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Field Reporttopher_atx/r/seduction05/10/25 09:16 PM
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Fundamentals topher_atx/r/seduction04/05/25 01:07 AM
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Fundamentals topher_atx/r/seduction03/05/25 11:19 PM
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I've been looking for a relationship over the past two years and have only found casual even though that isn't what I'm looking for. My philosophy is if its the woman's idea, casual sex is fine. Most women, most of the time, aren't looking for casual sex. But some women do look for this some of the time, so when they do go looking for this and they pick you I don't think there's a problem really. Take it as a compliment. Now going out and seeking this as a guy is somewhat problematic in my opini…
/r/seduction30/11/25 04:40 AM
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I broke things off with a woman who was kind of trying to keep her options open. Personally I don't like it when people do that, so I don't let them keep me around as an option. You don't have to be tyrannical about it, or demand it immediately, but you shouldn't let women toy with you too much in my opinion. Guys have a reputation for sleeping around. Women do the same thing but for attention, dates, and options.
/r/seduction22/11/25 08:03 AM
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Cold approach is a good skill to have. A lot of women aren't going to be receptive, but some will and some will actually appreciate it. A lot of women treat men who cold approach like panhandlers or telemarketers, but somebody's got to do it or there wouldn't be any people. I constantly see women complaining about dating on TikTok though, so it'd be nice if they played ball a little more. Mating is a strange game.
/r/seduction16/11/25 03:55 AM
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I've been thing a lot about this lately. Whenever you cold approach or express interest in a stranger, how often is the rejection because they don't find you attractive or consider you a top suitor versus they are rejecting all cold approaches out of fear/stranger-danger/anti-f*ckboi-defense? For me personally, I think the rejection rate I get is abnormally high for me to just not be good enough for the overwhelming majority of women I approach. I suspect what's going on is women aren't being ap…
/r/seduction14/11/25 12:17 AM
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I think what's going on with women hating on "nice guys" is this: There are two types of guys that approach or express interest in women: 1) Guys who are genuinely interested 2) Guys who are temporarily lowering their standards and pretending to be interested in order to get casual sex If you take these men, and rank them from most attractive to least attractive a disproportionate number of the attractive men are going to be in the second category. So women are being conditioned to being treated…
/r/seduction10/11/25 03:51 PM
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If they take a long time to respond, I take it as a rejection and I move on. Sometimes, maybe they're on the fence about you and if you just ride it out they might circle back to you when their main interest doesn't work out. However, how I play the game is I move on permanently. Probably a bit extreme, but I just straight up block them everywhere so I won't be tempted to bite when they circle back. I wish I was strong enough to ignore them indefinitely without blocking, but I'm not that strong,…
/r/seduction05/11/25 06:34 PM
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This! I always go for it. Even if they don't like you, I've always gotten the feeling they kinda liked the swagger of going for it. Obviously you don't want to go TOO FAR, but you aren't gonna get me-too'd going for a kiss. And sometimes you find out they want more than a kiss.
/r/seduction03/11/25 11:14 PM
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I don't have fear of rejection. But I do have fear of embarrassment. Is that the same thing? What I attempt to do is be as graceful as possible. With that being said, I have totally embarrassed myself before. Women are usually pretty nice though. They know the game and they'll typically appreciate it if you make your shot as painless as possible. You want to be like skilled phlebotomist, just a quick pinch and its over.
/r/seduction02/11/25 10:48 PM
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I think people like going out, maybe for different reasons, but they almost always squander the opportunity to meet new people. Most people "parallel play." They go out with their small friend groups of 2-7 people, are among lots of other people they don't know, but they don't actually end up interacting with any strangers. I heard somebody call these friends you take out "security blankets." People are pretty cowardly to be honest and treat time as if it is infinite which it most definitely is …
/r/seduction02/11/25 06:55 AM
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Sounds like it went pretty well to me. She just didn't end up picking you. Thats the trouble with online dating in my opinion. I've gotten the feeling from some women that they're really going on a lot of dates and really shopping around. What I don't like about that is going out and they have no idea if they like you at all. Whereas if you meet in person, the first dates end up going way better because they already know they like you. Online dating is quite efficient though. You'll just have to…
/r/seduction02/11/25 06:20 AM
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I think what makes it difficult is that women are generally much less interested in us, than we are in them. So your chance of reward or success is quite low anytime you try to chat up a woman. Most women go home alone, and land zero future dates on any given night out. They punt the whole game & then call it a night. Assuming you aren't going for women way out of your league, you probably aren't getting out-competed by other guys. Often times women just reject everyone. But yeah, I think that's…
/r/seduction02/11/25 02:23 AM
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Well I try not to spend any money when I go out but I have noticed what you're talking about, the rejection rate is abnormally high in my opinion. I think I may have actually solved this from what these two young women told me the other night while we were hanging out. They told me 99% of the guys who approach them are just trying to smash. Now I'm a man, so I really don't know what the real percentage is. Personally, I don't really approach women I don't think are attractive enough to plausibly…
/r/seduction01/11/25 10:21 PM
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They'll pay attention to you after you turn 30 if you're in good shape.
/r/seduction30/10/25 08:57 PM
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I feel like I have to be in peak physical condition to attract women. Its probably the same thing for women though. Thin women get all the attention. Overweight women are probably getting very little attention, or aren't getting attention from the guys they want. With that being said, women put up a lot of defense when it comes to strangers, and tend to prefer men they meet organically or through warm introductions. So the absolute best way to attract women is to have a great physique AND a soci…
/r/seduction27/10/25 06:32 PM
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I hate that this is true, but you really do have to be able to walk away or you'll get mistreated, cheated on, or dumped. Personally, I'm running out of time, but I still find myself having to walk away. Maybe I just do it really fast now? Loosely related, the last 4 women in my life are about to be childless forever 💀. Attracting 1 woman is hard. But you really do have to be able to attract more than 1 if you want to keep 1. You have to have the confidence in yourself that she might have a hard…
/r/seduction27/10/25 01:43 AM
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I've paid in the past, but in my opinion its not worth it. Meeting women in real life is better. Cold approach brings its own set of problems, but its still better than online dating. The s-tier move is meeting women organically. However, life doesn't always send women your way, so sometimes you have yo go make something happen on your own. But yeah, I put online dating at the bottom of the list. The ratio of men to women is just too out of whack, and if you do get a date, they don't even know i…
/r/seduction23/10/25 01:41 PM
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Its rough out there, but keep fighting. You'll probably succeed if you keep trying and fighting and keep living with a sense of urgency. There are definitely a lot of economic & societal problems that aren't really any individuals fault. But if you compete, you can probably climb your way to where you want to be. And when it comes to women, in my opinion, most of our frustrations come down to women being the less thirsty sex. For example, I moved into this apartment complex a year ago. When I fi…
/r/seduction22/10/25 04:09 AM
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The answer to this is the same for men and women (with one small difference for men): Get to a low body fat percentage. For men and women this is the #1 thing keeping men and women from being as attractive as they could be, is having too much bodyfat. And getting to a healthy weight isn't enough. When I first got back down to a healthy weight, 165 lbs., I still had like 20 pounds of fat I needed to burn off to look my best. Eventually I burned off that 20 pounds of fat and look much better now. …
/r/seduction20/10/25 06:00 PM
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I've experienced something maybe related: drunk girls that forget about you the next day. Bars & nightclubs are good places for meeting people. But I've found often times you never hear from these women again after they sober up the next day. For me, I think I'm going to stop going to bars & nightclubs. Take this past Friday night, which may have been my last night out, I rode my motorcycle down 6th Street in Austin, TX to my favorite bar. As I roll up to park this babe outside the bar says she …
/r/seduction19/10/25 04:58 PM
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Not an incel. I'm guilty of doing this myself, lowering my standards for casual sex. I just don't do it anymore.
