagine in a mall it would be. If it's somewhere like a pool hall like bioticman said, you'll be a "regular." That's all. Bur if you're always going to a mall(the same mall) and just cold approaching people for weeks on end I could definetely see you being labelled as that.
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:52 PM
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Would love to hear how you get on, but I think it could sound pretty desperate. I think you'd have to connect with her, and let the friendship develop naturally rather than try and artificially induce it. An example is you meet a girl you really like and think is so cool, you click with her. So ask her if she wants to hang out sometime or do x or y with you. Then it will develop naturally, on it's own.
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:50 PM
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That's such awesome, yet simple advice! And I agree so muc with what you said about people being able to sense if you have ulterior motives, it just comes across somehow. I think we behave more flirty when we do. We push things a bit. The thing is, what if you don't know if you want to be friends or more than that? What if you just want to get to know her first.
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:47 PM
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This is literally the exact opposite of what you should read. I've read some of it and the way it refers to and treats women is absolutely disgusting. I'm genuinely suprised by the amount of women that follow Islam.
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:43 PM
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When you say set boundaries, how do you mean exactly? Do you mean be firm as in setting a date? Sorry I'm quite new to this!
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:39 PM
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Don't mention it at all. Have a date with her as a person, as an individual.
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:17 PM
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You can just tell.
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:15 PM
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Please!
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:18 PM
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You described it perfectly. It's an insane rush and I just feel so so overloaded and overwhelmed. And that's a really good idea, to just treat each approach as a learning opportunity and to just have fun with it. To do it for self amusement. Thanks! I'm a virgin so I doubt that's going to be happening anytime soon.
/r/seduction27/04/16 07:29 PM
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Oh wow, thanks for the heads up! What should I say then? I don't know the word you would call someone from a soviet/eastern europe country. Like for asia there's asian?
/r/seduction27/04/16 07:21 PM
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I don't think she was being a bitch. I think she was just a bit suprised and didn't understand why I wanted to talk to her. Had I made it clear that I was attracted to her and that was why I wanted to talk to her maybe she wouldn't have been so at lost of why I wanted to talk to her?
/r/seduction27/04/16 05:04 PM
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Ahhh thanks for explaining. Yeah I really wish I just told her that I find older women attractive instead of saying there's no girls my age here (whyy lol) I think it just happens so quick there's no time to think about it. What should I say if she says do you come here just to talk to girls? I thought what I said was okay? Hehe I can imagine, it shows a ton of confidence
/r/seduction27/04/16 11:34 AM
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dude I KNOW RIGHT! My mind was going crazy too, being so irrational exactly like what you said, I don't wanna die argh. I think it's so easy to stay where we're comfortable, but I don't want to be where I am. I hate where I am. I really want to change everything. It better be the first of many, thanks for the kind words! Have you had any successes yet? :)
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:53 AM
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I guess! I think the hardest bit is knowing you can do it. Once you do the first approach, that's out of the way, and you know you can!
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:50 AM
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Seriously. I was just thinking how can you just say that to a normal woman omg
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:48 AM
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I couldn't not man, she was soooo gorgeous. thanks :)
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:47 AM
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Awww thanks! I will try! :)
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:47 AM
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beta shamed? wtf and no she didn't say anything about not being available. one thing I noticed is that she had the kik app on her phone. I have it too. And I use it for 100% sexual stuff...
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:46 AM
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Haha thanks! It took such balls to do it because 2 minutes before I approached her, when she was just sitting down this huge 6ft bodybuilder approached her and said something to her and she smiled at him and said thanks. But like I'm really skinny and just 5'5" so it really did take major balls omg.
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:45 AM
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Haha it totally was! She was definitely testing me. Like I said I wish I just told her that I find older women attractive instead of saying there's no girls my age. It could have led somewhere so different! And thank you! I hope I can continue this! :)
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:43 AM
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That's such a good point about the what question. She made a statement on her own, independent of me asking her any questions, which is a big step! I should've at the end, I'll keep that in mind. If somebody shows interest in something, I'll ask them about it! Thanks :) And I do disagree with what you said about an out. Most of all I didn't want her to be uncomfortable. I wanted to be sure she was okay with me being there, that I was not harassing her or invading her personal space. The thing is…
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:42 AM
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Thanks for the reply! You think? When she asked me why, and I said because I wanted to, do you want me to go, she said no, she's just really suprised/shocked like she didn't expect it. Which kind of makes sense I guess. It's London so people aren't american friendly! Aww, thanks dude :)
/r/seduction26/04/16 11:06 PM
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