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Just tell her honestly. There's no real reason to try and be sneaky about it. If that's a dealbreaker for her, have enough decency to be straight with her and let her make the choice for herself
/r/seduction28/03/15 04:45 PM
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Sup?
/r/seduction08/11/14 11:57 AM
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Yo Well technically Roseville but it's close enough
/r/seduction08/11/14 11:57 AM
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That's definitely the only thing that works for me, if I think too much about it then I start to pick it apart and look for any reason why it will sound off and over-analyze it to a degree that the woman in question never would In fact, the things that have worked best for me have been the things that I made up on the spot. They sound more natural and less canned because... well they are
/r/seduction26/10/13 02:13 AM
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Don't! It's still a compliment and it's still something! Just don't get in your own head, once you get the urge to say it, just let it out! Maybe you'll sound stupid, maybe you won't! I'd still rather be the guy that tried and sounded cheesy than the quiet kid that never said anything at all Saying anything at all is still a step in the right direction, since a good amount of people won't even go that far
/r/seduction26/10/13 01:39 AM
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I don't mean to even try to understand how it feels to battle depression, as I've never really had to work through it but I can imagine a big part of this combating those feelings is that it makes you feel alive. I never feel more alive, more conscious of the people around me and the feelings my body is feeling than when I'm out there meeting new people Think about it, you pass by hundreds of people every day and you might see one or two actively approaching people. That's YOU when you do this. …
/r/seduction26/10/13 12:26 AM
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I'm loving the energy here, it's got me all pumped up just reading it! Keep this going though, don't let this be the peak, make it the first in a long line of awesome nights! Also don't let it be an excuse in your mind to not get better. You slayed the approach anxiety, for sure, and that's something to be proud of and happy for but don't forget that you really didn't get any sort of results here. Now that you can approach, work on closing
/r/seduction23/10/13 10:20 PM
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"A fedora or unusual (yet formal / classy) hat is a good choice, as is a tie with something funny on it (sayings, photos, etc)" I can't respect any fashion guide that suggests I wear a fedora or a gimmicky tie as a way to meet women
/r/seduction27/09/13 06:23 PM
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Because women don't (generally, of course) run on logic. You aren't a character sheet to women, they don't look at your pros and cons and make a decision that way They pick you because of how you make them feel. If you can evoke strong emotions in a woman, you've won. You don't need money, power, or looks. They help and give you tools, sure, but they aren't requirements.
/r/seduction22/09/13 06:53 AM
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Since I started pick-up a year and a half ago, I've had 8 FWB and exactly 0 girlfriends/attempts at more I can't speak for all women in the slightest but in my limited experience, FWB is way more common than you think it is
/r/seduction12/09/13 02:31 AM
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I know exactly how you feel. I used to be so anxious about talking to people or being rejected or turned down in some way that I was terrified to ask my own father for money for a vending machine. I used to be the quiet kid that really talked to no one and kept to himself. It's really all about forcing yourself and learning how to just let things flow out. It went slowly for me at first, just speaking with people I had known for years or family members. Once you get good at letting things just s…
/r/seduction06/09/13 10:40 AM
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That's a good point, it's basically making the date her idea. Which would result in a lower chance of flaking, yes?
/r/seduction31/08/13 04:21 AM
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This, to me, is a good example of quality field report writing. You elaborated well and explained the "why" of things just as well as you explained the "what" A question though. In your opinion, do you think it would be a better idea to just say "this is what I want to do" as opposed to asking her opinion on which date sounds better? I understand the merits of both but I'm curious about which you feel is better
/r/seduction31/08/13 12:00 AM
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Do things that impress yourself. Every day you should be doing something or working towards something that, when done, makes you think "Damn, I'm a badass"
/r/seduction12/03/13 06:20 AM
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I mean, I could live in an area with a large concentration of guys with small penises. Who knows?