/r/seduction18/10/25 01:40 AM
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This is an easy one. They aren't infatuated because the guys aren't texting them often. They're infatuated because the guys are out of their league. Essentially, these guys are the very best these women can "get" but they can only keep them for a night, or maybe even only an hour or two. They probably don't view these guys as being out of their league, but this is how men treat women when they're lowering their standards significantly for casual sex.
/r/seduction18/10/25 01:21 AM
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This is why I don't think people should try and date or sleep with multiple people at once. I broke it off with a woman who was trying to do this. I accidentally doubled booked once and went out with two women on the same day once and it felt gross. You can't really bond to two people at once.
/r/seduction17/10/25 04:14 PM
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Luckily I don't think ALL women are like this. But seeing women's bad behavior first hand does help you lose your naivety. Personally I assume women I'm talking to are "good" but if I detect anything shady alarms go off and I don't let them trick me. I had this kind of intense fling recently and sort of thought I might marry this woman, but she did something shady and I picked up on it and I stopped talking to her and ended things. Last thing I'll say about this chick from the original post: Rea…
/r/seduction17/10/25 04:44 AM
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Only pursue women who you think could plausibly be your girlfriend.
/r/seduction16/10/25 10:54 PM
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This has happened to me a bunch of times. Women who have been drinking will forget all about you the next day. Its probably for the best though. Would you want to be the other guy? No you would not. And if that other guy knew about her low character, he'd probably stop talking to her.
/r/seduction15/10/25 01:56 PM
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Definitely overrated. Women don't sleep with fat confident guys. They sleep with guys who look good naked.
/r/seduction14/10/25 04:11 AM
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I think I have part of the answer you're looking for: low body fat percentage and some muscle on your frame is how you gain sex appeal asca man. For women the equation is similar: low body fat plus some fat on their frame in the right places (breasts and buttocks). It comes down to sexual dimorphism. When you're lean with no muscle or fat in your chest or buttocks you're prepubescent essentially. But add in some muscle and you become manly. Add fat to the chest and buttocks you become womanly. B…
/r/seduction14/10/25 04:07 AM
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Going out and being social talking to women is a good idea & a good skill to have. Now trying to be a "pickup artist" is gross in my opinion, but the other stuff he talks about is good (minus the negs).
/r/seduction13/10/25 04:02 PM
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This is really common. My advice is don't make getting numbers a high priority. My female roommate in college once told me, if she's interested she'll make sure you get her number. Now I don't take that advice literally, but there's some truth to it. What I do now is if I think she might be interested I'll ask to exchange contact info just in case, but I don't expect things to go any further. You're just keeping the door open. If the interest level is high, you're going to know it. But yeah, do …
/r/seduction13/10/25 06:23 AM
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No, it's easier! Maybe it depends on the person, but alcohol makes most people less attractive.
/r/seduction13/10/25 05:47 AM
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This is 💯% true. They even have a "not sure what im looking for" status on dating apps which is code for DTF. I don't go for one night stands and try my best to avoid dating apps, but women do get horny and go on dating apps looking for that. However, you can't come right out and start talking about sex You'll make them feel like a prostitute or come off like a creep so you have to pretend its just a normal date, then at the end of the date you guys hookup.
/r/seduction13/10/25 04:34 AM
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I personally do not like one night stands, but in the past they have come my way when that's what the woman is looking for. Maybe they're on vacation, looking to rebound after a breakup, cheat on their partner, or maybe they're high, all sorts of reasons. However, I think women typically aren't seeking that, but anecdotally I know they do sometimes. I don't really condone this, but lowering your standards and going on dates with women from dating apps that you would never consider actually havin…
/r/seduction13/10/25 04:26 AM
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Ask her on a date. It needs to be a yes / no proposition. "Hey! This is so-and-so from so-and-so, would you like to go out and do xyz." This is where you're going to learn if: 1) She just gave you her number to be nice and avoid having to outright reject you 2) She is semi-sort-of-interested and wants to keep you around as an option but doesn't have you high up on her list of suitors 3) She says yes and is genuinely interested in you Do not feel bad if she says no or says she's "busy". Attractiv…
/r/seduction12/10/25 07:17 PM
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Your body fat percentage is really important. I've lost a lot of weight, and am back to my peak physique at 38. I can currently make my old high school wrestling weight. However, the weight loss didn't all come at once, it came in stages, so I can sort of see how I did in the dating market at different weights. When I lost the first 20 pounds going from overweight to healthy weight I sort of became f*ckable again. But I remember taking some shirtless photos at this weight and I really didn't loo…
/r/seduction12/10/25 07:08 PM
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When I was younger I was in really good shape and had a lot of success with women. After I let myself go and got fat I started having all this trouble with women. After losing 40 lbs of fat and getting back to the weight & physique I had as a young guy women started paying attention to me again. So I guess that's the number 1 indicator: will women sleep with you?
/r/seduction09/10/25 04:08 PM
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That's what I was thinking too. Why would you have that strong of a reaction?
/r/seduction09/10/25 04:04 PM
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I would say don't worry about your breasts. Maybe the top 0.1% of guys can be that picky, most guys are not that picky about that. The one thing I would worry about though is weight and body fat percentage. I would look up what the most attractive female body fat percentages are, and try to get in that range. You don't need to be anorexic, but to attract the most number of guys you're going to want to be a healthy weight, and realistically you'll want to be at the lower end of the healthy range …
/r/seduction07/10/25 11:41 PM
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I'm starting to think this is the way as well. Now I think you still want to look as good as possible, be lean, put on as much muscle as you can naturally, and wear clothes that show off your physique, nice haircut, etc, but women are picking men that they know and are in their proximity. Now men, we don't give a sh*t about any of that, but they do.
/r/seduction05/10/25 09:22 PM
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That's been my experience as well. I actually don't even pursue casual anymore because it doesn't last and I think women don't really like it when you don't think they're good enough to be your girlfriend. Now I only pursue women who I think could plausibly be my girlfriend.
/r/seduction25/07/25 05:51 PM
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I would still pay attention to who expresses interest in you. As men, I think we really need to pick from the women who pick us. Chasing after women who aren't interested is a bad strategy in my opinion. Obviously, if you're in great shape and they're fat, then you don't have to reciprocate. But if a woman is on your level and she expresses interest I'd try and play ball. Personally, I do still go out and play offense and approach women that I'm attracted to, but if they don't reciprocate, I mov…
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:18 PM
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You don't ask, just assume she's single unless she says otherwise or you see her with a guy. EDIT: This advice mostly applies to settings where single people go.
