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I love compliments from gay men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 10:11 PM
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It really depends on your age. In my friend circle where most people met in college, 5-7 years from dating to engagement isn't uncommon, but I think COVID affected things too. In general 3-5 years before engagement is pretty reasonable. And then 1-2 years engaged. But if you meet in your late 20s or 30s the timeline can definitely be shorter. My fiance and I got engaged after 6ish years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 12:10 AM
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Yeah I'm a bi woman and I find this logic a little strange. I'm more femme/sub (I guess) if you want to call it that, and (back when I was dating) regardless of whether I was with a man or woman, I would offer to split 50/50, treat the other person, or whatever. I appreciate if the other person pays, but I usually try to offer to pay the next time or get dessert or drinks. And it has zero bearing on my own sense of femininity. I also wouldn't consider the guy or girl I'm with emasculine if they …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:29 AM
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4B is a pretty radical feminist movement. In the US as a young woman from a pretty liberal part of the country, I rarely see any women who follow radical feminist ideals. Most women I know are more aligned with the views of liberal feminism. But I have heard that among Gen-Z radical feminist views are rising amongst a small but growing minority. I don't really see the full extent of 4B taking root here but those rad fem values are definitely going to be popular amongst some women who feel that l…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 10:23 AM
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The only two polycules I know involve people who play DnD together 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:30 AM
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Some people are straight up just bored. Others like attention. I love drama when it doesn't involve me. My life is very boring and that's the way I like it, but I live for other people's drama. But some people like to be in the thick of it. It makes them feel important or special. And some people straight up are just bored of life and like to make things more exciting. There are also people who don't know how to have healthy relationships or who have habits (drinking, drugs) that make it worse. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:57 PM
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Reminder that Zoomers were the COVID generation. They couldn't even see their friends or go to school let alone date and have sex. My cousins who are that age all have no dating experience because they spent some of their "prime years" locked at home. Now they're behind in those social experiences and a lot of them prefer to just stay home gaming and hanging out on Discord than going out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 07:10 PM
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I mean you do you, but this sounds awful to me. Motivating myself for work every day is hard enough but if my relationship becomes work #2 when will I ever get a break? I'm an introvert. I don't want to force myself to be with people (including friends) who I don't really enjoy being with. Even with friends I can get tired sometimes. My partner is my reprieve from everything and everyone else. He's my oasis in the desert. And together we survive everything else life gives us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:44 PM
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No? These women had normal dating experiences before dating an older guy. Then had a LTR with an older guy for a period of time. Then broke up with him. I didn't realize dating a single older man for 1-4 years is considered a ho phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:36 AM
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If the guys just wanted sex that was never the issue. They wanted to get married and have kids. They were the ones who pushed it beyond just sex and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:40 PM
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Interdependent. We both need each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:39 PM
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Every girl I knew in college who dated an older guy ended up dumping him. It was the same pattern each time: Girl's high school boyfriend was really immature so when she went to college she became attracted to a more mature guy. They date for a year or two but he very soon starts wanting to settle down, get married, and have kids. He tries to make her fit into his life plans. She refuses. She dumps him. She starts dating someone her age instead. And they turn out to be a much better fit. I saw t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:35 PM
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I don't see it as ass-kissing. If I see that someone got a haircut or has a cute outfit on I'll tell them. I've told random strangers this because I just want them to know that I liked what they chose to wear or do. I like fashion and stuff like that. It doesn't matter if I'll never see that person again. I give both men and women compliments or shout outs. Like if I'm out and I see a guy wearing a tshirt for a band I like I'll let him know. If a male friend gets a haircut I'm often the first to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:12 AM
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Some women do. I'm very good at reading people in general. I've always been always to identify shady girls even when everyone thinks they're sweet and nice. My gaydar is supposedly very accurate. And I'm pretty good at sensing weirdos, male or female (believe me I've met those too).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:25 AM
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I'm actually gonna go with disagree. I've been pretty good at judging whether I'll get along with someone upon first meeting or early interactions. Almost all my closest friendships are people who I vibed with immediately. For my partner we met via OLD and from our first messages to each other I knew we'd get along well. And when we met it solidified it. I had been on plenty of other dates with people in the past and after the first or second it was easy to tell things weren't working out. Month…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:06 PM
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I love giving and receiving gifts. I grew up in a family where I was usually just given money and while that's nice it lacks sentimentality (I don't have anything from childhood that my parents gave me). So I appreciate that my partner comes from a family that really puts effort into thinking about what everyone would like. I love all kinds of gifts my partner gives me from jewelry to plushies to concert tickets. My favorite might have to be when he got me the IKEA BLÅHAJ shark plushie (sharks a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:41 PM
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Like I said below to another person I'm someone who has only ever been with one person. So for me they're the same person. It's not playing dumb. I genuinely don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:36 AM
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No problem. I'm on here because I genuinely like to hear what other people think, and I offer my perspective when I think it's different from others' experience. I used the term "cock carousel" as a shorthand since you mentioned women and the "truly hot guys [they've] fucked before" not because you actually used that term. And yeah I've never met anyone so hot that I wanted to take off my pants then and there. For the record I'm bisexual and I've met plenty of very very attractive people in life…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 02:51 AM
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I don't disagree with that but my friends do include guys in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 02:45 AM
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Mostly just that I don't understand the idea that "relationship material" means a woman doesn't find a man lust-worthy as well. And I really don't know many women who are "cock-hungry sluts" or who have ridden the "cock carousel." I don't think you're wrong for saying I'm not thinking in terms of how "men measure success" as you say, but I guess I also don't know many men who actually measure success that way themselves. Honestly it wasn't until I came to PPD that I even found out some men found…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:51 PM
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I mean I've never fucked anyone other than my bf. I've never even kissed anyone other than him. So doesn't apply to me. Nor does missionary with the lights off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:16 PM
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Genuinely asking but how many guys are being told they're relationship material without also being considered fun to be around? If I find a guy relationship material it means they can probably cook and wouldn't be embarassing to introduce to friends and family, but I also definitely want to bang him. Regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:36 PM
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I feel like it really depends on what circles you're in. Maybe my friends and I are lame but none of us are particularly attractive nor are the people we're dating. But we have similar interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:12 PM
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🤣🤣 another person answered already but Online Dating. But thank you your comment made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:10 PM
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I know people hate this answer but the answer is still OLD. Most couples I know either met in college or on OLD. Work isn't uncommon either, but they're usually similar age and positions. Everyone else is via friends (not from the same school or job), where groups collide. And I've known a few people who met partners via MMOs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:48 PM
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I'm friends with a lot of people who like anime but not all of them want to watch the niche shows I like. Not all of them will go see a metal concert with me. And even fewer of those will tolerate me blasting Taylor Swift while we cook a multi course dinner for no reason other than we felt like it. I have a lot of friends with similar surface interests as me, but personality is a lot deeper than that. My friend group are all nerdy anime-watching video game-playing people, but I wouldn't date any…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:38 PM
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I would divorce him on the grounds that he didn't tell me he's been married multiple times before. Before everything else you wrote, that by itself is enough. If he couldn't trust me to tell me that about himself prior to us marrying (and it sounds like maybe even after marrying - since you had to "find out") then things were never going to work to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 12:37 AM
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Women tend to be very attentive to physical and social cues. Rather than verbally asking for permission I think many women use body language to indicate these things, so verbally asking can seem a bit awkward
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:19 PM
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Thank you! It took a while to figure out the right balance. It's kind of funny but our sex life actually improved after moving into his parents' house, because now whenever we're home alone it's like "Go! Go! Go!" and we tend to plan a bit better. Whereas in the past when it was just us two it was so easy to say "ah look how late it is (after bingewatching something on Netflix) we'll just do things tomorrow" but the cycle keeps repeating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:46 PM
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West Hollywood
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:30 AM
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My ideal frequence is 4x/week but practically probably 3x/week. For him it's probably more like 2x/week but he's the kind of person to get too tired to do things or he'll be busy gaming and then it gets too late. Sex is less of a priority. If we're doing things he definitely services me quite a bit, but if he's not in the mood there's a quiet understanding that I have toys and I like to use them. We usually do things about 2x a week, though it depends on how busy we are, period (not into period …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 10:41 PM
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I grew up in an urban environment but I went to a small school. It was hard to make friends let alone date because it was so small. Things got better when I went to a big college and had wayy more people I could meet and had similar interests
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:10 PM
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I'm a woman who has a higher libido than her male partner. It can be frustraring at times, not going to lie, and it was especially tough when we first moved in together. But this is my person and I love him so rather than make it a reason to leave we talked about reasonable expectations and what we could do to make sure both of us were happy. It took a lot of time, discussing, planning, and worked through it, but 5+ years into our relationship our sex life is actually the best it's ever been. Se…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:46 PM
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I know a girl who had an AI chatbot become her favorite anime character and she got to date him. Apparently he dumped her or something though. I wish I was joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:31 AM
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I started learning around middle school I think, maybe late elementary. I have an older sister and she was interested in cooking so we would watch a lot of Food Network and would try cooking things our parents and relatives didn't make. We're Asian so our family mostly cooked Chinese and Viet dishes, but if we wanted other stuff we kind of had to figure things out ourselves (though my parents helped). Like we wanted more traditional Thanksgiving dishes so we looked up recipes for mashed potatoes…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:42 PM
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I'm not a particularly attractive woman and I have not gotten much attention from guys or men in the past, but men are still plenty nice to me even if there are much more attractive women around. I've even been with female friends who are way more attractive than me but I still get treated nicely. Why? Because I have a really pleasant demeanor and friendly attitude. Even when men aren't interested in me they're still nice to me and don't mind engaging in conversation with me because I'm nice and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:12 PM
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Nah I like guys who aren't just one note. My bf likes rock and metal and plays guitar, but is also a geeky gamer guy who watches anime. At the same time, I like that he can dress up for nice occasions and not just look "schlubby" and we can travel and go to museums together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:35 PM
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This sounds really interesting. I'm gonna check it out. Thanks for sharing about it!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:22 AM
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A lot of my friends were super nerdy Asian-Americans who prioritized academics over dating. Parents told them "no dating til after college" but now are like "when marriage?!" But after college and combined with COVID it got really hard to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 09:04 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:51 PM
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All my friends are either virgins or have an n-count of 1. None of them have ever been turned off by guys who lack experience. Was the woman you met someone who did have more experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:34 PM
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The only time I've ever though doctors were considered sexy was when Grey's Anatomy was at its peak and everyone was fangirling over McDreamy. But that's because Patrick Dempsey is supposed to be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:41 PM
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You must really be a chad then I guess? Most women I know over 22 aren't interested in sneaking into a guy's parents' house.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:35 AM
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If you never make the first move doesn't that mean that the women who are willing to make the first move for you actively want to bang you? Not saying this as a negative thing (good for you) but just mentioning this because a lot of women don't have the courage to make the first move, or believe it's not their job to, even if they're attracted to a guy. They might find you cute or interesting but aren't desperate to get in your pants immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:32 AM
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How do you define hookup? In my experience girls will kiss or makeout with you on the first date if they're attracted to you, unless they're really inexperienced and shy, but a lot of women I know won't have sex on the first date because 1) safety. They don't want to bring a stranger home or go to a stranger's place on a first date. 2) they might not be on BC and don't trust condoms to be sufficient 3) it's their first time 4) it's a personal policy to not "put out" that quick
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:28 AM
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I'm attracted to both. I would choose men because it was really tough trying to find women to date. I knew a lot of queer women but none were my type and I wasn't theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:27 PM
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Honestly I feel like I'm seeing a lot of swing back in terms of the value of SAHMs these days. Childcare is so expensive that a lot of my very educated friends are in agreement if they have kids one of the parents (not always the woman) will probably be at least a part-time SAHP. Also I feel like people respect nurses way more these days than they used to. And I see a lot of male nurses actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:36 PM
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I'm a girl who likes anime and who knows sooooooo many girls who like anime. Rather than trying to convince someone who doesn't like something to get into it people should just aim to find someone who shares at least somewhat overlapping interests if that matters to you. And there are so many anime that appeal to girls and the gender gap is not as big as you'd think. I knew people who were in anime clubs in college and as long as the clubs were good about preventing creepy behavior (like don't l…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:33 PM
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When my bf went into the office I used to make him cute bentos when I could, but it made more sense to have leftovers as lunch because we don't like wasting food. He loves cooking though so we usually cook together. My way of doting on him is baking things like cookies and cupcakes since he has a sweet tooth. I love to treat my bf but we still split housework fairly evenly because we also both have fulltime jobs. It's possible to dote on your partner without having a massive labor inbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:54 PM
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Nice walkable cities are great. I used to live in Japan where trains are clean (but crowded) and there aren't drug users on them. It was nice taking trains and subway everywhere. But where I live now I absolutely hate taking public transit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:17 AM
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Do you not know men who cook or clean or do chores? My bf cooks just as much as me. My dad and mom both cook and clean. My bf's dad cooks while his mom cleans. While women do in fact often do more household work that's not the case with everyone. There are plenty of men who have no issue cooking and cleaning. And at the end of the day companionship with a partner is very different than with friends. I love my friends to death but none of them can replace my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:11 AM
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This. I like hearing different opinions and I also like contributing my own perspective on things because it doesn't always align with even other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 12:16 AM
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Wow I relate to this so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:14 PM
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As a girl who has helped multiple male friends set up dating profiles I can definitely say that some guys suck at choosing good pictures of themselves. One of my friends isn't unattractive whatsoever, but his picture choices were genuinely god-awful. Not only were they unflattering pictures of him in really ugly outfits, they just did a bad job of showing off who he was. Literally. He would post group pictures where you couldn't even tell which one he was. Or he'd post a picture he thought was f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:46 PM
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It's probably been done before but we should do a poll of n-counts of users on this subreddit. I wanna see the distribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:44 PM
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Of course. It's a compatibility issue and a difference in values. If the genders were reversed it'd be the same. And I would assume most people want to find a partner who shares their views on relationships and marriage, otherwise they're wasting their time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:02 PM
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It depends on the couple. As long as you and your partner are in agreement it's fine. I know some people in relationships who do, but my partner and I aren't really interested in it. We'd rather travel together than solo or with friends (without each other).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:18 AM
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Yeah it definitely depends on what kind of culture and community you're in. And also age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:07 PM
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I feel like that strategy operates under the assumption that the guy visibly shows he wants it but the girl holds him at arms length but he is interested enough to not be pushed away. I think it only works if the girl is a major catch and the guy continues to show romantic and even sexual interest, while simultaneously being patient and understanding. I can't say I've actually seen this strategy work out for any girls I know. I'm used to people saying they're not ready for sex until a few dates …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:41 PM
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It's hard to say because I'm not and have never been pregnant but I want to say it's okay to not be comfortable with having sex with your partner when they're pregnant. It's kind of intimidating knowing that your actions could affect her and the baby's safety. And the body IS different when visibly pregnant and not everyone is turned on by the sight of their pregnant partner. What I will say though is that I think a couple should discuss what their plan regarding sex will be when pregnant (maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:01 PM
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Pregnant at all or just visibly pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:49 PM
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From my experience/knowledge, college friend circles & clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:48 PM
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Wait this sounds entertaining. What YT channel is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:30 PM
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OMG I love triscuits. Idk if they're still around but I once had really good tomato basil ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:59 PM
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Happy Birthday!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:58 PM
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Likewise!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:58 PM
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I feel like if women really wanted marriage and kids they'd have already rushed to find those things by age 30, which is why women who are single in their 30s probably don't mind it as much
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:55 PM
