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ADVICEtradfemme/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 03:13 PM
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Yup the wording was just off to me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 08:39 AM
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Yup the wording was just off to me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 08:39 AM
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I also have PCOS and I kinda used to be an overachieving feminist with no boyfriends. I am not sexually active, but I suspect I have a high sex drive. I am not as ambitious anymore though and have become very feminine over the years. I hadn't gotten my hormone levels checked again, but I struggle with hormonal acne. I don't know if it was due to my diet, switching to a home-based, low-effort job, reading all those books about femininity that eventually 'killed' my masculinity but it did happen. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 08:33 AM
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I found mine through Catholic Match and made it clear in my profile that I wanted a traditional man who wanted a stay at home wife
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 08:22 AM
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Good luck sis! Sending hugs <3
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 01:18 PM
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You can pray the 54 Day Rosary Novena or a 30 Day Novena to St. Joseph. Even if you're not Catholic, you can pray them. Powerful stuff. I met my now boyfriend who already spent more than $3000 for me in less than 4 months, travelled all the way to visit me in my country (we are from different countries), and I didn't need to have sex with him to repay for all that he's done for me. Hope it works for you and let me know how it goes. God bless!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 03:33 PM
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Hey honestly this is my goal too. Maybe the only difference is that he doesn't need to be a billionaire, he just needs to be a provider man willing to pay all my bills. But if he is a billionaire or becomes one I am more than welcome to entertain him too lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 12:56 PM
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Leave him sis. He's not worth it. Cheapskate.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 12:47 PM
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I'm Catholic and take my faith seriously and when I first encountered RP it just all made sense and suddenly I didn't feel so weird anymore, appreciated my faith and conservatism even more that it was all the right thing to do in the right direction. I would say I'm a step beyond red pill -- not only will I date someone who accepts its a man's responsibility to provide for his family and pay the bills, bring home the bacon and its the woman's job to prioritize her family, her husband, and the ch…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 04:58 AM
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I'm 28 and my BF is 25. Initially I hesitated to pursue a relationship with him because I never dated anyone younger than me and I had the bias that younger men = immature but we are SOO compatible and out of all my boyfriends he was the only one who gave me the commitment I want. Within 3 weeks talking online he claimed exclusivity with me and within 2 months he flew to my country to meet me and my family and helped me out financially (he sent me $3000 dollars to help build our new house), buyi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 04:48 AM
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I would've loved to do this with my exes I just declined the opportunity.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 10:32 AM
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This makes sense. People typically marry within their own social class. And a spiritual advisor also recommends marrying within your social class since this will cause less friction between families.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 08:41 AM
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Seriously red pill is not an excuse to be a jerk.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 10:34 AM
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RED FLAG.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 10:31 AM
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He is clearly disrespecting you and throwing you breadcrumbs. You have been putting up with it these past 1.5 years. I'm sorry but I know a lot of traditional women from religious backgrounds who have very low self-respect and self-confidence when it comes to dating they would put up with men who are putting in minimal effort than not having a boyfriend at all or getting pressured to have babies soon.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 02:49 PM
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Yeah he's just keeping her around to play with when he's bored. Its called breadcrumbing. Just throwing her low effort crumbs of attention to get her interest but won't really put in the effort to date her properly. He is clearly disrespecting her but she's putting up with it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 02:46 PM
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Sorry dear but he's clearly playing you and wasting your time. I know you're new to this and this is your first time dating someone but the most common trap women fall into is overthinking what could be with a guy who's blowing hot and cold. Continue opening your options until the right man who won't give you confusion finds you. You'll get better at it trust me. Men are pretty straightforward. If a man likes a girl no amount of nervousness or minor social faux pas will make him lose interest th…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 02:39 PM
