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most people are insecure, maybe you notice ‘hot womens’ insecurities cos you’re putting more attention on them 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction03/06/26 04:15 AM
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Women like men, there doesn’t have to be some secret ingredient
/r/seduction15/05/26 04:33 AM
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Do you realise although we see with our eyes, not everything we see is visual? I think this type of question comes from over rationalising, an attempt to understand that which often is not really there to be understood. Hetero feminine women are usually attracted to masculine men, muscles and physical structure can be a signifier of masculinity. But, there is a sort of gym / looks culture that feeds young men with the idea of wanting to GET attention, when actually the masculine frame is having …
/r/seduction02/05/26 11:30 PM
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If I offer you a cup of tea and you said no, will I feel rejected personally or will I think you just didn’t want a cup of tea? Try to reframe it - she is rejecting that particular offer not the ‘offerer’ You might even get a completely different response from the same person on a different day🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction07/04/26 08:36 PM
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Develop your curiosity and pursue broader interests, plenty of women are more on the introvert / homebody spectrum… ever been to an art gallery or a museum / library / comic shop etc? Some of the women in there are probably wondering why no men are willing to engage with them and what does she have to do to get a guys attention… ’Socialising’ is kind of an ugly term IMO makes me think of small talk / how are you etc, perhaps replace it with ‘engaging with the world‘ There are powerful and dark f…
/r/seduction05/04/26 05:13 PM
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This gives me hope, I’m so masculine, just look at the state of my sink 😆
/r/seduction03/04/26 07:54 PM
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Ahh Socrates , the daygame OG, if only he had a tik tok 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction26/03/26 08:12 PM
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Never use the word ‘progress’ in the context of romance or sex. Also ‘pursuing‘ its not a car chase… Stop thinking and analysing, interact with this person because you enjoy her energy and being in her field. Let her FEEL that. All this thinking will just spoil your fun, if It hasn’t already… Having a secret agenda is like not really being present with her, if you actually like her then you need to be fully present and not immersed in your agenda. Notice how the mind creates disconnection
/r/seduction25/03/26 12:22 AM
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Most martial artists do not look like they do martial arts 🤷‍♂️😆
/r/seduction20/03/26 10:49 PM
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It means the darkest aspects of human nature can be attractive, that a man’s capacity for violence can be deeply arousing. Hell, even death itself can be an aphrodisiac, I bet tons of people hook up at funerals… anyway, having a machete handle sticking out of your pants does kind of signal your abilities as a ‘protector’ despite also being signifiers of deeply unsociable behaviour - none of this stuff is politically correct 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction20/03/26 12:09 AM
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Looks as in facial features aren’t as important as those guys might think, and it is true women will be guarded about what turns them on - sexual desire of both genders has aspects that are deeply unpalatable by polite society hence it’s much easier to buy into this “looks” junk than actually face the truth… A ‘road guy’ once told me his attitude around women changed when a girl asked him ‘is your knife a virgin?’
/r/seduction20/03/26 12:04 AM
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They don’t understand that while some forms of attraction are visual, it isn’t all based around pure anatomy / bone structure / classical beauty. There are reasons why it would be weird to sleep with a very beautiful corpse! We are attracted to the life within people, the energy, the aura, the way they move etc Its why someone could have real model like looks but you just don’t notice that person - their energy is small, contracted , hiding etc
/r/seduction19/03/26 01:56 PM
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😆
/r/seduction19/03/26 01:52 PM
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Was ok tbh, would’ve been better if a bigger group, and salsa is actually harder than you might think… dancing is good for you in so many ways, embrace the awkwardness 😝
/r/seduction17/03/26 05:26 PM
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Actually I did do some classes for real , it was pretty cool, but then covid shut everything 🙄 I had been doing a lot of martial arts and got into salsa cos I always liked dance and Bruce Lee said it helped with footwork 😝
/r/seduction16/03/26 06:47 PM
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❤️
/r/seduction16/03/26 06:46 PM
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Yes, and when we have an end goal or agenda that isn’t really congruent with the event or said meet-up the universe will frown disapprovingly
/r/seduction16/03/26 05:05 PM
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Bro I also tried salsa, but it was just one step forward two steps back 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction16/03/26 05:02 PM
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Most people aren’t as ‘ugly’ as they think. A lot of it is that we have self critical nature, and this is all subjective. What would actually put you in the top 5 percent, is the QUALITY of attention you can give. For a woman, this is like seeing ‘beyond’ her looks. Seeing who and what she is deeply. Women have a deep need for this and many of them are actually starved of this kind of attention - because you can’t have your attention on her when you’re in your head being self conscious or second…
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:26 AM
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Delete confidence, subtract and replace with ‘energy’ perhaps, if that makes more sense to you? Think about how you feel when you see someone, how they move, their intent, ‘swagger,’ do they strut or glide? Do they look relaxed, expanded or sort of compressed and scrunched up. What feeling or inner aspect of you would you want to project outwards into the world?
/r/seduction08/03/26 03:46 AM
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Your Response shows you didn’t absorb or reflect on anything in my prior comment. Listening and receptivity is still a part of communication. The point you miss, is even the best blueprint of corporate communication does not teach us how to interact with women, the feminine, flirtation and feeling. It’s not rocket science mate, I’m sure some day it will click. Or, just try asking a question or making a statement thats likely to make her FEEL a lot! It would probably make you a better corporate s…
/r/seduction03/03/26 02:23 AM
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Who is this Miss Ratio? Is she single?
/r/seduction02/03/26 02:09 AM
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I know from a logical ‘masculine brain’ pov you might think that’s a good question. BUT for many peop,e with very deep inner lives questions like ‘what are your hobbies’ can feel painfully superficial. Most people are much deeper than you’d think but it’s possible they are also disconnected from their own essence. It’s not so much the specific question, most communication is not verbal, but the energy and intention underneath that visible level is most significant
/r/seduction01/03/26 08:17 PM
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Teach the girls please, cos in my experience they do the asking, and with zero escalation 🙄
/r/seduction25/02/26 08:15 PM
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‘Bad boy’ in your context is NOT the same as toxic or manipulative! It’s more like someone who is comfortable causing some discomfort and not trying to make everything smooth. Also just congruence / honestly not giving too much of a shit at times
/r/seduction20/02/26 04:50 PM
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Sounds like a bit of a sub conscious ’shit test,’ I’m sure she didnt mean much in it, but you got the chance to see how easy it is to crack your ego. We’re all succeptible to those sorts of feelings. I wouldn’t even bring it up with her, but get curious about why or how it landed with you so much…
/r/seduction27/01/26 11:38 PM
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‘weird losers who dress like Star Wars characters.’ 😆
/r/seduction27/01/26 07:53 AM
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It’s not really being confident or good, it’s enjoying the music and feeling it in your body so that you’re less in your head. Drugs helped in the beginning 🙃
/r/seduction15/01/26 06:21 AM
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Status
/r/seduction15/01/26 06:08 AM
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I love that, and I would reframe "focusing on one self" as focussing on ones ’gift.’ You could say that men are somewhat designed or destined to ‘give,’ or to be in service of something greater than just ourselves. There’s already enough greed and selfishness in the world without making our abundance focussed at the individual level 🤷‍♂️🙏
/r/seduction10/01/26 09:20 PM
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Anxiety is a form of excitement. Practice having your attention on the physical sensations in your body. Often she will be feeling the same. Dont think too much / overthink, you are a mammal. If you’re sitting side by side and she leans into you, you don’t have to ask permission to put your arm around her and squeeze her close a little. Enjoy her presence and the feelings you feel from her, when you want things to be more physical don’t go asking her really ‘heady questions‘ that send her mind i…
/r/seduction05/01/26 04:24 AM
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Too hairy
/r/seduction02/01/26 09:23 PM
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‘Convert?’ 😂🤷‍♂️🙏
/r/seduction02/01/26 09:22 PM
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How do you know if you’re socially inept and what does that mean? What’s your evidence? Do you struggle with social cues like an autism (or related) thing? I think it’s your mindset , from how you write. You think there is something to solve like a code to crack. The idea of ‘game’ has given you an idea you can ‘get results,’ but what would that even mean? Do you actually enjoy any of this? Can you fake having a good time or are you able to? Maybe you need to get into some situation or experienc…