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It's tricky! I had gone on a few dates with people from dating apps before and they all failed (nice people but we just didn't vibe). But meeting via friends is also tricky. My male friends all felt more like brothers to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:52 PM
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Honestly people would adapt. It's not like the Internet is vanishing. I know peoplr who've met partners via Instagram and even people who have started dating from MMOs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:51 PM
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Exactly! Ohmygod I'm not dealing with that again. I met my bf on Tinder but that was an actual miracle that I know I wouldn't be able to repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:46 PM
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For women: thigh highs 🤤 I also like to wear them myself. As a lingerie collector, I think there's a lot of great stuff. Lacey stuff with lots of straps are fun. But tbh I'm more attracted to more masculine women so I guess I'd describe my taste as butch Kristen Stewart lately. For men: it really depends on the person. I love a good band tee and jeans, but a short sleeved button up is also very attractive. I honestly love if it has a nice or subtle pattern. Anything that shows off arms. Fragranc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:42 PM
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This. It becomes so much harder to meet people and socialize as you get older. The majority of my friends met their SOs while in college. If I was trying to meet someone right now it'd be so challenging with my lifestyle because I'm a huge homebody.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:28 PM
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I feel like every girl I knew who dated an older guy had really immature exes, so they decided to go older because they found older guys more mature. But none of these relationships ended up lasting because eventually all the guys started wanting to get married, settle down, and have kids while my female friends were still in their early mid twenties. And then once we left college the girls started meeting guys who weren't their immature high school bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:12 PM
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Subbed 1000% Japanese voice acting is far superior. I can't stand English voice actors usually. But also I speak Japanese so it's not like I have to keep my eyes glued to the screen to know what's happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:46 PM
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Some of them are just on there because they're bored, but aren't invested enough to try. But I also have some friends who straight up text like that. Like even with friends they give short infrequent responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:40 AM
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Make good friends and be careful with drinking. Always have a new drink from a can or bottle, not something out of a bowl or shared vessel. Don't leave drinks unattended. Make sure to count how much you've had to drink and alternate one drink to one glass of water. Always go to parties or out with a friend or multiple. If they try to go off wi tbh someone like a guy, call it a night. The truth is people at college parties are often pretty reasonable. If you say you're done drinking or need to le…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:24 AM
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Sometimes I like to sit in the closet and pretend I'm a potato
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:53 PM
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I met my bf via Tinder. I was bored tbh and wanted someone to talk to. Was planning to move in a few months so I was just looking for a casual relationship. Fast forward and we've been together for over 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:07 PM
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I mean when I say it I'm picturing Han from Fast & Furious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:37 PM
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I mean I'm in a happy LTR now. It's not like either of us are perfect, so of course there are faults and traits we have to accept about the other person, and things we have to work through occasionally, but if we go by OP's definition of settling = choosing your 2nd choice because you can't have your 1st, that's not an issue for me. I'm with my 1st choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:41 PM
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Nope. I'm very very much not neurodivergent. I have very deep connections with friends and I have no problem socializing. I just never found anyone I really "liked" in a romantic sense. I had crushes on people and I found people physically attractive but I just didn't get the concept of actually really falling for someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:37 PM
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I wouldn't say I dodged a bullet but he definitely is not my type anymore. I think his style changed and also my own preferences solidified in a different way. He seems happy though so I wish him the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:00 PM
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This. Women who do that, just like men who do it, are trying to isolate their partners. I love spending time with my bf but I want him to have friends and maintain his male friendships. It's about striking a balance between the two. Some of his male friends are in relationships so sometimes we gather as groups with partners, but I also encourage him to hangout with friends and family solo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:56 PM
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I guess that works for some women, but my bf had the perfect combination of overlapping interests and values as me. That's a lot harder to fake. But also beyond the inutial spark obviously people should still dig deeper and make sure lifestyles, goals, etc. are in line.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:35 PM
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Only befriend lesbians
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:35 PM
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I wouldn't settle and I definitely wouldn't want to be the one settled for. I would rather be single than know that the person I'm with would rather be with someone else. That would destroy my mental health and self esteem. And I would never want to subject someone else to that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:07 PM
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Thank you!! We're so excited!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:47 PM
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Eh it's not like I control my bf. He appreciates that I do the planning and stuff so he doesn't have to. Edit: and I always consult him on stuff. I don't just unilaterally make decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:21 PM
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I met my bf on Tinder. We are both introverts who spend most of our time just hanging out and playing video games. We do go to concerts together occasionally though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:51 PM
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I've met plenty of attractive people in life, male and female (I'm bi) but I didn't understand the "spark" until I met my bf. And honestly it wasn't his physical appearance so much as it was our emotional connection. We met on Tinder and even though we were just texting I had never felt so excited to talk with someone in my life. It was like "I want to talk to this person forever." And when we met in person, I did find him attractive, but it's not like he's the hottest person I've ever encounter…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:48 PM
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Was able to get tickets this weekend for a concert I knew my bf would want to go to. We didn't previously know about it, but I suddenly came across an email saying tickets were on sale. It took almost an hour but I was able to successfully snag them and seeing him so excited when I told him about it was worth every second.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:45 PM
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None of my friends are dating controlling guys. All of us are dating "betas" in a sense and the girls definitely run the relationship. The girls are always the ones making the plans, making the decisions, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:40 PM
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Nope. I've worked jobs with people my age who I was besties with, but after leaving the friendship fizzled. Now I work a job where everyone is older than me and busy with their families etc. We get along great and I can rely on them, but at the end of the day we all have our own lives and friendships and I think that's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:38 PM
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I'm an Asian girl. In my opinion, what you did is good. Escalating the situation could be dangerous. I want my bf to stand between me and the guy and walk close to me so I feel safer. If the guy is just a rude dick in a bar maybe it'd be nice if my bf called him out, but weird people yelling in the street I just avoid. But in the bar situation I would probably be the one to chew the guy out first, since my bf is less confrontational than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:36 PM
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Depends on why I guess. When I met my bf I was a student and he was applying for grad school while working a part time job. I now make less than him but while I've been at my current job, he's changed jobs a few times due to layoffs, been unemployed, been in grad school, etc. I knew he still had goals and ambitions and that these were just things that happened. I would prefer that my partner makes the same or more than me because it's not like I make that much money anyway and I live in a high C…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:33 PM
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I used to live in Japan and face masks there are a must have during allergy season. People would look at me weird in springtime here for wearing them but I'm happy now it's more common to see them. Masks also mean I only have to put on eye makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:57 PM
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Coffee shops or bookstores? When I was single in college the most exciting thing was when a cute person sits near you at a coffee shop and makes eye contact. I know a few people who met their SO playing MMOs lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 05:53 PM
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Black forest! Though my favorite to bake is a mango cake recipe I found on YouTube.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:31 PM
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Exactly. Instead of spending 2 hours a day commuting and several hours per week not doing anything, I can get chores done in between work and also sleep more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:03 PM
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I was a virgin when I met my now bf. I would choose 2. My bf had a little bit of experience but not a lot. We've talked before and even he said he wishes I was his first. But honestly we were able to explore and try a lot of things together anyway. 2 would definitely be my pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:57 PM
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C! Because I'm bisexual lol. I would gladly welcome loving long-term relationships with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:33 PM
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Eh I have two friends (guy and girl) who were (are?) both virgins and are over 25. They recently started dating and it's really nice both of them have similar levels (or lack of) experience. They'rr able to relate to one another and explore that stuff together now. I'm glad neither of them had a ONS or hired an escort just to lose their virginity because it's embarassing or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:56 AM
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Where are you encountering couples and guys like this?? My bf is a gamer and all of my male friends are gamers, most of whom have gfs. I've literally never been friends with a guy who does hard drugs. My male friends do drink but I wouldn't call any of them alcoholics. When it comes to video games and also drinking I just believe in moderation. I wouldn't be okay with my bf gaming so much if it affects his work or our relationship. But I also wouldn't be okay with him drinking so much that it af…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 11:17 PM
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It really depends on the hobby. I know people who fish as a hobby and maybe go once a month or even less depending on the season. Meanwhile people who call traveling a hobby might do that 3-4x a year but for longer periods. I consider going to concerts / live music shows a hobby, but these days I only go a few times a year. You definitely don't need to be good at something for it to be a hobby. I know people who run or knit for a hobby but wouldn't be considered "good" at it. I do feel like a ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:41 PM
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As someone who watched a lot of true crime shows, it's said that really abusive people (men and women) are master manipulators. They like to present themselves one way to ensnare their victims and then show their true colors later. There are also women who are used to being around abusive men and so they are attracted to them. Or women with low self-esteem. For what it's worth I've never been with an abusive partner, so I've never had my personality detector used that way. But I have used it wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:06 PM
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Imo everyone should learn how to cook but these days a lot of people men and women rely on the convenience of frozen foods and meal kits, not to mention eating out. Both my bf and I cook so we're always a little horrified to hear that some of our friends just rely on frozen pizza and similar foods.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:02 PM
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Some women do have naturally lower libido but one thing I've seen with regards to women in LTR is that birth control can really affect some women's libido. Antidepressants too. A friend of mine started seeing a guy she really liked and definitely wanted to actively have sex with, so she started taking hormonal birth control. Unfortunately it tanked her libido and it was really frustrating for her. I have a higher libido than my bf (who is on antidepressants) but since it's so high the birth cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:56 PM
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I'm aware but you were saying a woman's prime is 18-25. I don't think there's that much difference 25-30 at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:09 AM
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Nope. My bf and I split things fairly evenly (about 60/40 because he earns over double how much I make). But I also do a bit more housework than him. I just treated him to a > $100 lunch today because I wanted to eat there. For holidays and birthdays we tend to set a general expectation or budget for how much to spend. And frankly I initiate sex way more because my libido is higher. I do have some trad characteristics like I like to bake for my bf, give him massages, and give him head (more than…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 03:13 AM
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I'm probably a bit lucky in this regard but at 27 I really don't think I look that much different than I did pre-25. I still don't have wrinkles. I still don't have grey hair. And any change in my physique is due to changes in diet or exercise. None of the people I know are miraculously gaining wrinkles or grey hair right now. Honestly the only people my age with grey hair started getting those in college. But obviously it varies from person to person, how much stress they have, genetics, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 03:07 AM
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I feel like it really depends on what kind of circles you run in. A lot of my friends are still with their first and only bf, who they did indeed meet in college. But we were all pretty studious and nerdy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:17 PM
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My N-count is 1. The only person I've been with is my current bf. He's been with a very small number of people, but even then sometimes I wish I was the only person he's been with. He himself has said before that he wishes the same. Our sex life is great and we were able to explore and improve together.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:33 PM
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I'm defs more of a Jane Lane
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:08 PM
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Who has main character syndrome now
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:11 PM
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The 6th Power Ranger
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:19 PM
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Nah I prefer to be the main character's best friend
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:10 PM
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But Sophie Turner was nowhere near his first gf. He dated Taylor Swift, Demi Lovato, Gigi Hadid, etc. when he was younger. Sophie Turner for sure got married too young though (hell she's younger than me and I'm not getting married for a few more years)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:14 PM
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Holy shit today I learned I am/was a pick-me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:46 PM
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I have male friends with fun IG stories. The guys with nothing to post just don't post. I have friends who regularly react to my stories but people I don't know well aren't usually liking or reacting to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:59 PM
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I hype up my bf to him because I want him to feel more confident about himself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:38 PM
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Lol same. My bf is also on Reddit but he just lurks. He even knows I'm on this specific subreddit but he just thinks it's funny. If he wanted to see my specific posts he could find my account pretty easy, but he said he'll let me have my privacy (he just doesn't care) LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:28 PM
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Yeah. And it's not like she didn't have friends because she was antisocial or unlikeable or anything. But she transferred to our uni, so a lot of people already had friends made by the time she joined. I met her later. And eventually she made more friends. It's been years since college but he apparently still tries to DM her every now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 12:16 AM
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I don't like it but hell even during his HSM days he wasn't my type
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:13 PM
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Museum jobs aren't necessarily low paying. I know people who work at museums and get paid a reasonable amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:09 PM
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Tried a bunch of different pictures. No makeup had me in the 6 range and with makeup had me in the 7s. I personally consider myself a 6 so that checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:05 PM
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When I met my best friend she didn't have many friends. Her closest friend was a guy. She really valued his friendship and they had a lot of overlapping interests. From the very get go, she apparently told him that she wasn't interested in him romantically (she also just wasn't dating at the time), but said she still wanted to be friends and asked if he was okay with that. He said yeah of course and they got really close. I could always tell he was in love with her and waiting for her to feel th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:33 PM
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I find astrology casually entertaining but I don't actually really believe in it or know a lot about it. Now with crystals I just like pretty rocks (even non-gem rocks).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:12 AM
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As a bi woman lol ye. And if my bf can get me either backstage passes or a threesome with TS that'd be great.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:11 AM
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I wouldn't say I believe them 100%, but the younger kids I know are definitely less interested in sex and hookup culture than the people I grew up with. This obviously is anecdotal so I won't assume everyone is like that. I guess I meant sexually conservative in action not in mentality. I feel like younger generations are more open and understanding about sex and sexuality but they're less active themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:01 PM
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I would ask if she could grab mine too. Boobs too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 10:50 PM
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I'm too lazy to actually grab articles but I've seen multiple articles and studies that have said Gen Zers are having less sex than previous generations. Now I can't say for certain whether these are accurate or not, but I have heard from younger cousins and friends that this rings true to them. Like dating is still happening but casual sex and hooking up a bunch is viewed kind of weirdly. But this also varies heavily depending on where you live, what school you go to, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 10:48 PM
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Going to concerts with an SO who likes the same music is so fun. In high school and college I used to go to shows by myself all the time because none of my friends liked the same music. I definitely had fun by myself, but it's really nice to have a permanent concert buddy now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 10:04 PM
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$80 I love my boobs but I do sometimes wish they were spaced a lil bit closer. Also I wish they were the same size. One being slightly bigger than the other somehow stretches out graphic tees a lil weird (that or it's my shoulders being uneven idk)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:59 PM
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$20 I'm very happy with it as is but I guess if it could be "perfect" I'd give a few bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:57 PM
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No. There are plenty of women who will continue to not do OF. Even as it becomes increasingly normalized people will always have some form of stigma against it, or at the very least treat it as different than having a "real job." Because at the end of the day it's not something that takes training, education, etc. to get into. And it will continue to be frowned upon in many professions to have that stuff on the internet. Also I'm seeing Gen Zers are actually a lot more sexually conservative than…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:10 PM
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I'd give random people cooking advice. I think everyone should learn how to cook and if I can share any knowledge or advice I have why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:30 AM
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Yep. Pretty much. None of them were particularly hot or anything. Everyone (guys & girls) is pretty average with some below average. But they're friendly and pleasant to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:20 AM
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Such a cute idea!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:11 AM
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I treat my bf to dinner all the time. We often alternate who pays for dinner. And I often treat him to nice/fancy dinners just for fun. When he was in grad school I paid for over half our meals too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:08 AM
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Totally agree with this. My entire friend group is made up of people who were in an anime club together (I met them later) and there was A LOT of dating happening within the club. Multiple longterm couples born from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:38 AM
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I guess it depends on where you live? I used to live in Berkeley so everyone I knew claimed they were a Communist and most of those people were getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:33 AM