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:02 AM
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I guess you have to assess whether she's playful teasing, busting your balls a little, and building sexual tension versus she's disagreeable and is just a c*nt that you probably want to avoid. Having been in a relationship with a very disagreeable woman, that's a deal breaker for me now. But if you're unsure, just own it, act unbothered, and return fire.
/r/seduction23/06/25 08:28 PM
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I think avoiding dating apps is a good idea. I would only throw in one change to what you're doing: pay attention and be open to who approaches you. As a man I do this. I approach women to express interest, but I also pay attention to women who hint they may be interested in me. You can do the same. Express interest in men, but also be open to those who express interest in you.
/r/seduction21/06/25 03:24 PM
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I don't know if this helps or not, but think about how we treat commissioned salesmen. Even if you're planning on buying, a lot of times you are looking around and you want the sales guy to leave you alone, and you probably reject him immediately when he approaches. My theory is women don't like getting put on the spot and pressured to buy so they'll reject guys even if they have what the woman wants to buy at a very good price. The flip side to that is, sometimes women go places and they want s…
/r/seduction19/06/25 02:17 PM
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I usually hand her my phone with the search screen opened up on Instagram. Phone number is probably better though. If she likes you, it probably doesn't matter. The purpose is to just make future contact possible.
/r/seduction18/06/25 10:27 PM
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I think dancing is the way when it comes to nightclubs, so don't focus too much on talking. A little bit of talking is maybe necessary though. If a woman seems interested and we're sort of dancing together, or she was receptive to my approach, if I need to communicate I get really close to her, cup my hand, and try and talk into her ear. Don't scream or yell or anything, that'll turn them off, but get real close so you can speak clearly and at a reasonable volume speak into her ear. Another good…
/r/seduction15/06/25 07:12 PM
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Never ask. Just kiss her.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:07 AM
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No need to ask. If she's alone, and especially if she's somewhere singles go to meet other singles, assume she doesn't have a boyfriend. If she does have one and she's faithful, she'll tell you. Or if she's single but really doesn't want to talk to you she may lie and say she has one. Occasionally I'll try and talk to a woman who has a boyfriend but he's wandered off 15 to 20 feet so you don't see him. But usually they can tell you didn't see them and there isn't a problem. That's probably the m…
/r/seduction13/06/25 01:27 AM
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I don't like that kind of content either. Its trashy. If they're doing it to genuinely to try and meet someone, and they don't film the actual interactions, I think its fine. But thats not what they do. Men should be brave and go out and try to meet women, but looking at them like they're prey animals or fish or something is immature. Women aren't THAT different from men. They're still people. And whenever you go out to approach, a lot of times women are playing the same game. They likely want t…
/r/seduction13/06/25 12:12 AM
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You definitely gotta watch out because women have lots of options for casual sex. I'd say selection is important. If you select a woman who is really unconscientious she's not going to have the restraint/willpower/discipline/character to turndown attractive men. The other thing that I think is important is to stay in great shape, don't let yourself go. And last, you better make sure she finishes most of the time. (I've screwed up all of those things before, but hopefully not the next time)
/r/seduction10/06/25 11:28 PM
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Don't fall into the trap of thinking only tall men can have success with women. Tall guys do have it easy because women do kind of like height, but tall men are rare and there just aren't enough of them to go around. My advice would be to ignore tall guys, and don't compare yourself to them (I say this as a man who is 5'8"). With that being said, attracting women isn't easy. For the most part, women prefer meeting men through warm introductions from mutual friends and acquaintances, so cold appr…
/r/seduction09/06/25 12:35 AM
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Become one of the physically attractive guys. As a man, when I go out I see lots of hot chicks. I don't see 1 hot chick, I see many, and I put them all in the same category for the most part. I suspect women see us in a similar way. There are the attractive guys, and then everybody else. You want to make sure you are lumped in with the attractive guys.
/r/seduction06/06/25 06:57 PM
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Well one, don't try to take them home the first night you meet them. If its their idea, then fine go for it, but I wouldn't suggest it because women generally don't want that even if they like you. Two, I've had this happen as well and its really frustrating. I call it: the drunk girl problem. Alcohol loosens people up so it does make meeting women somewhat easier, but it also makes it harder to reconnect when they wake up sober the next day. They either don't remember you, or they're more inhib…
/r/seduction03/06/25 02:14 PM
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All the time! haha. It would be easy to say its you, or me, and that's the problem, but here's my observation as a guy who goes out all the time: Men and women go out on Friday & Saturday nights, they stick in their little friend groups (often same sex friend groups) and the men approach no one, and the women are rarely approached. I observe very little interacting going on between opposite sex strangers. Not sure exactly why this happens, but I see it every weekend. I think men must be afraid t…
/r/seduction30/05/25 07:25 PM
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Interesting! I have a similar problem. I think women assume I'm a f*ckboi and reject me automatically when I'm actually trying to find a girlfriend. I don't think there's a fool proof 100% way to test. Some guys will lie and pretend they want a relationship just to get casual sex. First line of defense is delay sex. Make him take you out to see you, and don't sleep with him after the date. Maybe even see if you can get him to invest a little by paying to take you somewhere that costs a little mo…
/r/seduction29/05/25 09:44 PM
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I know a guy who's obese and goes out all the time. Pretty sure he has zero success. I say this as someone who used to be overweight, but now is in good shape. Interest from women vanished when I was overweight. Even if you're in fantastic shape, your success rate will probably be low with women you don't know. If you're in poor shape, your success rate will be zero. Men desire women more than women desire men. So we really only care if a woman looks good. Women can afford to be pickier. So they…
/r/seduction29/05/25 02:39 PM
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10 sounds kinda high. But in general I think there's a lot of dropoff when it comes to asking women out. I have a terrible habit of getting my hopes up. I would say TRY not to get your hopes up too much. One thing that helps me is I shoot my shot and ask them out 1 time. And if they don't say yes fairly promptly, I move on. Sometimes women will circle back, so maybe my strategy isn't the best, but it helps me emotionally. I don't want to be waiting around hoping some woman starts paying attentio…
/r/seduction29/05/25 12:59 AM
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For men, I think we have to go after who likes us. Who we like doesn't matter that much. It's pretty frustrating. I think women just aren't that in to guys. They're content staying home with their pets. Or they're delusional and are chasing after some dude who's way out of their league. Eventually people pair up 1 to 1 though. I think the median time spent being single is 18 months. Women control that stat. So if you're banging your head against a wall for months on end trying to meet someone, t…
/r/seduction27/05/25 06:20 PM
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Just my opinion, but I think women on dating apps either use them to interview lots of applicants so your success rate might be low because she's interviewing a bunch of dudes, or maybe they're using the apps to hookup with guys kind of out of their league. Or maybe they're "interviewing" a bunch of guys out of their league that just want to hookup and they're deluded into thinking they have more options than they really have. Personally I don't like the whole interview vibe so I'm trying to sto…
/r/seduction26/05/25 09:43 PM
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I heard somebdy say try NOT to say the same shit everybody else says & don't ask the same questions. Maybe it was Mystery who said this? I remember one time a friend of mine and I took this chick we just met to IHOP at 2am after the bar closed. Didn't know this guy that well, but he was asking her all the standard questions and he sounded so sad. I never ask the standard questions. This maybe turns some women off because they want the standard questions. But I think I like Mystery's style better…
/r/seduction24/05/25 05:27 AM
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They happen, but I think its fairly rare. I could be wrong though. For the most part, I think most women aren't looking for casual most of the time, but sometimes they go for it if the guy is out of their league.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:28 PM
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Don't try to reschedule. This is really common. You have to kind of look at women as people out window shopping. They might come look at the merchandise, but when it comes time to buy, they usually don't and they go home. Women shop around, and they aren't in a hurry to buy. Eventually they do buy, but know most women you talk to aren't serious buyers. However, you will luck out eventually and run into a woman who has decided she's going out shopping and she's got money in her purse and she's re…
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:50 PM
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I'm 38 and feel a lot of pressure and urgency to meet someone that can still have kids. With that being said, when it comes to women in their 40s and even 50s its easy actually. Its hard going significantly younger. If you go for slightly younger Id say thats average difficulty. If you go same age its a little easier. If you go older its easy.