/r/seduction02/01/26 09:12 PM
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‘and I probably gave off the vibe that I just wanted to hook up. She likely sensed that, and it killed any interest she might’ve had.’ I don’t think that’s it really… Think of it more like , maybe she wasn’t ready to reciprocate at your level. Women need longer to warm up sometimes, or to overcome their resistance/ uncertainty etc… you demonstrated your value in being willing to approach, now maybe she would want to know you a bit more before engaging on social media or something… not worth over…
/r/seduction02/01/26 04:15 PM
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I’m a starving artist, had girls come over so I could draw them, or just smoke weed when I was into that. My financial situation is really bad. BUT I remember back when I was earning a lot of money, I was kind of too stressed with life and really in my head to even enjoy anything. Not everything is about balance, but it doesn’t have to be so binary either. Remember a lot of rich guys will try and use their money to impress a girl, and while there’s always a few sugar babies that will go for that…
/r/seduction01/01/26 03:44 AM
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I love Varna, had a couple of nice holidays there, the first was part of a mad trip across Eastern Europe, I think we got the bus there from Odessa , it was long 😂
/r/seduction31/12/25 04:48 AM
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This alpha stuff has been badly misunderstood based on some poor research and other stuff that was redacted by the originators https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kOuer8-sIzQ&list=WL&index=98
/r/seduction29/12/25 02:10 AM
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Don’t read about kissing
/r/seduction25/12/25 08:07 PM
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How about being even more like yourself to the point it becomes ridiculous? Like be so fucking serious she just can’t take you seriously and has no idea if you’re playing or not… sort of borderline deadpan sarcasm embrace the awkwardness
/r/seduction25/12/25 07:55 PM
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How about flipping it? Think of - its womens ‘job’ to attract (look up estrus) your role is to be a ‘responder‘
/r/seduction22/12/25 06:17 PM
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What’s a ‘part bar?’
/r/seduction21/12/25 11:23 PM
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Love this question… I don’t have an answer but maybe this is the thing, you don’t need ’fixing.’ Sometimes we just need to get out of our own way, but there’s no easy soloution. Perhaps you need to stop thinking so much. Maybe the most important journey is about 18 inches… from head to ❤️
/r/seduction16/12/25 06:30 PM
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I understand nice guy syndrome, but not sure what you mean by good / bad guy in this context 🤷‍♂️🤔 Good / bad by what standards?
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:30 PM
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I’m good with words but I really don’t like messaging, I am in the older bracket so maybe that’s part of it, but it can be easy to end up just making a great text buddy 🤷‍♂️ But then also going for drinks can mean finding a female drinks buddy 😂 I think the idea with the Mega low effort responses is something like demonstrating not giving much of a fuck… it can be easy to start to overthink things when the wordy brsun gets involved.
/r/seduction05/12/25 11:30 PM
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SMV 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction05/12/25 09:33 PM
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Forget about the age thing, it’s just a story. just don’t try to rationalise or argue a case…. When she says ‘you’re too young‘ or something just brush it off, like you know but it doesn’t matter in the least. If you start justifying you’re losing cos you’re in a debate, never debate a woman… Hold your frame - that you don’t give a fuck about the age gap, just nod and smile and continue, let her see you are not phased by any knock back. But don’t go pestering her either, maybe you need to allow …
/r/seduction04/12/25 07:22 AM
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I’m no expert but perhaps some of us need to get over our mummy issues, and realise that a woman’s response is just about her and has no bearing on us. Also really feeling your own inner value has to help
/r/seduction04/12/25 04:00 AM
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Love this, but damn, those sabre tooth cats deserve their own comedy channel 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction02/12/25 02:29 PM
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Avoidant, little social life, crappy location with few females of my ‘type,’ actually quite content on my own, miss certain things obviously but unwilling to sacrifice my peace and solitude… Have a weird perception of my own age- every female seems much too old or much too young 😂🤷‍♂️ I am more attracted to the younger ones and probably have some conditioned fears or shame about judgments. With the older ones I am always afraid that if we got intimate I would find something really repulsive abou…
/r/seduction25/11/25 04:41 PM
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You aren’t pathetic. Don’t talk about yourself like that, you had a need and just didnt know how else to fulfill it. None of us got instruction manuals. Unfortunately reading and watching content isn’t really self development. Plenty of perfectly decent guys just miss opportunities for various reasons. The blueprint for you might be to ‘stop trying,’ like stop trying to become a better man to attract a woman. Be better for yourself, not for them. Maybe a lot of success is situational, being in e…
/r/seduction23/11/25 05:22 AM
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Look up ‘London daygame model’
/r/seduction21/11/25 09:25 PM
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There’s absolutely comparables, in SLAA sex and love addicts anonymous, they talk of anorexia as a parallel, the cycle between binge then deprivation. Sex and food are like similar things that core physical needs and at the same time trigger fears or avoidance
/r/seduction21/11/25 02:10 AM
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Helpful, but for sure no magic bullet, and it’s easy to start thinking you’re ‘doing work’ on yourself just by venting an hour a week and then carrying on with the same crappy behaviour 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction21/11/25 12:36 AM
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The problem is, if you meet someone more than once, technically you do have or are in a ‘relationship’ just not an official one (capital R) but that can sort of be hard to talk about when people have baggage or expectations about what a capital R ’Relationship’ actually is 🤷‍♂️ Like imagine you think you’re seeing someone on a ‘casual’ basis, but you meet up every Friday and spend the night together 🤷‍♂️🤔
/r/seduction21/11/25 12:33 AM
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Also watch this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg dont blame urself for her mental state, sometimes people (women a lot) need to vent / express all kinds of emotions, it could be tears, anger, rage, even if it feels like it’s ‘at you’ it’s not neccarsarily about you. Sometime people just need to be heard / felt where they are at and not fixed or ’resolved’
/r/seduction20/11/25 10:05 AM
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Look into ‘orgasmic meditation’ the book slow sex by Nicole Daedone. Forget about the word ‘perform’ sex isn’t performance, it requires presence and being worried or stressed isn’t conducive. She might be getting upset cos she thinks it could mean you lost some attraction for her. But in reality it’s probably that something in your mind is unsettled and wants to be smoothed over. You both need to be able to accept the mode your cock is in whether hard or soft, soft cocks are still erotic and des…
/r/seduction19/11/25 10:25 PM
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I think maybe some people just need more time 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction19/11/25 05:59 PM
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It’s ‘normal‘ to be like this, we’re all a bit on the scale between anxious / avoidant attachment. Being in connection to another can accelerate ‘healing’ but will also bring up triggers along the way. Perhaps start with being vulnerable yourself. Let the other see aspects of you which are rarely seen, perhaps those parts of you are very tender or private. Revealing or sharing that could show that it can be safe to share in that way. Don‘t push, they need to emerge from their shelter of their ow…
/r/seduction19/11/25 05:53 PM
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Havnt done it for a while, not after women atm, I attached the format below, its a good way to clear stuff out of your mind, and get to the root cause / belief etc so maybe star t with , ‘I am resentful at my avoidance ‘ because I have a fear that my avoidance makes me feel or do xxx
/r/seduction19/11/25 04:06 PM
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Fear Inventory "God/Spirit/Higher Power, I am resentful at __________________ (person, institution, idea), because: I have fear that ______________________________ I have fear that ______________________________ I have fear that ______________________________ etc. (this can go on for pages) For example: God, I am resentful at Mona criticizing me at the staff meeting, because: I have fear that I can't control what she thinks of me I have fear that I am dependent on her approval I have fear that I…
/r/seduction19/11/25 04:05 PM
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I don’t know really, I’m similar myself. The only thing I know that might work is a thing called ‘fear inventory,’ I used to do a version lifted from 12 step in a self development community I was part of, we would also read it aloud to one other person, then tear up and destroy the paper
/r/seduction19/11/25 02:19 PM
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Avoidant attachment🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction19/11/25 02:16 PM
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Salsa is good, but can be a bit one step forward two steps backwards
/r/seduction18/11/25 01:45 AM
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I suggest to pay close attention to your internal monologue, 3 words that stuck out for me are - anxious, awkward and creepy. Anxiety is not always a ‘real’ emotion, we often use that word when feeling overwhelmed, it’s often a certain level of excitement or electricity running through the nervous system. Akward - those moments of silence or discomfort where each doesn’t know what to say, it’s actually not a bad thing at all even though it feels uncomfortable. Nothing really happens without some…
/r/seduction17/11/25 11:18 PM