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SF rent is insanely high and everyone is moving out these days. Where are you finding businesses that aren't turning profit in the city that are just being funded as hobbies?? I've seen restaurants that are booked out a year in advance have to shut down because they can't afford to operate business here.9
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:42 PM
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Most people I know who work or operate small businesses are operating them on very small margins and don't have a rich spouse who is funding it as a hobby. The only businesses that are surviving but shouldn't that I see are ones that are probably fronts / money laundering schemes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:40 PM
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I would assume that they're saying if the woman makes 100k/year it's okay if the guy makes less if he's still makes money (let's say 70k) in a job where he's working properly. Tbh I feel like most women I know who work and make good money just want to be with someone who makes similar enough amounts of money where their own lifestyle doesn't have to change to suit them. Also sometimes people just have different incomes because of the kind of job they work. It doesn't mean they work less hard. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:30 PM
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I can't speak for all women but I and several of my friends met their long-time boyfriends via OLD, so I would consider it a positive. I was able to meet someone who had similar interests and hobbies to me that I wouldn't have necessarily met IRL, especially because I'm more of an introvert. Outgoing women with big social circles probably don't need OLD as much, but OLD just gives you a bigger pool of potential dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:38 AM
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Nope. I have never done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:22 AM
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Sex "just happens" when you do a lot of drugs. But I'm not friends with anyone who does hard drugs so no one I know has ever talked about sex that way. I've heard some people say they made out with people when drunk though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:40 PM
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I highly recommend it. It really changed the game for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:28 PM
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Do you ever smash onions into them? It's soo good
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:01 PM
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Absolutely the first. It is so fulfilling having one person who truly loves and also desired me. That person is my best friend and the most important person in my life. I used to feel really bad about myself because I wasn't attractive to a lot of people, but now that I'm in a relationship like this the opinions of others don't matter as much to me. I want to be attractive to my partner and do things that make him happy. I want him to find me cute and sexy. I won't say that his attraction and lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:52 PM
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Most rich people I know prefer to date other rich people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:31 PM
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Doggy is our go-to and consistently feels amazing, but legs-on-shoulder and missionary with ankles crossed around your partner's back also feel nice, especially when you can see and kiss them. But yeah we almost always do part of the time in doggy, and it's extra hot if there's a mirror in the room. I'm someone who can come from PIV without clitoral stimulation. But it's also nice if I get that on top of things whether via hands or toys. But I know a lot of women need other stimulation to orgasm…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:49 AM
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I went to an all girls school and didn't get a bf til 22 (kind of a miracle) so I would not mind at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:36 AM
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Woah this thread is weirdly active today. Is it because tomorrow is a holiday (in the US)?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:27 AM
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You can definitely be feminine and assert your boundaries. I like to wear dresses, put on makeup, and bake cupcakes but I also know when to tell someone to fuck right off. I can be a sub in the bedroom but also say absolutely not if someone is trying to make me do something I don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:23 PM
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That sounds like the plot of a romance novel but I've legit never heard that actually happen IRL. All the f*ckboys I knew growing up are still like that. If they do get married they're marrying a party girl, not a "wholesome girl."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:27 AM
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I personally find 30 times a year too much, but my partner and I are pretty much glued to the hip. Before I was in a relationship I used to solo travel all the time for leisure. These days even though I could travel on my own I prefer to save up vacation days and money to travel together. My bf also prefers traveling with me. But leisure is different than work travel. If my work required me to travel a lot I guess I might do it, but I also don't really like going to conferences and stuff like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 02:11 AM
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It might be really frustrating now but at least when you're older and out of the house you'll be capable of doing chores. I've known some guys who are so reliant on their moms to do things for them that they dropped out of college or moved back home and now can't get a gf. It's really unfair but you'll get through it and be better for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 01:25 AM
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Ah gotcha. That's pretty crazy to me tbh. The only ppl I lie to about appointments are my boss and my parents 😅 I will say though that depending on the type of appointment sometimes you do end up texting during it. My hair appointments take hours so you betcha I'm gonna be on my phone. Or the DMV...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:36 PM
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This might be true for some people but definitely would not apply to me. On a first date the most important things for me is getting to talk to the other person to really get to know them. I find it much easier to talk when we're sitting down in a not-noisy environment and just making eye contact. A physically engaging activity would frankly be too distracting for me. I'd be focused on doing whatever we're doing and less focused on learning about the other party. Also it would make me more self-…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:24 PM
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Bruh if I say I have an appointment the next day I either 1) have an appointment the next day bc I'm a planner and my weekends are BUSY or 2) for once I have no plans the next day which means I either want to SLEEP or do chores. Maybe it's because I was never taught how to test guys like that (just like you learned from PUA I guess women learn from somewhere but I didn't), but if someone ignored my request I would be so annoyed actually. Even when my best friends keep wanting to hang out but I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:17 PM
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Oo gotcha. Will have to check it out! Thanks for the reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:17 AM
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Is the new season good? I didn't like the last season
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 01:31 AM
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Might be boring but at least it's tasty
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:31 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:26 AM
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I literally did. It was his Xmas gift last year. I got it during Black Friday with the God of War Ragnarok bundle. But you don't have to believe me. He's the one who gets to enjoy the PS5.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:25 AM
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Going to eat soba on a hot day 🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:12 AM
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Nah my flair says "Purple Pill" for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:11 AM
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I never said "I" owned them. I said "we." Most are my bf's (except I have a Switch, and I did buy him the PS5). But OP said "household"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:02 AM
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Is that why you're a virgin? You're waiting for the right person? I was a virgin when I met my bf but I wasn't saving it really. It just hadn't happened yet. So we moved to sex pretty quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:45 PM
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Shaking or trembling. She might tighten up a bit when coming. If she gets the warm fuzzies and gets all cuddly after. If she really wants to kiss you after is a pretty good sign too, though I guess if it's a hookup things might be different. Not all girls are screamers. And at least in my experience screaming doesn't happen all the time. It depends on the kind of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:43 PM
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I like the ones where people try different things. Like they eat every variety of oreo. But I don't care to watch people eat a bunch of the same food.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:36 PM
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Do it. We have 3 Playstations it's fine haha
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:34 PM
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I think some sex workers do house calls.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:33 PM
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Ye. This is why even if it's annoying to get carded a bunch even in your late 20s you'll be happy about it when you're 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:33 PM
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I think they're kind of dumb because frankly my love language is all of the above
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 11:32 PM
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I might be impressed he decided to shoot his shot but if I turned him down I'd maybe feel awkward. But I'm also in a relationship so if he seems like a good dude I might offer to introduce him to a single friend instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:39 PM
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Oh I thought that meant she wanted a break to have sex with women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:37 PM
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Thanks (to your people) for inventing the London Fog drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:36 PM
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I watch some Asian romance movies and dramas. Some are cheesy but some are really romantic. And yes I've cried.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:25 PM
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Personally, I think events or places people only go occasionally are the best bet. Even better if they're centered around a specific hobby or interest you might have in common. When I was single I used to dream about meeting someone at a concert, art exhibition, or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:13 PM
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I feel like when I'm asked "what do you bring to the table" I assume that the answer is supposed to be metaphorical "bread." I think maybe the question needs to be rephrased because at least on my end I would totally think the guy was asking about what I bring in terms of finances. I'm a pretty feminine woman. I can cook, clean, etc. but I genuinely would not have assumed that's what I was being asked by that question. And yeah maybe it's because I'm Asian but a person (male or female)'s career,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 11:23 PM
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I was literally in school. Granted I guess maybe some of them just don't go to school, but I was in college classrooms. And unlike America attendance is MANDATORY.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 04:59 AM
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As someone from California that's such a funny concept. People can have whatever boundaries they want but that's really funny to me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 01:39 AM
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Oh yeah. I mean my bf doesn't have the hand issue. But I've heard it is an issue for other guys. And yeah passively laying there seems sad, bad apparently dead fishing is a thing? But sometimes when I'm too distracted (?) to actively squeeze a bunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 11:30 PM
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I will say that a lot of women don't always realize that not all guys can come easily inside all women. Some guys are more used to using their hands, for instance. I think a lot of emphasis is placed on guys ejaculating inside their partner, and it makes sense because that's literally how babies are made. But at the same time I think it's good for people to learn that it isn't an always must. Sometimes he can't finish inside and I finish him with my mouth. So what? It's still hot. And less clean…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 10:17 PM
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Some really good steaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:27 PM
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Obviously. But it's not like I was actively seeking out them. I was in school over there. I met a bunch of people. And it was either riajuus or people who were REALLY busy with school. It wasn't guys who were too awkward to get along with their classmates etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:13 PM
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I like masculinity. But I'm also bisexual so I'm also really into masculinity in women. In fact I care about masculinity more in women than men. Like my favorite fictional female characters are all super strong and could carry me. But that's in fiction too. With guys masculinity is nice in theory but it's not the most important factor for me. I'd rather date someone who has similar interests etc to me than someone who's just big and assertive. Also I don't need the person to look like Henry Cavi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:09 PM
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My bf loves that I'm assertive in real life because he's conflict-adverse. We joke we're like the Luigi pickle meme. But it's not like I tell him what to do and boss him around either. We're equals. But I have the more proactive(?) personality. But I'm submissive in the bedroom...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:02 PM
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Obviously it's anecdotal but I used to live in Japan and all the guys I knew were dating around. And actually all my Japanese friends are getting married sooner than my American friends. There are a lot of guys who are too busy with school and work to date (cram school & entrance exams are killer), but I feel like I didn't actually see as much of a inc*l epidemic over there as I do here. And I'm someone who spent A LOT of time in Akihabara.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 05:59 PM
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I've been friends with guys before and still am. Not a single one has ever been interested in me. One of my best friend groups in college was 3 guys and 4 girls and none of us ever dated. We were just never really each other's types. We feel more like siblings than romantic interests. And now years later everyone has their own partners and it's not a big deal at all. My other friend group is composed of almost all couples, and it's because all the boyfriends were originally friends. The gfs woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:23 PM
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Since the school was pretty small and I was involved in a lot of clubs and stuff it was easy to get to know everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 04:17 AM
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Woah what? I have over 300 and they're all just people I went to school with. And I went to an all girls school!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:08 AM
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If she liked you that much Then she wouldn't be doing that I agree with this. When I started talking to my bf on OLD we connected so well I very quickly lost interest in all other guys I was talking to. Once we met in-person that sealed the deal and I deleted the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:53 PM
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Yeah they're always criticizing other women and calling them pickmes and stuff like that. They just come across as really bitter to me. Feminism is about respecting other women, but the way some of these women demean other women is really aggravating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:40 PM
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Same. I have one account and post on all types of subs. If someone looked through my history they might be confused or surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:34 PM
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I always find people who say stuff like that weird as fuck. My friend also only says her bf is "cute" but won't call him handsome or sexy or hot. She says she likes his personality too. I can tell he finds it a bit disheartening at times and I wonder if she's be better off just not talking about it at all, or just lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:48 PM
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Sure. But I guess the biggest thing is making sure it isn't found out. Also coworkers etc are nosy af. If you're bringing a woman to a formal event that's a pretty strong statement. You don't do that with a girl you just met. So be prepared for people to ask you about her later. It'd be pretty embarassing if you get outed as having hired someone to pretend to be your gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:46 PM
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Yeah I do know some people who ended up normal but they were definitely the exception to the rule. And yeah I feel like the people I know who went into finance ended up not so great...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:41 PM
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I find them cringe. I don't know any IRL to be honest. Like I have plenty of single female friends and a lot of them aren't conventionally attractive, but they're not chronically online and complaining about men. They just haven't found anyone yet and they focus on their hobbies and work. One of the main reasons I dislike these women is that so many of them don't just bash men, they also bash fellow women. I've always been a "women supporting women" type feminist, and I respect women's autonomy …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:15 PM
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Wait what? What do you mean while he's building himself up I'm not there? I met my partner when he was fresh out of college living in his parents' house. Most of my friends met their partners either in college or soon after. We're all broke and just working on establishing our careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:13 PM
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100% I feel like so many of my rich friends' parents had messy marriages and divorces, and some of my richest friends ended up the most messed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:01 AM
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Because I want a life partner, not a sugar daddy. I want someone who will be there for me even when I get old, if I gain weight while pregnant, etc. Also I don't want someone who only wants me when I'm at my most attractive. I want to be loved and wanted even when I'm tired and bloated and not so cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:59 AM
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I have depression. My bf has severe anxiety. We support each other when the other isn't doing well. But I know it's A LOT to deal with both as the person who has mental health issues and as the partner of someone with them. Not everyone is equipped to handle having a partner like that. It's really emotionally taxing. I think because both my partner and I suffer from these issues we're more empathetic to each other's struggles and can be more patient with one another. I really commend your friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:48 PM
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What shape did you get?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:32 PM
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Tangent but I'm pretty sure women are biologically more susceptible to STDs than men. And these days since non-wearable birth control is more commonplace, a lot of women are eschewing condoms during sex. Which is definitely contributing to the rise in STDs among women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:28 PM
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The lesson that I learned is girls use online dating as a way to kill time and pass the evening You're not wrong. That is how a lot of women use OLD. But that doesn't mean it can't bear fruit. I downloded Tinder a few years ago because I was bored when all my friends were out of town. I ended up meeting my boyfriend that way and we've been together for over 5 years. But according to him, he also wasn't looking for anything serious at the time (he was recovering from a breakup). I think you're ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 10:22 PM
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I love that my partner is my best friend. We have so many overlapping hobbies and interests. I never run out of things to talk about with him but I also enjoy sitting in silence next to him. I like that we play the same phone games and can talk about them. I like cooking together with him. I like that we never fight over what we want to do when on vacation, or what music to put on in the car. It's just easy being with him. He's the geeky nerd boyfriend my childhood self dreamed about. He's the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 09:35 PM
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Uh I don't think that's an American thing. I think that woman is just crazy. I've disagreed with plenty of people on the internet and never encountered a reaction like that. I think that was just someone itching to argue with people who don't agree with her. That has less to do with tap water being the topic and more to do with that person being unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:17 PM
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I guess it depends on his age and what age women he's trying to court. If a young guy in his early 20s in an urban area tried courting women his age I think it would fail because women his own age largely aren't looking for that. If he tried that in his late 20s, early 30s with women that age I think he'd be more successful because single women that age are beginning to see all their friends get engaged, married, and have babies, and she'll start feeling like she needs to hurry up if she wants t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:07 PM
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If you might become distant or even cut off contact with her family in a few years it might be worth pursuing a relationship and seeing what happens then. Worst case scenario you end it and stop talking to her family. But in terms of the relationship itself, with all your anxieties and concerns it might not be the right thing even if you leave out the family matter. Either way, I wish you good luck in figuring this all out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:50 PM
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Not just in the US though. When I've been to some parts of Asia I do get sick if I drink the tap water. I need to boil it first or get bottled water. And in Ireland too I know people in more rural areas who don't have good tap water. They even brush their teeth with bottled water. I think in an ideal world tap water is better than bottled because it reduces waste, but not all tap water is drinkable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:47 PM
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My best friend literally gets manicures just for the massage and feet soaking. She actually doesn't care that much about her nails haha
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:20 PM