/r/seduction22/05/25 03:54 AM
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How old are you? I think I can maybe help you... I did really well with women when I was around 17 or 18 years old. I'm 38 now, and only in hindsight do I see why I did well: My junior year of high school I joined the wrestling team and started lifting weights for wrestling. This did two things. One it burned fat from all the cardio and trying to make certain weight classes, and two it built muscle. I accidentally got lean & mean and the ladies noticed! Later when I put on a little fat, and mayb…
/r/seduction21/05/25 09:04 PM
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Bars & nightclubs where they play music you can dance to. Met my ex-wife at the bar in the bar while asking the bartender for a water (this was a decade ago). Recently, I've had the best luck in line to get into the bar/nightclub, and outside the bar at 2:00am when I start up my motorcycle to go home. Day game is good too. Met my ex-girlfriend 2 years ago riding bicycles on a popular hike & bike trail downtown. This summer I'm hoping to meet someone at this really popular pool everyone goes to i…
/r/seduction21/05/25 08:45 PM
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This is a bad goal in my opinion. You're kind of saying you want a woman who has put in a lot of effort to have a hot body, but you want her to want you, someone who hasn't put in the effort to have a hot body. You're honestly going to insult women shooting your shot with babes way out of your league, waste her time, waste your time, and give men in general a bad name and make it harder for guys to approach. If you want a certain tier of woman, ask yourself what would the male equivalent look li…
/r/seduction20/05/25 05:50 PM
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I'm going to agree with this. Women don't really like a head on direct approach out of nowhere. I think they prefer something that feels natural and like it happened organically even if thats not the case and that you actually orchestrated the encounter. Example: I met my ex-wife at the bar where I was asking the bartender for a water. She just happened to be there. I on the other hand went to that bar over and over again every Friday night. My conversation with her was organic, but me being at …
/r/seduction19/05/25 09:22 PM
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Personally I like to go out to bars & nightclubs on friday & saturday nights to places that play music you can dance to. Then while I'm out, I try to be social and find excuses to talk to women that are there. Its tricky really. Social norms sort of say leave people alone, don't be weird, don't talk to strangers. But if everybody did that, we'd all stay single. So I think the move is to go out and try to talk to women, but be as graceful as possible. As men we don't necessarily know which women …
/r/seduction19/05/25 09:12 PM
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This is what I'm trying to do, get my numbers up. My best was the last time I went out and talked to 7 women. I've heard the number 12 before from Mystery and "The Game" so I'm trying to hit that number. Its quite difficult though. I'm about halfway there when it comes to nightgame. With day game my numbers are terrible, I talk to more like 1 woman whenever I go to the pool if I'm lucky. My last relationship was a disaster. My ex treated me horribly and I was very reluctant to walk away. Going f…
/r/seduction19/05/25 04:41 PM
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This is just my opinion, but I think striking up conversations with strangers & finding excuses to talk to stranges is better than a head-on super direct cold approach. The problem with being too direct is you're leading off with a close. You're trying to finalize a sale as the very first thing you say. Women aren't dumb, they know you're interested if you try and talk to them. You DO have to ask them out or get contact info at the end of the interaction though. As for looks, make sure you're in…
/r/seduction17/05/25 07:22 PM
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Personally, I think I do better in person quality-wise. My guess is most guys can do better in real life.
/r/seduction16/05/25 03:05 PM
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This is a tough one! Excellent observation that mood affects your results. I go out by myself a lot, but having a friend certainly helps boost your mood. Good music that you're genuinely feeling helps as well. But yeah, I have the same problem and don't have s cure exactly. And I still usually force myself to go out even if I'm not feeling like it.
/r/seduction16/05/25 03:02 PM
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Thank god they never said anything about them and I never asked. Luckily no one has ever said anything about them to me other than the doctors I see for treatments.
/r/seduction15/05/25 07:09 PM
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Middle aged guy here. Are you in high school or college? When you're young social circle is huge. I would try to make friends at school and work. Then also make sure you're lean, 15% bodyfat (or less), make sure you've put on a little muscle from lifting weights, and wear clothes that show off your physique. You want to wear t-shirts (or shirts in general) where women can tell that you look good naked. If you're shirts are too baggy they won't be able to tell.
/r/seduction14/05/25 07:50 PM
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I wouldn't try and steal somebody's girl. If you steal her away then somebody will likely steal her from you. She actually shouldn't have given you her IG. She should have said, oh I'm sorry I have a boyfriend. She might be cute and sweet, but it won't feel cute and sweet when she does it to you.
/r/seduction14/05/25 07:41 PM
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This depends on your age (and maybe your physical size). When I was in my early 20s I had zero luck with older women. Then when I hit 35 they started paying attention to me. I think if you're too young, the older women think of you as a boy (that's how I see a lot of college aged guys). But then there is that meme... realizes they aren't MILFs anymore, they're just women my own age For clarity though, they aren't just women my age, this includes women 10, 20 years older. Have also noticed a tren…
/r/seduction14/05/25 04:36 PM
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I've had this happen! I think guys either see that the woman is open to cold approach and is a "buyer" OR its a guy she already knows thats interested and he's trying to run you off. Either way, she ends up having to decide. If she picks the other guy I'm out personally.
/r/seduction14/05/25 03:17 PM
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Don't beat yourself up too much. That's good that you are watching out for bad behavior. Some women are a little rotten, cheat, monkey branch, keep their options open, entertain other guys. You definitely don't want that. Men are more likely to "go on the hunt" for sex, but women get a lot of attention. So while they maybe aren't actively on the hunt per say trying to cheat on you, maybe they have low character, go out and get drunk and f*ck some other guy. You gotta watch out.
/r/seduction13/05/25 09:19 PM
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Excellent point, different bars & clubs attract different age groups. If you go to a place that's almost all college kids that might be too much. You might have a better time someplace where young people go after college where the crowd is more late 20s early 30s.