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Yes, for me sometimes I will just start interacting with a super hot woman without even thinking, like if I’m at an art event and there is a natural common ground, maybe I am in a sort of ‘home space’ like that… whereas the thought of seeing a girl in the street I just walked past and then turning to go back to her feels like a whole other level, but I guess it’s just connecting the dots
/r/seduction17/11/25 09:38 PM
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I get it, but it’s not a conscious thing. I am often giving people the advice of ‘don’t be in your head / overthinking’ it’s one thing to tell ourselves / someone else, and another thing to actually embody it. And remember, there would be no humans at all if humans weren’t capable of attraction and sex - it’s literally the stuff of life and death, maybe that makes sense why it seems harder than joking with a shop assistant 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction17/11/25 08:42 PM
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I don’t buy it. I can banter with anyone in the street / shops / shops daily business etc but spotting someone super attractive and appealing throws up a lot of stuff that isn’t in those vanilla interactions - there is much more at stake. But I probably havnt done it enough too
/r/seduction17/11/25 08:12 PM
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Yes but despite all this, sometimes ‘approach anxiety’ which is a fucking horrible turn of phrase can be truly crippling. I guess something like feel the fear and do it anyway is the only viable option 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction17/11/25 08:10 PM
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Sounds really pathetic as are the down votes you’re getting, the fact is every woman has the ability to say things that could ‘hurt‘ us… we literally spent the first few years of life being bossed around by a woman. Part of growing up and self actualising is having boundaries and not reacting to these trigger pointe that will immediately disqualify you of manhood in the eyes of the opposite sex. She wants to feel like she is with a man, not her little brother that she can bully.
/r/seduction16/11/25 04:38 AM
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Stay home
/r/seduction07/11/25 09:16 PM
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Absolutely, had some really intense 3xperiences, especially in OM circles. Get the book ‘slow sex’ by Nichole Daedone, she invented the practice. The Institute of OM is the rebranded website. one of the most amazing things was how realising how high you can get from being flooded with oxytocin through your finger tip. I learned more about female anatomy than I ever thought I needed to know… I never knew the clit had a hood even. Unfortunately some of my teachers from that organisation are in jai…
/r/seduction07/11/25 03:15 AM
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a few years ago I discovered Orgasmic Meditation, went in quite deep, took the coaching program, even coached a few people , men , women, couples. At one point before the lockdowns my life consisted of having random women from the community all over my city show up at my house to have their clits stroked in a goalless but structured fashion, also would visit their places quite a bit, although at times I used to feel like a visiting plumber or service worker lol… I didn’t get a GF from that, not …
/r/seduction06/11/25 01:45 AM
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1 - don’t wait 2 - they won’t wait
/r/seduction01/11/25 10:17 PM
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Just find what works for you dude, maybe if you’re slightly on the autistic spectrum or something ‘flirting’ makes no sense. ‘Seductive’ in how a lot of people speak of it can seem quite performative. It isn’t necessary to put on a mask, be more and more unapolagetically like ‘ yourself.‘ Yes you will filter out a lot of people who don’t ‘get you,’ but others will be genuinely curious by your presence, directness and unwillingness to play. Make being yourself your superpower, but you have to not…
/r/seduction29/10/25 11:05 AM
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noooooo
/r/seduction29/10/25 10:57 AM
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‘Woooahh social distancing!!! ‘
/r/seduction25/10/25 04:23 AM
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Don’t overthink. Keep your attention rooted in your body, your feet, your spine, your cock, and on the other person. When you feel ‘awkward’ or overthink you are just in your head and no use to anyone. Practice ways to be spontaneous and to nurture your intuition / connection to your body and feeling state.
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:45 PM
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I met a girl really into kinks, I told her I love Waterloo Sunset
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:25 PM
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‘Conspiracy game’ 😂 Love this
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:24 PM
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Not really. No rules please, this is a forum for humans, not chess pieces 😉
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:17 PM
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Try to see it like this, if I offer you a cup of tea and you say ‘no thanks,’ I assume you didn’t want a cup of tea, I don‘t take it as a personal rejection of myself. Make offers, if you’re not able to accept somebodies ‘no,’ then maybe you aren’t ready to receive a ‘yes.’ Don’t get me wrong I have adhd and there’s a thing called rejections sensitivity dysphoria which can be brutal over the most innocuous of things. The problem is when you’re feeling fragile in general you might subconsciously …
/r/seduction07/10/25 10:43 AM
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It’s not rocket science, people like other people cos of how they feel around them
/r/seduction06/10/25 04:11 AM
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I’ve had things with girls of that age way into my 40s. Not boasting about it but a connection is a connection. People are too hung up about age, 18 and 23 is the same demographic… and ffs 23 yr old is not ‘older men‘ 😂 You‘re worried about some social conditioned ideas of how you will look or be perceived, these are YOUR insecurities and nothing to do with her or her age. The fact is , if she turns out to be immature or annoying to be around or you genuinely feel awkward and out of place with h…
/r/seduction06/10/25 02:47 AM
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Props to ‘propinquity’
/r/seduction05/10/25 07:43 PM
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Women are perceptive, if you’re looking for a woman to prevent you seeming like a loser they will see right through that bullshit. Nobody wants to be used as a fashion accessory to prop up the public opinion of some boy with no self esteem.
/r/seduction02/10/25 10:59 PM
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Haha I think it’s both tbh , not sure you can separate. People like drama basically and sometimes they like unpredictability etc, the asshole probably keeps a woman on her toes more than the guy who’s super easy about everything 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction30/09/25 01:13 PM
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You were trying or goal oriented rather than just being there in the moment. Looking around and making judgements on what’s happening puts you in your head rather than being present with the others.
/r/seduction30/09/25 01:07 PM
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Why these traits are attractive is not about being an asshole, it’s that those traits signify someone who doesn’t cater to what other people think, does not put women on a pedestal and isn’t afraid to be who they are etc
/r/seduction30/09/25 01:02 PM
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They’re all virgins still
/r/seduction29/09/25 06:14 PM
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😂🤷‍♂️🤔
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/09/25 05:51 PM
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Actually I like this, but just imagine your phone actually rings mid performance 😂
/r/seduction05/09/25 02:29 PM
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you have better quality attention to give
/r/seduction05/09/25 02:27 PM
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‘Cold approach’ is a really horrible expression (thinking about it) compared to ‘talking to people’ Like a ‘cold approach‘ if I didn’t know about this pua culture I would assume is something a hitman would do to his target. It almost sounds fraught with danger and risk like some military tactic 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction05/09/25 02:24 PM
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Yes people meet online, people meet irl. what’s the point of ‘settling it once and for all’ 🙄 sounds really daft imo. Too many variables. plus the masculine essence is partly a hunter. It likes ‘conquest.’ Doesn’t feel very ‘manly’ to be sat at home swiping away, especially with all the OF profiles ans thirst traps, like one degree away from porn. Why is your post about ‘meeting’ women? As if that’s the hard part. What about how to establish a relationship and comm7nicate with boundaries and to …
/r/seduction05/09/25 02:22 PM
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‘the last time I was inside a woman was when I visited the Statue of Liberty‘ - woody Allen
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:23 PM
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Alcohol
/r/seduction27/08/25 03:57 PM
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I was being sarcastic, I’m over 50 and can go with women that age, we need to stop obsessing about age so much 🙄
/r/seduction18/08/25 02:16 AM
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you probably want some kind of gf / partner then, be honest with urself, otherwise these ‘arrangements or situationships’ usually have a very short life
/r/seduction17/08/25 07:58 PM
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You’re ver the hill by 2 years. Just quit
/r/seduction17/08/25 07:56 PM
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Doesn’t this mean you‘re supposed to lick the side of her face? 🤔
/r/seduction16/08/25 02:03 PM
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Sounds like you approached dating with a sort of ‘production ‘ mind set which is common in the masculine mind but relating and women is the field of the feminine, vagueness and soft unknown boundaries. A woman is not a ‘result’ or an outcome to be achieved as the climax of some production process. practice asking yourself what you want, get to the deepest need and ask how does that apply to ‘dating?’ Like what did you want with 700 women ? Judging your end point, you’re in this binary masculine …
/r/seduction13/08/25 05:51 PM
5