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From how you've been talking about things it feels like there's just a lot of uncertainty. You've known her several years. If you're not fairly confident this is the one, or she might become the one who got away it's not worth it. But also she's kind of waited for you all these years in the sense that she's maintained interest in you, even after dating other men. So even if you guys don't date now and maybe date other people there's still a possibility you could end up together later.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:19 PM
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Yeah I get manicures sometimes and my nails are normal length. I often paint them myself but I get gel manicures when I need them to last longer. I also like when the nail tech gives me an arm massage and scrub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:10 PM
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It does feel amazing. I feel bad for other women who can't orgasm via PIV. Apparently I'm a unicorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:39 PM
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Yep! And okay I am jealous that guys can pee standing up. It's very annoying not being able to do that, even though I've lived my whole life this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:36 PM
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I have NEVER heard a woman say they want a guy who likes her less than she likes him. Most women want a guy that'll worship her and pay attention to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:31 PM
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Genuinely... they are really fun to play with 🤣 I like to jiggle my own boobs for funzies. They can be uncomfortable but I'm lucky to not have GIANT honkers. I think I got the best of both worlds with boobs that are big enough to be noticeable but not so big they cause back problems. And yeah I think they look nice both in clothes and without them. I grew up in a not very hot place, so sweat isn't as big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:29 PM
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I don't think I'd want to be reborn as a man because I like having boobs and wearing dresses, but periods suck so it's a tough call.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:23 PM
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People say "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" for a reason. I think my bf is most attracted to me when I bake him things 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:21 PM
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I guess it comes down to whether you value your relationship with her family more or with just her. You guys could try to get closer as friends before seeing if you actually want to pursue something serious, but that depends on how much progress you've already made, her own timelines, etc. If you don't date fast forward a few years and you could maybe try things out then if you're both still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:13 PM
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My bf is a gamer. I don't really consider myself one. But I enjoy watching him play games, so I'm not against them like some women are. The most I do is play mobile games.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:03 PM
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Nope. He makes more than me. But my job is more stable. So in the past year we made similar amounts because he got laid off twice, and in the past few years he also went to grad school while I kept working. His field & master's degree means he has higher earning potential than me. But I chose a more stable albeit less lucrative career.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:00 PM
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3/10
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:57 PM
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Most gen Z guys I know are also always looking at their phones. Instead of IG, they're playing phone games or on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:56 PM
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Yeah I'm a bi woman and I would say she's less than a 4...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:54 PM
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I'd say don't do it. She's your neighbor. If things go south then you're stuck living near her AND her family. If you only "kind of like her" it's not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:53 PM
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It means she wants to make you breakfast the next morning duh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:51 PM
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It depends because depending on the context of people's first meeting that heavily affects whether they are evening looking at the other party as a potential partner. If you meet someone via OLD the premise is that you're both looking for a romantic partner, so you're trying to gaugr attraction from the outset. But if you meet as friends, in the workplace, via a hobby, etc. that can change how people view each other. If one person is in a relationship, they might not be looking at the other pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:10 PM
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Yes they are. All my mom's friends started crawling out of the woodwork once their sons hit their late 20s - early 30s to ask if my sister and I were single. But they were the ones who used to talk mad shit and chase away their sons' gfs saying their sons deserved better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:02 PM
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I kind of feel like it's actually becoming less common. More women these days are working than before, so they don't need a man who can solely provide for them. In addition, they can now obtain money via OF, so why bother trying to marry some old rich guy when random dudes online will give you money instead? You can work a part time or even full time job and also make extra money and it's a lot quicker and more secure income (since you're not relying on one source). But I don't have data so I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:15 AM
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I'm a sub even to other women (I'm bi), so it has nothing to do with how attractive I find the other person. It's just me preferring that role.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:04 AM
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How does that relate to what I was talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:56 AM
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This is just my personal theory but I think it's because height is something people can't really control, but weight is. So people ascribe more character judgments in relation to a person's weight. If someone is overweight, people judge them as lazy, unhealthy, not driven, etc. Whereas with short men, even if they're deemed unattractive, the most people can say is they're unlucky. It's not indicative of some kind of character flaw. As a result I think people feel that discussing a person's heigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:28 AM
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I'm a woman. I think any relationship where one party likes the other significantly more is doomed to fail. Out of the 4 cases you presented, you said the 4th is the best. But if a woman can sense the guy she's with doesn't like her as much, she'll get paranoid, jealous, distrustful, etc. Even if the guy is a good person and isn't interested in cheating, the lack of reciprocation will eventually lead to resentment. I don't think most people will be able to put up with not being wanted the way th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:31 AM
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If you're asking if there's still stigma or not, the answer is definitely yes. I think many if not most women would be offended or at minimum shocked (not in a good way) if someone asked her that. And yeah even now I still hear the "you never ask a woman how old she is" thing. I'm a woman whose weight is often underestimated. Women tend to have a lot more diversity in how they carry weight compared to men. I wouldn't recommend asking women for their weight because there's a huge chance that'll i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:09 AM
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even in an all-woman environment, there's never not a man's attention looming. Wow I find that thought a bit shocking to be honest. If I go to brunch or tea with friends I'll dress up and it's not because I think there will be men who will see me or because I want to prove to my friends I'm better than they are at attracting male attention. It's because I want to show them the cute outfit I came up with or bought. It's a form of creative expression. Even if I'm thinking vainly it's because I wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:34 PM
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Do you have friends who like fashion and makeup? I do. And I enjoy it too. When I go out with male friends I don't always dress up, but if I'm going out with my stylish female friends I like dressing up so we look cute together. I like coordinating outfits with them, with matching motifs or colors. If I'm testing out new makeup or techniques I like to do it when I'm hanging out with female friends. I guess if a woman inherently dislikes dressing up and makeup and finds it a chore, they might onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:16 PM
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Idk when I was in middle school emo guys with eyeliner were like peak hotness
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:49 AM
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She's my baby cousin because she's the baby of the family / our generation. Me and my other siblings & cousins are all 6-20 years older than her. She'll be the baby cousin probably even when she has a kid of her own. It's just a turn of phrase. When I started at my job, I was the "baby of the office" even though I was 24, because all my coworkers were 30-60. Also I thought the same as you when I was 20. I felt like I related more to people older than me. But now when I talk to 20 year olds they …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:11 AM
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Thank you! I'm very fortunate. It can definitely be challenging but also it's really nice being with someone who gets it. We can empathize with each other's struggles and try to be patient with each other where other people might not be. But it does take a lot of patience and communication and working through things. And it's important to try not to become too codependent on each other too. We had issues with that for quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:11 AM
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It depends on how old both parties are. How old are you? Like I said I'm 27 and when I think about how I was at 20 it feels like a long af time ago. When I interact with actual 20 year olds they look and sound like kids to me. My baby cousin is 7 years younger than me. So it's really weird to imagine dating someone that age. Meanwhile, when I interact with 34 year olds I can't even tell how old they are half the time. They don't feel that far apart from me. As you get older the gap doesn't feel …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:08 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:56 AM
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Only if you're making the same hourly wage. Two people can be working the same amount of hours but get paid differently because their jobs or companies are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:39 AM
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I met my partner on Tinder and we didn't match because of mutual lust but because of mutual interests. My bio mentioned stuff he was interested in and his bio mentioned stuff I was intererested in. I was attracted to him because we had so much in common and so many things to talk about. The emotional and intellectual connection is what made me get so into him. He was the first person in my life that made me feel "butterflies." He wasn't particularly fit or anything and I wouldn't have singled hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:40 AM
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I'm 27. If my friend was dating a 20 year old I'd find it pretty weird to be honest, even though when I was 20 I thought it was mostly fine for my friends to date people in their late 20s. I think the reason it bothers me these days is because I would never date a 20 year old. College feels like a really long time ago and I cringe when I think about how I was back then. When I'm in a college town and there students talking at a bar or cafe I can't help but think "ohmygod they're so annoying... I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:31 AM
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Same. After college when I settled into a desk job I gained a bunch of weight the first year without taking note. Been spending years trying to undo just that one year of damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:18 AM
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If she's working with older people, chances are she's relatively well-established in her career. If anything that's an indicator of maturity. Maybe? Sometimes supervisors are just by default older though. Living with your parents at that age is nothing to be ashamed about, considering the cost-of-living crisis going on. Oh 100%. I'm 27 and live with my bf's parents. I don't think living with your parents especially at this day and age makes a person a weirdo at all. I was just referencing the or…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:15 AM
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The negative comments you mentioned sound kind of like desperate attempts to diss guys dating younger women, but the truth is plenty of men who date younger women ARE established. But I guess it depends on age group. A 25 y/o guy who is dating a 17 y/o might be a weirdo living in his parents' basement but a 45 y/o dating a 20 y/o probably isn't. For a 25 y/o honestly even amongst his own male friends they might find him cringey or weird for dating a teenager, because women in their 20s are still…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:16 AM
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Do you mind if your gf is on the bigger side as well? If you don't mind then there's definitely hope. But even if not, especially if you're working on it a lot of girls don't mind. Most of my friends are anime nerds, and some of the guys are overweight, and some have gfs on the bigger side and some actually have skinny gfs too. Wishing you good luck! As a girl who likes anime it's really nice being with someone who also likes it so I hope you can find someone you can connect with over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:59 AM
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Ooo yes Brandi Carlisle is very attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:27 AM
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As a woman I do think that's kind of true to an extent. Girls will drop people pretty quickly. But from what I've seen with guys, they'll still stay friends and keep hanging out with them but the feelings inside are kind of lukewarm. Both my bf and other male friends have told me about guys they've had fights with that they'll still hangout and game with, but won't really trust anymore. Meanwhile girls will fully cut out someone after one major fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:27 AM
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There are lots of cute girls who like anime who are really good at dressing up, doing makeup, cosplay, etc. If you want to find a gf who likes anime it's definitely possible!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:22 AM
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I've got all of those except digital art haha, though I agree very very cool hobby/skill
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:17 AM
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I'm bi so these apply for both men & women: Playing instruments is pretty sexy, though I guess some are sexier than others. Cooking is also sexy. This might be a weird one but I find when people are really focused on chess (or similar games) weirdly sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:16 AM
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Eh I don't really want my bf to pay all the bills or do all the chores. I split the bills with him and we either take turns cooking or cook together, divide up chores, etc. We take turns paying for dinner when we go out, and I treat him to nice dates often (especially if it was my idea). Maybe because I'm a planner, I don't even really know what it means to want a guy to "lead." Also I have no history with other men so he doesn't have to fill any voids there I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:12 AM
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Aaron Yan was my childhood crush 🤣 I wasn't expecting to see his name brought up here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:54 PM
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I believe in love. Until I met my partner I was a bit skeptical. I though I might even be asexual at one point, because I never understood what it meant to really like someone, feel butterflies, etc. When I met him it was like I found someone I could talk to for hours and hours and never get tired of. We've been together for over 5 years and it still makes me smile to wake up next to him. Our relationship is far from perfect. I have depression and he has severe anxiety. We lived together through…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:41 PM
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I'm a bi woman but I used to think Amber Heard was the most beautiful woman in the world. I still think she's gorgeous. But kind of butch Kristen Stewart is more my type. Ashley Benson, Gabrielle Union, Michelle Rodriguez, are also all really attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:28 PM
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This. Being friends with your partner is so important. I love the romance and whatnot, but at the end of the day this is who I want to just be around and spend time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 06:10 PM
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It's different. When people are posting online they're often trying to prove a point. For instance, someone is complaining about women on PPD. So they want to argue that that's not true. IRL if someone is with friends, they're just talking openly. If they were having a debate with some person at a bar maybe the virtue signalling would start, but amongst peers? Not so much. Also, in person people have to deal with the repercussions of their words more than online. If a woman goes around saying lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:16 PM
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Thank you! I don't really comment as regularly as other people. I'm a bit of a semi-lurker. Glad to hear someone appreciates reading my comments. And yeah, I feel like casual sex really varies depending on what kind of circles you're in. I went to a big university and my college club definitely had people who were very active. And I knew people in hs who were. But the people I interact with post-college are much more introverted. They didn't even do casual sex in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:01 PM
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I'm a purple pill woman because I grew up around A LOT of women. I went to an all-girls school most of my life. I know that women can be picky and shallow and that appearances do matter. I think all the "just work on your personality" or "just workout" stuff is kind of bullshit. Women (and men) can be very fickle. So yeah accepting one's own base level of game or appearance is important. But also that's not everything. Especially after I went to college I met way more people and made a lot more …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 09:04 PM
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If you're tripping over your words after being with someone for several years that's pretty weird. Everyone gets excited or nervous early on in a relationship but just because you're not anxious around them anymore doesn't mean you're not attracted to them anymore. I'm just as attracted if not more attracted to my partner than ever. I've never been more attracted to someone in my life. He was the only person I ever experienced a spark with. But we're also comfortable together. I love waking up n…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:54 PM
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Virtue signalling? Also you're assuming women on the internet are the same people as women off the internet. Most of my female friends don't use Reddit for instance. Actually half of them don't even know what Reddit is. Just like men online don't represent the thoughts of all men, women online even more so don't represent the thoughts of all women. Also, unless they're using a throwaway account a lot of women even online cultivate a certain image of themselves. They want to feel or argue that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:30 PM
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Correction: women on the internet Source: am a woman. If you actually meet women irl they are VERY honest about how much they care about looks, both to men and women. I feel like the only time I see women put themselves on this weird moral pedestal is online (mostly reddit)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:54 PM
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I think for both men and women there are people who are so attractive that's the first thing you notice and get drawn in by. Then there are other people who might not be a 8-9/10, and are maybe even closer to a 5/10 (on your own individual scale) but their personality does make up for that. I don't think personality could make someone you 100% find ugly attractive, but if someone was pretty normal looking or not your type, the personality could definitely give a big boost. I have friends who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:51 PM
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I think some women who are having less success with dating don't want to be in relationships for the sake of being in a relationship. And a lot of those women would rather read a romance novel, watch anime, and be single until they find the right guy. I have a lot of friends like that. They're not gonna lower their standards (not just for appearance but also personality, values, cleanliness, etc) just to be in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:16 PM
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2 for both I guess, though I find it easier to connect with women (I'm one). I'm bisexual and even though I get along great with them I didn't have much success dating them. Even though a lot of my female friends are queer we were never each other's type. For men, dating also wasn't particularly successful until I met my current partner. But I don't think my lack of success was due to my dislike of men. I had plenty of male friends. But they didn't see me that way and I didn't see them that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:12 PM
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That's definitely part of it. And it's been this way even since the dot-com boom. San Jose is even worse than SF. Its nickname is "Man Jose."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:42 AM
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Me? I find it more fun to eat together. I also enjoy cooking so I want my partner to enjoy my cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:22 AM
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That's also very true. And honestly a lot of my friends who do work creative jobs at tech firms are either remote or hybrid and again aren't living in SF.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:42 PM
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My partner is Irish and I've heard from his family & friends that a lot of young Irish men do complain about Irish women, mostly because there's too many fake tans and things like that. Went there recently and there were indeed a lot of fake tans 😂 I did also hear the dating process in Ireland is really annoying, from both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:11 PM
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100% I love cooking and eating out with my partner. I hate meal prep with a passion. Even just on a food level I would not be compatible with most gym bros, though I respect the effort they put in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:04 PM
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This is it. I'm from SF and there are just so many more men than women. And most of my female friends don't even live in SF these days. They'd rather live in the East Bay or Peninsula. And tbh a lot of women are already in relationships, and those that aren't are often very career focused In terms of type of work, "creative professionals" as you describe them can't even afford to live in SF. Most creatives I know are in Oakland or further out. Also, for dating around here, I think more people us…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:02 PM
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Light blue right now. It felt like a good pick for summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 06:03 AM