/r/seduction31/10/12 06:05 AM
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It could be the area I live in. I've been told by 3 different girls that I'm the biggest they've been with, no question about it
/r/seduction31/10/12 05:09 AM
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Most of them did, yes In my opinion, it's because I distinguished myself apart from the other guys they had been with. I took things at a good pace, I didn't make it all about the penetration, I went down on them just as often as they did to me, I talked it out and told them what I liked and let them tell me what they liked. Sex is about so much more than just "Penis in, Penis out" and the sooner you can master all the other aspects of sex, the sooner you'll have women who want to come back for …
/r/seduction31/10/12 01:50 AM
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Around 7 inches. I don't keep the exact number in my head though Believe what you want to believe. It serves me no purpose to lie to you right now. Some girls aren't physically capable of sex with well-endowed men and so they have a preference for smaller guys. This was one of those cases. Porn is an extremely inaccurate view of sex. Women do not just drop their panties and beg for a guy with a 12 inch dick. The vast majority of girls like a guy who is average to smaller sized. The fact of the m…
/r/seduction31/10/12 01:40 AM
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Nope! The exact opposite actually. They were nervous that it was going to hurt and that put them off of things a bit. One girl straight up told me that, had she known how large I was, she would not have even tried to pursue me.
/r/seduction31/10/12 01:30 AM
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Penis size has almost nothing to do with how much pleasure she gets out of it. Some girls have a size preference but they are few and far in between. I'm above average in terms of size and it's done nothing but cause issues with me. It takes a long time to get her to the point where she experiences no pain and even then the sex doesn't last very long because she gets sore. Of all the women I've slept with (an admittedly low number compared to some) I could only really go at it the way I wanted t…
/r/seduction31/10/12 01:20 AM
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It's hard to give tips on it because it's such a situational thing but my advice is to keep it feeling natural. Watch some videos of the real experts and see how they do it and when they do it. Never force it or it will make her uncomfortable and throw you off your game. Just keep in mind that you need to escalate but at the same time, go slow enough that you aren't being threatening about it. Check out this and this for more tips and also look around on Seddit. If you need something specific, g…
/r/seduction24/09/12 09:38 PM
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No worries, I totally understand. I guess it's just my preference. I hate the feeling of reciting lines because it sounds canned and fake. It's disrespectful to the woman and she'll pick up on that and won't want much to do with you. Like I said, do online dating. Be frank, be forward and be blunt. Just say you're looking for sex, that's it, end of story. In person, you have to have a bit more tact but that's still a good strategy. Work sex into the conversation early, make your intent known. Wo…
/r/seduction24/09/12 06:39 PM
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I get what you're saying. The problem is that, if you try to hide the insecurity, you're going to trip up. You have to be secure through and through. I used to be much the same as you. I could act confident on the outside no problem, no one in the world could tell I had issues with self-esteem. I found out that I was pretty wrong. I went through a majorly depressing event in life that put me off of women for a while and I spent that time working on myself. I gained actual confidence. I didn't le…
/r/seduction23/09/12 09:34 AM
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Good to hear that you're motivated! Just don't drop off the face of the Earth in a few weeks. Stay active, share detailed field reports (especially ones where you failed) and keep at it!
/r/seduction01/09/12 05:43 AM
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I'm in the same boat as you (I'm white) and I've found that the more I care about what I look like whilst dancing, the worse I feel it looks and the less confident I am about it. Just move to the timing of the music and you'll do fine. If you really want to impress, though, you're going to have to take classes
/r/seduction01/09/12 05:33 AM
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I'm going to take a stab at it, forgive me if I provide information that isn't totally accurate. Provider traits are things you would see in a boyfriend. Consistently buying her meals and/or gifts, Investing large amounts of time in her emotionally, and treating her like you would a significant other. Lover traits are the kind of traits you would see in a stereotypical "bad boy". Passionate and physical but emotionally closed off. Mysterious. Keep her at a distance and try to project the feeling…
/r/seduction28/08/12 03:03 AM
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I fail to see how that was a response but ok
/r/seduction22/08/12 03:12 AM
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I can't tell if you're kidding or not but if your primary goal is to get your rocks off and promptly leave then you've got a long way to go yet
/r/seduction19/08/12 08:59 AM
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Who says she rejected you because of anything you did wrong? What if she was just in a bad mood from some uncontrollable event and really didn't feel like getting hit on? Don't agonize over something that likely has nothing to do with you at all
/r/seduction15/08/12 05:17 AM
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I don't know, if OP has a good reason then it can be perfectly responsible to live with your parents. I'm leaving for the military in a few months and it's just more fiscally responsible of me to live here for their cheap rent than it is to go out and get an apartment. Most women I interact with understand this pretty well
/r/seduction11/08/12 08:26 PM
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Dude, it's a better option than "go fuck in a car" There's a good 7 or 8 hotels in my area that cost less than $50 a night and are kept clean. If you split the cost, it's even cheaper!