The quality of your attention
/r/seduction13/08/25 01:56 PM
9

Approach in winter
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:54 PM
8

You just have fomo. Youth is a myth and a scam, you think you ‘should be out enjoying it’ cos we all got sold a dream. The fact is you’ll never have as much energy to work and build for your future as you do right now. Also, in Relationship terms men really improve with age , so your best years are surely ahead. Having too much unstructured ‘free time’ can also become a pit of bad habits etc, so you have that part handled. Just book a holiday at some point, go stay in hostels a week or 2 , hang …
/r/seduction30/07/25 03:17 AM
1

Why are you writing about who a woman ‘should be attracted to?’
/r/seduction30/07/25 12:07 AM
1

Fair
/r/seduction28/07/25 06:28 PM
4

Masculinity
/r/seduction28/07/25 06:21 PM
1

So play and teasing are positive things. And tbh there’s nothing inherently ‘wrong’ about seduction per se. I mean we are all on a seduction thread. BUT, it’s really worth noticing our conditioning and what we think it means to ‘please’ our partner or lover whilst also showing up as our authentic selves. A lot of this comes down to connection and communication, so when I say seduction is performative, it’s not to say that it’s bad, but it’s playing a role. Roleplay can also be awesome of course.…
/r/seduction28/07/25 06:14 PM
0

If you dont know you don’t know. Good luck
/r/seduction28/07/25 04:26 PM
0

I don’t see how or why you’d need to ‘seduce’ someone you’re in a relationship with. Seduction is based on performance, deception and fakery. Nothing about this will hit the core of of a real turn on. At best will pander to social conditioning and fetish. If you want to develop a real connection consider ’orgasmic meditation’ as taught by Nichole Daedone. And learn every facet of the practice before you even do it.
/r/seduction28/07/25 03:43 PM
2

So maybe the women who are more open to casual hook ups are often the ones who have some insecurities about starting a Relationship (capital R) When a connection begins with sex, perhaps often times this becomes the basis for that connection, whereas slower more traditional ‘dating’ (which I can’t stand) might build more of a foundation for something meaningful. Like bonding with someone over a shared experience initially which isn’t a sexual one perhaps. And examine yourself and your patterns, …
/r/seduction27/07/25 07:33 PM
12

