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And if I have to question it, it already means he probably isn't the one. There you go, you have your answer already. Remember there are literally hundreds of guys nearby who would be happy to take you out and treat you like your deserve, which includes not even leaving the possibility of you paying for a date you were invited on. This guy has already proven to be of questionable value, which means he is not worthy of your time. Block him and move on so that you can meet someone who deserves the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:01 PM
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There are two things I think are important to state here. The first is that you seem to be entangling a general sense of unhappiness with a perceived lack of romantic success (according to your definition). The key here is to realize two things 1) that you have to learn how to be happy by yourself and as a corollary to that 2) jumping into any kind of relationship when you are not happy with yourself won't solve anything. My experience is similar to yours in some ways. I slaved away in my 20's o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:30 AM
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Yup after the very first dates there is no reason to keep seeing a person unless you feel like it's a mutual "fuck yes" situation. For maybe the first couple of dates or so fair enough, people, everyone is just trying to feel things out and possibly seeing multiple people. But after that you want to be sure that you are actually excited to be meeting the other person and that they are also enthusiastic about meeting you. Never get into the habit of dragging things along when you are not actually…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:32 AM
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Had plans on Saturday to meet up with this guy and go on a date but I flaked because I have very difficult finals coming up (education > LVM). OP, tbh your behavior is not great here either. If the dude is a LVM then you should have simply cut him off and not pursued things further. After all what is the point of wasting a second more with a loser? But if you thought he had value, you should also treated him with respect. Cancelling a date because you need to study is more than reasonable of cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 05:22 AM
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To me this is one of the core idea of FDS. You should only date people who are contributing to your life, e.g. by providing resources, emotional support, intellectual stimulation, whatever you crave. By contrast if you find yourself spending time with a LVM who is not meeting your needs, you need to block and ghost them ASAP. Do not give a second of your time to an emotional vampire who instead of adding to your life is actually sucking up your valuable time. That is also why it's so important t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 11:01 PM
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This is great advice, I generally have nothing but suspicion and disdain for male school teachers. First of all women are naturally better suited to educate children, which is why the performance of female teachers tends to be better across the board. By contrast men who go into teaching are generally losers with little talent, ambition or drive in their lives. They go into teaching as either a safe job where they can whittle away their lives in mediocrity while balding and and working on their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 04:21 PM
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Psh this literal ad for the sugar baby lifestyle is far from FDS in my book. A high value woman will see finding a valuable man to add to her life as a way to bring added value to a life that is already rich socially/intellectually/professionally. I have as much respect for sugar babies who have nothing but their bodies to sell for money as I do for the pathetic male losers who only have money to offer in exchange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 03:26 AM
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A high value man doesn’t care about spending money on you. Actually I would put it a different way, a high value man does care in the sense that he feels glad to be providing for you and happy to make your life a bit better. In fact truly high value men will go out of your way to make experiences especially nice and interesting and to make you feel really special as you deserve to feel. At that point simply paying for the dates is just a no-brainer. On the flipside, I agree that is is nothing sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 01:50 PM
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I strongly believe that even in a long term relationship the man must pay the majority of the costs. To me this goes to the core definition of a high value man. A HVM doesn't just pay during the courtship stage to impress you. Rather he does so because he is happy to provide for you and to improve your life and that should by no means stop as the relationship becomes more serious. There is also a practical side to the equation. In most relationships there will be a possibility that down the row …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 01:14 AM
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Browsing through the list of graffiti, it's interesting how modern it looks in a lot of ways. Discarding the local colour, this is exactly the same kind of crap you could read today on Tinder or forums dominated by guys, bragging about sexual conquests, their masculine prowess, and of course jokes about defecation. We can even see the beginning of a Roman MGTOW movement :D Weep, you girls. My penis has given you up. Now it penetrates men's behinds. Goodbye, wondrous femininity! The lesson here o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 06:10 PM
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A sad anecdote I see play over and over again is when women complain about the fear of men committing sexual assault and some MRA types inevitably chimes in saying: "wow don't you know men get raped too, in fact almost as many men get raped as women." Of course, they don't mention the fact that those men are raped by... other men. So yes, male toxicity is the key problem and the fact that men also victimize each other in no way makes things better for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 08:08 PM
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In an ideal world I would require people with an abnormally small penis to disclose their condition well before sex might be on the table, e.g. similar to incurable STIs. To be fair some guys who fall in this category do have the decency to volunteer the information early. However for couple waiting on sex for an extended period of time, of course the risk on both sides will be that a relationship slow in the making can end suddenly if this news comes out. That is why personally I would see a pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 08:03 PM
