Whatever socially constructed hierarchies there are where you live. I don’t know why you are asking though. I have a feeling you already know and you would do better if you actually wanted to learn by taking some sociology classes.
I mean, if they are like that then you dodged a bullet, don’t you think? Women put up red flags just like men do. It makes it easier to sort the wheat from the chaff.
Coffee dates are ideal first dates. Don’t have to put in an insane amount of effort if it doesn’t work out, it’s a place where people normally socialize, and who doesn’t like coffee?
You must be choosing the wrong people. Men and women aren’t a monolith. Have better standards or something and maybe you won’t get partners who put low effort into a relationship. There’s an issue when you’re expending more energy on the relationship then she is.
