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tpobs/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 12:31 AM
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Because dating app is just a fraction of reality, and many people start relationship without it. Heck, I think people who actually find each other in dating apps are very small minority. It is hard to fall in love with someone who only has show you their picture and short bio.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 01:06 PM
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Oh, it's not that easy for me lol. My mind tells me otherwise. Yeah, the voice in the head is a little shit. It always sounds right, only because it knows every single insecurity you have. The voice is like an assassin to assist your failures so it could haunt you forever. Don't listen to it. Guess it's better to ask out girls in my league? I don't even know what league I'm in. First, there is NO such thing as "league". League is an arbitrary thing that only superficial people cares. Then what i…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/24 04:31 AM
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The thing is, you can't date every one you've tried. Relationship is a fickle thing, and it rarely goes as you want, EVEN IF you've done everything right. Then what should you do? You shrug, and appreciate the people that share their time as your company, and keep being genuine to people you care, including yourself. You have a lot of friends? Great! Good friends are hard to come by. Cherish the friendship you have. Trust me, a virgin with friends is in a much, much better place than a lonely vi…
/r/ExRedPill16/03/24 05:22 AM
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Well, the thing is, you could HAPPEN to get a lover, but not GET a lover. This theoretical "girlfriend" could be anyone, but they are always a human with life history and hopes&dreams. You don't GET a girlfriend by trying hard - it is exactly the opposite. Just live your life, forget about "getting" a girlfriend. Cherish your friends and relationships, and never look down on genuine friends who enjoy your company. Then one day, you might ran into someone you really click, and maybe that could de…
/r/ExRedPill10/03/24 12:54 PM
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I second this.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/24 06:16 AM
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Nobody "should" be traditional. Being "traditional" is not even defined term. Tradition when? 1900's? 1950's? 1600's? You do you pal. As long as you don't hurt others.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 05:52 AM
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before I started trying to date I sat at home on my computer all day. My point still stands. Because, not sitting on your computer all day, is you being better. So you are already being better. That's it. You should be better, as every one should. And that needs some effort - there is nothing wrong with it. However, when you are focused too hard on your end goal, let's say it is "making a girlfriend", than it makes you look desperate, and people can catch it. They could feel like you are only pu…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/23 01:39 AM
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Because you are trying to hard - Law of Reverse Effort Another video actually comes before the first one - Backwards Law Ironically, relationships, especially romantic ones, are hard to get when you are desperate to get it. Let go, be nice, be better, and hang with good people. Forget about romance or strategy or any 'end goals'. Live a life. That is the best advice I could give. Because life is fucking weird and counter intuitive, but that is how life is.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/23 12:02 AM
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No. A history conference. However, it doesn't matter - you gotta talk normal and natural anywhere and any time. Thirsty try-hards barely get their date. Try to know them as a human, not a possible date candidate.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/23 05:29 AM
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A human brain is a hot mess til you reach around 25. Hang in there.
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 10:58 PM
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is it not? It is not. Just talk like a human being. Actually, that's how I met my spuse. No flirting or whatnot, but we just talked about our common interests - animals, history, and food. Years later, she told me that is why she got close to me. I just talked to her, without any of that boy-meet-girl-uwu, so she felt comfortable around me.
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 10:56 PM
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Capitalism is not like the other things on your list. It’s not even an ideology. What? What is next, Communism is not ideology??
/r/ExRedPill18/03/23 09:45 PM
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In dating, statistic means jack shit. How many women you are dating? Usually just one.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 09:55 AM
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Talk. A lot of talk. If talk doesn't work...well I wouldn't marry a person that I can't have some proper talk. Marriage and parenting is a long, long game. Do not make that decision lightly.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 02:18 AM
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As many other people pointed out, the key to confidence is, accepting that nothing is perfect, embracing the possibility that you could fail, and that is ok. My general advice is...many of those "self-improvement" are bull crap that trying to take money and energy from young people. It took me some times to realize that. There are genuine ways to improve yourself, but those are usually boring and mundane, like eating healthy and exercising, etc. Another is...don't "try". When you go try-hard, it…
/r/ExRedPill11/01/23 12:38 AM
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Jesse, what the fuck are you talking about?