/r/seduction11/08/12 08:24 PM
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Oh absolutely, I totally agree with what you're saying. I was only trying to address the issue of when to interact with her again. If he's gonna do it, he's gonna do it. I was just trying to help him figure out the best way to do so. It could also be a good step for him to validate his progress against a known obstacle. Not for her but as a reassurance that he is succeeding in what he's doing.
/r/seduction06/08/12 11:02 PM
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In about 3 months, I'm shipping off to bootcamp and 3 months after that I will be able to check up on you. Don't you dare sit on your ass and disappoint me while I'm out there getting beat into shape. I expect to come back and find out that you're making serious progress. Good luck, my friend
/r/seduction06/08/12 05:10 PM
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Think of it this way. If you avoid contacting her for a while, she'll have her old conception of you and she'll be expecting that when you do come back. What she doesn't know is that you are going to return as a sexier, better, healthier version of the old you. The less she is expecting this change, the harder it's going to hit her and the bigger effect it's going to have on her
/r/seduction06/08/12 05:07 PM
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You're putting all the blame on yourself. Don't worry about why she rejected you. It's probably a time in her life where she isn't ready for you to be in it. There are millions and millions of women out there that you can be seducing, why worry about just this one? I'd gladly take 100 failures if it means I succeed in the end. It's all about the abundance mentality, the idea that you have plenty of women to be with and losing out on a single one of them is no big deal
/r/seduction06/08/12 12:44 AM
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Thumb wars let you hold her hand Play fights are entertaining and gives you a chance for kino 20 questions can be a good one too, depending on the girl
/r/seduction06/08/12 12:06 AM
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My personal philosophy is that the person who does the asking is obligated to pay. The only exception is if she asks to pay, then I'll suggest we split the bill. I don't really mind covering things and I think it looks confident to just handle the costs like it's no big deal
/r/seduction03/08/12 08:34 AM
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You sir, are an inspiration to new sedditors like myself. I'm starting to reach a point where I can see changes happening in my life and to read about the heights I could potentially reach is very encouraging. Thanks for taking the time to write all of this up!
/r/seduction03/08/12 08:26 AM
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If there is no moral, religious, or physical reason why you can't have sex with her then you probably shouldn't worry too much about it. If you hold off for too long, she's gonna think you aren't sexually attracted to her and that could end the relationship faster than if you did sleep with her. Especially if she wants it as bad as you say she does. TL;DR Fuck her
/r/seduction03/08/12 08:20 AM
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Isn't the goal to improve ones self and game? I think you lose sight of the goal when one particular woman becomes more important than self-improvement
/r/seduction23/07/12 08:56 PM
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Try listening to this It's no "Sexy and I know it" but it never fails to put me in a great mood for socializing
/r/seduction23/07/12 07:33 PM
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That's when you know you're a master. When you're more excited about having your game analyzed and picked apart than you are about actually meeting women
/r/seduction23/07/12 07:20 PM
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This obviously wasn't a try-hard conversation. It got her into the mood and bypassed any sort of resistance she might have by getting her to agree to it all and fantasize before the interaction. I think it worked well for the situation and didn't come off as needy at all.
/r/seduction23/07/12 06:53 PM
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I fail to see how it isn't a FR
/r/seduction22/07/12 09:01 AM
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Well first of all, you got the hardest part out of the way! The approach is the worst part. If she is talking to you and smiling and being friendly then you have nothing to worry about when it comes to asking for a number. Don't worry about being clever or suave or anything of the sort just yet. Just say to her "Hey, it was nice talking to you; let's get together some time" and go from there. As for confidence, the only advice I can give is to not worry about it or learn to just ignore it. Just …
/r/seduction06/07/12 09:41 AM
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Let me preface this with praise first. You did pretty brilliant for a newbie. You could have totally pussed out and not said anything to her, so kudos for that. Now the criticism. You need to lose that fear of messing up. If you do mess up, it's no big deal. It's already been demonstrated that one can recover from a slip-up. So next time you encounter a situation where you are nervous about something, you just need to charge ahead and go for it. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised by how well…
/r/seduction04/07/12 10:29 AM
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If it wasn't for the mans admitted newness to it all, I would have thought it was a brilliant move. Think about it, you have this girl who is expecting to get whatever she wants by virtue of having breasts and then; just as she's expecting to get her way with him... BAM! He tells her to leave. I suppose it could go either way but I think some girls would react rather strongly to that. "Playing hard to get" and such nonsense.