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The trick is you want to learn if the guy you are meeting is the kind of man who can and will provide for you, if he is looking for the same things you are, and if he is an interesting person that you will find yourself enjoying spending time with. However you should try to get these answers in a seamless natural way, without making it seem like an interview. Watch not only his answers, but also his behavior. So for example, somewhere in the conversation you can ask about his job/education and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 06:54 PM
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Personally, I don't care all that much if the guy may make a bit less less than me, what I care when dating is: Whether the guy is generous and is willing to spend on me and to make our time together nice (e.g. paying for all dates and making sure they are high quality dates). and Whether the guy makes enough and has a stable enough career that he could provide for us in case he needed to be the sole earner for a given amount of time. I work in a field that's high paying but also somewhat unsust…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 10:51 PM
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And for the last third as far from your creepy and pathetic low value ass as physically possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:13 PM
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Wow this is absolutely amazing advice! I will strongly consider implementing it in my own life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 09:55 PM
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If you like the guy: I would prefer to meet over dinner so we would have a better chance to get to know one another. If you are unsure about the guy: 👻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:12 PM
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My personal preference is something like the personality version of "speak softly but carry a big stick." In general I like my personality to be feminine and kind. But that does not mean that I am malleable or a pushover. In life and relationships I don't just expect but demand to be respected and to take what is rightfully mine: At work I expect competitive pay for the value I provide and recognition of my work. I expect basic respect from everyone, period. Any person who cannot do that gets cu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 06:21 PM
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A lot of these articles are kind of clickbaity as in realities studies are somewhat mixed about how the happiness of married women compares with the happiness of unmarried women. However if you look at the data more closely, you actually find more agreement about specific parts that are actually more useful to think about such as Women who report a high level of satisfaction in the marriage are definitely likelier to be happier overall compared to the population at large. A large source of unhap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:53 PM
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I know this sounds harsh, but I would go no contact with this guy. This guy may sound like a good friend, but he is also an emotional vampire. Look at his actions: he has made it clear that 1) he is not interested in pursuing anything serious with you, 2) he is looking for someone else, 3) but points 1 and 2 aside, he is still using you to fill his emotional needs, but only on HIS terms. As a result he uses you for emotional validation, distressing you in the process, while having no intention o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:05 PM
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What a shocker, a bunch of old dudes in patriarchal societies who wrote the religious books just so happen to portray the Gods and their disciples as patriarchal figures who use women as tools. To be honest, this was one of the biggest turnoffs against mainstream religions for me. The attitude towards women is almost universally gross and in some cases downright unbelievable. I mean take Muhammad, in Islam he is supposed to be the perfect example of a man and yet he had no issue raping a nine ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 11:32 PM
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MRA logic: The Middle East must be such a great place for gender relations. Both cultural mores and written laws in Islamic societies enshrine a natural relationship between men and women. Women are taught to be modest and focus on their family and in return men take care of their wives through love and devotion. Meanwhile in the Middle East...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 07:41 PM
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Exactly, which is why it's so important in my opinion to date multiple men. Especially after coming out of a bad relationship too many women fall for a guy who is simply nice to them, nothing more. All of a sudden they start chasing him because he is such a great guy when in reality all he does is the bare minimum to not be a piece of shit. But ladies, you don't just deserve the bare minimum, you are queens who deserve the best. So date multiple men but be super picky. Those men who fail to even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:53 PM
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The idea that so many low value men seriously expect women to split the rent when moving in with them is so bonkers to me. The kicker is that some of these guys also expect the woman to stay at home when having children. Well genius, if you can't do the bare minimum of a decent man and put a roof over your gf/wife's head now, how exactly do you expect to be able to provide for your family when the woman is not working and the baby is burning through clothes and food?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 10:08 PM
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To be honest, I would prefer not to mock that idiot, but simply not to give him any attention at all. That fourth rate hate is much too stupid and insubstantial to even warrant being talked about. And yet it is this very attention he thrives on like a pathetic troll who will never achieve anything worthwhile in his life. The best response is just to pretend like he never even existed, which in any case will be his inevitable fate the second his body turns cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 04:06 PM
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The problem with the angriest of these low value man-children is that they truly are the social equivalent of scum. Society is like a stock with a bunch of tasty diverse ingredients coming together to create a tasty broth. But before you can enjoy the broth, denatured proteins and other crap floats to the top as scum and needs to first be discarded before you can enjoy the goodness. Likewise, society has a lot of great people who contribute and enrich it in many ways. But these low value losers …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 01:36 PM