Cos they want attention rather than giving attention
/r/seduction27/07/25 06:41 PM
-1

Don’t look too hard. Feel. Notice what occurs in your body when she’s near. Do you think maybe she’s feeling the same feeling? How do you know if it’s yours or hers?
/r/seduction27/07/25 01:02 AM
1

What if she’s naked?
/r/seduction27/07/25 12:59 AM
5

I’m sorry my dude, but it’s possible she will see you as a child. There’s nothing inherently wrong here, but the push back would be mad if it was the other way around 🤔 What attracts you to her, and are there no women around you who arent older than your mom?
/r/seduction26/07/25 11:57 PM
10

Switch ‘understand’ to ‘feel’ and it makes much more sense
/r/seduction26/07/25 05:40 PM
1

I’m not sure what frame control means if you feel disrespected. I mean if you feel belittled you aren’t controlling frame as such imo. I think when this has happened to me I got triggered cos she hit on a genuine insecurity of mine somehow. So ask yourself, what part of you (or a belief you hold) has been knocked in this interaction. And what part of you is attracting ‘bratty’ energy?
/r/seduction24/07/25 10:57 PM
2

Yes it’s normal. Stop trying, if it happens it happens. Rubbers won’t help either, but ‘retaining yourself‘ can mean more energy and polarity between you and your partner
/r/seduction24/07/25 10:45 PM
1

What do you mean by ‘what should I do?’ why do you need to ‘do something?’ 🤔
/r/seduction23/07/25 08:13 PM
2

Forget ‘self improvement.’ You are already perfect. Read philosophy for your pleasure and minds enrichment. Do Jiu Jitsu for the fun, playfulness and feeling in your body. These are great habits but bear in mind your intention. its ok to want to improve at Jiu Jitsu for example, but if ‘improvement’ becomes the main driver then you are outcome dependent and will lose joy in the process. You will hate being tapped out rather than taking it as a learning. Improvement is the by product of these act…
/r/seduction23/07/25 06:06 PM
1

As males beings we have a masculine essence. We embody it. This is at an energetic level and women can also feel that from us in their bodies. It might be why desire can emerge for someone who isn’t always your type physically but you just feel it. The thing that can get in the way is when we are acting out a version of masculinity bas3d on what we think we ‘should or shouldnt’ do, rather than being connected to our authentic selves. like if a woman says ‘sporty guys are attractive‘ its less abo…
/r/seduction12/07/25 04:16 PM
1

not behaviour. Who and what you are, not what you ‘do.’ Masculinity is attractive to feminine beings
/r/seduction11/07/25 09:01 PM
1

I think ultimately we get the person we feel we deserve. So if your ‘game’ is based on appearance and seduction you will appeal to superficial girls seeking short term distraction. This can be fun, up to a point but there is often absence of any deeper connection and polarity
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:59 PM
4

I agree that men being ‘friends’ with women is sort of a conundrum… I’ve known a lot of women quite closely from various communities or groups. I’m Not sure I classify them as ‘friends,’ but today even male friendship is under pressure from varying factors… I‘m not sure that thinking about what the ‘benefits‘ of a friend ship or relationship is ‘right minded‘ thinking. It’s like viewing these relationships on a transactional term, which can be an issue in thinking about all relationships. Basica…
/r/seduction10/07/25 05:43 PM
1

Toddler Chad 🙏
/r/seduction10/07/25 03:08 PM
0

Work or study in a coffee place? put yourself amongst people… I need to do the same!
/r/seduction10/07/25 03:01 PM
0

Look up ‘London daygame model’
/r/seduction05/07/25 07:45 AM
1

Brother you know nothing 😂🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction05/07/25 07:43 AM
1

These transactional relationships are also a way of avoiding real intimacy
/r/seduction05/07/25 07:42 AM
1

What part of connection makes you feel like shit? I suppose you could just close your heart and repress all your feelings and emotions. Go about your life like an unfeeling worker/sexbot. I wonder if there is a cost to going through life in this way. This is probably why a lot of guys just have one night stands (especially in youth) because we are actually terrified of our own feelings, being vulnerable and the risk of feeling anything especially pain. An alternative model might come down to com…
/r/seduction03/07/25 12:48 AM
71

They will put themselves in your space, subtle touch here and there, if her cheeks are flushed you’re definitely in. Think about what people do with their bodies that are subconscious behaviours, like tapping your arm laughing at a joke etc.. doesnt always mean she’s hot for you but she’s comfortable in your presence etc
/r/seduction30/06/25 12:27 AM
14

But it takes 2 to tango… I’ve had many more flings than stable relationships, might be finally nearing the point where ‘woman for later’ is starting to appeal as much as the former, but the ‘wholesome relationship girls’ also probably trigger my own fears about commitment, intimacy / getting trapped or stuck with someone 🤷‍♂️ Do we live in a culture where disposability has become a virtue?
/r/seduction27/06/25 06:43 PM
0

Experience
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:28 PM
23

Older dudes look much better
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:27 PM
3

The attraction to ‘bad boys’ is that they don’t give a shit what other people think. They are their own reference point. They are more congruent than the ‘nice guy’ because nobody is really a nice guy, its a fucking act to appease and placate and women can see through that shit. Read no more Mr Nice Guy, by someone Glover
/r/seduction26/06/25 11:08 AM
2

Yes I’m just stating, it makes me conscious of my ego
/r/seduction25/06/25 04:08 PM
3

Being seen with an attractive woman sends a message to the world that ‘I am good enough’
/r/seduction25/06/25 02:02 PM
1

You forgot about headphones 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction04/06/25 01:01 PM
2

You’re speaking of connection not ‘seduction,’ seduction IMO implies some element of performance or ‘act’ in order to seduce. This is why some men can really lose connection to their true selves in chasing women.
/r/seduction03/06/25 11:39 PM
1

Presence > beliefs
/r/seduction03/06/25 12:09 PM
20

Sounds like nervousness 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction02/06/25 06:35 PM
1

‘Approached’ is quite a pejorative term in the realms of social life, people like talking sometimes 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction02/06/25 10:52 AM
2

It’s pathetic, I saw a woman complaining on gmtv that a known asian PUA said to her ‘cheer up luv,’ she said it was a manipulative neg and they were literally shaming this guy cos he was a short not very good looking Asian dude doing daygame 🙄😂 I would happily take this to court and fight for my right to be a man 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction01/06/25 10:08 PM
0

lack of control isn’t the issue, the issue is men are terrified of being out of control
/r/seduction01/06/25 10:04 PM
4