/r/seduction04/07/12 10:25 AM
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I prefer to say consensual intercourse
/r/seduction01/07/12 07:32 PM
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I'm by no means an expert here but I'll give it a shot. Just let him do his thing. Unless he's really good at what he does, he'll end up ruining his own chances. Retain your confidence and don't let him get you off balance. If you want to be sneaky about it, just continue to express your confidence while at the same time, making him seem like a less attractive individual. Express your dominance over him. Don't really acknowledge his presence until he forces you to, and even then act like he isn'…
/r/seduction30/06/12 08:50 AM
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Alpha Male of the Group if I remember correctly. Basically the unstated but mostly recognized "Alpha male" of the set
/r/seduction30/06/12 08:26 AM
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That's very true, I hadn't considered that. Thank you for pointing that out
/r/seduction26/06/12 09:34 AM
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At the risk of sounding like a dumbass that didn't get the joke, I'll explain The fact that she agreed to go on a one-on-one encounter with you indicates that she, at the very least, likes you enough to give you a chance. I don't know many women who go on dates to be polite unless it's for a career advancement or some other personal gain. Not something you need to worry about when picking up most women
/r/seduction26/06/12 06:12 AM
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"Then explain to me why you're sexy and not just 'cute'" Make her portray herself in a sexual way since she's so hellbent on not being "cute"
/r/seduction23/06/12 05:42 AM
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Isn't... that a line from a movie?
/r/seduction23/06/12 05:41 AM
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Well it's ultimately up to you. I don't know the full situation and I apologize if what I said was offensive. Only you can make the call about whether it's worth it or not to go for it. If it is worth it, just treat her like you would any other girl. Escalation and all. If she'll go for it, let her have it.
/r/seduction18/06/12 04:09 AM
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Just remember. You wouldn't hate an entire minority based on a single person in said minority. Do the same with gender. (If you are a terribly racist individual I apologize for assuming you don't hate minorities. Just pick a minority that you don't hate and apply it to them)
/r/seduction18/06/12 12:40 AM
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I don't want to be "that guy" but all advice I will give you is going to be prefaced with a lecture. Having been cheated on before, I know how much it sucks. The fact that she has done it to him before makes no difference. Have respect for yourself and don't lower yourself to that level. If that honestly doesn't bother you then here you go. Just ramp things up with her. Pretend like she's any other single girl and do what you would normally do. By acknowledging her boyfriend, you're reminding he…
/r/seduction18/06/12 12:34 AM
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Let me give you some advice that I learned through my martial arts training. I've been doing BJJ for almost 2 years now. When I first started grappling, I would avoid tapping out at all costs. It would make me feel discouraged and depressed when I got beaten. Now I know differently. There's no shame in losing. No matter what it is that you do, be it approaching women, playing sports, or anything else. The only shame to be had is when you give up and decide to stop trying. That's the point where …
/r/seduction18/06/12 12:21 AM
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Thanks, now women are going to be wary of the guys who stare into their eyes instead of their chests
/r/seduction09/06/12 06:57 AM
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For me, it was just the shame of being a coward and the realization that it is honestly no big deal. We work it up in our minds to be this terrifying feat that we have to pull off but it's nothing like that. People are social. Almost everyone would have no problem having a simple chat with a friendly stranger. If they do have a problem with it, it's likely a personal issue or hang-up and nothing that you did wrong. Just go try it, you'll be amazed at how easy it turns out to be and how great you…
/r/seduction08/06/12 11:25 PM
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Don't worry about your qualities and style of socialization. I have just as many friends who are stoic and have no sense of humor as I do of jokers who crack jokes non-stop. I know it sounds cliche but it really is as simple as just doing it. Boxing classes would be perfect for you. Nothing makes someone like you faster than punching them in the head a few times and it's a setting where you have to interact with at least a few people. Try and start friendships with some guys and make a point to …
/r/seduction08/06/12 11:10 AM
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I think the one thing you need to know to avoid being an asshole is just to be respectful. Don't lie to the women you're with and promise them things you won't give, don't hide your intentions, don't mislead them. If you want to just go out and find women to sleep with, let them know that. If you want a girlfriend to go steady with, tell them that. I guess the point is: treat them like they are human beings with feelings, not numbers on your bedpost or stories to brag to your friends about.
