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If I'm ever gonna talk about my SO to anyone, it's only praise or sharing something that has happened relating to him. If I ever have an issue with him and I need to "talk about him" to someone, I know this is a sign that I need to talk to HIM, and just him. It is the only way to resolve any issue or qualms you have. Talking to other people could be helpful but they are rarely worth your time, in my experience, mostly when I talked to my girlfriends about issues concerning our relationship, it w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 07:31 AM
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He's an ENTJ as well. I'm an INTJ, which is apparently rare for females. Though the Myers-Briggs test isn't 100% accurate, I like to use it as a template and not a rule. I am essentially the introverted version of my boyfriend. I am comfortable doing things behind the scenes and that's what makes us such an incredible duo. I don't "need" to be the star of the show. I am happiest when he is, because I'd rather observe + support (or rather, help propel his successes) than jump right in and take ov…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 11:58 PM
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SO and I like to be explorative in our own city, and try new restaurants that we never gone to. Because its summer, we like roaming around downtown, just enjoying eachother and then hunting for a place to eat with a patio of some sort to have dinner and drinks and people watch. My favourite date was when we went to this indian fusion type restaurant that has these really interesting twists on traditional indian cuisine. We had this coconut curry "poutine" thing that was sooo good! We still talk …
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 11:46 PM
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very true, I also just want them to stop talking about it bc it feels so wrong to discuss and makes me uncomfortable. I was hoping that telling her my opinion would dissuade her from bringing it up
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/17 07:45 PM
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Yes! These are all of the reasons why I think they're terrible, though written out 10x more eloquently. It seems like a recipe for complete disaster
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/17 07:02 PM
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Interesting about that report...I guess I just don't think its right. If you married that person (or are engaged, essentially the same thing) you should be committed to them and ONLY them. To seek out other people goes against the whole point of marriage to me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/17 05:16 PM
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Maybe its due to where you live, but I find that the generation that you are speaking about are just as "me" as the millennials. During this time was the baby boom phenomenon. Divorce, birth control and feminism made their debut in this time. All of my older relatives (aunts, my parents, uncles) are very much this way and can't even begin to understand why I am the opposite. I'm glad you've found some lovely ladies though! Good friends no matter what age is awesome :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:37 PM
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Thanks! I'll ask him if he'd mind, but that looks super handy :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 05:32 PM
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My SO loves music, and has many different types of headphones (that apparently do different things, like open hear, sound cancelling, etc). Anyways, because he uses them so often all the chords get tangled and strewn about his desk. Whenever I'm over at his place I'll wipe down all of his sound equipment + dust, then start unknotting all of the chords and put all of his headphones neatly on his headphone stand that I got him for Xmas. Whenever he sees his clean desk + organized headphones he's s…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 05:19 PM
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I agree, if there is something big and deeply bothering you, you MUST discuss it with your man ASAP. I used to try to do this "wait it out" thing where I'd try to handle some issues by myself, but when i finally talked to my SO about it, he actually got upset that I didn't tell him sooner. His reason was "I could have helped you fix it sooner, I don't like knowing you were unhappy for x amount of days". And I agree. If he really is someone you trust, then bringing big issues to him right away is…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 07:06 PM
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I'm mostly called mousey because I'm small person and I love small animals. I think he mostly calls me that because I'm "cute". He also calls me love/lovey/baby/baby girl (which I adore)
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 10:23 PM
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I feel you hard on this one. Before I met my now bf, I was a virgin through and through, hadn't kissed a guy (except on the cheek lol), and no form of sexual intercourse ever. I had a few boyfriends but I never "gave it up". However, I felt really pressured to do so. By my friends, society as whole and the guys. I felt like I was "lame" or undesirable for being a virgin. However, when I met my now boyfriend, he told me that he thought it was amazing and surprising that I still had my virginity a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 09:57 PM
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Easier said than done. I don't want to care about my parents' opinion about my SO, but the reality is that I do. I'm working on that. I "get" that you're trying to be helpful but from your comment it is clear that you don't really get it. If you go ahead and read in my replies to comments, I am aware of my shortcomings. However, these things take time. I can't magically forget about my parents and suddenly disregard their opinion, and I hope you understand that. From what I read from your commen…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:20 PM
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Some girlfriends of mine don't really like him, but solely because he is pretty conservative and adamantly disagrees with a lot of the PC movement. The friends of mine who don't like him that much are really liberal feminist types. The ones that really like him are my best friends and cousins. I have talked to my boyfriend before, and he says it doesn't bother him because I don't let (and I try really hard to, but sometimes it creeps up on me) it bother me. The way my parents treated me isn't "m…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:18 AM
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Yeah, I have, they always maintain that he 1) has never tried to get to know them (reality is that he has attempted to meet with them multiple times, each occasion ending with them completely ignoring his attempts for contact) or 2) he seems like a "loser" (I really don't think so, hes hardworking and incredibly smart, also has a high emotional intelligence and is far from a loser in my opinion)
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:14 AM
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yeah :) that is what I was getting at, sorry guys for not being clear!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:12 AM
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They really are "my second family". I spend all of the major holidays with them, and my first real Christmas was with them. They celebrate it in the big Italian Catholic way, and I remember getting gifts so generous I cried. After everything that has gone awry, at least I have them. As for walking down the aisle, I agree, I guess for some it is just not possible, but my friend points out that it doesn't have to be my dad, it could be my brother, or my cousin, etc. Which is nice
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 08:28 PM
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Thank you, I am putting 100% in my relationship with my SO, but I am guilty of internally waging this fruitless battle for my parents' approval. It's hard to come to terms with, but thank you for pointing it out :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 08:16 PM
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OP I do agree with this too, along with what I was saying above, maybe you should also take some time and learn to "surrender" like u/MsSadieDunham is saying. So, even if you MIL doesn't do things exactly how you like, you won't get yourself if a cycle of stress and frustration when you already have so many other things to tend to (ie: BABY!)
