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For real I had one guy who I gave so much energy to. Shared my hobbies, tv shows, etc. months later I asked for some reciprocity I.e. what can you suggest to me? He was like “Um nothing everything I watch / do is what you recommended.” Like what the hell?? When did your brain fall out of your head sir?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 11:50 PM
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Not only would mine buy me gifts after hurting me but we’d agree no gifts due to finances this year and she’d end up buying me one anyway when I didn’t. It was this weird power play and it took me quite some time to realize it. For a while it actually worked. Then I started just throwing the gifts away. Most of them were literal garbage anyway. Narcissists don’t care to actually know who you really are and what you like. Ah your situation resonates so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:01 AM
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Being blackout drunk is the same as being roofied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:28 PM
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I literally grabbed a friend's thigh, told him I loved him, and threw up on my shirt. He tried NOTHING. Changed my shirt so I wasn't sleeping in puke. Looked away. Did not touch me. We were friends, and I was wasted. The HVM men don't do stuff like this. But the amount of times it happens - hell, I swear they like it. I remember some smiling. Like they know you're out of it, and it's like a sick win to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:26 PM
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introverted sidekick Is this a thing with these types of people? Mine projected her introversion / lack of social skills on me so hardcore I could taste it. Meanwhile, I'm over here chatting up strangers, networking, while she goes around telling people "don't mind my introverted friend, she's a little socially shy." She got so so resentful too, like she was just plain hateful I picked up new healthy habits and hobbies. It was bizarre to watch, because on the other end of it, my best friend was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:57 PM
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identify and start enforcing boundaries Mine initially responded with anger and disbelief, then tried using the old tricks of guilt and shame. When it didn't work, she booked it.. never heard from her again. Years of "friendship" thrown away because I refused to be a doormat to abuse anymore. A HV person would try to adjust. They'd ask how, why, what can we do to fix this. But LV people - they KNOW what they've done to you, how they've abused, manipulated, trash talked, and used you over the yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:52 PM
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"hey" "hyd" "whts up" "addy" If they can't type out actual words dear god, run. A ten year old could do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:31 PM
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If he COULD be better, he WOULD be. Especially true if they are in their 30s or older. No excuse anymore. That's their peak. And they really, truly believe that they are doing such a great job and you should praise them on it. Even if you're doing far better - they'll put you down for your success in some way and request that you lift their mediocre success to the skies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:00 PM
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Oh I did. This was back in the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:16 PM
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Dude in his 30s telling me how proud he was to have moved out of his moms house. Me, two story, two car garage house that I own. My second home purchase. He insulted my decorating first chance he got. He bragged about the studio apartment he had so “independently” snagged. Y’all it was a freaking dorm room.. didn’t even have a kitchen. They are literally delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:51 PM
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“Come cook for me you’re so good at it” No, that’s for me and my loved ones. “Teach me how to cook” No, teach your damn self like I did. Time is my greatest currency thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:56 AM
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Holy crap, yes! Because if you’re right you’re above them in their eyes. Confident people have no problem admitting when they’re wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:25 PM
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I was in a high - expertise job for 6 years. He worked in retail. He could not admit that I was more skilled in an area he had no experience in that I’d spent 6 years perfecting. Omg nooooooo the googling too! It’s like they enjoy watching the annoyance and confusion flow across your face. Like why does it even matter if you’re wrong about this one tiny thing? And when the googling reveals that you’re right somehow you still aren’t. They are so insecure and that’s why they neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:24 PM
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I mean they’re telling on themselves as to how insanely base minded and dumb they are. Because that’s literally all they are looking for, dinner and sex and half the time not even the dinner part. It’s mind boggling to them that we could um, I don’t know, be looking for emotional connection, a relationship, and the rare guy that doesn’t use manipulation as a second language. Free dinner strategy not all of us live off ramen and cheap beer. Most of us can cook restaurant quality food at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:13 PM
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In the words of my abuser: “get ready to be a single parent unless you abort.” “I know you were messing with your BC. You wanted this.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:55 PM
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“Which drawer has the condoms in it?” Excuse me what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:53 PM