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Kind of? A lot of extroverted women I know are more likely to put effort into their appearance, whether that be via makeup, clothing, or working out. At a base level it's not like introverted women are unattractive but since they're not going out meeting people as much their priorities are less appearance-centric. If you're always going out with friends or on dates or clubbing, you need to put in a lot more work to maintain your appearance, than if your hobby is reading books in bed. Neither is …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:37 PM
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YES. Totally. I'm a woman. I was at a lesbian bar one time in my early twenties and an older woman (maybe thirties or even forties) started chatting with me. She wasn't unattractive but her behavior quickly creeped me out. She grabbed my hand and started stroking it and even when I tried to signal that I was uncomfortable she kept doing it. Her friend kept hinting aggressively that she was single and I eventually had to make up an excuse to get away. Never went back to that bar...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 11:49 PM
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I'm a woman and I agree. I had an n-count of zero when I met my partner. He had a low n-count but I still found myself comparing and worrying. So I think it's valid for anyone, male or female, to be self-conscious about these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:20 AM
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If he's still paying the mortgage, for sure. As long as the rent is reasonable. In fact, a female friend of mine bought her own house, and her fiance pays her rent (been doing this for a few years). They just closed on a new house together though, so they plan to rent the old house and move into the new place together.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 01:13 PM
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This is actually the exact situation I'm in right now. My bf makes a decent amount more than I do, and we split our rent and other expenses 50/50. We alternate who pays for meals, because splitting every single bill is annoying. Or if we go out for a date, if he grabs dinner I'll grab drinks or dessert (somewhere else). I would say he covers meals a bit more than I do, but we definitely split a lot. The car is his (I don't drive) so he covers related expenses, but I offer to chip in for gas when…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 04:26 AM
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Uhhh make really good connections, get a part time job (at least), don't do hard drugs, and good luck. If I can I'll try to fund him through art school, but same as a non-artist child I won't fund him beyond that. Even if he wants to pursue art I would hope he would try to be smart about how he goes about it. I have known some people who studied art but found jobs that utilize their artistic skills but also pay the bills. I met an artist recently who works as an art handler, so they install work…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:56 AM
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Did I say I need my partner to be ultra high paying? No they just need to be on the same level as me. I usually split 50/50 with my partner, whether rent or eating out. Yeah, I am nerdy. What about it? And I guess I'm more traditional than some other women? I like to cook, I clean a lot, I want to get married and maybe have kids. But I also don't need my partner to pay for everything. I'm used to splitting costs. When he was in grad school I tried to pay more than him for meals etc because he di…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:44 AM
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Nah I'm in my late 20s. I wanna eventually buy a house, get married, etc. I respect artists a lot, but I want to be with someone who is preparing financially for our future. I'm also not so driven as to want to pursue an ultra high paying career and hope to fund said partner. And even if they were willing to handle their own finances I'd rather be with someone more on the same page as me, so we can afford to do things together etc. Also, I'm nerdy lol. So I love being with my nerdy af boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:24 AM
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Kind of. I work for a Japanese company and the employee handbook says women need to be dressed properly and it's pretty heavily implied it means makeup and heels. If you don't do it you get comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:25 PM
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I like wearing makeup to go out. But I don't like having to always wear it when I go to work. Even though I like putting makeup on to go out, if I have to wear it multiple days in a row it irritates my skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:02 PM
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HUGE dealbreaker. Also I don't care for Dark Triad Men. I like my men to be big teddy bears. Also on my first date with my partner we both stopped talking in the middle of a conversation to look at a dog that walked in the door. It was a huge green flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:28 AM
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Yeah I'm sure you were lovely and she liked talking to you. If she said it was just your age then that's probably all it was. Women in their late 20s are often beginning to think about "settling down" and younger guys can seem like they're on a totally different page. So it's nothing against you or your attractiveness. And some women might not be as bothered by the age gap, so don't give up trying to hit it off with older women. One of my best friends is dating a guy probably close to your age. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:12 PM
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I'm 27 (and in a relationship) but if I was single I'd probably say 25-31. The youngest good friends I have are around 25. Anyone younger feels very weird. On the opposite spectrum, my older sibling is 32 so anyone that age or older feels too far, though it's not like they're unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 06:54 PM
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Oh woops I misread the title. Sorry about that. I don't think I've ever told someone that because it's so disingenuous. Everyone knows looks matter to some extent, not just in dating but even when applying for a job or asking for help on the street. As a former fat kid I would never tell someone looks don't matter because they totally do. It's better to be aware of them than to not. But at the same time they aren't everything and people can also use fashion, makeup, and how they carry themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 06:45 PM
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Because they prey on guys who are having a hard time but don't often offer actually useful advice. If a hot guy hits on a girl on the street he might get a good response, but if a plain or unattractive guy does it it won't be well received. The hot guy isn't the one paying a PUA for advice though. I think people who give guys style and fashion advice a la Queer Eye are way more helpful than your classic PUA.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 06:40 PM
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Zero. I've literally never been told by a man (even family) that looks don't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 06:36 PM
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More social people meet through parties, clubs, bars, work, and friends (of friends). But more introverted girls especially are also on dating apps, but girls tend to download the app for a week, get bored, and then delete. I do know some people who have met via MMOs actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 06:34 PM
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I definitely didn't settle. If anything I thought I was potentially ace or aro before meeting him. He was the first person I felt a real romantic connection and attraction to. The only thing that I could say I settled on is that I'm bisexual and I'm with a guy, but I never got to experience being with a girl and now never will. I wouldn't give up my current relationship for that though and I'm not interested in pursuing it. It also doesn't invalidate my sexuality. But that's the only thing I fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 07:27 AM
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Completely agree. I met my bf via OLD. Both of us are nerdy and pretty introverted. We also didn't live in the same city at the time, so our paths might never have crossed. Honestly even if I had met him in person I'm not sure we would have dated, because I don't think I would have been confident enough to pursue him. With OLD the premise is dating so I was able to go into things head first, where I might have hesitated if we met as friends or classmates. I never had to worry if he "likes me tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 05:26 AM
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Thanks! And yeah this cousin was raised hella sheltered, so I especially want her to break free of that. And I know her parents will be the kind to say no dating but then complain about her being single when she turns like 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:51 AM
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I'm not a hot girl but I've been told I have a very friendly smile. Old people especially and service workers tend to give me freebies because I'm super polite, patient, and friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:59 AM
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8 face. Easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:56 AM
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She makes plenty of money on her own. She's not like other "basketball wives" who just sit around spending their husbands' money left and right. I have mad respect for her. Also she's barely aged in 20 years and treats all her stepkids with so much love and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:55 AM
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I don't actually believe Raya to be super exclusive or anything but I also have never encountered a billionaire or celeb on Tinder lol so I was curious
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 09:07 PM
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Not with it as an end goal though. Most people can deal with a LDR if there's an end to it in sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 08:28 PM
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Do you think you would feel emotionally fulfilled in a LDR? Because an AI partner would be like that in terms of lack of physical presence. If someone couldn't be happy in a LDR it's hard to imagine they'd be satisfied with an AI partner either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 08:02 PM
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It's not even just experience but meeting people. College is the best time in a person's life to make friends and meet people. You have so many similarly aged people around you and everyone lives close by and can hang out. After college it is so hard to find people to befriend let alone date. So I told my cousin to put herself out that and even if she doesn't find a bf at least get to know a lot of people, go on a few dates, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 07:45 PM
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My mom (not my aunt) sent my cousin a 2 page text on her first day of college explaining that she should not date in college. I told my cousin to absolutely ignore that advice. Fuck it straight in the trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 07:13 PM
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So true. I'm an Asian woman but I was also told just study and get a good job. No dating til after college (ignored that one). My mom's friends all have sons and they were all taught to focus on school and career first, but now they won't stop hitting my mom up to ask if I and my sister are single to try and set us up with their 30 y/o doctor sons who can't get a gf. Those boys were also basically worshipped by their moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 05:31 PM
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Both my parents have had health issues and scares in recent years. It was so important that they had access to shared health insurance, FMLA, visitation, etc. But at the end of the day I love my partner and just want to marry him for that reason alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 05:15 PM
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Where tf do you live where girls are matching with Dubai billionaires and Premier League players? And what dating app are you using? Raya?? I feel like if I encountered someone like that on a dating app I'd assume it was fake and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 04:03 PM
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Absolutely not. That would drive me insane. I have a hard time being friends with dumb people, let alone dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 05:29 AM
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I was kind of surprised. Most couples I know (in our mid 20s) are more like 2-3x a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 10:48 PM
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I thought 5x was pretty frequent but 9x is a lot wow Oh yea I also give head every time we have sex as foreplay, but I meant from start to finish.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 10:45 PM
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How do you have time for that every morning?!?! In the morning we're struggling to get up and start work on time 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 09:46 PM
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Q4W: how often do you like/prefer to have sex? And how often do you like to/want to go down on your partner? (Mostly for women dating men but also interested in answers from wlw) Edit to clarify: regarding going down, I meant from start to finish / a blowjob
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 09:34 PM
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Wholeheartedly agree with this one. I've seen people who just expect that a relationship will fall into their lap when they least expect it, even though they work from home, don't go out, aren't on dating apps, and don't have any hobbies outside the house. Like the delivery guy probably isn't gonna turn into your prince charming (though props if he does).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:45 PM
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Yeah a few of my friends met their SOs via dating apps as well. My bf and I have been together for 5+ years and plan to get engaged in the next year or 2. We joked we should email Tinder and see if they send a card or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 06:36 PM
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I'm probably an outlier but I met my bf via a dating app so I'm grateful. I've been on a few dates and had a decent social circle but I never felt particularly interested in anyone. And he didn't actually live in my city so we probably never would have met otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:21 PM
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I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm sure the refusal to address it was frustrating. At least if the other party can accept it verbally there's room to worn with. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 06:14 PM
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That is totally valid. I could never live with someone like that. It's disgusting. Just seeing how some college friends lived was enough to put that on the top of my nopes list for dating (and roommates).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:51 PM
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I wouldn't call it effortless but it's also not ALOT of work either. Like on a day to day it's pretty chill. It's fun to be around the other person. I enjoy hanging out with them more than anyone else. I like just sitting around and watching tv together or cooking together. Even without them I would have to do chores, work, etc., so a lot of my daily life is still the same, but I try my best to do small and bigger things for them like making them coffee and lunch, planning dates, etc. but even i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:46 PM
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I'm a feminist and I want to take my bf's last name. I love my last name but I don't really like my middle name, so I want to change my maiden name into my middle name and take his last name. That way I can keep my last name as part of me, but also have his. I really like his last name. It reflects his family's heritage which I deeply respect, and I just like how it sounds. If we had kids I would want the whole family to have one last name for convenience, but I don't want to hyphenate or make u…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:31 PM
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I don't see it as shameful and I respect women who choose to do it. I personally am a bit of a traditionalist so I really look forward to the experience of getting proposed to. Luckily my partner is on the same page and wants to do an official proposal eventually. But we've been together for over 5 year and have talked about marriage plenty, so it's not like it's gonna be a surprise that he wants to marry me. We're already committed to each other etc. It's more for the romance and tradition. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 07:00 AM
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Totally. So people not forced to don't feel the same compulsion, or they haven't established the habit of doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:16 AM
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True. Whenever I hear about people who do dom/sub stuff as a lifestyle I'm like wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:03 AM
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It depends on how they were raised. I would say there are still a lot of cultures and families where girls are raised to do more cleaning than boys, but the gap is shrinking over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 08:43 PM
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I'm a woman but I feel like it's strange to go into a relationship expecting the other person to change for you. Whether it's their weight, their hairstyle, their hobbies, etc. I wouldn't pursue someone with the expectation that they might change for me. I wouldn't want someone to ask me out with the hope that I eventually lose weight with their encouragement, so I wouldn't want to be on the opposite end of that either. And weight loss is HARD. As someone who has struggled with it a lot througho…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:34 AM
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It can be fun in the bedroom but honestly it'd be weird bringing it out of there like without a literal sex component. I'm personally more of a sub but that's not even just with men. I'm bisexual and even if I was with a woman I'd be the sub so it's not really about needing to be submissive to a man specifically. During sex we definitely do some D/S stuff and I enjoy it, but neither of us is interested in the more aggressive(?) stuff. I guess I do like to do things for my partner outside of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 09:02 AM
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I have never heard of this. But idk I guess I run in nerdier circles...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 04:55 AM
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I guess to play Devil's advocate, women do get to express emotions more comfortably with other women. I would say generally women are more open to hearing about each others' issues and thoughts than guys are. I've had male friends say they find it easier to open up to female friends than other male friends even if they're close. A friend said that even when guys try to go against gender norms/stereotypes and try to open up, it ends up feeling awkward. Whereas girls will call each other bawling o…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:20 PM
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Absolutely not. It either makes me anxious or sad. I know what it's like to have been rejected. I don't want to make someone else feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:13 PM
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I agree that people want excitement in a relationship, and also someone can challenge their views, etc. but you can also have sexual tension without actual conflict. I've actually never really understood the concept of angry or makeup sex. Like if my partner and I get in a fight the last thing we want to do is go at it in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:12 PM
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That girls are cleaner than guys. I'm definitely cleaner than my bf and I do know a lot of especially older women who were raised to do a lot of the cleaning. But when I look at my generation so many of my female friends are just as gross as their male counterparts. In some cases the guy is actually much better at cleaning. It comes down to how they were raised - what standards of cleanliness were they raised with AND whether they were made to do so by parents or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:07 PM
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Current Kristen Stewart is giving strong Shane from the L Word vibes. It's a messy show but I recommend checking it out just for fun haha
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:58 PM
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This. I can't even handle normal dolls in my bedroom, let alone sex dolls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 07:32 PM
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Some girls do. But I would say most try to go for more of a happy medium. I've only had like 3 or 4 friends do this. And a lot of the times it's because they were young. At the age of like 18-22, a lot of people haven't had many serious relationships before, so they're still testing the waters.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 09:51 PM
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Yep. If anything most of the girls I knew who dated older guys were desperate to NOT be viewed like sugar babies, and would insist on splitting things more evenly. They want to feel on the same level. They're dating older guys so that they themselves feel more adult, and tend to feel insecure whem they're not on the same level financially and professionally. I think girls who want money don't bother with dating as a pretense and just go straight for sugarbabying or OF. Or they aim for rich dudes…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 09:30 AM
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A lot of them are just women who have dated immature guys. High school and college dudes can be really dumb and immature, so some girls go for older guys because they want a change. Not all girls who date older guys have daddy issues or trauma. Some just had a high school boyfriend who they found annoying. I will say that a lot of those friends then end up swinging back to dating someone their own age when they realize that the older guy has different interests and priorities. One of my close fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 03:51 AM
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She honestly sounds insufferable. Doesn't matter how hot someone is. That's just annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:41 PM
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For my boyfriend, we started fooling around on the first date and then had sex after maybe two or three weeks (I wanted to get on birth control before then and it takes a week to start working). I just wanted to do it with him. I was interested and thought hey even if things don't work out at least I enjoyed it. But I also didn't go into it thinking "ah yes I need to find the person I want to marry"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:36 PM
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As someone with depression and anxiety, absolutely not. In fact, I kind of prefer it. My bf has severe anxiety, and while it definitely isn't always easy, I think both of us connected because we knew what it was like. We were able to sympathize and empathize with each other's struggles. We know what it's like to have a panic attack and we do our best to support each other throught things. There have definitely been tough times where we're both going through it though, but I'd rather that than be…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 07:22 PM
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2! Smart & funny and also romantic? Why tf would I date a narcissist or sociopath when I could spend each day laughing and smiling?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:23 AM
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As someone with a high sex drive, that would make me unhappy, but I'm sure women with lower sex drives would appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:20 AM
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It's not really a gendered thing imo. When people get into relationships they just generally have less time and energy to direct towards other relationships. Personally, my boyfriend is my boyfriend but he's also my best friend, so to be honest, watching movies and going to concerts with him is more fun than friends a lot of the time. I still make an effort to text friends regularly, wish happy birthday, schedule plans, etc. but I can also understand why people would choose to prioritize time wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:19 AM