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:44 PM
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I think the key here is knowing how to communicate your wishes to your MIL, if she is defensive, you should try expressing how grateful you are for her taking care of your kids last time, compliment how she has raised your husband and would like her to be a part of this process of bringing home the baby. Also try to be a bit vulnerable by expressing how you felt when you got the c-section (but do NOT say it like you are blaming her for how you felt) and say that you hope she can help you out wit…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:40 PM
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What about your mother? A childless friend? Sisters? If not, I would talk to your MIL, maybe go over all of the things that are really important for you to have done when you come home. Though I do agree that she should "know better", maybe she has been out of mom-mode for so long she forgets to stay on it. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt unless there are other things she neglects. I think both of you would benefit going over things and talking it through :) It will also be nice for your h…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 05:18 PM
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I agree somewhat, but it makes things easier to have partner to bear the burden with you. Trusting your SO to handle things you may not have the ability to take care of/ don't have the time for (ex: maybe you have kids to take care of, or you have something big coming up at work, any other issue that could come flying in would further distract you from your main goal/further stress you out, so your SO handles it knowing it is something that will help you). Having your SO handle things is not bei…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 04:38 PM
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No problem! :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 12:07 AM
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Also, no genders are not equal, because they are wholly different. They complement each other, like puzzle pieces, but they are not the same/equal. Women actually don't really want equality if you've noticed. Feminists want to be placed higher than men and others want to be more submissive. Please also note that submissive is not to be conflated with weakness. Women are naturally weaker than men (physically) (but we make up for it in emotional intelligence), and require protection. This actually…
/r/MensRights09/05/17 05:22 PM
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its not about giving a free pass ahahahha no one gets a free pass really. It's about identifying those who don't have the physical strength to protect themselves. These groups are women and children. It is obvious that women are weaker physically than men. Also, if you are not aware, 4AM on the subway in any metropolitan city its a one way ticket to sketchville. Any gender would be at risk of anything happening to them, but women are at a higher risk of getting seriously hurt than men. Why? Beca…
/r/MensRights09/05/17 05:15 PM
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Whenever my boyfriend and I go shopping (which is quite rare), I'll pull something off the rack and before I can even ask him, he'll say "no, that looks cheap" or something. Once, I showed him a dress in this rather high end boutique with the sales associate standing right there and I asked "baby what do you think of this?" Him: "thats $150??! It looks like a potato sack, look the fabric isn't even soft. This is garbage" The sales associate looked like she was going to faint right there. I love …
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 04:42 PM
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I also want to add that it is a blessing that women are not the naturally dominant ones, I mean just imagine the burden and the responsibility it takes to be head of the household. I think it's why you see a lot of miserable women these days, duped in to thinking that the dominant role is the way to go, force fed to them by 3rd wave feminism, thus leaving them tired, spread thin and ready to give up. In my opinion, women thrive best being submissive, it makes us happy to have someone we trust ta…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 05:18 PM
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Though my own grandparents aren’t a good example of a strong marriage (divorced baby boomers), my boyfriend’s maternal grandparents are really quite something to look to. His grandmother definitely treats his grandfather like a king, never emasculating him (in contrast to his paternal grandfather and step-grandmother, who chides him in public and makes fun of how he can’t use the stairs…she much younger than him and it’s awkward sometimes to listen to). They are around 75+ but still seem to real…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 05:05 PM
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