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 04:54 AM
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Dude is bitter, don't mind him. Simply trying to drag you down becuase other people's unhappiness, which is not your responsibility. Crab bucket mentality. Go on. Live a life. And leave here. Move as far as you can from the internet communities. And remember, if your relationship is not going ideal, or even worse, that is just life. We are all human. We are all weak and stupid. That is why we need each other. Cheers mate, wish you luck.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 10:41 AM
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Red pill enables your desire to be selfish and irresponsible. Beware that someone whisper into your ear to destroy everything you love and care.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/22 01:23 AM
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I guess it means "not gay"...?
/r/ExRedPill30/08/22 12:25 AM
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Media and online meme (and immature teenage peer pressure) pretend that your life is fixed and over during your teenage years. It fucking doesn't. Life goes on. And on. And on. RP provides oversimplified answer after it overcomplicated the problems. RP "theories" fall apart as soon as you meeting real people in real life. There is no single theory ever that "solve" the human relationship. Forget about those online "guru"s that actually want your money, not well-being. Go outside. Talk to people.…
/r/ExRedPill08/08/22 02:39 PM
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The culture in the MRP sub seems to be veteran members in a clique who use their status to (what I can only describe as bully) newer members and it’s not a tough love type of way it’s just shitty, snarky abuse that much of the time is unhelpful and none constructive with more junior members who are like groupies backing up these guys. I had been a part of such kind of community...when I was a middle schooler. Those people are reenacting their childhood.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/22 05:03 AM
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What I'm saying is, there is no arbitrary formula in real life, unlike what RP says. RP tries to create some imaginary scenario to make socially inexperienced/recently hurt men outrage, basically preying on them, isolating them from their loved ones, and preventing them from making a new meaningful relationship. Meanwhile, in real life...there are people, meeting other people, build relationships, live their life, dealing with real shits. RP is outrage bait marketing agenda. Telling insecure men…
/r/ExRedPill30/07/22 09:58 PM
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When women are abused, they brush it off because it is business as usual. When men are abused, they laugh at it becuase (they think) it is unusual. Sometimes I think the world is run by abusers.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/22 02:54 AM
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Yes. People fall in love with other people. Because that is what people do. There is no arbitrary requirement for love. You fall in love, when you fall in love.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 09:07 PM
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Real world. Real people. Cannot be crammed into a single paragraph, unlike what Red Pill says. The end.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 12:48 PM
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Friendship, romance, family...it is all love. Meanwhile, PUA only chase flings.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 07:41 AM
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Dude, I know. Like more than a decade ago, while I have no idea about RP(is not a huge thing in my country), I tried to act like a super duper alpha male. When I stopped it, and I told my friend that, she said "Good. Because you were so not you, like wearing someone else's clothes."
/r/ExRedPill23/07/22 09:07 AM
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Yes? Like, calling living human being "female" is percieved as a red flag, because thats how incels and RP talk. Don't use that for your own sake.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/22 09:05 AM
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counting corpses in Kosovo, Oh my gosh.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 09:50 PM
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Stop trying hard. Seriously. Ironically, if you try really hard, it oozes desperation, which push people away. Think of a really annoying salesperson. Thats how try-hard people sound. Relax, and have a natural conversation. It goes dry? Oh well, thats how natural conversation ends.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 06:48 AM
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The fuck is "post wall"? If that is another overly complicated RP lingo, no, it is not based on reality and reality exists outside, not on RP theory.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 04:09 AM
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It's very important to remember that women are NOT a hivemind. Obligatory Extra Fabulous comic(can't find the original source)
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 03:46 AM
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Because, they want to make it some one else's fault. Which is understandable, and sometimes it is actually some one else's fault, but it is not mature way to cope at all.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 09:49 PM
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I still have no bloody idea what the fuck sigma male is(neither the "grindset").
