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OYS - Week 38 Physical: 30/6'0"/175lbs. ~15% BF. I'm lifting heavy again. Adding weight every week but taking it slow. Old injuries aren't acting up so that is a good sign. Lots of muscle tightness I'm having to work out. Over all it feels good. Going on vacation for Friday. Plan is to start keto when I get back and get that BF down further. Mental: Worked out of town 75% of the days last month. Gave me some time to think and be away from everyone and my family. Several bad habits and stress rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 08:08 PM
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OYS - Week 34 Physical: 30/6'0"/175lbs. ~15% BF. Past month I've been lifting weights again. Compared to my body weight I'm still lifting on the lighter side. Each week I'm adding weight and seeing what the limits of my injuries are. I'm sore, continuing to add weight, and staying injury free. That's all that matters to me right now. In another month I hope to be 1.5x body weight on DL and Squats. I'll test out my body weight for bench. Mental: Last entry I was determined to start trying to medi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 07:32 PM
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OYS - Week 29 Physical: 30/6'0"/175lbs. ~15% BF. Finishing out the last two week at my boxing gym before I start lifting heavy things again next month. Stopped sparing so I don't get too beat up. Mental: I've been sick and working from home most of this week. I've been doing a lot of STFU since my wife works part time and is also home. Usually she gets a bit bitchy when I'm at home too much. She has calmed down a bit and I've learned to deal with her better. It is somewhat of a relief. Work is i…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 08:04 PM
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Thanks mate. I've been hampstering about why I shouldn't lift for so long based off those bad experiences for too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 08:31 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 06:13 PM
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Health: 30/6'0"/175lbs. 15% BF. Bad two weeks. Irritated an old neck injury. Doctor says I'm not allowed lift or do anything with my upper body for a bit. Running should be ok if it doesn't irritate my neck. Tried to run and joint pain in my ankle stopped that for the week. Been tested for arthritis and other issues with everything coming back negative. Take a ton of fish oil and turmeric and stay away from sugar to combat inflammation. Doesn't seem to help to much. When I'm not able to be activ…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 07:11 PM
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Got the invite. Took a look around. Seemed like guys who get their feeling hurt wanted their own place. Didn't think to much of it. After reading that list you just posted I won't be going back. What the fuck does adopting a child have to do with being a leader. Sounds like more needless self sacrifice to be what modern society wants you to be. Telling my wife that I love her and meaning it has never seemed to make a difference. Thermonuclear.... wat.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 05:07 PM
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I know her hard nos and honestly I wasn't trying to force her into having sex. I was going to masturbate, get a hand job, or have sex with her. Those were the options. If she told me no to the two that involved her than that was fine. I was sort of playing chicken with her. It felt like her brain was breaking at the though of me jerking off.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 04:35 AM
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Good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 04:15 AM
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Health: 30/6'0"/175lbs. 15% BF. Consistent workouts. Taking a break from Muay Thai to heal some specific injuries. Replaced it with BJJ again. Might not be the best idea from a recovery strand point but it doesn't hurt the same places that Muay Thai was. I get to train an extra day as well due to schedule. Books: NMMNG WISNIFG Book of Pook The Rational Male The Way of Men MMSLP I've been reading some other books not related to MRP. Competing for my time. Frame: Things were surprisingly smooth th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 06:56 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 04:54 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/17 04:00 PM
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Thanks. I knew that sounded familiar. I pass the test for myself. I'd fuck me. If it’s important to you but not to her then it would be selfish of her to keep you from enjoying it. Old me tried to reason that with her a long time ago. She didn't see it that way. I'm starting to internalize certain things but I've got a long way to go before reaching the end.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/17 03:42 PM
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Not sure what the Buffalo Bill test is. I know I've heard it before but I can't quite remember. Are you leading? Are you fun and OI enough when rejected? I'm sure I could do all of this more. To the outsider I bet some of my leading seems a little awkward. My wife is hostile to change and I'm trying to remain calm and firm through it. I'm not doing terribly in any particular field but I could be more fun as well. I think I've disconnected more emotionally to get much of the outbursts under contr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 04:31 PM
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Health: 30/6'0"/175lbs. 15% BF. Met up with my friend who is a coach to work on some form. Feel better about workouts now. Took a heavy shot to the knee in kickboxing last night that might have me laid of for a few days. As much as I love it I might have to stop or go back to BJJ thank to all injuries. Books: NMMNG WISNIFG Book of Pook The Rational Male The Way of Men MMSLP (Currently Reading) Stalled out on MMSLP after getting irritated reading all the sex stuff that I can't use yet. I'm starti…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 03:15 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 08:32 PM
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I wish I could say yes. I've tried transitioning physical things like this with her and I can figure out if she is playing or not. This was not playing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 08:21 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:12 PM
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I think it is just like /u/justpickanyusername said. SMV is still low. I try to push past it very often and 4/5 times it is then met with a hard no. Her first few soft "no" I laugh at and tease her and push past. Usually give up when she actually pushes me away. Now I leave to go do something else though, which is an improvement. Going to give it a few more months. I'm back in shape and losing body fat and active again. Conversely, she has been taking a downturn this past year or so though. If a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 10:44 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 08:37 PM
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I've been out of the country for 14 days with my wife on vacation. I've missed a few OYS during that time but I've been keeping track of all the things I've fucked up and done right while I've been here. I fly back home in the morning and while I have some downtime I feel its a good time to finally do it right. My wife's sister is an absolute control freak and pretty much miserable to be around. She is one of those bitter women that somewhat hate men and is very manipulative. The trip we took wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/17 04:06 PM
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Honestly since I'm still fairly new and sometimes I don't recognize things till halfway in. I spoke to her in a more playful tone but its hard to convey in text. But I do fail from time to time.