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I'm a bi woman and I love tough handsome female characters like Maki in Jujutsu Kaisen and Mordred in the Fate series, but for male characters it's pretty varied. I tend to like characters with a big "gap", like delinquent who is a softie or cool type with glasses who is surprisingly dumb. But I'm the kind of person who likes to ship characters together as opposed to self-inserting, so I like all types of characters, whether male or female.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:02 AM
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I was going off face alone pretty much tbh. I guess this shows I'm a woman (bisexual tho) bc I can't say I remember what most of these women's bodies look like except Megan Fox LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:46 AM
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Attractive to women: Megan Fox, Anya Taylor Joy, Olivia Wilde, Natalie Dormer, Cara Delevigne I think a lot of women find foxy / sharp-featured women attractive. For men, I think there's a wide variety. But maybe cute/sexy or classic beauty types. Ex: Emilia Clarke, Natalie Portman, Zooey Deschanel, Mila Kunis
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 01:32 AM
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Eh idk I'd have to run a trial to see who gets more guys, and how into those girls the guys are. Maybe it's because some dudes have fat or chubby fetishes, but I feel like the unattractive normal girl could get a bf or fwb but wouldn't be simped over, whereas the attractive fat girl would get mega simps. While I agree with regards to the terms thick vs fat, OP was talking about "overweight" which technically applies to both.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 08:47 AM
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Cristiano Ronaldo's gf? What about her?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 08:41 AM
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LOL I had to look up what that meant haha. But yeah. Kendall is also pretty but not my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:49 AM
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As a bisexual woman, I'll be honest and say I've never thought of that. I've had periods where I was more attracted to women than men, but it wasn't because I was wary of men, thought women would be better for sex, or anything like that. I guess I was just really into girls at that point, kind of like how I went through a rocker phase, and a kpop phase. Like I was super into watching movies or tv shows with lesbian couples, and focused on going on dates with other girls. I guess in theory dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:47 AM
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As a bisexual woman, same dude same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:38 AM
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(25f - N count 1) I might be in the minority idk but I love sex even if I don't orgasm. Not only is it validating, it just feels nice and I love making my partner feel good and feeling good together. Sex isn't all about orgasming, though it's not unimportant. I orgasm pretty easily but there are days where it just doesn't happen -same for my bf- but it's still nice to do it. I was a virgin when J met my partner and so much of my knowledge and perception of sex came from media, so I used to get a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:46 PM
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Considering how popular Vtubers and OnlyFans are, yeah I'm sure plenty of people would love VR porn. I mean for the growing subset of dudes who only want anime waifus it's the closest they'll get.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:32 PM
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Same. I like being a woman despite the various negatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:30 PM
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If your face is definitively unattractive then it doesn't matter how skinny or fit you are. For fat girls, it's all about distribution. Some are blessed with slim faces and fat in their thighs and boobs, while many have it in their belly or double chins. It really amazes me when I see big girls who have super slim faces and pretty much no double chin, because they end up attracting wayyyy more guys than skinny girls with average or below faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:29 PM
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Yer a bigot, Harry!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:49 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:18 AM
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I told a friend the reason she can't get a good bf is because she's only into Asian fuccbois and maybe she should go for dudes who aren't like that lol. Her response: "I knowwwww but I don't like other kinds of guys." And so things remain unchanged. Except now she mostly goes for just casual hookups etc. bc she has low hopes for an actual relationship. She's gorgeous but man she has shit taste in men. They aren't even that attractive most of the time. She just likes that kind of vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:14 PM
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I've only ever heard of celebrities sliding into DMs. Not a single person I know IRL has ever done that. Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge? Sure. INSTAGRAM??? Nope. I know more people who've met at cafes than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:19 PM
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I'm not arguing with that "fact." I'm pointing out that if 80% of women are that way, wouldn't you rather find one of the 20% who aren't?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:24 AM
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But you don't want to date those 80% or so of women who would scream at you about take out. They're just crazy. It's not like they /changed/ and became that way ~because~ you first treated them well. They were always like this, but eventually showed their true colors. So isn't it better to root out the difficult women and then if you find one who is genuinely appreciative she's a keeper?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:07 AM
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Isn't the point of OF to make people feel like they're kind of in a relationship with someone though? Even though gay men are able to get sex, they often lament how difficult it is to obtain actual relationships. So even if straight men were able to have as much casual sex as gay men, if they're still struggling to secure a proper relationship the way that gay men struggle then the issue will remain the same. OF is personalized porn, which is why people pay for it, even though the internet has a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 01:01 AM
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Yeah, I am. And so I have female friends. Lots of them. And none of them are dating men like that. None of them are attracted to men like that. If those women are kind and lovely as you say they are then unfortunately they have some serious underlying self-esteem or other confidence-related issues. But then again you make it sound like this is universal where you are so if it's a common thing maybe it's cultural. Maybe these women see how their own mothers and sisters are treated and they intern…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:59 PM
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Meanwhile I've never seen a girl fall for a guy who treated her like trash. I think some women with big egos want to believe that they can change shitty guys and make them loyal. They want to be the exception, but then get shocked when that isn't the case. They'll be rhe other woman because they think they're better than the current lady, but get surprised when the same fate befalls them. So women like that, sure. They want the challenge or the ego boost, or they just don't have any confidence o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:26 PM
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Personally, I've actually never met someone and been like "wow you're so hot I would have sex asap." When I see a really attractive person who I don't know, it feels more like looking at a statue or painting - really nice to look at and that's about it. I've met some celebrities or idols in person and honestly I just want to gaze and admire.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:53 PM
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Of course. We're all mid twenties (I'm 25) and mostly normies (I have some more attractive friends but none model-tier). But that's why this is all anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 06:23 AM
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I know people who are on OF and I respect that that's their choice, but I wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone who was on there personally. If it's a LTR, first off, that stuff can and will come back to haunt you. Next, call me jealous or possessive but I want that stuff to be for my eyes only. I like dressing sexy and what not but I only enjoy it within the confines of my relationship, and I kind of expect the same. Again, I can respect that an adult can make their own decisions about their…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:59 PM
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About 15 for close friends / people who I actually know the more intimate details of their lives and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:28 PM
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Out of people I personally know, somewhere between 10-20% are into meaningless hookups. Many/most of my close female friends are in LTRs, and most seem to have pretty active sex lives (I know bc girls talk). Like 50% of them the girl liked the guy first. None of the guys are what I would call chads. All of us (girls and guys) are normie tier nerds who like anime and/or video games. I would only say maybe one (so about 10%) is with a guy she potentially settled for, because they once got in a wei…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 08:18 PM
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I totally get this!! My bf and I are like this! If we go a while without sex bc we're busy or tired it's so easy to be like eh we can do it tomorrow let's just watch a movie. And then a few days becomes weeks and at one point somehow ended up like two or three months. But when I'm having sex at least once a week it's like I crave it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:52 PM
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As you mentioned, women need to /get in the mood/ or be in a sexy headspace to do so. For that, I highly recommend... lingerie!! This might not be the case for all women, but I've found that putting on a sexy outfit really helps to get me in a fun mood. I like to light candles too. And once you get to it, starting with foreplay makes such a big difference. Even just kissing for a little bit can help a lot. Obviously if the woman really doesn't want to, there's not much that can be done. But if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:21 PM
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Some younger women are attracted to older men physically for sure, but from what I've seen with friends and women around me, a lot of young women date older guys because they find the guys around them to be too immature. One friend got out of a LTR with a guy her age who was pretty immature so she ended up pursuing a relationship with an older man because she liked that he was more on top of his shit. And actually, even though he's almost 20 years older and has a well paying job, she INSISTED on…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:23 PM
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Probs none. I have a higher sex drive than my bf actually so I'm often the one pushing for it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:11 PM
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B sounds good in a lot of ways but he sounds like he'd judge me for liking anime so neither I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:38 PM
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Great questions! I would love to try to help. To set the stage, I'm 25 right now. I started dating my current boyfriend about 3.5 years ago. I was a virgin when I met him but not because of religious reasons (my parents are areligious), and more that I hadn't met anyone I was really interested in until then. I'm also bisexual, so I'm also attracted to women. I'm guessing I was probably in late middle school or high school when I started being interested in sex. I was never into porn, but I liked…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:12 AM
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I love sex and also cooking and don't mind cleaning, but I don't want to handle all the chores ALL the time and all by myself. I was raised in a family where both parents worked and both did chores and cooked. So if the guy can at least do the chores I hate doing then we've potentially got a deal. I do also LOVE cooking TOGETHER with my partner because it's fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 08:01 AM
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I think some women are specifically opposed to BDSM on principle because they find it degrading, but a lot of women just aren't into everything. I feel like handcuffs and light throat play are popular amongst many women I know, but full on asphyxiation isn't for everyone. I like leather and lingerie but gimp suits weird me out. My limit is probably butt stuff. I respect that some people like anal, but I absolutely couldn't. And it's not just receiving. I have no interest in pegging my partner ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 07:58 AM
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Aha yeah when I get a burger and there's a pickle, even if I take off the pickle the pickle like essence or flavor is still there and I'm like :/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:27 AM
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It happens! Some people are just sensitive to certain tastes or textures. And just because you don't like certain dishes doesn't mean that all food in that cuisine will be difficult to consume. No judgment towards people who can't handle certain foods. I'm pretty adventurous but I have certain smells or tastes I just can't handle. Despite how adventurous I am I still HATE pickles. Anyway, I think your mentality of enjoying the experience even if you don't enjoy the meal is great!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:10 AM
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One of my close friends is pretty picky. He hates many foods including all soup and soup-adjacent foods haha. But we work around it. A partner is one thing because you often live together and eat together, but for friends I only see every few weeks or so? Sure we can get baby back ribs every time! And I don't drink alcohol either
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:05 AM
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Yeah unfortunately that'd be a big dealbreaker for me. I find the term foodie cringey but I've been called it by other people. I'm Asian and grew up exposed to a lot of cuisines so I love eating a large variety of food and trying new things. I'm pretty attached to the food of my culture (Viet and Chinese) as well as others (I used to live in Japan). I honestly eat a lot of things many normal people won't. Like today I had Peruvian beef hearts at dinner. So yeah it would be tricky for me to be wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:09 AM
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Someone who listens to me and gives me attention when I need it. They're willing to strike up a balance in terms of duties around the house. Doesn't need to be perfectly 50/50 but willing to compromise or help around. Someone who is fiscally responsible but also not too stingy that they don't know how to have a nice time. And contrary to some people's beliefs, husband material means also being good at sex and attractive (to me).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:12 AM
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I'm really sorry that happened to you. Even if she felt insulted or slighted by what you said that in no way justifies sexually harassing or assaulting another person. Women who sexually harass or assault men are just as bad as men who do so to women and I hate that women can get away with it. It's a digusting double standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:06 AM
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As a bisexual woman I will say I find the girl more attractive than the guy. I think he needs to grow his hair a little longer because right now it feels off balance with his beard and chin
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:43 PM
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I think doing it in public is a bit uncouth but I feel like it's not a dealbreaker. I did it as a kid so I get it. It happens. Idk just wash your hands after or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 10:07 AM
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I like Daria (the show) but the thing about Daria the character is that she's smart but honestly is pretty judgmental of other women and people. In her own way, she's "not like other girls." But the thing about people like that is once they go to college and find out there are successful and smart people (including other girls) who also happen to wear makeup etc they often lose their own sense of self. I'm not saying Daria would be unsuccessful but I think she'd be pretty standard Bachelors or m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:59 AM
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My bf isn't a chad and he's the only guy I've been with but I almost always come from penetration. I'm not sure if I've ever come from oral, but I also wasn't super into it so we stopped. I'm really sensitive though all around. Foreplay is a must though. Doesn't need to be a lot, just making out and fondling. I honestly prefer coming from penetration over (external) clitoral stimulation. But both at the same time is good too. Fingers inside are the really intense and insane ones though. Can't do…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:48 AM
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I am an Asian woman from California who went to a college that was more Asian than any other race. Among my Asian female friends, I would say it is a 50/50 split amongst those dating other Asians versus other races (the majority of which is white, but also my college wasn't exactly diverse outside Asians). I've met a few girls who were only into white guys, but they were all FOBs straight up from China. Of my Asian-American friends, more of them expressed preference towards Asian guys than white…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:56 AM
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A lot of women I know dress up more for their female friends than their male ones or partners. Honestly I dress the best when hanging with my female friend bc she has good taste and it's fun to dress nice together. For me, I just find dressing up fun, so I love having occasions to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:42 AM
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That's why I was asking. I have other friends in relationships in similar situations, so I was curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:20 PM
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I think we're both in similar territory. Neither of us is model tier but I wouldn't consider either of us ugly. Normies I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:19 PM
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Idk even if they were getting more sex I think some guys like these would still be dreading marriage. It sounds like they're desperate to be in a relationship but don't really like their prtners that much (maybe they nag too much idk). In which case even more sex might not solve the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:03 PM
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I'm 25! I was also a virgin when I met my bf if that gives more context
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:41 PM
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I'm a bisexual Asian woman, and I've been interested in all races, including Asian. I will say that I'm less likely to be found attractive by other Asians, particularly Asian men. I'm currently dating a white guy but not because I'm obsessed with white men. It's more just that we have similar interests and values. If he was black or Asian or Latino I'd still gladly date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:31 PM
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Genuine question - what about if someone finds their partner to be both relationship material and sexually attractive? I love that my partner cooks and does dishes, but I also enjoy having sex with him. We've been together for years but we had sex on our second or third date. I like hanging out and watching movies or playing games together but I also like giving him head. He's not exactly what most would call a chad but I like him. I have plenty of friends in LTRs and from my knowledge (girls ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:25 PM
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I have really clear skin. And my hair is nice. Hair dressers often fawn over it haha
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:14 PM
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In my opinion you just have to pay attention. Finding out a woman's weak points, learning what positions feel good for her AND you. Finding out what kinks she has. Most women will tell you if they like something so take that as your signal. Some girls like receiving oral and some don't. Some do like rough sex but others like slower and deeper. And tbh sometimes it varies depending on the day. Seeing what kind of mood they're in helps a lot. For the most part, touching a woman's hips or butt or b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:12 PM
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I hope so too! Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:03 PM
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For me, it was our common interests. It almost felt like there wasn't enough time to talk about all the things we wanted to because the more we talked the more topics we wanted to pursue. I'd never had so much fun talking to someone in my life. We had similar taste in music, overlapping hobbies, academic interests, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:32 AM
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1 - 25f. My bf who I've been dating for over 3 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:26 AM
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I don't know many if any women who would be willing to share. I sure as hell wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:39 AM
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No. Because sex is something that a lot of people (not everyone) can get for free, and the perceived norm is for people to obtain sex without money. So for both sex workers and those who spend money on them, they will always be viewed negatively or at least abnormally. "What is wrong with the guy if he has to pay for sex?" "What is wrong with the woman that she needs to sell sex (as opposed to something that people more commonly associate as a commodity)?" I think those questions and that stigma…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:03 PM
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I think it all boils down to whether they think they have other options. Women who are insecure will put up with a lot. Women who believe there's someone or something (single-ness) better will get out. For dudes who think they can get another girl, they don't put up with shit, but if they think being single and not having sex is worst then they deal with it. If we go by the idea that women can get sex or relationships easier than men then yeah women do probably put up with less shit because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 10:58 PM
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I don't have a # date rule per say, but my policy is: first date should be in a public place where there are other people, and if you hook up with them early in the relationship make sure there are roommates or someone in case something goes south.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 10:56 PM
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I don't know why this is/would be harder for women to understand than men. No woman wants to be settled for either. No woman wants to be chosen as a backup or second choice either. Female sexuality is heavily tied to being desireable so if anything women should really understand this. I personally would never think a guy would be okay with this, but I can't speak for other women. If in your experience women don't understand this, then to be honest I don't get why either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 08:15 PM
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I strongly disagree. I think both parties need to contribute. Obviously if there is a significant difference in income then you can adjust accordingly. Also, it's important that both parties have some money that is separate in case of emergencies or just for personal hobbies etc. But I don't like the mentality that the guy should pay for everything while the girl just spends only on herself. My partner makes more than I do, so he covers a bit more of rent, but generally we split everything else …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 08:03 PM