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 12:39 AM
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Redpill overcomplicates the problems and oversimplifies the answers. Stop listening to those scammers who prey on your fear. Go out, and talk to real people in your real life.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/22 04:56 AM
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Seems like being cheated left people a deep trauma. I've heard so many stories of a guy fell into the rabbit hole of TRP after being cheated.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 10:18 PM
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Close off youtube, and talk to women in real life.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 10:13 PM
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Those are good hobbies that could make good stories. Be passionate, then people will notice it.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 10:10 PM
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Be genuine. People usually notice when you fake shits. I've tried to be a "bad guy" once, for a while. When I finally stopped it, my female friend then girlfriend later told me "Good. That was so not you and honestly hilarious." Don't be thirsty. If you are desperate at making a love interest, well, people usually notice that too. That pushes people away, makes them defensive. The irony of relationship is, the more you desperately want it, the less likely you'll get it. Let it go. Relax when you…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 10:06 PM
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The Red Pill
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 03:58 AM
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Genuine question - Does RP ever aim for lasting relationships?
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 08:29 AM
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Holy moly.
/r/ExRedPill14/06/22 09:41 PM
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He did WHAT? Did it work?
/r/ExRedPill14/06/22 05:10 AM
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Not stuttering in social environments will be my next goal. I feel you man. Been socially awkward my whole young adult life(Not that awkward these days simply because I'm older). Also good for you that you have a small yet precise goal.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 01:34 AM
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Congrats on sticking to therapy and being better mate. Yes, only you can make yourself better - way to go! Just one little note - highschool you is not ugly, at all. And I swear I'm not saying this just to be nice(I just showed your picture to my wife and she said you looked like a regular teenager boy). Then why they bullied you? Bullying starts with any kind of petite bullshits man. They would have made up any kind of shit to bully any one, and you were that any one unfortunately at the time. …
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 01:31 AM
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Redpill says there is a correct and only answer in your life. No it isn't. There is no silver bullet. In general rule, if someonse says they have an ultimate answer of all things, be skeptical.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/22 02:40 AM
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I see nothing wrong here. Fantasies are fantasies, as long as you are not into some criminal shits that harming others. Enjoy your fantasy, just remember it is just fantasy. It is called fantasy becuase it is not real. Maybe you are attracted to guys. Maybe you don't. Doesn't matter - you be you.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 08:06 AM
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That...that is like a boy closing his eyes to get away from his trouble. If it is his scolding mother, no biggie. If it is a landslide or a charging vehicle...it is not gonna end well. Or someone lit the room on fire, and pretend it is fine because they closed the door. Reality is reality. However it hurts, and is unfavorable, and is unfair. It is what it is. Creating your own delusion maybe feel comfy but...the reality doesn't care - it is going to get you sooner or later, and probably very soo…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/22 12:44 AM
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Our brain is a little shit - it tends to seek comfortable, and lazy way of thinking and feeling. If it is hard to get away from your feeling, there are some physical ways to make you feel better. First, exercise. When your body is busy sweating, your emotion tend to calm down. Have at least 10~30 minutes of strong activity everyday - it would make you feel better. Already exercising everyday? Then try meditation. When you meditate, it kinda seperates you from your feelings, thus calms down the s…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 11:54 PM
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About women being privileged: "Men are afraid being laughed at by women. Women are afraid of being murdered by men." Being envious is never give you any solution, and it is endless toil - there is always someone to be envious at. How about this - you are you. That is not gonna change. Other people are others. That also is not gonna change. But there is one single thing you can definitely change - yourself. You can be better. You can be worse. Life doesn't always go as we want it, but you can mak…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 05:34 AM
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Go for it! Congrats on your big step forward!
/r/ExRedPill23/05/22 12:39 AM
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I second this. Cofirmation bias is no joke - it could literally warp your mind.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/22 03:33 AM
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What is Fresh & Fit? I don't want to provide any traffic for that.