/r/askMRP30/07/17 10:29 PM
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Obviously I'm going to go to work. I'm trying to understand just what she is thinking during those moments though. I'm not going to change what I'm eventually going to do based on what she says. But does she somehow equate that with compliance?
/r/askMRP30/07/17 10:26 PM
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I don't really feel like writing this thing today. Its on my list of shit to do though so I'm making myself do it. I'm finding that this is how I've felt about most things this week. I don't have the motivation but it is something I have written down so I do it. Highlights Despite being sick and injured I've been regular at the gym. Every major task I had scheduled got done. I've held frame with my wife and others with no issue. I no longer GAF about several things I used to several months ago. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 03:27 PM
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Health: 30/6'0"/175lbs. 14-15% BF. Was pretty sick over the past 3 weeks. Missed some work outs but lost some weight in the process. Back in the gym but not 100%. Books: Broke through the reading wall. Past few days I've read more than the past week. Reading multiple books at the same time to keep my interest. At this rate I'll be done with TRM by end of next week. NMMNG NMMNG WISNIFG Book of Pook The Rational Male (Currently Reading) MMSLP (Currently Reading) 48 Laws of Power (Currently Reading…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 10:36 PM
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Health: 30/6'0"/180lbs. Learned I was measuring my body fat wrong. 14-15% BF. Sick for 5 days. Worked out yesterday. Felt pretty weak but I'm well enough to workout. Books: NMMNG NMMNG WISNIFG Book of Pook The Rational Male (Currently Reading) MMSLP (Currently Reading) Social/Frame: I'm starting to withdraw from some of my friends that I only talk to in group chats. It took up too much of my time and I don't like being glued to my phone constantly taking to my friends. I catch myself when I make…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 05:51 PM
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Will do. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 01:52 AM
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I can see my abs but they are not shredded. Like shadows of abs. Still have some extra fat on belly. I think I'm 15ish.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 01:40 AM
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Thanks for the resource. I'm lower than I thought. Navy calc has me at 12%. I did the 7 skin fold with the calipers again and its around 17%. I think I was reading the other chart wrong. Much easier to plug in measurements instead. That is most likely the more accurate one. I can live with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 01:07 AM
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Health: 30/6'0"/180lbs. I'm not sure how people get their body fat percentage on here but I've checked mine using both calipers and bioelectrical impedance. I get different readings depending on the area measure or when I use my scale. Safe to say i'm somewhere between 17-20% BF. Plenty of room to improve. I'm going to go check out a new gym today to see if they are what I'm looking for. I'm going to start lifting a little earlier than what I was supposed to but I'll keep it light. My form will …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 06:38 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 06:19 PM
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Besides some sexual issues we don't have any real issues that stand out right now. She has a tendency to be critical/controlling/disrespectful at times and this was an extension of that I believe. The sexual ones are explained by my behavior and some of her background. Its being worked on. I have a strange mix of Alpha/Beta that has been inconstant over the past 10 years. Lots of dysfunctional family stuff and what I learned form society that didn't turn out to be true. Sounds like both of you f…
/r/askMRP12/06/17 05:24 PM
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Thanks. I watched a couple of your videos today actually. It's taking some time to let info sink in and stick. Someone mentioned it all being a big shit test today and that clicked a little. Also something you said about anytime they do something with a disrespectful tone as well. I've been focusing on the verbiage and not so much the tone.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 07:49 PM
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I read the Borderline Men article. I'm biased of course and feel a little defensive but I'm doing my best to be objective. I started off writing a long response to it but I deleted it. Nothing good would have come from it. She seemed personally invested as she dated someone with BPD and was bitter over it. She made some good points and observations. On the other hand, it was a bit insulting overall and over generalized many things.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 06:28 PM
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Thanks for the link. That helped.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 04:16 PM
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I figured someone might dig through my history but I didn't expect bullet points. It is interesting and a little depressing to see it listed so neatly. Right now I've been doing CBT. I've heard of DBT but haven't done much research. I may now though. I came across RP a little over a month ago. Since I started reading I've gained quite a bit of stability, atleast for now. Usually I have some fuck up every 10-14 days. Sometimes even less but I've been incredibly stable, for me, these past 5-6 week…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 04:10 PM
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But you losing your control when it happens is something you can change. Realize that you are still in control of yourself and whats happening. Two solid things I need to remember.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 03:13 PM
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Thanks. I know frame and controlling my mood are two weak areas right now. I'm working my way through the side bar. Just finished WISNIFG yesterday and need to pick up another one today. Commands from your wife are a form of Shit Test called a "compliance test". Well shit. I haven't viewed that as a shit test till you just pointed it out. This makes me curious about something now. Are things like her asking me to stop by the store on the way home because she forgot something a form of shit test …
/r/askMRP06/06/17 03:09 PM