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Something that women aren’t taught enough, is that we’re pretty much all 7/10 at our worst. Women are beautiful creatures. I’m not even bi, but as a woman I’ve never seen another woman and thought she wasn’t pretty. I'm sorry to be harsh, but I think this is the kind of "wishful thinking the sidebar warns against, because it is neither realistic nor helpful for a community that is about being your best. Can you in all honesty say that this woman or this woman is at least a 7/10 and pretty to boo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:34 AM
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This advice can apply equally to women looking for relationships. Depending on what I am looking for at the moment, I divide the men looking to date me into two groups 1) those I am seriously interested in and 2) people I am willing to go on a date if the offer is good enough. The first group I only focus on when I am seriously looking for a serious relationship. In that case I still expect them to pay for the date and make it worth my time. However if I really like the guy I am not going to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 12:07 AM
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I am very happy for you, but I think in many ways you got lucky in that your partner ended up being the real deal. Sadly, I think it would be dangerous for young women to think that the same will be true for them. In most cases if you start out dating a guy who's working in a grocery store in his mid twenties, he will still be working in a grocery store in this thirties and onwards. Unless you want to end up with a dustie down the road, I think it's a much better strategy to only date people who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 07:02 PM
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I have some experience with grad students as I was one myself. The issue is that we used to make any money in these programs beyond a stipend that barely allowed enough to scrape by on. So the few times I dated such guys it was clear that they had little desire to treat me on dates and expected me to cover my own portion even on the modest dates they took me on. Sorry but no thanks... Was your experience any different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 06:22 PM
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Here I disagree, I don't date broke guys period, no matter their "potential." I agree of course that guys who are broke but working to better themselves are better than broke guys who just lounge about like useless sacks of potatoes. But that ambition is good for them, not good for me. If I am going to be investing my time into a relationship, I want to get tangible benefits now, not pray that I will reap some dividends in 5 years time. If a guy is so broke that he can't even afford to take me o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:25 PM
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I am not currently in North America, but I lived in the US for a bit and dated some Latino men because of cultural similarities. One nice thing about them is that in general they were very good about playing the role of gentlemen early on, taking the lead on organizing dates, always paying for everything without question, etc. However, the downside of this macho culture is that I never felt like these men truly saw me as an equal and in some ways expected me to be subservient in some sense. To m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:48 PM
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I would be miserable being compared to an 8-year-old in the goddamn New York Times. Jesus. That would be a total dealbreaker. Hmm maybe it's because I got trained in science, but I am not reading the quote in a bad light. She sad her husband has the "has the wonder of an 8-year-old." That reminds me a bit of a quote from Einstein where he attributed his success to maintaining a "childlike curiosity and sense of marvel" that allowed him to question familiar and apparently obvious concepts. She is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:40 PM
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I mean it's not exactly shocking. There is no magic formula that will work for every couple or every relationship. The way I see FDS is that it has some useful guidelines that may work for some people in certain situations. If some strategies here are helpful to you, great, otherwise try something else. I find a lot of the general ideas here useful and apply them in real life, but obviously plenty of other people have gone on to have great relationships through their own approaches and great for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:36 PM
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I would say yes by and large, at least when it comes to friendships with men. Ultimately the relationships I seek out the ones that end up enriching my life rather than being a drain on my time and emotions (and lord knows I've had my share of the latter). As a result, I only maintain friendships where the friend respects my time, makes an effort to meet and follows through, and is there for me when I need support or help. Likewise when it comes to guys, I think the principle that men should pay…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 01:51 PM
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I don't use Tinder, but the idea stands, I see texting mostly just as a tool to set up real life interactions. If it's a guy I don't know yet, I am only willing to text to make sure he is not absolutely boring and won't waste my time, but as soon as possible I want to get treated to an actual date where I can see what he offers me in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:42 AM
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That's why you make sure he can and DOES provide before he gets anything from you, not after he can take, take, take, and give nothing back in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:36 AM
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Being single and being alone are by no means the same thing. Humans are social creatures and for most of us going alone is not something we can easily handle. That is why it's best to try to build a close network of close friends to rely on and lean on. Of course, making friends does get a bit more difficult with age, but it's still possible, you just need to be more proactive about it. My advice would be to force yourself to go out of your comfort zone a bit to spend more time in social situati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:21 AM
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