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Yeah in college it really helped to have male friends willing to walk you back to your dorm or apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:29 PM
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This! My dad likes my boyfriend a lot. About a year into us dating he even said he thinks of my bf like a son (he only has daughters). My dad was pretty protective of me as a kid, but he also trusts me a lot as an adult to make my own decisions, and he knows if I'm choosingnto be with someone (and to tell them) that it's because I've vetted them myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:25 PM
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Evolutionarily it's probably more beneficial for a woman to have a loyal partner who will support her and only her and devote himself to their family or whatever. Personally, I just want someone to want to be with me and want only me. I don't know if it's out of fear or insecurity or some other reason, but I'd rather one good loyal partner who loves me than multiple ones that come and go.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:17 PM
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Personally, I've only ever been really attracted in EITHER sense to one person, and I think it was because we really connected in a personal/emotional way first. I had never been able to talk to someone as comfortably and as much as him before, and that was really exciting. So I guess romantic attraction came first and then sexual attraction was the result of that? I don't think I would have been sexually attracted to that person without the romantic attraction first.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:13 PM
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It depends on the kind of friends you have. I'm a part of more than one mixed gender friend group and there've been couples that emerged from them but not just random casual hookups and sex. I think maybe it's because people I know who really treasure their friendships don't want to make things awkward or complicated unless there are real feelings involved. I do know people (who are in different friend groups) who have had casual sex but often they do it because they don't really care for the ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 11:10 PM
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Idk I assume it means he's passable at sex but if someone better comes along he'll get dropped. I guess if your literal only goal in life is to have casual sex then that works, but OP seemed to think "Husband material" is a negative thing and implied they weren't sexually appealing, which isn't necessarily true. So I mostly just wanted to give my 2 cents that that isn't the case. Granted, I've never had a FWB so I'm only going off how friends talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:40 PM
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I'm a woman and anytime I or my friends have ever said someone is husband material it is a VERY good thing. Because it means that guy is BOTH hot and a good partner. Like "Damn X character is HUSBAND MATERIAL." On the other hand, FWB material means they're only good enough for sex and not even good enough you'd want to date them. They're like placeholders. I say this because my single friend legit told me the other day she has two FWB who are "eh cute enough to fuck I guess" but not good enough …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:57 AM
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I'm Asian and my bf is white but I would gladly date someone of any race. I do find it a bit weird when people draw strong racial lines about who they're willing to date though. Like I'm not attracted to my bf because he's white. I've liked guys and girls of all different racial and ethnic backgrounds. But I guess there are trends towards certain physical traits for certain races, so not everyone can help who their type is, but it's still weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:25 PM
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I'm an Asian girl dating a white guy, and honestly I went to college in a place with hella Asians and had mostly Asian friends, but when I was on OLD, more than half the guys who were interested in me were white or hispanic. I guess I wasn't really attractive to Asian dudes. . (I'm bi and for some reason only white girls were interested in me too). Also, I could go for any race, but pretty much all the Asians around me were super into raving and EDM, and it was really not my scene, so I had a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:15 PM
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I would never ever ever share a partner (male or female). Absolutely not. I don't care how hot he or she is. I would much rather date someone who wants to be with me and only me. I have some friends who are poly or in open relationships, but my partner and I have agreed we're both really NOT into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:07 PM
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They could always date someone in tech instead. Have quite a few friends making 6 figures in theirs 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:41 PM
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I feel like there would have to be a valid reason for those around me to be against him for me to leave him. If it's just because they want me to date someone else (like they "ship" me with another friend) then I won't do it. But if they know something I don't about him then maybe it would be worth considering. But it's a hard sell. My boyfriend is my best friend above anyone else. If I had to choose only one person to talk to for the rest of my life it would be him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:36 PM
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I think alot of the women who are really into bad boys have massive savior complexes or just straight up gargantuan egos. They're convinced that THEY and THEY ALONE have the power to "save" or "change" that person. They want to feel accomplished or fulfilled by having been the reason someone changed their ways. Like girls who date cheaters want to feel like "he was like that with other girls but not with ME." I think it's a massive ego thing. That or they're just as fucked up as the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:31 PM
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It doesn't make me gag at all tbh. I quite like it haha. But I also like bitter foods so I guess I'm just weird. But yeah it can make my tummy hurt really bad after a few hours. My bf said he doesn't mind if I spit. He'd rather me spit or come on my boobs or face than have me trapped in the restroom later.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:18 AM
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I like swallowing but it actually gives me a stomach ache afterwards, especially if I haven't eaten much that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:03 AM
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I feel like women are less likely to date a guy with traits they find negative to begin with. Like most girls I know are more aggressive at vetting guys with traits they dislike PRIOR to entering into a relationship, but guys are often more likely to get into the relationship first and then later realize how much they can't stand those negative traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:47 AM
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I feel like even if women had higher libidos it wouldn't change their sexual preferences that much. I'm a girl with a pretty high libido (more than my bf actually), and even when I'm extra horny and my bf isn't, I'm not suddenly desperate to have sex with any random dude. If anything, I guess it means more solo play time? I will say though as someone whose libido dropped significantly when I was taking antidepressants, that a pill that helps improve sex drive to counteract the negative effects o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:43 AM
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My boyfriend and I both have pretty severe mental health issues. He has severe anxiety and a decent list of bad phobias, I have depression and occasional suicidal tendencies. We laid those on the table pretty early and to be honest it was part of the reason we connected with one another. I won't say it's always been easy, but I think we're able to be really supportive and empathetic of each other's struggles because of it. We've been living together for two years, through a pandemic, and he's se…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 05:41 PM
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It's more than just self-confidence though. Acne can be painful. Dry skin hurts. Wrinkles are one thing, but at a very base level, treating your skin well is good for one's physical health.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 04:40 PM
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Everyone should wear sunscreen. Skin cancer doesn't discriminate. As for other skincare, I think everyone should use it if they feel necessary or want to. I don't think there's anything wrong with guys using skin products to deal with their acne. Same with girls. Everyone should have at least some face wash at home. While I don't personally have a full daily regimen with a bunch of products (I was blessed with nice skin) I don't think it's bad if other people do. Take care of yourself for yourse…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 09:32 PM
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First crush: probably middle school? First romantic experience/relationship: 22 Porn: middle school? But I've never been into it. Did get into fanfiction around then though Virginity: 22 (same as first romantic relationship) LTR: 22 (same as first romantic experience and virginity) and ongoing (3+ years now) Looking back, I don't think I'd change anything, but when I was in college I REALLY wished otherwise. I was not the most attractive person growing up and I was always so self-conscious about…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:52 AM
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As someone who grew up among a bunch of VERY wealthy people, nah. Rich people date and marry other rich people. All of my richest friends had dads who were lawyers and mothers who were CEOs or vice versa. Or if the mom was a SAHM, they were total trust fund babies. That's not to say there aren't probs also rich men (especially divorced ones) who have sugar babies or pay for sex, but if you think rich men are all just paying for their income-free wives to laze around all day you'd definitely be w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:05 AM
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For me it depends on context. My boyfriend wears dumb ass anime shirts at home (not that anime is dumb, just these shirts are), and it's whatever, but if we're on a nice date, I expect a button up and dress pants, or if more casual: a plain white tshirt and jeans. If a guy shows up to a date at a nice restaurant wearing an old shirt with food stains and basketball shirts, I'd have a problem. Also if they went full-on fashion terrorist (ex. dressing in all neon like a highlighter all the time) th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 10:59 PM
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I feel like it varies if the friends are in relationships or single. With friends in relationships, people are pretty open but also because it's a bit of a "been there done that" or ongoing thing, the most friends will talk about it is be like "yeah we've tried X" or "we do it like X times a month or week." You'd be surprised how casually friends drop that they've done anal in a conversation. But it's a lot less gossipy and way more casual. I've had friends talk about sex because they were discu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:12 AM
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It's a generational thing mostly. I'm 25 and when I was in hs One Direction were popular. When I was in middle school, it was the JoBros. I had a kpop phase back then too, but by the time I was done with college I had very much lost interest in that type. While there are some people who continue to be interested in pretty boys (one of my best friends in her early 30s still very much has that taste) I think the overall reason is age. But at the same time, I do think the younger gen are more open …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:31 AM
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I feel like it should be a personal choice. I like my last name well enough but I would want to take my future husband's last name. Main reason? I hate my middle name and would like to make my maiden name my middle name and then take my future husband's last name. Hyphenated names are cool if not too long. Had some friends growing up with hyphenated names and they said it sucked taking standardized tests or filling out paperwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:59 AM
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I'm a woman but I would choose 2nd any day. I greatly respect people who work hard to try and make a difference in the world, but as someone who has suffered from depression from a young age, I also really value and encourage others to focus on their own personal happiness first and foremost. It's okay to pursue your own individual goals and desires, and then when you're in a more stable or secure position you can try to help if you can/want. It would be hard for me to be with someone who is so …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:54 AM
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Where will I share pictures of my cat then? :O Also as someone whose job is social media marketing I'd be out of one. Or maybe it would actually work in my favor because I and my company would have to get creative with it hmm
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 12:03 PM
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I'm not sure if my situation applies broadly but until I met my boyfriend I never really understood how others could see a hot person and think "fuck I just want to rip off their clothes." I'm bisexual and I've met plenty of very attractive people, but I often just thought "oh they're pretty or attractive" as if they were a painting or statue. I enjoyed fictional characters and relationships, but I never felt drawn to any one in a sexual or romantic context. I would think oh they're pretty attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 11:41 AM
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Maybe because I've never been the type to drool at the sight of Chad, I would want B any day and every day. Just because a guy is more physically attractive and has "high social status" doesn't necessarily make me attracted to him. So B for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:30 AM
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LOL I tell my boyfriend all the time that he looks like Seth Rogan and it's a big plus for me. He's been my type for years. College education is a must for me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:27 AM
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I don't necessarily believe that porn is always bad, but with regards to the points you made, I feel like for a relationship to be successful, both parties need to be sexually compatible. If one party (male or female) have a higher libido, it can lead to frustration or resentment. When it comes to kinks, it depends on how important certain acts are to a person. I know plenty of girls who have done and don't mind anal, but because of the prep work amongst other things, it's not necessarily a regu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:22 AM
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This is an interesting theory/phenomena. I wonder if it might be because when men outnumber women they have to fight for women's attention in a way that appeals to women (courting, dating, etc), whereas when women outnumber men, the women have to compete for men by appealing to the men with sex (even if that means hooking up with chad who has a revolving door of girls.)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:56 PM
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I like wearing makeup but it's time-consuming, expensive, and isn't good for my skin (I get acne if I wear it too often). I like wearing makeup and dressing nice for dates because I want to feel cute and pretty both for myself and for my partner. I like looking good for my partner of course but even before I was dating him, I loved dressing up for a night out with friends, but since I'm also lazy, I definitely feel more compelled to try when it's for someone else besides just me. I think everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:50 PM
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I'm sorry to say but I feel like maybe you either just know some shitty men or there is a miscommunication somewhere. I've gone on beach days with male friends and a male partner. I've never had issues with people not offering to bring things. If anything, I feel like most guys I know would be the quickest to talk about bringing beers and maybe a frisbee. Girls might be more likely to talk picnic and sunscreen though. My boyfriend probably won't remember to bring a towel but he'd never forget dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:42 PM
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But aren't harem anime just a representation of a fantasy? When you look at a lot of protags of such series, they're meant to be relatively normal, nice and benign so they can be self-insert targets for the primary demographic. So if guys are getting ideas of what is attractive or succesful from something like this that is made for them, as opposed to content made and marketed for women, there's going to be a disconnect and a problem. Unsurprisingly watching content made for women will give men …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:29 PM
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I think some like more average looking girls but not necessarily because they're low maintenance, but more because they're relatable or attainable. For instance Japanese idols tend to have a girl-next-door look while Kpop idols are like model-tier. When they interviewed some Japanese idol fans what they thought about K-pop idols, they said it freaked them out how perfect they looked.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:52 PM
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25f Always offer to split. If the guy insists on covering the meal, offer to buy drinks or dessert or the next one. If you're like weirdly insistent that it be 50/50, they might think you're trying to friendzone them or send them a message that you're not interested, so I usually just offer once or twice but if they keep insisting on paying, I won't say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:53 PM
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Woah what? Since when? I didn't even fall in love til I was 22! The only reason the "illusion" would shatter is if a major relationship falls apart but most people I know didn't even get into their first real relationships until college. Are you sure you don't mean 32?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:39 PM
1

I feel like people care about status in a broader sense, but aren't super nitpicky within that. Like a woman might want to date a professor or a professional athlete, but just because the guy doesn't have a Nobel Prize or isn't Tom Brady she won't be bummed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:13 AM
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I mean I guess polyamory is getting more popular these days. If all parties agree to it (idk if these women would be ok with sharing. Most wouldn't and these two sound a lil cray), then it's possible, but if you want to have children beware because having three parents could really fuck a kid up (bullying, etc). But hey I hear poly folks have a blast playing DnD
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:06 AM
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Aha totally agree. I say this as a 25 y/o in a LTR with a 26 y/o. Both of us still feel like kids even though we're independent adults. I personally feel like 28-30 is a good age to get married based on what I've seen from people I know
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:58 AM
1

I honestly don't use pet names with my significant other, nor have I ever used them with guys I liked. It's more in the tone I use. I've been told my voice goes up when I'm excited and that includes around people I like (but also when I have the answer in a class, etc) But thinking about it, I guess I use pet names with friends? I refer to a lot of my female or gay male friends as "babe" or "hun"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 12:20 AM
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Nope. It's all bi erasure. Bi guys are told they're actually gay but won't admit it, and bi girls (like myself) are told we much be straight and doing it for attention. It sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 12:10 AM
3

I too wish I could date a former j-pop idol haha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 09:27 PM
2

Seth Rogen during Freaks & Geeks was so attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 08:27 AM
1

I wonder if it's because people live longer and feel they have more options available to them these days for dating, traveling, general mobility, etc., so even at age 60, they feel like there are things they can do and people they can meet. Rather than worrying they'll die alone or at least soon, there's a sense of "well I still have more to life ahead of me so why waste it with someone I don't want to be with?"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 05:45 PM
2

For a while both my partner and I (living together) were on antidepressants, so it kind of killed our sex drives. Like it was so easy to say: eh we can do it tomorrow, so let's just watch tv or play a game, and then tomorrow would come and we'd say the same thing. Now I'm off them, so my libido shot up and we're trying to get back into things, but his still isn't that high.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 05:38 PM
2

It's the gap between expectation/makeup and reality/bareface. I've never heard of a guy getting angry at a girlfriend who wears makeup whose makeup just enhances their natural features. In fact, most guys I know love seeing their gfs put on makeup to look nice for dates, even if they like how their gfs look sans makeup too. I think it's the shock when someone actually looks like an entirely different person that freaks men (and honestly some women) out. If a girl wants to wear a bunch of makeup,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 09:48 AM
1

The funny thing is my gynecologist measured that today for procedural purposes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 09:28 AM
1

I knew a straight guy in college who married another straight guy so they could get in-state tuition and better financial aid. They both had girlfriends LOL. I guess if it works and you're not hurting anyone then have at it? Maintaining friendships can be just as difficult as some romantic relationships so the divorce could be messy even if romantic feelings aren't involved
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 10:56 PM
1

Naturally red hair is gorgeous on women and men! As someone with boring old dark brown hair I really admire it. I would say #2 is way more my personal type, but I appreciate that #1 is an attractive person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 02:27 PM
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As a woman who was a teenage girl at Twilight's peak, I can tell you EVERYONE read Twilight. All the girls in my class were reading it. Popular and pretty, nerdy and quiet. Didn't matter. Everyone was reading it. I'm now 25 and I would say the number of women I know who still are really into romance novels, literotica, etc. is definitely down, but it's definitely just one of those niche hobbies that some people have. But for a lot of women and people in general, I think they just read less over …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 02:40 AM
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Yeah most of my friends (that are couples) met via my boyfriend's college anime club (I went to a different uni so we met on Tinder) so they like anime, video games, board games, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 10:27 PM
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I'm a bisexual woman, but I've honestly never been attracted to any of my friends, male or female, maybe because none have ever been my type. My friend group is about half female / half male, but we never had problems probably because none of us were interested in each other. We weren't attracted to one another at the start and once you get really close, they start feeling more and more like your siblings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 06:46 PM
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It's HUGE. For instance, if you're Asian (especially male) and you live in somewhere with a big Asian community, like Bay Area and certain parts of SoCal (like Irvine), it's wayyyyyy easier to date than if you live somewhere with a small Asian community. For instance, at my college, being Asian, studying computer science, and watching anime were super normal. There were plenty of nerdy Asian dudes dating nerdy Asian girls. In comparison it'd be way harder for people like that to find dating succ…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 06:37 PM