I matched with some dogs on tinder
/r/seduction01/06/25 06:02 PM
1

A bylaw? Against talking to women? 🤔
/r/seduction01/06/25 06:01 PM
1

‘constant texting’ sounds like hell 🙄🙈
/r/seduction31/05/25 06:54 PM
1

Let yourself be a human
/r/seduction28/05/25 10:29 PM
1

I notice when people mirror me, but I don’t believe I mirror others subconsciously. I think overly deliberate mirroring could be nearing a fine line towards incongruence. Like don’t just copy her every fucking gesture 😆
/r/seduction28/05/25 10:27 PM
2

What if she’s not a guy?
/r/seduction23/05/25 07:01 PM
2

There’s a certain ‘honesty’ in not giving a fuck about others that can be attractive. Women know from generations of evolved instincts that the ‘nice guy’ often isn’t congruent in going for what he wants and being willing to protect it
/r/seduction21/05/25 01:58 PM
2

I get this, I think it’s a lack of approval of one’s own sexual animal nature. We see it as disapproval from others but really it’s cos we are ashamed and afraid of that ‘beast’ part of us cos he is so powerful (and politically incorrect) now go find someone to spank you for being a naughty dirty boy 😉
/r/seduction20/05/25 04:16 PM
3

Read ‘no more mr. nice guy‘ by someone glover
/r/seduction20/05/25 04:12 PM
2

I didn’t want to name ‘boredom’ as a feeling cos its no more accurate than loneliness, but that was a bit of a feeling I got from ur post. I think I spend alot of time distracting myself from a lot of things, maybe you’re doing that with girls a bit sometimes? I guess when we distract ourselves, the Part of of us (we are distracting from) Is still left needing care or attention of some kind 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction15/05/25 07:21 PM
11

How do you know you’re feeling ‘loneliness’ and not something else? can you sit with the feeling without needing it to go away? What if that feeling is lonely and wants to be with you😋
/r/seduction15/05/25 05:56 PM
1

I’m not sure there is as much difference as in the past. There is great pressure in the culture to fetishise youth, especially on the Female side. People are delaying growing up / maturity, Peter Pan man boys are also celebrated. the little girl princess type will go for whatever validation is going. At some point if she comes into her power as a woman she is able to tune into her real desires, this is where being authentic could mean cultivating a deeper connection than hooking young girls base…
/r/seduction15/05/25 05:53 PM
1

I would definitely try to stay away from ‘mindsets’ lol… actually I got involved with the Orgasmic Meditation practice, as explained in the book ‘slow sex’ by Nicole Daedone. I also trained as a coach with them. what was really interesting was how principals of clitoral stroking can show up in everyday life in the form of social ‘strokes’ etc.. in this world orgasm is a state of connection which we could inhabit, but we all have many blocks like our social conditioning and all the ways we are af…
/r/seduction14/05/25 11:17 PM
1

I think it could be a question of slowing down, not in the way of ‘hesitation’ which is like a glitch in your mind but slowing down to the point you are entirely conscious of your body and how it feels to inhabit it, especially in the presence of beauty. It sounds cliche but being more in the moment, let’s her feel your presence. She can’t ‘feel’ you when you’re in your head thinking. Most of what happens is already laid out at an energetic level. You probably only noticed her because she ‘wante…
/r/seduction14/05/25 09:48 AM
2

Me too man, theres actually an idea I’ve heard from different sources, that males and Females are like opposite batteries. Men receive into the heart and give from their genitals, women receive in their genitals and give from the heart… at an energetic level they want to feel that energy from us and we really want to feel their love
/r/seduction06/05/25 10:22 PM
3

Sounds like your heart is wanting connection and your ‘head’ thinks you should be a player. Getting attached isn’t a weakness, it just shows you are a human with human needs. maybe an issue a lot of us deal with is the fear of our emotional side taking over, (because we have all been hurt at some point) and this ends up blocking us from having a true connection with someone
/r/seduction06/05/25 05:33 PM
2

You don’t need muscles IMO just try and stay in shape
/r/seduction06/05/25 04:24 PM
6

Just meet women in gay clubs, there’s less competition
/r/seduction06/05/25 12:38 AM
24

Full beard or stubble? Stubble is suppos3d to be best for affairs and beards for relationships 😂🤷‍♂️ and glasses will also add age, and some of us don’t need to add much more 😂 my theory about being skinny is that girls just wanna feed us 😂
/r/seduction05/05/25 11:38 PM
8

How do you approach a cute cat in your neighbourhood? I would drop to their level and let them smell my hand. Cats are curious, they love people and being stroked, but they will run like lightening if you approach to fast or chase them. Things need space to emerge, lean back feel the space between you and the other. The ‘wall of indifference’ could be that person running out of things to say or maybe she is feeling awkward, can you be comfortable in the face of that wall? how about creating tens…
/r/seduction05/05/25 05:23 PM
20

Not really advice but try to internalise that ‘you are enough’ 🙏
/r/seduction05/05/25 02:18 PM
1

You are in a relationship, you’re in a fucking relationship with yourself and everyone you know. Now for various reasons many people have a massive phobia of the R word with a capital R. But acknowledging that you do have a relationship (small r) is a way of accepting your reality at least 🤷‍♂️ Why obsess over semantics, you can design the details or requirements of the ’relationship’ to mean exactly what you want but you do have to accept you are in one IMO
/r/seduction05/05/25 01:51 AM
3

😂
/r/seduction05/05/25 01:40 AM
11

Oprah ghosted me after the first date 🙄
/r/seduction05/05/25 01:13 AM
9

They are probably there to chase beggars and street hawkers, not ‘protect’ someone from socialising… all this ‘game’ stuff is sort of dependent on being able to break social conventions 🤷‍♂️ think about it, how would they know you aren’t someone from her office / hotel / family / lover / godlike seductive being 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction04/05/25 09:45 PM
1

But we need to approach tactically 😂
/r/seduction04/05/25 09:42 PM
1

Keep your attention on the physical sensations in your body (especially your groin) stay grounded
/r/seduction04/05/25 07:30 PM
1

I thought ghosted means the person blocks you or completely dissapears… I wouldn’t even take a lack of response as being ignored, although it feels like that if you are emotionally invested, half the time I can barely be bothered to reply to texts either 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction04/05/25 07:28 PM
2

Close friends of mine were way into their 30s, you’re not an anomaly. This stuff definitely improves with age experience and time IMO. Rather than seeking ‘dates’ what communities can you plug into as ways of meeting, connecting and enriching yourself and others? Also notice the difference between the want for sex vs the need for intimacy.
/r/seduction02/05/25 10:04 PM
1

Could be an avoidant type… some people struggle to stay in contact with texts etc and just drop off the face of the earth, don’t take it personal it’s more about her than you
/r/seduction02/05/25 12:44 AM
1

I realised there’s a difference between ‘white boy hair’ and white-boy hair 😆
/r/seduction01/05/25 02:35 PM
46

