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tofusoju/r/seduction27/05/12 05:08 PM
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I don't know what you mean by "love" but yes once one side shows the affection it can be possible for the other side to feel those butterflies. You've never had a girl that showed you affection and you began to start thinking about them more and having those feelings? Same thing.
/r/seduction30/06/12 11:03 PM
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ignore her. don't be there for her as a friend. make her "question" the friendship once you do this, you can start over again with her in a way.
/r/seduction30/06/12 11:00 PM
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What it comes down to is why would you need secondaries? Because the "primary" can't fill all your needs right? So instead of finding a primary that can come close to being it all, you find one that is okay with secondaries and flings. Which is what I do not get even more so than "open marriages".. now instead of just sex being insufficient from the primary, you are saying that primary can't even fill your emotional needs as well. I'm just trying to understand.
/r/seduction29/05/12 06:56 PM
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My understanding of poly means that you would see all the woman as "equal" and I feel that is just not possible. It's more open and better communication because within the group they all want that same thing, which is a big thing, wanting multiple relationships within that group. It just feels like a crutch. If anyone in the group would want a relationship with someone else but someone wouldn't want they, they wouldn't be able to say anything because "you're poly". Which leaves out all the issue…
/r/seduction29/05/12 06:35 PM
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You could have had your arms around her to keep her warm the first time? If it's cold the next time, bring another jacket for her to wear so she won't be cold. "Here so your warm" Then you take her hand and put it in the pocket of yours. "Forgot the gloves" "Now your body's warm, I'll keep those hands warm for you" And you did the stroll twice in a row? Why not go out for food, bar, movies, etc?
/r/seduction29/05/12 05:58 PM
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The guys that say they are poly seem to have issues of their own. Even having a deep level of commitment with one woman is hard, but they are "poly" so they can have that level of commitment with multiple? I feel most people use the term poly as a crutch and excuse to why they aren't monogamous because they themselves aren't really willing to put in that effort. However, what paradox said about trust is very important.
/r/seduction29/05/12 05:47 PM
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Monogamy is real. It's just people aren't willing and committed enough. All relationships have their problems and issues. While in a relationship, to act on that impulse and sleep around is wrong, however, most people are scared, unwilling to let what they have already go. Since you're talking about more of a sexual manner, she might have the best guy emotionally that she "loves" but the sex isn't as good. So she might be very compatible emotionally to the guy, sexually they aren't quite compati…
/r/seduction29/05/12 05:38 PM
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Just to create discussion. Why would it be douche bag to enable it? Does a woman belong to a man that it would be douchy to do anything with her as if she were a possession?
/r/seduction28/05/12 01:02 AM
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This was my first thought after reading Bookey's post too. While it would be principle like if you were steal a guy's wallet cause it got left out, this is another human being who has the choice to cheat or not.
/r/seduction28/05/12 12:54 AM
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Timetravel_fanof... is that on purpose? Fan of time travel, but the time travel goes "back" in time so its now time travel fan of? lol Seems like on here most people would say it affects your game negatively, but that is not something I really understood. Confidence isn't something that just "goes away" every time you have your own quality time. So I feel that to most guys, its like a placebo mindset, to get into that mindset of "Wow I didn't masterbate I can go get girls!". Whatever has to be d…
/r/seduction27/05/12 05:25 PM
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how come you go to the clubs alone? why not try to make friends out of clubs first?
/r/seduction24/05/12 02:58 AM
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Its because you just see them as friends, which is completely normal. But its good because through them you'll meet more girls and more girls who you might have an interest in.
/r/seduction23/05/12 09:14 PM
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Not to burst your bubble but isn't this how just a normal friendly waitress is suppose to behave...
/r/seduction23/05/12 08:31 PM
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So you're not really getting friendzoned because you're friendzoning them to. I don't get what it is that you're actually having a problem with? You're not attracted to them as something more than friends so you're just having friendships with them. Are you asking how to get sexually attracted to girls? lol
/r/seduction23/05/12 06:54 PM
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It's a fun, exciting game to play. It's not all about sex, it can help for finding meaningful relationships be that even new friendships. You aren't suppose to even think about this.
/r/seduction16/05/12 04:31 PM
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RESPOND TO ALYX! Its either in your head that Rita is looking at you more or she is doing that because you are just her friend and she doesn't want to lose that to the other girls. The more you ignore her the more she will try to get you back. And if it leads into whatever you want it to be, she will friendzone you again. Then you will have lost Alyx. RESPOND TO ALYX.