/r/seduction13/05/25 09:10 PM
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I'm 38 and go out all the time. While I'm in pretty good shape, on par with the young guys, women usually can tell roughly how old I am. I'm the same size now that I was when I was 21, but nobody thinks I'm 21. With that being said, hopefully I pass for a little younger than I really am. One time, a young woman looked up at me and asked "how old are you?" And I said, "guess." She goes, "40?" I replied, "pretty close." And she goes, "what!?!" So I dunno, maybe she didn't REALLY think I was 40 and…
/r/seduction13/05/25 09:04 PM
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This is my rule if you want to try it: never seek casual sex, but if its the woman's idea and it comes your way take it.
/r/seduction13/05/25 03:42 AM
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Don't give up my guy. Just make sure you're at 15% bodyfat or less, and keep lifting so you keep your muscularity. You're only 2 inches below average, so just talk to shorter girls, maybe 5'1.5" and under. As far as race goes, if its a problem, go for Indian women. As someone born in the US, I think the Indian accent is kind of unattractive, so maybe learn how to ditch the accent like actors do, or go for women with the same accent. Attracting women is hard for most men. Its really only easy for…
/r/seduction12/05/25 08:44 PM
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I think they are. Bars & clubs aren't perfect, but they are a designated place for singles to go and meet other singles. However, most men and women go home at the end of the night without exchanging contact info with anybody! So its not easy. Its going to take some practice and skill AND you gotta be in good physical shape or nobody's going to be interested. Don't be this one dude that I know who's fat and still goes out trying to chase women every weekend. His batting average is .000 because h…
/r/seduction11/05/25 07:41 AM
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I don't know if this is a real question or not, but I'll bite. 1) You don't want to get women. You want to get one woman. In my opinion, you should avoid breaking hearts if you can. You will have to talk to women plural though. 2) Get to 10 to 15% bodyfat percentage and try and put on a little muscle. This will make you more sexually dimorphic and "manly" or "sexy." Women can do the same thing by being fairly lean and having some fat in their breasts and buttocks. Where men and women lose sex ap…
/r/seduction11/05/25 07:33 AM
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Personally, I consider a 10 top 10%. And a 1 would be bottom 10%. Average would be a 5 or a 6. So if you look at it like that you might be a 10, and you might be chasing 10s already. To be a 10 you really just have to workout, have some muscle if you're a man, count calories, and have some degree of mastery over your body fat percentage. Boom you're top 10%. But I'm assuming what you really mean by a 10 is 1 in 100 hot, or 1 in 1,000, 1 in 10,000 hot. Unless you really got it going on, I'd say b…
/r/seduction10/05/25 03:14 AM
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Well I think the idea is if you connect, you don't need to hit 12, you can stop. From my observations on 6th street in Austin, TX, most women are sticking to their little friend groups, and men just sip on their beers standing around talking to their guy friends. I see very few people approaching or mingling with opposite sex strangers. The guys are afraid to approach, and the women aren't particularly receptive to being approached, so the success rate is pretty low. The place where I've actuall…
/r/seduction10/05/25 01:11 AM
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I think whenever its casual its either because the guy is out of their league OR he isn't a viable boyfriend (hot bad boy thats kind of a loser and can't provide). I don't think women go out looking for casual specifically all that often, but I think they do like being able to sleep with people that are more attractive than themselves. Thats sort of a unique thing women can do. Men typically can't sleep with people far more attractive than themselves.
/r/seduction09/05/25 05:08 PM
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Women in their 20s think they have all the time in the world, so its tough getting their attention. Women in their 30s are pretty much out of time and they usually don't even realize it. People vastly underestimate how fast time moves and the number of opportunities they have for relationships. Football coaches do this too actually. I often see football coaches punt towards the end of the 4th quarter when they're down multiple scores. At some point you have to start going for it on 4th down. Any…
/r/seduction09/05/25 02:41 PM
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Okay I found the answer here: you are 19. When you're young, social circle is very important. I'm 38 and a big cold approach guy now, but when you're young its all about friend groups. 19 year old chicks aren't going out with strangers for the most part, they're picking guys from their friend groups. I think you need to focus on making friends at work and school.
/r/seduction08/05/25 03:06 AM
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I have to respectfully disagree. Going from 15% to 10% bodyfat isn't the missing piece this guys looking for. Anywhere from 10% to 15% is good. Most guys probably are too fat and need to get down to 15%, but once you've hit 15% you're probably good.
/r/seduction08/05/25 03:01 AM
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Don't give up. I'm in a similar situation. I think the issue is two parts: 1) F*ckboi Defense: Women are worried about guys using them for casual sex and tend to prefer warm introductions through mutual friends & acquaintances as opposed to cold approach. 2) They have a lower sex drive and desire for companionship than men. People end up pairing up 1 to 1, but it happens at women's pace on their timeline. From what you wrote, it sounds like you've got your physique dialed in. Thats the most impo…
/r/seduction08/05/25 02:56 AM
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Get to 10-15% body fat and put on some muscle and I think you'll get the results you're looking for. It'll still be hard, but your sales funnel won't drop off to zero. I'm 38, and looking back, whenever I was having trouble with the ladies it was usually because I wasn't lean enough and had lost the muscle I had put on. Don't expect dating to be easy even when you're fit, but you'll end up getting more acceptable results.
/r/seduction06/05/25 10:07 AM
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My bodyfat level and muscularity has been at a bunch of different levels over my life, and looking back, most of my frustrations with women were at times where I just wasn't lean enough and had lost the muscle mass I had put on. A little bit of fat can really decrease your attractiveness. Likewise, a little bit of muscle can go a long way (if it isn't covered in fat). Whatever your peak physique is, get there, and STAY THERE. Do not let your physique slip. With that being said, its still hard at…
/r/seduction06/05/25 09:21 AM
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Try not to get too hung up on any one woman who doesn't reciprocate. As men, it really doesn't matter who we like. What matters is who likes us.
/r/seduction06/05/25 02:06 AM
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As a guy that goes out alone a lot, women are big on social circles and warm introductions. If you're all by yourself they think somethings wrong with you. And when meeting new people they tend to favor warm introductions through friends, and are quite guarded and closed off to strangers trying to cold approach. I think this is why a lot of times you'll see a guy with a girl a bit out of his league. They've made their dating pool too small so they end up with somebody thats not really their equa…
/r/seduction05/05/25 11:44 PM
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The apps are actually really good when you go out of town. You're brand new and they show you to everybody (if you pay to boost). I'm NOT a dating app guy. But I get lonely sometimes like everybody else. I just happened to notice I did really well once when I was out of town.
/r/seduction05/05/25 10:46 PM
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That night I went out by myself, but I ended up making a friend towards the end of the night. Will see if he wants to go out again and be wingmen. Its certainly easier going out with someone, and going out alone sometimes does draw negative attention. When I was younger I had a much larger social circle so I'd always go out with people. But as you get older your circle shrinks. I mainly go out by myself now. Would like to make a few friends though. But I don't ever let not having someone to go d…
/r/seduction05/05/25 09:03 PM
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Move on and never message them back ever again under any circumstances. Women love to collect options, so don't let them collect you as an option.
