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| 4 | Making a girl cum is never simp shit. You don’t have to always use oral, but not using your fingers and skipping foreplay will be to your detrimentPlenty of insecure chuds think that all relationships are a zero-sum game: if the other person is winning, it means that you're losing. Therefore, you must "assume dominance" asap and never cede ground, no matter what. Or you'll become a "beta-simp" or whatever. It's stupid, but unfortunately it is such a widely spread idea in male self improvement spheres. And it's just sad. | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 11:29 PM |
| 2 | What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve gotten on this sub?"Stop talking to them if they don't respond your messages right away. Nobody is so busy to respond a couple of texts" Turns out some people can be too busy. Or more accurately: overwhelmed that they forget to respond. | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Right Now I don't want a girlfriend but why do I feel the need to have one ?My guess is that you feel insecure of your own worth as a man (or more precisely, your perceived lack of worth). You mention that you only feel jealous that when you see guys dating hot women, and not just any couple. This is because men get told since we're young that sex increases our value as a man, and the hotter our partner, the more value we feel we get. On the other hand, not having sex or a relationship makes us feel like losers, which can lead to guys being so desperate that they end up… | /r/seduction | 23/01/22 04:52 PM |
| 3 | Girls never check me out..?IRL experience. | /r/seduction | 07/12/21 06:37 AM |
| 4 | Do women really approach guys at bars?Almost never. But they often leave signals indicating that they want to be approached. | /r/seduction | 23/10/21 05:21 PM |
| 7 | How to handle compliments from women?I would thank the compliment and see it as her being open to a conversation. I'd keep talking to her and, eventually, ask her out. | /r/seduction | 23/10/21 05:19 PM |
| 3 | How do you approach girls in the gym?Come on, dude. He said that it's not a good idea, not that it's illegal. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 12:38 AM |
| 9 | How do you approach girls in the gym?My guess is that most guys fear being rejected and feeling awkward every time they come back to the gym and see the girl again, or fear that they will make the girl feel uncomfortable. Of course, unless you behave inappropriately, most girls won't feel like that and will go on as usual. But bear in mind that subs like this attract a lot of shy loners who tend to overthink things, and try to keep screwing up to the minimum. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 12:34 AM |
| 7 | How do you approach girls in the gym?Unpopular opinion: it's OK to approach girls at the gym, but only if you do warm approaches: if you ask them out after already knowing each other names and striking a few friendly conversations for some days. This works way better if you meet each other at a the classes some gyms offer, such as crossfit or spinning. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 12:29 AM |
| 8 | Is there any hope for men in the wake of Me Too?To be fair, it seems to me that you're using fear of the #metoo movement as an excuse to not try to approach women anymore. You fear rejection. because of a severe anxiety fueled by of your lack of romantic experiences at your age. I've read your responses, and it seems that not only you have little experience with women, but socializing in general as well: you mention it's "hopeless once you're out of school", and that after work you just go home and repeat the next day. Not to mention that, du… | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 03:09 AM |
| 15 | Is there any hope for men in the wake of Me Too?dating a female coworker could get you fired (whereas 30 years ago, work was one of the most common places to find a spouse). I think that you're both exaggerating the current working environment and idealizing a perfect past, which can lead to further bitterness and resentment since you believe you "missed out" a perfect era where you would be happy. Also: Asking her out is a good way to get labelled as the neighborhood creep if she's not into you. This is just plain unrealistic. If you weren't… | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 02:43 AM |
| 5 | This sub is probably cock-blocking youIt reminds me of what author Mark Manson said about the self-help: a lot of frustrated or desperate people are so scared of getting out of their comfort zone that they engage in persistent self-improvement as an excuse for not trying yet. It gives them the sensation that changes are being made, when they're still stuck in the same place they were before. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 03:11 PM |
| 7 | Is online dating a waste of time for guys?they have guys dying just to text on tinder I thing this might be a huge turn-off for them. Women just want to text and date an interesting guy who's as eager to meet her as she is with him. Not a desperate dude who treats her like an angel coming down to save him from his loneliness. | /r/seduction | 02/08/21 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Is online dating a waste of time for guys?It's because, dating-wise, not all girls are looking for something quick and casual, but something more long-term. Many women like to thread lightly by texting before meeting a guy IRL. | /r/seduction | 02/08/21 08:58 PM |
| 8 | I literally i have no idea what to doStop seeing relationships as awards. You see them as things that women give to you once you prove to be "good enough" or something. And since you haven't got any, it makes you think you're worth less than others (it's cool that you have a job and that you see yourself as desirable because of it, but as I see it, you think of it as a requisite you fulfilled in order to "deserve" a relationship). This is all bs, of course. If you look around, relationships aren't only for successful overachievers:… | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 04:35 PM |