I’m putting garlic on the sheets next time I throw down
/r/seduction29/04/25 03:47 PM
3

Why not leverage your current skills into some working abroad opportunity? It always seems easier to meet people when you’re away from your home country for various reasons but some of those are more mental than to do with actual logistics etc… Maybe you could learn a second language 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction27/04/25 06:41 PM
1

‘Is it safe?’
/r/seduction27/04/25 06:39 PM
196

In my experience these will be women over 40 that realise they spent years in an unsatisfactory relationship or that they had been held back from exploring their desires cos of shame or some hang ups. Many will hit a certain age where they have a sort of sexual awakening in later life
/r/seduction10/03/25 06:45 PM
-7

Men don’t hate ‘real feminism’ because generally it just calls for equality. What we hate is the shouty, judgmental social justice type which has to classify everybody based on race/ gender/ age/ neurodiversity and their perceived potential priveledges which of course they ought to be ashamed of 🤷‍♂️
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/25 12:38 PM
-2

Ask her?
/r/seduction09/03/25 03:54 AM
1

It’s possible to train your nervous system to the point that you are receptive enough to pick up the subtle shifts of energy around you. Something like Orgasmic Meditation can be good.
/r/seduction05/03/25 01:31 AM
22

Keep gaslighting lonely guys
/r/seduction03/03/25 02:30 AM
26

You don’t need a psychology degree to enjoy women 🙄 They aren’t supposed to be learned like a fucking code 😂
/r/seduction03/03/25 02:18 AM
3

Get a job collecting trash for a few weeks
/r/seduction03/03/25 02:14 AM
3

Of course, so you don’t need to become some kind of expert in the nuances of female attraction. Our biggest issue is overthinking rather than being in the experience itself. There’s no puzzle to solve here
/r/seduction23/02/25 10:50 PM
3

do you think art is meant to be ‘understood?’ Understanding can kill the mystery and makes limitations in your own mind (Which is normal for the masculine brain.) The feminine is not there to be understood.
/r/seduction23/02/25 10:38 PM
1

Go backpacking around Europe or someplace, stay in hostels, meet randoms. OR just find some other way to take yourself out of your regular environment or location, like as far away as possible
/r/seduction23/02/25 12:58 AM
-1

Read the book ‘no more Mr nice guy’ by someone Glover I think
/r/seduction23/02/25 12:52 AM
0

I don’t think sex is casual
/r/seduction20/02/25 05:56 PM
2

no person has ever been rejected. She only rejected your previous offer in that situation in that moment, not you as a human being with a beating heart. Did someone offer you a cup of tea once and you said no? Does that mean you will never drink a cup of tea again? Tea is for mugs, don’t be like the tea guy.
/r/seduction17/02/25 08:03 PM
1

The context might be that if she is more likely to explore the longer term potential if you havn’t already done it all on the first night
/r/seduction17/02/25 08:01 PM
3

There isnt one. How many different fucking women are there in the world? If your listening to comments from muscly guys about ur physique maybe women aren’t the issue 🤷‍♂️😉
/r/seduction15/02/25 01:36 PM
1

Help with what?
/r/seduction09/02/25 09:14 AM
5

You aren’t good or bad. It’s not a performance or activity based on production. You don’t succeed or fail at sex. Get out of your head and into your body. Learn about Orgasmic Meditation.
/r/seduction05/02/25 05:52 PM
2

We need to get the idea that women are inherently terrified out of our minds 🤷‍♂️ ’cold approach’ is a horrible term that would fill most people who aren’t in sales with dread, why not reframe it as being friendly / outgoing / sociable / curious and interested etc… that terminology is sort of geared towards notch in bedpost mentality imo
/r/seduction04/02/25 01:43 AM
-1

Polarity!
/r/seduction02/02/25 07:33 PM
1

There isn‘t a good or bad mix, from the pov of the female, it’s all contingent to where she is on her cycle as which of those features she’s drawn to. I’m pretty sure average men nowadays probably have developed more feminine traits just to get along more in society or something
/r/seduction29/01/25 05:08 AM
1

Men also have competing instincts, like provide and protect vs predate. As you say about women‘s cycle they are drawn to the predator / chad DNA to create healthy offspring (when ovulating) but they also want the dude that’s sensitive enough to stick around in other parts of the cycle
/r/seduction29/01/25 05:05 AM
2

Say ‘yeah I have yellow fever real bad’ lemme love you loooonnnng time
/r/seduction27/01/25 09:15 PM
4

The improving with age thing is more like 30 / 35 plus I reckon. The truth is there are no formulas really, although some people seem to do better if they take themselves out of their usual pool. reframe those ‘rejections.’ They didn’t reject you as an indivual but rejected your offer or the situation in that moment. Even though women can be rude or nasty on rare occasions, it’s never meant personally to the guy as an individual, just a lot of people hold resentments towards the opposite sex
/r/seduction23/01/25 08:17 AM
0

I think it’s pointless, unless she made some change with hair or make up or some particular outfit or reason you feel like saying it in the moment. If you have to get this analytical about it, maybe it won’t come across as natural :)
/r/seduction23/01/25 04:39 AM
5

An ‘action photo’ can be a shot of you at your desk playing league of legends etc
/r/seduction23/01/25 02:36 AM
3

I started using shots of my bulge and getting more matches now.. problem is that I‘m the anxious avoidant type and not really a true fuckboy 😂
/r/seduction23/01/25 02:35 AM
1

Perception is real? Elaborate?
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:20 AM
43

No one has more or less value than anyone else despite what we are told, we are all free to buy into that but be sure about what game you’re playing
/r/seduction20/01/25 10:54 AM
14

Don’t fall into hungry ghost mode like in Buddhism, - ‘Some are described as having "mouths the size of a needle's eye and a stomach the size of a mountain". This is a metaphor for people futilely attempting to fulfill their illusory physical desires.’ Imagine your appetite is larger than your ability to taste or smell your food, you would be stuffing your face without even having attention on your meal. You’d be incapable of nourishment... maybe you’re trying to use these interactions to fill t…
/r/seduction15/01/25 12:15 PM
3

You can give a compliment or share a feeling that you had in a moment you spent with her without stacking it up into added meanings. Women want to be able to feel you in the moment. But sometimes these kind of declarations of intent are more meaningful to the masculine mind than the feminine heart. Being emotionally present with her in the moment and letting her feel that, has a different energy tone than verbalising. - ‘I WANT TO KEEP SEEING YOU!’ ;) it’s almost like you‘re offering some deal o…
/r/seduction03/01/25 11:54 PM
3

It’s called being human I think 🤷‍♂️ Bored and infatuated aren‘t really describing your feelings but more your thinking states. Can perhaps focus on being more present with feelings as physical sensations in your body when you’re around her and less ‘in your head.’
/r/seduction03/01/25 11:35 PM
7