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Sounds like he's leading you on and only coming back to you when he's bored. Stop giving him all your focus and continue dating other men. You should be able to see who's really interested and committed to knowing you more and wants the same things you want if you entertain several men in the early dating phase. Unless a man explicitly asks you to be exclusive with him, you should not assume anything conclusive and keep your options open.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 04:07 AM
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Yup
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 09:02 AM
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You're not doing anything wrong, OP. If I get married I won't say no to my husband either (unless I have just given birth or he is grossed out by period sex). I don't know why its such a contentious issue with so many women these days. I think for them witholding sex is a powertrip game.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 08:35 AM
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My thoughts too. A mental health issue that needs to be addressed.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 02:13 PM
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This. Not all high-earning men is a high value man. Just because he's rich doesn't mean he's a good provider to you or would make for a good, decent husband. So many women miss out on good men because of this mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 02:06 PM
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Dear OP. Please don't be too hard on yourself. Living in the city, dealing with the post-pandemic economy, and dealing with health issues are challenging and its great that you're even doing a part-time job instead of giving up or resorting to drugs out of hopelessness. The things you look for in a future husband are NOT too much to ask. Pope Leo and various other popes have said that a woman having to deal with the burden of providership is an unfortunate evil and exposing women to the labor wo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 01:58 PM
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Not discrediting your personal experience but it doesn't apply to all women. Its good to have a job but there are legitimate reasons why women (even men) have a hard time finding a good paying job or might find themselves unemployed or underemployed especially after C0VID wrecked economies worldwide. And I've personally seen many women, uneducated and working minimum wage or not even having a paid job get married to provider men just fine. It is a man's burden to be able to provide and various r…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 01:49 PM
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I'm honestly in the same/similar boat. Catholic and I've been very upfront about wanting to be a SAHM and having traditional gender roles, including financial roles. I understand the health issues and the sentiment of being unable to work in an office and seeking only part-time or work-from-home/remote jobs. I have a boyfriend and so far we agree on the important stuff (religion, division of labor, child-rearing plans). Admitting vulnerability is a risk but either way its better to be upfront ab…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 01:38 PM
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Congratulations for coming this far on your self-healing journey. Honestly woman of all marriageable ages still have the chance to get married and if your goal is to have kids then 27 is still a very good time to get married and have a family. Keep improving yourself and moving on forward. Wish you all the best xoxo
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 12:05 PM
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1.) Is he really worth it changing your appearance for him? Do you love him enough to do that? Personally I have no problems dressing up for my man and changing my hairstyle etc according to his preferences but if that's going to feel very uncomfortable to you (e.g. pressure) then its something that needs to be talked about. 2.) Is he holding up his share in the relationship? Like is he making any effort to be a provider man for you and his future family, helping make your life better. If he dem…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 11:53 AM
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Yes! Those 2 books were very influential in my feminine journey. I also highly recommend Suzanne Venker books. She's a bit blunt but she tells the truth about masculine-feminine dynamics.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/23 11:01 AM
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This is GOLD. I wish I could give reddit coins haha
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/23 10:59 AM
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ahh this is so wholesome <3
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/23 10:44 AM
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I really think being clear about your standards, values, and what you want in life will filter out 90% of the men who only want a placeholder girlfriend. Thus if you are a woman who wants marriage and family be upfront about it. I think most men who aren't ready for that commitment will just naturally write themselves off. By then you can have more time to evaluate the men who want to same thing, which of them is a suitable partner for you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 12:31 PM
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I think there should be more distinction between High Value (HV) men vs Red Pill Men (RPM). A HV man can be red-pilled, but not all red-pilled men are high-value. Just because a man is acquainted with RP concepts doesn't mean he would make a good partner. Quite the opposite it seems but these men are just a vociferous minority.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 12:08 PM
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I am Catholic. I had been aware of red pill even before my reversion back to the faith in 2020, but I can say being Catholic has significantly helped me in avoiding the pitfalls of red pill ideology, which is either (a) playing wife for a man who technically still isn't your husband and (b) being jaded / depressed due to being bombarded with evolutionary psychology theories (e.g. men want to sow their oats, men are obsessed with the wall, etc). At the end of the day, red pill evolutionary psycho…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 11:51 AM