| 8 | The WORST ADVICE that I have EVER HEARD (and that you are told everyday)TBH, those two advices are not the same. "Work on yourself and women will come" involves actual improvement and action. The one from the title, though, involves just waiting around. Also, at least in my own experience, that last advice doesn't usually come from incels, but from our parents: when we are young and want to express frustration at our lack of sexual intimacy but they just don't want to talk about it, either because they're too uncomfortable (I grew up in a religious household, and se… | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 11:23 PM |
| 4 | The WORST ADVICE that I have EVER HEARD (and that you are told everyday)The worst thing of this advice is how it teaches you that you're entitled to another human being just because you exist. The years pass, that person never comes, and instead of seeing it as a sign to stop being passive, you see it as an injustice. And end up being angry at an entire sex. | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 11:15 PM |
| 43 | Sex won’t make you happyWe feel ‘abnormal’ because we’ve been taught the erroneous belief that sex and relationships are awards that women give us once we prove we are ‘good enough’. This makes us relate our value as a person to our success with girls, feeling worthless if we don’t have any. Of course, this is all wrong. Relationships are not prizes, but mutual experiences between people. | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Your clothes play a huge role in seducing women!Ive seen videos of pick-up coaches teaching his audience: so many loose and faded tshirts in the audience. In every single video. | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 04:58 AM |
| 2 | Do you use dating apps? If so, how do you not allow them to crush your self esteem and drive you insane?Yeah, I believe that you just revealed your problem with Tinder: your expectations are extremely high the moment you open it. As if a swipe could be the difference between you feeling miserable and feeling like a champ, once and for all. It's the same issue lonely guys have when they attempt to improve their lifestyle (going to bars or parties, getting into classes or group activities, working out, anything to get out of their rooms) with the sole purpose of meeting a girl: when they leave empty… | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 04:01 PM |
| 9 | Do you use dating apps? If so, how do you not allow them to crush your self esteem and drive you insane?Remember that Tinder's goal is not to make you happy by finding you a girl: its goal is to make money. They want to keep you engaged and want to wear you off, so you open your wallet and buy a premium package or something. | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 02:51 PM |
| 29 | Hundreds of first dates, here are my tipsNumber 1 is a spot on. Most of us believe that girls just love to reject 'losers' and laugh at their backs later, when actually, most of them are really just like us: they want to find the right person, and hope that we are that person. We should start viewing dating as a nice opportunity to socialize and know each other, instead of as a trial or a job interview, where we must 'win her over'. | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 03:29 PM |
| 26 | Those of you who were kissless virgins post 25, what changed for you and how did you change?I stopped searching and it happened. You might already think that this is a useless and overused piece of advice, but it's true. If you ask men around your age how did they meet their SO (and, this is important, why did they go to that place), you'll realize that almost none of them had to actually pick up anyone. For instance: If they met at a bar or at a party, they didn't go there with the main purpose of applying some PUA techniques they learned in a YouTube channel and finally getting laid;… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 12:31 AM |
| 1 | 6 TIPS TO IMPROVE YOUR RESULTS WITH GIRLS.A little late to the party, but… His tip #5 is the key: joining social activities. Even if you don’t make friends or meet girls right away, interacting with anyone will help you build your social skills. You don’t have to be an extrovert or a party animal whatsoever: all you have to be is open to talk and be talked to. | /r/seduction | 25/03/21 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Alpha male MINDSETI heard in a podcast that the author has supposedly tried to have his publisher to stop printing his original study for years, but they won't because PUAs and lonely guys made it famous and it makes them money. So sad. | /r/seduction | 28/02/21 07:29 PM |
| 4 | Why is it hard to be yourself around girls?I feel like we're constantly trying to show them how worthy we are and it never works. This is the problem here. When we see dating not as a mutual experience, but a trial. And intimacy as a reward. A relationship or sex are not things that women give to you if you're "good enough", as if it was some sort of reward. They're mutual experiences they participate in. Maybe I was fed too much by society and tv that money and looks is the only thing that will get you girls so I just emulated it. Yeah,… | /r/seduction | 12/09/20 05:12 AM |
| 5 | Is 28 too late to start hooking up more?I'd like to change #1 a little bit: don't just lift, also practice sports or physical activities with people, such as cycling or hiking. Not only it is good for our health and physical appearance, but will help us get out of our shells and be more social. | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Nothing you read will make you feel betterThis reminds me of something I read from “Models”, where Manson details how devouring self-help books and dating websites is often done by shy guys as an excuse for not trying yet, because we see rejection as a failure… and we fear failure. And this is where bravery comes in. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Go ahead, downvote thisDelete Facebook... | /r/seduction | 05/12/19 11:06 PM |