Women are not logical, and just think about the circles he operates in, ‘looks‘ are fucking insignificant way before that stage 😂 Women really care about how you make them feel, not what you look like. I find that guys on here talking a lot about ‘looks’ often give off a vibe of immaturity which is bound to be a bit repulsive to women because it reeks of insecurity. Now Elon does care enough that he got a hair transplant, but I’m not sure that modelling game from the richest man in the world can…
/r/seduction27/12/24 07:11 PM
2

I don’t think sex has much to do with ‘technique.’ ’Slow Sex’ by Nichole Daedone is a good primer on that ;)
/r/seduction27/12/24 03:32 PM
1

Does socialising count?
/r/seduction25/11/24 01:52 AM
1

Is this just an example that females have evolved caregiver traits due to their capacity to bear children?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/09/24 12:47 AM
1

many people who aren’t in healthy relationships are doing the anxious / avoidant attachment dance, one person craves more contact and connection and the other one naturally wants space or to pull away more. You change the behaviours that are driven by fears or insecurities, you have to work out which of your behaviours are useful!
/r/seduction26/01/24 10:19 PM
3

I have some really close male friendships but sometimes I feel like we don‘t value each other enough. There’s always those friends who when they get a girl or married kinda drop off the map a bit, I think we need to work harder to maintain our friendships. Women are conditioned more just to be that way. But there are also a ton of benefits to being able to be more independently minded too!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/24 12:12 AM
1

If you don’t have some degree of ‘anxiety’ in interacting with a super attractive woman, maybe she isn’t quite attractive enough. Some of this is biological / social conditioning from years, perhaps when talking to the wrong woman in the wrong way could get you killed or cast out from the tribe
/r/seduction06/09/23 06:40 PM
1

Most of the best clubs will have some outdoor smoking place or lounge area where people chat, its not all dancing - but dance floor game can be a thing that works pretty nicely
/r/seduction04/07/23 07:31 PM
4

thats all well and good but what about when you see someone extremely hot and the ’approach anxiety’ kicks in. Day to day small talk vs opening a 10 are 2 different worlds - that need to be bridged
/r/seduction04/07/23 07:30 PM
7

The music being loud means you have to get close to talk! It’s more about the body
/r/seduction04/07/23 07:27 PM
1

Thanks can you fix mine too? 😅
/r/seduction11/06/23 01:37 PM
1

It’s basically the same if you just got married at 16 and fucked only one person for life. Every few years we pretty much become a whole new person 😂 There can be a fine line between curiousity and wanting to experiment vs just feeding the egos validation and seeking novelty for its own sake.
/r/seduction11/06/23 01:36 PM
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So the primary distinction of a man is his performed function and the primary distinction of a woman is her “womaness“
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/23 08:12 AM
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I think cos younger women are more shy, we pick up on that and it makes it seem harder, but it’s just different. also, if you’re an older ish guy attracted to young women, that also has certain bullshit social taboos associated
/r/seduction19/10/22 02:43 AM
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Think of it as dropping your expectations in order that you can actually BE with her, and she can get to know you and a bit of your life, rather than a ritualised dating scenario with all the presumed vetting and pressure or expectation
/r/seduction19/10/22 02:38 AM
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I love this, official ‘dating‘ is kind of a can of worms. The amount of dates in bars I had where I just ended up making a new drinking buddy for the night! much better to bring her into YOUR world and see how she fits
/r/seduction19/10/22 02:36 AM
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Learn to love yourself
/r/seduction19/10/22 02:26 AM
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You become more like yourself with age and experience, and being able to discern what is truly yours as oppose to all the noise, conditioning, judgments and opinions of others that stuck to us without even realising
/r/seduction19/10/22 01:01 AM
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It’s IDGAF
/r/seduction11/10/22 09:13 PM
2

Stop caring, your own confidence is what’s getting results, not your perceived height
/r/seduction05/09/22 02:22 AM
2

As a culture we are being programmed to seek distraction. If that feels like being drawn to variety then perhaps so. the biological instinct is to spread one’s seed far and wide and we also have conscious instincts to guide us towards better paths of awakening
/r/seduction05/09/22 01:56 AM
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It’s never too late, a lot of it you know anyway and you just need reminding. I’m sad about Tom. I met him once about 10 years ago in London and paid him a few quid for a little session, and came to one of his events. He seemed like a pretty decent guy, R.I.P Tom
/r/seduction01/09/22 11:02 PM
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You can do that in some cases if you time it right and no one else will find out. Social conditioning shames women for being ‘easy’ plus biologically they are more primed to find a ‘good partner’ or great genes than just a quick fuck with a random guy
/r/seduction20/08/22 03:52 AM
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Actually ‘game’ is more about social skill, seduction can be a by product but game is bigger than your interactions with women
/r/seduction24/07/22 01:50 PM
1

They are choosing all the time but most men don’t notice or reciprocate
/r/seduction24/07/22 01:40 PM
1

Ego, insecurity etc
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:45 PM
1

I think the numbers thing is just about overcoming fear of rejection, or getting used to it
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:13 PM
1

You sound a bit like me, I hate the idea of ‘socialising,’ or formal dates, but I enjoy being around people in good environments or shared interests etc… a good thing is to follow your own passions and drives, when you take better care of yourself people notice and that energy is more attractive. And just less thinking and more being out of the house, which is something I need to do…
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:11 PM
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You are the common denominator here. It’s better to be interested than ‘interesting.’ A truly feminine woman is more in receptiveness than giving. Don’t ever expect or ask a woman to give you anything. People need time to open up, try not to judge them by your own standards as that’s a form of projection
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:06 PM
1

I don’t think it’s healthy to internalise words like ’cold’ or ‘approach’, just talk to women, they like it 😊
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:14 PM
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Accept that you’re already perfect
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:51 AM
1

Actually feel her. Women aren’t machines that all respond to the same code
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:48 AM
1

I could be Up for this, I’m probably a bit older…
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:46 AM
1

‘Cold approach‘ is such a horrible term though, who wants to be coldly approached 🤔
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:45 AM
1

It’s kind of impossible not to manipulate, this happens in all forms of communicatio. The unethical element is if you’re not being honest about what you want. most standard pick up stuff isn’t geared towards relationships, just getting laid and playing numbers etc..
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:43 AM
2

your issues around dependence are more about you and not how many women you can attract.
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:38 AM
1

wax on wax off
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:34 AM
1

She doesn’t care about what your building looks like. She doesn’t care about her past experiences. She cares about how she feels when she’s around you
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:33 AM
2

Of course… good logistics helps, gay clubs are also a good place to find women ;)
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:29 AM
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True, but the screwy thing about this is clubs and bars are more often ‘young people’ environments
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:27 AM
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