/r/seduction04/05/25 06:43 PM
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I've learned over the years, don't try to talk too much on the dance floor. You can maybe introduce yourself and get each others names, get close and speak into her ear, let her do the same to you. But women get kinda pissed off if you try to chat them up too much on the dance floor. The classic example of this is them going, "WHAT!?!?!" and getting irritated that you're trying to converse when its too loud for that. Instead, try to dance, and hopefully they get a little closer and dance with yo…
/r/seduction04/05/25 05:08 PM
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Reporting back on how it went. Definitely didn't hit my quota of 12, but I did attempt to speak to 7 women (or groups of women). I would say maybe 2 of the 7 were semi sort of interested. Having a quota or a goal certainly helped me talk to more people than I would normally (I normally average 1 to 3). The best thing that actually happened is I made male friend while I was out chasing after the ladies. He rides motorcycles too so I think I found a new wingman. I told him about this great spot wh…
/r/seduction04/05/25 07:57 AM
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Thanks for the reply! Very helpful. Going to give this a try tonight. I think I do most of what you say to do, but my numbers just aren't good enough, my funnel is to small at the top. Need a bigger funnel. I did some informal research on how often women get approached when they go out, and according to the reddit post I skimmed most women reported being approached at least once on a night out. That kind of matches about how many approaches I do. I'm thinking maybe the way to "fight back" and co…
/r/seduction04/05/25 02:07 AM
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Going to give this a go tonight and will report back. I live on 6th Street in Austin, TX so I'm going to try and interact with 4 women on East 6th, 4 on Dirty 6th, and 4 on West 6th.
/r/seduction04/05/25 02:01 AM
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10 to 15% body fat and have a little bit of muscle from lifting weights regularly.
/r/seduction03/05/25 07:32 AM
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I have acne scars too my guy! I've done lasers and fillers and stuff as well to try and fix them. My advice would be to try and get treatments for them, but don't expect them to disappear completely, and learn to accept them to some extent. Also, I've had attractive girlfriends and do reasonably well with the ladies, so I think you'll do fine. Now if I had perfect skin would I do better? I think absolutely. I'd probably do much better. But even with the flaw, I still do okay. With that being sai…
/r/seduction01/05/25 08:46 PM
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2 of my 3 relationships as an adult were from cold approach. It's kind of a pain in the ass, but it works assuming you're in good shape.
/r/seduction01/05/25 07:59 PM
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You probably didn't do anything wrong. There's probably just another dude in the picture OR maybe you gave her the ick or she just wasn't that into you. I've changed my mindset recently to become more pessimistic. While I am an extreme optimist by nature, I assume all women are going to reject me. Why? Because that's the game women play. They collect lots and lots of options, then maybe decide to exercise that option with the guy they like the most. So you shoot your shot, play the game, but exp…
/r/seduction01/05/25 07:46 PM
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I would leave out the part about it being awkward. Maybe be a little bolder and say it was a pleasure meeting her, and ask her out on a second date. This puts her on the spot, she will likely reject you, ignore you, or wait 24 hours to respond and make something up about being busy BUT that's apart of being a man. You have to pull the trigger and face rejection. It's a funnel really, like online advertising and sales. Most people won't click on your ad. Of the people that click on your ad, most …
/r/seduction01/05/25 05:40 PM
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Personally, I try to use cold approach to meet women. However, in my opinion trying to have casual sex with lots of women is psychopathic and you shouldn't do that. Use your powers for good not evil. As for how to do it, I just go out and find excuses to talk to attractive women. Ask a question or make a comment about the environment or situation. Give a compliment. Be chatty. You need to go out frequently because its a numbers game. Approaches or interactions per night is also important. I prob…
/r/seduction01/05/25 04:22 PM
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That's the move, find excuses to talk to attractive strangers.
/r/seduction01/05/25 05:38 AM
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Fun theory! I think women generally play defense, and men play offense. Its a dumb game we play. I will say I ran into something like this the other night though. I tried to talk to this young woman who was dancing near me. But she pretended like she didn't hear me and ignored me. So then I thought, oh okay, she's just not be interested. But then she comes back and starts dancing somewhat provocatively in front of me and next to me. This makes me think, hey maybe she really didn't hear me? So I …
/r/seduction30/04/25 09:32 PM
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I agree that being funny and having charisma is not enough to overcome being fat when trying to attract women. You have to also meet her standards for physical attractiveness. And if you want to make a woman your girlfriend or wife, you're going to have to have a stable job/career/profession, or she isn't going to feel safe starting a family with you. You have to be able to provide while she's pregnant or raising your children. However, you don't have to be a multi-millionaire and drive a Bugatt…
/r/seduction30/04/25 07:14 PM
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The secret is to play this game: Find excuses to talk to strangers. Ask a question about the environment or setting. Make a comment about the setting or environment. Give a compliment. Be chatty & social. (This is what I currently do, day game and night game) Now another approach is to just straight up approach a woman you're interested in. I'm 38 now, so this was a long time ago, but I remember this beautiful blonde babe in one of my college classes that always used to dress really cool. I used…
/r/seduction30/04/25 07:06 PM
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I'm going to disagree. While I'm NOT fashionable, its something I'm working on. As a man, its hard to stand out. Sometimes you need to do a little peacocking to stand out. Cool clothes can also make you seem more interesting. Now if you are fat, style won't overcome that. But if you are in good shape, style can do a lot to make you stand out. For example, if you are in a place with a bunch of men that all look like shit, you'll stand out just because you're fit. But what if everybody looks prett…
/r/seduction30/04/25 06:58 PM
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This is true, most men do not approach. I go out pretty regularly on Friday & Saturday nights and have observed most men don't approach and most women are not approached. From what I can tell, the guys mostly stand around drinking their beer and talk to their male friends then walk aimlessly from bar to bar. Women gather in small circles and dance with each other. There seems to be very little mingling going on between groups that do not know each other. I myself probably talk to 1 to 3 women wh…
/r/seduction30/04/25 04:55 PM
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I knew this guy who always dresses like a rockstar that was incredible with women, but the only problem is he was a couch surfing bum who couldn't hold down a job. He could attract women, but he couldn't keep any of them. This is a good example in my opinion of women having a minimum requirement for money. They want you to be a functioning member of society that can support yourself AND possibly support them while they're pregnant or raising children. Likewise, I don't think most attractive wome…
/r/seduction30/04/25 03:31 PM
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I would say don't do it if its a hookup. But if you meet somebody you really like, I wouldn't disqualify them over that.