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I find that a lot of times female friends who date older guys do so after having had a bad experience with guys their age. Their ex was too immature for them, so they decide to go for guys much older who often have more stable careers, are more experienced, and "know what they want" so to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 04:40 AM
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I had a professor tell me he had a female student stalk him for years and tell him he would inevitably leave his wife for her. He said he was only free once she moved back to her home country (this was pre-internet days). Actually all my friends who've been stalked (to my knowledge) were guys by batshit crazy girls. One of them was a very openly and flamboyantly GAY MAN who was stalked by a girl on his dance team. She would unironically send him messages saying "Senpai why do you hate me" and sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 04:33 AM
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I personally wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 04:24 AM
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Foodie kind of is? My best friend and I legit became friends because we both loved to eat and talk about food. My boyfriend and I are always watching Youtube cooking shows. But I guess foodie is mostly about just eating, and I like to cook as well. But I also came from a culture where food is really really important.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:06 PM
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Yeah I show my bf snippets at times
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:03 PM
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We moved in together after about 1.5 years of dating. We had both been living at home with parents after college (1 year for me, 2 for him) in order to save money, and I think we both were feeling that it was about time to move out (in general, not just with each other). I especially was having a tough time living at home and was ready to move out regardless of whether he was going to too. I would often spend weekends over at his parents' house. His parents didn't have an issue with it, but it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:00 PM
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Honestly even if you're a dude, you might want to be careful meeting strangers in remote places. I've had male friends who encountered some batshit crazy stalker chicks IRL too. But yeah if a new date doesn't feel comfortable with certain settings or situations, don't take it too personally. It's likely a safety thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 11:02 PM
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Because falling asleep and waking up next to my boyfriend is more enjoyable than waking up with a roommate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 06:33 PM
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I agree with you completely. But that doesn't mean that a lack of proposal means they're not commited to you or envision a future with you. From FDS' actual fact page, in response to a question about ideal dating to marriage timeline, they say: "A man who doesn't propose to you by 1.5 years is not serious about marriage." That's ridiculous. Like I said, FDS has some good core principles but their rules are excessive. And they adhere very strictly to them. So if women try to talk about a situatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 02:10 PM
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Girls who are desperate to prove they're "not like other girls" are annoying, but I also feel like FDS's definition of a pick me is a bit too critical. Just because a girl is willing to go Dutch or is okay with their bf playing video games doesn't make them a pick me. I feel like a lot of women on FDS are older (like over 30) and their views can be pretty outdated or impractical. I've seen a lot of criticism on FDS of women who live with their boyfriends because they're "giving wife benefits" wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 06:31 AM
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This is just a guess but I wonder if it's because there's an idea that attractive men don't need to pay for sex. Only unattractive or unwanted men need to spend money to obtain it. That's not actually true and there are plenty of men who pay for sex because they can or prefer it (fewer strings) but I wonder if that's where part of that sentiment comes from. I'm Asian-American and I definitely would not say prostitution is widely accepted in East Asia either. Are there men who partake in it? Yes.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 06:08 AM
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I'm a girl and imo coffee is a great first date if you don't know the person. Always wanna give yourself an out if they're shady. And also it's a hit more casual and lighthearted which is nice for a first date. If it's someone you're friends with already I think it can be a bad idea if people aren't clear it's a date bc grabbing coffee is something friends do too. Going for a walk is a bit of a weird date tbh even if you are already dating a person. A hike is different but only go on a hike with…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 05:59 AM
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This is purely anectdotal but as a bi woman (25) since high school and through college, I knew way more bi women than men. As I've gotten older the numbers of bi friends have balanced out between the two sexes however. In just the past half a year two of my close male friends came out as bi. While it is possible that more women are sexually fluid than men (common theory/explanation is that women needed to work together to survive and raise children when men went out on hunting expeditions), from…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 08:04 PM
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Both are important. You never know what kind of crazy people are out there. Even if 99% of men (and women) are safe and fine, you don't want to take a risk on that 1%. There are plenty of boys and men who can learn to treat women right, but there will always be ones who won't. And it's not just men enacting violence on women. For instance domestic violence in LGBT couples is also a major issue. Regardless of gender people need to be taught to respect others and also protect themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 11:25 PM
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That makes sense. I guess it's more surprising bc I feel like so few men I know have ever gone fishing to begin with, so I expected the ratio to be more heavily skewed towards selfies or idk graduation pics or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:44 AM
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No joke, how many men use pictures of themselves holding fish they caught on OLD. Like of the men I've known IRL, only about 1/10 had any experience fishing. But on OLD I think 1/4 guys had a picture of themselves holding a fish as their profile pic. The fact that personality compatibility is just as important as hobby/interest compatibility. I've been on dates with guys and girls who on paper seem like they would be an incredible match. Similar academic and personal interests, tastes in music, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 10:48 PM
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In college I remember a lot of female friends downloading Tinder when they were either bored or wanted an ego boost. I met my boyfriend via Tinder, and we've been together over 3 years, but I don't think either of us went on there expecting a LTR. I think it was a "I guess I'll give this a shot" mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 03:15 PM
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I've had several very good friendships with guys. One of my close friend groups is 3 guys and 4 girls. I think these friendships are successful because everyone's type was 100% NOT represented in the group. If a girl and guy are into types that are completely opposite their friend, it makes things way easier. You end up viewing each other more like siblings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 05:16 AM
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I can understand being embarassed or even mortified by a comment like that, but for it to affect a couple's sex life for YEARS is bizarre. Like sex is weird. There are weird smells and noises. If you're in a LTR with someone, at some point one of you will fart at the other during sex. Sometimes people fall off beds or snort. If you can't laugh and move on from such things it'll be hard to have a healthy relationship (both with and without sex). I'm a woman but I definitely feel like the wife eit…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 05:08 AM
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For hiding blemishes and the like, sure! Go for it! It would be neither an on/off for me if a dude used concealer to hide a pimple. But more than makeup, I want to encourage guys to do proper skincare. It doesn't need to be a whole routine, just buying face wash/cleanser. And honestly if they're into certain music scenes, guyliner can be pretty hot. Just depends on what kind of look they're going for.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 02:16 AM
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In college I knew 1 female friend with a sugar daddy, and one gay male friend with a sugar daddy. I had a lot of female friends, but she was the only one I was aware of. Contrary to expectation, that was a big shock / topic of gossip to most - despite most of our friends being sorority types. It was a bit like an orca - one of those things everyone knew existed but had never once encountered. Hookup culture was a lot more common. It definitely varied depending on what kinds of friends you had th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 09:02 PM
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I think it depends on how big of a gap the makeup produces. I've known girls who look like different people when they wear makeup, and I've known girls who look like themselves +eyeliner with makeup on. It often depends on how much effort is put into the makeup, but sometimes it has to do with facial structure as well. People with monolids often end up looking fairly different with eyeliner compared to those with double lids. Men generally don't care for both ends of the spectrum. If a girl look…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 08:34 PM
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Not everything FDS says is bad, but some stuff just feels outdated or unrealistic, and other stuff is very judgmental towards other women. If a guy doesn't propose to you after a year or two it must mean he doesn't see you as marriage material. If you move in with a guy before marriage you're just giving "wife benefits" without the commitment. If you are ok with 50/50, you have no self-respect. Stuff like that is ridiculous in my opinion. If you criticize anything they say they make it sound lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 07:24 AM
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I think the issue lies in the definition to a lot of people of what an "ugly guy" is. I keep hearing all this 80/20 stuff, and seeing people rag on dudes who look normal. Just because you don't look like Brad Pitt or Timothee Chalamet doesn't make a guy ugly. I know plenty of nerdy skinny dudes or nerdy bigger dudes who are in relationships. My friend group is essentially compiled of 4 couples, with neither guys nor girls being super attractive. We're all nerdy and hang out playing board games a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 10:42 PM
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What? It's an ideal. It's not like I'm gonna drop my 9-5 job anytime soon. I also wish I could eat sushi and steak every day without breaking the bank but alas.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:06 PM
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I've known plenty of couples where that's been successful. But it only works if they have been together a good length of time, lived together, etc. Personally I'd only be willing to have children with someone if they've proven they're willing to work with me. If we've lived together and split chores and whatnot for an extended period of time, I'm much more likely to feel confident they'll do the same in the future. To be honest, I'm not sure if I even want children, but if my partner is willing …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 05:09 PM
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I hope you find something fitting! I've had coworkers before who were part time so they could play more of an active role with their children, but also be able to do some work. It was a good fit for the company as well because they didn't need someone full time to cover those roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:59 PM
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Uh I was just responding to what OP said regarding resentment. My personal opinion is no one (male or female) should have children if they're not prepared for the cost and labor required. Couples need to make sure they're on the same page regarding expectations and division of labor. If a woman's husband has zero interest in taking care of the child, but also wants her to work full-time, maybe they shouldn't have kids together.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 04:54 PM
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I'm probably the exception, but I've only truly been interested in (like-liked) one person in my life. I've had brief crushes but I never had a first love or whatever in high school or anything. It's not that I was uninterested in other people and tried to hold people away. I'm bisexual and have found many a person physically attractive but I never felt myself "falling" for anyone until I met my current boyfriend. I legit thought I might be aromantic until I met him. We met on Tinder and for pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 12:37 PM
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I think so! Being able to toss a load of laundry in or preheat the oven helps so much. Growing up, my dad worked from home, so he was able to help with a lot. Not having a commute gives so much extra time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 09:03 AM
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As a woman (and honestly as a person), I feel like my ideal would be able to work a few hours a day but also have free time to do other things. Being a SAHM or housewife and not getting to pursue other things isn't appealing, but slaving away at a job and having my husband do the same just so we can put food on the table is also not something I'd want. I feel like some working moms are probably resentful bc they have to juggle a full-time job as well as the majority of childcare after hours. I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 07:54 AM
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It's one thing if you share pictures in makeup as opposed to barefaced, and maybe with better angles. It's another thing to full on catfish someone. If you showed a friend the picture and they wouldn't recognize that immediately as you, that's not good. As a woman, I can't help but wonder: what good does it do to catfish someone? They'll meet you in person eventually and if you look drastically different from your photo, they'll just be turned off. It's better to post a nice photo of yourself (n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 05:45 AM
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Girls can wear dresses and heels OR sneakers and jeans, but men can't do that. I had a uniform growing up and on hot days I always felt bad that the boys were stuck in khakis. Tomboys are viewed much less negatively than boys with feminine interests or tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 05:39 AM
1

I think it just boils down to there's a demand and people willing to do it for the money. Just like there's a demand for vagina-scented candles and fursuits, there's a demand for sex work and even feet pics. Sure there are negatives. I know plenty of women who would never do OF because they're not interested or too scared of the repercussions (like to career etc). But there are some people who feel the money is worth it. Just like how some athletes are prepared to risk permanent brain damage, ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 08:45 PM
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Nope! I'm not even married yet but have been living with my bf over a year. We love living together. We're not even bothered by each other's snoring because we both sleep like rocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 12:15 AM
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And if we don't want a baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 12:09 AM
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Crazy attracts crazy. Some act on it; some don't. Women AND men who marry serial killers have ISSUES.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:42 AM
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I grew up in a household where chores were 50/50. Both my parents know how to cook. Whoever didn't cook that night did dishes. Everyone does their own laundry. Other cleaning is split. My mom always told me you never know someone until you've lived AND traveled with them. So even though it might be scandalous to some of her friends and family (we're Chinese) she actually encouraged me to move in with my boyfriend.. My boyfriend and I also split chores pretty much 50/50. Luckily we both like to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 02:31 AM
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LOL I'm a woman and I will gladly talk about this phenomenon because it is bizarre and fascinating. I could never understand what attracts such women fo men like that, because I'm not crazy, but it is interesting. It's taking the bad boy obsession to the utmost extreme. These women probably think that either they can fix those men, or they feel special somehow, like they'll be treated differently than the victims. That's how I interpret it at lease.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 12:53 AM
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It's less that people are saying women should have childrenin their thirties and more that kids are EXPENSIVE and many women and couples (yes, their spouses too) want to be financially secure before having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 10:12 PM
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Honestly most of my and my bf's friends are all couples. Like in our friend group, there are 4 couples. There are a few single friends here and there but none of them are really seeking out a relationship. They're all too busy with work or school to bother. I feel like if they actually tried to date it (pre/post-pandemic) it wouldn't be impossible to find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 11:38 AM
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I (25f) and my bf (26m) have been together for 3 years and living together for 1.5 years. At least among most people I know, the consesus is trhat a good age to marry is around 28-30. A lot of our friends are couples who met in college and we're all still getting our bearings in terms of career. Bf is in grad school and I'm only a step or two above entry level, so we're not exactly rolling in money. We know we're going to get married eventually, so there's no real sense of pressure. If one of us…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 10:33 AM
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For my bf, I'm actually hoping to give him a PS5 for his bday (if I can get my hands on one) for the same reason as you said. Dinner is one night, but PS5 will last for years! That said, for my own bday, because I LOVE food, I probably want a nice meal - something I don't get very often, like good sushi or steak - and because I'm not a gamer. And a less expensive gift is fine (I've received more pricy things in the past). I'm a girl but I don't mind buying gifts for my boyfriend on his bday. I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 10:19 AM
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That makes sense. I definitely get where you're coming from. Hindsight is 20/20 afterall. All I can do is try and hope that these aren't just rose tinted glasses, but maybe they are. If they are though, I'd be happy not taking them off.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 06:50 AM
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You're welcome to have your own opinion. If you disagree that's fine. But you yourself said you wished that love wasn't all a lie, so all I wanted to do was to try and offer an example and encourage you to not give up hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 06:28 AM
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I think love is real. But it's not easy or straight forward. I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and I love him more than anyone else. We're both in our mid twenties working similar paying jobs, so I don't rely on him for money. We both pay equal parts of our rent. I'm not some damsel in distress he needs to protect. I'm a pretty feminine person but I don't think I necessarily need him to affirm that for me. I can wear a dress and makeup to do that. The reason I'd say I believe love is rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 06:21 AM
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24F here! I think the best way to figure this out is a combination of sexual and non-sexual interest. Obviously if a women is clearly not interested in kissing, sex, etc. then that's a sign she's not into you, but esp if she has a high sex drive that might not be a sufficient enough indicator. You should also look at how she interacts with you outside of the bedroom. Is she genuinely interested in what you have to say, your hobbies, etc. Can you two hold a conversation and be comfortable in each…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 05:49 AM
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Np! I think tucking in shirts looks great so I definitely get why you'd want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 05:35 AM
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24F here! I don't think it's so much feminine as just uncommon in general, and perhaps thus trendy?T shirts rarely get tucked into pants unless they're high waisted, which I guess is more common amongst girls. If I saw a guy do that I don't think I'd consider him feminine, but very fashion-conscious, which I guess is often conflated with gay. So I don't think it is inherently feminizing or "gay" but because it's not a common fashion choice, people might be lead to assume that, which tends to hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 05:26 AM
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This is my (24f) theory: Promiscuity in women is viewed as a shameful trait so women who are promiscuous likely feel pressure to downplay their sexual experience in order to avoid the negative judgment that comes with a high body count. Women who have less experience and thus are less promiscuous are less likely to feel a need to lie because their number is one that is unlikely to viewed as shameful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 07:32 PM
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I'm female and I have a close male friends. Imo I think the key is to not be attracted to each other lol. My male friends were never attracted to me because I'm not their type, and I was never attracted to any of them because they're not my type. The same goes with the other girls in our friend group. Since none of us ever really had any interest in each other, it makes it easy for us to maintain a solid friendship. Maybe bc all my male friends are only children and I only have a sister, they fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 07:06 PM
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I do know some women who find guys who are less interested in them alluring, but those are often girls who have lots of guys throwing themselves at her, so it helps that guy to stand out. But those are girls who want to play games more than they want to find a significant other, so if that's what you're after it might work? I personally like attention. If I'm looking for a boyfriend, I want someone who can give me attention, who will talk to me about anything and everything, who will listen. I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 06:51 PM
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This is a really interesting and compelling theory. I'm an Asian-American woman and I feel like I've witnessed this multiple times before. Amongst Asians and Asian-Americans, I feel like this is particularly prevalent. A lot of my parents' friends have sons, and the mothers treat their sons like princes, and even though they teach their sons to be kind to girls, it's kind of under the assumption that their darling sons are deserving or entitled to the attention of girls. The mentality of "oh if …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 06:38 PM
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Yes. And how to cook with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:36 PM
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I guess my BF is a HVM because he cooks with shallots more than I do 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 09:00 AM
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