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I recognize I'm an angry guy. Working on changing that. I workout to deal with much of that anger right now. When I miss a day or two I can tell pretty easy. When I'm challenged directly is when much of the anger spills out right now. Trying to change the anger is why I'm subjecting myself to a sub full of guys who are going to critic everything I say. Its not a bad thing, but it isn't easy right now either. Right now I'd say I'm 30%anger, 70%fun. I've heard that from most my friends and some fa…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 03:01 PM
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I care way too much right now. I think that is what I've learned today. Thanks.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:50 PM
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If she's giving the commands. She likes to give a lot of them but they rarely get followed if it wasn't something I was already doing or planning to do. My current way of dealing with it is to do what I was going to do but let her know "I'm not doing what ever it is you are demanding" which I realize isn't good. I think I'll be on a better path by dropping the second part. The not caring is the hard part. Right now I think I need the other person to know they aren't controlling my action, even t…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:47 PM
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Yeah. That is what I should have done.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:37 PM
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I see people talk about different types of captains and quoting things but I don't know where that comes from. I'd like to read it if there is something to read. I have a feeling it might just be some analogy everyone just uses though with no source. Everyone seems to keep focusing in on the food aspect. It was just the example. What I asked about was how to deal with demands and commands. I'll still answer your questions though. Does she have all the info she needs? I keep track of macros and k…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:36 PM
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Its not about food. It was just the recent example. The butthurt comes from being told what I'm going to do. I can deal with some criticism decently at times but dealing with commands is what fucking infuriates me. WISNIFG talks about what to do when someone is criticizing things about you and it makes sense. Thats all about dealing with what people think you "should do" right? The current struggle is understanding how to deal with the command. I know I shouldn't get that angry but I currently d…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:23 PM
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Oh the exchange is real. I do turn into a huge asshole when being told what to do. Something I'm working on. Wife: No I won't. You can cook for yourself then. Me: No, you'll cook. (Then I left the kitchen and took a shower.) If you are referring to this about me being bossy then I understand the confusion. It wasn't me being bossy as much as it was me calling her on an empty threat. She says shit all the time with no intention of doing anything. I was frustrated and called her on it.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:13 PM
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You know, I heard that in my head but the anger over rode it. She also absolutely hates when I make daddy innuendo. It has started fights.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:07 PM
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Yes I'm working out. I'm not sitting around accumulating mass. Most people seem to think I'm mad about the food. I don't care about that. Just like you said you do for yourself, I cook more or eat what is in the fridge. If she doesn't tell me what it is for then how will I know? I'm not going to go run to her and ask if she has something planned for every little thing. The anger comes from being told what to do. From her hearing me do something then running in then dictate what my behavior is no…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:05 PM
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I'm 6'0 and 175-180lbs. I guess your wife didn't catch those telepathic messages your stomach was sending her about how hungry you were, so she knows how much to make huh? Lol. I tell her all the time to cook more. I don't eat breakfast and usually just eat lunch and dinner. Sometimes a protien shake before working out. I keep lose track of my macros and know how much protien I've eaten that day and if I still need some. Why I cook eggs usually if I'm still hungry. "You'll cook tomorrow too, aga…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 02:00 PM
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Isn't the move here to just STFU and cook for yourself? I mean yeah I guess and I would. She throws empty threats around a lot. There is absolutely no way that she isn't going to cook again the next day. She is just saying something to say something. Why I got frustrated and said "Yes you will." Because she never follows through with anything that is a threat.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 01:49 PM
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I know it isn't great behavior, part of why I'm on here. Why are you in a situation so often where there isn't enough food, to the point you get angry? I'm not angry about food. I get angry when she tries to control my behavior, in this case it is me going back to see what is left. I didn't know she was planning on using everything for tomorrows dinner and she starts jumping on me. Ever thought about buying more groceries and asking her to cook more food? I do both. She often tries to limit how …
/r/askMRP06/06/17 01:46 PM
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Has nothing to do with the subject matter, I just honestly hate being told to do something. You can ask me all day long and I'll be pretty chill but the moment it sounds like a command I get pissed. Know the expression seeing red? I see red. It is better now than it used to be but when she has a certain tone in her voice and she is going on about what all I'm going to do because she said so I lose my cool. I'm sure it has to do with some insecurity some where and growing up with an overbearing a…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 04:49 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 04:36 PM
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First OYS. Been on the red pill for about a week so I'm still making a ton of mistakes. I see people talk about their MAP and have no idea what they are talking about. I'm sure I'll read about it eventually. I'm mimicking the format I see other people using. Lifting/Diet: I've been doing a combination of Muy Thai/Boxing/Jiu Jitsu for a number of years so thankfully I'm not struggling to workout. Making all the other life changes is hard enough. I'm back to my normal weight and don't have an issu…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:24 PM
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