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women like older men’ "Women are conditioned to believe that they are supposed to like older men from a young age." Fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 07:37 PM
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Because they all picture themselves as looking like Jeffrey Dean Morgan as they age. You don't. You definitely don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 07:28 PM
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This is literally what one guy did. I noticed it as a red flag instantly. He broke down like a baby and expected me to console him, pat him on the back, and provide therapy to him. When I asked him how his therapy was going - “it’s not working I stopped going.” When I asked about his antidepressants - “they made me feel weird so I stopped taking them.” He then gaslighted me a little while later, then said “that’s gaslighting” in reference to me bringing up something he had said about himself. Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 08:28 PM
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I’ve seriously had my heart broken by a man who I was close with and we called each other best friends for years. Then one day after a chill night.. he kissed me. It was like kissing my brother. I felt revolted, betrayed, used, hurt.. his response? “You were showing all the signs and signals, we are so compatible, what is wrong with you?” He then told me he couldn’t be friends anymore. It haunted me for a long, long time. I really thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t forc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 08:19 PM
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The ugly ones don’t compliment you, they insult you. They hate how pretty, confident, dressed up, stylish, fit, and just plain leveled-up you are. I was thankfully at a better place then (with the exception of giving this LVM a four week shot *puke). So I didn’t really absorb the things said to me but here’s a few: “You’re kind of ugly with makeup, you should wear less.” Translation: I don’t like how much better you look than me. “You know… you called me fat the other day.” Translation: When you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:33 PM
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"Just communicate. Women never make the first move. Maybe he’s not sure if you’re into him. Give him a chance.” Translation: "Reach out to him first, it's an ego boost and we're in dying need of those. I know that women are harassed, followed, and assaulted regularly, but that's not all men and it's not our fault, so women need to forget all of that and pursue us because we're already exhausted from the porn. Give him a chance, nobody else has yet." Gross, really? Happening in real time, how sic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:19 AM
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hampered my ambitions and generated depression and low self- esteem. And the social pressure for women to have partners causes them to be vulnerable to bad relationships All of this. This right here is gold. The people who tell me I'm never going to find a man or ask for "updates" on my dating life are not the people for me. Yes, be intimidated that I own my own house and am working on my own business. That's where my energy is going, not towards being a therapist for a man-child. Stop telling w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:53 PM
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they all unload on me. Distance Same, same, it's so unfortunate to watch even your family be like this. I gave away so much of my energy, intellect, and resources trying to get one of them to see the error in their ways. You can have them watch podcasts and hold a giant sign in front of their face. They'll blankly look at you and say "you're so right." Then turn around like a robot and continue their behavior. People have to want to change. And most toxic people just don't. The most eerie thing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:17 PM
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To point out, too, them changing would require a simultaneous change in the pickmes. One cannot happen without the other. For example, LVMs are validated in a toxic backwards way when women ask for advice, LVMs give weird twisted advice that benefits them instead of the questioner, and the woman says "oh you're so right, I was just being closed minded. I can totally get on board with doing all of the cleaning and cooking. We both work full time but you're right, his job is way harder, giggle." I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:59 PM
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just saying whatever they think will shut you up in the moment. Every toxic person, ever. This is why you need to pay very close attention to a person's actions and not their words. "The Boy Who Cried Wolf" illustrates this perfectly. Let's make this a real life thing, if they say something without meaning it X amount of times they just get eaten by a wolf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:18 PM
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Back in my less admirable days, I had my "give him a chance" guy, and he was the biggest guy I'd ever been with. With tree trunk legs. He didn't like to brush his teeth. When I left a washcloth in the shower for him he asked me "what's that for." They are all like this. All of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:49 PM
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give ugly guys "a chance" but not anymore. Ugh, and the ones telling you to give ugly guys a chance are, in fact, ugly guys themselves who you wouldn't give a chance to. Thank goodness we found a space accepting of our standards. And that's what they are - standards. Men can have standards, but when we have standards we're called "shallow." Nope, never again giving anyone "a chance" because of some masochistic guilt trip and gaslight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:33 PM
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Time is an even bigger resource than money in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:21 PM
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