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 04:31 AM
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Forget about "women". If you want to enjoy your experience, you should let go of your desire to be with "women". Only after that, you can build sincere relationships with others. People can sense when you are desperate, and that usually creep them out.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 11:07 AM
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Sounds like you need a companion before gf.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 08:27 AM
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Do little things. Anything. Like doing a push up 10 times, or sorting out your wardrobe, anything that takes a few minute to do and just a little bit productive. I know it is easier said than done...anyway, did you do it? Then pat yourself on the back. For doing something good for you. Little by little, it allows to love yourself. It is really hard to connect with a person who doesn't love oneself. You don't need to be an awesome person to be loved by yourself. So start with small things. r/nonz…
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 07:15 AM
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absolutist Definitely. It means they prefer a simple and absolute explanation for actually complicated topics - it absolves them from critical thinking. This is not only for redpillers - all radical extremists shares this kind of mindset. Edit: typo
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 12:45 AM
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Oh, btw, prostitutuon is one of the fastest way to burn your savings away. More importantly, it is dangerous - No protection would completely protect you from every kind of STDs, and the business related to it is shady as fuck. Mob is invovled in many cases.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 07:30 AM
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Being rejected many time is hard. I know that. Been there. However, it is how humanity work. Some people would like you, and some people wouldn't. You gotta need to find a right person, and develop sincere relationship with them. Talk to people. Listen to them. Every individual is differen and has their own stories, just like you. Don't be bitter on some arbitrary concepts of some one else "having it easier". Others being successful(?) at dating doesn't have anything to do with you, nor change a…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 07:26 AM
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I don't usually say this, but looks like you have problem being with wrong people. Some people prefer non-intimidating lovely guys. Some people don't. And your poly date sounds like playing some games. I rather have some one who doesnt play games.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 01:10 AM
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Nobody has any clues how ladies work - because they are all different. Looks like you have no clue how SHE works. And maybe that is exactly she want it to be. Thats how some people(man, woman, whatever) play the game.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 01:06 AM
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Relevant post by me.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 01:38 PM
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What the fuck does that even mean anyway? A food plate?
/r/ExRedPill26/11/21 08:28 AM
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So you can't. Figures.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/21 05:21 AM
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So?
/r/ExRedPill26/11/21 12:18 AM
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Humanity has tendency of not liking rotten food. According to your description, the tendency could be...just being a human with common sense. But, you may have a point - usually socially awkward men seek such advice(What women want?), so maybe talking common sense into them could be helpful. I know, because myself is a socially awkward man.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/21 12:01 AM
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Nobody is subhuman. Nobody. Don't refer yourself or anybody like that dude.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 11:55 PM
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It is really a great quote. We are all human, so we are all different.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 11:36 PM
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parties or bars. Oh, that explains a lot. Usually a lot of creeps trying to hit on women(not saying you are a creep) in such places, usually in a creepy and awkward manner, so many women are sick of it. Personal story time - one day, I just said hello to a woman in a dance club. That was it. Thats all I did. Then her face showed me the amount of disdain that I've never witnessed. It was so clear that she wanted to shoo me off immediately. Well, thats how I learned about clubs. Different story - …
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 11:34 PM
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Define "virtue signaling".
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 11:16 PM
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Well, you could change the perspective. Instead of saying "Why women do this to me?", try to think like this: "Why Rebecca did that?" "Why Caitlyn said that?" "Why Gina was like that?" They don't share some unified hivemind. Eventhough it looks like they act in a similar way, the reasoning could be different. Women are human, not some aliens from Venus.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 11:15 PM
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Confirmation bias
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 10:38 PM
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Well at least people who seek this sub don't, that's a start.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 12:02 PM
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My favorite piece from Extra Fabulous Comics haha
/r/ExRedPill25/11/21 03:34 AM
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"Women like this", "Women don't like that" is not that helpful since you are gonna have a relationship with an individual with their own character and history, not an amalgam of general women population. Stay healthy, in mind and body both. Being jacked tells you that you are being jacked - don't overthink about it.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 05:42 AM
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Just like men, women are not some monolithic aliens. Each individual has their own reasons to feel attracted to some one. The point is, you should respect it, to be respected.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 10:37 PM
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I also recommend Contrapoints.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 12:25 PM
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