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Exactly
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 04:18 AM
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Red pill is not about settling for a man who is mistreating you. Red pill is not an excuse for men to treat women horribly. Red pill is a philosophy of life. If you want to know red pill you can (and preferably) study it on your own, you don't need to necessarily test it out on men who want to get a free pass by saying thay are red pill when they're not.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 04:06 AM
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Yep. I also ended things with an ex (20yr gap) because I figured out the only mature thing about him was his age. Lol. So glad it ended.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 02:24 AM
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Very well said. I do understand that biologically speaking a younger woman has more chance conceiving (generally) and is great if you want many kids and although I am very aware of RP I have started thinking that its a red flag if a man is too obssesed about 'The Wall' and would totally discard a great woman just because she is past a certain age.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 02:23 AM
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Not saying that all age gap relationships are a bad, but my mom and dad has a 20+ yr gap and while they have been together for 27 years now, there can be a lot of arguments, cultural gaps, misunderstanding, and my mom often feels burdened taking care of my aging father. Personally I think the misunderstandings are caused more by personality defects than age per se, but I do think the huge age gap can take a toll especially in later years. Also my first boyfriend was 20 years older than me, at fi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 02:14 AM
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Sorry to hear sister. I know it feels awful but if a man cannot accept your past (even if you already repented) then it does not bode well for your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 03:20 PM
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Thank you for sharing. I am in a similar situation. Met a guy online, been dating for 1.5 years and when I told him I wanted to get married soon and meet in person things started going awry and wanted me to find someone else. I felt so sidelined since in the beginning he promised marriage (we took a pre-marriage course) but then he kept saying bad things kept happening to him and we couldn't meet and if he had a choice he wanted me to wait for 2+ more years until his financial situation got bett…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 03:50 AM
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Exactly! I think minor things can be negotiated later on, but its very important to be very clear about major dealbreakers early on.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 01:38 PM
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Such a golden post! Very well-written. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 01:33 PM
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Yes, I really agree and can confirm that mentality of 'Never ever rely on a man at all costs.' I just never really understood it. I didn't think it was logical to say or assume a woman was automatically useless and lazy just because her man was the breadwinner. Eventually, and especially after discovering the Red Pill, I finally saw that these were really just mostly bitter women who wanted that kind of lifestyle for themselves but were too prideful to admit it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 11:01 AM
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For me it was just realizing how insidiously bad feminism truly was and detoxing it out of my system. Reading Suzanne Venker's books was very helpful in identifying and rooting out any remaining traces of feminist thinking I had which I hadn't recognized was feminist thinking, as feminism is so pervasive in our society today and many of us unconsciously absorb them.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 01:51 PM
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Are you Catholic? If so, I recommend Catholic Match, Ave Maria Singles, and Catholic Luv.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 01:36 PM
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Calling you names is straight up verbal abuse. Unless he changes this problematic attitude, it will only get worse and get exacerbated once stressful things become more frequent in the future, such as having children. If he can be verbally abusive to you, I wouldn't be surprised if he will be verbally abusive towards your future children. As someone who has had gone through verbal abuse growing up, I cannot underestimate enough how damaging this is to one's self-esteem and mental health. But I w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 05:05 AM
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If my boyfriend is going to buy me a ring, I'd let him buy from Modgents because their rings are less than $200. He is still studying and working on his MA and is saving money so I don't really need him to buy me an expensive ring. He's going to pay for my immigration fees / travel, wedding, and want me to be a stay-at-home mom and its what matters.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 08:27 AM
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My ex was 20 years older than me. But I broke up with him because I eventually realized he was a leftist, hated Trump, we couldn't agree on politics and had no plans of marrying. He was not meant for me and I deserved better, being the wannabe trad wife that I am. The only reason I used to be attracted to older men is because my parents also had a 20+ year age gap, so I thought older men were my thing, until I my met my now future hubby who is only a year older than me, but is honestly the most …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 09:23 AM
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