/r/seduction08/06/12 03:41 AM
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Well, I had already introduced myself to the group. It wasn't completely random but yes, people took it and ran with it. Everyone loves talking about themselves.
/r/seduction13/05/12 09:34 PM
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For example, there was one group that I was getting to know and I just asked the group what their favorite story to tell was. Naturally that made it really easy to get a read on what sort of things people put value on and what their personality is like. Not to mention it gives something for you to build off of on future conversations
/r/seduction13/05/12 05:06 AM
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If I'm in a group, I usually will go one of two ways. Either I start a conversation with one member of the group about a broad subject. Once it's going well enough, I'll invite someone in the group to present their opinion on it. Which usually snowballs into the whole group participating. If I'm somewhere that a slow approach isn't practical, then I like to just ask a question to the whole group that lets them share their stories. That way people recognize you as having started it but you don't …
/r/seduction12/05/12 09:14 AM
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Just be careful you don't start getting boners from your own image. I don't think that'd make things any better
/r/seduction05/05/12 03:26 AM
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I think that's gonna hinder you more than it will help you. The constant pressure from your hand is just gonna keep it around. Much like a redheaded stepchild, you have to pretend it doesn't exist and hope it just goes away on it's own.
/r/seduction05/05/12 12:22 AM
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There are a few tricks that I've heard of that can help with unwanted boners. Some guys recommend flexing your leg muscles as hard as you can for a few seconds to draw a bit of blood away. Others have suggested that you focus on something non-sexual as hard as you can. Like pick a plant or a painting and just stare at it as intently as you can until you lose focus of the girl and lose the boner. Personally, I suggest you just try to position it so it's out of sight and focus on the conversation.
/r/seduction05/05/12 12:16 AM
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So what you're saying is... Act like you're a meek and spineless guy and carefully dodge your way around any possible mis-interpretation? I think it's a tad unnecessary to suggest physically assaulting someone because they made a bold move. Touching someone on the knee or lower thigh isn't even that bold of a move. He isn't telling us to grope your crotch or anything like that. Merely to rest the back of ones hand on the knee or thigh.
/r/seduction03/05/12 03:47 AM
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They're more like... guidelines. It is a pretty steady rule that practice makes perfect, you can't really argue against that. He made some pretty good points and put it in a unique way that some people will understand well. I'd say that deserves praise rather than criticism.
/r/seduction12/04/12 07:52 AM
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That might work or you could just suggest looking for it after you and her take care of business
/r/seduction08/04/12 12:25 AM
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I'm still a newbie, so forgive me if I'm wrong but I think the problem began when you let her drag you around looking for the Ipod. Perhaps you ought to have kept her focused on you instead of letting her lose interest like that?
/r/seduction07/04/12 09:58 AM
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I would suggest trying to be animated when you talk, to relieve some of the tension. If you feel like you need to start moving, try telling someone a story and use hand gestures and whatnot.
/r/seduction05/04/12 10:35 AM
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I just worry about the many women who do get raped but aren't believed. It's a subject that bothers me deeply because I have two different friends who were raped but there wasn't enough evidence to support the claims and so the men were free to go. If the women got punished for this, they could receive jail time just for a lack of evidence
/r/MensRights10/02/12 08:45 AM
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Maybe if you have absolutely nothing else to do. Personally, I think that there are better ways to use your time on the internet than this. Your choice though.
/r/seduction05/02/12 05:30 PM
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How exactly is this pulled off? The picture doesn't exactly mention where to go from there or even why you would just randomly twirl a girl in the middle of a conversation
/r/seduction02/02/12 05:26 AM
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You know you're good when your drunk advice is better than most peoples sober advice
/r/seduction07/01/12 07:39 AM
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