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:59 PM
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Why do you think you're a 2 or a 3? Are you extremely overweight? Assuming that you don't have an extreme amount of weight to lose that will result in lots of loose skin, try and get down to 15% body fat and put on a little muscle. You can make yourself more sexually dimorphic, or manly, by adding a little muscle and making sure you are lean enough women can see it. Anybody can do this, and it essentially will make you a 10 in the physique department. In my opinion a 10 is just top 10%, and most…
/r/seduction29/04/25 07:11 PM
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Double dipping on this one... 50 approaches a day? That seems too much to me. Numbers are important, but you don't want to come off as a door to door salesman. I live near 6th street in Austin, TX, a famous nightlife spot. And I've seen spam approach guys that just walk up to a pack of women and try to holler while they're walking down the street. Women are not receptive to this. You can't come off like a shark. You kinda have to make things feel organic. For example, sparking a conversation wit…
/r/seduction29/04/25 03:09 PM
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Just my opinion, but I think you can leave out the part about telling them they're attractive. I have a friend that used to walk up to women and tell them they're beautiful and I always thought it was cringe and that he should ditch that approach. Having the courage to go up and talk to women was good, but his approach was too unnatural. I'm sure it came off weird, and he would have been better off talking to tnem like he would talk to me or his other friends. These women weren't getting the rea…
/r/seduction29/04/25 03:02 PM
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I would say women are nicer, warmer, friendlier, and more receptive to cold approach during the day assuming that you're somewhat smooth and graceful about the approach. Whereas in a nightlife environment, while the atmosphere is set up to make it easier for strangers to mingle, the downside is women put up significantly more defense at night. Many women are going to classify anyone who approaches as a f*ckboi looking for casual sex. To fight off these unwanted advances, many women may go out of…
/r/seduction28/04/25 10:00 PM
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To clarify, cold means you two are strangers and don't have a mutual friend or acquaintance. As opposed to a warm introduction, or warm approach, where a mutual friend or acquaintance introduces you.
/r/seduction28/04/25 09:42 PM
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I guarantee it will payoff. If you're having trouble, maybe broaden the range of attractiveness you go for. Try and figure out what your female equivalent would look like, and shoot for that.
/r/seduction28/04/25 08:24 PM
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Trust your gut. Maybe stop telling her you love her, and pull back a little. Definitely stop the selfie thing. I've gotten burned before by a woman who wasn't as interested as I was. You don't want to stir up trouble for no reason, but you also don't want to ignore red flags and signs of disinterest.
/r/seduction28/04/25 05:29 PM
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I've only juggled two girls at the same time once, where on one day I happened to go out with two different women. It was kind of a dating app accident that I did not plan on "over booking" and it was quite anxiety inducing to be honest. And I felt kind of dirty and ashamed. I'm kind of neurotic, so maybe if you're less neurotic, it might be okay? However, I've gone out with tons of women where nothing went anywhere, so it might be wise to cast a wide net and have multiple women you're pursuing …
/r/seduction28/04/25 12:10 PM
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Double dipping on this one. When you go out try this game: Find excuses to talk to strangers. You'll be able to get comfortable doing this fairly easily if you do it regularly. Your approaches don't have to feel like approaches. Your approaches don't have to feel like a commissioned salesperson walking up to a customer on the showroom floor trying to make a sale. Instead you can go to these events you want to go to, and just ask people questions relevant to the setting or environment, make a com…
/r/seduction28/04/25 02:41 AM
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Not sure how old you are, but I've had 3 relationships as an adult. I met my ex-wife/baby-momma through cold approach, met my next girlfriend at work (she was a coworker, well technically my boss...), and then I met my most recent ex-girlfriend through cold approach. So cold approach led to two thirds of my relationships. So why I'm mentioning this: Hopefully you meet somebody doing this so you don't have to do it anymore. For me, I'm hoping the next person I meet things actually work out and I …
/r/seduction28/04/25 02:34 AM
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As men I think it doesn't matter who we like. It matters who likes us. Pick the best woman that likes you. Keep an open mind and be open to lots of women, but set a baseline standard. One-itis is pretty common. Attractive women have lots of options, so its easy to let a woman string you along as a backup option. But don't let woman throw you all out of whack.
/r/seduction27/04/25 08:31 PM
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I wouldn't comment. I would try and befriend a potential wingman though.
/r/seduction27/04/25 07:34 PM
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Assuming you're fit & look good naked, I think its a numbers game BECAUSE you have a ton of scenarios that will lead to failure on any given approach in a nightlife: 1) Young drunk women using nightlife purely for entertainment. They will reject nearly all comers, and generate zero leads for potential future romantic partners on a night out. 2) Anti-F*ckboi Defense. Some women assume everyone approaching is shifty cum salesman and reject nearly all cold approaches. 3) They all ready have a husba…
/r/seduction26/04/25 07:37 PM
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Women generally just want 1 guy and they sleep with that one guy. Hook ups happen, but I don't think most women are seeking that specifically. I think what's more common is women will sleep with a guy a little out of their league hoping for more OR they do like hook ups sometimes and are looking for that BECAUSE they know they can hook up with guys out of their league even though those guys won't commit. Hookups sound cool, but on the male side you're probably going to have to date down to pull …
/r/seduction25/04/25 11:59 PM
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I go out solo all the time! Women still seem to prefer warm introductions through mutual friends and acquaintances, but as you get older your social circle will likely shrink and meeting people organically will become less common. So that's why I really like to go out specifically to try and meet women. The trick is to try your best for you "approach" to not feel like an approach and come off feeling organic and natural. With that being said, most men are going to have to talk to a lot of women …
/r/seduction25/04/25 09:28 PM
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I'm not super successful with women or anything, but this is what I do: Ask if they want to exchange contact info. Then ask them out either the next day, or Monday after the weekend where you met them. This kind of puts them on the spot though. I don't recommend this part, but if they decline I move on and don't ever talk to them again. Maybe a better strategy that I've seen a friend use is just keep exchanging contact info with women, and one of them will probably reach back out to you when som…
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:01 PM
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Oh man, this is a huge problem for me as well. This past weekend I met this woman at this cool night club, and we were going to go on a date. Monday rolls around and I go to make plans and she tells me she's going through a breakup, still living with her ex, and isn't ready to date yet. This kinda pisses me off when I go out to bars & nightclubs. These are places for single people for the most part, or you bring your boyfriend with you to dance with you. How I'm dealing with this is just viewing…
/r/seduction25/04/25 03:03 PM
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Go outside and swipe right on someone. Fortune favors the bold.
/r/seduction25/04/25 02:47 PM
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I think most men can do better in person. I kind of got the apps to work for me. You need good pictures AND pay money to boost your profile, BUT I think you can still do better in person. Attractive women don't need dating apps, they just need to leave their house and guys will ask them out on dates. So when you're on the apps, most of the women on there are the ones who have gained enough weight that guys aren't asking them out in person anymore.