/r/seduction13/05/12 05:46 AM
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I'm pretty sure doesn't O from you anyway =P You'll be the one suffering lol
/r/seduction13/05/12 02:44 AM
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I better way to snag her attention especially after a fail such as this one... would be "excuse me, do you have the time" right back at her and play off having "time" to hang out =]
/r/seduction10/05/12 11:40 PM
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Why not just do it here? It seems like you made a throwaway anyway.
/r/seduction07/05/12 02:14 AM
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you make her forget the age difference by not thinking about stuff like this... just because she said she wanted friendship, doesn't mean that she wont bang you.. and once you bang them its easier to get more emotionally attached and the girl might be more open to a relationship
/r/seduction07/05/12 01:59 AM
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I don't think "hip movements" are a issue without it being related to dancing... ...this is one of the oddest questions I've seen
/r/seduction07/05/12 01:45 AM
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Awkward. Why did you not say it jokingly? The first thing I thought about after reading this was use that "fail" for the better. If that was me, later on I would go to where they are sitting and JOKINGLY say "do you want me to pick up that trash before i go" (something to that effect) to initiate conversation again and either put down a business card or say what you really do and bring it to a close for the night.
/r/seduction05/05/12 06:59 PM
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Just realize that it takes time... Think how hard it is to get a girl to be your friend... then think about why a guy would want to be your friend when he takes you out you are just competition if he already has a group of friends... Friendship and social networking takes more time then just a hook up.
/r/seduction05/05/12 09:18 AM
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There are girls that you are physically attracted to and emotionally attracted. If both work out, chances are it will turn into a relationship. But there are girls that you are attracted to physically (sexy time) but that you don't have the emotional connection to see yourself in a relationship with them. You don't think this will be the same for girls as well? You get to the point where it leads to making out and about sex, but don't attach to her like a bf would and don't let her attach to you…
/r/seduction02/05/12 06:27 PM
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I think you need to re-read and re-read your tldr. If you want sex for now then go get that for now and if the right girl happens to come up then lead that into a relationship. You do realize that there are girls like you that don't want to be in a relationship but still want sex right.
/r/seduction02/05/12 05:56 PM
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Just straight up tell her you want to be fuck buddies. You have nothing to lose either way. But you really want to drive out 2 hours to fuck?
/r/seduction01/05/12 07:25 PM
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The point about "don't give a fuck" isn't that you actually don't give a fuck because you obviously want a girl for a possible relationship, sex, etc... don't give a fuck means do not care about failure. Go and make mistakes.
/r/seduction01/05/12 06:48 PM
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No. Don't ask after the next date just like that... i mean ask the ones that you went on one date already that you haven't had contact in awhile. Asking a girl right after a date is weird. And bar/club is different from a "date" setting. Dynamics are different.
/r/seduction01/05/12 04:47 AM
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What did you do to make the conversation turn. If she is on university tv then you have to understand she probably gets random guys like you somewhat regularly and used the same line about how its important to watch etc.. plus a girl that is active like that has tons of friends and guys around her regularly. What makes you special then?
/r/seduction01/05/12 03:52 AM
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You are asking a really vague question without giving any details on anything. If you don't really care about a future with any of them again and if it has been awhile since you talked or met them. It wouldn't be a bad idea to just message them and ask what kept them from going on a second date with you. And just take what they say as a learning experience. You'd come off pretty sad to them but if you message them with the intention that you are trying to learn and if your dates are ending prett…
/r/seduction01/05/12 03:43 AM
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You will probably know if you keep trying to work the "meta-game" but you increase your chances by finding out what type of girl they are and what retort back would make you better your chances. You said you usually act cool/aloof about it. Now think about which type of girls responded better to you when you did and which didn't. The next time a type of girl that responded better to you talks sexually, just use your cool/aloof method. If you feel that its a type of girl that being cool/aloof did…
/r/seduction01/05/12 01:20 AM
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you aren't doing anything wrong. there are plenty more others out there. you still like her and you are here to "have a reason" to go say sorry to her and just keep her around if you get any responses where you were wrong. truth is that you didn't. you can be friends with her after you find another girl and can just start talking to her then and who knows if her feelings might change. but if you keep sticking around her, everything she will do will seem like she using you. but you just said you …
/r/seduction30/04/12 11:45 PM
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glad you are starting to figure out the game. sometimes you win and sometimes you lose but its more fun when you learn and have more skills at your disposal
/r/seduction30/04/12 11:35 PM
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hopefully you won't be back after a girl breaks you again
/r/seduction30/04/12 09:10 PM
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You think too much. Just do it.
/r/seduction30/04/12 09:00 PM
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