| 2 | How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"???She ghosted you. She's telling you you're done. You fucked up Wrong. Being rejected is not a failure. It's a mere lack of chemistry, | /r/seduction | 21/11/19 03:13 PM |
| 2 | How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"???women just don't have that kind of experience with most men and there is no reason for them to assume you'd be any different. They get into debates (but Jenny, I thought we had so much fun together)... A couple of years ago, I watched a video of some Spanish PUA cold approaching in some town square, and what bothered me is how he kept going on every single girl that rejected him. They would politely decline, and he would be like "but, why wouldn't you like to give me your number" or "you sure? b… | /r/seduction | 21/11/19 03:12 PM |
| 1 | I thought this would be funny hereIt reminds me of what I read in the book “Models”, where the author says that “working on my game” or “improving myself” are often used by shy guys as excuses for not trying out yet, out of fear of being rejected. | /r/seduction | 14/11/19 10:13 PM |
| 2 | What is a creep?It’s easier to blame something that you (supposedly) can‘t change. | /r/seduction | 27/04/19 01:31 AM |
| 48 | At age 30, these are my gems of knowledge, along with tips for guys my age trying to re-enter the dating world during the Post-Millenial EraSeriously, though, what he says is true. Reddit's community is so damn negative and self-deprecating that its toxicity is almost contagious if you spend enough time in it. In my case, it made me believe that I needed to be almost Brad Pitt (why is it always Brad Pitt? Fight Club came out 20 years ago. We have new hot guys now) in order to talk to a woman without being called creepy. Guess what? turns out that average dudes talk to them and even get into relationships all the time! | /r/seduction | 24/03/19 02:42 AM |
| 5 | To all my “below-average” looking guysWhoever believes that only hot guys have a chance with women must take a stroll around their nearest Walmart | /r/seduction | 05/02/19 08:09 PM |
| 25 | Models by Mark Manson (Animated Video)if you believe all women are sluts and untrustworthy, then you’ll only attract women who are sluts and untrustworthy And this explains the manosphere’s feedback loop of hell. | /r/seduction | 05/01/19 01:29 PM |
| 13 | If giving a girl too much attention comes off as needy, how can you give her a balanced amount just so she stays attracted to you/doesn't lose interest?Make her think that you have an interesting and busy life, yet you're making a space in your life just for her. | /r/seduction | 28/11/18 03:25 PM |
| 9 | All women are the same?physically big guys who look alpha. I don't think there is ANY other type of guy who can give a woman tingles in the gina. Then, how do you explain all the average-ugly guys with girlfriends you see strolling in the park or the mall every weekend? Men on the other hand, we like women of all shapes and sizes. Heck, there are men out there who actually like small tits and/or asses. You know? All of my male friends are always talking about the women they like. They're all instagram models or famous… | /r/seduction | 11/07/18 03:06 PM |
| 2 | I feel low value day-gamingNot approaching because “hot women have it so easy” is silly. That’s like being unemployed and never applying to any job because “millionaires have it so easy” as well. | /r/seduction | 29/12/17 12:44 AM |
| 12 | How does one practice without danger of being accused of "sexual harrassment" and treated like a predator?If you wanna try, that's great. But your post and comments make me think that you want to aim for the kill now, yet your social skills seem in need of some work (the girl from campus you mentioned, for example, probably felt unconfortable because you seemed aloof). I recommend that you start by approaching people (not just women) in a merely friendly fashion, with no intentions of dating. If you can make people feel comfortable with you and you with them, trust me, you will have it so much easie… | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 05:09 PM |
| 55 | How does one practice without danger of being accused of "sexual harrassment" and treated like a predator?We live in a world where there is no difference between "sexual harrassment" and trying to flirt with someone who isn't attracted to you. Dude, with all respect, I think that this belief stems out of your own insecurities and you're using it as an excuse for not trying anymore. Yeah, you had a bad experience, but let's be real: most of the time, if women aren't interested, they'll just politely say no, or suggestively ("This bar is great, me and my boyfriend come here often..."). Unless you real… | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 04:30 PM |
| 13 | Are women the 'gatekeepers' of sex, and can have sex whenever they want?Everyone is the gatekeeper to anyone that wants to have sex with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/15 04:25 PM |
| 45 | You're sitting on your college cafeteria alone and you notice a small group of girls sitting on a table. You don't know them and they don't know you. How you would make an approach to one of them?/thread | /r/seduction | 24/05/13 11:39 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 11/12/2012I went riding my bike on a Sunday morning and I stopped at a cafe; and there was this really cute girl that was drinking her coffee and I wanted to talk to her. But I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable or even harassed. How do girls feel when some completely unknown guy talks then in a completely casual way? | /r/seduction | 13/11/12 03:38 PM |
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