/r/seduction25/04/25 02:45 PM
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Cold approach guy here. I think women prefer warm introductions through friends, or other organic ways of meeting men. Most women are not receptive to complete strangers. The only problem with that is after you get out of college and start getting older your social circle will start shrinking. So then sometimes you have to be willing to some extent to go outside your social circle. When I "cold approach" its kind of like what you said here in this post. It shouldn't feel like a commissioned sale…
/r/seduction25/04/25 02:38 PM
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I've heard some of the things she said before, and it means she isn't that into you and doesn't want to commit to you. It sounds like she is somewhat interested, but not interested enough to be exclusive now or ever. Kinda sounds like she wants to keep you as a placeholder guy. I say this because my ex dumped me once, then tried to keep me around as her temporary placeholder guy while she either looked for someone else that she thought was better, or allowed her to cheat on me guilt-free because…
/r/seduction25/04/25 03:42 AM
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One, try to avoid sausage fests. A lot of places the ratio is 10 dudes for every woman, and its really hard to stand out with that many dudes to compete with. Two, be fitter than the other guys. You probably won't be the fittest guy at the gym, but you probably could be one of the fittest guys at the bar, nightclub, or coffeeshop or wherever. Something I haven't done yet, but have seen a former friend do is peacock: This dude is so fashionable & looks like a f*cking rockstar. People in general t…
/r/seduction25/04/25 12:40 AM
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This is what you have to do. Get in incredible shape. Get to 10 to 15 % body fat and lift weights to put on some muscle. Burning off fat and having muscle will make you look more masculine and sexual. Women look "womanly" when they're thin but have fat in the right places (breasts and buttocks). You can make yourself more sexually dimorphic by burning off fat and adding muscle which will make you more "manly." You just need a little sex appeal. Anybody can do it. As for this woman: women are NOT…
/r/seduction24/04/25 08:49 PM
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Excellent observation. When I go out on Friday and Saturday nights I notice the majority of men talk to zero women. They just stand around drinking their beer, or walk from bar to bar talking to their guy friends. The antidote to thie is forcing yourself to try and talk to at least 1 woman per night. Don't think of it as an approach though. Instead, find excuses to talk to women. Be chatty. Ask them a question relevant to the situation, setting, or environment. Make a comment or observation. Be …
/r/seduction24/04/25 07:49 PM
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Oh this is easy: Find excuses to talk to strangers. Be chatty Ask a question relevant to the setting, environment, or situation. Make an observation about the current setting. Ask a random question. Give a compliment. Example: There was a babe dancing next to me last night who was wearing cool glasses. I asked her where she got her glasses. She looked back at me with complete disgust. Then I think she realized she was being a c***, and politely told me where she got them 😂.
/r/seduction24/04/25 05:59 PM
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I just say, would you like to exchange contact info? and if she says yes I hand her my phone. Or I ask, are you on Instagram? And then hand them my phone. Phone number is maybe the better move, but in general you're kinda just ensuring there's an option on her end to see you again if she's interested. Most of the time, it usually will go nowhere, but its still important. I'm not quite sure if women are just being nice, they have a really long list of leads, or if I'm just way down on their list …
/r/seduction24/04/25 05:52 PM
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Don't give her a note. Just ask her on a date.
/r/seduction24/04/25 05:40 PM
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This is what I do now: I just move on. If she stops reciprocating the game is over and she won't hear from me again. To make sure I don't fold and cave, I always unfollow/remove-follower/block, but if you have good self control and willpower thats probably not necessary. I know I would cave and answer if they message me, so I gotta use the block feature.
/r/seduction24/04/25 05:29 PM
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I would say going out and attempting to talk to women on Friday & Saturday nights in general is a good idea. Mystery talks about approach 12 women per night. From my experience, that is a hard quota for me to hit. I probably talk to 2 or 3 tops. That might be the best part of his strategy, approaching a relatively high number of women. This is something I'm working on. I'd like to meet someone this year, and am a little bit frustrated at the moment. I think putting up better numbers might fix my…
/r/seduction24/04/25 04:21 PM
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Maybe not an answer to your exact question, but I think you’re looking at this wrong. Most people are not at their peak potential attractiveness. Most people can significantly improve their attractiveness by losing weight (both sexes) and gaining muscle (mostly men). As someone who let himself go, then got back into shape (lost 40/50 pounds, gained back all the muscle I lost) you can vastly improve your position in the dating market. I used to wonder why I did well with women in certain periods …
/r/seduction24/04/25 01:05 AM
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Oh this is an easy one! Since you're interesting & not boring, go do interesting stuff and meet interesting women. This kinda worked for me last year. Went to Burning Man and met a woman who is kinda out there! Maybe won't work out long term as we live really far away from each other, and want different things, but the strategy of going and doing interesting things I think works if you're trying to meet interesting people. Likewise, the inverse is ALSO true. Want to meet really boring basic b***…
/r/seduction23/04/25 05:04 PM
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This is the unpleasant truth, guys put women into two categories: sleepers & keepers. Women won't generally sleep with unattractive men. If they have casual sex, its usually with a guy even more attractive than their past boyfriends Men are the opposite, the most attractive women we want to be our girlfriends, but we will sleep with less attractive women sometimes much less attractive. If he ghosts you, he thought you were a sleeper. Occasionally we might ghost a keeper if she isn't reciprocatin…
/r/seduction23/04/25 05:26 AM
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The thing I'm worried about is shooting my shot, getting rejected, then shooting again with a woman who saw me get rejected earlier. So I kind of give my self a rate limit so I don't look like a door to door salesman. But to answer your question: be less direct. Instead just be chatty and find excuses to talk to women. Then if people over hear you, you won't sound cringe or be embarrassed. Women know the game. They know if you're talking to them you're probably interested. They probably want guy…
/r/seduction23/04/25 05:03 AM
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Think of it like baseball, except your batting average is going to be lower than that of an MLB hitter. Now if you lower your standards enough you can hit like Ted Williams, but you don't want to do that. With that being said, make sure you are in excellent physical condition. Shoot for 10 to 15 percent body fat and put on as much muscle as you can. Also wear shirts that show off your physique. Women do this, and we need to do the same even if not quite as extreme. As long as you're in good shap…
/r/seduction23/04/25 04:14 AM
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I'm new to this subreddit, but one thing I try to do is to: Find Excuses to Talk to Women (when you're out on Friday or Saturday night) Example #1 that resulted in a failed marriage and a child: Used to go to this bar every Friday night to go see this DJ that I liked. I used to get kind of hot & thirsty from dancing, so I went to the bar to ask for a water. At the bar, I happened to sit next to a woman, I asked her something about the music and the DJ, and her reply was, "What DJ?" (The DJ was a…
/r/seduction22/04/25 03:21 AM
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The worst rejection I get is on Friday or Saturday nights from young drunk disagreeable women who act completely disgusted that I tried to talk to them. This isn't the most common response, but it happens. Whenever you approach a woman, you really don't know if she's extroverted or introverted, agreeable or disagreeable, or if she has a high disgust sensitivity. If she's really introverted, you aren't going to get back a very warm welcoming response, they're going to be timid and cold. If they'r…
/r/seduction19/04/25 09:22 PM
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This is normal. If you're dancing with and kissing girls you're good. I'm 37 and in the same boat. I think a lot of times women like to meet men through mutual friends, work, or other places. For some reason their defenses go WAY up at bars & nightclubs, which doesn't make sense to me. I love bars & nightclubs because they give single people a place to meet other single people. But for whatever reason, women seem to like there to be a mutual friend or some kind of familiarity. They don't like ra…
/r/seduction06/10/24 07:36 PM
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Never buy women drinks. If you're on a date, then you can. But for the most part, just don't do it. I guess I did the other night because I'd been talking to this woman and we went to another bar together, but looking back I should have said no "I don't buy women drinks."
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